Speaker 1: It's time for the Bobby Bones post show. Here's your host,
Speaker 1: Bobby Bones Morgan. Do you want to play this Facebook game?
Speaker 1: Have you sent over? Do you have it ready? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: let me get it. I thought we might get to
Speaker 1: it in the show today and we can run at
Speaker 1: a time. But what happened to me? Oh? That was
Speaker 1: on Mike. Yeah, I went, Oh, I had a been
Speaker 1: down to get my blanket. My shoulder back area just
Speaker 1: has killing me today. What happened? Sleep bad? It's a
Speaker 1: good looking No, I just haven't seen I just it's
Speaker 1: an area that brothers me frequently. It's gotten a lot better,
Speaker 1: but I just haven't seen my chiropractor, and I don't know.
Speaker 1: I was hoping someone here could just fix it. You
Speaker 1: can tell pop you back. I don't know, like anybody
Speaker 1: your arms like this, I can pop you are there
Speaker 1: right now? Do you want it? I mean sure, give
Speaker 1: it to her. Well, the problem is I don't want
Speaker 1: to hurt you because I don't think this is very
Speaker 1: like a super healthy thing. Camera. We're on camera. Well
Speaker 1: we'll go to your okay, right there? Okay, So I
Speaker 1: heard her, Yes, I heard the pop. Dang, guys, was
Speaker 1: it good? Amy? I mean it's it's just gonna need
Speaker 1: a little I know, it's it's just something all right, life. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that happened to you. Well, that's okay, thank
Speaker 1: you for the pop. You're welcome, um okay, Morgan right
Speaker 1: for the game. Yes, once again. So this is a
Speaker 1: game that Morgan sent you that was like, Hey, people
Speaker 1: can learn about us by these questions. I didn't read
Speaker 1: all the questions that I just thought it was fun.
Speaker 1: How may do you have? Yes, I have five? Okay,
Speaker 1: go ahead with question number one. What are three names
Speaker 1: you go by? M Well, it is let's take our
Speaker 1: real name out of it, like a Bobby Oh you
Speaker 1: take that out? Yeah, because everybody knows that. So Eddie
Speaker 1: usually only calls me bones. It's a good one. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna say Bobby Bones either, because that's obviouslye bones
Speaker 1: um babe at home. Sometimes I call you that, No,
Speaker 1: you don't. What would the other one? I mean, depending
Speaker 1: on who douchebag Ray calls you? Pimp, Ray does call
Speaker 1: me pimp or like other people in the radio industry
Speaker 1: that don't know me, douchebag. Yeah, that's probably the third
Speaker 1: amy your names? Oh, I would say if I can't say, Amy,
Speaker 1: it'd be like aims AMers or mom. Mom's a good one, Eddie, Yeah, daddy, Uh,
Speaker 1: my wife calls me boots. We call each other boots,
Speaker 1: and then my mom calls me Wowoa Is that Spanish
Speaker 1: for something? I don't know. Maybe because my name is Eduardo,
Speaker 1: maybe it's yeah, yeah, lunchbox, I get that ass stud
Speaker 1: and Um, I can't say the other one is because
Speaker 1: why what could you possibly be called that you can't say?
Speaker 1: Right now, let's rhyme with what big daddy? Okay, well,
Speaker 1: what's the next one? You're nut? What are three places
Speaker 1: that you've lived? Yeah, let me be specific here. I
Speaker 1: Little Rock, Arkansas, Austin, Texas, Nashville, Tennessee. Obviously take him
Speaker 1: a hometown out of that mountain pine, Arkansas, Amy, Austin, Texas,
Speaker 1: Southern Pines, North Carolina, Nashville, Tennessee. Yeah, Eddie McCallan, Texas, Austin, Texas, Nashville, Tennessee, Austin, Texas,
Speaker 1: San Antonio, Texas, Nashville, Tennessee. Sounding football players. I mean,
Speaker 1: we're a very Austin based yea. Yeah, that's where we
Speaker 1: all met and came from. So okay, if he did
Speaker 1: not know that, Morgan. What else Three things you'd love
Speaker 1: to watch on TV? Well, I've been trying to watch
Speaker 1: the John Cena HBO superhero show what's it called The Peacemaker?
Speaker 1: But Kyl and I will spend our hour. We kind
Speaker 1: of dedicate an hour to watching something a couple of
Speaker 1: times a week, and she just is not interested, so
Speaker 1: I don't ever bring it up. We watched something we
Speaker 1: both agree on, although she got a little board lesson
Speaker 1: that with the dropout and she almost wanted to give
Speaker 1: up on it. Oh no, I'm stilling into it. She
Speaker 1: just changed her voice. It's good she's in the closet,
Speaker 1: so that the Peacemaker. I m shows that I am
Speaker 1: not watching her. That don't just that you'd love to
Speaker 1: watch on TV. They could even be repeat shows or
Speaker 1: a movie. What's always good to you? Like The Office?
Speaker 1: I would love to watch all the episodes of the
Speaker 1: Winning Time in the Lakers. That's my favorite shower now,
Speaker 1: but they're not all I know. That's my favorite show
Speaker 1: right now. So that one if we're just picking shows,
Speaker 1: and then you can do sports too, right, like you
Speaker 1: love watching sports on TV? Yeah, but that's not a show. No,
Speaker 1: it's just anything on TV. Yeah, I think sports counts
Speaker 1: because you like to watch it on TV. You say,
Speaker 1: show anything you'd love to watch on TV? Okay, well
Speaker 1: I would watch all you go? I would. I mean
Speaker 1: Friends is always good, any Real Housewives and then true
Speaker 1: crime stuff, Eddie. I love watching golf on TV, black
Speaker 1: and white movies, and I love rom coms, lunchbox sports,
Speaker 1: reality TV like Survivor, The Challenge, anything on MTV. Well,
Speaker 1: you said, you know my nickname, don't you your rhyms
Speaker 1: with Big Daddy? But nothing hyms nothing. He's like, I
Speaker 1: can't say. He's like, I can't think of anything. Go
Speaker 1: what did I say? Are? I said? Reality TV? Sports?
