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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Gabe is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Harper.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe

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Speaker 2: get him a second date. But first, Gabe, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from.

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Speaker 3: Harper's In like a week? And I think I know

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Speaker 3: why I was ghosted?

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Speaker 2: Oh really?

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Speaker 3: Oh sure?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, tell us about the date first, and then

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Speaker 2: tell us why you think you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 4: I mean, for well, first of all, it was late

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Speaker 4: to the date, so right there. Oh yeah, like thirty

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Speaker 4: minutes late. And I know that's bad. But so I

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Speaker 4: was helping my neighbor move a couch and the whole

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Speaker 4: morning just slipped away, like I just lost a sense

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Speaker 4: of my sense of time. But I texted her. I

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Speaker 4: told her what was going on, and I apologized. And

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Speaker 4: when I ran to get there, like as soon as

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Speaker 4: I realized what the.

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Speaker 2: Time was, So okay, did she wait for you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: She waited, which I did not expect. I don't know

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Speaker 4: if I would have done that.

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Speaker 3: Half hour.

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Speaker 5: But yeah, but okay, so you're trying to make up

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Speaker 5: for being late, and she waited for you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, she waited and she stayed and we had uh

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Speaker 4: so the day was we had we had coffee this

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Speaker 4: cute little spot, and then after that she says she

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Speaker 4: wanted to hit up this ping pong bar nearby, and

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Speaker 4: she's so into ping pong, Like I didn't even know

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Speaker 4: that was a thing. I think I had never heard

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Speaker 4: of ping pong bar. Like she lit up when we

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Speaker 4: got there. We played a few games and we got

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Speaker 4: some prize, and honestly, I thought we were vibing, like

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Speaker 4: she was laughing.

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Speaker 3: She was.

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Speaker 4: She was so cute, she was trash talking.

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Speaker 3: It was really really cute. She was cool.

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Speaker 4: She's really cool, And I was trying to redeem myself

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Speaker 4: for being late, you know, like trying to make up

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Speaker 4: for it, right.

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Speaker 3: I thought I did.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, though, because now she's not answer me,

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Speaker 4: and I can't stop thinking about her, because it's like

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Speaker 4: it's rare that I meet someone like her, Like she

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Speaker 4: has this great energy, she's smart.

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Speaker 6: She didn't make me.

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Speaker 4: Feel like I had to be anything. I'm not, Like,

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Speaker 4: I was just who I was, which is so comfortable as.

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Speaker 2: Being late the reason you think you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I did, I just blow it beyond repair. Or

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Speaker 4: maybe she was just busy, Like I don't like, I

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Speaker 4: was helping my friend and I just lost track of time.

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Speaker 4: That's kind of careless. But I felt like I explained

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Speaker 4: it all well.

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Speaker 5: So then what else happened? So you guys played ping pong? Like,

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Speaker 5: did you guys kiss? Did you guys decide that you're

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Speaker 5: going to have another date?

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Speaker 3: No, was sort of just like talk to you soon?

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Speaker 2: Like did it end like you thought maybe she was

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Speaker 4: No, I don't. I didn't think she was upset. Like

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Speaker 4: if she did, it wasn't into me. Why would we

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Speaker 4: go to the pink pong bar and like we hung

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Speaker 4: out there for a while.

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Speaker 5: I mean, unless I just used her to take her

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Speaker 5: to a ping pong because she really likes ping pong. Way,

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Speaker 5: this guy doesn't know how to be on time, but

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna get some ping pong out of it.

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Speaker 4: Maybe maybe I didn't say that, though I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I just don't not like even if I don't know,

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Speaker 4: it's been maybe she's busy. But that's also why I'm

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Speaker 4: calling you, guys, is like I just want to know,

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Speaker 4: because it's the hard part about being ghosted is not

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Speaker 5: But did you reach out to her then, so like

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Speaker 5: this is an obvious ghosting? Or was the last time

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Speaker 5: you talked to her on the date?

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Speaker 3: That is, the last time I talked to her was

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Speaker 3: on the date.

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Speaker 4: Okay, it's been over a week, just over and the

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Speaker 4: last time I text him was yesterday.

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Speaker 2: Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you. Okay,

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Speaker 2: play a song, come back, and then call her and

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Speaker 2: see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and

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Speaker 2: maybe get you a second date.

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first day follow up, next.

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Speaker 1: First date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,

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Speaker 2: And if you're just joining us, Gabe is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and we're about to call Harper who's ghosting him,

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him a second date. But first, Gabe,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory and your situation real quick.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 4: So I went out on a day with this awesome person.

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Speaker 4: She's super cool, she's super sweet.

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Speaker 3: I thought we vibed, but I was late to the date.

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Speaker 4: Like half an hour, and I felt bad about that,

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Speaker 4: and I felt like I tried to make up for it,

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Speaker 4: but we hung out for a while, and now she

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Speaker 4: won't answer my text. So I don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 2: Okay, now you ready? Yeah? All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Harper. Please.

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Speaker 6: Hi.

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Speaker 2: This is hey Harper. How are you? This is a

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Speaker 2: radio show. It's called The Jubile Show.

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Speaker 5: H I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubal. How are you.

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Speaker 6: I'm good, I'm confused, I'm good.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to The Jubil Show before?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Oh cool?

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Speaker 6: And I'm like, I don't know what you could be

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Speaker 6: calling me for.

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Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First Date follow Up, where if you go out with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person

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Speaker 2: can email us. Familiar with that, I've heard it, yeah,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, So is there anybody you can think of

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Speaker 2: that would email us about you?

