WEBVTT - MYSONNE’S SOUL IS NOT FOR SALE 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:08.159 That's how It's your boy, my son, and I'm Tamika D. 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:11.560 Mallory and this is Street Politicians with the Streets in 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:16.840 Politics meet. Yes, sir, Yes, sir. It's been good. It's 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:22.480 been it's been a four week man our last podcast. 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:25.759 It has been a full week, full week going on 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:29.880 happen and this weekend wow everything who we you know, 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:32.200 we was working, but we did. We worked a lot 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:35.720 this week until Freedom, our baby, our organization is coming 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:39.000 together and a lot of people asking like they're like, 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:42.159 how did all of this happen? Right Like everyere we go, 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:45.920 people are like, what's the story of how Street Politicians 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:48.800 came about? Also until Freedom, and just the story of 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:52.040 how we came together in general. And it's been it's 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:56.080 been a six year about six years, six plush years, man, 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:59.440 just working just you know, I tell people all the time, man, 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:05.920 sometimes you meet people, sometimes you have situations and it's 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:07.920 just a calling, you know what I'm saying. You were 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:11.360 already doing the work and I was fresh out of prison, 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:13.800 just trying to find not really fresh out of prison, 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.120 but home from prison for a while and still just 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:19.800 trying to find my space doing music. I was doing 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:24.160 personal training, you know, I was just utilizing every attribute 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:27.360 that I had to try to create a lane, you know. 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:32.760 And we were connected event at a service event. Shout 0:01:32.760 --> 0:01:35.039 out to my homegirl media who had called me to 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:38.000 do a service event on a Christmas and you were there. 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:42.160 You also wanted to organize that and Shane that set 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:43.760 up to Shane. There was a lot of people there, 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:50.840 Kruchi was there, was there, Karuchi was there, Free, Jennifer Williams, 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:53.400 a lot of different people. Shanda was there, you know, 0:01:53.440 --> 0:01:56.640 shout out to I knew Machanda for years, but we 0:01:56.680 --> 0:01:58.760 just started to vibe. And then that's when you want 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:01.400 to do personal training because I was a personal trainer 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.600 and while we were I was training, I started telling 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:07.520 you about the music that exactly and then and then 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:10.560 we listened to it as our background music. I was 0:02:10.600 --> 0:02:12.280 playing the music. He's like, Yo, this is dope. And 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.320 then I'll let you here this one piece that I 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.639 did for Trader on Mother's Trade, on Martin's Mother Sorry, 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:20.040 and you were like, you know that is so beautiful. 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:24.120 I actually know her. Send it to her and she 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:26.560 fell in love in love with me. And then he 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:29.519 was like, I knew my homegirl calm and goes into 0:02:29.080 --> 0:02:31.880 the tender centers and she works with these these you 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:36.240 dope for. You introduced me to her next thing. I know, 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:39.680 we were Injustice League. I was in the Middle Street 0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:45.840 at a march for your first protests, protests, you know, 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:48.600 and it's been a good you know, right, But it's 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:52.000 time for us to really bring all of what we 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:54.919 have to the forefront so that you know, we've done 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.200 a lot to serve other people, which we will always 0:02:57.520 --> 0:03:01.600 with our organizations that were member burds of and you know, 0:03:01.720 --> 0:03:04.000 and just all of these other things that we do 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:07.240 all the time to support other people's visions. But now 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:10.800 our vision is coming to the forefront. And we love 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:15.600 our Until Freedom Families, specifically our co founders Linda Sarsul 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:21.440 and Angelo Pinto. All the time, we all argue, so 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:23.639 we do, and I think that's where greatness comes from. 