Speaker 1: And I mean I'll just watch comedy. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't really have anything. I'm watching right now. I'm
Speaker 1: watching thirty Rock. I thought i'd get specific. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: that's why everybody started going TV guys. Okay, go ahead,
Speaker 1: one more. Three places you you visited before? Just how
Speaker 1: about three places I loved visiting? How about that I'm
Speaker 1: good or I found it interesting. Was in Costa Rica
Speaker 1: for over a month, and the situation was difficult at
Speaker 1: times because I was working, but I really liked being
Speaker 1: down there and learning about that culture. They don't have
Speaker 1: an army, they don't have an army, they have no military. Wow,
Speaker 1: peaceful country. Um, so that was pretty cool. I really
Speaker 1: like Boston when it's not winter. Love Boston, loves of
Speaker 1: people of the city. And then another place I visited
Speaker 1: it I would like to share. It's tough. Been a
Speaker 1: lot of places I know, but like someone I was like,
Speaker 1: you gotta go. Um, what about your honeymoon? Yeah, you
Speaker 1: went to Greece is good. Yeah, I'm just not a
Speaker 1: big If you could go with Caitlin, I would recommend
Speaker 1: you go anywhere, but I'm not a big beach guy.
Speaker 1: Japan are Um, I'm just gonna go with where are
Speaker 1: people like to go that I went, Um, Augusta National
Speaker 1: Course and I've been that's pretty cool. The Masters and
Speaker 1: was awesome, cannot wait, can't can't have a phone in there,
Speaker 1: you can't have it up no phones, so pretty cool.
Speaker 1: And the hot dogs like a dollar. Yeah, everything's old school.
Speaker 1: So those three everyone lot of my answers to be powerful.
Speaker 1: I think I did it amy So I always always
Speaker 1: love going to New York. So that's top of my list,
Speaker 1: and that's easy to get to. Other places that are
Speaker 1: a little bit different. Zowatanejo, Mexico. Oh wow, which is
Speaker 1: the beach at the end of Shawshank Redemption. Yeah yeah, um,
Speaker 1: it's very beautiful. And then Liverpool, England. I went to
Speaker 1: the place where the Beatles first played. Um, I mean
Speaker 1: first played a hole in the wallet played. I don't know,
Speaker 1: because their Liverpool is where my friend was actually going
Speaker 1: to Paul McCartney's School of Performing Arts for college. So
Speaker 1: I went over there for that and we went all
Speaker 1: around Liverpool, like to check out different historical things with
Speaker 1: the Beatles, the Cavern club Cavern. That's yeah, good memory. Oh, Eddie.
Speaker 1: I love Hawaii, I love Puerto Rico, and I love Deston, Florida. Okay,
Speaker 1: those are my three places. It's easy. Las Vegas amazing, great,
Speaker 1: go all the time. San Francisco was really cool. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I will say now that Eddie said Puerto Rico,
Speaker 1: I will say Puerto Rico also because I did love
Speaker 1: Puerto Rico. Puerto Rico. I don't really go many places,
Speaker 1: so those are the places I've been. I'm in I
Speaker 1: think two weeks or so. Our show we heard in
Speaker 1: San Francisco, San Jose, San Francisco the whole Bay area.
Speaker 1: That's so cool. Um yeah, I got a message like, hey, Alcatraz,
Speaker 1: I don't know if there's no one in there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's work in Scubas Pump because you have munch family
Speaker 1: over there. High School Bay. Oh yeah, I lived there
Speaker 1: for a while. My wife's family lives in San Francisco,
Speaker 1: the East Bay. All that. Is that good for you
Speaker 1: or bad for you? Um? Well, it's it's a combination
Speaker 1: of both. Because when I used to live there on
Speaker 1: the radio, Oh, I would always get texts about things
Speaker 1: we were talking about, and I did get in trouble
Speaker 1: a lot. So we've had to come up with some
Speaker 1: ways to not do that anymore. Ground rules, yeah, ground rules. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: but what are the rules? I would say though, now,
Speaker 1: even two years separated, if someone wants to hear our show,
Speaker 1: it's so easy to listen to it online. You know.
Speaker 1: I would just think if your family wanted to hear
Speaker 1: the show, they just hit a button on the phone.
Speaker 1: But they're more old school. They're old Filipino ladies and
Speaker 1: they don't hit the button on any phone. They're listening
Speaker 1: to the radio only well, they through the channels and
Speaker 1: find you. Yeah, I told them the frequencies so they'll
Speaker 1: be able to listen to us because it so we're
Speaker 1: broadcasting out a San Jose and then there's a pickup
Speaker 1: in the East Bay, so that it expands our our
Speaker 1: reach from pretty much all of the Bay area, South
Speaker 1: Bay and North Bay, East Bay. Yeah, it's a. It's a.
Speaker 1: It's pretty cool. So Scuba gets to go home everyone.
Speaker 1: I first got put on a little rock. I went
Speaker 1: as King of the Hill. It was awesome. I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't believe people at home get to actually hear
Speaker 1: hear the show. Yeah, that's pretty cool, pretty cool. It's
Speaker 1: pretty cool for the show. Definitely. Um, and we're we're
Speaker 1: all thankful to Alpha Media for picking up our show
Speaker 1: and you know, putting us on and you know, being
Speaker 1: a really cool partner. So there you go, Bobby. Do
Speaker 1: you ever get tattled on like people in Oklahoma listen
Speaker 1: and text Kaitlin? No listeners do, okay, and they don't
Speaker 1: even tell his stories that are true, and it pisses
Speaker 1: me off. Oh way to bring that up because they'll
Speaker 1: be like, I'm sorry, did you know he did this?
