1 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 1: Ollie's Happy Monday everyone. I hope everyone had a great weekend. 2 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:13,399 Speaker 1: Welcome to your favorite podcast, Cheeky's and Chill. And speaking 3 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 1: about weekends, I think they're a perfect excuse to host 4 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:19,800 Speaker 1: a party. And if you know me, you know I 5 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: love to host. I love hosting, you guys. So, a 6 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: friend of mine asked me recently to help her plan 7 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: a party, and I thought to myself, this would be 8 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:32,879 Speaker 1: a really great episode. I feel like I'm the right 9 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: person to talk about this because I'm experienced and I've 10 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:40,239 Speaker 1: thrown my fair share of fun and successful parties. So, 11 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: without further ado, let's get in today's episode of Cheeky's 12 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 1: in Chill. So I should be a party planner, you guys. 13 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: I really should. I'm great at it. I just don't 14 00:00:55,600 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: have the time. So I do have a party planner, 15 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: but I'm the type of person that gives the party 16 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: planner the concept. 17 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 2: This is the idea. 18 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: I make my own little mood board, I send pictures 19 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: in that way. 20 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 2: I'm kind of a control freak because I just. 21 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 1: Want everything to just be as perfect as possible and 22 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 1: as much as I love to, you know, take care 23 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: of my home, and especially with this new home that 24 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: I've I've been in this home for what almost four 25 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: years now, guys, Oh my goodness, thank you lord. I 26 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: told myself I wouldn't have as many get togethers, as 27 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: many gatherings, as many parties, and I haven't had a 28 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,279 Speaker 1: lot of parties in this house, to be honest. Okay, 29 00:01:35,040 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: at my Sommer house, that was a party house. Oh 30 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: my gosh, the parties I had there. And we're going 31 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: to get into that. But I've been throwing parties, you guys, 32 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: since WHOA. I threw birthday parties for my sister Jackie. 33 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: I threw her a huge birthday party for her twenty 34 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: first birthday. It came out on I Love Jenny, So 35 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: if you want to watch that, you can watch it there. 36 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:00,560 Speaker 2: It was actually a rave party. I threw her that. 37 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: There was like glow in the dark sticks. We did 38 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: a tent. Everything was really dark. Everything was glowing the dark. 39 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: It was freaking awesome. She loved it. Of course, my 40 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: mom paid for all these parties. Okay, I can't say 41 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:12,960 Speaker 1: I can't take credit for that, but I was the 42 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 1: one that planned them. And for Jenica, I threw her 43 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 1: an outside theater party. So we had this big blow 44 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:25,520 Speaker 1: up projector outside and we put bean bags and Johnny hit, 45 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 1: oh my god. Johnny had the great gaspee for his birthday, 46 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: for his eighteenth birthday. 47 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 2: So we go all out. And I love themes. 48 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: If you're trying to plan a dinner party or a 49 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:39,639 Speaker 1: birthday party, it is important to have the concept. If 50 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: you want just something simple, think about the colors. Sometimes 51 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: when I don't have a theme, I'm like, Okay, what's 52 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:48,959 Speaker 1: their favorite color? What's your favorite flower? And I've gone 53 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: from getting centerpieces flower center pieces to making even artificial 54 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: using artificial flowers because then you can reuse them. I 55 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:03,400 Speaker 1: love natural flowers, of course, they're amazing and they smell 56 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: delicious and everything, but I started realizing that they're expensive 57 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: now more than ever, right, and then people won't take 58 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 1: them home and they just go to waste, and I 59 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 1: don't want to do that. I'm like, I don't want 60 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,760 Speaker 1: to be wasteful. So I've been doing a lot of artificial, 61 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 1: like just greenery, and nowadays, the simpler it is, the better. 62 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 1: It looks very nice. So I'm into that right now. 63 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 1: For my friend's fortieth I threw her this huge party 64 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: at my summer house. I'm telling you. The summer house 65 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,920 Speaker 1: was the party house here. I try to keep it 66 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: just to really close friends and family because also you 67 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: got to be careful who you invite into your space. 