Speaker 1: The Nicky Gliser Podcast.
Speaker 2: Here's Nikki.
Speaker 3: Hello here, I am welcome to the podcast. This is
Speaker 3: Nicki Glazer Podcast. Fresh week of shows coming right at
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Speaker 3: know we've been We've had to bank some the past
Speaker 3: couple of weeks because I was in Australia and we
Speaker 3: had other stuff going on. But now they're fresh, they're
Speaker 3: up to date, you know, within a couple of days.
Speaker 3: Let's be honest, we.
Speaker 1: Won't find them the discount bin. Why did you say
Speaker 1: you won't find them in the discount bin?
Speaker 2: What does that mean? Because in the discountan is all
Speaker 2: like the stuff because.
Speaker 3: Oh yes, a reference to what Julie Glazer likes to eat.
Speaker 4: Catch phrase too. She's been saying that.
Speaker 3: I'm like, where have I missed this reference? But yes
Speaker 3: she did say it. Like Julie Glazer, who is here, says,
Speaker 3: I know she's not getting the camp.
Speaker 5: Ben and then we don't want them, Yeah we don't.
Speaker 3: Then we don't want it. Julie Glazer is here.
Speaker 5: Hi, mom, thanks for having me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're twitting today. We're wearing the same sweatshirt. She
Speaker 3: came in wearing a sweat shirt that I've got us
Speaker 3: both for Christmas.
Speaker 5: She had to hurry up and put hers on.
Speaker 3: I put mine on as my mom was taking hers off,
Speaker 3: being like it is hot in here, and I.
Speaker 5: Go but I'm I'm putting it on a look like
Speaker 5: I'm hot.
Speaker 3: And so now she's hot and Brian Franzie's here. I
Speaker 3: was with Brian all weekend. We were in port Chester,
Speaker 3: New York on Sunday night, and then we were with
Speaker 3: you Ben Salem at Parks Casino on Saturday night. Wow,
Speaker 3: good shows, great crowds, let's besties.
Speaker 5: We had a good crowd turnout on Sunday night.
Speaker 3: Honestly, yeah, great, well done. You were in west Chester County,
Speaker 3: New York during literally during as the Well the Oscar
Speaker 3: started an hour before you have made the opening monologue
Speaker 3: and then zip to the theater and seen it.
Speaker 6: But Ryan Gosling went to the Oscars and then Cam Snicky.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm so glad he didn't make a guitar show
Speaker 3: because I had watch his performance of I'm Just Ken
Speaker 3: and I want to watch it four and five and six.
Speaker 3: But I'm trying to like taper it because i want
Speaker 3: to maximize the joy that it gives me every time,
Speaker 3: so I'm trying not to overdo it.
Speaker 1: Would you like about it?
Speaker 3: What was happening? So good? Okay, first of all, this song,
Speaker 3: the movie itself was great, but hit Ken's Arc. I
Speaker 3: haven't even considered, like, there's so many times with a
Speaker 3: song that I'll just hear it and it's just a
Speaker 3: song and it's it's it's good. It sounds good, and
Speaker 3: I like the way it sounds and it makes me
Speaker 3: feel a certain way, but I don't really know why.
Speaker 3: And then I'm listening to I'm watching it, you know,
Speaker 3: at the Oscars, and I've watched it now two or
Speaker 3: three times, and I'm like, oh, this song's fucking amazing.
Speaker 3: This is a song about a guy who's overshadowed by Barbie,
Speaker 3: doesn't feel seen by Barbie, is in a relationship where
Speaker 3: he's not getting his needs met and he doesn't feel
Speaker 3: like he has value, and so he inherently thinks he
Speaker 3: doesn't have value in anywhere. And because the whole world
Speaker 3: is built his world that he lives in Barbieland is
Speaker 3: built to make him feel marginalized. So he's this man
Speaker 3: with low self esteem that's constantly acting like it's not
Speaker 3: a problem, right, like I'm okay because I watched Barbie
Speaker 3: again last night, or I started watching it and I
Speaker 3: kind of saw his struggle, which I already knew about,
Speaker 3: but I wasn't in tuned with it. Of like, this
Speaker 3: guy is just putting up with constantly being told that
Speaker 3: his feelings don't matter and that Oh. He's like, Barbie,
Speaker 3: you want to hang out tonight, and she's like, I'm
Speaker 3: having a sleepover with the girls. Then we're gonna have
Speaker 3: it forever, every night for eternity. And he's just like,
Speaker 3: of course, well, I don't even want to stay okay, Yeah,
Speaker 3: and then he like kind of SLINKs off dancing, says
Speaker 3: it's like sad existence. And so the song is a
Speaker 3: realization of that. The song comes out of the moment
Speaker 3: where he realizes, like what am I? I'm just Ken?
Speaker 3: Like she's Barbie and I'm just Ken, and it's like,
Speaker 3: I'm just Ken anywhere else I'd be a ten. What'll
Speaker 3: it take for her to, you know, to I'm just Ken?
Speaker 3: Where she sees love, where I see love, she sees
Speaker 3: a friend like she's never he's never gonna get seen.
Speaker 3: And then the song shifts and it becomes by the
Speaker 3: end of it it turns out to It starts out
Speaker 3: the sad song of I'm just Ken anywhere else I
Speaker 3: be a ten, and then it goes to like I'm
Speaker 3: just Ken, and so and my put that manly hand
Speaker 3: in mine, and it's like becomes this thing of like
Speaker 3: we are just Ken, and it's triumphant. So it has
Speaker 3: this it has this arc a story endo where it's
Speaker 3: like listening to it the first through, you know, probably
Speaker 3: twelve times I've heard it because I have it on
Speaker 3: my on Spotify, I just am like, oh, it's like
Speaker 3: a song about just being app like mediocre. But there's
Speaker 3: a turn in it where he is really proud of
Speaker 3: being Ken. And then this whole group of people are
Speaker 3: singing and so I'm and then the oscars to have
Speaker 3: Emma Stone say and so am I. It was just
Speaker 3: like that we're all ken, you know that, and being
Speaker 3: Ken isn't so bad, and that you are maybe not
Speaker 3: as talented or shiny, or as perfect looking or as
Speaker 3: like get as much attention as Barbie and you never
Speaker 3: will you live in a.
Speaker 6: World well I prefer I prefer bono walking around holding
Speaker 6: up where are my keys?
Speaker 4: Are my children safe?
Speaker 3: Don't get me started to make my house, Steve Jobs.
Speaker 4: That's a better performance. I think it was just.
Speaker 3: And he's so he he just does this thing where
Speaker 3: you know, you want him to commit to the character hard,
Speaker 3: which he absolutely does, but he's also not trying too hard.
Speaker 3: There's like these the way he walks, he's just like smooth.
Speaker 3: The way he like he kind of mails in some
Speaker 3: of the dance moves that looks like he's not trying,
Speaker 3: but it's like that's a part of his character. Is
Speaker 3: this guy who's like doing the dance moves but doesn't
Speaker 3: really care. So like there's just he's just so cool.
Speaker 3: Ryan Gosling cool and people are like impressed by how
Speaker 3: good of a dancer and singer he is. Dude, this
Speaker 3: guy was in the Mickey Mouse Club. That's that's mk ultra.
Speaker 4: For I haven't heard that for talent.
Speaker 3: Mk ultra is why that that's well, you heard about
Speaker 3: mk ultra in the Kennedy Assassination podcast, and that is
Speaker 3: what the CIA used to mind control people. And that's
Speaker 3: he went through.
Speaker 6: Atlanta, I think to develop super soldiers to combat the
Speaker 6: Russians in the Cold War and they were you know
Speaker 6: the Bourne series, The Bourne that that's an mk ultra
Speaker 6: movie born ut.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well the Mickey mouse Club is mk
Speaker 3: ulting for just talent. Like, if you want someone to
Speaker 3: till the present, mk ulter them to assassinate if you
Speaker 3: want if you want someone to perform well the rest
Speaker 3: of their lives flawlessly, Mickey mouse Club, get them in there.
Speaker 5: They will good advice.
Speaker 3: I mean that that's really I mean, that's that book,
Speaker 3: The Talent Code that we read, Brian, Like, that's what
Speaker 3: I remember from that. You were the one that recommended
Speaker 3: that to me. I think like seven years ago.
Speaker 2: At this point.
Speaker 4: It was a long time ago.
Speaker 3: Yeah, seven years maybe, no eight, We're in twenty twenty four, baby,
Speaker 3: that was twenty sixteen.
