WEBVTT - #422 Loving "I'm Just Ken", Nikki Look-A-Likes, The Enneagram Test & Toxic Shame 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:08.840 The Nicky Gliser Podcast. 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:09.959 Here's Nikki. 0:00:10.440 --> 0:00:13.000 Hello here, I am welcome to the podcast. This is 0:00:13.039 --> 0:00:16.960 Nicki Glazer Podcast. Fresh week of shows coming right at 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:21.799 you on time, recorded the week of the So you 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:24.479 know we've been We've had to bank some the past 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:26.520 couple of weeks because I was in Australia and we 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.600 had other stuff going on. But now they're fresh, they're 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:31.960 up to date, you know, within a couple of days. 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:33.000 Let's be honest, we. 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:35.880 Won't find them the discount bin. Why did you say 0:00:36.200 --> 0:00:37.879 you won't find them in the discount bin? 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:41.599 What does that mean? Because in the discountan is all 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:43.040 like the stuff because. 0:00:44.760 --> 0:00:47.479 Oh yes, a reference to what Julie Glazer likes to eat. 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:49.960 Catch phrase too. She's been saying that. 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.680 I'm like, where have I missed this reference? But yes 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:57.360 she did say it. Like Julie Glazer, who is here, says, 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:00.720 I know she's not getting the camp. 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:04.280 Ben and then we don't want them, Yeah we don't. 0:01:04.520 --> 0:01:07.319 Then we don't want it. Julie Glazer is here. 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:09.960 Hi, mom, thanks for having me. 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.520 Yeah, we're twitting today. We're wearing the same sweatshirt. She 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:14.440 came in wearing a sweat shirt that I've got us 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:15.680 both for Christmas. 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:17.840 She had to hurry up and put hers on. 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:19.880 I put mine on as my mom was taking hers off, 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:22.000 being like it is hot in here, and I. 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:23.880 Go but I'm I'm putting it on a look like 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:25.120 I'm hot. 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:29.560 And so now she's hot and Brian Franzie's here. I 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:32.080 was with Brian all weekend. We were in port Chester, 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:35.360 New York on Sunday night, and then we were with 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:41.800 you Ben Salem at Parks Casino on Saturday night. Wow, 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:45.360 good shows, great crowds, let's besties. 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:48.160 We had a good crowd turnout on Sunday night. 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:53.000 Honestly, yeah, great, well done. You were in west Chester County, 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:58.200 New York during literally during as the Well the Oscar 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:02.240 started an hour before you have made the opening monologue 0:02:02.240 --> 0:02:03.640 and then zip to the theater and seen it. 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:07.760 But Ryan Gosling went to the Oscars and then Cam Snicky. 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:11.799 Oh, I'm so glad he didn't make a guitar show 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:16.919 because I had watch his performance of I'm Just Ken 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:21.240 and I want to watch it four and five and six. 0:02:21.360 --> 0:02:23.640 But I'm trying to like taper it because i want 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:26.480 to maximize the joy that it gives me every time, 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:28.480 so I'm trying not to overdo it. 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.440 Would you like about it? 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:35.440 What was happening? So good? Okay, first of all, this song, 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:40.040 the movie itself was great, but hit Ken's Arc. I 0:02:40.080 --> 0:02:42.560 haven't even considered, like, there's so many times with a 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:44.280 song that I'll just hear it and it's just a 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:47.160 song and it's it's it's good. It sounds good, and 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:48.519 I like the way it sounds and it makes me 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:51.519 feel a certain way, but I don't really know why. 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:54.200 And then I'm listening to I'm watching it, you know, 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:56.440 at the Oscars, and I've watched it now two or 0:02:56.480 --> 0:03:00.400 three times, and I'm like, oh, this song's fucking amazing. 