68 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: So as much as I like to host, now I'm 69 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: really really picky with who I invite to this home. 70 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: But I did throw my friend that party and it 71 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: was freaking awesome. We had them on them with her. 72 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: It was just more of like her favorite colors, and 73 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: you know, she wanted to kind of like ranch style 74 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: but like until with you know, a little bit of glam, 75 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 1: and we did that and it was all like her 76 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: favorite color. It was so beautiful, and on the dance 77 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: floor I put her name and the whole thing. It 78 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: was really nice, and of course you had to have 79 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: the bond. That's so we partied till very late. That's 80 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,160 Speaker 1: when I had first started dating a Medio. I think 81 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: he was overwhelmed at that party now that I remember, 82 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: he left early because he's just I remember seeing his 83 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 1: face like this is just too much for me. He 84 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:28,839 Speaker 1: had on his little his hoodie and he was just 85 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: sitting in a corner and we were just being wild 86 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: because you know, you have tequila and you have banda 87 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 1: and you have your friends and you just you know, 88 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: I was dancing, I was having a great time, and 89 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:40,159 Speaker 1: he wasn't very comfortable, but he got used to it. Now, 90 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: little side note, Now, what I've been getting into you guys, 91 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:46,599 Speaker 1: is throwing just private, little dinner parties for my friends. 92 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: And I think people get a little intimidated with smaller 93 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 1: parties or smaller get togethers because they're like, okay, especially 94 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: if you're not drinking. Because for a long time I 95 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,720 Speaker 1: felt like, oh if I'm not drinking, because how is 96 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: it gonna to be fun? Am I going to be 97 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: able to like, you know, enjoy it. 98 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 2: And I've been using and. 99 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: I've talked about this, I think on the first season 100 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: or second season of Cheege's and Chill, we talked about 101 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: we're not really strangers. That's a great way you guys 102 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: to get a conversation going. So I suggest that if 103 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: you get into your head a little bit like I do, 104 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: because I'm like, I want everyone to have fun. Like 105 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: I'm the type of host that doesn't like to sit down. 106 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: I won't sit down the entire time, and the media 107 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: gets so irritated with me. He's because he's like, you know, 108 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: you're hosting and then you're the next day you're really 109 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,800 Speaker 1: tired because you don't sit down, and I feel like 110 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: you don't enjoy it. But I do enjoy it because 111 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,680 Speaker 1: I enjoy going around to every table and making sure 112 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:41,159 Speaker 1: that everyone's okay. So anyways, getting back to my point here, 113 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:43,800 Speaker 1: so if you are a person that gets in their 114 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,040 Speaker 1: head once in a while like I do, and especially 115 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 1: with the smaller get togethers, this is a great way. 116 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:53,039 Speaker 1: They sell it a target and it's we're not really 117 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:55,239 Speaker 1: strangers and they have friends edition, they have couples audition. 118 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: They have so many different types now and kinds and 119 00:05:58,279 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: you just pull a card and it just gets to 120 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: come going. And that is a great icebreaker to just 121 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 1: start having a conversation and not being on your phone 122 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 1: because now everyone's on their phone. Guys, you go to 123 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: dinner at restaurants and there are couples that don't don't 124 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 1: even talk the entire time, Like I look around, and 125 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 1: even friends, it could just be a group of friends 126 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 1: and everyone's on their phone. 127 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 2: That's why I think they. 128 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,880 Speaker 1: Made this this game, particular game or card game, because 129 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: it's their cards. It's a box, it's a red box, 130 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:28,279 Speaker 1: and I think that's why they created it. 131 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:29,679 Speaker 2: It's like, hey, let's spend time together. 132 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 1: Let's go back to basics, Let's have conversations, conversations that 133 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: have substance, you know. So that's just a little suggestion 134 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 1: because it is it's really sad. Now, I think I'm 135 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: going to start implementing that at some of my parties, 136 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: especially when my siblings are around, and say, hey, let's 137 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:47,559 Speaker 1: all put our phone in a basket and let's just talk. 138 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: Let's just Johnny. Johnny's here, He's like, let's just be 139 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 1: But I think it would for sure really help. That's 140 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: one thing I've had to work on with Medio because 141 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:04,800 Speaker 1: I'm kind of a little bit not too much sometimes 142 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: a workaholic, and everything's on my phone. 