Speaker 6: In the amount of time that I recommended that you
Speaker 6: could have developed the talent.
Speaker 3: Honestly, that is not I did. And like playing guitar,
Speaker 3: like I definitely researched or I like reference the Talent
Speaker 3: Code in it. It's like you're only gonna get or
Speaker 3: singing and playing guitar, You're only going to get what
Speaker 3: you put into it. And the only reason anyone's ever
Speaker 3: bet better at you than anything is a little bit
Speaker 3: of it of born talent, Like is an aptitude for something,
Speaker 3: but it's.
Speaker 4: Mostly made them.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that ten thousand.
Speaker 3: It's mostly the hard work and the repetition and being
Speaker 3: comfortable with sucking and being okay with sucking and making
Speaker 3: those little improvements, and staying in a zone where you're
Speaker 3: always working on something that's a little challenging, not too challenging.
Speaker 3: Don't try to play, you know, something expert level when
Speaker 3: you're a beginner, because you'll get discouraged real quick. But
Speaker 3: it should be something that you could do. But it's
Speaker 3: a little out of reach, and that.
Speaker 5: Will always keep you, I'll keep you interesting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but when you The thing that I'll always remember
Speaker 3: from that book is Beyonce did not come out Beyonce.
Speaker 3: Beyonce didn't have a childhood. That's why she's Beyonce. We
Speaker 3: didn't see the hard work. We didn't see all the
Speaker 3: hours she put in before she came on the scene
Speaker 3: when she was what sixteen seventeen, but that was sixteen years.
Speaker 3: Let's take let's take away four years because she probably
Speaker 3: started when she was four. That's twelve years of intense
Speaker 3: Jackson five esque really boot camp working, really, you know
Speaker 3: that for sure? Yeah, she worked her ass off. She
Speaker 3: was in she was in like dance. She went to
Speaker 3: like dance schools instead of school singing, like one.
Speaker 6: Of the examples they gave in the book with Jessica Simpson.
Speaker 6: Also she was trained from like four years old to
Speaker 6: become a good singer, and so when she was twelve,
Speaker 6: she was an amazing singer because she had been singing
Speaker 6: already for eight years. Yeah, same thing with Beethoven. Like
Speaker 6: anybody who is like a phenom, a quote unquote prodigy.
Speaker 4: They started something like that, they just.
Speaker 6: Think the parents just took a whip and like started
Speaker 6: and maybe they wanted to do it too. But what
Speaker 6: kind of four year old they don't like wants to
Speaker 6: put in that word without the parents.
Speaker 3: Well they do if it means that it's going to
Speaker 3: give their parents to love them. And so that's why people.
Speaker 3: I'm an anyagram three, and that is that's what we're
Speaker 3: the we're achievers. Now, I'm like a low end achieving three.
Speaker 3: Like optimal threes are like beyonces okay and Taylor Swift's wait,
Speaker 3: they go up to what No, it's like it's it's
Speaker 3: nine different numbers. But if you if you're an any
Speaker 3: agraam three, you're it's called you're the achiever and you
Speaker 3: in your core, you feel like you don't have value
Speaker 3: unless you are a success. And usually that success is
Speaker 3: determined by what your parents are into. So if you
Speaker 3: and dad were guitar players, yeah exactly, No, but you
Speaker 3: dad is So that's not a good example. But if
Speaker 3: your florists and like your big thing was like Matt, wow,
Speaker 3: like uh, you know, aggri, what's it called when they
Speaker 3: do like like landscaping, landscaping is our family's business was landscaping,
Speaker 3: and you were so amazed by like yard architecture, I
Speaker 3: would have made I would have probably gotten into that
Speaker 3: field as a three.
Speaker 5: OK.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it only applies to yard architecture.
Speaker 3: You know, whatever your parents are into, whatever your peer
Speaker 3: group and the people who you're trying to earn their
Speaker 3: love are into. And that's not to say because you said,
Speaker 3: I'm not going to love you unless you do this.
Speaker 3: That's just the disposition I was born with as and
Speaker 3: possibly I got that signaling, but no intent of theirs.
Speaker 3: But because I've made this connection before, because Howard Stern
Speaker 3: talks about how he didn't have his dad, he didn't
Speaker 3: feel like his dad loved him, so he was like, oh,
Speaker 3: but my dad loves the guys on the radio, so
Speaker 3: I'll just become the best of that and he'll have
Speaker 3: to love me because that's what he is. No, his
Speaker 3: dad's like, he's still I can't speak for Howard, but
Speaker 3: I would say his dad still doesn't acknowledge how fucking
Speaker 3: great he is, even though he's father's His father's still
Speaker 3: I think he just died.
Speaker 5: His father's mother still, yes, but his father just died.
Speaker 3: His dad was around for a while, and I don't
Speaker 3: think he ever got the validation he wanted. I've got
Speaker 3: that and I don't need it anymore. I could stop
Speaker 3: doing this because you yeah, yeah, you guys are well.
Speaker 3: I but it does make sense because I look back
Speaker 3: at my life and as a three I'm like and
Speaker 3: by the way, Aneya Graham is the fucking ship. Taylor's
Speaker 3: been trying to get me into it forever. I'm so
Speaker 3: on board now and she's like, yeah, of course, like
Speaker 3: she was, like, I've been talking about this stuff. She
Speaker 3: bought me a book for my birthday. I've just cracked
Speaker 3: it open. It's so interesting because it nails you, dude.
Speaker 3: We Brian this weekend. Brian's the Challenger. He exploded it. Now.
Speaker 6: I wasn't nailed when all those there was things that
Speaker 6: I was like, that's not no.
Speaker 4: It was kind of because it's not.
Speaker 3: There's not all stuff that she it's there's gonna be
Speaker 3: some things that you're like that doesn't resonate.
Speaker 5: But wow, I'm afraid.
Speaker 3: Don't be afraid because it really opens up yourself to
Speaker 3: like it. It makes you feel I like it because
Speaker 3: it makes me feel less uniquely weird. So the things
Speaker 3: that make me weird, I'm like, oh, they're written in
Speaker 3: this book, like everyone who has this number, who has
Speaker 3: who is a three? Which is sixteen percent of people
Speaker 3: or something like that, thirteen percent of people something are
Speaker 3: in the ten percent range. Ten to thirteen percent have this, Okay,
Speaker 3: and it's not that weird. We all want love in
Speaker 3: this desperate way, and we all inherently don't really like
Speaker 3: ourselves that much, and we think that if enough people
Speaker 3: like us, that'll make us liked, and that it's not
Speaker 3: that bad of a trait and that it actually makes
Speaker 3: sense for you. It's not your fault that you're like saying.
Speaker 5: I'm totally into checking this out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean this weekend when Sonya from the
Speaker 3: Desperate Housewives DMed me. I screenshoted it to serve to
Speaker 3: you as like, mom, so you look people you love
Speaker 3: love me.
Speaker 5: Wait, you didn't send that to.
Speaker 3: I know I forgot to send it. But son reached out, Sonya, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't. She said she's on tour and she just
Speaker 3: wanted to reach out. I don't know what the US
Speaker 3: does that mean? Yes, Sonya, she looks like me.
Speaker 5: I know, it's like Barbaris streisand's who she looks.
Speaker 3: Who I think I look like sometimes?
Speaker 5: Oh maybe you do, just a prominent note.
Speaker 4: You look like so many people.
Speaker 6: There was someone at the meet and greet Ben Salem
Speaker 6: who looked like you, and they were too nervous to
Speaker 6: say that that was the case.
Speaker 4: But then you said it.
Speaker 6: You said you look like me, say every time, and
Speaker 6: then the husband was like. The husband was like, yes,
Speaker 6: of course, see I've been saying this guy I started.
Speaker 5: Because people would they're afraid to say it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I know they think it. And you don't
Speaker 3: want to go to a girl like I think I
Speaker 3: look like you, especially if you think she's like super pretty,
Speaker 3: and like, I don't want to very if I am
Speaker 3: not as pretty as her, So I'll just give it
Speaker 3: to them because I know that they I see it too,
Speaker 3: and so I have literally not said it once where
Speaker 3: they haven't gone I told you John like and they've
Speaker 3: had the couples had a moment, not once.
Speaker 5: They always have thought obvious.