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.880 This is a song about a guy who's overshadowed by Barbie, 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.519 doesn't feel seen by Barbie, is in a relationship where 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:10.680 he's not getting his needs met and he doesn't feel 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:14.120 like he has value, and so he inherently thinks he 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:16.760 doesn't have value in anywhere. And because the whole world 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:20.000 is built his world that he lives in Barbieland is 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.240 built to make him feel marginalized. So he's this man 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.320 with low self esteem that's constantly acting like it's not 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:27.960 a problem, right, like I'm okay because I watched Barbie 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:29.720 again last night, or I started watching it and I 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:32.320 kind of saw his struggle, which I already knew about, 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:34.680 but I wasn't in tuned with it. Of like, this 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:37.720 guy is just putting up with constantly being told that 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:40.840 his feelings don't matter and that Oh. He's like, Barbie, 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:42.040 you want to hang out tonight, and she's like, I'm 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:43.760 having a sleepover with the girls. Then we're gonna have 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.360 it forever, every night for eternity. And he's just like, 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:48.720 of course, well, I don't even want to stay okay, Yeah, 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:51.480 and then he like kind of SLINKs off dancing, says 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:54.800 it's like sad existence. And so the song is a 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:57.560 realization of that. The song comes out of the moment 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:01.040 where he realizes, like what am I? I'm just Ken? 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.320 Like she's Barbie and I'm just Ken, and it's like, 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:06.440 I'm just Ken anywhere else I'd be a ten. What'll 0:04:06.480 --> 0:04:10.520 it take for her to, you know, to I'm just Ken? 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.120 Where she sees love, where I see love, she sees 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.440 a friend like she's never he's never gonna get seen. 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:20.039 And then the song shifts and it becomes by the 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:22.040 end of it it turns out to It starts out 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:25.840 the sad song of I'm just Ken anywhere else I 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.679 be a ten, and then it goes to like I'm 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:33.200 just Ken, and so and my put that manly hand 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:35.680 in mine, and it's like becomes this thing of like 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:38.920 we are just Ken, and it's triumphant. So it has 0:04:38.960 --> 0:04:43.120 this it has this arc a story endo where it's 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:46.880 like listening to it the first through, you know, probably 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:48.479 twelve times I've heard it because I have it on 0:04:48.520 --> 0:04:50.919 my on Spotify, I just am like, oh, it's like 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:54.279 a song about just being app like mediocre. But there's 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.760 a turn in it where he is really proud of 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:59.160 being Ken. And then this whole group of people are 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:01.720 singing and so I'm and then the oscars to have 0:05:01.760 --> 0:05:05.440 Emma Stone say and so am I. It was just 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:08.320 like that we're all ken, you know that, and being 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:11.200 Ken isn't so bad, and that you are maybe not 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:16.320 as talented or shiny, or as perfect looking or as 0:05:16.320 --> 0:05:19.040 like get as much attention as Barbie and you never 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:20.159 will you live in a. 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:25.120 World well I prefer I prefer bono walking around holding 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:27.200 up where are my keys? 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:29.160 Are my children safe? 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:34.240 Don't get me started to make my house, Steve Jobs. 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:37.000 That's a better performance. I think it was just. 0:05:37.000 --> 0:05:41.200 And he's so he he just does this thing where 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:44.599 you know, you want him to commit to the character hard, 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:48.400 which he absolutely does, but he's also not trying too hard. 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:52.880 There's like these the way he walks, he's just like smooth. 0:05:53.000 --> 0:05:55.240 The way he like he kind of mails in some 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:57.400 of the dance moves that looks like he's not trying, 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:01.080 but it's like that's a part of his character. Is 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.320 this guy who's like doing the dance moves but doesn't 0:06:03.360 --> 0:06:06.560 really care. So like there's just he's just so cool. 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:11.880 Ryan Gosling cool and people are like impressed by how 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.240 good of a dancer and singer he is. Dude, this 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:20.800 guy was in the Mickey Mouse Club. That's that's mk ultra. 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.159 For I haven't heard that for talent. 0:06:23.960 --> 0:06:27.640 Mk ultra is why that that's well, you heard about 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:35.400 mk ultra in the Kennedy Assassination podcast, and that is 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:38.320 what the CIA used to mind control people. And that's 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:39.000 he went through. 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.200 Atlanta, I think to develop super soldiers to combat the 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:47.599 Russians in the Cold War and they were you know 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:51.400 the Bourne series, The Bourne that that's an mk ultra 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:53.279 movie born ut. 