1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: Bugle up. Hold on tight, we got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry let us subject. I thought I 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: found the perfect man. Is there such a thing? We'll 4 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: find out, all right, Dear Seton Shirley. I know I 5 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 1: am a hard working, educated, financially secure, good looking, mature 6 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: woman with a lot to offer. But since my divorce, 7 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: I've been having trouble with dating because the men I 8 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 1: meet say that I have too many prerequisites and they 9 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: lose interest. My goal was to meet a man aged 10 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:35,639 Speaker 1: fifty five to sixty five, but instead I finally met 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: a man that is seventy five years old. Oh this 12 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: is five years older than yesterday. Okay, he's retired and 13 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:46,240 Speaker 1: he's everything that I looked for in a man. He's 14 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: a sharp dresser, good looking, financially stable, and he has 15 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: good morals. In the beginning, he wanted to come over 16 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:57,320 Speaker 1: every night and get busy, but I still have to 17 00:00:57,320 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: go to work, so I had to cut him back 18 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: to two to three nights per week and Saturday. We 19 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:07,119 Speaker 1: enjoy going out together and we've even had a nice 20 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: vacation together. There's just one problem. He refuses to go 21 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: to church with me. This past Sunday, he got mad 22 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: at me and told me to stop nagging him about church. 23 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: I could easily fall in love with this man and 24 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 1: we talk about our future and getting married, but the 25 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:26,480 Speaker 1: church issue upsets me When we talk about marriage. I 26 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: told him I could never say yes if he does 27 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:31,400 Speaker 1: not say yes to going to church. He told me 28 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: that he will eventually just show up one Sunday, but 29 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: it will be on his own terms, not because of 30 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: my nagging. What advice do you have for me? My 31 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,360 Speaker 1: sister says, I'm acting crazy and I should marry this man. 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,320 Speaker 1: She does not think it's a big deal. By the way, 33 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: he does meet all of my other prerequisites. So what 34 00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: are your thoughts. Your thoughts are that I My thoughts 35 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:56,280 Speaker 1: are that I agree wholeheartedly with your sister. You can't 36 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: nag him. Nobody wants to be nagged. You don't want 37 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: to be act. He says he's going to show up 38 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: to church on his own terms. Let him do that, Okay, 39 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 1: let him do it on his own terms. He may, 40 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: you know, not like your church for some reason, or 41 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:14,839 Speaker 1: you know, maybe it takes him a minute to get 42 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: in the spirit or whatever. Give him time. I mean, 43 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:21,360 Speaker 1: you guys haven't even been together that long for you 44 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: to be making these kinds of demands on him, and 45 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: probably if you'd let it go, he would show up 46 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 1: to church with you one day. Come on, now, I 47 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: don't think this is such a major issue that you 48 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 1: have to nag him and nag him and nag him 49 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: about it. This man is seventy five years old. You're 50 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 1: a mature woman. You didn't say your age. But anyway, 51 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: so far it's working out nicely. I mean he's a 52 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 1: good dresser, he's good looking, financially stable, you said in 53 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 1: your letter, he has good morals. Okay, he has good morals. 54 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 1: So I think you're putting pressure on this man. I 55 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: think just smooth it out way a little bit, but 56 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: definitely stop nagging him, or guess what, you're gonna lose him. 57 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you, nobody likes to be knacked. Steve 58 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: Shirley one thousand percent correct. I agree with her sister too. 59 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: What is this? Let about? Hell, both of y'all old, 60 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:24,639 Speaker 1: both of y'all old, Oh, her and the man. Now 61 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: you didn't want to say, yo, man, but you come 62 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: tell about you want a man between fifty five and 63 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:32,519 Speaker 1: sixty five? Well, he's seventy five. Yeah, but he still 64 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: looks he'll want to go to church. He don't want 65 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: to go to church. He is sharp dresser, he looked good. 66 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: He treats you right. He checks off all the blocks 67 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: and blocks in every category. And you talking about they 68 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: talking about marriage. You can't say, he can't say. You 69 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 1: can't say yes to him unless he say yes till you, 70 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: till you going to church, to him going to church 71 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: with you. I have news for you. The reason I'm 72 00:04:01,880 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: talking like this cause have been up all night trying 73 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: to pull myself. Mine is a little congestion. I have 74 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 1: to apologize again. Don't go there. I mind is badish. 