1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 1: It is time for today's Strawberry Letters. The term uh listen. 2 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:10,320 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your letter to Steve Harvey FM 4 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, tell him Steve, or 5 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 1: you can just deal with it, or we could read 6 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:24,440 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air like we're getting ready 7 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:26,760 Speaker 1: to read this and go ahead. Now buck them up, 8 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: hold on tight you here, it is the Strawberry Letter. 9 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: He's crazy, he really is crazy. Whatever I know? All 10 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: right now, listen, pay attention, Steve. Subject. My best friend 11 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: cannot be okay with this? All right here, Stephen Shirley, 12 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 1: I've lost my best friend. We've been best friends for 13 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: over fifteen years, the best of friends. We were thickest 14 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: thieves and nothing could keep us apart. Whenever she got 15 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: in relationship, she introduced me as her brother, and I 16 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: got along with all of her boyfriends. She started dating 17 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:09,560 Speaker 1: her in a minute. What Whenever she got into relationship, 18 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: introduced me as her brother, and I got along with 19 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: all of her boyfriends. She did that for whatever reason, 20 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: Like you know, they're close, so she's like, this is 21 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 1: my brother. It's not her brother. They're just friends. A dude. 22 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: Huh yes, I wrote the letter. Huh yes, I wrote 23 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:36,640 Speaker 1: the letter. Oh this is a dude. That okay, okay, okay, 24 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: you're cool now. Whenever she got a relationship, she didn't 25 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: do it and I got along with all Oh boyfriend, okay, 26 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: all right. She started dating her current boyfriend and I 27 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 1: didn't approve of him at first because he had a 28 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: reputation of being a liar and a cheater. I played 29 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:56,920 Speaker 1: it cool and supported her through all of the drama 30 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: and breaks the breakups with him. He knows I don't 31 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: like him, so one night he invited me to go 32 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: to the strip club with him. I met him at 33 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: the club and ended up having a great time. He 34 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: paid for all of my drinks and lap dances, and 35 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: we both ended up getting really drunk. And since I 36 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: lived close to the strip club, he asked if he 37 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:18,040 Speaker 1: could stay on my couch instead of driving all the 38 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: way home, so I let him. One thing led to another, 39 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 1: and we ended up naked and rolling around on the floor. 40 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: Hold up, okay, yeah, but I told you to pay attention. Okay, 41 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: did I miss something, Monica? Miss Okay? This woman has 42 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: this man? Man is writing a letter? Yes, this is 43 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: written by a man and his friend who was a 44 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 1: girl getting relationship with dudes. She didn't improve it is 45 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: one dude because he had lied a cheating Okay, now 46 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 1: go ahead, because I missed. Okay, So so anyway, he 47 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: wanted to stay on my couch instead of driving all 48 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: the way home. Dude, Yes, with over the other dud. 49 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: So we yeah, okay through this one. Come on, so 50 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: I let him. One thing led to another and we 51 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 1: ended up naked and rolling around on the floor. What 52 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,640 Speaker 1: you mean? One thing led to another? We ended up naked, 53 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 1: rolling around. Can I finish the letter and then you 54 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: respond when you start reading? I swear to God, Tommy, 55 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:43,120 Speaker 1: I thought I thought these was two girls. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, 56 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: but right in the in the what second or third sentence, 57 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: she he says, whenever she got into relationship, she introduced 58 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:54,119 Speaker 1: me as her brother. Yeah that's why I was confused. Yeah, 59 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: so why would you be introducing this lady? Is your brother? Yeah? 60 00:03:57,040 --> 00:04:02,520 Speaker 1: It's the jar? Okay, all right, I felt awful the 61 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: next stay so okay, attended, Okay, I'll start here. We 62 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: both ended up getting really drunk, and since I lived 63 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 1: close to the strip club, he asked if he could 64 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: stay on my couch instead of driving all the way home. 65 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 1: So I led him. One thing led to another, and 66 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:25,600 Speaker 1: we ended up naked and rolling around on the floor. 67 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: I never heard that happen, Can I Can? I say so? 68 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: No whole of time. This ain't Yeah, you do pranks. 69 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: You can't say nothing else. You're gonna get me in trouble. Yeah, 70 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: and we don't want that. I felt awful the next 71 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,920 Speaker 1: day and wanted to tell my best friend everything, but 72 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,040 Speaker 1: I waited a week because there was no easy way 73 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: to break this news to her. She was furious with me, 74 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,359 Speaker 1: not him. She told me that I never should have 75 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: been hanging out with her man and going to a 76 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: strip club without her knowing it. She accused me of 77 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: pursuing him. She knows her man is not my type. 78 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: And I explained that when I went out with him 79 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: to keep the peace. And I explained that I went 80 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: out with him to keep the peace. So now I've 81 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: lost my best friend. She's still with this clown, and 82 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: I can't get her to see past his lies and manipulation. 83 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 1: I miss my best friend. Please help. You're gonna have 84 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: to chalk this one up because you're not gonna be 85 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: able to get that back. You slept with her man. 86 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 1: You slept with her men. You broke the friend code. 87 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: You know, Normally here we would say the girlfriend code, 88 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 1: but you brought Since you're a dude, we say you 89 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 1: broke the friend code. Okay. I don't care how drunk 90 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: you guys were. I don't care. You crossed the line 91 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: and that's why she's mad at you. You were wrong, Okay, 92 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 1: you were wrong forgetting with her guy, and we got 93 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: to take a break here, Steve, it is time for 94 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:57,120 Speaker 1: you to give your response, and we'll do that when 95 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: we come back to twenty three after the hour. Today's 96 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 1: letter the subject my best friend cannot be okay with this. 97 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve. The subject of this letter, 98 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 1: my best friend cannot be okay with this. We gotta recount. 