Speaker 1: Or did you know four years ago before you met
Speaker 1: him he did And I'm like get shut up. There's
Speaker 1: no need for you to message my wife about something
Speaker 1: that I said four years ago that doesn't affect anything
Speaker 1: except it's just gonna be something. She's like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: got this message, did you say? And I'm just like,
Speaker 1: shut up, there's no need to do that. Yeah. That's
Speaker 1: why she's even on Instagram for most of the time.
Speaker 1: That's why her comments are off because people just jerks.
Speaker 1: So anyway, um, all right, I'm sorry I brought up
Speaker 1: a bit about that. No, I just well, school was
Speaker 1: talking about getting tatled on, so I mean I thought
Speaker 1: it was a good relatable subject to Bobby, and it is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the fear of being without your phone makes you a
Speaker 1: more dangerous driver. People with severe nomophobia are eighty five
Speaker 1: percent more likely to pick up their devices while behind
Speaker 1: the wheel. If I drive in Kaitlin's with me, would
Speaker 1: just a decent amount of time. I just give her
Speaker 1: my phone because I try not to be on my
Speaker 1: phone when I text or when I drive, and so
Speaker 1: I just give it to her so I know there's
Speaker 1: no option or me to grab it. But while she
Speaker 1: has it in my head, I start to romanticize all
Speaker 1: the cool things happening on my phone right then, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'll betch I'm getting some good text right now. I'll
Speaker 1: bet you on Twitter right now there's some good amphobia
Speaker 1: breaking that I can't even be a part of the car.
Speaker 1: It's just there. And then I pick it up after
Speaker 1: like a twenty five minute ride. Don't get one freaking text.
Speaker 1: Twitter sucks, but it the whole time, I'm imagining all
Speaker 1: the amazing things that are happening on my phone right now.
Speaker 1: Probably got some awesome dms and sure so, but do
Speaker 1: you ever look around when you're driving and just see
Speaker 1: everybody on their phone? Yeah, like, I mean you look,
Speaker 1: It's amazing how many people are on their phone. And
Speaker 1: sometimes if somebody like swerves a little bit, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't think they're drunk anymore. You just think it on
Speaker 1: their phone. Correct. The only time that I will grab
Speaker 1: my phone, and I don't don't do my kalns in
Speaker 1: the car. But I told you, at a red light,
Speaker 1: i'll grab my phone if I try my but I
Speaker 1: tell you this, I don't. I don't even do that
Speaker 1: anymore hardly, only because I try my notications off so
Speaker 1: I don't hear the boom. So but if I do
Speaker 1: some times if I'm sitting there and I'm like looking
Speaker 1: real quick, I'll get a honk and I oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I'll put it back down in the drive so I
Speaker 1: will look out a little bit when I'm stopped, but
Speaker 1: I get that hank. The other thing that is scary
Speaker 1: when you drive if you're not fully paying attention and
Speaker 1: that car to the left of you is in that
Speaker 1: turn lane and it gets a green arrow to go,
Speaker 1: and you think that's everybody's going because you're like, oh god,
Speaker 1: And because you're not fully paying attention, that'll get you too. Uh.
Speaker 1: Let's see. I have a game, one more game we
Speaker 1: can play. It's the game is called its Framy Alive.
Speaker 1: We're not Alive. And I thought we we were gonna
Speaker 1: play this on the air. It seemed a little too
Speaker 1: morbid for that crew. We have the people that listen
Speaker 1: Live and only Alive. They're a surface. You know, they're
Speaker 1: not in they're not is into the cold as we are,
Speaker 1: and as you guys are that listen to this. You
Speaker 1: know we're at this point. You're listening to us. You're
Speaker 1: watching a Facebook you listen to the podcast like we're
Speaker 1: the deep Down team. We got you, you got us
Speaker 1: this game is not for the people that listen live
Speaker 1: at six twenty two in the morning. You know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: Amy alive or not alive? Hank Williams Junior alive? You
Speaker 1: have a clip ran that. Wow, I'm glad we didn't
Speaker 1: do this on the air. Okay. Look Hank Williams Junior,
Speaker 1: seventy two years old and I said that. Yeah, Brenda Lee,
Speaker 1: who has this song right here fucking around Christmas Tree.
Speaker 1: As you think Brenda Lee has passed aways, deceased, Brenda
Speaker 1: Lee is alive. I think she lives here probably listening, listening.
Speaker 1: She loves near me. We see her sometimes. Yeah, seventy seven.
Speaker 1: I saw her a fundraiser. Pretty amazing. She was like,
Speaker 1: tell Amy, I'm still kicking. I forgot to tell you.
Speaker 1: You got that right. Kirk Douglas, Captain Kirk, Oh, my capy,
Speaker 1: Kirk's fictional. Okay, so he'll always be alive, that's true,
Speaker 1: Kirk Douglas. Uh, rest in peace, Kirk. Do you know
Speaker 1: who he is? No, he is Michael Douglas's dad. Looks
Speaker 1: just like him. He died. He died a one hundred
Speaker 1: and three years old and twenty twenty. Wow. John Connery,
Speaker 1: Oh he died, Yeah, not alive Sean Connery. Why do
Speaker 1: we say not alive? Lived until? Is it less harsh
Speaker 1: than dead? That's written here? Not alive? John Connery's dead
Speaker 1: is reading our because the game is called alive or
Speaker 1: not alive? Wow? Yeah, I just thought alive or dead.
Speaker 1: I guess you would say dead or alive. They were
Speaker 1: gonna use those two, like bon Jovi wanted dead or alive,
Speaker 1: like the Old Posters. Dick Van Dyke m rest in
Speaker 1: Peace ninety six years old and alive alive has a
Speaker 1: wife that's like forty five or fifteen. No way good
Speaker 1: for him. I saw him in Disneyland one time, like
Speaker 1: when I was in high school. Larry King alive, not alive?
