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Speaker 1: Right now, it is time for today's Strawberry Letter. If

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Speaker 1: you need advice some relationships, on dating, on work, on sex,

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Speaker 1: on parenting, and more, submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve

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Speaker 1: HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. All right,

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Speaker 1: anything you want to add to that, Steve, no not

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Speaker 1: to date you sure? All right? So click submit Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter and we could be reading your letter like we're

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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right after Tommy says this buggle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. Here it is the Strawberry Letter subject

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Speaker 1: this dummy messed up a good thing. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I have been together for six years.

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Speaker 1: We like to have fun in the bedroom, which often

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Speaker 1: includes a third person joining us, and yes it is

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Speaker 1: always another woman. Before my fiance met me, he had

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Speaker 1: never had a threesome, but I had. Now he can't

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Speaker 1: get enough of them, and I enjoy them even more

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Speaker 1: than he does. From day one, I have set all

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Speaker 1: of the rules for the threesomes. My main and most

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Speaker 1: invite them over. The females are not to ever have

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Speaker 1: my fiance cell number. So here's where the problem started.

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I were out having drinks recently, and

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Speaker 1: I noticed that my fiance was putting the girl's number

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Speaker 1: paying attention. He knows that's a big no no, a

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Speaker 1: real deal breaker. When I questioned him about it, he

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Speaker 1: and I trusted him. But lately he has been guarding

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Speaker 1: He has taken our situation for granted, and any other

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Speaker 1: more than willing to follow my simple rules so he

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Speaker 1: could be with two women at once. He's probably having

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Speaker 1: sex with this girl without telling me. Now I don't

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Speaker 1: trust him, and I'm having second thoughts about the marriage.

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Speaker 1: What am I supposed to do. Please help. Well, see,

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Speaker 1: you know, you invite this stuff into your life and

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Speaker 1: into your bedroom, these threesomes, and when you do this,

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Speaker 1: you invite all kinds of unwanted situations into your relationship.

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Speaker 1: It gets away from you, and this is just what happens,

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Speaker 1: you know. So your little plan backfired, so to speak.

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Speaker 1: Now you're no longer in control like you thought you were.

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Speaker 1: Now your man has taken charge and he's calling the shots.

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Speaker 1: He probably wants more of a normal relationship with one woman.

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Speaker 1: You introduced him to this situation. Maybe you know, he's

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Speaker 1: just going along with it because it is what it is,

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Speaker 1: but maybe he wants some you know, sense of normalcy

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Speaker 1: with one person in his life. And it's under your

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Speaker 1: skin now you're yeah, yeah, there are people out there

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Speaker 1: on you. Now he's gotten her number, forget your rules,

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Speaker 1: disrespecting your so called rules, and you're having second thoughts

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Speaker 1: about marrying him. Well, maybe he's having second thoughts about

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Speaker 1: something like this once it gets started. But maybe he's

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Speaker 1: well I got no angry. He and this woman and

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Speaker 1: fiance been together six years. Like have fun in bed room,

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Speaker 1: always a woman. Now, before you met the dude, he

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Speaker 1: he can't get enough for them, and I the lady

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Speaker 1: in the letter, says, I'm enjoying them more than he does.

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Speaker 1: From day one, I set all the rules for the threesomes.

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Speaker 1: and go get no new tricks. I didn't hear that

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Speaker 1: because the fine thing was in his face. We always

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Speaker 1: forget the rules, We forget the wedding vials if a

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Speaker 1: fine wouldn't get in your face. So you know gonna hear, well,

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Speaker 1: he gonna forget your little monk ass rule. And your

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Speaker 1: rule is set up so y'all can't cheat. Now you

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Speaker 1: changed his past. He got to I can't believe how

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Speaker 1: disrespectful he's acting. Excuse me, you can't believe how disrespectful

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Speaker 1: he's active. Don't you let another woman have sex? What's

