Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and
Speaker 1: The Black Effect, And.
Speaker 2: Just like that, we're back on the air.
Speaker 1: Welcome back to yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your
Speaker 1: girl Jess Hilarious, where I'm fixing mess.
Speaker 2: That's what I do. That's what I does.
Speaker 1: Not only do I do it on The Black Effect
Speaker 1: for Carefully Reckless on my own podcast, I do it
Speaker 1: on Breakfast Club, on B E T and everywhere else.
Speaker 1: You can listen to Breakfast Club back. Just make sure
Speaker 1: you tune in every day. You know, I ain't knowing
Speaker 1: it every day, but I will be, and.
Speaker 2: I'm speaking it into existence. That's how you got it.
Speaker 1: You gotta speak things as though they were speak as.
Speaker 2: My bad Lord. I know that was in your good
Speaker 2: old book.
Speaker 1: I know it, but I don't really know it verbatim,
Speaker 1: so I ain't even gonna touch it.
Speaker 2: We're gonna jump straight in. Okay. So I've been getting
Speaker 2: stories from everywhere.
Speaker 1: Okay, now that I'm doing Breakfast Club and now that
Speaker 1: I'm out and about, more and more people are asking
Speaker 1: me in person. Oh, Kenny Kenn, I just had five
Speaker 1: minutes your time, so you can hear me out fix
Speaker 1: my mass. It was this lady at the airport, and
Speaker 1: she asked me what should she do about this? I
Speaker 1: was in Charlotte over the weekend and I met a
Speaker 1: lady in the airport and she wanted to take a picture,
Speaker 1: but she also said, can you help me with my mess?
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't never help nobody in person.
Speaker 1: I might have to charge you for that, and she
Speaker 1: started laughing, but I could see that she was really
Speaker 1: down or whatever. So she told me our story, and
Speaker 1: she said, what do you do when you can't move
Speaker 1: on from your ex and your ex can't move on
Speaker 1: from you but they're in a new relationship. What what
Speaker 1: do you mean?
Speaker 2: What do you do?
Speaker 1: You go get your man back, that's what you do,
Speaker 1: because obviously he moved on a little bit too quick.
Speaker 2: And that's what people do.
Speaker 1: They they jump in relationships, they jump out of relationships,
Speaker 1: and well, people do jumping it out. But this wasn't
Speaker 1: her case. Her case was they were together for six
Speaker 1: years and they were having a lot of problems or whatever,
Speaker 1: so they were gonna take.
Speaker 2: A break, but they still lived together. So that was
Speaker 2: the thing. Now, separated living together.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even date a guy that tells me that
Speaker 1: he's separated, but he's still living with his girl. Now.
Speaker 1: They weren't married, they were just boyfriend girlfriend for about six.
Speaker 2: Years or whatever.
Speaker 1: But their struggles is why they broke up. They both
Speaker 1: were struggling, and that's what it can happen. You know, finances,
Speaker 1: that shit can actually bring a wall up in a
Speaker 1: relationship and drive two partners away from each other.
Speaker 2: That shit would make you go crazy because if you
Speaker 2: if you feel like you.
Speaker 1: Can't financially provide for you or your family, or you
Speaker 1: or your girl or you were your guy, it fucks
Speaker 1: with you mentally, you know what I'm saying. And that shit,
Speaker 1: that shit takes away from your confidence. It messes with
Speaker 1: other areas like sex. You don't want to have sex,
Speaker 1: no one. You can't get it up because you broke
Speaker 1: you know, you can't get wet because.
Speaker 2: You're thinking about what you're gonna do. Your bills are.
Speaker 1: Going unpaid and all that type of stuff. So they
Speaker 1: fell up on hard times and they broke up, and
Speaker 1: I guess he still needed that fulfillment from somewhere. He
Speaker 1: ended up meeting somebody getting into a relationship ship three
Speaker 1: months after the breakup, and then shortly after, admits to
Speaker 1: his ex that he made a mistake, and that's when
Speaker 1: he told her, I'm in a whole relationship and I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: How to get out of it.
Speaker 1: So he came to her to ask her for advice
Speaker 1: to get out of the relationship with the new girl
Speaker 1: so he can be back with her. What the hell
Speaker 1: is going on? Just break it off with that girl,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I told her to tell him,
Speaker 1: just break it off with the girl, like you just
Speaker 1: got to sit down and just be honest. Like he
Speaker 1: was honest enough with you to tell you all of
Speaker 1: that shit. He was honest.