99 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:18,039 Speaker 1: Your best friend is not okay with this, and neither 100 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:21,039 Speaker 1: am I now here. I had to pick through this 101 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: because I had to learn this woman has obviously, I'm 102 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: assuming without it being said, her best friend is gay, 103 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: a gay guy. Okay. We were thickest thieves and nothing 104 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: could keep us apart. Whenever she got into relationship. She 105 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: introduced me as her brother, and I got along with 106 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: all her boyfriends, she started dating the current boyfriend. I 107 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:46,720 Speaker 1: didn't approve of him at first because he had a 108 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: reputation me and lying and cheetah. I played it cool 109 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:52,360 Speaker 1: and supported up through all the drama and breakups with him. 110 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: He knows I don't really like him, so one night 111 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,799 Speaker 1: he invited me to go to strip club with him. 112 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: Now they had the strip club up. I met him 113 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: at the club, end up having a great time. He 114 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:08,279 Speaker 1: paid for all my drinks and lap down. We both 115 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: ended up getting really drunk, and since I live close 116 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 1: to the strip club, he asked if he could stay 117 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: on my couch instead of driving all the way home. 118 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 1: So I let it hit a sentence that throw me. 119 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: One thing led to another and we ended up naked 120 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: and rolling around on the floor. What thing, yea, what is? 121 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: I need to know what that is? So I'll make 122 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:36,080 Speaker 1: sure because if I've been to sell all the Scotch 123 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: in my damn, I'm married and you don't go to 124 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: the strip club, so you're good and I'm not sitting 125 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: up in the floor with another man. And then makes 126 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: this statement. One thing led to another. See ain't no 127 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: ain't no more damn thing, ain't no damn things over him. 128 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: So ain't no one thing led to another? Dog? This 129 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: has got to be something you've had in your head 130 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 1: for a long time and has acted on it before, 131 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: Because ain't no one thing led to another? And we 132 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,040 Speaker 1: ended up naked and rolling around on the floor. What 133 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: listen to me if I got on short sleeve shirt 134 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: and I'm sitting next to my partner he got on 135 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 1: a short sleeve show his arm can't touch. But yeah, 136 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 1: we got that steep. But you're a straight heterosexual man, 137 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: you know. I know. I'm just saying, what ain't fenna 138 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: happen with me and my partner after we come front 139 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: the strip? So now we got up in here, we're 140 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 1: back from the strip club, one thing led to another, 141 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: We ended up naked and rolling around on the floor. 142 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: I felt awful the next day. Really, you think you'd 143 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 1: have felt all because he crossed the line with her 144 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 1: his best friends? Man? Okay, so I understand that I 145 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 1: wanted to tell my best friend everything. See right here, 146 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:58,280 Speaker 1: see dog, Now let me blame something too. It's rules 147 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: to this game that we are head read on. What 148 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: you cannot do is go tell it well because you're 149 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: gonna hurt the girl. Huh, yeah, read on. I felt 150 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: awful the next day and wanted to tell my best 151 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 1: friend everything, but I waited a week because that was 152 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:20,600 Speaker 1: no easy way to break this news to her. She 153 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 1: was furious with me, not him. She told me I 154 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 1: never should have been hanging out with her man and 155 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 1: going to a strip club without her knowing it. She 156 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: accused me of pursuing him. You probably did, though, but 157 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: he pursued you too. She knows her man is not 158 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: my type. What what didn't you just say? Y'all was 159 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 1: nicking on the floor. They were drunk, but he ain't 160 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 1: you tight, no partner? Somebody was all right somewhere. So 161 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: do you think she she knew that her man? So 162 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: now it's bisexual. I think that because she's not use man. Yeah, 163 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: she's not upset. I think she's okay with it. First 164 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: of all, I have no solution to this letter. Just 165 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: let me say that, nor will I attempt, because in 166 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: all honesty, I don't want to offend anymore, and I 167 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 1: don't want to say anything because I don't know the 168 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:24,840 Speaker 1: rules of engagement in these types of relationships. So for 169 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: me to say something with all that's going on in 170 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: society today, I really don't want to have a comment 171 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 1: because I don't know. But but Steve, let me just 172 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:34,600 Speaker 1: say this though. Wouldn't you think it would be the 173 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:39,679 Speaker 1: same if no, with heterosexuals, if your friend slept with 174 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: your man or your girl in the in this case, 175 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 1: if I'm a woman, my girlfriend sleeps with my man, 176 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 1: it's the same thing. Basically, I can't imagine what you say. 177 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: I can't fire. Yeah, if your best friend slept with 178 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 1: your wife, with your girl, this is what's happening here, 179 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:06,560 Speaker 1: Calhoun sleeping with Listen, do you know how that what's 180 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:10,839 Speaker 1: happening here? Though? Do you understand what you just say? No, 181 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: I can't fix that in that's how you have to 182 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: look at it. No, you can can That's how you 183 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: have to look at it. Issue. Yeah, that's the issue. 184 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:27,959 Speaker 1: And uh no no no, no, no no no that 185 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: ain't just the issue. No no, no no no no 186 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 1: no it way motitiously. I don't know how you trying 187 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 1: to throw us in it and simplified. But that ain't 188 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: what this matter. I would have something to say about 189 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 1: that her best friend slept with her man. Her best 190 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 1: friend is a man that slept with her man. Now 191 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:54,520 Speaker 1: what she didn't had to wrap her mind. Rod. These 192 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: two men were sleeping together. Man, you had to know. 193 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: I'm all right. Guys, we got to get out of here. 194 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 1: You can post your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter. It's 195 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM, and check out our Strawberry Letter podcast 196 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:12,560 Speaker 1: on demand. Okay, you're listening to the Steven Show.