Speaker 3: And by the way, girls really like girls who look
Speaker 3: like them. Like the other night, Anya was freaking out
Speaker 3: about Jodie Foster or no Sandra Holler from the Anatomy
Speaker 3: of a Fall. She's like her, and I go, I go,
Speaker 3: why she looks nothing like you? Because Annya's usually obsessed
Speaker 3: with women who look like her like you will always
Speaker 3: notice because it's every every girl, yeah, meg Ran, every
Speaker 3: girl likes people that look like them everyone. I mean,
Speaker 3: it's part of my Taylor Swift. If Taylor Swift had
Speaker 3: black hair or a raven hair, I probably wouldn't. I
Speaker 3: can't as much there, I would guess I can't imagine that.
Speaker 3: I hope that's not true, but I think it's part
Speaker 3: of it. And so when I see the girls that
Speaker 3: look like me, I'm like, it's part of why you
Speaker 3: like me because I kind of look like you, and
Speaker 3: you like yourself. That's a good sign. Yeah, you like
Speaker 3: people that look like you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with this.
Speaker 3: No, I love it. Yeah, Oh do you think you look.
Speaker 5: Like I don't think I look like anybody I've let.
Speaker 3: Jody Foster is who you look like? Dude, Jody Foster.
Speaker 3: But Danya does love her too, and I was like,
Speaker 3: you don't look like her either, but you look so
Speaker 3: The other night at the Academy Awards, I was like,
Speaker 3: there's my mom.
Speaker 5: Are you kidding?
Speaker 3: Identical? I thought she looked really cute the other night
Speaker 3: she's so cute. Yeah, you look like her.
Speaker 5: But I didn't think she looked cute in the movie.
Speaker 4: That she was.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't think she was trying to look cute.
Speaker 5: No, I get it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I kind of see it. The Oscars triggered Anya,
Speaker 3: but my people just look too hot. And yesterday we
Speaker 3: both had a little bit of a dark day because
Speaker 3: also Matt sent us all the photos from the weekend
Speaker 3: that he took of us, and like, there's just some
Speaker 3: hard truths learned about our aging heads.
Speaker 5: Jeez, it's just hard to see.
Speaker 3: I know that you're like, you're so young, what are
Speaker 3: you talking about, But like when you were my age,
Speaker 3: you were having the same problems we watched home video
Speaker 3: the other night and you were like, h look at me.
Speaker 3: I'm like, you are like fifteen different hairstyles. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: trying some stuff out. I know.
Speaker 5: Weird.
Speaker 3: Well, we have lots to talk about on the show today.
Speaker 3: There was a photo shoot. Last week, there was the oscars.
Speaker 3: I want to talk more about that. We got triggered.
Speaker 3: We had shows over the weekend, Noah's wedding. We're going
Speaker 3: to go brilliant depth on Yes.
Speaker 4: Before Noah's wedding.
Speaker 6: So I want to have a question about any agrams
Speaker 6: because there's nine times of any agreams. There's a thing
Speaker 6: that I followed called the nine Fears, which is also
Speaker 6: way break down like character types, and I want to
Speaker 6: know if it's the same thing just in reverse.
Speaker 3: Well, there is a thing on anyagram that's like your
Speaker 3: number one fear as this aneagram, So it's based around fears,
Speaker 3: Like there's that's a way to learn about yourself. So
Speaker 3: each anagram does have a base fear.
Speaker 6: Okay, because I belie because there's anyagram like your it's
Speaker 6: you're driven by love.
Speaker 3: Anagram's personality test.
Speaker 4: You want to be loved, though each one of them.
Speaker 1: Is I will.
Speaker 3: I think every person wants to be loved.
Speaker 4: But that's what the enneagram's breaking it down by No,
Speaker 4: I have a.
Speaker 5: Degree of love.
Speaker 3: I don't think so, I don't. I don't know enough
Speaker 3: Taylor should be here to answer to that, But I
Speaker 3: do not think that. That's why what it's breaking it down. Okay,
Speaker 3: it's based on just your disposition, what you were born
Speaker 3: with and also nurture, so what your childhood was like
Speaker 3: and your probably birth order plays into that. Just what
Speaker 3: you experience as a childhood, your your sensitivity just based
Speaker 3: on how you came out. So it's it constantly in
Speaker 3: the margins of this book. It's like, this isn't your parents' fault.
Speaker 3: It's it's we're not saying this is all your parents fault.
Speaker 3: They keep reminding like this is just kind of how
Speaker 3: you are as well, but it is your parents stuff too,
Speaker 3: So it's like it's both of those things. It's really scientific.
Speaker 3: It's not astrology, it's anyagram is the shit. Everyone should
Speaker 3: take a test. Maybe we'll take give the test to you, mom,
Speaker 3: and then everyone at home can take the test with us,
Speaker 3: because it's really sure.
Speaker 5: That would be great.
Speaker 3: We get back, Okay, when we get back, we'll do
Speaker 3: aning test and get out your pens and paper because
Speaker 3: it you'll just you'll just remember two letters. So I
Speaker 3: think everyone.
Speaker 6: Can do that.
Speaker 5: We'll be right back here.
Speaker 3: Okay, we're back. Here comes the Anya gram test that
Speaker 3: I sent to my girls chat last week because I
Speaker 3: wanted everyone to just redo theirs. So and then I
Speaker 3: gave Brian this test this week. He was an eight.
Speaker 3: Let's see what everyone else gets. I'll give you the
Speaker 3: So you just have to let me just say before
Speaker 3: this this select one paragraph in each of the following
Speaker 3: two groups. So I'm going to go through two groups
Speaker 3: of paragraphs or three paragraphs per group, and you got
Speaker 3: to figure out which of the paragraphs best reflects your
Speaker 3: general attitudes and behaviors as you have been most of
Speaker 3: your life.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 3: You do not have to agree completely with every word
Speaker 3: or statement in the paragraph you select. You may agree
Speaker 3: with only nine eighty to ninety percent of a particular paragraph, okay,
Speaker 3: and you could still select that paragraph over the other
Speaker 3: two in the group. However, you should agree with the
Speaker 3: general tone and overall philosophy of the paragraph you select.
Speaker 3: You will probably disagree with some part of each of
Speaker 3: the paragraphs, Okay, do not reject a paragraph because of
Speaker 3: a single word or phrase. Again, look at the overall picture.
Speaker 3: Don't overanalyze your choices. Select the paragraph that you have
Speaker 3: a gut feeling about. Okay, all right, so you get
Speaker 3: it all right. So this is the first group of paragraphs.
Speaker 3: Three paragraphs. Pick which one. A. I have tended to
Speaker 3: be fairly independent and assertive. I felt that life works
Speaker 3: best when you meet it head on. I set my
Speaker 3: own goals, get involved, and want to make things happen.
Speaker 3: I don't like sitting around. I want to achieve something
Speaker 3: big and have an impact. I don't necessarily seek confrontations,
Speaker 3: but I don't let people push me around either. Most
Speaker 3: of the time, I know what I want and I
Speaker 3: go for it. I tend to work hard and to
Speaker 3: play hard. B. I have tended to be quiet, and
Speaker 3: I'm used to being on my own. I usually don't
Speaker 3: draw much attention to myself socially, and it's generally unusual
Speaker 3: for me to assert myself all that forcefully. I don't
Speaker 3: feel comfortable taking the lead or being as competitive as others.
Speaker 3: Many would probably say that I'm something of a dreamer.
Speaker 3: A lot of my excitement goes on in my imagination,
Speaker 3: I can be quite content without feeling I have to
Speaker 3: be active all the time or see. I have tended
Speaker 3: to be extremely responsible and dedicated. I feel terrible if
Speaker 3: I don't keep my commitments and do what's expected of me.
Speaker 3: I want people to know that I'm there for them
Speaker 3: and that I'll do what is best I believe is
Speaker 3: best for them. I've often made great personal sacrifices for
Speaker 3: the sake of others, whether they know it or not.
Speaker 3: I often don't take adequate care of myself. I do
Speaker 3: the work that needs to be done and relax, and
Speaker 3: I do what I really want if there's time left. See,
Speaker 3: we got to see on our hands, we got a
Speaker 3: live one.
Speaker 2: Noah, Oh, I'm definitely the b.
Speaker 3: Okay, Noah's a B and H. Brian, you're a right
Speaker 3: as well? Okay. Group two. Okay, So this is either
Speaker 3: X Y or z X. I am a person who
Speaker 3: usually maintains a positive outlook and feels that things will
Speaker 3: work out for the best. I can usually find something
Speaker 3: to be enthusiastic about in differing different ways to occupy myself.