Speaker 2: I liked that.
Speaker 1: That's how you know they were friends. That's how you
Speaker 1: know there was a strong foundation. A lot of people
Speaker 1: don't have that they were friends. Some people would be
Speaker 1: half scared to death to go to their ex who
Speaker 1: they're still in love with and tell them, yo, I
Speaker 1: moved too fast. I got in a fucking relationship and
Speaker 1: I'm not over you, and I don't know what to do.
Speaker 1: How can I break it off with this girl because
Speaker 1: I don't want to hurt her feelings because she she's
Speaker 1: a very very sweet girl. And you, being that ex girlfriend,
Speaker 1: really give the guy advice.
Speaker 2: That's a bit step.
Speaker 1: That takes a lot of patience and a lot of
Speaker 1: damn dignity and also no ego and no pride, because
Speaker 1: that that could never work with a motherfucker with pride,
Speaker 1: could never work. Pride be so damn big, ego, be
Speaker 1: so damn big. Oh he got me fucked up, be
Speaker 1: so damn big. But I really liked this. I like
Speaker 1: that he was very, very honest with her, came to
Speaker 1: her about the shit and was like, Yo, what should
Speaker 1: I do? And she didn't know, so when she saw me,
Speaker 1: that's what she asked me. It was a two part
Speaker 1: She was like, I don't know what the advice is.
Speaker 1: He asked me for advice on how to break up
Speaker 1: with her, and I'm asking you because I didn't know
Speaker 1: what to tell him.
Speaker 2: And then I'm also asking you, how do you move now?
Speaker 1: How can we like, how do you just deal with
Speaker 1: this situation? You know? So that's how you deal with it?
Speaker 1: Get your man back obviously, you know he loves you,
Speaker 1: and you left him. Y'all just needed to get over
Speaker 1: whatever y'all needed to get over. Sometimes the end is
Speaker 1: not always the end, you know. Sometimes it's just to
Speaker 1: be continued. Y'all need to do y'all best team up
Speaker 1: to break up with that girl together, so y'all can
Speaker 1: continue get back with me, get back with me.
Speaker 2: Because you said you was gonna listen.
Speaker 1: I told you I was gonna talk about your story
Speaker 1: on my podcast, So make sure you follow up and
Speaker 1: you update me so I can update my listeners. Moving on,
Speaker 1: So I did Breakfast Club a couple of days ago,
Speaker 1: and you know I fixed mess on that now. As
Speaker 1: I said to y'all previously, that was this girl that
Speaker 1: called up. And I ain't gonna say this was dumb,
Speaker 1: but sometimes people just.
Speaker 2: Need to hear themselves talk.
Speaker 1: That's why I like when y'all give me y'all mess,
Speaker 1: because when it's borderline obvious, what the fuck you need
Speaker 1: to do? Sometimes you just need to hear your story
Speaker 1: told back to you. So this girl called up and said,
Speaker 1: I wonder why I keep ghosting men.
Speaker 2: I never make it past the talking stage, right.
Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, okay, okay, trying to figure
Speaker 1: it out because when people say that I never make
Speaker 1: it past the talking stage, you know what it is, right,
Speaker 1: It ain't them as you because you said you never
Speaker 1: make it back so that means almost every guy never
Speaker 1: makes a pass to talking stage because you ghost them.
Speaker 1: What about them makes you want to ghost them? She said, Well,
Speaker 1: it's only the guys that I like. I don't ghost
Speaker 1: the guys that I really like. It just keeps happening
Speaker 1: with the guys that chase me, because you know, I
Speaker 1: got a nice ross that I got a nice little
Speaker 1: thought in five. First of all, baby girl, back it up.
Speaker 2: DA's your handsome right there? Girl.
Speaker 1: You said you ghost the niggas that be chasing you,
Speaker 1: but you don't ghost the niggas that you really like,
Speaker 1: So that means you're chasing behind somebody too. That's how
Speaker 1: it always go. The good girls always want the niggas
Speaker 1: who really don't want them for them. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: these niggas don't want you, the ones that you really like.
Speaker 1: But you like a guy to play on to get you,
Speaker 1: like a guy to act like he don't like you.
Speaker 1: And I think a celebrity just said that.
Speaker 2: One of Ruby Rose just said that.
Speaker 1: She said she quote unquote, I don't know, well, don't
Speaker 1: quote me at all.
Speaker 2: Allegedly.