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:56.880 Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well the Mickey mouse Club is mk 0:06:57.040 --> 0:07:00.000 ulting for just talent. Like, if you want someone to 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:03.240 till the present, mk ulter them to assassinate if you 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:06.280 want if you want someone to perform well the rest 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:09.880 of their lives flawlessly, Mickey mouse Club, get them in there. 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:12.000 They will good advice. 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:15.080 I mean that that's really I mean, that's that book, 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:18.320 The Talent Code that we read, Brian, Like, that's what 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.400 I remember from that. You were the one that recommended 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.680 that to me. I think like seven years ago. 0:07:22.600 --> 0:07:23.160 At this point. 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:24.720 It was a long time ago. 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:29.040 Yeah, seven years maybe, no eight, We're in twenty twenty four, baby, 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:30.000 that was twenty sixteen. 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:32.520 In the amount of time that I recommended that you 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:33.600 could have developed the talent. 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:37.240 Honestly, that is not I did. And like playing guitar, 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:40.800 like I definitely researched or I like reference the Talent 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:43.240 Code in it. It's like you're only gonna get or 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:45.440 singing and playing guitar, You're only going to get what 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:47.560 you put into it. And the only reason anyone's ever 0:07:47.600 --> 0:07:51.160 bet better at you than anything is a little bit 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:55.480 of it of born talent, Like is an aptitude for something, 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:56.440 but it's. 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:57.440 Mostly made them. 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:58.800 Yeah, that ten thousand. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:01.960 It's mostly the hard work and the repetition and being 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:04.960 comfortable with sucking and being okay with sucking and making 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:08.480 those little improvements, and staying in a zone where you're 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:12.320 always working on something that's a little challenging, not too challenging. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:16.760 Don't try to play, you know, something expert level when 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:19.520 you're a beginner, because you'll get discouraged real quick. But 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.160 it should be something that you could do. But it's 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:23.960 a little out of reach, and that. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.440 Will always keep you, I'll keep you interesting. 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:28.960 Yeah, but when you The thing that I'll always remember 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:32.040 from that book is Beyonce did not come out Beyonce. 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:36.680 Beyonce didn't have a childhood. That's why she's Beyonce. We 0:08:36.720 --> 0:08:38.599 didn't see the hard work. We didn't see all the 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:40.480 hours she put in before she came on the scene 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:43.840 when she was what sixteen seventeen, but that was sixteen years. 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:46.360 Let's take let's take away four years because she probably 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:49.800 started when she was four. That's twelve years of intense 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:55.840 Jackson five esque really boot camp working, really, you know 0:08:55.960 --> 0:08:58.240 that for sure? Yeah, she worked her ass off. She 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:00.600 was in she was in like dance. She went to 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:03.320 like dance schools instead of school singing, like one. 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:06.080 Of the examples they gave in the book with Jessica Simpson. 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:09.120 Also she was trained from like four years old to 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:12.120 become a good singer, and so when she was twelve, 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:14.760 she was an amazing singer because she had been singing 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:18.920 already for eight years. Yeah, same thing with Beethoven. Like 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:23.080 anybody who is like a phenom, a quote unquote prodigy. 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:24.880 They started something like that, they just. 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.120 Think the parents just took a whip and like started 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:29.360 and maybe they wanted to do it too. But what 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:32.040 kind of four year old they don't like wants to 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:33.720 put in that word without the parents. 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:35.719 Well they do if it means that it's going to 0:09:35.760 --> 0:09:39.199 give their parents to love them. And so that's why people. 0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:43.000 I'm an anyagram three, and that is that's what we're 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:46.679 the we're achievers. Now, I'm like a low end achieving three. 