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:25.920 I think when you debate with someone and you have 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.120 a different point of view and you're able to at 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.440 least let them understand your point of view, and then 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:33.840 you come together and you form like votum. Because everybody 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:37.320 does different things, we have different entry points into this 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:39.520 work and into this movement, but we all have the 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:42.920 same goal, you know. So it's like until freedom is 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:46.200 like a one stop shop for everything. You have people 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:48.600 who we have a lawyer, Angelo is a lawyer. You 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:54.520 have Linda who who specifically does policy, and she is, 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:58.000 you know, in tune with the Muslim community, with the 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:01.680 Palestine community. She is like she pretty much in her 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:06.360 book is dropping her book. Does a lot happen, But 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:11.160 it's been a good ride to get to this place. 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:14.680 And we have to give love to our sister, our 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:18.880 big sister mentor she's not that big though. She's still 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:28.679 a little snack pack cat Triggs. Snack pack Cat Trigg, 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:33.160 you need to write the snack trick you need to 0:04:33.240 --> 0:04:36.480 check out. But we love our our woman TV family. 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:41.560 And so, like I said, this weekend in particular was loaded. 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:44.279 A lot of stuff was happening. We ended the week 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:51.680 last week with the Senate voting against bringing witnesses to 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:55.040 the impeachment trial for Donald Trump. I mean that's a sham. 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:58.000 Like this whole impeachment trial to me is a sham. 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.359 And and I get it because us we have to 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:03.120 let the world see this, like it has to be 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:09.160 documented how far they're willing to go to really undermine 0:05:09.240 --> 0:05:15.039 the government Constitution is being thrown out right now. To 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:17.080 really see this, like when you really watched this in 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:19.600 real time, it's like you're sitting there and you confused, 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:21.840 like is this really what's happened? Because I know if 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:24.080 this was me and you, we would be under the jail. Well, 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:26.960 let's save the conversation later because we really need to 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:30.920 get into it. But you know that happened, and I think, 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:32.719 you know, if you're coming out of the week or 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:36.440 ending the week with the impeachment stuff just being as 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:39.839 you said, a sham. And then I received a text 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:45.719 message actually from Angelo, our partners, saying Bloomberg might make 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:50.159 the debate stage. Now. The rules for the Democratic Party 0:05:50.839 --> 0:05:55.719 had been that you have to have thousands of donations 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:59.599 from everyday people before you can make it to the 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:04.080 debate stage. Right now, all the people of color gone, 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:08.800 Corey's gone gone. What's his I was about to call 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:13.719 him Fidel Lord Jesus Julian Castro is on all the 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:18.000 people of color gone? And now because because they well 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:22.000 they didn't meet the criterias because they were on the 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:24.520 debate stage. But it was becoming more and more of 0:06:24.520 --> 0:06:29.279 a struggle financially the support that they need Corey was 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:32.040 having a hard time getting his whole numbers up. And 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:34.800 you also have to be at least at four percent 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:38.920 UMU polling at four percent in order for you to 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:42.320 to be to make the debate stage. So you know, 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:46.160 they were having some issues and challenges there. But these folks, 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:51.200 all of them are gone, and now Bloomberg enters the race. Besides, 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:55.839 he opts out of taking any political any donations from 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:58.960 just the outside public. He's paying for his campaign himself, 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:07.039 pouring mills and millions of dollars okay, okay in advertisement right, 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:11.360 and he's now eligible to be in the debate because 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:15.520 the Democratic Party has changed the rules now I mean 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:19.520 it just anyway, We talked about that later. Um, the 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:23.160 Super Bowl ads a lot of mixed feelings out there 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:26.840 about the ads. We can talk about the NFL UM 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:31.040 ads where the Inspired Change which is their initiative, that 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:34.240 is it sort of comes out of the Colin Kaepernick 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:40.040 UM situation, a Colin Kaepernick protests UM and and so 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:44.880 Inspired Change is supposed to bring the issues that the 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:49.000 players have to the forefront along with the players coalition, 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:53.000 and so they had an advertisement that was shown uh 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:56.560 during the Super Bowl. This year that people have different 0:07:56.560 --> 0:08:00.240 feelings about. Um. And then, and of course you had 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.920 Donald Trump. He had an ad where he specifically targeted 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:07.440 the black community around criminal justice reform. To me, it 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:11.520 was extremely disgusting. But that's a whole different conversation. Um. 