WEBVTT - The Karol Markowicz Show: Partying with Inez Stepman

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, and welcome back to the Carol Markowitz Show on iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 1>This clip came across my feed the other day on Twitter, actually,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have to say something about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So boyfriend I have been together eight years, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's because we met really young. I was twenty when

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<v Speaker 2>we met, having got married simply because like neither of

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<v Speaker 2>us have wanted to yet. And I guess now, I

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<v Speaker 2>know a lot of people wouldn't date someone for eight

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<v Speaker 2>years without a ring, and that's totally fine, Like that's

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<v Speaker 2>your prerogative, but it works for us. Next thing is

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<v Speaker 2>that I pay my boyfriend rent. In the past, when

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<v Speaker 2>we've rented properties together, we've split the rent. Now my

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend has purchased a house. I'm still an adult that

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<v Speaker 2>needs a place to live and pays for the place

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<v Speaker 2>she lives. I just happened to pay that money to

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<v Speaker 2>my boyfriend. People are upset that I'm doing this work

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<v Speaker 2>for freed and I'm not gaining equity in this house

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<v Speaker 2>way that I look at it. And he was able

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<v Speaker 2>to buy this house because that has been a.

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<v Speaker 1>Goal of hit.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have the ability to take on that risk.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't see it as my place to like reap

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<v Speaker 2>those gains to me, it would be weird to not help,

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<v Speaker 2>just like a friend helping out. People are gonna have

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<v Speaker 2>a problem with the fact that I just referred to

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<v Speaker 2>myself as a friend, but I am my boyfriend's friend. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>if my boyfriend dumped me tomorrow, like, yes, the gains

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<v Speaker 2>in the house.

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<v Speaker 3>Would be his, But I can live with that.

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<v Speaker 2>The other like little nuance is that, like, my rent

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<v Speaker 2>is pretty low. It's definitely low for the size of

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<v Speaker 2>house we live in and the location that we are so, like,

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<v Speaker 2>if it makes you feel better, you could kind of

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<v Speaker 2>look at it as like my rent is subsidized by

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<v Speaker 2>the work that I do. I'm doing this work because

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<v Speaker 2>it's fun and it improves the home that I live in.

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<v Speaker 2>I will now stop talking about our relationship and get

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<v Speaker 2>back to removing paint from old things. Please give us

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<v Speaker 2>a follow if you want to see how my vision

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<v Speaker 2>for this house comes to life, whether it's for me

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<v Speaker 2>or my boyfriend's future wife.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, this girl is twenty eight years old and she's

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<v Speaker 1>contributing toward the mortgage of her boyfriend, who she has

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<v Speaker 1>been dating for eight years. She says that they were

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<v Speaker 1>too young to get married but they live together and

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<v Speaker 1>now they're in their late twenties. I know I push

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<v Speaker 1>marriage on here, and this is a great example of

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<v Speaker 1>why what is this woman doing. I'd be so upset

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<v Speaker 1>if this was my daughter dating a guy for nearly

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<v Speaker 1>a decade, not on the path to marriage, and helping

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<v Speaker 1>him pay for the home he owns. But she does not.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, she says things like people are going to

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<v Speaker 1>get upset, or this upsets people. I'm not upset for her.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be upset if it was my kid. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>she could do whatever she wants. She's a stranger on

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<v Speaker 1>the internet. I think this is particularly crazy to do,

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<v Speaker 1>but I, you know, don't really care what strangers do.

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<v Speaker 1>So for me, i'd be upset if it were my

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<v Speaker 1>kid doing this, even without marriage. I'd point out that

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<v Speaker 1>this guy is not interested in taking care of her.

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<v Speaker 1>I know women can do it for themselves. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>need no man. She mentions she's an adult whatever, But

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<v Speaker 1>that's ridiculous. We need each other. We take care of

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<v Speaker 1>each other. It's not a one way thing. She's taking

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<v Speaker 1>care of him, he's not taking care of her. To me,

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<v Speaker 1>this video is a public service announcement for our to

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<v Speaker 1>not fool themselves into believing that living like this is

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<v Speaker 1>somehow a win, somehow this is feminism. She apparently made

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<v Speaker 1>this video responding to a comment that said she's getting

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<v Speaker 1>the home ready for him and his future wife to

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<v Speaker 1>live in. But that's how I see this ending too.

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<v Speaker 1>You're dating for eight years. Where is this going? Why

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't you be married yet? This makes no sense to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, just the fact that she's financially helping him,

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<v Speaker 1>like build up his equity in a home that is

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<v Speaker 1>not hers is wild to me. You're not into marriage, fine,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'll be telling my kids to not do this

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<v Speaker 1>pretend marriage thing where one person gets all the benefits either.

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<v Speaker 1>Coming up next, an interview with Inez Stepman. Welcome back

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<v Speaker 1>to the Carol Marcowitz Show on iHeartRadio. My guest today

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<v Speaker 1>is Inez Stepman, senior policy analyst for Independent Women's Forum

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<v Speaker 1>and host of the show high Noon. Hy Inez.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, Carol, it's great to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so nice to have you on and to see you.

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<v Speaker 1>We used to hang out a lot in New York,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know what, one of us had to move away.

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<v Speaker 3>Well I moved in, so I was I was the

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<v Speaker 3>newcomer in New York and then everyone I knew left,

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<v Speaker 3>including you. So right, because you did.

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<v Speaker 1>The rare pandemic move to New York. What made me

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<v Speaker 1>do that?

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<v Speaker 3>My party trike is telling people. You know, imagine one

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<v Speaker 3>of those horror shows where everybody's locked up trying to

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<v Speaker 3>get out of the city after an apocalypse, and there's

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<v Speaker 3>one car going in. That was me and my husband.

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<v Speaker 3>We came to New York December of twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>So what made you do a part of the it

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<v Speaker 1>just seems really fun to be locked in a smaller apartment.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, actually, because of the pandemic prices, were probably the

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<v Speaker 3>first people in history who went from DC to New

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<v Speaker 3>York and got a bigger apartment and then you know,

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<v Speaker 3>booted out of that apartment based on the price increase.

