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Speaker 1: We call them blogs. Paulina go yes, thank you so much,

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Speaker 1: dear blog.

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Speaker 3: So today a lot of ladies here at the Old

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Speaker 3: I Hurt Chicago. We are going to a event for

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Speaker 3: the YEWCA located here in Chicago.

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Speaker 1: They're a great organization. To look them up.

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Speaker 3: They have a leader luncheon happening every year and we

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Speaker 3: were all there inspired to attend. You know, it's a

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Speaker 3: great bonding experience which also like to you know, support

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Speaker 3: a really great cause. So one thing about me is

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Speaker 3: if I forget, which is very often that something is

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Speaker 3: happening at a certain time.

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Speaker 1: I will then make sure that I figure it out

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Speaker 1: because I always figure it out.

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Speaker 3: But I figured it out in the most Paulina way ever,

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Speaker 3: and that is that I don't have an outfit.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So Kaylin texted me this morning and she was like, hey,

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Speaker 3: don't forget, but we have our luncheon today. And I

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Speaker 3: responded and I wrote, oh no, and I wrote I

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Speaker 3: completely forgot. And that's not great either, because like now

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Speaker 3: I have to figure out child's care and it's during

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Speaker 3: her naptimes, the whole thing. I could probably figure it

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Speaker 3: out because I always do, but it's one of those moments.

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Speaker 3: And then I was like, well, I'm already in sweatpants

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Speaker 3: and like a Don Julio shirt, like I'm not owing

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Speaker 3: in this right and running shoes. I'm like, I'm not

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Speaker 3: going to a luncheon in this. So I told Kaylin.

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Speaker 3: I was like, what I could do is, and I've

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Speaker 3: done this before, is I can order my outfit from Target,

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Speaker 3: which Tucket's got great closes.

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Speaker 2: I don't have it like DoorDash here or something or Target.

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Speaker 2: You know Circle ones art.

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Speaker 1: Circle thirty five dollars a year and.

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Speaker 4: They Target delivers I didn't know that you have your

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Speaker 4: member of their cool thing.

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Speaker 1: I think you can pay for it too, but I

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Speaker 1: do pay for it.

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Speaker 2: I did this recently. Was something I had to have,

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Speaker 2: but yeah, oh I joined circle. I need to cancel

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Speaker 2: it now because I don't don't. I don't need to

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Speaker 2: pay ten bucks a month for something else I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: forget about.

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Speaker 3: I feel like mine was free when the second year

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Speaker 3: or something, because they're like, you want to renew this

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Speaker 3: for free?

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Speaker 1: And I said absolutely.

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Speaker 2: What I was more curious about, honest genuinely, is you

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Speaker 2: were saying that you didn't have a babysitter for Gigi

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Speaker 2: because your daughter, because you didn't remember this event, and

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Speaker 2: you were saying, can I just bring the daughter? And

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Speaker 2: I wonder I realized it's an all female event, and

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Speaker 2: I realized that you know, there are a lot of

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Speaker 2: mothers in there, and but like, can you just can

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Speaker 2: you just bring your kid to anything and not be judged?

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Speaker 2: That's a question, And even like, does do you have

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Speaker 2: a right to judge someone for bringing their kid to

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Speaker 2: just anything? Because you got to figure there are other

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Speaker 2: mothers in there too that had to figure it out

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Speaker 2: and aren't bringing their kids. So well, I genuinely wonder like, yeah, no,

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Speaker 2: same here. Can you just bring your kid to anything?

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Speaker 2: And then you just say, well, sorry, I didn't have childcare,

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Speaker 2: and and and if people or to look at you

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Speaker 2: a certain kind of way, would they be justified? Because

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Speaker 2: are there times where the kids are appropriate and are

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Speaker 2: there times where kids you're not. I'm not a mom,

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Speaker 2: I don't have kids, so I don't really think it's

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Speaker 2: appropriate for me to weigh in on this, but I

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Speaker 2: do wonder, like, can you just bring your kid to

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Speaker 3: I think about that often because I am a mom

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Speaker 3: of a eighteen month old, So we're in a stage

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Speaker 3: stays near me and I can control her in that way.

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Speaker 3: But like, I feel like this is an empowering event,

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Speaker 3: So you know what's more empowering than a working mother? However,

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Speaker 3: I think it's about reading the room. So like, if

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Speaker 3: this is something that like, Okay, we're looking around the room.

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Speaker 3: It's it's I'm not feeling this out. You know, there's

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Speaker 3: too much going on, babies overstimulating me, she's crying whatever.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe then we go home.