Speaker 1: Oh when did he die? Last year? At A seven? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: I remember Bob Barker. Oh m hmm, gosh. I know
Speaker 1: he's retired but he died. But did he retire of life?
Speaker 1: He's alive. He's ninety eight. Oh, emmy, you're just killing people.
Speaker 1: Little Richard. And here's a clip of one of a
Speaker 1: Little Richard's hits. Wab bab bloom mom, lamp bump bump bo.
Speaker 1: He's alive, not alive eighty seven years old. Twenty twenty
Speaker 1: dang COVID President Jimmy Carter um hold on Obama, Bush, Biden.
Speaker 1: Jimmy Carter is one of the four presidents that are
Speaker 1: currently alive ninety seven years old and alive. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you. There you go. All right, let's see there's
Speaker 1: a game. That's why we didn't play it on the air.
Speaker 1: We tried, but and then you start to feel sad,
Speaker 1: and then then you're like you start to question your
Speaker 1: own mortality. Am I alive? I'm talking about this input
Speaker 1: last night. I'm already halfway. The average life's expectancy is
Speaker 1: seventy eight and a half and I just turned forty one.
Speaker 1: Like we're already halfway through our lives. Yeah, like a
Speaker 1: long time. You know, everyone always says like life is short,
Speaker 1: and I was always like, oh okay, wee will just
Speaker 1: say that. I'm with you, Amy. I've just finally like
Speaker 1: thought it, like, wow, it's where our time is running out?
Speaker 1: Do you not remember this whole situation I walked you
Speaker 1: guys through weeks ago. Yeah, when we're gonna go back
Speaker 1: down this path, but refresh my memory. If you a
Speaker 1: tortoise who's been around here for centuries. It's the big
Speaker 1: old turtle. Yeah, they live for hundreds of years. They
Speaker 1: would look at us and go, that's a short life
Speaker 1: that humans live. We look at a fruit fly, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: and we go a fruit fly list for a day, like,
Speaker 1: that's a short skip it, we got it, we got it.
Speaker 1: Hey man, it's all back and a fruit fly who
Speaker 1: lives a day. Yeah, that is the total length of
Speaker 1: their lives. So they feel like that's long, know, but
Speaker 1: they're not right, nor are we tortoises right right? So
Speaker 1: what's my point is that life is both long and
Speaker 1: short depending on the perspective. I know, let's now I'm
Speaker 1: starting to be shorter to you because you're getting near
Speaker 1: the end of it our life expectancy. No, I'm live forever,
Speaker 1: but you're not. You ever see Peter Band, You're not him.
Speaker 1: So my point is, and I'll say it again, that
Speaker 1: life is not short or long. Life is just from
Speaker 1: the perspective of things that live longer and shorter than you.
Speaker 1: But also then there's the perspective, which is what I
Speaker 1: was bringing up in therapy, was that like are we
Speaker 1: like are you living like you might be alive? Because
Speaker 1: like my pastor recently shared a quote from Mark Twain,
Speaker 1: which is most men die at twenty seven, we bury
Speaker 1: them at seventy two. So like, some people are die,
Speaker 1: like literally dying, but like you're not living this full
Speaker 1: life and you just kind of like shut down because
Speaker 1: of certain things and you're not living to your full potential.
Speaker 1: And then you know, all these years go by and
Speaker 1: then you actually are dead. And I've just been thinking
Speaker 1: about that and I'm like, am I living? My response
Speaker 1: would be, You're absolutely living. And I'm gonna tell you why.
Speaker 1: I know, if you go out no, no, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: talking about that. But if you go out every single
Speaker 1: day and go balls to the wall, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: live in my life and be the great that you're
Speaker 1: stretching yourself so thin and you're doing things that normal
Speaker 1: people don't do every day, and that's why norm people
Speaker 1: get to live longer, because they're not jumping out of
Speaker 1: planes every day. You start doing this bull crap. It's like,
Speaker 1: I just want to live. You're probably gonna die. You're
Speaker 1: probably gonna die a lot sooner because of all of
Speaker 1: that extra living. Right, So, in grand total, if you
Speaker 1: live to be seventy five or seventy two or seventy,
Speaker 1: all the little times that you feel really like you've
Speaker 1: really lived, and you, I don't know that I've lived
Speaker 1: because they've been little moments. You had all them together,
Speaker 1: You've probably lived way more than the twenty seven year
Speaker 1: old who had there's a great life who died early.
Speaker 1: So don't look at it like that. Well, I'm no,
Speaker 1: I don't need a Well you heard the question. It
Speaker 1: inspired you. I'm not even pepp talking you. I'm just
Speaker 1: saying you can love to be seventy five and feel
Speaker 1: like am I even living? But yes, you've had brief
Speaker 1: in middle sized moments of living that you're probably happy
Speaker 1: you didn't go balls to the wall. Yeah, I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to go balls to the wall, and I don't
Speaker 1: want to jump out of planes or off cliffs and
Speaker 1: stuff by any means. But it's just like sometimes just
Speaker 1: internally and like making sure that there's there's beauty and
Speaker 1: the small things and like that I can really get
Speaker 1: joy from the small thing. It doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: this biggest extravagant like facing fear and life event. But
Speaker 1: like in the day to day, in the mundane, am
Speaker 1: I taking it in? Am I? Or am I kind
Speaker 1: of sometimes just like dead inside. But I'm also going
Speaker 1: to give you a perspective of I think it's just
Speaker 1: a point in your life when regardless of what you're living,
Speaker 1: if you are taking it all in or you're not,
Speaker 1: you're going to find what you're not doing and start
Speaker 1: to go, I wish I was doing that? Am I
Speaker 1: even living? It doesn't matter if you're take in the
Speaker 1: little things, the big things, whatever you're not, you're going
Speaker 1: to feel like I don't feel like I'm getting my
Speaker 1: full potential. So this is a common thing to people
Speaker 1: who live that life, like should I not live my
Speaker 1: life is crazy? And like settle down and have kids
Speaker 1: and get that part of it, you know, the the mundane,
Speaker 1: Like I'm missing the mundane that everyone has and they
Speaker 1: get to benefit from these long term relationships that every
Speaker 1: day is not fun. There's a bunch of crab you
Speaker 1: get in the minutia of this is the same crab.