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<v Speaker 3>In any case, No, we had been planning to move

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<v Speaker 3>to New York actually roughly in May of twenty twenty,

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<v Speaker 3>and then as those plans were taking place, the pandemic

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<v Speaker 3>hit and so we delayed it for a while. But

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<v Speaker 3>given the low prices and stuff, it seemed to make sense.

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<v Speaker 3>My husband had just gone remote so my husband, Jared Stepman,

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<v Speaker 3>he works for the Daily Signal, but he had gone

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<v Speaker 3>remote before the pandemic, and so we were sort of

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<v Speaker 3>free to move to New York and that was our plan.

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<v Speaker 3>So it wasn't We just kind of delayed our plan

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<v Speaker 3>by a little bit, but it was our plan to

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<v Speaker 3>move here. I just I like this, in all honesty,

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<v Speaker 3>my husband was, you know, doing me a favor by

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<v Speaker 3>moving here that Yeah, yeah, I just loved New York.

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<v Speaker 3>I've always loved New York. I've wanted to move here

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<v Speaker 3>for a decade and a half, but it never like

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<v Speaker 3>sort of practically made sense. And so so have you

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<v Speaker 3>enjoyed it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I have. I mean, obviously it's facing a lot of problems,

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<v Speaker 3>as virtually every city is. I'm a city person. To

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<v Speaker 3>be able as particularly to walk, I need o architecture

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<v Speaker 3>is really important to me. A certain attention to aesthetics

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<v Speaker 3>is really important to me that you don't find, I think,

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<v Speaker 3>in a lot of American cities outside of New York.

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<v Speaker 3>So just for that daily beauty, which I realize a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of people look at New York and they're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>look at the garbage. What are you talking about in

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<v Speaker 3>the daily beauty? But I really think there is an

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<v Speaker 3>enormous daily beauty in New York. There's a rhythm to it.

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<v Speaker 3>There are beautiful buildings that you can look at walking around.

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<v Speaker 3>It's enjoyable. It's energizing to walk around in New York.

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<v Speaker 3>So despite all of the problems, and then of course

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<v Speaker 3>there's just the enormous amount of things you have access

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<v Speaker 3>to your culturally, artistically, just to me, day to day

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<v Speaker 3>life here is exciting and is beautiful. And so I've

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<v Speaker 3>always I've always had a romantic feeling about New York,

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<v Speaker 3>which my actual New Yorker friends always help me is

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<v Speaker 3>is cheesy and lame.

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<v Speaker 1>No, not at all. I think New York is a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful city. I used to I mean, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>was the biggest New York evangelist, New York supremacist, and

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<v Speaker 1>I used to like take pictures of the city and

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<v Speaker 1>of the bridges as I went over them or things

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<v Speaker 1>like that, and I would, you know, tweet, I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>your city's nice too, but like, this is my city

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<v Speaker 1>and look at it. So I totally get that. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like not liking New York. Like I'm you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still deeply a New York lover overall. It's like

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<v Speaker 1>the child that you have to like let go of

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<v Speaker 1>and let them do their own thing because you've like

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<v Speaker 1>gotten tired of fighting for them. Maybe that's a bad

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<v Speaker 1>analogy because I actually, what would not stop fighting for my children,

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<v Speaker 1>but for my you know, for my children, I had

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<v Speaker 1>to leave New York. So that was kind of the

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<v Speaker 1>sad truth of it. But I love how you love

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<v Speaker 1>New York and that reminds me very much of the

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<v Speaker 1>way I felt about it, and I I love to

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<v Speaker 1>see it through your eyes. I love to watch you,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, become a New Yorker and really live there.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's been it's been great. I loved, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>loved to watch you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean, I think there are certain policy consequences

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<v Speaker 3>that you can't escape with children. Part of the reason

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's easy for us to stay here is

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<v Speaker 3>because we don't have kids. They're really I understand perfectly

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<v Speaker 3>why why you left.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, in my schools and crime thousand words on it.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, it's schools and crime. Although I will say this,

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<v Speaker 3>crime in New York is much worse than crime in

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<v Speaker 3>New York in twenty nineteen. It's palpable, it's visible, you

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<v Speaker 3>see you know, you see it a lot more you

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<v Speaker 3>even just walking around, there are definitely more like high

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<v Speaker 3>people wandering around. There's definitely I can see my citizen

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<v Speaker 3>app taking up day by day. That being said, the

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<v Speaker 3>focus from our own team, Carol the right on New

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<v Speaker 3>York is sort of the disaster zone of the country,

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<v Speaker 3>I think is really not accurate in terms of the

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<v Speaker 3>big cities in America, all of which are basically except

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<v Speaker 3>for Miami maybe Dallas are making the same policy mistakes,

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<v Speaker 3>and they started not nearly as safe as New York.

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<v Speaker 3>So people seem from outside the city sometimes to think like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>it's dangerous to walk down the street in Manhattan. It isn't.

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<v Speaker 3>It's fine. I mean, it's more unpleasant than it used

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<v Speaker 3>to be. You definitely have to be a little more

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<v Speaker 3>alert than it used to be. But comparatively to DC,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, when I lived in DC in twenty eighteen,

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<v Speaker 3>before any of this happened, there were twelve murders within

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<v Speaker 3>half a mile in one summer of where I lived,

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<v Speaker 3>and I lived in a nice part of DC. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so like, comparatively to that, there hasn't even been one

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<v Speaker 3>murder in my vicinity since I moved here.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's a wind, you know. I know, I fully.

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<v Speaker 1>The depressing part to me is that New York solved

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<v Speaker 1>like the mystery of ken a big city be governable?

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<v Speaker 1>Can it be livable? And then threw it all away

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<v Speaker 1>and then just decided that that's you know, that didn't

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<v Speaker 1>actually happen, or that didn't work the way we wanted

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<v Speaker 1>it to or whatever. And that's like the depressing part

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<v Speaker 1>to me. It's not the you know, cities will have challenges.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say this, but I grew up in a

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<v Speaker 1>much worse New York than exists now, and yet I

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't live in this New York because this New York

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<v Speaker 1>didn't take seriously the threats that nineteen eighties New York

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<v Speaker 1>took seriously. So crime was far worse in the eighties

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<v Speaker 1>when I was growing up, But it wasn't a debate.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't like, what are you talking about? What crime?