143 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 2: So he's like, hey, can you just be present? Even 144 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:11,480 Speaker 2: when we're on road trips. 145 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: I try to just put my phone up someone's butt 146 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 1: because I'm like, I can't. I should not use it 147 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: right now, because he's right, we need to be more present. 148 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 1: We need to work on being more present. And that's 149 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: why I love get togethers and I love dinner parties 150 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,600 Speaker 1: and throwing parties because it's just it's bringing people together 151 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 1: to have fun and those are things that you'll never 152 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 1: ever forget talking about Johnny. He just celebrated his twenty 153 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: fourth birthday. 154 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 2: Twenty fourth. 155 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 1: We just celebrated his twenty fourth birthday here at my house, 156 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: and it was We were very particular with who we 157 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: invited and we had a great time. And it was 158 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: a very small amount of people. I want to say, 159 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 1: maybe thirty forty people max, maybe even less, and it 160 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,840 Speaker 1: was great. We had a freaking great time and I 161 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: loved it. I loved seeing my nieces and nephew's playing, 162 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: like that's what makes my heart happy. Obviously, taking pictures 163 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: and taking video is great because you'll have it forever. 164 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: But I take mental pictures and I'm like, even mental videos. 165 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 2: I'll sit there and. 166 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: I'll just watch them and I'm like, thank you, thank 167 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: you that I'm able to have this home, and then 168 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:21,080 Speaker 1: I'm able to, you know, share my space with the 169 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 1: people that I love. 170 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 2: And that's why I love hosting. 171 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: Now that we're talking to parties about parties, I talk 172 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 1: about my thirtieth Okay, oh my gosh, Okay, where do 173 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: I even start. The theme was all white. I wanted 174 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 1: everyone to wear white. Everything was just white and bright, 175 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: and I was with someone that my family didn't like, 176 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 1: and that we you know, he wasn't very nice to 177 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,840 Speaker 1: me because he was drinking, and you know, alcohol can 178 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: cause problems. So I think he grabbed me in a 179 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 1: way that upset one of my uncles. So when he 180 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: grabbed me, my uncle saw him, he yelled at him 181 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 1: because he already. 182 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 2: Didn't like him. 183 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: My family was just there because it was my birthday, 184 00:09:09,600 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: and so it just became this whole thing. My entire 185 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 1: party was a disaster. And then this person didn't like 186 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: my dress because I was showing too much boobies, too many, 187 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: like it was just my cleavage. And I'm like, I'm 188 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 1: thirty years old, dude, Like what do you mean? 189 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 2: Like I'm young? Like why can't I show my tits? 190 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: You know? So that kind of started the party with 191 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:36,120 Speaker 1: the bad energy. So it was just horrible. Everyone was 192 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: fighting and yelling. My cake was being thrown everywhere. Oh 193 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 1: my gosh. So just the way I've had amazing parties 194 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: and get togethers, there have also been ones that have 195 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: been a disaster. So that's one that I'll never forget. 196 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: And now that we mentioned a not so memorable or 197 00:09:55,200 --> 00:10:00,640 Speaker 1: good memorable should I say party, I I want to 198 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: talk about one that was amazing. I want to talk 199 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:08,760 Speaker 1: about when I turned twenty six. That was my golden birthday. 200 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys have heard of golden birthdays, 201 00:10:10,760 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: but your golden birthday is the day that you were born. 202 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 1: So I'm June twenty sixth. So at twenty six, I 203 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: had a big party. Since I didn't have a kensignea 204 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: because I pissed my mom off. She didn't throw my consignea, 205 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 1: and so that was like my king signeda so I 206 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 1: wanted to go all out. I had my aunts and 207 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: friends in, you know, the same color dresses and the 208 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: whole thing. My mom was here, and it was great. 209 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 1: We had this live band. The food was amazing. It 210 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: was just such a good time. And the music. I 211 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:46,360 Speaker 1: think I cannot have a party and I cannot have 212 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: a get together without good music. I wish I remembered 213 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: the name of that band, but it was a band, 214 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I wish I remembered anyway. They played 215 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: all types of music, all different genres, and it was 216 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 1: just a good time. 217 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 2: We all danced. 