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Speaker 1: were way too many people in one bed. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I've been married for twenty two years, and I have

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Speaker 1: a big problem with my husband. My husband's coworker recently

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Speaker 1: bought a motorcycle and my husband wants one. So he

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Speaker 1: showed me pictures of the motorcycle on his phone. As

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Speaker 1: I swiped through the pictures, my husband walked outside, and

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Speaker 1: so I kept swiping through his pictures. I went as

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Speaker 1: my husband naked. The video was done two days before

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Speaker 1: my fiftieth birthday, and it was in a hotel room

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Speaker 1: that had a jacuzzi in it. There were six or

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Speaker 1: seven people in there in one bed, including two other

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Speaker 1: have been rumors about my husband being into a lot

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Speaker 1: of different sexual things. I told my brother it was

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Speaker 1: all true and that i'd seen it for myself. He

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Speaker 1: advised me to leave my husband because there's nothing else

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Speaker 1: to talk about. I don't want my marriage of twenty

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Speaker 1: two years to end this way, but there were way

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Speaker 1: too many naked people in the bed. Do I take

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Speaker 1: and hear his side of the story first? Please help? Well? Well, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, I'm sure this was a shock or to you.

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Speaker 1: it seems like everyone in town, according to your brother,

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Speaker 1: knows anyway, but you? And what a shame After twenty

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Speaker 1: two years of marriage. He's brought unimaginable pain and embarrassment

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Speaker 1: and humiliation to you. You said your hands were shaken,

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Speaker 1: please know that, Steve, I'm so damn confused. Yeah, this

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Speaker 1: I been married twenty two years. All this started over

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Speaker 1: What you left your phone with your wife? And you

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Speaker 1: Ain't no California can't six seven people grown ass people,

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Speaker 1: My Strawberry letter for today, the subject there were way

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Speaker 1: too many people in one bed. We'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this. You're listening to the morning show,

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Speaker 1: all right, come on Steve Let's recap Today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: the subject there were way too many people in one bed.

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Speaker 1: All right, this lady thumbing through a husband's phone. He

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Speaker 1: Found this picture video of her husband naked. Nah. This

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Speaker 1: was two days before her fiftieth birthday. They was in

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Speaker 1: That was bed and two of the people in the

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Speaker 1: what more information was you looking for? That was your ass,

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Speaker 1: now you need some more information. So you called your

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Speaker 1: a fact. It ain't ever good for a group of men. See,

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Speaker 1: be the only one in him. It'd be eight nine, eleven,

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Speaker 1: And even when I come out and if people go, Steve,

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Speaker 1: all Jesus one of them. He in. Now that's him.

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Speaker 1: This is not a rumor. I told you brother, it

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Speaker 1: but there were way too many neked people in the bed, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: Okayley asked me, and I'm gonna sure you go hear

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Speaker 1: thats all right, honey. Um, listen when you walked out

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Speaker 1: at the pictures. Yeah I did. You went through my phone.

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Speaker 1: You heard what I said I want? Oh hell no.

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