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Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice and relationships on sex, on work,

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Speaker 1: on dating, on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we could be reading your letter live on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. All right, ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: it's that time. It's time for the Strawberry Letter with

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Speaker 1: my good friend Shirley Strawberry. Thank you, junior. Subject what

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Speaker 1: does he have to hide? Dear Stephen, Shirley, I've been

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Speaker 1: dating a man for fifteen months and we are in

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Speaker 1: a monogamous relationship, or I could hardly get that out.

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Speaker 1: He's fifty seven years old and I'm forty nine years old,

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Speaker 1: and we're both divorced. We get along well, but I

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Speaker 1: need your advice. This past weekend, I stayed over over

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Speaker 1: his house on Friday night, all day Saturday and Saturday night.

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Speaker 1: On Sunday morning, we woke up and cooked breakfast, and

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Speaker 1: then we lounged around and watched football. He up and

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Speaker 1: change his clothes and told me he was headed to

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Speaker 1: the gym. I thought it would be the perfect time

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Speaker 1: to take a nap before I cooked dinner. He told

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Speaker 1: He said he would pick me back up when he

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Speaker 1: left the gym. I told him I wasn't ready to

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Speaker 1: go home, but he didn't care. He drove me to

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Speaker 1: was going. I told him not to worry about it

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Speaker 1: because I told him I wasn't ready to go home.

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Speaker 1: That caused our first argument, because he never will let

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Speaker 1: me stay at his house if he's not there. Surely,

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Speaker 1: even if he runs to the store while I'm there,

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Speaker 1: I have to go with him. I have left him

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Speaker 1: alone at my house several times, and it's not a

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Speaker 1: big deal to me. He can also pop up at

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Speaker 1: my house whenever he wants to, and I don't have

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Speaker 1: a problem with it. But he's so different. He has

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Speaker 1: to be planned. I feel like he doesn't trust me,

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Speaker 1: but he said it's not that serious. He just needs

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Speaker 1: to know me a little better. First, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to ruin a good thing by nagging him. But I'm

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Speaker 1: too old to play games, Steve, is this a man thing?

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Speaker 1: Does he have something to hide? Okay, you said it.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want you there when he's not there. He said,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't know you well enough. That's what he said.

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Speaker 1: It's in the letter. He has boundaries when it comes

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Speaker 1: and when it comes to him. Now. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if it's because you guys have been together for almost

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Speaker 1: a year and a half that you feel this way

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Speaker 1: not there. He said he was going to the gym.

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Speaker 1: He would pick you back up on the way back

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Speaker 1: from the gym. So does he have something to hide?

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Speaker 1: He could, He definitely could. Was he really going to

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Speaker 1: After fifteen months? It sounds like he doesn't want to

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Speaker 1: at this relationship from two different perspectives. You're in it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know what, what's yours is his? He

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Speaker 1: you can't do that at his. You guys are different

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Speaker 1: and what you want in this relationship. That's it, bottom line.

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Speaker 1: What do you want? Do you want to stay over there?

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Speaker 1: Let's move out. Now you're tripping because you want to

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Speaker 1: can't stay in here. He fifty seven. It's stuff. He

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Speaker 1: Now you want me to explain to you why? Here

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Speaker 1: we go? He got personal stuff under the bed. Now

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Speaker 1: you're snooping all around the house because that's what you're

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Speaker 1: He got photo album in there with pictures in there,

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Speaker 1: and a lot of them pictures. Ain't you cannot leave

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Speaker 1: you getting mad? You like to touch stuff? Hell, won't

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Speaker 1: you touch and stuff can't have you looking all in

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Speaker 1: this man ed us in cabinet. What are you in?