Speaker 1: I think Ruby Rose they says she like guys who
Speaker 1: don't like her back or who act like they don't
Speaker 1: like her back.
Speaker 2: Huh, you want to get nigga, don't you shit? What
Speaker 2: you mean? You want a nigga to act like you
Speaker 2: don't like you?
Speaker 1: I excales, I f a you're talking about. So that's
Speaker 1: not the right way to go. And that also means
Speaker 1: that you like toxic shit because you like for a
Speaker 1: motherfucker to feel one way but act another. That's toxic
Speaker 1: as shit, girl, and I think that's mental as hell.
Speaker 2: Don't do that now.
Speaker 1: The guys that are chasing you, they probably wanting it
Speaker 1: downing you, probably calling you and texting you every day,
Speaker 1: every doing everything that you want from these niggas that
Speaker 1: could care less. That's probably dicking you down every now
Speaker 1: and then. And that's probably a smutting you out. And
Speaker 1: the reason why I say smut because you having sex
Speaker 1: with all the ones you like, but you ain't trying
Speaker 1: to give no pussy to the ones that are chasing you.
Speaker 2: That's crazy.
Speaker 1: How about you stop to chase, turn around for a
Speaker 1: second and pick one of them niggas who chasing you
Speaker 1: and see how.
Speaker 2: It actually goes.
Speaker 1: That's why you don't get past the talking stage, because
Speaker 1: nigga's too soft for you. The niggas that chase you
Speaker 1: too pressed and too and too soft probably for you.
Speaker 1: Get one of the niggas a chance, girl, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you'll probably be right with kids. Settle down somewhere, and
Speaker 1: you'll be writing me next year and talk about Jess.
Speaker 2: Listening to you.
Speaker 1: It's the best thing I ever did in my life.
Speaker 1: So get back at me, girl, Get back simmy. Now
Speaker 1: we got a commercial, and if you click off of
Speaker 1: this podcast, I swear i'mnna beat your ass.
Speaker 2: Listen.
Speaker 1: Moving on, So last week we had somebody in person.
Speaker 1: We're gonna do one every so often. We have another
Speaker 1: person in person today that is gonna allow me to
Speaker 1: try to fix their mess.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna let you know who they are.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna let you know what they are because
Speaker 1: everybody is anonymous on this show.
Speaker 2: So yeah, take it away.
Speaker 3: Hey, jazz girl, I'm urt Okay. So I just got
Speaker 3: of a four year relationship. Wow, it was a few
Speaker 3: months ago, so you can still say it's fresh.
Speaker 2: And I just started being okay with dating a game
Speaker 2: and I started talking to this guy.
Speaker 3: And you know, when you're starting to get into an relationship,
Speaker 3: you want to let them know what you've been through,
Speaker 3: just so you won't go through it again and give
Speaker 3: them more insight on you. So I'm letting him know
Speaker 3: what I've been through with my ex, and he's trying
Speaker 3: to say that I'm comparing him to my ex, and
Speaker 3: it's not.
Speaker 2: That at all.
Speaker 3: It's just literally, I don't want to repeat the same
Speaker 3: cycle that I've been through with my ex.
Speaker 2: Is traumatizing, you know, and it triggers me.
Speaker 3: So I just want to know how can I communicate
Speaker 3: with him without making it seem like I'm comparing him
Speaker 3: to my ex.
Speaker 1: Okay, So there's two ways that that could be taken.
Speaker 1: There's two perspectives on that, because while you don't want
Speaker 1: to be compared and people actually do it, sometimes you
Speaker 1: do have to let that.
Speaker 2: Person know what you just went through, not only so.
Speaker 1: They won't do it, but so they can handle you accordingly,
Speaker 1: they can handle you different, and so they can be like, oh,
Speaker 1: they can have a reference if you are triggered by
Speaker 1: something or if something happens, it's like, oh man, she
Speaker 1: went through this so or he went through this, so
Speaker 1: this is why they act like that. Okay, and then
Speaker 1: all right, now we're going to try to break that
Speaker 1: and get them out of that. How can I reassure
Speaker 1: this person that that shit ain't gonna happen over here
Speaker 1: because now you in good hands, now, you know.
Speaker 2: I think it's a meet in the middle type of situation.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you this, how often would you bring
Speaker 1: your ex up or your passed up?
Speaker 2: Because that also plays a part too.