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:13.200 And then I want to make sure I say this 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:21.440 brother's name properly, Javonta Javonte Javonte Davis, who is a 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.000 my our buddy. Chili keeps telling me that he is 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:29.080 a star played a star boxer. What does that mean? 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:32.720 It means that he's pretty much ranked in the top 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:35.800 ten in the world in boxing, and is he's like 0:08:36.160 --> 0:08:40.560 on the road to be number one? Like he's Floyd Mayweathers. 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:45.120 I remember last month because I was trying to figure 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.920 out who he who he is? And I remember last 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:51.320 month all that who's who was out looking good going 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:54.800 to a boxing match in Atlanta and it was him. Okay, 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:59.760 so Um, he basically snatched his baby mama, as they say, 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:03.040 but I'd like to say his daughter's mother off of 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:06.680 her out of her seat at some type of event. 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:08.839 Looked like it was a sporting event. There were a 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:12.840 number of TMT event uh signs around, But he snatched 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.560 her out of her seat by her collar. Some people 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:18.520 say his hand was around her throat. I'm not sure exactly, 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:23.199 but definitely he was in that area. UM. And you know, 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:27.000 there's a lot of controversy online about that UM, you know, 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.040 and just what it means and what it looks like 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:31.000 and the whole thing. So we can talk about that, 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:34.680 UM and then you know, last but not least, perhaps 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:37.319 we won't get an opportunity to really really get into it. 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:40.240 But I think it's important for us to mention that 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:45.240 the coronavirus is spreading, that there is now another possible 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:49.040 case in New York one, that one case has been 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:54.959 confirmed in Boston. UM. I remember checking the numbers last 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.760 week at some point and it was eleven thousand and 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:01.760 one publication. By the time time I checked again last night, 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:07.160 they said fourteen thousand people in China specifically are excuse me, 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:11.640 have been affected by this virus. UH. And now we 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:15.599 have more cases here in in the US somewhere it 0:10:15.679 --> 0:10:19.319 said nine, now it says twelve. So not sure, but 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:23.560 people really need to stay protected, pay attention, and if 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:26.400 you feel like you're sick, go to the doctor and 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:30.080 get yourself checked, and and and just right now, we're 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:34.360 hearing from our producers that they're seventeen thousand at this point. 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:37.800 So again I checked last week, eleven thousand. By the 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:41.400 time I checked yesterday fourteen thousand, and now today we're 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:45.520 hearing seventeen thousand people UH and eleven in the US. 0:10:45.640 --> 0:10:49.640 So this is very serious and and I think the 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:53.160 important thing for us to know. I was reading the 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.280 New York Times article um this weekend that talked about 0:10:57.400 --> 0:11:02.960 how China was aware that this UH virus was spreading. 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:08.199 They knew it, and in fact they chastised doctors who 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.839 were speaking about it too, people who were outside of 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:14.040 the hospital. So there was one they tried to keep. 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:19.000 But this is China operates on secrecy, hashash silence. They 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:21.120 don't like to talk, you know that as I'm talking 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:24.800 about the Chinese government, not Chinese people, so let's be 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:29.040 real clear about that. But they operate on you know, silency. 0:11:29.240 --> 0:11:31.520 Nobody don't want anyone in their business. You know, we 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:34.760 don't really talk publicly about what's going on within our country. 