Speaker 3: I like being around people and helping others to be happy.
Speaker 3: I enjoy sharing my own well being with them. I
Speaker 3: don't always feel great, but I try not to show
Speaker 3: it to anyone. However, staying positive has sometimes meant that
Speaker 3: I've put off dealing with my own problems for too long.
Speaker 3: Why I am a person who has strong feelings about things.
Speaker 3: Most people can tell when I'm unhappy about something. I
Speaker 3: can be guarded with people, but I'm more sensitive than
Speaker 3: I let on. I want to know where I stand
Speaker 3: with others and who and what I can count on.
Speaker 3: It's pretty clear to most people where they stand with me.
Speaker 3: When I'm upset about something, I want others to respond
Speaker 3: and to get as worked up as I am. I
Speaker 3: know the rules, but I don't want to I don't
Speaker 3: want people telling me what to do. I want to
Speaker 3: decide for myself z I tend to be self controlled
Speaker 3: and logical. I am uncomfortable dealing with feelings. I am efficient,
Speaker 3: even perfectionistic, and prefer working on my own. When there
Speaker 3: are problems or personal conflicts, I try not to bring
Speaker 3: my feelings into the situation. Some say I'm too cool
Speaker 3: and detached, but I don't want my emotional reactions to
Speaker 3: distract me from what's really important to me. I usually
Speaker 3: don't show my reactions when others get to me. Z.
Speaker 3: All right, so we've got a c Z. Yeah she'z. Oh,
Speaker 3: mom's a one. Oh the reformer, the reformer, rational, principled,
Speaker 3: self controlled. That's what Chris is. A reformer. Uh oh,
Speaker 3: you like things to be right? And just is that true?
Speaker 4: True?
Speaker 3: Sure? Charge to my mom and I worked out on
Speaker 3: a reformer today at pilates. Oh yeah, that's what that's about.
Speaker 3: I it was a Z. If you want to know
Speaker 3: if you're playing along, uh and Noah, you were x
Speaker 3: b X b X. You are the peacemaker, receptive, reassuring, complacent.
Speaker 3: That's not nothing. The third one I know, victim, No,
Speaker 3: the peacemaker is Obama is a peacemaker. So it's a
Speaker 3: good thing to there's good there's good people in that one.
Speaker 3: And then Brian a y the challenger, self confident, decisive, domineering.
Speaker 3: One of the things that I liked about Brian's this
Speaker 3: weekend when we were reading it is that he yeah,
Speaker 3: unexpected that. One of it was that sometimes they shout
Speaker 3: to get their point across, but it's not because they're angry.
Speaker 3: That's just they get worked up. And both Anya's husband
Speaker 3: Matt and Brian our challengers, and Annya was like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, that's so helpful to hear, because when you
Speaker 3: learn what your partner's thing is, you can learn like hey,
Speaker 3: eights sometimes will shout to get their point across it,
Speaker 3: but they don't. It's not because they're mad. And then
Speaker 3: you can then hear that and go, Okay, maybe I'm
Speaker 3: not going to take offense. Like I know, I shout
Speaker 3: when I'm mad, but eights don't. So maybe when my
Speaker 3: husband shout.
Speaker 4: It on stage, it on stage too.
Speaker 5: It's pretty true.
Speaker 4: I can't stop myself from shouting.
Speaker 5: Wait a minute, I want to know what a reformer
Speaker 5: does again.
Speaker 3: Like you, Yeah, okay, So let's go through Nyagram one.
Speaker 3: Let's go through some of the things.
Speaker 6: So in my world, this is all about the fear,
Speaker 6: which is that she's afraid of being evil.
Speaker 5: Oh that's very true.
Speaker 3: Well, you have a core desire. Your core desire is
Speaker 3: to be perfect. You can struggle with you struggle with
Speaker 3: your inner critic. You were very orderly. Shack you your fear.
Speaker 3: Your biggest fear is imperfection. You want to you want
Speaker 3: to be cozy. I don't know if you were organized
Speaker 3: cozy like under and you can be control, Yes, cozy, totally.
Speaker 4: Cos thing called Oh yeah.
Speaker 3: There's like a there's like a word for Norwegians.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I forgot it.
Speaker 3: You can be controlling to maintain perfection. Let's see, at
Speaker 3: your best your ethical, reliable, productive, wise, idealistic, conscientious, honest, orderly,
Speaker 3: and self disciplined. At your worst, you can your cunt
Speaker 3: no at your judgmental, inflexible, dogmatic, critical of others, uptight, controlling, anxious, jealous,
Speaker 3: fixated on imperfections. Does that all it resonates?
Speaker 5: Yeah, kind of close.
Speaker 3: It starts to hurt your feelings a little bit.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but I see some of that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, sure, it's but reading about it, like I
Speaker 3: have a whole book, I can give you a whole
Speaker 3: chapter on yourself because it's it shows you how to
Speaker 3: like relieve these types of things. A healthy one can
Speaker 3: like what you can do in your life to mitigate
Speaker 3: some of those things, because at your best ones have
Speaker 3: all of these things that other numbers don't have that
Speaker 3: you can bring to others into the world that you
Speaker 3: might be getting in the way of sharing those like
Speaker 3: you have special things as you have things as one
Speaker 3: that make you like worse off, but you have things
Speaker 3: that you can bring to the table that no one
Speaker 3: else can, that it's so important.
Speaker 6: And can you vacillate between like being good and being
Speaker 6: bad or just like stuff?
Speaker 3: No, I think you can. I think it's like when
Speaker 3: you're in halt, hungry, angry, lonely, tired, that's when you're
Speaker 3: gonna go to these negative aspects of yourself. I just
Speaker 3: made that up. Halt is a you know, twelve step
Speaker 3: kind of thing. But that's whenever you're like acting out
Speaker 3: or like, never make a decision when you're in halt, hungry, angry, lonely,
Speaker 3: or tired, like always ask yourself, stop halt and say
Speaker 3: what am I any of these things? Right now? And
Speaker 3: then and then persu hungry, angry, lonely, tired?
Speaker 5: TI got it?
Speaker 3: Yeah? That that helps me. But not until after the
Speaker 3: fact that I go, oh yeah, I was angry. Oh wait,
Speaker 3: I was all I was at. I was hot, that
Speaker 3: was hatay, I was hungry, angry, and tired.
Speaker 6: So are there certain Enegram types that get along better
Speaker 6: with other types?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: And and like friends and relationships.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like if you go on a YouTube dive, like
Speaker 3: it's for our listeners that took the quiz along with us,
Speaker 3: go like, pull up what your number is? Oh, I
Speaker 3: should go through the I'm so sorry I didn't go
Speaker 3: through what everyone was. If you were If you got
Speaker 3: A X, you're a seven, the enthusiast. You got a Y,
Speaker 3: you're eight. The challenger. You got AC you're the three.
Speaker 3: You're achiever. If you got B X, you're the peacemaker.
Speaker 3: If you got B Y or sorry, if you've got
Speaker 3: B X, you're nine. The peacemaker. If you got B Y,
Speaker 3: you're four. The individualist. If you're BZ you got you're
Speaker 3: a five. The investigator. If you got C X, you're two.
Speaker 3: The helper. If you got C Y, you're six, the loyalist.
Speaker 3: And if you've got CZ like my mom, you're number one,
Speaker 3: the reformer. So what you go? Just go to YouTube,
Speaker 3: type in enneagram and then your number, and there's tons
Speaker 3: of experts. Some people that are like, you know, what's
Speaker 3: it called armchair therapist? What's yeah, armchair therapists.
Speaker 4: Yeah, artists.
Speaker 3: But a lot of these people like have read enough.
Speaker 3: They might not have a degree, but they've done their research.
Speaker 3: I have to turn everyone onto my new favorite therapist
Speaker 3: on YouTube. I'm not kidding you. This girl has cracked
Speaker 3: me wide open, and it's not anyagram. I'm obs sessed
Speaker 3: with her. And I know I told you all about
Speaker 3: Hannah Uri Uri, the girl that does the Euri Hannah
Speaker 3: Uri what you I are. I is the woman who
Speaker 3: does the restorative yoga for people who've been through trauma.
Speaker 3: And I just listen to them. I don't even do them,
Speaker 3: and I should do them, but I listened to them
Speaker 3: and they soothe me and they're they're amazing. Some besties
Speaker 3: wrote to me to ask for the name again, So
Speaker 3: I want to just give a shout out because she is. Truly,
Speaker 3: she's a life saver to me. Her videos are just
Speaker 3: wait name Hannah Uri. I'll send some to you. You
Speaker 3: just put the phone next to your head or headphones in, yeah,
Speaker 3: and listen to her tell you what to do yoga style.