Speaker 1: But people who don't go through that want that I know,
Speaker 1: and people who go through that don't want that. Correct.
Speaker 1: So regardless of where you are, when you hit a point,
Speaker 1: you're going to just feel like that anyway. So it's
Speaker 1: knowing that this feeling is common. It's okay. You try
Speaker 1: to make yourself better by about six percent, but you
Speaker 1: kind of are who you are at this point, and
Speaker 1: you should appreciate the things you are doing, and you're
Speaker 1: doing well, and you're always living well whatever you are.
Speaker 1: It's it's like the grass is always greener. It's with everything.
Speaker 1: I learned that traveling, like you know, I used to
Speaker 1: when I was younger. I'm like, oh, travel, I want
Speaker 1: to travel and see the world. And then when you're
Speaker 1: there for longer than like two weeks, you start realizing
Speaker 1: this is just a place two days for you, two
Speaker 1: days everybody? Are you going for two weeks? Yeah? I'm
Speaker 1: bloody how long it was making people that live there
Speaker 1: are just living the same life you are, just in
Speaker 1: a different environment. People will go to where I'm from
Speaker 1: and go, this is so beautiful, this is God's and
Speaker 1: I agree, But I grew up there. I've seen it
Speaker 1: every day of my life. It is just that they're yeah,
Speaker 1: there are mountains and blunch trees and rivers and it's outdoors,
Speaker 1: and but to me, it's place. I liked it, but
Speaker 1: I saw it every single day. But to some people
Speaker 1: who aren't, it's my point as we reflect back at
Speaker 1: ten minutes ago, because they weren't there, they look at
Speaker 1: that as something that could be greater. It's only because
Speaker 1: they weren't there. So don't feel like you're missing out
Speaker 1: because you're not doing those things and that you're not
Speaker 1: living your life. You're living your life in ways that
Speaker 1: people that are doing those things don't have. Yeah, there
Speaker 1: are days though, man, I feel like I'm yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have that, dude, Okay, can't. I haven't had
Speaker 1: this book right here Sean Anquist because I just interviewed
Speaker 1: her for my podcast. I guess I haven't learned that yet.
Speaker 1: And I earmarked and highlighted this one sentence that says,
Speaker 1: I want to live with an extremely low bar for delight,
Speaker 1: like being a person that's easily delighted in the small things.
Speaker 1: And I think that that takes intention. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be easily delighted. I wanted something to blow me away.
Speaker 1: I don't want a candy bar to be like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I mean I do. I want the candy
Speaker 1: bar to blow me away, like I'm gonna be like wow,
Speaker 1: this is expectations and then meet them myself and also
Speaker 1: have them met um at a semi frequency. But sometimes
Speaker 1: I believe if I'm not meeting the expectations to give,
Speaker 1: I shouldn't. I shouldn't be expecting on the other side,
Speaker 1: and they're not always met um, But I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't want to be delighted at every small thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, the only way you're gonna have that happens
Speaker 1: if you lock yourself in a house for a year
Speaker 1: and then come out and the world's changed so much
Speaker 1: and you're seeing stuff for the first time. That's I
Speaker 1: don't that's not true. I think I can. I can't
Speaker 1: in why are my brain in this way? And it
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that I don't have other feelings and emotions
Speaker 1: of pain and suffering, But that also helps mold me
Speaker 1: into things. I can still be purposeful about small delightful things. Yes,
Speaker 1: I think I don't want to lower the bar, which
Speaker 1: is an over kind of an overarching everything is more delightful.
Speaker 1: But I think there are certain areas that you can
Speaker 1: appreciate things a little more that maybe you've been taking
Speaker 1: for granted. I mean you, I mean in general, because
Speaker 1: I do that too. There are areas that I have
Speaker 1: to go and I shouldn't like, have such an expectation
Speaker 1: and I shouldn't not be enjoying or learning from this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: not a bar, but certain areas where I lack expectations
Speaker 1: can be tricky. They're necessary in some cases, but other
Speaker 1: times if you have expectations out there, they could like
Speaker 1: and you're holding too tightly to it and not in
Speaker 1: specific cases, it can be just expectations can be future resentments, sure,
Speaker 1: but expectations also are how you people meet your goals.
Speaker 1: So it's people, it's kind of people. But but again,
Speaker 1: I have expectations for people, right, They're always going to
Speaker 1: let you down. Yes, by my point, I don't think
Speaker 1: there's a universal rule there now, but there's and there's
Speaker 1: not a right answer because with humans, some of my
Speaker 1: best friends have come from expectations and they don't meet
Speaker 1: every expectation in every category. Right. I have some people
Speaker 1: that are awesome and they suck in certain areas. But
Speaker 1: I kind of know that at this point, and Kaitlin
Speaker 1: talks about that too, She's like, I know who this
Speaker 1: person is and I love them for all this stuff,
Speaker 1: and they lack in this category. So I don't have
Speaker 1: a high expectation here, but I have a high expectation
Speaker 1: of life and how our friendship is and what we're
Speaker 1: going to invest in each other. So again, I don't
Speaker 1: think there's a universal expectation that you can require or seek,
Speaker 1: but I do. I think expectations are amazing. I have
Speaker 1: high expectations on myself. I have high expectations on my
Speaker 1: wife and my close friends and then always me and
Speaker 1: I don't always meet them. But I think you don't
Speaker 1: actually reap the greatest reward unless you do have those expectations.
