WEBVTT - Praise the group, praise yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to make it easier to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>your own accomplishments by praising what a group has gotten done.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip, like a few others this week, comes from

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<v Speaker 1>Meredith Fineman's new book, Brag Better, Master the Art of

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<v Speaker 1>Fearless self Promotion. While some people are well natural braggarts,

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<v Speaker 1>many of us have a harder time with this. We

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<v Speaker 1>have this vague hope that our work will speak for itself.

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<v Speaker 1>Fineman wants you to get rid of this notion your

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<v Speaker 1>work doesn't speak for itself. She writes, nobody else knows

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<v Speaker 1>better what you've done or the hours that you've clocked.

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<v Speaker 1>If you do not share your work with other individuals

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<v Speaker 1>or audiences, no one else will. And here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Often your great work will really help people, but if

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<v Speaker 1>people don't know about it, they can't use it. Fortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>there are authentic ways to talk about your work that

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<v Speaker 1>don't feel icky. One great one is to speak well

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<v Speaker 1>of a group that you happen to be in in

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<v Speaker 1>a way that reflects gratitude. For instance, I recently suggested

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<v Speaker 1>that someone who felt a little weird about posting on

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<v Speaker 1>Twitter that he'd been included in a list of top

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<v Speaker 1>leaders mentioned that he was honored to be on this

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<v Speaker 1>list with and then list his friends who were also

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<v Speaker 1>on the list. Feynman, likewise, has a few go to phrases.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm honored to be a part of this list of

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<v Speaker 1>executives in my industry. Or I loved working with this

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<v Speaker 1>client and I think he liked my work too. I

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<v Speaker 1>was so thankful for that opportunity. I'd love to have

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<v Speaker 1>a chance to lead a project with a similar client.

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<v Speaker 1>Or can't believe I get to be in this room

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<v Speaker 1>of amazing women. And of course, if you are leading

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<v Speaker 1>a team, you can praise the team to the rafters

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<v Speaker 1>when you were reporting on your work. It all reflects

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<v Speaker 1>well on YouTube, and a fact that your team worked

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<v Speaker 1>well together delivered the project on time and under budget

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<v Speaker 1>means that it was incredibly well managed by you, the manager.

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<v Speaker 1>But you don't have to sit there saying hey, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a really awesome manager, even if you are. Now you

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<v Speaker 1>can't be silent and expect your work to speak for itself,

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<v Speaker 1>but you can speak for your work in a way

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<v Speaker 1>that feels more gracious and generous than just thumping your

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<v Speaker 1>own chest. So today, think about a way that you

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<v Speaker 1>could talk about your work through the lens of gratitude

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<v Speaker 1>or praising the group in general. Many people could talk

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<v Speaker 1>a lot more about their work. But if it's hard

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<v Speaker 1>for you to start, this is a pretty easy way

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<v Speaker 1>and then you can go from there. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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