Speaker 3: And but the thing is, you don't have to do
Speaker 3: any of it because because the whole thing is because
Speaker 3: it's for trauma suffers, it's for people who've been like
Speaker 3: sexually assaulted. It really is like that's it's trauma based yoga.
Speaker 3: And so every time she tells you to do something,
Speaker 3: she goes. If you want, you don't have to do
Speaker 3: any of this, and I choose to not do any
Speaker 3: of it. She's okay with that because it's like, it's
Speaker 3: only if you want every literally everything you can and
Speaker 3: now move, You're gonna peel your spine up off the
Speaker 3: mat if that feels comfortable for you to do. And
Speaker 3: it's like so nice to hear a class where everything
Speaker 3: is like, if you don't do this, you fail, like
Speaker 3: everything is optional. Thus you can opt out of the
Speaker 3: whole thing and she still likes you.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 3: It's really like the most comforting thing for someone who's
Speaker 3: a three or I think a one to listen to
Speaker 3: as someone who's an achiever and a perfectionist. It's just
Speaker 3: so nice. But here's the new girl I'm onto that
Speaker 3: I discovered this weekend. This this bitch has my number,
Speaker 3: and she is she knows everything about me. She she
Speaker 3: is just speaking to my soul and making so much sense.
Speaker 3: And the way she talks she repeats herself enough that
Speaker 3: and says it in different ways, and she talks so clearly.
Speaker 3: But it's off the dome. She's not like reading notes,
Speaker 3: she's not boring. She talks dynamically. She's incredible. I can'tnot
Speaker 3: wait to tell you about her. Her name is Heidi
Speaker 3: Preb p R I E B E Heidi Preb and
Speaker 3: she's just amazing. I have not you know, I've listened
Speaker 3: to so many different talks.
Speaker 5: How do you find someone like her? Well, how did
Speaker 5: you fis?
Speaker 1: Dog?
Speaker 3: Was going through it this week, just like, what's wrong
Speaker 3: with me? What's going on? Why can I commit to things?
Speaker 3: What am I scared of? I got into the enneagram.
Speaker 3: I'm like looking into myself. I want to, like, you know,
Speaker 3: I want to just figure out what's going on here?
Speaker 3: What are these blocks? And I think I typed in, Oh,
Speaker 3: you know what, I listened to a thing this weekend
Speaker 3: about shame. So there was this really boring guy and
Speaker 3: I wanted to send you the video, Brian, because you
Speaker 3: were talking about the topic of shame, and I said,
Speaker 3: oh my god, I have a great video on that
Speaker 3: and this guy I was feeling shame. I just have
Speaker 3: always known that shames a part of who I am.
Speaker 3: Like I if I get shamed, it's devastating. If someone
Speaker 3: like tries to make me feel bad about something I
Speaker 3: did it, they might as well punch me in the face,
Speaker 3: Like it's the worst thing you can do to me.
Speaker 5: You hate the term shame on you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do, because it means like what you just
Speaker 3: did is your fault. That's why I love no free will.
Speaker 3: Nothing's my fault, right, I didn't mean to do that.
Speaker 3: My brain just decided to do that. It's not me.
Speaker 3: It's like, you know, I love it not being at
Speaker 3: my because at my core I have toxic shame, which
Speaker 3: Heidi taught me that I have. But before that, I
Speaker 3: watched a video about shame by this guy. Let me
Speaker 3: find it because I actually sent it to an You
Speaker 3: last night because she was having she was having a
Speaker 3: dark knight of the soul, as she called it, and
Speaker 3: I said, you you should check out this guy's video. Well,
Speaker 3: now I can't find it, but I'll find it in
Speaker 3: a second. He he had this video about overcoming shame
Speaker 3: by practicing self compassion, and I, oh, yes, doctor Chris
Speaker 3: germer g E R M E R Shame and self compassion.
Speaker 3: It is a hour long It's called self Compassion and
Speaker 3: Antidote to Shame. That's the name of the video. If
Speaker 3: you struggle with shame, this really helped me. So he
Speaker 3: talks about how what shame is is feeling embarrassed about
Speaker 3: something you did right, feeling like I'm a bad person
Speaker 3: because I did this, I chose the wrong thing. I'm
Speaker 3: making bad choices for myself. I'm embarrassed at the thing
Speaker 3: I did. But what that really is, if you really
Speaker 3: break it down, is that what you are just sad
Speaker 3: that what you think you did is going to get
Speaker 3: you less love. You're thinking when you've experienced shame, you're
Speaker 3: mourning the loss of potential love. People aren't gonna love
Speaker 3: me as much because I chose to do this thing.
Speaker 3: I'm such a bad person. I fail at getting love.
Speaker 3: And when you really break it down, it's all about
Speaker 3: like you're just someone who wants love. The fact that
Speaker 3: you feel shame is just you being someone who desperately
Speaker 3: wants love. And if you start thinking about everyone in
Speaker 3: the world besides psychopaths, probably all just really want love,
Speaker 3: and I would even argue that they do as well.
Speaker 3: You can feel more connected to other people. And if
Speaker 3: you he asked you at the very end, if you're
Speaker 3: willing to do it to go into He's like, okay,
Speaker 3: now we're He talks for like forty five minutes about
Speaker 3: shame and what it is and unlocks it, and then
Speaker 3: he goes Okay, Now I want you to imagine like
Speaker 3: a thing that you're like thirty percent like, it gets
Speaker 3: you about thirty percent anxious even thinking about how embarrassed
Speaker 3: you were and how shameful it is. Like for me,
Speaker 3: I was like pictured my bedside table and like how
Speaker 3: many cans of zba there are, and there might be
Speaker 3: a vibrator and there might be like one earphone that
Speaker 3: it didn't put back in its little case because I
Speaker 3: was too lazy. And then I pictured the piece of
Speaker 3: paper on the floor in my bedroom from my new
Speaker 3: mattress that has been on the floor for two weeks
Speaker 3: because I just don't have any reason to pick it up.
Speaker 3: It's a piece of paper that came with it. That's like,
Speaker 3: here's your new Strava mattress. I hope you like it.
Speaker 3: And it's just I keep stepping over it. It's literally
Speaker 3: on the way to my bed, I have to step
Speaker 3: over it, and I just have it picked it up.
Speaker 3: So I just pictured that. It's about thirty percent shame
Speaker 3: of like if someone saw this and knew how long
Speaker 3: this has been here, Yeah, which I'm now like talking about, which,
Speaker 3: by the way, sharing about your shameful things is a
Speaker 3: huge antidote to shame aka why I became a comedian.
Speaker 4: Really getting it off your chest telling someone about it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Admitting the thing you're shamed about publicly, whether that's
Speaker 3: to a friend or like to your husband, to a therapist,
Speaker 3: is a way to get shame to lift. Yeah, so
Speaker 3: like makes you go into it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, shame and embarrassment, Like are they the same then?
Speaker 3: Are they?
Speaker 6: Really?
Speaker 3: Don't know? I think they kind of are. I think
Speaker 3: embarrassment is a type of shame because embarrassment level.
Speaker 6: In the moment, and shame is like deeply rooted. This
Speaker 6: this struck the core of your being and you don't
Speaker 6: even It's like you can get embarrassed by like doing like,
Speaker 6: oh my god, I spilled a drink on my pants
Speaker 6: and now looks like I pissed myself. Not embarrassed, But
Speaker 6: you're not going to feel deep shame unless when you
Speaker 6: were growing, Like shame and embarrassment is shame light, Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's shame. It's it's diet shame.
Speaker 4: Yeah, diet shame, but again the.
Speaker 5: Same prospect of shame.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like if you're still because when I'm really feeling confident,
Speaker 3: I can follow over in a chair, I can trip
Speaker 3: I can get food on my face and someone goes,
Speaker 3: you have something on your face, and I don't care.
Speaker 3: But if I'm coming from a place of shame, those
Speaker 3: things are like, oh my god, oh I'm so sorry,
Speaker 3: Oh god, no I ruined my pants and people think
Speaker 3: like so it definitely is connected to how you're feeling.