218 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: My entire family was there. That's when things were good. 219 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 1: Not great, but they were good. And my mom was here, 220 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 1: of course, so it made it even better. And she 221 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 1: was just so proud of having a twenty six year 222 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 1: old daughter, and she looked amazing. So she looked so beautiful. 223 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 1: I have the picture somewhere I wish I could show you, guys. 224 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: And she was all ten and she was showing her 225 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: boobies and I was showing my boobies and we were 226 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:31,120 Speaker 1: just sexy, and she loved it and it was so fun. 227 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 1: And I think it was because, you know, my whole 228 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:35,840 Speaker 1: family was there, even my extended family, as you guys 229 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:38,720 Speaker 1: know or some of you may know, but I don't 230 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,680 Speaker 1: really have contact with my extended family, my mom's side 231 00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:44,880 Speaker 1: of the family, or even my dad's. So it was 232 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: nice because everyone was there and the food was great. 233 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:52,199 Speaker 1: And that's what makes for me even when I visit 234 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: a place, obviously a restaurant, but even you know, different countries, 235 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: or that's how I remember places by the food. So 236 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 1: just a couple of suggestions when you're planning a party 237 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: for me again. Location, I'm going to start having parties, 238 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:11,719 Speaker 1: but I'm going to try to get them out of 239 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: my house, unless it's like super close friends and family. 240 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:20,480 Speaker 1: But location, the theme is important food is super important, 241 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:24,360 Speaker 1: you guys, because even if the decor isn't to tea 242 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: or to par or whatever, or you know you're on 243 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: a budget, because it is important to have a budget 244 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 1: and state that from the very beginning, whether you're doing 245 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 1: it alone, whether you're doing it about yourself, whether you 246 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 1: have and you're hiring a party planner, it's hey, this 247 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:39,839 Speaker 1: is my budget, and stay in budget because they can 248 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: make it happen, trust me. But if you're going to 249 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 1: spend your money on anything, definitely should be the food 250 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:49,360 Speaker 1: because that's what makes people happy. Food brings people together 251 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 1: and it starts conversations and it's just that's what. 252 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 2: People are going to remember. So the food. 253 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:58,079 Speaker 1: And if you can to get live music, don't worry 254 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 1: about it. Get yourself a badass speaker. Now everything is streamed, 255 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: so hey, you don't have to worry about putting CDs 256 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: and cassettes and records like you could just stream everything. 257 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:08,040 Speaker 1: And that's what I do. Sometimes sometimes I don't have 258 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: a DJ, A lot of the times I don't. Now 259 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 1: we just connect to the speaker. All of us will 260 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: take turns and it makes it fun. So we listen 261 00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: to all different genres as well. But definitely the food. 262 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:22,200 Speaker 1: The food is key decor. You can go to the 263 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 1: Dollar Tree, you can go to TJ Max, you can 264 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 1: go to Home Goods, you can go to Hobby Lobby 265 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 1: and Diyatt, you know, do it yourself and stay in budget, 266 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:36,199 Speaker 1: because that's the main thing. Hey, I want to have 267 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: a party, but my budget is this, So what am 268 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:39,839 Speaker 1: I going to spend my money on? Spend it on food. 269 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 1: I'd rather order the food because cooking it is a lot. 270 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 1: But if you can cook it yourself and you're down 271 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:46,200 Speaker 1: with that, and I don't know how to cook for 272 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: a lot of people. I just know how to cook 273 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: for like three or four, like five people max, probably 274 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:55,080 Speaker 1: not even Yeah, I cook very little. But if you're 275 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: one of those great people that can cook for a 276 00:13:56,920 --> 00:14:00,120 Speaker 1: lot of people, more power to you do that. But 277 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 1: just make sure you have bomb ass food. And what else? 278 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 1: What other suggestion is gonna have balloons? Balloons make everything 279 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: really pretty because I'm telling you flowers, Yes, flowers are great, 280 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: They're beautiful. I love I love flowers, you guys, But 281 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 1: they're expensive, and they're getting more expensive, like I said, 282 00:14:15,240 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 1: and then they die, and then people won't leave, they 283 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 1: won't take them, so you have to force people to 284 00:14:19,200 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: take them. So if you do have flower arrangements, please 285 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: give them away so that people can enjoy them. But 286 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 1: like I said, now you can just go to hobby 287 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:30,400 Speaker 1: Lobby or to Michael's and just buy artificial stuff and 288 00:14:30,560 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: keep it for future parties, or just greenery is super nice. 289 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 1: And buy your own linen. I've been doing that as well, 290 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 1: buying my own like linen for the tables, and that's 291 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: been wonderful, just black and white and then everything else 292 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: you just fluff it up with decor, you know, and 293 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 1: either disposable or things that you can reuse later on. 294 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 1: But balloons make everything beautiful. I just you know, they're 295 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 1: not like that great for the earth, you know, but 296 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 1: I love balloons. So balloons, even if it's just balloons, 297 00:14:57,720 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 1: a bunch of balloons, it just makes everything look really pretty. 298 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: So you don't need all this money to throw like 299 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: a nice get together. It's just the food is the 300 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:10,400 Speaker 1: main thing, and the love and the energy and the 301 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:11,600 Speaker 1: people more than anything. 302 00:15:11,600 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 2: Who you invite. 303 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: Don't invite about Apple, because if you invite about Apple, 304 00:15:16,280 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 1: not only are they gonna come and just mess up 305 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: the vibe. And you know, contaminate, contaminate your home in 306 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: a way, you know. So that's why I'm now more 307 00:15:26,680 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 1: than ever I'm careful. I'm like, you know, even if 308 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:30,840 Speaker 1: I think twice about inviting someone, I want to invite them. 309 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:34,280 Speaker 1: If I'm thinking twice about inviting you, then I shouldn't 310 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:36,600 Speaker 1: invite you, and I don't now. I don't worry about 311 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: are they gonna are their feelings gonna be hurt? 312 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 2: It is what it is. 313 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:43,920 Speaker 1: I just want to feel that good energy and not 314 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:46,360 Speaker 1: feel like it is a job or work. 315 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 2: You know, if you feel like it's. 316 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:50,520 Speaker 1: Like, oh, like I don't want to go talk to 317 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 1: that person, or when I see that person, you should 318 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: not be inviting them to your get togethers. That's the 319 00:15:56,280 --> 00:16:00,680 Speaker 1: first indicator. Don't invite that person because it's going to 320 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:04,680 Speaker 1: ruin everything. You just want people that bring the best 321 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 1: out on you and in everyone else. That's just a 322 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:17,640 Speaker 1: little side note as well. In the past, I spent 323 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 1: so much money on parties, like a ridiculous amount of 324 00:16:21,280 --> 00:16:23,480 Speaker 1: money that now I look back and I think I 325 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 1: could have definitely invested that in something more useful. 326 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:28,680 Speaker 2: Although it was a lot of fun. 327 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: But I had a white party at my summer house, 328 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: and it was like an end of year party, kind 329 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: of like my team Thrive party, but New Year's party. 330 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 1: It was a lot of fun, a lot of stuff happened. 331 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:44,000 Speaker 1: But I brought snow, you guys to that party. I've 332 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 1: done that for my nieces. But then again, it's expensive. 333 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:52,280 Speaker 1: So then people started expecting that at my parties, not 334 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 1: just the snow, but just extravagant things. I was so 335 00:16:55,120 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: I would go all out, and now I don't now. 336 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: What I do is I, hey, let's have a good time, 337 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: Let's have a little bit of tequila, Let's take some 338 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 1: shots and bring everyone together. I am for sure I 339 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,680 Speaker 1: could say and I say this, you know, without boasting 340 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: or tooting my own horn, but tootor lou lu I 341 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:16,680 Speaker 1: am the life of the party, guys. I come downstairs 342 00:17:17,440 --> 00:17:19,400 Speaker 1: because I'm usually the last person to come down because 343 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: I'm putting everything together, and that's when the party starts. 344 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:25,680 Speaker 1: Everyone knows you're gonna have fun of my parties, whether 345 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:28,159 Speaker 1: it's extravagant now or not. Because it's not, it's not 346 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:31,120 Speaker 1: as extriving it as before. But that's like the thing 347 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 1: I think, for sure, what you know that you're going 348 00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:36,119 Speaker 1: to get at one of my parties is good music. 349 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 1: Whether it be a banda even a DJ or just 350 00:17:39,440 --> 00:17:41,360 Speaker 1: a speaker, We're always going to have. 351 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:44,919 Speaker 2: Good music because that's what gets the vibe going. Music 352 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:46,119 Speaker 2: is life, you guys. 353 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:50,159 Speaker 1: So I don't think I've ever heard or seen I 354 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 1: get together without music, and Johnny just reminded me that 355 00:17:56,440 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 1: there is. There's a lot of networking my parties. A 356 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:04,400 Speaker 1: lot of my friends have become friends, like I've I've 357 00:18:04,440 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: brought a lot of people together, which makes me really happy. 