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:50.960 Like optimal threes are like beyonces okay and Taylor Swift's wait, 0:09:51.000 --> 0:09:53.600 they go up to what No, it's like it's it's 0:09:53.760 --> 0:09:57.600 nine different numbers. But if you if you're an any 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:00.560 agraam three, you're it's called you're the achiever and you 0:10:02.559 --> 0:10:04.520 in your core, you feel like you don't have value 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:08.679 unless you are a success. And usually that success is 0:10:09.040 --> 0:10:11.920 determined by what your parents are into. So if you 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:17.440 and dad were guitar players, yeah exactly, No, but you 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:19.240 dad is So that's not a good example. But if 0:10:19.280 --> 0:10:23.080 your florists and like your big thing was like Matt, wow, 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:27.880 like uh, you know, aggri, what's it called when they 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:33.120 do like like landscaping, landscaping is our family's business was landscaping, 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:37.280 and you were so amazed by like yard architecture, I 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:39.120 would have made I would have probably gotten into that 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:39.840 field as a three. 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:40.280 OK. 0:10:41.720 --> 0:10:44.000 Yeah, it only applies to yard architecture. 0:10:44.480 --> 0:10:47.520 You know, whatever your parents are into, whatever your peer 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.240 group and the people who you're trying to earn their 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:53.680 love are into. And that's not to say because you said, 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:55.240 I'm not going to love you unless you do this. 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.880 That's just the disposition I was born with as and 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:02.080 possibly I got that signaling, but no intent of theirs. 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:04.880 But because I've made this connection before, because Howard Stern 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:07.560 talks about how he didn't have his dad, he didn't 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:09.559 feel like his dad loved him, so he was like, oh, 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:12.440 but my dad loves the guys on the radio, so 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.920 I'll just become the best of that and he'll have 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:18.120 to love me because that's what he is. No, his 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:21.200 dad's like, he's still I can't speak for Howard, but 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:24.400 I would say his dad still doesn't acknowledge how fucking 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:27.560 great he is, even though he's father's His father's still 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:28.760 I think he just died. 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:31.760 His father's mother still, yes, but his father just died. 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:34.080 His dad was around for a while, and I don't 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:36.960 think he ever got the validation he wanted. I've got 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:39.920 that and I don't need it anymore. I could stop 0:11:39.920 --> 0:11:46.320 doing this because you yeah, yeah, you guys are well. 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:49.520 I but it does make sense because I look back 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.840 at my life and as a three I'm like and 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:55.079 by the way, Aneya Graham is the fucking ship. Taylor's 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:57.040 been trying to get me into it forever. I'm so 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.160 on board now and she's like, yeah, of course, like 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:01.720 she was, like, I've been talking about this stuff. She 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.160 bought me a book for my birthday. I've just cracked 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:08.120 it open. It's so interesting because it nails you, dude. 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:13.160 We Brian this weekend. Brian's the Challenger. He exploded it. Now. 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:16.280 I wasn't nailed when all those there was things that 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:17.440 I was like, that's not no. 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:18.400 It was kind of because it's not. 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:21.360 There's not all stuff that she it's there's gonna be 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:23.120 some things that you're like that doesn't resonate. 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:24.120 But wow, I'm afraid. 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.760 Don't be afraid because it really opens up yourself to 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:31.240 like it. It makes you feel I like it because 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:35.200 it makes me feel less uniquely weird. So the things 0:12:35.240 --> 0:12:38.520 that make me weird, I'm like, oh, they're written in 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.719 this book, like everyone who has this number, who has 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:44.200 who is a three? Which is sixteen percent of people 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:46.720 or something like that, thirteen percent of people something are 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:50.320 in the ten percent range. Ten to thirteen percent have this, Okay, 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:52.720 and it's not that weird. We all want love in 0:12:52.760 --> 0:12:56.320 this desperate way, and we all inherently don't really like 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.600 ourselves that much, and we think that if enough people 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:01.960 like us, that'll make us liked, and that it's not 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:03.840 that bad of a trait and that it actually makes 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:07.080 sense for you. It's not your fault that you're like saying. 