Speaker 1: Otherwise it's like, well, let's just see what happens, and
Speaker 1: if it's not good, No, I want the best and
Speaker 1: I want to give the best, but if it's but
Speaker 1: if it's not good, then you love them anyway. That's
Speaker 1: the beauty of not having the expectation. Yes, but the
Speaker 1: expectations create even a greater love. But you're setting yourself
Speaker 1: up for that's loser talk. I'm gonna let you down.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's loser talk. I think that there's
Speaker 1: different categories of expectation. There's there's that's what they're talking to.
Speaker 1: Not set an expectation because you don't want to be
Speaker 1: let down. That's like not a loser. That's like not
Speaker 1: trying because you don't want to fail. That's loser talk.
Speaker 1: And sometimes you fail like I don't I don't want
Speaker 1: to fail something, I'm going to do it. How is
Speaker 1: that a friendship thing? Like, well, it's any friendship is
Speaker 1: in competition, No, but it's just when you work toward
Speaker 1: and you grow and you have to put time in
Speaker 1: and get better at for sure, is like you become
Speaker 1: a better friend of Bobby because you're on time now
Speaker 1: like you used to be able to know you used
Speaker 1: to let him down in that category about being on
Speaker 1: time and now you're not. Yeah, and I try to
Speaker 1: value your family time and make sure you have what
Speaker 1: you need. I didn't know that, but we've grown to
Speaker 1: understand and appreciate that. Sure, So to go I don't
Speaker 1: want to set an expectation because I don't want to
Speaker 1: be let down is like going I don't want to
Speaker 1: try because I don't want to fail. You're gonna be
Speaker 1: let down. You're also going to fail, But that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean you shouldn't try instead of and put a goal
Speaker 1: out there. So I'm a big believer in expectations now,
Speaker 1: isn't that? But you're not gonna get the greatest out
Speaker 1: of anything unless you have high expectations. That's weird. But
Speaker 1: that's just that's how our personalities are. Just weird. It's different.
Speaker 1: Our personalities are completely different in that way. And I
Speaker 1: would say I'm somewhere in the middle of that, like
Speaker 1: i have certain expectations obviously, but then other ones I've
Speaker 1: got to let go of because I don't I don't
Speaker 1: even want to have that resentment. There's no reason for
Speaker 1: me to put that pressure there, So it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: I just eliminate it and it's and it's fine, and
Speaker 1: understand that someone did they didn't. Sometimes too, we can
Speaker 1: have these unrealistic expectations and all of mine are everyone
Speaker 1: to know that someone didn't. They also maybe didn't mean
Speaker 1: to let you down. They didn't know they were letting
Speaker 1: you down because they didn't know the expectation was there.
Speaker 1: We didn't know we're being evaluated. Steve Jobs the most
Speaker 1: unrealistic expectations center in the history of the world, and
Speaker 1: he had no friends of it, would would constantly, would
Speaker 1: constantly no real friends. Sure, but he also changed the
Speaker 1: world in ways had to sacrifice. I love my iPhone.
Speaker 1: You change the world for what communication in general, how
Speaker 1: we communicate with people all over the world and every
Speaker 1: way your friendship is more important than whatever I just create.
Speaker 1: But maybe I don't have friends if it weren't for
Speaker 1: me being able to communicate, or friends that I can't
Speaker 1: keep up with as well because something wasn't developed for
Speaker 1: me to do that. Yeah, and I'm not comparing Steve
Speaker 1: Jobs to this, but I'm saying I am unhealthy in
Speaker 1: the way of I have expectations for myself higher than
Speaker 1: anybody has for me, and of the relationships that I'm in.
Speaker 1: And I think when you look at the personalities here,
Speaker 1: they're in three different levels. Eddie's like hanging loose guy.
Speaker 1: If it happens, it happens, it doesn't. It doesn't in
Speaker 1: every way because in great it's going to happen that
Speaker 1: way anyway. I don't think so I think things. I
Speaker 1: think things happened the amount of work you put into them,
Speaker 1: if that we're going to have everything, if that we're
Speaker 1: going to happen, you just would just hang out and
Speaker 1: let everything happen. You have a bunch of losers laying
Speaker 1: around beach all day. You have to actually not losers
Speaker 1: because they're laying around the beach all day. That's what
Speaker 1: they were meant to do all day. Yeah, there are
Speaker 1: people on the beach all day selling seashells, and that's
Speaker 1: what they do. They're not creating computers. He wasn't telling
Speaker 1: the people that were selling seas he wasn't calling them losing. Well,
Speaker 1: you're you have to make a live in like you
Speaker 1: don't know, that's what we're talking about. You have to
Speaker 1: make a living. There are people laying around beach all day.
Speaker 1: That'd be awesome. I mean really, if you had no
Speaker 1: responsibilities just lay there, miserable would be miserable. Different personalities miserable,
Speaker 1: Like I mean, what was that documentary where the dad
Speaker 1: like he had the kids in the van they just
Speaker 1: drove around the surf wise. God, I mean, so there
Speaker 1: was a dad, right, he had a married couple and
Speaker 1: they had how many kids? Five kids and they know
Speaker 1: more than that, they have like twelve kids or something.
Speaker 1: And then they the dad was a doctor. He quit
Speaker 1: his practice and they bought a van and they drove
Speaker 1: the whole family to all these beach surf spots, just
Speaker 1: surfed all over the world. They drove from one beach
Speaker 1: to another for years, miserable and then they interviewed the
Speaker 1: kids and they're all like, it was the worst childhood
Speaker 1: ever ever. And the dad was like, I was living
Speaker 1: my dream and the moms like, we loved it, but
Speaker 1: the kids are like, it was terrible because we had
Speaker 1: no child's miserable. That's miserable's adulted too. I would hate
Speaker 1: to have no responsibilities, but some people would like that.