75 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,039 Speaker 1: Come on gambling, okays, Gary saying, what do you mean? 76 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: You've been up all night doing what he's acting. See, Shirley, 77 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,120 Speaker 1: you wasn't here. I'm in Las Vegas at the convention. 78 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 1: Oh okay, Okay, the convention. She was late, so you 79 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 1: didn't know that. You'd have been here on town okay, 80 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: and you'd have known what's going on. Okay, I'm here, 81 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: now go Here's what you mean? You've been up all night? 82 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 1: Exactly what I mean. I'm in here catching hell. I 83 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: should have been into being with my old I got 84 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:53,120 Speaker 1: seventy five. I don't know what the hell out man, 85 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 1: I don't know what I was thinking about, but I 86 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: can't do this, no ball, I'm hurting right sitting up 87 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 1: in here. Let's get back to the letter. He said, 88 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 1: if he don't want to go to church, you nagging 89 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:11,720 Speaker 1: him to go to church. Now, I have personal experience 90 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: with this. My father didn't go to church much. He didn't. 91 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: It's true. My mother and father were married for sixty 92 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 1: four years. Wow six. I remember my father would go 93 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: twice a year, sometimes on Easter and sometimes Christmas or 94 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:42,040 Speaker 1: Mother's Day. Wow. My dad would go a couple of 95 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 1: times a year. He went a little bit more later on, 96 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 1: but my dad was never much of a church agoor. 97 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 1: My dad was one to find this man I ever 98 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: knew because he liked this man. Said, you say he's 99 00:05:55,560 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 1: very moral. My father was a righteous man, but he 100 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: was righteous man. This dude, he was just a good dude. 101 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 1: Now you're gonna pass up on this man, like your 102 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:13,479 Speaker 1: sisters say, you being crazy. First of all, how are 103 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 1: you gonna when you're gonna find another one of these 104 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: shop dressing were all meaning seventify your old men. That 105 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: ain't got nobody. They not everywhere. How you found this 106 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 1: one is beyond me, or how he found you? It 107 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 1: is beyond me. I do not know. But I'll tell 108 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:39,159 Speaker 1: you what though, what you better stay with this man? Yeah? 109 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: If I was you. Now when we come back, I'm 110 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: gonna take a different approach to why I think he 111 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: don't want to go to church? All right, all right, 112 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: we'll have burn two seems respond coming out? Ye may 113 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 1: not rest going on? Chill? Who are your past done? Yeah? 114 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 1: So yeah. The subject of the Strawberry letter today, I 115 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 1: thought sales sermons on tape after service is over. He 116 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:25,119 Speaker 1: may have heard one. I thought I thought I found 117 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: the perfect man. Part two of Steve's response subject I 118 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 1: thought I found the perfect man. Hello, this that is 119 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 1: simple what I told you. I'm tired. Now listen to me. 120 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: What I'm on a delay? Not come on, damn it, 121 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 1: I'm on a delay. Not my system. Your stuff is 122 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: working fine? Oh yeah, I'm on Steve Harvey got mentally 123 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: on a delay. You was just sleep straight up all 124 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 1: night long like I'm farting. It hurts, don't it hurt? 125 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 1: Remember when you went to sleep on the air that time. 126 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: I can't do it no more. When he fell asleep 127 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 1: in the owned while he was on the half Yeah, 128 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: when his shoes one shoe? Wait, did you hear him saying, 129 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: whatever was some good sleep? Mike? I had him head 130 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: ss It was so damn loud, I said, straight up. 131 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: I lifted him to white men and I didn't even 132 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: know where they came from, but I yelled. I was 133 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:49,599 Speaker 1: like Steve were he was doing an interview. He was 134 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:52,719 Speaker 1: doing an interview with some of our clients. Saw me 135 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: counting cards at the Steve coming back to the letter 136 00:08:57,280 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: though seventy five years old. This real simple. This is 137 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 1: like you dating this man. He's in everything, and she's 138 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: ever wanting man seventy five sharp dropper, still sleeping within 139 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: all this hell, Get busy whenever you want to. But 140 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: he don't want to go church with him. It's just 141 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: that what's wrong with the church. Though, now we're gonna 142 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: get into that seat. My father didn't go to church 143 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 1: much either, So that don't make you a bad person. 