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:09.640 I'm totally into checking this out. 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:12.440 Yeah, but I mean this weekend when Sonya from the 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:16.280 Desperate Housewives DMed me. I screenshoted it to serve to 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:19.000 you as like, mom, so you look people you love 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:19.480 love me. 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:20.760 Wait, you didn't send that to. 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:24.520 I know I forgot to send it. But son reached out, Sonya, Yeah, 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:26.440 I don't. She said she's on tour and she just 0:13:26.480 --> 0:13:28.320 wanted to reach out. I don't know what the US 0:13:28.520 --> 0:13:31.120 does that mean? Yes, Sonya, she looks like me. 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:35.800 I know, it's like Barbaris streisand's who she looks. 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:37.000 Who I think I look like sometimes? 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:38.719 Oh maybe you do, just a prominent note. 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:40.280 You look like so many people. 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.440 There was someone at the meet and greet Ben Salem 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:46.040 who looked like you, and they were too nervous to 0:13:46.080 --> 0:13:47.200 say that that was the case. 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:48.000 But then you said it. 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:49.800 You said you look like me, say every time, and 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:54.080 then the husband was like. The husband was like, yes, 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:58.240 of course, see I've been saying this guy I started. 0:13:58.880 --> 0:14:01.800 Because people would they're afraid to say it. 0:14:02.000 --> 0:14:04.120 Yeah, but I know they think it. And you don't 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:05.520 want to go to a girl like I think I 0:14:05.600 --> 0:14:08.800 look like you, especially if you think she's like super pretty, 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:11.520 and like, I don't want to very if I am 0:14:11.520 --> 0:14:13.360 not as pretty as her, So I'll just give it 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.320 to them because I know that they I see it too, 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.000 and so I have literally not said it once where 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:22.760 they haven't gone I told you John like and they've 0:14:22.760 --> 0:14:24.680 had the couples had a moment, not once. 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:26.880 They always have thought obvious. 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:30.520 And by the way, girls really like girls who look 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:33.080 like them. Like the other night, Anya was freaking out 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:38.840 about Jodie Foster or no Sandra Holler from the Anatomy 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:42.760 of a Fall. She's like her, and I go, I go, 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:46.640 why she looks nothing like you? Because Annya's usually obsessed 0:14:46.640 --> 0:14:48.920 with women who look like her like you will always 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:53.240 notice because it's every every girl, yeah, meg Ran, every 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:56.160 girl likes people that look like them everyone. I mean, 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:58.880 it's part of my Taylor Swift. If Taylor Swift had 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:03.840 black hair or a raven hair, I probably wouldn't. I 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:08.960 can't as much there, I would guess I can't imagine that. 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:11.000 I hope that's not true, but I think it's part 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:12.680 of it. And so when I see the girls that 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:14.200 look like me, I'm like, it's part of why you 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:15.840 like me because I kind of look like you, and 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.320 you like yourself. That's a good sign. Yeah, you like 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:19.160 people that look like you. 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:21.200 Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with this. 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:24.040 No, I love it. Yeah, Oh do you think you look. 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.400 Like I don't think I look like anybody I've let. 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:31.560 Jody Foster is who you look like? Dude, Jody Foster. 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.080 But Danya does love her too, and I was like, 0:15:35.120 --> 0:15:38.200 you don't look like her either, but you look so 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.440 The other night at the Academy Awards, I was like, 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:41.520 there's my mom. 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:42.520 Are you kidding? 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:45.360 Identical? I thought she looked really cute the other night 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:47.280 she's so cute. Yeah, you look like her. 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.760 But I didn't think she looked cute in the movie. 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:50.000 That she was. 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:51.920 Well, I don't think she was trying to look cute. 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:52.680 No, I get it. 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.720 Yeah, I kind of see it. The Oscars triggered Anya, 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:00.840 but my people just look too hot. And yesterday we 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:04.080 both had a little bit of a dark day because 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:07.880 also Matt sent us all the photos from the weekend 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:10.440 that he took of us, and like, there's just some 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:13.240 hard truths learned about our aging heads. 