1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: It's a trending report from Tanya, and she says that 2 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:10,039 Speaker 1: former Bachelor star Rachel Kirkconnell shared her biggest lessons from 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: her breakup with Matt James. Now, I think I saw 4 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: Bachelor in Paradise stars that you were getting Yes, and 5 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:18,640 Speaker 1: they really stick together. 6 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 2: Yes? 7 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 1: Did they meet? Did they meet on Bachelor in Paradise? 8 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 2: And yeah, yeah, they didn't get married. None of them 9 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 2: got married on Bachelor in Paradise, but. 10 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: They met in that crazy wor yeah, yeah, franchise. Yeah, 11 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:33,840 Speaker 1: and then they got into it for life together. 12 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 2: Yep. 13 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:37,199 Speaker 1: I thought they're on the Bachelor and then the dude's like, no, 14 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: we're on the Paradise version. 15 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:41,239 Speaker 2: All well, they all were on either of the Bachelor 16 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:42,840 Speaker 2: bchel and then they go on to Parry. Yeah. 17 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:45,879 Speaker 1: If you follow, yes, yes, all right, and if you do, 18 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: check this out the tiny trending report. 19 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 2: Yes. So, Rachel Kirkconnell, she just went through a very 20 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:53,080 Speaker 2: public breakup with Matt James and it was a lot 21 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 2: of drama. She went on the Call Her Daddy podcast 22 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 2: to tell her side of the story. It was very 23 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 2: fresh off of the breakup, and the takeaway was that 24 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: this poor girl was so afraid and timid in her 25 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 2: own relationship, but now she's sharing some of the lessons 26 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:08,680 Speaker 2: that she's been able to kind of reflect and learn from. 27 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:11,960 Speaker 2: She said, standing up for myself a bit more and 28 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 2: just not losing your confidence or not putting yourself aside 29 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 2: for someone else. And I thought it was an interesting 30 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: point that Rachel brings up, because she's absolutely right. You 31 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 2: can't lose yourself in a relationship. Otherwise you're always bending 32 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 2: over backwards and you're gonna start resenting that person. But 33 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 2: relationships are all about compromise. So where is that fine 34 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 2: line and when does that begin to blur? 35 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: Compromise? It is so true. What are the key words 36 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:39,680 Speaker 1: to relationship? Yah? 37 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 2: Because you can't always get your way? 38 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:47,360 Speaker 1: You got the balance. It happens naturally, time goes by 39 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 1: you just you know, you learned this, You learned this 40 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: compromise concept. You're right, it's like maturity. It is maturity, 41 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: master compromise. By the time I found my human. 42 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 2: I compromise so much more then I did at the 43 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 2: beginning of my relationship with Michael. 44 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:08,519 Speaker 1: Just because it's okay, it's not worth it. It's not 45 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:12,400 Speaker 1: worth it worth like battling over every little I know. 46 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 2: But if you don't stand up for yourself at all, 47 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 2: and then you just you're always like being submissive, then 48 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 2: I feel like then maybe that's when the resentment starts 49 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 2: to build. 50 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:22,960 Speaker 1: I have one easy way to get through it all 51 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: with your significant other. Just stop turning them, look him 52 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: in the eyes, and say you're right. Music to my ears, done, done, done, 53 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:34,799 Speaker 1: and done. Now we can go out for hot dogs.