Speaker 1: I remember when I was talking to this guy and
Speaker 1: he brought up his ex every day, not because he
Speaker 1: wanted her, not because he liked her, you know, or
Speaker 1: he missed her. He bought her up every day because
Speaker 1: he was just that fucked up over the relationship that
Speaker 1: almost everything reminded him of being with her, even when
Speaker 1: he was talking to me certain things. You know. She
Speaker 1: was also an aggressive person, and you know I'm not always.
Speaker 2: Aggressive, but my voice very aggressive off the rip.
Speaker 1: Especially if you don't know me, you can take every
Speaker 1: almost everything I say the wrong way, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 2: And I'm not even from New York, you know, we
Speaker 2: from Baltimore, so you.
Speaker 1: Know, but I would tell him, y'all, I'm tired of
Speaker 1: him about your fucking ex.
Speaker 2: I don't like this shit. I'm not used to this shit.
Speaker 1: Nobody has ever spoken on the X so fucking much
Speaker 1: do you fucking want her back? Or because honestly, like
Speaker 1: I was so fed up, and I was so like
Speaker 1: offended and defensive, Like I was just very like not
Speaker 1: even trying to look at it in a way of
Speaker 1: oh no, he's kind of telling me what he went through, and.
Speaker 2: He's just very very fucked up. It was just very severe.
Speaker 1: How often you know, would you bring up your past
Speaker 1: or your ex to this guy?
Speaker 3: To be honest, not that much, but I noticed it
Speaker 3: started becoming more frequent when he started acting like my ex.
Speaker 3: He can start, you know, doing malicious stuff.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: It would be the same shit that my ex used
Speaker 3: to do, and I would bring it up and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 3: that's the shit that ran me away from him. That's
Speaker 3: shit I don't like. It makes me feel uncomfortable. So
Speaker 3: I fall back and he's like.
Speaker 2: I'm not your ex. I'm not your ex, you know,
Speaker 2: stop comparing me to him. I don't do the same
Speaker 2: but like him, Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: So that's what I'm trying to battle with and get
Speaker 3: him to understand.
Speaker 2: So you actually said the words, you're acting like him.
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh my god.
Speaker 2: No, you're not supposed to say that because all right,
Speaker 2: so all right, we'll stay asked this.
Speaker 1: Tables were reversed, right, tables returned, and he told you,
Speaker 1: you know, you act like my ax.
Speaker 2: You would go to fuck off?
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, it's a better way to say it.
Speaker 2: It's a better way to say it.
Speaker 1: And to be honest if the nigga act like niggagg
Speaker 1: like X to be honest with you. But a better
Speaker 1: way of saying it is I've been through this before.
Speaker 2: I've been through this before, and.
Speaker 1: That's why I made myself single. That's why I left
Speaker 1: my last relationship. I don't want to.
Speaker 2: Go through this no more.
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 2: This is a trigger for me. This scares me. I'm not.
Speaker 2: I didn't want something not doing that again, I'm not.
Speaker 1: He's still being compared, but it's not yo, you act
Speaker 1: just like him or you act like my ex. Because
Speaker 1: if this is a man that's trying to build something
Speaker 1: with you, regardless of him acting like your ass, that
Speaker 1: could drive a man crazy, that could fuck with their
Speaker 1: self esteem, and that could always put in the back
Speaker 1: as mine. She might really fucking go be back with
Speaker 1: that nigga, because if I act like that, nigga.
Speaker 2: She might as well just go be back with him.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. You know, and literally you
Speaker 2: saying the same thing.
Speaker 1: If you gonna act like my ax, I could have
Speaker 1: just stayed with my fucking ex. But that's not what
Speaker 1: I wanted to do. I don't want that type of shit. No,
Speaker 1: more like I don't want to be treated that way.
Speaker 1: I didn't like this part about the relationship. So you
Speaker 1: either got to like compromise with me, change that or
Speaker 1: that's it. But y'all want in a relationship. Y'all were
Speaker 1: just talking and because I know you said you didn't
Speaker 1: even want to be in a relationship. Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: that was early on, so he probably felt like on
Speaker 1: his end, that's a red flag. She already saying, I
Speaker 1: act like I asked and all of that. But then
Speaker 1: you should see that as a red flag too. Oh no,
Speaker 1: it's the same type of nigga.
Speaker 2: Oh hell no, uh uh hold up.
Speaker 1: I know this shit getting good, But listen to just
Speaker 1: a couple seconds of a commercial.