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Speaker 6: Unfortunately? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: What's their name?

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Speaker 6: Gabe?

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Speaker 2: Right, Yes it is. Gabe emailed us, told us a

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Speaker 2: little bit about your date and says that he's very confused.

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Speaker 2: He liked you a lot. I thought you guys had

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Speaker 2: a great time. Would you mind telling us why you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting him?

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Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, I ghosted him, like I don't want

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Speaker 7: to be rude, but like, honestly, I didn't know what

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Speaker 7: really scammy scammy. Yeah, I mean okay, So first he

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Speaker 7: showed up thirty minutes late, which like rude, but I

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Speaker 6: I get it.

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Speaker 7: I run late sometimes too, and like if the vibes

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Speaker 7: are there, it's fine. Whatever. And so we were hanging

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Speaker 6: King Pong and then we get there, oh my goodness,

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Speaker 6: surprised he lost his wallet trying to get to this

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Speaker 6: day again. I don't mind, king, I.

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Speaker 7: Just just be upfront about it, be like I you

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Speaker 7: know it, don't like make it like I lost it,

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Speaker 7: Be like, oh, I you know, like I'm was running late.

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Speaker 7: I left it behind and it mean too, or like

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Speaker 7: just be like can you pay? You know, don't make

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Speaker 7: for everything because he didn't have any money on him,

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Speaker 7: which is not the deal breaker, the deal breaker.

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Speaker 2: Wise, I mean it could be, but yeah, no.

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Speaker 6: No, no, there's more.

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Speaker 7: On the way out, we're like saying goodbye, and then

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Speaker 7: he's like, oh my gosh, don't have any groceries at home?

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Speaker 6: Can can you be one hundred dollars.

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Speaker 2: Dollars for groceries?

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Speaker 7: And he was like, I gotta feed myself and my cat.

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Speaker 7: I didn't even know that he had a cat. First off,

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Speaker 7: didn't mention the cat beats time we were together, but

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Speaker 7: also like, what what can I use from a grocery store?

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Speaker 2: Like if you know, did you give him the money?

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Speaker 2: Who asks for that?

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Speaker 7: I didn't give him one hundred dollars. I'm not stupid.

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Speaker 7: But I also was like I need to get out

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Speaker 6: So it was like, I don't one hundred dollars, so

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Speaker 2: You cave him fifty.

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Speaker 7: I had to get away. I had to get away. Okay,

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Speaker 7: you do what you gotta do.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow? Ok.

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Speaker 7: On the way home, like I just kept replaying everything,

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Speaker 7: I was like, are you serious? He's wait he doesn't

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Speaker 7: have his wallet. He asks for money like, now, I'm

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Speaker 7: an ATM for a stranger in there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I've been used a lot for money in relationships. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and I've never had anybody just ask for it on

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Speaker 2: the first date. It's a long game, you know. Then

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Speaker 2: you realize they're just they're just here. Something gets tough, my.

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Speaker 6: Cat, you can't need the groceries.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, no, wow, okay, well, thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry. And I don't know if you forgot or not,

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Speaker 2: but Gabe is on the phone and wants to talk

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Speaker 2: to you.

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Speaker 7: Oh I would love to hear what he has to say.

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Speaker 4: A harper I okay, so that all sounds bad.

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Speaker 7: Like no, Harbor, No, I'm sorry, Okay, no, don't harper me, Like,

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Speaker 7: come on, I just told Harbor.

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Speaker 4: I told you i'd pay you back with interest. I

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Speaker 4: was just I was like in a pinch, and you

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Speaker 4: were like this angel who shows up at.

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Speaker 2: The right time?

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Speaker 6: An angel? Wow? What a like?

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Speaker 7: What a beautiful, like literally sparkly way to say manipulation?

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Speaker 4: Come on, No, I just needed help. I even borrowed

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Speaker 4: money from my neighbor after that. I swear it was

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Speaker 4: not a setup. Okay, here's the thing. Like you could

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Speaker 4: have gone home and gotten your wallet.

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Speaker 7: You could have gone like you could have used Apple pay,

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Speaker 7: Like there were other options that you could have done

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Speaker 7: other than asking a woman that you literally just met.

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Speaker 6: Were you minding?

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Speaker 4: Like, come on, wow, Harper, I guess I just didn't

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Speaker 4: realize you're so materialistic, care so much about money.

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Speaker 7: I don't care about money, but I care about like

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Speaker 7: I don't respect and like basic human.

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Speaker 6: Decency like I don't.

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Speaker 7: I don't understand why that's the hard I said I

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Speaker 7: would pay you back.

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Speaker 3: Isn't that decent?

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Speaker 7: I don't need you to pay me back. Actually, you

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Speaker 7: can keep the money.

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Speaker 2: I just want to make sure, Harper, would you like

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Speaker 2: another day with Gabe and we will pay for it.

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Speaker 7: You get no, no, no, save your money, Save your money.

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Speaker 7: You can keep the fifty dollars. It's a donation to

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Speaker 7: the chaos that you have going on.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, we'll find my Harper.

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Speaker 7: To get out of having to deal with that again.

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Speaker 7: So it's it's money well off?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 4: Well fine, Harper, I was gonna pay you back to

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Speaker 4: fifty bucks, but you gave me.

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Speaker 3: But good luck finding you're mister rich man. Or whatever

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Speaker 3: you're looking for. Okay, it even want like a bank account.

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Speaker 2: Person bank account, people that have money in it. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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