Speaker 3: But lots of people, including myself, have a thing called
Speaker 3: toxic shame, which is what this Heidi girl opened me
Speaker 3: up about. And that's like, at your core, something happened
Speaker 3: to you early in your life, and it could have
Speaker 3: been an event of abuse. It could have been literally,
Speaker 3: like I've talked about on the show before, like, uh,
Speaker 3: you were a baby and someone was in a bad
Speaker 3: mood around you one day when you really needed them
Speaker 3: to not be Like you could have been like watching
Speaker 3: me one day and just like been in just a
Speaker 3: bad mood and not met my needs and I'm like
Speaker 3: and you're just kind of like not smiling at me,
Speaker 3: And that literally can build in a baby, which who
Speaker 3: is who could.
Speaker 5: Ever believe that?
Speaker 3: Who could ever imagine well not imagine it? Like, how
Speaker 3: could you avoid being in a bad mood around your baby?
Speaker 3: Of course you're like, but these are this is why
Speaker 3: being a parent is so scary, because you do risk
Speaker 3: and it's not your fault, by the way, if you
Speaker 3: are a parent that does these things, because you're allowed
Speaker 3: to be in a bad mood around your baby. But
Speaker 3: I will say that things like that can lead to uh.
Speaker 3: If that happens a couple of times and a baby's
Speaker 3: needs aren't being met or it's it's happiness is getting
Speaker 3: met with like you're too happy and I'm in a
Speaker 3: bad mood and it's like not met, it can lead
Speaker 3: to that baby feeling like I I am so there's
Speaker 3: something wrong with me. It's a sensitive baby, and then
Speaker 3: they have to hide it, especially if you have like
Speaker 3: like I didn't have a depressed mom growing up, but
Speaker 3: people who do have depressed moms, some of who have
Speaker 3: been very close to me before. I've have many friends
Speaker 3: that grew up with moms that were depressed and they
Speaker 3: have to and I've been a depressed person. And when
Speaker 3: people are happy around me, I fucking hate it, dude.
Speaker 3: And I can only imagine if I had a little
Speaker 3: kid around me being like, look at this is a
Speaker 3: tree and I'm like, no, it's not like I would
Speaker 3: just not when I'm at my worst depressed wise, I
Speaker 3: would just be like, I don't it's a leaf, why
Speaker 3: are you excited? Like I would. I know that it
Speaker 3: might if I were, if I were twenty five as
Speaker 3: a mom, I would have no way to hide that shit.
Speaker 1: So, like, I haven't watched all of Heidie's things, but
Speaker 1: I watched the one that you sent the.
Speaker 3: Girl, Would you get out of it?
Speaker 1: I thought it was very interesting, but I just wanted
Speaker 1: to touch on you know what you were just saying
Speaker 1: that kind of puts the blame on one person. But
Speaker 1: when I got from the video where she was talking
Speaker 1: about the baby has to take responsibility. Yes, that's what
Speaker 1: for to heal itself. Yeah, I didn't get to that yet.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying where it can come from.
Speaker 1: Yes, So that's what I really liked about it. I
Speaker 1: liked also what she was talking about how when you're
Speaker 1: not really in touch with yourself, were working on healing
Speaker 1: your emotional traumas and issues and all that stuff. Your
Speaker 1: your partner or you know, whoever you're in a relationship with,
Speaker 1: the people you surround yourself by are going to mirror
Speaker 1: what is the internal struggle that you have. So I
Speaker 1: really like what you said about mirroring.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well you talk more on that because I felt
Speaker 3: like I got it, but I didn't get it like
Speaker 3: whatever you oh yet, So if I feel like inherently
Speaker 3: I am worthless unless I'm like so, that's that's what threes.
Speaker 3: Threes feel like there their biggest fear is being worthless,
Speaker 3: is being a nobody, and that truly, like, being perfect
Speaker 3: is not my obsession.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 3: I know I'm not perfect, okay, And I used to
Speaker 3: think I was a perfectionist, but that ain't it. I
Speaker 3: just I don't want to be a nobody. I want
Speaker 3: to be someone that people go I remember her like
Speaker 3: that's I just want to stand out and be extraordinary
Speaker 3: not perfect, right, But yeah, but in my core, I
Speaker 3: think I feel like I expect things to be perfect
Speaker 3: or that I want for yourself.
Speaker 5: Do you think that I think you're a little bit
Speaker 5: of that? Really?
Speaker 3: Okay, I screwed up this thing. No, the it's the
Speaker 3: it's not good, like us eating a thing that you're
Speaker 3: making and we're like, you're.
Speaker 5: Like, nah, you're right, it's not good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's not bad that you're that way. That's
Speaker 3: just the way you are. It's just your personality. And
Speaker 3: it's like and it also, like I said before, it
Speaker 3: makes you so great in so many ways. But but
Speaker 3: you will if you're not working on yourself, you choose
Speaker 3: people that will mirror back to you what you inherently
Speaker 3: think about yourself, which is I'm not that good.
Speaker 1: Or it's just like what you put out there. I
Speaker 1: think what I liked about that is because I'm trying
Speaker 1: to do like the hypnotherapy thing now and I'm talking
Speaker 1: about like the mind body connection, and I think that
Speaker 1: what she was saying kind of goes hand in hand
Speaker 1: in it, which is like when your mind has these
Speaker 1: negative thoughts about you, your mind has no way of implementing, right,
Speaker 1: So what it does is it makes your body implement
Speaker 1: So it like the negative thoughts turn out fit like
Speaker 1: physical with your body and whatever. You know, like you
Speaker 1: think of yourself, I'm not enough, I'm worthless, I'm unloved,
Speaker 1: I'm always rejected. You're like making your body project that
Speaker 1: to the world, and then therefore it attracts people who
Speaker 1: will do that to you.
Speaker 3: Yes. Yes, she talks a lot about like the way
Speaker 3: you physically look, and she's like, I want to be clear,
Speaker 3: I'm not fat shaming. I don't think you should look
Speaker 3: a certain way. I think you should not subscribe to
Speaker 3: like perfectionist stereotypes that you see on TikTok. And but
Speaker 3: she goes, if you don't feed your body good foods
Speaker 3: and exercise your body and dress your body and things
Speaker 3: that make it look good and feel good, you're not
Speaker 3: respecting yourself. And if you're not respecting yourself, no one's
Speaker 3: gonna respect you. So when you go out and you
Speaker 3: when you are feeding your body trash, when you are
Speaker 3: drinking diet cokes even though they you know they like
Speaker 3: try Cox, no shame, you feel amazing.
Speaker 5: No shame.
Speaker 3: But like if I'm you know, smoking weed to the
Speaker 3: point where my throat is burning, Yeah, that's I'm would
Speaker 3: I do that to a baby? When I do that
Speaker 3: to something that I loved? You have to respect yourself
Speaker 3: and feed yourself good foods and things that will like
Speaker 3: make you feel good in order. It's it's self respect.
Speaker 3: And I used to always say, oh, wearing makeup is
Speaker 3: so sad, and like getting lip filler and all these things,
Speaker 3: like God, I'm such why I'm just trying to like
Speaker 3: get people to like me that way. But I have
Speaker 3: a new perception on it, which is I'm just trying
Speaker 3: to look the way I feel. I'm trying to, like,
Speaker 3: I feel pretty when I have lip fuller or whatever
Speaker 3: it is. That's not that's a bad example because I
Speaker 3: don't feel pretty with lip filler, But with a lip flip,
Speaker 3: I do feel pretty if you but a little botoks
Speaker 3: above my lip and it flips up, I feel prettier.
Speaker 3: And that's not that bit of me to get. That's
Speaker 3: me trying to put on the outside what I do
Speaker 3: feel on the inside. Oka like I feel, I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm someone who deserves to look pretty, so I'm
Speaker 3: gonna and I and I think that that's not always
Speaker 3: the case. There's times where people try to fix outward
Speaker 3: things to feel something on the inside. But I do
Speaker 3: think that dressing a nice way or like you know
Speaker 3: women who always wear heels or they always wear makeup,
Speaker 3: I'm like, god, that's so sad. But maybe it's because
Speaker 3: they respect themselves and they want to look nice.
Speaker 2: Well that's that thing.
Speaker 1: Also, is like making sure that your mind is talking
Speaker 1: and positive. So it's like, yeah, yeah, it's not. It's
Speaker 1: not easy, but you know, you can say, I I
Speaker 1: choose to take care of my skin, So I'm getting.
Speaker 3: The the liip flip.
Speaker 1: For me, it's self care as opposed to you know,
Speaker 1: something negative like.