Speaker 2: If you love me, you'll listen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a lot. It took a lot for me
Speaker 3: to get to say that he acts like my ex.
Speaker 3: I'm having a conversation with him and I'm not even
Speaker 3: bringing up my ex, but I'm just educating him on
Speaker 3: myself and also about things that he do that I
Speaker 3: want to question and stuff like that. So you know,
Speaker 3: we would just have a conversation just that and the
Speaker 3: third and I would just notice, like small stuff he
Speaker 3: would do, like he would cut me off, or if
Speaker 3: I don't like something that he say, he'll just try
Speaker 3: to sidetrack me, like okay, but he looks so nice,
Speaker 3: You're not going to talk to me, like why are
Speaker 3: you acting like that?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, he stop doing that, and he's like
Speaker 2: stop doing what? Like stop making it.
Speaker 3: Seem like I'm crazy, Like I don't know what I'm
Speaker 3: talking about, Like yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2: You know, and then he'll drag it on and drag
Speaker 2: it on, and.
Speaker 3: That's when I exploded, and I said, you're starting to
Speaker 3: act like my ex, like, don't ever make me feel
Speaker 3: like I'm crazy and I don't know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to educate you on how I am and
Speaker 3: tell you about it, and then you're kind of dismissing
Speaker 3: me because you don't want to face it or you
Speaker 3: don't want to hear about it.
Speaker 2: You don't want to hear about Yeah, you don't want
Speaker 2: to hear about my ex. You don't want to hear
Speaker 2: about my ex.
Speaker 1: And you don't like want somebody tell you about yourself exactly,
Speaker 1: and it has nothing to do with my ex at all.
Speaker 1: But now, yeah, since you want to make it about
Speaker 1: my ex, you acting just like him. Yeah, and that's
Speaker 1: just how I felt about it.
Speaker 2: So what did he do when you said that? Did
Speaker 2: he stop talking to you? Or Oh, he was trying
Speaker 2: to kiss my ass about it?
Speaker 3: Because usually what I do when I'm feeling some type
Speaker 3: of way, I back off. So he's literally just trying
Speaker 3: to kiss my ass. Like, Okay, you know I didn't
Speaker 3: mean it like that. Because I stopped talking to him
Speaker 3: for maybe like a day, he started blowing me up,
Speaker 3: calling both my phones and just acting crazy.
Speaker 2: That's another thing in my exit. That's a red flag. Ladies.
Speaker 2: Don't let niggas call you. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: Old ladies, if you got your phones, don't give them
Speaker 2: both none. By the fuck.
Speaker 1: How shit, I'm gonna be married and my nigma have
Speaker 1: both my numbers.
Speaker 2: Shit, Please do you better not call me on this one?
Speaker 1: Shit because husband's be calling a lot, not that I've
Speaker 1: ever known, because I don't have one shit. I think
Speaker 1: the question is being changed. Do you even think that
Speaker 1: I'm ready to date since I'm dealing with all this?
Speaker 2: Or should I just finish healing?
Speaker 1: Well, to answer the second question, You'll never finish healing
Speaker 1: because life goes on, and you know it'll be new problems.
Speaker 1: Unless you bury the old ones and get them ironed
Speaker 1: out and put them under, you know, put them the rest,
Speaker 1: it's going to be new ones, So don't. I don't
Speaker 1: think it's any such thing as a fully healed person,
Speaker 1: because that would be a perfect person. You see what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Well, they don't exist. We need some type
Speaker 1: of trial and tribulation. We need some type of obstacle
Speaker 1: because that's what makes us stronger. Ultimately, that's what our
Speaker 1: experiences in our different walks of life and our endurance
Speaker 1: and what we can come up out of. And that's
Speaker 1: why MY biggest attribute is resilience. How I can just
Speaker 1: bounce back from anything. I don't think you're ready to
Speaker 1: dig yet. To answer the first part of a question,
Speaker 1: I don't think you are, and I think you already
Speaker 1: know that.
Speaker 2: But the idea of.
Speaker 1: Love and loving someone and having someone love you is
Speaker 1: always beautiful and it always seems like it'll make sense,
Speaker 1: and it seemed like that's what you want. But how
Speaker 1: has your last relationship even changed you? Did you even
Speaker 1: think about going through a whole phase? Did you say,
Speaker 1: I want to date a couple of niggas, I want
Speaker 1: to have a roster people.
Speaker 2: I just talked to you.
Speaker 1: I want to just be by myself until maybe we
Speaker 1: can figure it out.