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:15.160 Jeez, it's just hard to see. 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:17.040 I know that you're like, you're so young, what are 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:19.160 you talking about, But like when you were my age, 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:23.720 you were having the same problems we watched home video 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:26.360 the other night and you were like, h look at me. 0:16:26.480 --> 0:16:31.440 I'm like, you are like fifteen different hairstyles. Yeah, and 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:33.320 trying some stuff out. I know. 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:33.880 Weird. 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:36.800 Well, we have lots to talk about on the show today. 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:40.960 There was a photo shoot. Last week, there was the oscars. 0:16:40.960 --> 0:16:43.280 I want to talk more about that. We got triggered. 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:47.040 We had shows over the weekend, Noah's wedding. We're going 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:49.040 to go brilliant depth on Yes. 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:50.120 Before Noah's wedding. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.040 So I want to have a question about any agrams 0:16:53.080 --> 0:16:56.160 because there's nine times of any agreams. There's a thing 0:16:56.480 --> 0:16:59.680 that I followed called the nine Fears, which is also 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:02.400 way break down like character types, and I want to 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:04.760 know if it's the same thing just in reverse. 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.520 Well, there is a thing on anyagram that's like your 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:11.240 number one fear as this aneagram, So it's based around fears, 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:14.439 Like there's that's a way to learn about yourself. So 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:16.520 each anagram does have a base fear. 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:20.800 Okay, because I belie because there's anyagram like your it's 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:21.960 you're driven by love. 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:24.440 Anagram's personality test. 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:26.720 You want to be loved, though each one of them. 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:26.960 Is I will. 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:28.440 I think every person wants to be loved. 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:31.320 But that's what the enneagram's breaking it down by No, 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:32.080 I have a. 0:17:32.000 --> 0:17:32.760 Degree of love. 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:34.600 I don't think so, I don't. I don't know enough 0:17:34.760 --> 0:17:36.080 Taylor should be here to answer to that, But I 0:17:36.119 --> 0:17:38.560 do not think that. That's why what it's breaking it down. Okay, 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:42.000 it's based on just your disposition, what you were born 0:17:42.040 --> 0:17:45.119 with and also nurture, so what your childhood was like 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:48.639 and your probably birth order plays into that. Just what 0:17:48.680 --> 0:17:51.880 you experience as a childhood, your your sensitivity just based 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:54.879 on how you came out. So it's it constantly in 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:57.800 the margins of this book. It's like, this isn't your parents' fault. 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:00.720 It's it's we're not saying this is all your parents fault. 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:02.840 They keep reminding like this is just kind of how 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:06.000 you are as well, but it is your parents stuff too, 0:18:06.280 --> 0:18:08.600 So it's like it's both of those things. It's really scientific. 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:12.240 It's not astrology, it's anyagram is the shit. Everyone should 0:18:12.240 --> 0:18:14.640 take a test. Maybe we'll take give the test to you, mom, 0:18:14.680 --> 0:18:16.720 and then everyone at home can take the test with us, 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:17.560 because it's really sure. 0:18:17.680 --> 0:18:18.480 That would be great. 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:20.680 We get back, Okay, when we get back, we'll do 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:23.320 aning test and get out your pens and paper because 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:25.960 it you'll just you'll just remember two letters. So I 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:26.760 think everyone. 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:26.840 Can do that. 0:18:26.880 --> 0:18:28.200 We'll be right back here. 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:35.320 Okay, we're back. Here comes the Anya gram test that 0:18:35.359 --> 0:18:38.679 I sent to my girls chat last week because I 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:42.879 wanted everyone to just redo theirs. So and then I 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:44.800 gave Brian this test this week. He was an eight. 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.720 Let's see what everyone else gets. I'll give you the 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:50.800 So you just have to let me just say before 0:18:50.840 --> 0:18:54.919 this this select one paragraph in each of the following 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:56.440 two groups. So I'm going to go through two groups 0:18:56.440 --> 0:19:00.760 of paragraphs or three paragraphs per group, and you got 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:03.200 to figure out which of the paragraphs best reflects your 0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:05.679 general attitudes and behaviors as you have been most of 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:06.240 your life. 0:19:06.280 --> 0:19:07.240 Okay. 0:19:07.320 --> 0:19:09.480