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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter subject

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Speaker 1: Petty Betty strikes again. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty

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Speaker 1: nine year old married woman and I've been friends with

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Speaker 1: a nutcase for over twenty years. We fall out all

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Speaker 1: of the time because she's a drama queen and she

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Speaker 1: creates conflict where there should be none. I'm a professor

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Speaker 1: and she's in financial aid at the college we attended.

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Speaker 1: I got a job there first and she came later.

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Speaker 1: She is in a management role, but she has not

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Speaker 1: gotten a raise or a promotion in five years. She

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Speaker 1: blames everyone but herself, and it is amazing to see

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Speaker 1: how she goes through life like everyone is Craig Cray

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Speaker 1: except for her. I stopped talking to her for four

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Speaker 1: years because I told her something in confidence and she

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Speaker 1: joked with my husband about it. He pulled his groin

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Speaker 1: muscle and we couldn't have sex for a month or so.

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Speaker 1: She thought that it was fine to tell him if

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Speaker 1: he didn't get his thing back in shape, I was

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Speaker 1: going to step out on him. A lot of dumb

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Speaker 1: stuff comes out of her mouth all the time. At work,

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Speaker 1: she's offended so many people. She's loud talked her coworkers

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Speaker 1: and caused them to get ridden up. Just recently, she

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Speaker 1: got hit across the head with a book by this

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Speaker 1: woman that snuck out of work early. She asked the

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Speaker 1: she's noticed that particular woman pulling out of the parking lot.

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Speaker 1: It's a whole bunch of petty mess that keeps me

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Speaker 1: from getting too close to her. My husband can't stand her,

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Speaker 1: and my gay best friend calls her petty Betty because

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Speaker 1: she wanted to be a comedian and her career never

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Speaker 1: took off, so she tries her weird commentary on her acquaintances.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to deal with her because she has a

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Speaker 1: good heart. How can I reel her in so she'll

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Speaker 1: stop being so petty? This woman has grown? What are

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Speaker 1: you talking about? How do you reel her in? I mean,

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Speaker 1: why are you still friends with this woman? Is my question?

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Speaker 1: I mean, she sounds like a horrible person. I don't

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Speaker 1: see any reason you shouldn't cut her out. She's not nice.

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Speaker 1: You can be friendly, but not friends with this person.

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Speaker 1: You even called her yourself an acquaintance. You can love

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Speaker 1: her from a distance. She's just too inappropriate. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you haven't personally been on the other end of her

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Speaker 1: pettiness like some of these other people, but your husband

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Speaker 1: certainly has. I mean, she's got to go. How do

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Speaker 1: you trust her with telling her anything? I mean, how

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Speaker 1: can you really have a conversation with her. She's already

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Speaker 1: told you her husband something crazy. You stopped talking to

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Speaker 1: her for four years. There is such a thing as

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Speaker 1: outgrowing a person, you know, and I think you two

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Speaker 1: have reached that point. As we get older, we should,

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Speaker 1: you know, be trying to simplify our lives, getting rid

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Speaker 1: of toxic stuff, negative people, bad energy. You need to

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Speaker 1: do that with Petty Betty By Petty Betty bye, Steve. Well,

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Speaker 1: my take on this letter is it almost you know,

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Speaker 1: we've just had a rash of it don't make no

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Speaker 1: fallen into modern times, kind of like the internet and stuff.

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Speaker 1: So now we have these, you know, Dan, you know

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Speaker 1: now we've fallen into this new age thing. A reflection

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Speaker 1: we can call it petty betty, but this is really messy.

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Speaker 1: Oh she is is messy. Now you're friends with this woman,

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Speaker 1: which is crazy to me. I've been friends with a

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Speaker 1: nutcase for twenty years. How right? I just can't see

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Speaker 1: She's been there for five years. She ain't gotten a

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Speaker 1: And now and now she claimed she blamed everybody, but

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Speaker 1: you know what I've discovered, that's one of the main

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Speaker 1: They don't know they're crazy. They think it's everybody else.

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Speaker 1: That's a dead giveaway that they had a stone crazy.

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Speaker 1: This everybody I know that something wrong with them, They

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Speaker 1: Now here's how I know that's something wrong with you,

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Speaker 1: What part of the nuttiness? What did you miss it? Oh?

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Speaker 1: You know I just miss her nuttiness, said no one ever. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I just missed you so patty and messy, and you're

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Speaker 1: nutty in you. I can't confide in you. And girl,

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Speaker 1: my life just been going so good for four years.

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Speaker 1: I just want that drama back east. That's what has happened.

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Speaker 1: So you know, it's just been that's that's just all right.

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject up today's

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Speaker 1: letter Patty Betty strikes again. We'll get back into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is Petty Betty

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Speaker 1: strikes again. So we got this thirty nine year old

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Speaker 1: the nutcase for over twenty years. I've said this before.

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Speaker 1: Why would you be friends for twenty years with somebody

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Speaker 1: that you know is a nutcase? She's a drama queen.

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Speaker 1: She creates conflicts where it shouldn't be none. Now, this

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Speaker 1: Her girlfriend that's the nutcase works in the financial department

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Speaker 1: everybody it's crazy except her. I must remind you that

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Speaker 1: I have found in my life that the number one

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Speaker 1: I said before, I don't know why you be friends

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Speaker 1: four years? What did you miss the drama? Did you

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Speaker 1: miss the craziness? Did you miss how messy she was?

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Speaker 1: What was your life just going too smooth? And you said, man,

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Speaker 1: I just need something some bs back in my life.

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Speaker 1: Let me call Betty because all is going on by

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Speaker 1: my business ain't no drama. And you brought it back

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Speaker 1: and she did not let you down at work. She's

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Speaker 1: offended so many people. She loud talks over her coworkers,

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Speaker 1: this woman pulling out of the pocket lot. See now

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Speaker 1: out of busted your upside your head. But it's been

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Speaker 1: way more than a book anyway. My husband can't staying

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Speaker 1: her here with the juicy party letter. My husband can't

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Speaker 1: Betty because she's constantly making an inappropriate comment about his lifestyle.

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Speaker 1: You know good in here? Well, I'm gonna skip right

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Speaker 1: over that because I liked my job in my career.

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Speaker 1: Moving on, So she tries her weird commentary on her acquaintances.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to deal with her because she has a

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Speaker 1: think she wanted to be a comedian in her career.

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Speaker 1: Never too, I ain't seen nothing funny in this letter.

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Speaker 1: How can I read her heard? So she'll stop being

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Speaker 1: Why do you say you have a bad judgment? You

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Speaker 1: you're talking to her for four years. Put petty Betty

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Speaker 1: do you have to be her friend? Why you know?

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Speaker 1: And please leave this section in the letter that I

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Speaker 1: tell you what I really think. This is what? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: your friend is petty betty and you joking? Ask Joe Anne,

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Speaker 1: y'all's perfect for each other. She needs a person like

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Speaker 1: That's why your husband don't like her. Your husband don't

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Speaker 1: two really good people not to have like a for

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Speaker 1: proof do you need? Both of your lord have mercy.

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Speaker 1: All the mean in your life don't know body like

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Speaker 1: just gotta ask you that. Yeah her, So listen, Petty

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Speaker 1: Betty exists because you joking ass, Joanne, and you gotta

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Speaker 1: get you joking ass. Joyne. Need to quit hanging out

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