Speaker 3: No, what I judges you if you clean your car
Speaker 3: or your house, or you get your kitchen remodel, you
Speaker 3: get new you know, tires put on your car, but
Speaker 3: you get lip filler, and people think it's you're like
Speaker 3: one of the saddest people that could ever live, or
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like judges me if I
Speaker 3: do pilates three times a week, that's such a good thing. Well,
Speaker 3: it's transforming my body. What if I did had a surgeon,
Speaker 3: just do it quickly. It's the how is it different?
Speaker 6: I was for trying to upgrade my car because I
Speaker 6: guess the man world, your car is like your body
Speaker 6: is extension of your body, and it's view. I one
Speaker 6: time tried to put a expensive stereo system into a
Speaker 6: really shitty car because I worked at this deli and
Speaker 6: I had all this extra money and I didn't have
Speaker 6: anything to spend it.
Speaker 3: And that's what we used to do in the early
Speaker 3: two thousands, is put nice stereo systems in shitty cars.
Speaker 4: Yeah it was yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 6: And you had that thing, the plate that could fold down,
Speaker 6: and you could put a CD in it, like.
Speaker 3: It would tilt down, Yes, it would green down.
Speaker 6: You could put in it, and it had the uh
Speaker 6: audio waveform thing popping, so it looked like your car
Speaker 6: was like a disco you had.
Speaker 3: Like the it would like it was like a little
Speaker 3: screen that would show the waves. There's nothing Crenny you
Speaker 3: know about that because I was in high school in
Speaker 3: the early two thousands and this is what people were
Speaker 3: getting put in their cars, and it was you know,
Speaker 3: Huffy had one. I got one put in the bastard.
Speaker 5: I remember, you did get it.
Speaker 3: Yeah. We were all to audio specialists and dropping our car, Yeah,
Speaker 3: shotting them flip our cars. It was a thing I
Speaker 3: read about recently, like why did we all decide to
Speaker 3: do this? Because it came with shitty audio and simply
Speaker 3: the audio was making bigger advancements than the car companies
Speaker 3: could put in the cars. Okay, so Brian, you did this.
Speaker 6: I had a nineteen ninety Volvo seven forty Turbo, which
Speaker 6: remember those Volvos that were like a box They were
Speaker 6: like boxy cars.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they had the backward seats in the back.
Speaker 6: No, they were regularly sorry a sedan. Yeah, it was
Speaker 6: a sedan, but it just it was like a square.
Speaker 6: You know how cars these days are smooth and like
Speaker 6: there's like a They're very smooth and like they're circular.
Speaker 6: There's no shot tangles. A Volvo a volt from the
Speaker 6: nineties was like a bunch, like a like a couple
Speaker 6: of rectangles on top of each other.
Speaker 3: They totally they were like a chill child's drawing of
Speaker 3: a car.
Speaker 4: Yes, like his hands not formed enough to do smooth arcs.
Speaker 3: Yet, yes, yes.
Speaker 4: Or like an etches sketch.
Speaker 6: And so that car was like on its last legs.
Speaker 6: And I put this thing in at Circuit City and
Speaker 6: now defunct Circuit City. The people there were like, We're like,
Speaker 6: you want us to put this in that? And I
Speaker 6: was like yeah, because it was like a three thousand
Speaker 6: dollars system putting it in a car like three thousand
Speaker 6: dollars and I could. And I was putting it in
Speaker 6: a car that I could probably sell for seven hundred dollars,
Speaker 6: And they were like, you want us to put this?
Speaker 6: And then I was like yeah, And then I could
Speaker 6: see them in the back.
Speaker 3: You almost saved Circuit City.
Speaker 4: I did.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I was trying to single handly save it from bankrupt.
Speaker 6: They were all laughing at me in the back behind
Speaker 6: when they were like, he wants to put it in there,
Speaker 6: and then the other guy would go, oh my god.
Speaker 6: They start laughing, and then they'd see that I was
Speaker 6: looking at them through the screen and then they go, oh,
Speaker 6: he's looking at us, and then go laugh in private.
Speaker 3: And then you screamed at them, but they you go,
Speaker 3: don't take offense. It's I'm an eight.
Speaker 4: I'm just that's right.
Speaker 6: I just started saying, but this is what I want.
Speaker 6: I worked hard at the Deli, and that.
Speaker 3: Is the way you talk.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I work very hard.
Speaker 5: At the Coming Ryan.
Speaker 3: A thing you do on stage that I love is
Speaker 3: like if the audience doesn't like a joke or like
Speaker 3: isn't on board, he'll be like, so you don't think
Speaker 3: that that's weird that that happened. Like he'll check with
Speaker 3: them and go like, I just want to make sure
Speaker 3: you don't think that's comical. I just said that, and
Speaker 3: he'll repeat it and then they have to like they're like, well,
Speaker 3: actually you're right when you yeah, but he will check
Speaker 3: with them. I'm just like, okay, I guess that wasn't funny,
Speaker 3: But He's like, wait a second, So you don't think
Speaker 3: that that is interesting that I just that I for
Speaker 3: you pressed the emergency stop button, not an escalator. Was
Speaker 3: just okay with that.
Speaker 6: Yes, Sometimes you say there's two things that happened. One
Speaker 6: is sometimes you say something that almost that ninety five
Speaker 6: percent of audiences thought was interesting, and for any reason,
Speaker 6: this one audience decides it's not.
Speaker 4: They deserve to.
Speaker 3: Be yell that absolutely. Oh my gosh, I totally know
Speaker 3: that feeling. Okay, we'll be right back after this final thought.
Speaker 3: So Noah's wedding, I guess.
Speaker 5: Wait, wait, what's going on with Noah's wedding?
Speaker 3: Well, she got married? What, yes, was married when?
Speaker 2: Two years ago? About a month ago?
Speaker 5: Oh? Okaylation, I heard the wedding noise.
Speaker 6: But didn't you listen to the episode where we went
Speaker 6: in depth into her wedding.
Speaker 5: No, we did it.
Speaker 3: It's a joke we keep forgetting to talk about it.
Speaker 3: So I wanted to talk about some things. First of all,
Speaker 3: leading up to the wedding. I've I've had three friends
Speaker 3: get married in the past year, and something that upsets
Speaker 3: so many brides and I wish we would all stop
Speaker 3: doing it. Is like people giving advice when it's not
Speaker 3: when they're asking for it and getting into And this
Speaker 3: is for upcoming mothers as well, Like stay in your lane.
Speaker 3: I don't care how many kids you have, their experience
Speaker 3: is going to be different. You're bringing so much to
Speaker 3: the table that that they aren't, or or vice versa,
Speaker 3: like just share your share positive things. Yeah, stop projecting
Speaker 3: all your negative bullshit just because you don't like your
Speaker 3: husband and you had a bad time, like spraise it
Speaker 3: from a positive place, like Noah, what did you go
Speaker 3: through a lot of that?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I think like if I took away anything and I
Speaker 1: knew going into it that I was going to get
Speaker 1: a lot of like opinions or statements or questions. And
Speaker 1: I think like for anyone who's getting married, the that
Speaker 1: you need is a backbone, and that could mean anything.
Speaker 1: That could mean being aggressive in return or just like
Speaker 1: letting shit roll off your back and just being like Okay, fine,
Speaker 1: this is probably coming from a loving place.
Speaker 3: But I don't need to.
Speaker 2: Absorb any of this.
Speaker 1: But it's just very interesting that like all these things
Speaker 1: come out, all these like all of people's issues, and
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't even say it was all opinions about
Speaker 1: what we chose to do or anything like that, but
Speaker 1: just a lot of comments and things that you hear
Speaker 1: that are definitely like deeply rooted issues that people have
Speaker 1: not addressed, and for some reason, a big event like
Speaker 1: a wedding or some kind of like big celebration brings
Speaker 1: that shit out. And I thought it was like very
Speaker 1: interesting from like a psychological perspective.
Speaker 3: Can we get an example.
Speaker 1: Yeah, just that, okay, I mean without going too much,
Speaker 1: but maybe like some family infighting that has nothing to
Speaker 1: do with the people getting married, and not like expecting
Speaker 1: a bride and groom to uh play chess with certain
Speaker 1: people when it could just be like adults handling it
Speaker 1: and staying away from each other.
Speaker 3: I forget about them.