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<v Speaker 1>What crime? It's a crime, you know, And that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I felt was going on. Especially in the neighborhood that

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<v Speaker 1>I lived in Park Slope. It was like, literally, if

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<v Speaker 1>you said, you know, oh, the crime's going up and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a little nervous about that, or can my kids

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<v Speaker 1>walk around alone the way that they could you know

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<v Speaker 1>six months ago you were racist? And how dare you

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<v Speaker 1>bring this up? And that's the part that I like

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<v Speaker 1>could not live with. And you know, also talking about

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<v Speaker 1>like beauty of New York, like I one of the

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<v Speaker 1>things I miss, and it's funny, but like the way

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<v Speaker 1>people really try they like dress up, and I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's people in Florida look good, do not get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>Like way better than like let's say, Parkslope, Brooklyn, like

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<v Speaker 1>where I felt like nobody tried it at all. But

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<v Speaker 1>you know, so there are things about New York that

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<v Speaker 1>I think are beautiful and amazing and that I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>miss about them. I just hate that they threw away

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<v Speaker 1>decades of good government and good policies to you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the ideology of the moment which turned out to be

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<v Speaker 1>you know, fools gold.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean it is a tragedy. And coming from

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<v Speaker 3>California originally and from the San Francisco area, I mean

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<v Speaker 3>I had a front seat to the tragedy that is

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<v Speaker 3>San Francisco. Am I view much worse than New York,

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<v Speaker 3>even though they start out with a baseline of like

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<v Speaker 3>San Francisco is has a very very small black population

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<v Speaker 3>for example, which does core relate with the crime rate.

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<v Speaker 3>San Francisco is incredibly wealthy. It's much smaller than New York.

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<v Speaker 3>Like all the demographics of San Francisco would point to

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<v Speaker 3>the fact that it should be as it was, which

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<v Speaker 3>was like an incredibly safe city when I was growing up.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean I used to go when I was fourteen,

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<v Speaker 3>fifteen years old. I used to walk around and then

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<v Speaker 3>Tenorline District by myself as a teenager. There was no

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<v Speaker 3>question that that was fine. I mean, yeah, there were

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<v Speaker 3>there were some people doing drugs at San Francisco, very

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<v Speaker 3>you know, there were some homeless people. It was San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 3>But the there was a really real tipping point, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was entirely as you say, it's like entirely the

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<v Speaker 3>choice of people who live there to throw away all

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<v Speaker 3>of the natural beauty of San Francisco, natural safety of

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<v Speaker 3>San Francisco, everything that's wonderful about San Francisco to just

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<v Speaker 3>like put it in the trash can and in San

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<v Speaker 3>Francisco at actually the tipping point, I don't imagine how

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<v Speaker 3>bad it's gotten, although I've seen plenty of the reporting

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<v Speaker 3>and stuff, but the tipping point really was twenty five

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<v Speaker 3>ten twenty sixteen where the actual experience of the city.

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<v Speaker 3>And again, I'm a city person. I'm not somebody who

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<v Speaker 3>is shocked by seeing a homeless person on the corner

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<v Speaker 3>or all fighting or whatever. But in twenty sixteen it

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<v Speaker 3>became San Francisco. The actual enjoyment of being in the city,

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<v Speaker 3>the walking around, the sitting in the cafe, all of

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<v Speaker 3>that started to very aggressively be impacted by the fact

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<v Speaker 3>that the city basically threw open the doors to every

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<v Speaker 3>drug drug addict in America and said, hey, shoot up here,

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<v Speaker 3>why would you do that? You know, you know, look,

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<v Speaker 3>they have their their idiot rationales. But it very very

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<v Speaker 3>clearly fell off a cliff at that point. So I

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<v Speaker 3>share your sense of tragedy. I do think there's a

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<v Speaker 3>couple institutions in New York that are keeping it from

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<v Speaker 3>going completely nuts, at least for now, because obviously the

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<v Speaker 3>City Council is insane and they all have to go

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<v Speaker 3>down the same path as DC, as Seattle, San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, And it's funny because there are more Republicans now

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<v Speaker 1>on the New York City Council than like in decades.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just the leftist on the city Council. The Democrats

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<v Speaker 1>have become far left, is really what happened. So you

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<v Speaker 1>have actually more quantity of Republicans. I think this five now,

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<v Speaker 1>which was unheard of in you know, the last number

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<v Speaker 1>of years. But the Democrats have just become insane.

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<v Speaker 3>Crazy, I mean yeah, and it's They do have two institutions,

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<v Speaker 3>like I said that I think help balance a little bit.

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<v Speaker 3>One is that the NYPD is the best force in

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<v Speaker 3>the world. I really believe that. I mean, it's remarkable

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<v Speaker 3>what they're able to do when they're allowed to do it.

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<v Speaker 3>And they're very large force, like per capita comparatively to

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of these other cities. So there are the

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<v Speaker 3>cops to put on corners and they're very well organized.

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<v Speaker 3>And then they we have clout apparently behind the scenes, right,

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, the police union is still a big deal

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<v Speaker 3>in New York politically in the way that it's completely

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<v Speaker 3>non existent, and I can demonstrate very easily how that

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<v Speaker 3>works between DC and New York. I cannot imagine. And Carol,

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<v Speaker 3>you've spent plenty of time in DC. Can you imagine

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<v Speaker 3>the kind of parade that was put on for the

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<v Speaker 3>fallen officers maybe two years ago, where you have just

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<v Speaker 3>like hundreds, maybe thousands of cops marching down the street

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<v Speaker 3>in New York. For that would never happen in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 3>It would just never happen in DC because there's such

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<v Speaker 3>a hostility to the cops. There still is like a

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<v Speaker 3>pride in the police force here among average people, and

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's really important, and it gives them the

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<v Speaker 3>clout I assume a little bit behind the scenes, although

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure that their lives are much worse than they

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<v Speaker 3>used to be. Don't get me wrong again, I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>down comparatively to these other cities.