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Speaker 1: your fiancea exactly? Don't believe how disrespectful he acted. Work

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Speaker 1: it out, Steve, Work it out. You let him have

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Speaker 1: sex with other women? All right? Hold that thought. Hold

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Speaker 1: that thought, Steve. We'll come back with part two of

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Speaker 1: your response. The subject is this dummy messed up a

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Speaker 1: good thing? You're listening, all right, Steve, Let's recap the

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Speaker 1: letter for today and get to part if you're responsis,

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Speaker 1: just get to it. This couple bit, David fiance they've

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Speaker 1: been having threesomes. She only got one rule with the threesomes.

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Speaker 1: It's always another woman. She could be the only one

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Speaker 1: not ever to have your fiance sale number, and this

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Speaker 1: where the problem started. Y'all out one night having drinks,

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Speaker 1: I guess he thought I wasn't paying attention. That's a

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Speaker 1: big no. No. You ask him to delete the number.

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Speaker 1: He swore he did, but lately he got in the

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Speaker 1: the word disrespectfully throws me a little bit, because ain't

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Speaker 1: you the one Walter girls over to the house at first,

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Speaker 1: because your your filance. They didn't know nothing about No, damn,

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Speaker 1: I have never been involved. You introduced the trick mess

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Speaker 1: Now you want to try to contain sin. Don't you

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Speaker 1: like eaven laid for take the chiff. You can't just

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Speaker 1: tried one rocker crack. Yeah yeah, now they sways shaken.

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Speaker 1: If six hours go by, they ain't got no crack.

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Speaker 1: See what I'm saying now, you don't put your husband.

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Speaker 1: You don't put your fiance saying that now, you can't

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Speaker 1: But then what man you think? See once you tell

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Speaker 1: Now I don't trust him, and I'm having second thoughts

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Speaker 1: about the marriage. What marriage? You don't trust him, but

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Speaker 1: was just loving you. Yeah, he asked you to marriage.

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Speaker 1: He don't want to marry you. So when y'all getting married,

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Speaker 1: what vials y'all offen to say? Y'all can't be taking

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Speaker 1: gonna have to rewrite y'all's because y'all going in wrong. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: can't help you. If you want to do threesomes, go

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Speaker 1: do threesomes. I ain't knocking it. Whatever your sexual preference is,

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Speaker 1: I don't knock that. Go do you see all? That's cool?

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Speaker 1: But you want to do threesomes, go do threesomes. Your husband,

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Speaker 1: I just want to be somebody's something body man her

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Speaker 1: you know, since you so willingly passing it out, you know,

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Speaker 1: he'd ran across something that's better than yours. He ain't

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Speaker 1: got the ship. Hello, Maybe he tied the ship. Maybe

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Speaker 1: he wanted to meet somebody that just won't him what

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Speaker 1: Tommy was. Everybody ain't like Tommy. Tommy, how would you

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Speaker 1: people is listening. No, finally, when did that finally come? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You right on't man, you've been doing that. They just

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Speaker 1: just just wrong wrong. Wow. So Jake, yes, are your

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Speaker 1: people listening? Ja? Jay, you the man? Okay, I'm the woman, beautiful, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because I won't really let Jay Okay, Jay, all right,

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Speaker 1: I was going through the phone and I saw remember

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Speaker 1: I know why her number is in your phone? Oh well,

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Speaker 1: I got it. It is, but that's not your job.

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Speaker 1: Your job isn't see I sets up the threesomes? Not okay,

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Speaker 1: Well let me ask you something. Well, when you're setting

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Speaker 1: call him, Well, what I'm seeing now is total disrespect.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm seeing. Total totally disrespectful totals towards me.

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Speaker 1: I do the three? Got you? H okay? My bad? Three? Okay? Cool,

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Speaker 1: all right, you're right baby, Yeah, all right, listen, guys,

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Speaker 1: we gotta get out of here. Yeah, got her number,

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