358 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:09,520 Speaker 1: My friends start hanging out without me, and the old 359 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 1: me would have been like, Hey, what the heck you're 360 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: hanging out Now, I'm like, this is great, this is amazing. 361 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:15,200 Speaker 1: Like I want everyone to get to know each other 362 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 1: and exchange information and love each other and love on 363 00:18:19,320 --> 00:18:22,000 Speaker 1: each other and support one another with their businesses. So 364 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:24,240 Speaker 1: that's one of my favorite things as well, is getting 365 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: people together and making friends and sometimes even relationships. We've 366 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,959 Speaker 1: talked a lot about being a good host and what 367 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 1: you can do to plan a great party. Now let's 368 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:38,679 Speaker 1: talk about being a good guest. My friend Helen, Helen Ochoa, 369 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:41,160 Speaker 1: who's also been on the podcast. She's a singer. She's amazing, 370 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:44,560 Speaker 1: great voice, go check out her music. Helen Oshua, her 371 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: husband James, who I love and I adore. This is 372 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: something I learned. I cannot have candles on especially when 373 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:58,679 Speaker 1: there's alcohol, you know, involved. He almost burned down my 374 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 1: restroom at my sommer house. I had a candle because 375 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,919 Speaker 1: I love you know, I love everything smelling good. I 376 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: love everything being perfect. So I had a candle. It 377 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:15,040 Speaker 1: was lit throughout the entire night, but the towel where 378 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:18,280 Speaker 1: you dry your hands was very close, I think, to 379 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:20,359 Speaker 1: the candle, and I think as he was drunk, he 380 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: just dried his hands and he threw the towel and 381 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 1: didn't realize it was on top of the candle. So 382 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 1: it turned on fire, like almost burned down. Thank god 383 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:34,680 Speaker 1: it didn't, but he burned the freaking bathroom, the entire wall. 384 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 1: The only I was asleep already. The only reason I 385 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 1: woke up was because of the fire detector, thank goodness, 386 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:43,760 Speaker 1: a smoke detector. And yeah, so that's one thing now 387 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:46,480 Speaker 1: I know as a host not to have candles, and 388 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:48,160 Speaker 1: if I'm going to have a candle, have it far 389 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 1: away from anything that is flammable. But not that he's 390 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 1: a bad guess, because he's great. But to be a 391 00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: good guest, I think you have to be respectful. I 392 00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,080 Speaker 1: think it's important that even if you don't like someone, 393 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:02,359 Speaker 1: because I've had this happen or I invited a friend 394 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,440 Speaker 1: that didn't like this other person, and I thought, Okay, 395 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,639 Speaker 1: she's grown, she's mature, She's going to at least be cordial. 396 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,679 Speaker 1: I'm all about being cordial, even if I'm around someone 397 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 1: that has talked a bad about me, you know, someone 398 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 1: in the media or something like that, or at an event, 399 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 1: I'm cordial. I guess I'm political about it, whatever you 400 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 1: want to call it. But I say hello, and that's it. 401 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: And I think it's important because his friend completely ignored 402 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:30,560 Speaker 1: my other friend, and then there was they were uncomfortable 403 00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:33,479 Speaker 1: the entire time, and that's not cool. I think if 404 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 1: you're coming to someone's home and they're inviting you to 405 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: their home, you should be respectful to all of their guests. 406 00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:42,680 Speaker 1: I think you should say hello and just be nice. 407 00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 1: Talking about the restroom, if you're going to use a 408 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,440 Speaker 1: restroom at someone's house, make sure you put the toilet 409 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: paper inside of the trash can, and if you pee 410 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:53,679 Speaker 1: on the toilet seat, clean it. 411 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 2: Be a nice guess. 412 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,560 Speaker 1: And if you get, for instance, some water on the 413 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: mirror because you're washing your hand, take the time to 414 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 1: clean down the mirror so that there aren't any water spots. 415 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:06,360 Speaker 1: Because that's a pet peeve of mine. I have a lot. Yes, 416 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:08,199 Speaker 1: we've talked about that as well. I'll have pet peeves. 