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<v Speaker 1>That's really interesting. I've really never thought of that, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they're absolutely.

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<v Speaker 3>You should think about the second one, which is that

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<v Speaker 3>they have the New York Post. Yeah, wow, which there's

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<v Speaker 3>no major daily newspaper with a actual city readership. There

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<v Speaker 3>are conservative journals and so on.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, everybody needs the Post. Yeah, like everybody across

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<v Speaker 1>the political spectrum in New York has always read the Post.

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<v Speaker 3>They will just post reports on crime, and the Post

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<v Speaker 3>hosts conservative opinion. And the fact that that's a daily

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<v Speaker 3>newspaper in New York that's in everybody's padega like that, people,

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<v Speaker 3>ordinary people a political people not like you and me

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<v Speaker 3>read I think is an enormous asset for the city

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<v Speaker 3>and keeping it going completely insane. Now, maybe all those

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<v Speaker 3>things will be overcome and the left will steamroll or

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<v Speaker 3>all of those things.

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<v Speaker 1>But let's root for New York, like you know, I hope,

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<v Speaker 1>I hope they don't. I hope that the voices of

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<v Speaker 1>sanity within and you get to live in a beautiful,

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<v Speaker 1>safe New York the way that I remember that it

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<v Speaker 1>should be right now, But you know, isn't for a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of reasons. So what do you mostly work on

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<v Speaker 1>at IWF? I mean, I obviously read a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>your stuff, but what would my listeners want to know

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<v Speaker 1>about what you do?

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<v Speaker 3>So I have a kind of funny hodgepodge of issues.

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<v Speaker 3>I did do more than a decade as an education

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<v Speaker 3>policy analyst, so I still do some education stuff some

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<v Speaker 3>I mean school choice K twelve policy stuff. I also

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<v Speaker 3>have been working a lot on higher ed recently. So

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<v Speaker 3>I have a proposal out to tax the university sector

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<v Speaker 3>for a loan forgiveness, and I think this is going

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<v Speaker 3>to be I think this has the potential to be

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<v Speaker 3>a huge win for the right. There is an enormous

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<v Speaker 3>pressure to forgive student loans, and I think we often

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<v Speaker 3>talk about it as a matter of individual responsibility, which

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<v Speaker 3>it is. I'm not saying that the EIGHTEENEP signing on

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<v Speaker 3>the dotted line, you know, didn't legally incur that debt,

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<v Speaker 3>but the entire system since the nineteen sixties really has

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<v Speaker 3>been structured to push as many people prepared or not

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<v Speaker 3>into college as possible. And I think it's a little

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<v Speaker 3>too much to assume that the average eighteen year old

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<v Speaker 3>is more financially savvy than the US Congress that put

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<v Speaker 3>these these loans government loans in front of basically every

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<v Speaker 3>every high school graduate in America. The universities get their

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<v Speaker 3>money upfront, so they're you know, they're rolling in. They've

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<v Speaker 3>created enor miss wealth from this policy that is directly

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<v Speaker 3>directly financed by the US taxpayer, and you know, everyone

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<v Speaker 3>else is kind of screwed, right, The taxpayer is screwed

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<v Speaker 3>because by the way we hold all these loans. So

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<v Speaker 3>if a large proportion, as is predicted, default on the

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<v Speaker 3>student loans, and it could be anywhere from fifty to

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<v Speaker 3>sixty percent, that those are like reasonable estimates of how

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<v Speaker 3>much like what default rate we're likely to see. We

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<v Speaker 3>already own all those loans that Department of Education owns

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<v Speaker 3>ninety three or some of those loans. You know, there's

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<v Speaker 3>those companies like Moela or Mohela whatever it's called, or

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<v Speaker 3>Naviant before it. They're just managers of their hired guns

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<v Speaker 3>to manage the loans and collect payments. But the US

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<v Speaker 3>government owns that debt, so we're already on the hook

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<v Speaker 3>for it. I think we will have a default bailout,

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<v Speaker 3>whether we like it or not, by default. So to

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<v Speaker 3>my mind, the fair way to do this is to

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<v Speaker 3>take some of that enormous wealth that's been amassed on

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<v Speaker 3>the basis of the backs of the US taxpayer by

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<v Speaker 3>institutions that are overtly hostile, and I don't think anyone

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<v Speaker 3>can argue that point in twenty twenty four, overtly hostile

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<v Speaker 3>to everything that's good about this country and about America.

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<v Speaker 3>To take the money from those institutions and use it

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<v Speaker 3>to essentially settle up with those who were preyed upon,

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<v Speaker 3>frankly by this system, by this promise that if you

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<v Speaker 3>take on this debt and go to a four year school,

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<v Speaker 3>oftentimes a four year school, you're totally academically unprepared for

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<v Speaker 3>because the graduation rates only sixty percent. These schools were

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<v Speaker 3>admitting people because everybody comes with the government check that

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<v Speaker 3>they get up FROMT So a lot of those defaults

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<v Speaker 3>are people who are admitted to schools that had no

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<v Speaker 3>chance of ever graduating from for the money for two

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<v Speaker 3>or three years and they are stuck with the debt

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<v Speaker 3>and they have no degree and anyway, Like, I could

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<v Speaker 3>talk forever about this, but I think that there is

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of merit to taxing universities for this. For

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<v Speaker 3>the right, I see it as a twofer. We hit

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<v Speaker 3>our institutional enemies because that's what they are, and we

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<v Speaker 3>justly make the people who have made money off of

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<v Speaker 3>this system pay for the fallout of it instead of

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<v Speaker 3>the US taxpayer and the majority of Americans without a

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<v Speaker 3>four year degree, you know, redistributing their wealth towards paying

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<v Speaker 3>off loans for people who did go to college, who

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<v Speaker 3>did go to for example, law school, which seems blatantly regressive.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so who is opposed to this politically? Like, obviously

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<v Speaker 1>the colleges are against it, but who I conceive the

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<v Speaker 1>argument from both the Republican and the Democrat side of

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<v Speaker 1>why this is a great idea.