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Speaker 1: Naw fall, I'm on about eight prescription maids. You don't

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Speaker 1: need to know that. That ain't your damn business? And

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Speaker 1: what is you all under the sink? Fault? Put the

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Speaker 1: looker back sitting up in here by yourself in the

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Speaker 1: damn phone ring. I got to dive through a window,

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Speaker 1: driveway ring a dobell you answering doors? What is you

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Speaker 1: answering doors? Fault? Hold on? Hold on, Steve, hold on,

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Speaker 1: Today's subject what does he have to hide? We'll be

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Speaker 1: what right after this? You're listening, all right? Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters subject what does he have

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Speaker 1: to hide? What's going on? You know? Right there? What

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Speaker 1: do he have to have? I tell you where he'll

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Speaker 1: hear that? Right now? This lady forty nine, dating this

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Speaker 1: fifty seven year old. She mad because this dude won't

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Speaker 1: over that since Friday, Friday night, Saturday Saturday night they

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Speaker 1: come on go. She don't want to go. She figured

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Speaker 1: be a nice time taking down. You ain't napping over him,

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Speaker 1: and I'm not here ass in this car. Let me

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Speaker 1: You don't need to know who's under this damn bad

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Speaker 1: You don't need to know who's between these mattresses. I've

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Speaker 1: got things. I'm fifty seven, I got a history, and

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Speaker 1: part of my history is recorded on VHS. You ain't

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Speaker 1: here playing tapes. She looking at these tapes fault You're

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Speaker 1: not on none of them. Yeah, all in the medicine cabinet.

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Speaker 1: When all these questions when I come back, what is

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Speaker 1: the Nestra's all? Who would ask me that? Noble? What? What?

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Speaker 1: What is? What is Clyde grow hingri? What is what

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Speaker 1: is Clyde grojise? Damn it? Have you been in the

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Speaker 1: medicine cabinet. Well, I couldn't sleep, you said, Jack. That's

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Speaker 1: under the cabinets, touching, reading, liquor labels and everything. Your

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Speaker 1: I thought you were sleeping, all outside looking in the

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Speaker 1: damn mail box. I come back. You got to compute on,

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Speaker 1: Oh man, I just wanted to google. What was your line?

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Speaker 1: Just search your last history? No trust inlationship, No it ain't,

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Speaker 1: it's not. It's not that Shelly. She can't stay over

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Speaker 1: the man's house. That's all. Not any heat, not there

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Speaker 1: after fifteen months, after almost a here and a half.

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Speaker 1: I mean, y'all opinion, you're answering doughbells and stuff. You're

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Speaker 1: supposed to be in that sleep. You answering the doughbell

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Speaker 1: fault because somebody rang it, and I want to see

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Speaker 1: who it is. Can't stay ship, she got okay, and

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Speaker 1: don't need are you fixing your hair all his head?

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Speaker 1: Come on, come back. She didn't change the heat the

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Speaker 1: heat on. You know what I'm saying? Moving stuff around

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Speaker 1: the in refrigerator. I put the bakers on the box

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Speaker 1: to bet that six months ago it's still good. What

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Speaker 1: is you throwing that out? Fall? Yeah, arranging furnace. Well,

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Speaker 1: the sofa looks better on this wall. Thank you. Well

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Speaker 1: I took the food and I threw it out because

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Speaker 1: it's the expiration day. What did you read dates? Fault

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Speaker 1: him that power to throw stuff out? Well, he can

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Speaker 1: go over her house and just pop up at any time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she has no boundaries yet. If we leave now, I'll

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Speaker 1: come back and get you Ryan, He said it. You

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Speaker 1: all in here cooking. She wasn't ready to leave. She

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Speaker 1: wanted to. I had two steaks for something else. You

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Speaker 1: and here frying steaks? Fault right here making grave? I

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Speaker 1: all wont ol gravey you room folding up stuff? Can't

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Speaker 1: nobody ask you the fold of damn thing? I found

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Speaker 1: something in your pocket? Hell, you mean you found something

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Speaker 1: in my pocket? So she got to go. And if

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Speaker 1: that that's not happening, that his life. You're all out

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Speaker 1: in the garage checking up glove compart me the other

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Speaker 1: you left your underwearing. You ain't left your underwearing this

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Speaker 1: damn car. Yeah, all in here, all in the back

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Speaker 1: of the stove, Tom, know who's this? Barrit I found

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Speaker 1: I threw it now, Sha, I need to know you

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Speaker 1: need to answer me. Who choose spearmint? Gum? I need

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Speaker 1: to know why you got gum in here? What? What

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Speaker 1: s I can't and what is this? Mister? Excuse me?

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Speaker 1: This mistake? What? I found a pink toothbrush under the

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Speaker 1: sink in the basement. Huh, what you're doing in the basement?

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