417 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 1: It's a pet peeve of mine. Clean down, you know, 418 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:13,920 Speaker 1: the sink. I go to someone's house and I make 419 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:18,080 Speaker 1: sure to wipe everything down when I wash my hands 420 00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:20,639 Speaker 1: and leave it as I found it. It's just it's respectful, 421 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: it's common courtesy. What else is a good guest? Oh, 422 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,880 Speaker 1: when you eat and you're using a paper plate, please 423 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: throw the paper plate in the trash. Find a trash 424 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:36,560 Speaker 1: can nearby. If there isn't a trash can, ask the host, Hey, 425 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,640 Speaker 1: where can I throw my trash? If they're a good host, 426 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:41,399 Speaker 1: they'll take the plate from you and put it in 427 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:44,120 Speaker 1: the trash. But if you can find a trash can 428 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 1: and put it in there, that would be great. Because 429 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,440 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, this person is throwing 430 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: a party for you and giving you this party or 431 00:21:53,119 --> 00:21:55,119 Speaker 1: inviting you with a lot of love. The least you 432 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:56,920 Speaker 1: could do is throw your plate in the trash. Can 433 00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 1: because a lot of people just leave their plate where 434 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: they eat or they just don't even care, and it's 435 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:05,200 Speaker 1: like a lot, you know. And it's not like I'm 436 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:06,919 Speaker 1: not going to ask the guests to stay behind and 437 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:07,960 Speaker 1: like help me clean, you know. 438 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,119 Speaker 2: I mean, it's just it's not nice. 439 00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:14,600 Speaker 1: Another thing, I just recently transitioned to the small, the mini, 440 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,880 Speaker 1: the mini water bottles, the mini soda cans. It helps 441 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,600 Speaker 1: me because I love to recycle, and not only that, 442 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 1: because I found that when you buy the larger ones, 443 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: people don't drink them. I think it's important to just 444 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 1: be considerate when you go to someone's party. I think 445 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:36,320 Speaker 1: those things are very important. And also a good way 446 00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 1: to be a good guest is if you're having a 447 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:43,520 Speaker 1: bad day, please don't bring that to the party. Leave 448 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,280 Speaker 1: it outside, leave it in your car, leave it at home. 449 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: Don't bring that vibe with you. I know we can 450 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: all have a bad day, but I think it is 451 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 1: important that if you're going to go where there are 452 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:58,159 Speaker 1: more people, especially those that don't know what's going on. 453 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 1: If you are going through something, maybe don't go to 454 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 1: the party and stay home, or come to the party 455 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,880 Speaker 1: and learn to leave your problems and your personal issues 456 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 1: outside unless it's a conversation, unless we're all having the conversation. 457 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 1: But if you're gonna come and have a mobi face 458 00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,119 Speaker 1: and not be in a good mood and make everyone 459 00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 1: else uncomfortable, that's not cool. That's just something that I 460 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:24,119 Speaker 1: wanted to mention because all of these things have happened 461 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:26,200 Speaker 1: at my parties. So if you've come to my party 462 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:27,919 Speaker 1: and you've been one of those people, I'm not going 463 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: to say your name, but just know if you're listening 464 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:33,359 Speaker 1: to this podcast, then I'm talking about you because this 465 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,119 Speaker 1: is all from personal experience. So just the way I 466 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:37,639 Speaker 1: like to be a good host, I like to be 467 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 1: a good guest, and I'm very considered of other people. 468 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 1: And you guys know I say this all the time. 469 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 1: I like to treat people the way I want to 470 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:47,879 Speaker 1: be treated, and I like to treat people's homes and 471 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 1: their spaces and their investment the way i'd like for 472 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: them to treat mine. Just wanted to put that out 473 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: there because it is important to be a good guest 474 00:23:57,800 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 1: as well, And just adding, if it's a birthday party 475 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 1: that you're invited to as a guest, it would be 476 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:07,119 Speaker 1: nice to bring a gift. It doesn't have to be 477 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,679 Speaker 1: like this extravagant gift, but a cute little bottle, a 478 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:12,679 Speaker 1: cute little candle, some chips. 479 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 2: You know. 480 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: I'm also the type of person that when someone invites 481 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:17,199 Speaker 1: me to their house or something, I'm like, Hey, is 482 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:18,160 Speaker 1: there anything I could bring? 483 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:20,160 Speaker 2: Did you forget to buy something? 484 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 1: I'm always that person that likes to ask, like, can 485 00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:23,880 Speaker 1: I bring something? 