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<v Speaker 3>Democrats don't see it that way, because I think they

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<v Speaker 3>know better than Republicans who their friends are. The real

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<v Speaker 3>political question is why have Republicans been willing to fund

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<v Speaker 3>universities at such an extreme rate and give them such

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<v Speaker 3>a special little deal from the federal government for so

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<v Speaker 3>many years when university has always been overtly hostile to

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<v Speaker 3>everything Republicans believe in. That's the question. It's a matter

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<v Speaker 3>of political will on the right. If Republicans prioritize this,

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<v Speaker 3>I think that we could very well drive a wedge

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<v Speaker 3>between Democratic politicians who know that the universities aren't incredibly

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<v Speaker 3>valuable in doctor nation resource to them, and Democratic voters

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<v Speaker 3>because you know, look the kids with these loans, they

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<v Speaker 3>don't care if it comes from Harvard, right, They're happy

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<v Speaker 3>to have them bailed out. Right. So I was on

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<v Speaker 3>Doctor phil Weirdly enough, he did a series at the end,

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<v Speaker 3>he did a series of like policy chats, we're on

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<v Speaker 3>various political issues. And I think I convinced a fair

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<v Speaker 3>number because everyone came on there saying I need my

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<v Speaker 3>student loans bailed out, and I think I got a

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<v Speaker 3>fair number of them convinced. You know, yeah, it's right

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<v Speaker 3>that the university should pay for this and not, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>people who didn't go to college. That's not fair. So

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<v Speaker 3>I think it would be a very politically smart argument

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<v Speaker 3>for the Republicans to make. I think it would put

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of pressure on Democrats, and I think more

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<v Speaker 3>than anything, it would politically cut off the knees from

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<v Speaker 3>a strategy that Biden used in the midterms. I'm pretty

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<v Speaker 3>sure he will use going forward in this twenty four election,

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<v Speaker 3>which is to promise a bailout he knows is going

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<v Speaker 3>to get knocked down by the court to get young

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<v Speaker 3>people out to vote. It worked for them in the midterms,

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<v Speaker 3>and Republicans can destroy that political talking point. They can

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<v Speaker 3>provide a real solution for people who are legitimately struggling

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<v Speaker 3>with what in any other context we would call predatory loans. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and they can hit their institutional enemies and make it

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<v Speaker 3>a wedge issue on the line. I just I don't

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<v Speaker 3>see a downside to the right pushing this jd Vance

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<v Speaker 3>has introduced something real similar to my proposal. It wouldn't

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<v Speaker 3>be very difficult for Republicans to tax at university endowments.

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<v Speaker 3>For example, there already is a very, very very tiny

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<v Speaker 3>tax and the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act, Well, that

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<v Speaker 3>would be required would be to expand that tax and

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<v Speaker 3>treat them like the hedge funds that they are.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to take a quick break and be right

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<v Speaker 1>back on the Carol Marcowitch Show. So what would you

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<v Speaker 1>be doing as a career if you weren't doing this,

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<v Speaker 1>if you weren't doing policy, if you weren't writing What

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<v Speaker 1>would be then? As plan B, do I.

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<v Speaker 3>Get booted off as a tradwife if I say I'd

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<v Speaker 3>rather just like arrange flowers at home and paint my

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<v Speaker 3>apartment different colors?

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, who's booting you? This is like, this is a

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<v Speaker 1>safe space.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, Like in terms of professional work, I

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<v Speaker 3>think i'd make a pretty good architect. Actually was a

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<v Speaker 3>good at math. It was pretty good at sketching, and

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<v Speaker 3>I really enjoy looking at buildings. I don't have any

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<v Speaker 3>extent of knowledge and architecture other than what I like.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's okay, this is fantasy, you know a series of.

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<v Speaker 3>My skills, like the sort of design and aesthetic element

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<v Speaker 3>with the mathematical uh and an analytical kind of that's

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<v Speaker 3>more what I'm good at. I'm not like, I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>an artiste, but I think the combination of aesthetic and

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<v Speaker 3>mathematics would it appeal to me? There was no I

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<v Speaker 3>looked for courses in it, but there weren't any of

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<v Speaker 3>my university.

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<v Speaker 1>I think i'd be a DJ. I think that would

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<v Speaker 1>be make me see it, you know, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I need I know how to get the party going.

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<v Speaker 1>I also enjoyed planning travel, so maybe a travel agent.

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<v Speaker 1>I like those two, like you know fields, but I,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, trad wife was the original plan for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how I got off that track. And

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<v Speaker 1>my husband sometimes says, you know, he signed up for

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<v Speaker 1>a stay at home mom, stayed at home wife, and

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<v Speaker 1>I decided to go have a career, which is like

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<v Speaker 1>a crazy thing to do. So you know, anything is possible, really,

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<v Speaker 1>is what I'm saying here. Do you feel like you've

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<v Speaker 1>made it?

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<v Speaker 3>You sent me this question in advance, and I still

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<v Speaker 3>don't know how to answer it. I think I don't

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<v Speaker 3>think I've made it. I would say that there are

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<v Speaker 3>things that I'm more grateful about in my career as

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<v Speaker 3>the years go on, especially in this environment. The fact

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<v Speaker 3>that I have the freedom, enormous freedom, even within our profession.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so grateful for to IWF for providing this. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>they don't have a one voice policy. They really do hire,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, a variety of smart women with a variety

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<v Speaker 3>of views from you know, moderate independent all the way

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<v Speaker 3>to conservative, like I'm clearly conservative. But they really do

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<v Speaker 3>an enormous job of supporting women who want to make

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<v Speaker 3>an argument about X, Y and z. That kind of

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<v Speaker 3>freedom is when I think about, oh, like, would I

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<v Speaker 3>rather be an architect or something like that. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>there are ways in which I'd rather do that. But

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<v Speaker 3>on the other hand, there is no escape from politics now.

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<v Speaker 3>Right when I think about what the corporate office politics

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<v Speaker 3>is like now, when I think about the things that

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<v Speaker 3>are allegedly offensive or like a problem for HR, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>incredibly grateful that I don't have that kind of job.