Speaker 1: And again we all have different personalities. Where Amy is
Speaker 1: that she's kind of in the middle. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: I'd like to have no responsibilities with a lot of money,
Speaker 1: it'd be great, but I think actually, if you were
Speaker 1: in that, it would be kind of miserable. Well. I
Speaker 1: also think most people that want no responsibility don't have
Speaker 1: a lot of money, generally speaking, unless you come from
Speaker 1: a really wealthy, wealthy family and get it passed down
Speaker 1: to you. And that's point oh one. Those two don't
Speaker 1: really match, and that's why you don't have a lot
Speaker 1: of people to do that. Yeah, and I see those
Speaker 1: people like, oh, I just got a BW band, I'm
Speaker 1: driving all over the state parks. I'm like, man, that's cool,
Speaker 1: then go do that. You can do that. I got
Speaker 1: kids and I gotta I gotta make money. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I wish I just had a bunch of
Speaker 1: money so I could do that, But you also do
Speaker 1: have a really good job. That's what I'm saying. I
Speaker 1: would rather not have a good job or just have
Speaker 1: a lot of money and be able to go do stuff.
Speaker 1: But I feel like I think you're missing. Those two
Speaker 1: don't really match. No, I understand what you're saying. That's
Speaker 1: why I'm saying I wish I was. It's like somebody
Speaker 1: that's two foot tall that also wins a slamdun contest,
Speaker 1: that's legit. They don't. They don't, quite, Matt, you might
Speaker 1: eventually have somebody that's super spicking, but it's just as
Speaker 1: so low percentage. Yeah. But yeah, like Steve Jobs, like
Speaker 1: Eddie says, I feel like his life sucked in in
Speaker 1: a way that you would find your value and maybe
Speaker 1: in relationships, because I watched some of these people and
Speaker 1: I'm like, do they ever have any fun? Like? Do
Speaker 1: they ever like do anything about me? Yeah? You, Well,
Speaker 1: Caitlin's made you do a little bit more sure. But
Speaker 1: my point is in your value system, Steve Jobs had
Speaker 1: a miserable life. Your value system assigned to him. If
Speaker 1: you were to ask him. He probably was able to
Speaker 1: fulfill the things that he wanted to do in the
Speaker 1: way that he wanted to do them. Like the Kardashians,
Speaker 1: they got the life. They are super rich, they fly private,
Speaker 1: they do anything they want whenever they want, no privacy,
Speaker 1: they can't hey lunchbox acory. But but but really they
Speaker 1: can't go everywhere they will. Their life is amazing. There's
Speaker 1: always a sacrifice. So, but don't build your value system
Speaker 1: in trying to address the success of somebody else. That's
Speaker 1: good because you are going Bill get Steve jobs. That
Speaker 1: sucks to you and what you think is worthy to him.
Speaker 1: His whole life and purpose may have been to create,
Speaker 1: develop and make it, make earth, have Earth communicate better,
Speaker 1: and that was able to happen. That's his value and
Speaker 1: not thinking for it because I mean it's great and
Speaker 1: he had no And you're right, he had maybe didn't
Speaker 1: have great friendship or family. Remember what the show, yeah,
Speaker 1: and the or the movie or the book something were watching,
Speaker 1: like his daughter's perspective, that may not have been important
Speaker 1: to him, right, do not get it. I just think
Speaker 1: and Eddie, and Eddie thinks if you pay somebody less
Speaker 1: to work harder, right, we're going back to that. Well,
Speaker 1: it just all kind of fits in the same bubble,
Speaker 1: like when you shake the snow globe all that kind
Speaker 1: of So anyway, we are done. I don't know what's up.
Speaker 1: Amy pulled out a book in the middle of that,
Speaker 1: he has a midlife crisis right on the air. I'm
Speaker 1: actually not I'm coming out of a midlife crisis. Are
Speaker 1: you think you're dead inside? Midlife crisis? You did say that, Like,
Speaker 1: are you dead inside? Amy? Like seriously you said that? No,
Speaker 1: I said that. It makes me ask myself, am I
Speaker 1: am I? Am I dead inside? Am I living? Like?
Speaker 1: What choices? Am I? It's it's a It's bigger than
Speaker 1: this conversation right here. It just is a quote that
Speaker 1: will make you think of like, okay, and when you
Speaker 1: approach like halfway through, if you make it to the
Speaker 1: life expectancy, like what sometimes it comes to like what
Speaker 1: is you know? My theropises? What is your truth? I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what my truth is.
Speaker 1: It's hard for me to figure out sometimes my truth,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know because sometimes I'm always worried about
Speaker 1: other people and what they're going to think. Or what
Speaker 1: other people in my family or whatever, or thinking or
Speaker 1: feeling when really it's hard. Of course what they feel
Speaker 1: and think is important, it matters, but like, ultimately I
Speaker 1: have to make some decisions for myself and that's what's
Speaker 1: hard to do, because that's it's just hard. I think.
Speaker 1: A great thing too, is when reading these books that
Speaker 1: are talking about things that have substance and value, is
Speaker 1: not to assign everyone's theory and opinion to your life
Speaker 1: based on your personality. Someone that lives a life like
Speaker 1: Eddie should not read my books and go and that's it.
Speaker 1: That's when I miss it because that it's like a
Speaker 1: food when your body doesn't react to it. If you
Speaker 1: are you eat gluten, it makes makes you feel terrible. Well,
Speaker 1: don't you should eat things with gluten in it? There
Speaker 1: are other things you can do to get that that
Speaker 1: will actually help you. And so Eddie, I'm gluten. Anything
Speaker 1: I say it is gluten. Eddie doesn't eat gluten. No,
Speaker 1: it's I'm allergic to it. But some people who love
Speaker 1: gluten it actually helps their boy. They this is for them.