486 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:24,919 Speaker 2: Ice? 487 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:29,560 Speaker 1: Paper, plates, you know, beer, whatever it is that you're 488 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: missing that I can come and bring you. Even if 489 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,199 Speaker 1: it's not a birthday party and I'm just invited to 490 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 1: like a barbecue, I always do that. That's a great 491 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,719 Speaker 1: way of being a great and amazing guest, especially if 492 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,560 Speaker 1: it's a birthday party. Not that I want a gift, 493 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: because that's not it, but I think it's nice. 494 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:49,680 Speaker 2: I mean, it wouldn't hurt. And I'm not picky. Guys. 495 00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:51,000 Speaker 1: That's one thing I'll tell you. If you're coming to 496 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 1: my birthday party and you haven't brought me a gift, 497 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:53,120 Speaker 1: it's okay. 498 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:54,480 Speaker 2: I'm not mad. I'm not mad at you. 499 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:56,159 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that that's what you should do all 500 00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: the time, but I think it's it's even if it's 501 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,680 Speaker 1: a gift card to freaking target. Ten dollars would make 502 00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:05,439 Speaker 1: me so happy. Some socks, you guys know I love socks. 503 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,679 Speaker 1: Toilet paper, I'd be happy because toilet paper is everyone 504 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 1: needs toilet paper. Baby wipes are expensive. Bring me a 505 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,920 Speaker 1: box of baby wipes next time, I swear to you, 506 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,840 Speaker 1: I'd be so happy. I love candles, you guys know this, 507 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 1: and on toxic please, but anyway, just be considerate. It's 508 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:25,680 Speaker 1: all about being considerate. Just think of other people when 509 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:29,280 Speaker 1: being a guest. But let's go back to being a host. Okay, 510 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 1: if you've come to my parties, you know by now 511 00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,240 Speaker 1: that if I'm drinking and we started early, I am 512 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,560 Speaker 1: the first one to go upstairs and go to sleep. 513 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:44,280 Speaker 1: Everyone knows I just put myself to sleep. I can't hang. 514 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: And this is not something from now. It's always been me. 515 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: So you have to have someone that you trust and 516 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 1: at parties. Also, when I go to different parties, usually 517 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:57,919 Speaker 1: that's what makes me a little uncomfortable. I will be honest, 518 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: there are times when I'll try to sneak out. I 519 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,439 Speaker 1: am a little embarrassed to admit this, but there have 520 00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:05,639 Speaker 1: been times that I've done the Irish exit. Okay, what 521 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,959 Speaker 1: is the Irish exit. I just learned what this is. 522 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,200 Speaker 1: But when you sneak out without saying bye, I've done 523 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,359 Speaker 1: it a couple times. I'm not proud of it, okay, 524 00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 1: but sometimes I get uncomfortable. I'm like, okay, I just 525 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 1: got here a couple hours ago. I know my friend 526 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 1: is a little drunk cause she's gonna want me to stay, 527 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:22,960 Speaker 1: but I want to go to sleep or I can't stay, 528 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:23,680 Speaker 1: and I don't know how. 529 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,640 Speaker 2: To say by, so I just sneak out. I don't 530 00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 2: recommend that. I don't think it's cool. 531 00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: Now I'm trying to get better and just rip off 532 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:33,679 Speaker 1: the band aid and say hey, I'm going to go. 533 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:34,119 Speaker 2: I love you. 534 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,119 Speaker 1: Even if they're like stay stay, I'm like, I can't. 535 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 1: I'm getting better at using my throat chakra because it's 536 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,720 Speaker 1: not cool, that Irish exit thing. I've done it, and 537 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 1: I guess also as a host, i've done it, but 538 00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,280 Speaker 1: people already know me for that. I just can't help 539 00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 1: it now. I'm like, I'm tired, I'm just going to 540 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,000 Speaker 1: go to sleep. But again, that's why it's important to 541 00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 1: only invite people, especially if it's something at your home 542 00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 1: that you trust very close. Friends and family just in 543 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:05,520 Speaker 1: case that happens. So that's it, guys. People always ask 544 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,359 Speaker 1: me about my parties and I get togethers. I used 545 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: to share them a lot more on social media. I 546 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:14,119 Speaker 1: just don't know because I'm more present. So hopefully this 547 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,239 Speaker 1: episode helped you and made you laugh a little bit. 548 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 1: And yeah, thank you, thank you for being here, thank 549 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,480 Speaker 1: you for listening, thank you for coming back each and 550 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 1: every single week. And do not forget dear Cheeky's on Wednesdays. 551 00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 1: You guys, new episodes every Wednesday, and I'll catch you 552 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:29,400 Speaker 1: here next Monday on Cheeky's and Chill. 553 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,960 Speaker 2: I love you so much, hugs and kisses. 554 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:39,960 Speaker 1: This is a production of iHeartRadio and the Micudura podcast Network. 555 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,399 Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at Michaeldura Podcasts, then follow me 556 00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,600 Speaker 1: Cheeky's That's c h I q U I s. 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