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<v Speaker 1>I would be able to tolerate it for HR.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I've never talked to HR, I've never used HR.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't anyway, I'm enormously grateful for that, and I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like it's a rare, a rare thing now to

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<v Speaker 3>be able to work in our current environment, which maybe

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<v Speaker 3>you agree or don't, I think it is pretty close

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<v Speaker 3>to not like Stalinism, you know, not like being thrown

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<v Speaker 3>in the Gulag. But by the time you get to

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<v Speaker 3>the Soviet Union in like the seventies right where yer structure. Yeah,

0:27:10.080 --> 0:27:12.160
<v Speaker 3>very different structure, and there's lots of there's a long

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<v Speaker 3>discussion we had about like the similarities and differences. But

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<v Speaker 3>in terms of the feeling of wait, you know, you

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<v Speaker 3>just don't share your opinions unless you really know the

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<v Speaker 3>people you know, like who you're talking to. Uh, there's

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<v Speaker 3>just all these like trip wires. You can't really you

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<v Speaker 3>can't really just do your business and have your friends

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<v Speaker 3>and live your life. Like the political system is intruding

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<v Speaker 3>into that private sphere in a very direct way. And

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<v Speaker 3>I'm yeah, I think in that context all the more

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<v Speaker 3>grateful to to have a position I do, because I don't.

0:27:49.320 --> 0:27:52.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't think I deal very well with, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>being told that something that I'm saying is offensive and

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<v Speaker 3>therefore like I'm gonna lose my job and having to

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<v Speaker 3>balance those two things. I have the utmost sympathy for

0:28:01.920 --> 0:28:05.000
<v Speaker 3>people who feel they have to have to do that. Like,

0:28:05.240 --> 0:28:07.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm not naive about it at all. I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>everybody needs to be so John Needson, right, I'm not

0:28:10.440 --> 0:28:12.280
<v Speaker 3>and I don't mean just in talent. I mean that

0:28:12.400 --> 0:28:15.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm not directly threatened that way. And I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>what I would do if saying what I say meant

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<v Speaker 3>that I couldn't make rent absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I found an essay that I wrote in college,

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<v Speaker 1>where I was already an open conservative, but I wrote

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<v Speaker 1>about how the traditional family was outdated, and of course,

0:28:32.400 --> 0:28:34.760
<v Speaker 1>you see, I got an a on it, and I remember,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't remember this, but I don't remember

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<v Speaker 1>particularly writing this essay actually, but I remember having to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of adjust my opinions to what I knew the

0:28:43.480 --> 0:28:45.680
<v Speaker 1>professor wanted to hear. Because what was the point, really,

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<v Speaker 1>I was there to get the good grades?

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<v Speaker 3>Men?

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<v Speaker 1>Who cared what my professor thought about what? You know,

0:28:50.360 --> 0:28:52.840
<v Speaker 1>what I thought? Why would I need to debate him

0:28:53.240 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 1>or argue out my point? You want to hear that

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<v Speaker 1>the modern families, you know, the traditional families outdated like

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<v Speaker 1>here you go, hey, yeah, my dad.

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<v Speaker 3>Like like you as you know, but for your audience,

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:09.080
<v Speaker 3>my family comes from communist Poland, so sort of similar

0:29:09.640 --> 0:29:16.760
<v Speaker 3>Warsaw packed style background, and my dad even in my

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<v Speaker 3>high school in Palo Alto and the like mid two thousands,

0:29:20.160 --> 0:29:23.479
<v Speaker 3>I mean, he had that feeling about, oh, like you're

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<v Speaker 3>getting assignments that you know what you're supposed to write. Yeah,

0:29:27.840 --> 0:29:29.720
<v Speaker 3>and he was like, this is like being in the

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<v Speaker 3>This is like being in communist Poland, like the you know,

0:29:33.080 --> 0:29:36.040
<v Speaker 3>the proletariator always oppressed, they always rise up, like you

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<v Speaker 3>know what you're supposed to write, and it's the same

0:29:38.320 --> 0:29:40.560
<v Speaker 3>same stuff. And that was like, I think the early

0:29:40.640 --> 0:29:43.280
<v Speaker 3>wave of that, but it was already there in the

0:29:43.440 --> 0:29:45.760
<v Speaker 3>in the two thousands and in public school, right, it

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<v Speaker 3>was already the vision that America had. America's sins are

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<v Speaker 3>so much greater than her triumphs that course are unique,

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<v Speaker 3>and her triumphs are irrelevant, right, and yeah, and it

0:29:59.320 --> 0:30:02.080
<v Speaker 3>is like it it again. I don't want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Over no, I get I never plugged my book on

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<v Speaker 1>my show. But like in Stolen Youth book that we

0:30:09.040 --> 0:30:11.840
<v Speaker 1>published my co author Bethany Mandel and I in March,

0:30:12.160 --> 0:30:15.200
<v Speaker 1>it opens with a history chapter which compares a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of what's going on right now to what has happened

0:30:17.560 --> 0:30:20.360
<v Speaker 1>into talitarian societies in the past. And we're not saying

0:30:20.400 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 1>that anybody gets thrown in a gulag right now or

0:30:22.880 --> 0:30:27.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, like that, but there's definitely some threads that

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<v Speaker 1>of connection that are obvious. And I think that if people,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, don't see them, then maybe they're saying what

0:30:35.040 --> 0:30:38.480
<v Speaker 1>they're supposed to be saying, and maybe that's why.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, a friend of mine told me a story. He's

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<v Speaker 3>a professor and I won't use the names or whatever,

0:30:44.200 --> 0:30:49.400
<v Speaker 3>but told me a story about a graduate student of

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<v Speaker 3>his from Belarus. And for people who have not followed it,

0:30:52.800 --> 0:30:56.120
<v Speaker 3>there were huge uprisings in Belarus and twenty twenty and

0:30:56.520 --> 0:31:01.880
<v Speaker 3>after basically a very obviously faked election, and it's known

0:31:01.960 --> 0:31:05.160
<v Speaker 3>Lukashenko there is known as eelast dictator in Europe obviously