144 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 1: You could be a very righteous person not be an 145 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 1: attendee of church. But now you're saying you've talked about 146 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:30,559 Speaker 1: marriage with him, but if he can't say yes to 147 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:35,200 Speaker 1: going to church, you can't say yes to getting married. Well, 148 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: he keeps. He's pretty adamant that you nagging him about 149 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 1: this church. Maybe he don't won't go to your church? Yes, 150 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:51,960 Speaker 1: fine out. First question? Does your church sail the sermon 151 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: on CD or audio after service? A lot of churches do. 152 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:07,760 Speaker 1: Has he heard a see everybody pastor can't preach? This 153 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 1: is true? See what I Maybe he don't want to 154 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:17,959 Speaker 1: sit up there to that dry sermon? What type of 155 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: church you go? Is it Methodist? Well that don't matter, 156 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 1: do it that? No, I'm just asking a question because 157 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: it's if it's Methodist, ain't no drums? She didn't tabourines 158 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:37,559 Speaker 1: or good talls? She'd not say, Okay, well whatever it is. 159 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 1: Maybe your pastor is dry. This here's another thing. Maybe 160 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:46,560 Speaker 1: what's the name of yo? What he dry? He said? Oh, 161 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: maybe your pastor is dry. Now here's the next question. 162 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: What's the name of your choir? What do you mean? 163 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,719 Speaker 1: What do you mean if it's got one of them 164 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:01,319 Speaker 1: names that mean they don't sound like the song birds? 165 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: Don't nobody no, down'll never sound good. Your old crows 166 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 1: up that soude the song birds they got crazy loud, 167 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:29,959 Speaker 1: my raw and not with you don't nobody want to 168 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 1: sit through that? Now, don't nobody don't know. I'm just 169 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:41,959 Speaker 1: want to see how I can phrase this and call 170 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: and let me say, yeah, careful. I don't think your 171 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: pastor and your choir is up to Paul, That's all 172 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:54,679 Speaker 1: I have to say. And I think that this's just 173 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 1: been demoralizing for them to have to sit through the 174 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: services that you're doing. Next question, is your church your 175 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: stove front next to a liquor stoke. See, maybe he's 176 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: a form of alcoholic. He can't go down there next 177 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 1: to that liquor stoke and sit down and try to 178 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 1: make it the church and in those zone in issues 179 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:31,079 Speaker 1: in the hood, this liquor stoke, check cashing players church 180 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: decill yeah, and the motel motel or dey kill check 181 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: cashing place or churches oh yeah, chicken yeah then or 182 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:56,839 Speaker 1: somebody selling chickens. This answer to this is all over 183 00:12:56,960 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: the place because I've been up all the night. Apologize 184 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:10,079 Speaker 1: for this response to the strawberry lettle Steve, you gotta 185 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: do you boo now he was crazy today, Mark Tomorrow, 186 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: I got to be at work. I gotta do three 187 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 1: shows man talk shows. Okay, So so at some point. 188 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 1: You need to get some sleep, is what you're saying. 189 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:33,439 Speaker 1: Excuse me, Shirley, Steve, what is the advice to the 190 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: lady that wrote the letter? I'm trying to get it 191 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: out of him. Yeah, get her checast and go to 192 00:13:38,040 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: the chicken house and I go to ch He just 193 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: stop nagging him. What to tell her? He ain't going down. 194 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:50,959 Speaker 1: He's got to stop nagging him. Though. That's a good 195 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 1: point she's got to lose. I would say, God, man, 196 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 1: and don't worry about it, because man, let me tell 197 00:13:56,960 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: you something. It's hard to find good man. And he's 198 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: a good man. He righteous. He just don't go to 199 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:06,120 Speaker 1: church much. Now he may eventually like my father. Dude, 200 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 1: my father ended up going to church quite often. But 201 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: you know she got a yeah, yeah, that's true. All right, Well, 202 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: thank you, Steve. Uh email us your Instagram as your 203 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. At Steve Harvey FM, you're 204 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 1: listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.