0:11:35.360 --> 0:11:39.600 And in fact, there was a doctor who was quarantined 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:43.000 on a particular floor with people who had the virus 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:46.720 or who have the virus, and he texted some friends 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:49.959 who are also in the medical field and said to them, 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:53.880 I'm quarantined doing such and such floor this is very 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:57.240 akin to stars. It's a real big situation. And when 0:11:57.440 --> 0:11:59.880 and of course those people went around telling folks, and 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.679 when the hospital found out about it, they chastised him 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.359 and then made him sign some type of legal documentation 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:08.800 that he wouldn't talk about it anymore. So as a 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:12.040 result of them not doing what was necessary and making 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:15.320 sure that other governments knew about it so people could 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:17.200 do the things that we see now where they shut 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:20.640 down travel, and and also just inform people if you're 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:23.280 going to China, know that this is happening. Because they 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.199 didn't do that, it's spreading across the country and you know, 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:28.959 who knows what we what's going to end up happening. 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:34.840 So these governments have power over our lives. It's really serious, man. 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.960 We gotta pray for the people in China. That's seventeen thousand. 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.599 That's a lot of people who seventeen thousand people. I 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.120 keep hearing about the coronavirus and they're saying, how many 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:47.559 people are actually dying? Is this is this? So? Is 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:50.679 it mutating to this point? Where they're dying instantly or 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:56.079 is it something that is potentially between nine people? And 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:59.319 that's that my last check, and I was off already 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:03.720 to three thousand people. Two fifty nine people had died. 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.400 No one in the US has died from the virus, 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:09.679 so you know, it seems like it is treatable. But 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:14.320 you know, still again, how it happened, how it's spreading, 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:18.199 what information. A lot of conversations we had about that. 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:21.640 So I guess we'll start with my thought of the day. 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:28.679 I mentioned you said, Jervonte Giant Davis the Boxer, and 0:13:29.160 --> 0:13:34.400 I'm really troubled, Mice, Like, I'm really, really, really troubled 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:40.439 because I posted what I had I saw on the 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:44.120 Shade Room and ball Alert and all of these different sites. 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.040 I saw that this incident happened. So you know me, 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:52.120 whenever I see a black woman being mistreated, I'm always like, 0:13:52.880 --> 0:13:55.240 my little spidy sence this peak up and I'm ready 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:57.840 to go because I know that, as Malcolm X said, 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:02.959 the black woman is the most unprotected, disrespected person in 0:14:03.160 --> 0:14:06.520 the world. And so as I looked at it and 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:09.199 I saw it, and for the first time in a 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:13.040 long time, I decided I wasn't going to say much 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:16.520 because you know, people always accuse me you so, you know, 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.520 you always bashing black men and this and that, and 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.120 I said, you know what, I'm not gonna say anything yet. 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.080 I was gonna wait until this was in the middle 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:25.560 of the night. So I'm like, let me wait until 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.480 I talk to you and you know, brothers and and 0:14:28.640 --> 0:14:30.600 just be like, yo, do y'all see this. Maybe you 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:33.160 could lead the conversation on how this is, how this 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:37.040 happened and what it looks like. And then I saw 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:44.040 his Instagram comments which he said, I didn't you know, 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:48.520 Oh y'all relaxed. Basically, yeah, I was aggressive, but I 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:53.000 didn't hit her and I would never abuse her or 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:57.680 heard her like that. But anyway, Happy New Year's and 0:14:58.240 --> 0:15:01.880 January was trash, so that was it for me. And 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:04.320 the other thing I saw was he was out with 0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:09.080 some of your friends partying the night after it happened. 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:14.640 Because these are your friends. They were hanging out the 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:21.120 night of after this incident happen, partying. I think, you know, 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:25.760 in in you know, in defense of the deck, and 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:27.440 then you got it. I'm gonna let you take it 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:30.880 away from it. My thought of the day was around 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:35.080 when I saw his comment. I posted it and I said, 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:37.880 it's someone going to tell him that this is violence 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.120 and that this is abuse and it was wrong? Is 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:43.600 anybody gonna tell him that? And and and of course 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:47.720 over two thousand comments are now on my page. Most 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.600 of them, I will say, you know, I would say 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:54.840 like se