0:31:05.200 --> 0:31:09.080
<v Speaker 3>like stealing everybody all the money, like blind stealing from

0:31:09.480 --> 0:31:12.600
<v Speaker 3>his people. And in any case, there were a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of protests there and unrest. And the Spelarusian student was

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<v Speaker 3>talking to her professor and she said, you know, when

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<v Speaker 3>I first came to America, I had the idea that

0:31:22.400 --> 0:31:24.720
<v Speaker 3>it was like a free country, you know, And I

0:31:24.760 --> 0:31:26.680
<v Speaker 3>was amazed by this fact and I thought, it's, oh,

0:31:26.760 --> 0:31:29.600
<v Speaker 3>it's how incredible, Like everyone can say whatever they think

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<v Speaker 3>about politics without this kind of fear. And then she

0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:36.960
<v Speaker 3>literally physically leaned forward, looked behind her and said, I've

0:31:37.040 --> 0:31:40.479
<v Speaker 3>learned you just have different trip wires, Like there are

0:31:40.640 --> 0:31:43.959
<v Speaker 3>different things you're not supposed to say here, and like

0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:47.080
<v Speaker 3>the physical act of like leaning forward and checking behind

0:31:47.120 --> 0:31:49.600
<v Speaker 3>you before you say what you're going to say, Like

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<v Speaker 3>this itself is so emblematic to me of how we've

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<v Speaker 3>lost the freedom that America is known for or was

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<v Speaker 3>known for around the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I fully agree with you, And look, I do

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<v Speaker 1>it myself. I could think of times in the past

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<v Speaker 1>where I looked around before I said something in a restaurant,

0:32:05.840 --> 0:32:07.800
<v Speaker 1>and you know, I had to be careful about who

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<v Speaker 1>could hear what or not to have an altercation or something.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's sad, and I hope we are climbing out

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<v Speaker 1>of it because I do feel like wokeness and this

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<v Speaker 1>whole you know, insane culture is coming to an end

0:32:21.680 --> 0:32:25.000
<v Speaker 1>because it just can't last. You know, eventually you run

0:32:25.000 --> 0:32:28.280
<v Speaker 1>out of victims because it's a circular firing squad and

0:32:28.320 --> 0:32:33.160
<v Speaker 1>everybody's getting hit. What would you say is our largest

0:32:33.200 --> 0:32:36.680
<v Speaker 1>cultural or societal problem and do you think that it's solvable.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the largest problem is probably a loneliness. I

0:32:43.400 --> 0:32:46.440
<v Speaker 3>think it's a small, ill liberal problem. Some people would

0:32:46.480 --> 0:32:53.240
<v Speaker 3>call it atomization. I think we're discovering that the unchosen relationships,

0:32:54.400 --> 0:32:56.360
<v Speaker 3>the things that are not entered into as a matter

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<v Speaker 3>of contract and benefit and detriment, are very, very very

0:33:00.320 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 3>difficult to maintain in a civilization as prosperous as ours.

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<v Speaker 3>And you see it a lot in the sex wars

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<v Speaker 3>right where if you look at in almost every country,

0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:15.000
<v Speaker 3>you have single women politically pulling way, way, way away

0:33:15.080 --> 0:33:18.040
<v Speaker 3>from single men. All these single women are left leaning,

0:33:18.120 --> 0:33:20.720
<v Speaker 3>the men are actually they're leaning right and turning a

0:33:20.760 --> 0:33:24.200
<v Speaker 3>little more right, but like it's not a comparable turn.

0:33:24.280 --> 0:33:26.080
<v Speaker 3>But if you look at the numbers and a long

0:33:26.200 --> 0:33:29.120
<v Speaker 3>term look at the numbers in the United States of

0:33:29.160 --> 0:33:33.280
<v Speaker 3>women voting Republican, married women vote Republican married men vote Republican.

0:33:33.720 --> 0:33:39.160
<v Speaker 3>Single men vote, Republican single women vote, you know, buy

0:33:40.160 --> 0:33:43.840
<v Speaker 3>a margin or thirty or more points vote Democrat. I

0:33:43.840 --> 0:33:49.320
<v Speaker 3>think those politics are a reflection of not and even

0:33:49.320 --> 0:33:51.240
<v Speaker 3>the extremes of the sex war on the right and

0:33:51.280 --> 0:33:54.160
<v Speaker 3>the left. Now where you see like the manosphere, which

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<v Speaker 3>I think originally had a lot of good points and

0:33:56.280 --> 0:33:59.560
<v Speaker 3>I consider myself sort of adjacent to it, now it

0:33:59.600 --> 0:34:01.960
<v Speaker 3>really does seems sort of at least some portion of it.

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:03.880
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to broaden out. It really does seem

0:34:03.880 --> 0:34:06.440
<v Speaker 3>like hate women for being women, which I find is

0:34:06.600 --> 0:34:11.479
<v Speaker 3>ludicrous as hating men for being men. But I think

0:34:11.600 --> 0:34:14.719
<v Speaker 3>those sexual politics burn real hot because we don't have

0:34:15.960 --> 0:34:19.719
<v Speaker 3>in real life ties. I mean, the average American is

0:34:19.760 --> 0:34:22.920
<v Speaker 3>now born into a family that's either never you know,

0:34:22.960 --> 0:34:25.040
<v Speaker 3>their parents either never married or to their parents are

0:34:25.040 --> 0:34:30.040
<v Speaker 3>divorced before they're eighteen. Right, we have fewer siblings on average,

0:34:30.160 --> 0:34:35.200
<v Speaker 3>smaller family size, all of those things, I think, And

0:34:35.280 --> 0:34:37.440
<v Speaker 3>then you enter the dating market, and there's just an

0:34:37.560 --> 0:34:42.399
<v Speaker 3>endless number of hours of podcasting tape quote unquote on

0:34:43.160 --> 0:34:47.839
<v Speaker 3>the just general screwed uppitness of the dating scene. Right,

0:34:47.960 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 3>So it's very easy in our society now to never

0:34:52.239 --> 0:34:55.760
<v Speaker 3>to go. Oh. And the final point, friendship is totally collapsed.