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Speaker 3: We're like, I can still show up with her, I think,

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Speaker 3: to show support of being like I still came, even

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Speaker 3: though I didn't have child's care, I still came brought

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Speaker 3: my baby.

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Speaker 1: But we're not going to be disruptive.

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Speaker 3: If gjus have a meltdown or Gee's doing this or whatever,

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Speaker 3: we will leave. But if she falls asleep in the stroller,

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Speaker 3: which she will because it'll be about it'll be nap time,

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Speaker 3: then maybe it won't even be no one will even

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Speaker 3: bet an eye because she won't.

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Speaker 1: You won't even hear her or see her.

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Speaker 3: However, I don't want to be the odd girl out

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Speaker 3: with the stroller. And everyone else is there in their

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Speaker 3: cocktail dresses, you know or whatever. You know what I mean,

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Speaker 3: They're like, you know, they're cute outfits, and everyone's being

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Speaker 3: really serious and this is like an event, you know,

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Speaker 3: for women to really help them get into better places

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Speaker 3: in their lives. And then you know, we have like

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Speaker 3: a crying eighteen month old next to me. I just

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Speaker 3: don't want to be that person. But I feel like

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Speaker 3: as a mother, like would you really judge another mom

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Speaker 3: who still came out even though she didn't have childcares,

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Speaker 3: she didn't have anybody to watch her kids.

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Speaker 4: It's probably the best place that you could do that

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Speaker 4: because it's a room full of women, and I feel

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Speaker 4: like the majority will be not all women, but will

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Speaker 4: get it. Yeah, I don't want them generalize, but I'm

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Speaker 4: not the one to ask because I think people's dogs

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Speaker 4: and babies should be brought everywhere and put on my lap.

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Speaker 1: I love you for that so that I can sniff

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Speaker 1: them and hold them. Yeah, and I'm talking about sniffing

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Speaker 1: the baby and holding the dog.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'm curious and other like moms, weerever in the situation

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Speaker 3: or what they would do, because I feel like it's

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Speaker 3: not uncommon. But I also don't want to be like

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Speaker 3: her baby, like I got a sitter.

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Speaker 1: I didn't you know, I didn't bring my kid. I

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Speaker 1: planned ahead.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because that's kind of what I wonder is like

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Speaker 2: would there be if it were like a I've heard

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Speaker 2: stories about a job interview or something where the sitter

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Speaker 2: I need this job, and so the baby's here, and

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Speaker 2: then you hear cute stories about how other people at

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Speaker 2: the business will like, you know, take care of the

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Speaker 2: baby for the interview. But like if you forgot, if

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Speaker 2: you just weren't organized, can you just bring your kid anywhere?

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Speaker 2: And then if you were judged, would that be unfair

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Speaker 2: for other people to say like, well, this isn't the

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Speaker 2: venue for that, and like everybody else here had to

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Speaker 2: figure it out.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know the answer, but like here, if somebody

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Speaker 2: were to judge you for that, would they be justified?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Because if if I'm the planner behind this event, right,

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Speaker 3: and I'm the one putting in the work, the effort,

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Speaker 3: the funds and everything to make this happen and bring

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Speaker 3: all these people together, and then there's one girl didn't

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Speaker 3: listen and had to bring her crying baby, Like I

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Speaker 3: as a mother too, I don't know how I would

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Speaker 3: feel about that.

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Speaker 1: I put so much into this event.

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Speaker 3: It's once a year, it's an hour and a half,

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Speaker 3: you know, like plan accordingly is what I would think

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Speaker 3: to tell people.

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Speaker 1: But it's also mean I don't plan accordingly.

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Speaker 2: You like, I don't know if I'm having a wedding

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Speaker 2: and it's for example, and this is you're right, this

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Speaker 2: is a different event. It's a female empowerment event. But

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Speaker 2: if I have a wedding and and you just forgot

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Speaker 2: to get a baby's heeter so you show up with

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Speaker 2: I'd be annoyed. I would be and I love you,

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Speaker 2: but I'd be like, but I mean, can you just

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Speaker 2: do that any time? I wonder can you just be off? Whoops?

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Speaker 2: And then you show up with your kid? Like I

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Speaker 2: think the answer is probably know, But you know, what

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Speaker 2: do I know? Pee? You gotta everything here has got

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Speaker 2: a calendar invite, Pee, you got to read them. There's

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Speaker 2: a calendar invite for like Cam, I was about to

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Speaker 2: go to the bathroom. There's a calendar invite. I was invited.

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Speaker 2: I declined, but it's there. It's there. You know. You

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Speaker 2: got to read the calendar. I phone more Fred show

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Speaker 2: next right here,