and that's a low rating to me. Our 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:59.000 feet are people in general who are like, it's wrong, 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:01.600 it's abuse, is wrong, what have you? And I have 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:05.920 to also say I am very very grateful and humbled 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:09.280 by the amount of black men who are on my 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:14.360 page saying full stop, no, it's wrong, period. But there 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:18.360 is another thirty of women and men and a lot 0:16:18.440 --> 0:16:21.320 of women not saying more, but a lot of women 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:23.960 who were saying all he did was him up a 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.240 little bit, like you know what I mean, it's not 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:29.840 really that serious, like come on me, shut up. But 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:32.160 we have to get into this. But the question thought 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:34.520 of the day, which I still haven't gotten to, is 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:37.480 we need to have, first of all, a big conversation 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.400 about domestic violence. And then the real question is like 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:45.360 why don't other people see this as abuse? Like what 0:16:45.640 --> 0:16:48.760 is happening that we don't see that as abuse. Well, 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.760 what we don't see, why we don't see that as abuse. 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:56.320 I believe in what I say is we've normalized abnormality, 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.960 especially in this culture, in the culture that we live 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:03.520 it in. Like you'll watch because this is common. This 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:06.399 is not an abnormal thing. You'd be in the club 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:09.560 if somebody sees their girl talking and somebody you'll see 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.159 somebody grab a pull, or you'll see girls hit their 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:14.159 man and people laugh and they put the memes up 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:18.640 and there's never really any seriousness because it has been 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.600 normalized in our culture, is it right? Of course not. 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:25.240 I come from a family of which i've I've witnessed, 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:28.879 you know, domestic abuse, so I understand the seriousness of it. 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:34.160 But there is a dynamic and a demographic within our 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:37.320 culture who have normalized this, who used to getting him. 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.360 They see their man and they argue, and they put 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.440 their hands on a man and he grabs on and 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:44.280 they shake each other, and this is how they express 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:47.320 some level of love. This is a normal thing that 0:17:47.440 --> 0:17:52.040 I've seen done numerous times with couples who who you 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:54.640 see together the next day and they didn't get into nothing. 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:56.480 They laugh about it, like, yeah, I was about to 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:58.600 break his neck, or yeah she she no better than me. 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:01.240 I had to him up a look, this is normal, 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:04.879 especially within our culture right now? Is it right? No? 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:08.040 But is it normal? You see that you have thirty 0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:10.720 percent of people who see that this is something that's 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:13.920 they used to it. They they're like, come on, I 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:15.879 wasn't like he you sort he said, oh, come on, 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:18.879 I wouldn't do nothing like that because to him, just 0:18:19.080 --> 0:18:22.040 grabbing her like that wasn't anything that was abusive. There 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:24.400 was no level of abuse to It was just him 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:27.199 explaining to her how he was mad. This is how 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:29.159 he was able to express. If he didn't punch her, 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:32.040 if he didn't hit up, it was okay. And I've 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:36.160 argued with men on my page who have watched men 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:40.040 fully beat women and said, well, she hit him first, 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:42.399 or she's done this like beat up like she's So 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:46.280 the mind state is way different because the big question 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:49.960 that folks had is what did she do? What did 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:54.000 she do to make him respond this way? You know? 