0:34:56.320 --> 0:34:58.920
<v Speaker 3>Right if you look even since the nineties, the percentage

0:34:58.960 --> 0:35:01.080
<v Speaker 3>of people who say they have say more than five

0:35:01.400 --> 0:35:05.440
<v Speaker 3>friends completely collapsing in the toilet. So it's very possible

0:35:06.360 --> 0:35:09.799
<v Speaker 3>that you can now it's very common to grow up

0:35:10.080 --> 0:35:13.960
<v Speaker 3>in a broken home without any you know, close relationships

0:35:14.000 --> 0:35:18.160
<v Speaker 3>with siblings of the opposite sex, without a good relationship

0:35:18.200 --> 0:35:22.720
<v Speaker 3>with your parent of the opposite sex, and then without

0:35:22.760 --> 0:35:25.560
<v Speaker 3>any real good friends of the opposite sex, and then

0:35:26.120 --> 0:35:29.840
<v Speaker 3>your only interaction with the opposite sex is like messages

0:35:30.040 --> 0:35:32.880
<v Speaker 3>on dating apps, right, And I can see why that

0:35:32.920 --> 0:35:36.920
<v Speaker 3>would make somebody form a very negative opinion that the

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<v Speaker 3>opposite sex.

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<v Speaker 1>Great point.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so yeah, I mean, I think it's it's not

0:35:42.480 --> 0:35:47.520
<v Speaker 3>just about sexual relationships, but about friendship, about family relationships,

0:35:47.520 --> 0:35:50.319
<v Speaker 3>we just have fewer of those thick ties. And and

0:35:50.400 --> 0:35:56.440
<v Speaker 3>the problem with liberalism and prosperity large which I'm I'm

0:35:56.440 --> 0:36:00.520
<v Speaker 3>a fan of both to some degree, right, is that

0:36:00.600 --> 0:36:02.839
<v Speaker 3>the short term preference of people, you know, having those

0:36:02.920 --> 0:36:05.879
<v Speaker 3>kinds of thick community ties. And I think your own,

0:36:05.960 --> 0:36:09.160
<v Speaker 3>like very public, beautiful writings about your relationship with Judaism

0:36:09.840 --> 0:36:13.239
<v Speaker 3>and the Jewish community demonstrate this very well. Those thick

0:36:13.320 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 3>ties are not easy or pleasant a lot of the time, right,

0:36:17.760 --> 0:36:22.000
<v Speaker 3>Like there's a lot of conflict in small towns between

0:36:22.080 --> 0:36:25.640
<v Speaker 3>church ladies and right, those things are not necessarily pleasant.

0:36:25.680 --> 0:36:29.840
<v Speaker 3>Family relationships are not always pleasant, They're in difficult, and

0:36:29.920 --> 0:36:33.720
<v Speaker 3>so the short term interest of a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>is to basically say, well, I'm going to do me right,

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:38.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to do me and I'm not going to

0:36:39.000 --> 0:36:43.680
<v Speaker 3>be constricted by those relationships, those deeper, unchosen relationships, because

0:36:44.120 --> 0:36:47.160
<v Speaker 3>any serious relationship constricts what you can do obviously like marriage,

0:36:47.840 --> 0:36:51.320
<v Speaker 3>what you can do sexually, right, But any deep relationship

0:36:51.360 --> 0:36:54.160
<v Speaker 3>is exclusionary by nature. It means that two people are

0:36:54.160 --> 0:36:56.040
<v Speaker 3>going to have to make room for each other in

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<v Speaker 3>what they want to do and what they want to

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<v Speaker 3>say and what they want to you know, there's a

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<v Speaker 3>negociation there. That negotiation is not always pleasant, especially short term,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think what we're seeing is the short term

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<v Speaker 3>incentive is to dump those relationships, and in the long

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<v Speaker 3>term that's killing us.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you think that's solvable.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I don't know if we'll be able

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<v Speaker 3>to come up with something to replace the fear of destitution,

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<v Speaker 3>right because you didn't keep with your family because it

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<v Speaker 3>was always pleasant. You kept with your family because you

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<v Speaker 3>might be out on the street and starving, right, And

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<v Speaker 3>that's all you know, same reason that divorce was much lower.

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<v Speaker 3>It's yes, it's social convention, but that social convention also

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<v Speaker 3>comes from, you know, the very real fear of losing

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<v Speaker 3>your children, of being cast out. I don't know, Like

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to return to a uh to destitution

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<v Speaker 3>that's not that's not solution. So I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>we'll be able to come up with something that. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe we are smart enough as a species to start

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<v Speaker 3>considering these long term interests, but maybe not. But I

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<v Speaker 3>will say that the direction we're currently going forget about

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<v Speaker 3>politics on this question. The direction we're curling going is

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<v Speaker 3>all downhill. The therapeutic language of how to speak to

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<v Speaker 3>people is actually deeply horrifying to me in a pre

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<v Speaker 3>political way. It bothers me if it places distance, all

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<v Speaker 3>the time, distance between people to talk to them in

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<v Speaker 3>this like, well, you're intruding on my boundaries. So that's

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<v Speaker 3>what friendship is. You know, if you have everybody outside

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<v Speaker 3>your boundaries, you have no friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, that's absolutely right. I'm reading Abigail Schreyer's Bad Therapy

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<v Speaker 1>right now.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't wait to cry that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it's amazing. It's so good. I can't put it down.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really a great book. It's coming out soon and

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<v Speaker 1>Bad Therapy by Abigail Schreier highly highly recommend it. So

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<v Speaker 1>I love talking to you. This has been awesome. And

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<v Speaker 1>here with your best tip for my listeners on how

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<v Speaker 1>they can improve their lives.

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<v Speaker 3>Through dinner parties. Talk to people in real life. I

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<v Speaker 3>think that parties might save us.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's probably true. All right, throw parties.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much, Anez, thank you for coming on,

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<v Speaker 1>love talking to you.

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks so much, Carol, it's been great.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks so much for joining us on the Carol Marcowitch Show.

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