Speaker 1: So don't hear what any of us are saying and
Speaker 1: go that it's universal, because that's the one thing. Nothing
Speaker 1: is universe. Nothing is universal except oxygen and water. And
Speaker 1: you need sleep. That's it. I mean, yeah, you can
Speaker 1: say taxes, but Wesley Snipes, Yeah, what about him to
Speaker 1: pay taxes? What did jail? Well this Lee Snipes is
Speaker 1: in jail. This is like from the nineties. He's in
Speaker 1: jail now. No nobody was. Man, I must have missed
Speaker 1: that one. But I mean, I see what you're saying
Speaker 1: about your family. You worry about there them judging you,
Speaker 1: because I mean, I think I worry about my brother
Speaker 1: and sister being jealous of me. But classic they probably are,
Speaker 1: except they don't. They probably don't value what you do
Speaker 1: and why you do it the same way you do.
Speaker 1: They probably do not care. They probably do not care.
Speaker 1: My wife does not want fame in anyway. She wants
Speaker 1: the opposite. So the things that I'm like trying to
Speaker 1: achieve and hit to her, it couldn't that part of it,
Speaker 1: the notoriety. But she understands like creating and u having
Speaker 1: a goal and accomplishing, But she does not like the
Speaker 1: We'll just say fame is an easy work, the fame
Speaker 1: of it. She's like, wow, how could you? How do
Speaker 1: you like that? People know, and so that could possibly
Speaker 1: be the same way your brothers and sisters are. They're
Speaker 1: proud of you for what you do, but they probably
Speaker 1: don't care about that you're famous. Oh I figured they do.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're right, you know better than I do. Um,
Speaker 1: all right, we're done. I gotta go eat fifty eight.
Speaker 1: The fifty year old actor was sentenced to three years
Speaker 1: in prison back in two thousand and eight, and find
Speaker 1: five million bucks five million dollars? You find people who
Speaker 1: can't pay their taxes? When do you ever get that?
Speaker 1: I know? Right, go ahead, makes sense? He said, Hey, now,
Speaker 1: I was just thinking about Willie too. He didn't he
Speaker 1: made a record, I believe the tour yep. And then
Speaker 1: that's how you paid it back. I think it's called
Speaker 1: like the taxes. I need to pay my taxes to
Speaker 1: definitely had something there. Yeah, it was called the i
Speaker 1: RS tape. That's it. That's hilarious. Um, all right, well
Speaker 1: there we go. This is a lot longer. I was
Speaker 1: just trying to do this. Played alive or dead game?
Speaker 1: You have a little salad, call it a dead talk man.
Speaker 1: Not really. Yeah, it is a good time. I mean
Speaker 1: I don't know why was it not? I don't know.
Speaker 1: For a podcast, why why was it not? I don't understand. No,
Speaker 1: I think maybe for a podcast it's terrible, but for um,
Speaker 1: just life it is at the podcast about this, what's
Speaker 1: the argument? I did? This is what? This is? What?
Speaker 1: Four things was? Amy Browness? Yeah, I think I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: is this terrible? Never talk about I was very interested
Speaker 1: just I guess mostly if I was going to talk
Speaker 1: about this, I would come in a little more prepared
Speaker 1: and not just roll from a death thing too. But
Speaker 1: that's okay, No, I but I'm telling you that's why.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm like, oh, I could have definitely thought
Speaker 1: about it more. Instead, I'm just like shooting off the hit. Yeah. See,
Speaker 1: those are your high expectations. I didn't worry about it.
Speaker 1: I'd be more prepared and more like, thanks buddy, it
Speaker 1: was always a higher expectation. Um, all right, that is it?
Speaker 1: Thank you? And I believe listen, sore losers today, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: sore losers today. Absolutely, you're not doing them now. We did.
Speaker 1: It's just he messed out. He was so excited about Kansas.
Speaker 1: He did what he wanted to do one yesterday. No, no,
Speaker 1: but it's going out today, Like I wanted to do it.
Speaker 1: Why not put it out yesterday? That's what I thought.
Speaker 1: You put it yesterday, you know, because we always put
Speaker 1: it out Monday, Wednesday, Friday. You can be doing an
Speaker 1: emergency podcast. That's what I thought we were gonna do.
Speaker 1: And so I just want to do what you do.
Speaker 1: Four You could do that because there are times we're like, well,
Speaker 1: let's just do an extra one because it's what we're
Speaker 1: doing is so important. When I think get those extra streams, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I could have done that. But then if I tell
Speaker 1: them we're going to do another one to day, I
Speaker 1: guess what their reaction is gonna be, like, we just
Speaker 1: did one yesterday. Well, sometimes you gotta be the boss,
Speaker 1: and and so yeah's loss of this for me for sure.
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to I wanted the emotions to
Speaker 1: be real right after the game, like the day after,
Speaker 1: like not have days that Oh you know, I'm I
Speaker 1: should have just uploaded one with you just going yeah,
Speaker 1: because I'd be bored listening to it. Not just this,
Speaker 1: but like the super bowlf they put out on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: I'd be like I want to hear that Monday or yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm on to the next thing, not with this specifically,
Speaker 1: but I'm as how much, and I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't want to listen to something? Yeah, mega, right, Maye.
Speaker 1: We should have done that extra one this week. You
Speaker 1: guys want to do another one. Act though it's going
Speaker 1: up today that you don't do another one today because
Speaker 1: you two I know, I know you have one for
Speaker 1: today already. So I'm sure it's great. I sure was great.
Speaker 1: People should listen to you. It's gonna be awesome. Yes,
Speaker 1: me just on cloud nine and nothing. I have a question.
Speaker 1: I'll ask you off fair. It's like a just a
Speaker 1: thought that I had about because you said, load it up,
Speaker 1: get more down. I don't know what do you gotta
Speaker 1: I'll help you. No, I'll talk to I'll talk it through. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you guys to the meeting. Let me know how through
Speaker 1: and then bring it to you. All right. We'll see
Speaker 1: you guys tomorrow. By everybody, bye,