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.280 What was? What was? Who was she there? With? What she's? 0:18:57.440 --> 0:19:02.760 Then someone said, well he is escorted her out and 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:06.240 he probably told her to get up via text or whatever, 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:09.520 and she didn't go, and therefore he had to escort 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:11.840 her out. So I'm just trying to figure out how 0:19:12.040 --> 0:19:16.080 people see someone grabbing you by the neck or by 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:20.200 your collar and forcefully lifting you out your chair to 0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:26.680 be escorting, because escorting to me means you arm in arm, 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:29.920 and I can only I can imagine if you're doing 0:19:30.000 --> 0:19:32.680 something crazy, or maybe she texts him something crazy, or 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:35.000 she was out doing god knows what. Maybe he saw 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:37.879 her on somebody's stories kicking in and too much and 0:19:38.040 --> 0:19:41.440 you know whatever, who knows. I could even imagine him 0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:44.760 walking up to her and an arm in arm telling 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:47.159 her like, we're getting out of here right now. You know, 0:19:47.359 --> 0:19:49.280 I'm I'm pistol off this that in the third we're 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:51.840 gonna discuss this or whatever. I could see that, but 0:19:51.960 --> 0:19:55.000 he grabbed. This is a man who is a boxer, 0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:59.680 who's his hands are considered to be lethal weapons. Still, 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:02.600 and that's what I'm trying to tell you. I get it, 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:06.240 But I also get that. There's I'm telling you. You 0:20:06.359 --> 0:20:09.240 can go in the average club and see those type 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:13.159 of situations happen all day and people normalize it. The 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:17.080 police could be there, the bouncers. The police won't even 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:20.560 they won't even get involved in they won't unless most 0:20:20.600 --> 0:20:22.480 of the time they just walk away. They're not going 0:20:22.520 --> 0:20:25.760 to say there's a domestic dispute. If he was grabbing 0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:28.159 his girlfriend by the colin pulling up, they're like, hey, 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:31.119 calm down, they're not going to rest they immediately because 0:20:31.320 --> 0:20:35.120 it's normalized within our culture. And I understand what you're saying, 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:37.639 but I think we have to really look and be 0:20:37.840 --> 0:20:42.120 serious about our analysis of this situation because most people, 0:20:42.200 --> 0:20:44.959 especially in the hip hop culture, this is a normal thing. 0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:48.040 But see, but that okay. So that brings me to 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:51.920 my point on and what I and what I said, 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:54.600 because I think on the Shade Room, I said, when 0:20:54.640 --> 0:20:57.159 I saw your friends having a good time with him 0:20:57.200 --> 0:20:59.760 at the club, later on, I said, no one's gonna 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:05.280 tell him that what he did was wrong. And I 0:21:06.000 --> 0:21:10.399 a video and I totally respect that, right I do. 0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:15.439 But I also feel like that's one of the biggest 0:21:15.560 --> 0:21:20.040 problems that we have, is allowing people around us to 0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:23.080 get away with things that we really should be like, 0:21:23.840 --> 0:21:25.720 I don't really want to hang out with you right 0:21:25.800 --> 0:21:29.240 now if I think that's possible that you're abusive. Now 0:21:29.480 --> 0:21:33.400 check this out. A woman sent me a d M afterwards, 0:21:33.600 --> 0:21:37.760 telling me about another incident with someone very close to 0:21:37.840 --> 0:21:41.119 her and him. And then someone else came on my 0:21:41.240 --> 0:21:43.880 page and said some other girl named Ari that I'm 0:21:43.920 --> 0:21:47.359 not sure who that is, another uh celebrity or whatever 0:21:47.600 --> 0:21:50.840 you know, influence, whatever you want to call her. That 0:21:51.200 --> 0:21:54.720 she said he came to her hotel and kicked her door, 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:57.240 tried to kick her door in, saying that he was 0:21:57.280 --> 0:22:00.920 gonna beat her ass. Right, So now there's been there, 0:22:01.280 --> 0:22:03.280 I mean, but what happens is now he's opened up 0:22:03.280 --> 0:22:06.359 Pandora's box, like and this is what usually happened. If 0:22:06.640 --> 0:22:09.879 you're an abusive person, then it usually comes out if 0:22:09.920 --> 0:22:14.600 you've abused somebody before, and even the most minute situations 0:22:14.720 --> 0:22:17.600 like this can open uncovered. And you know, I don't, 0:22:17.640 --> 0:22:20.320 I don't. I wish that is wrong. I wish that 0:22:20.560 --> 0:22:24.000 um that these are not true allegations because he's a 0:22:24.080 --> 0:22:27.200 young black kid from the inner city, grew up in 0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:32.160 uh um, forced to care. He's been by himself, come 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:36.760 from the dirt, poverty, so from Philly. Like, so you 0:22:36.880 --> 0:22:41.160 want Baltimore, my fault, You from Baltimore and you want 0:22:41.240 --> 0:22:44.359 to see him become successful, but you don't want you don't. 0:22:44.480 --> 0:22:47.440 We can't condone things like this, but that the reality 0:22:47.600 --> 0:22:50.800 is there is a culture that is very toxic that 0:22:50.920 --> 0:22:55.080 we celebrate right now and it's normalized and we have 0:22:55.320 --> 0:22:58.560 to of course, we got to call out things when 0:22:58.640 --> 0:23:00.320 we see it, when we see people do things, we 0:23:00.400 --> 0:23:03.040 got to call out. But we have to do is 0:23:03.200 --> 0:23:06.800 try to start changing the toxics. But that's my question. 0:23:07.160 --> 0:23:12.240 Can you change the toxicity without challenging I'm trying to 0:23:12.359 --> 0:23:16.159 figure out why is it that I even even and 0:23:16.240 --> 0:23:18.840 I didn't even bring this up in my post, although 0:23:19.240 --> 0:23:23.800 many of the comments was questioning why another any other 0:23:23.920 --> 0:23:27.639 black men who were in that room didn't stop and say, hey, 0:23:27.760 --> 0:23:29.600 you can't take ky out of here like that. You 0:23:29.720 --> 0:23:32.280 need to relax, my man. You can't, because I'm gonna 0:23:32.280 --> 0:23:34.040 tell you. I'm gonna tell you the realist thing in 0:23:34.119 --> 0:23:38.080 that situation right there now, if he had punched in 0:23:38.119 --> 0:23:41.600 the face and somebody got in, sure, I'm sure the 0:23:41.680 --> 0:23:43.920 woman would have done. Listen to me, but listen, listen, 0:23:44.440 --> 0:23:46.720 I'm not saying this. Listen. I'm gonna give my point 0:23:46.760 --> 0:23:49.639 out is that if he had punched there and he jumped, 0:23:49.680 --> 0:23:53.040 somebody jumped in for her, she would have been okay, 0:23:53.160 --> 0:23:58.119 thank you. But in that situation. I've seen those exact situations. 0:23:58.119 --> 0:24:01.360