Speaker 2: Maybe we won't figure it out, or when we do.
Speaker 1: You know, I went and dated other people, so now
Speaker 1: I know that he's for me, or like, how do
Speaker 1: you feel in that aspect?
Speaker 3: Well, I did want to just, you know, just take
Speaker 3: my mind off it, like have distractions and everything. But
Speaker 3: sometimes I do get connected to it absolutely, and I
Speaker 3: don't want to talk to nobody else. It's it's a
Speaker 3: lot of work talking to a lot of people, having
Speaker 3: a roster you didn't having two phones, that's a lot,
Speaker 3: I know. So I was just talking to him and
Speaker 3: then he started acting like that, and then it was
Speaker 3: so easy for me to fall back because he's not
Speaker 3: my ex right, I'm not used to him, and he's
Speaker 3: starting to act like my ex. So it's like I'm
Speaker 3: used to dealing with the bullshit with my ex, but
Speaker 3: it's but getting it from another person in the same stuff.
Speaker 3: It's like, I don't have to deal with this for you. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I was just dealing with this with him, So it's
Speaker 3: like on to the next.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Now, if you talk to somebody else and they end
Speaker 1: up doing the same thing, it's going to be the
Speaker 1: type of guys your track because you know what you
Speaker 1: are like to help people, like to fix like brokenness
Speaker 1: in some sort of way. So yeah, like you, it'll
Speaker 1: be with your track more so because you have a
Speaker 1: big ass, hard you keep getting these batter than scoring people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what about girls, y'all? Think about some girls?
Speaker 3: Actually, no, I got a few honeys on my roster
Speaker 3: right now, and you know what this is over, I
Speaker 3: ain't doing this shit no with a few honeys.
Speaker 2: After you sitting there and fucking just yeah, but you
Speaker 2: know I'm not really gay? Oh so you so you fake? No? Listen?
Speaker 2: Oh I'm confused.
Speaker 1: Can you see why people stay anonymous? Then and be
Speaker 1: like her fake gay ass?
Speaker 2: You bring a fake gaze on a community, You bring
Speaker 2: a fake gaze on the podcast.
Speaker 1: Now, where you can just bring a real gay up dad,
Speaker 1: but you're scared of the real gaze. It's like, no,
Speaker 1: you're at my show every weekend. I ain't scared of y'all.
Speaker 1: I love y'all.
Speaker 2: I love, love, love y'all. So listen.
Speaker 1: That is the end of the episode. I ain't got
Speaker 1: no advice for this damn girl, because I.
Speaker 2: Like what you're doing. I love what she's doing.
Speaker 1: She's dating. There's nothing wrong with that. She's fucking dating.
Speaker 1: People think that dating is when you're with a person. No,
Speaker 1: that's in a relationship. When you're dating, dating is just
Speaker 1: seeing who you like, getting to know a person, and
Speaker 1: you can be more than one person. You don't have
Speaker 1: to be having sex with more than one person. If
Speaker 1: you all whatever makes your book float. But I'm saying
Speaker 1: everybody don't always have to date exclusively. Dating is you
Speaker 1: seeing what works for you. You're seeing if this guy works
Speaker 1: for you. If this don't work, you go on to
Speaker 1: date next Friday with another dude that don't work, you
Speaker 1: go on to date tried, you know, whatever you want
Speaker 1: to do. People should be able to date, date, date
Speaker 1: until they really find that one. And so I don't
Speaker 1: have any advice for I think she's fixing the own mess.
Speaker 1: You know, keep on telling these motherfuckers what you're going
Speaker 1: to stand for, what's not appropriate, which you will not take.
Speaker 1: Stand up for yourself because in your last relationship you
Speaker 1: were taking for granted a lot. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: and you know what you ain't about to take no more.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not I took that from this guy.
Speaker 1: I'm not taking this from you. So You're starting to
Speaker 1: remind me of my ex. And I'm out of here
Speaker 1: on that because I could have just stayed with him
Speaker 1: for this shit. I get it, and I love it.
Speaker 1: You are straight up no chaser with a girl love that.
Speaker 1: Now we come to the end of another carefully Breakfast
Speaker 1: podcast episode with your girl Jess Hilarius, where she's fixing
Speaker 1: mess day in and day out, and you can catch
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Speaker 1: night at eight pm. We got new episodes dropping and
Speaker 1: in my deepest Pam voice.
Speaker 2: I see you next week.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 2: Can't.
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