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's the thing that bugs me is like I see
Speaker 3: that happen all the time of like brides or brides,
Speaker 3: mostly brides talking about how they have to deal with well,
Speaker 3: these people can't be sat with these people, and we're
Speaker 3: worried that his mom is going to feel I have
Speaker 3: to make sure his sister's brought into this thing. It's
Speaker 3: like yeah, your day, Yeah, you know, like what what
Speaker 3: why do we have to manage all these other people's
Speaker 3: feelings right now.
Speaker 5: But I got a.
Speaker 1: Lot and and my sister in law helped me through
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff like you know that or maybe
Speaker 1: people having certain like dietaria restrictions.
Speaker 4: I'm not going to.
Speaker 1: Add like chicken fingers to my wedding menu because this
Speaker 1: and that, Like she's like, you know, for people adults, right,
Speaker 1: So people are adults. They can your kidsring things, they
Speaker 1: can bring their sweater, they food, yes, they can handle it.
Speaker 2: They can keep themselves busy.
Speaker 1: You don't have to figure out what they're doing for
Speaker 1: dinner on a night that they're there that there's nothing
Speaker 1: going on.
Speaker 2: Just like all these it's like, yeah.
Speaker 3: Bring a backup, Yeah, bring a bring a pocket of
Speaker 3: protein bars, because you might not have something.
Speaker 6: A lot of time, even if you have the catering company,
Speaker 6: like make sure there's vegan options. A lot of the
Speaker 6: times they're just not good at the vegan options. And
Speaker 6: then even if it is a wedding, not very good.
Speaker 3: Amazing for me, yeah I had a vegan it was.
Speaker 3: But yeah, that's that's an interesting thing that comes up
Speaker 3: as the just unsoledicited advice and and just people wanting
Speaker 3: to like get involved in and when you're just going
Speaker 3: to bring up drama when you're pregnant.
Speaker 1: And everyone tells you, oh, aren't you tired? You should
Speaker 1: be sitting down, And I'm just like, uh, I've been
Speaker 1: on this planet for forty years, and my legs and
Speaker 1: my body better than you. I can tell when I
Speaker 1: need to sit down there.
Speaker 3: That's another thing. Let's just stop doing that in general.
Speaker 3: You must be so this like, yeah, can we all
Speaker 3: just do you know why we do that is because
Speaker 3: if you are someone that does that, it's because you
Speaker 3: don't speak up for yourself when your legs are tired.
Speaker 3: That's you. It's it's interesting other people do assume. Other
Speaker 3: people do assume. You don't like to have your needs
Speaker 3: met and you're scared to get the met. So that
Speaker 3: is nice of you to consider other people's because I
Speaker 3: do that a lot too. I know that I do
Speaker 3: that because I'm always scared to speak up. So I'm
Speaker 3: constantly modoring what other people might need to try to
Speaker 3: get ahead of it because I know they won't speak up,
Speaker 3: but they will because they're or you should leave them
Speaker 3: to have to say something, don't try to And yeah,
Speaker 3: that's so insulting. When someone's like you should sit down,
Speaker 3: like well editing.
Speaker 1: It didn't even come from family or anything. Like A
Speaker 1: quick story is one of the hotel staff people, the
Speaker 1: cleaning lady. I passed her in the hallway and she's like, oh,
Speaker 1: how many weeks are you this? And that's so I
Speaker 1: told her, and she's like, my daughter just had a baby. Okay, great, awesome.
Speaker 1: Then the next day I'm downstairs in the lobby waiting
Speaker 1: and she passes by me and she looks at me
Speaker 1: and she goes, how many weeks are you? And I'm like, oh, thirty,
Speaker 1: I'm twenty seven weeks and she's like, twenty seven weeks.
Speaker 2: You should be sitting down, not standing. It's okay.
Speaker 3: Oh so see that's like putting making you feel bad
Speaker 3: about like what are you doing to that baby?
Speaker 2: And standing is good, it's good. It's I'm building muscle,
Speaker 2: it's good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's like almost seven months.
Speaker 2: Yeah almost.
Speaker 4: Oh wow.
Speaker 3: She's she's just acting like she's being nice to you
Speaker 3: and like thinking, yeah, I didn't think too.
Speaker 1: Much of it, to be honest, And I have to
Speaker 1: say that, like, for the most part, I had a
Speaker 1: wonderful time, even though my got me down abby. So
Speaker 1: on our like our first dance or whatever it was
Speaker 1: after everyone gave speeches and.
Speaker 2: He started to cry. He was so cute like during
Speaker 2: the speed not during this speech.
Speaker 1: It was just like I think, like it all kind
Speaker 1: of like hit him.
Speaker 3: Does he cry a lot like emotionally?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean he is. He's cried. He's cried. I
Speaker 2: mean like he cries. I seen it, Yeah, I've seen it.
Speaker 4: But did tell him to sit down? He should sit down?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Did you tell him?
Speaker 6: How?
Speaker 1: I was just like I was ashamed to another dance
Speaker 1: move because we were just like like waiting, like like
Speaker 1: back and forth.
Speaker 3: I was so awkward to dance in front of everyone.
Speaker 1: Was honestly you know how I am with being center
Speaker 1: of attention. I don't want yes, oh yeah tell me.
Speaker 1: I didn't care. I was like, you know what f this?
Speaker 3: They can watch if they want, they don't have to
Speaker 3: if they don't.
Speaker 2: I want to.
Speaker 1: Also, my my contact got stained from like my hairspray
Speaker 1: or makeup or something, so I was only like with
Speaker 1: one contact the whole time. So I was just like,
Speaker 1: I don't give a shit, I only get this once.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna I'm gonna enjoy it. And I liked
Speaker 1: our first dance and then we had a type of
Speaker 1: negative song that it was really fun to dance too,
Speaker 1: called I Don't Want to Be Me and we just
Speaker 1: like thrashed around with our friends.
Speaker 2: And are like a health santal song I got some
Speaker 2: family was like what's going on? Oh no, a pregnant
Speaker 2: woman in a marsh bit. But it was not like that.
Speaker 1: It was just fun and I really understood what the
Speaker 1: wedded bliss feeling was, like, I really felt it.
Speaker 2: It was really nice.
Speaker 5: That's cool.
Speaker 3: Are you still do you still have it? What does
Speaker 3: life feel different now being married? Is there a change?
Speaker 2: Well, you know, like we did everything backwards.
Speaker 3: So yeah, like I guess being pregnant with his child
Speaker 3: and living in a house to get Yes.
Speaker 2: We did, and yeah, but it feels nice.
Speaker 3: I definitely feel have you said husband yet? Yes?
Speaker 1: And that that feels good. I like it because I
Speaker 1: feel like a sense of security and you know, like
Speaker 1: like the seal of commitment that we both mean to
Speaker 1: each other.
Speaker 4: And the baby didn't give that to you, like the
Speaker 4: fact that you're gonna have a baby together.
Speaker 1: You know what, It was not the baby that sealed
Speaker 1: the deal, It was the wedding.
Speaker 5: Well, congratulations that's so fun.
Speaker 3: The picture she looked so beautiful and her dress was
Speaker 3: so good. But then she told she has Sara Lena
Speaker 3: for advice on the dress, like how do I make
Speaker 3: this better? And Sarah Lena told her to put a
Speaker 3: slit in it, and all killed God.
Speaker 1: She didn't just put a slit. She was like, put
Speaker 1: a slit and put it all the way up to here,
Speaker 1: and she pointed to like where the femur meets the pelvis.
Speaker 3: It was such a good call. It was so really yeah.
Speaker 3: But she's also pregnant, so she can't look would have
Speaker 3: looked like a balloon. She can't look indecent. When you're pregnant.
Speaker 3: You never pornographic, right, So like you could do the
Speaker 3: sexiest thing and you still look like wholeome.
Speaker 5: You felt comfortable.
Speaker 1: It was so hot and my boobs grew three cups.
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, let's let's hump these
Speaker 1: babies up.
Speaker 3: Well. Christ and I went to a pregnant wedding in Australia.
Speaker 3: She's she was seven and a half months maybe eight
Speaker 3: months pregnant, and I was like, that's the hottest bride
Speaker 3: I've ever seen in my fucking life. There is something
Speaker 3: about a pregnant woman that is so hot, and I
Speaker 3: went up to her afterwards and I go, listen, I
Speaker 3: know everyone's telling you you look hot tonight. And I
Speaker 3: was like, and that's just what they would say no
Speaker 3: matter what, but we all mean it. This is really,
Speaker 3: this is next level. I was like, I want to
Speaker 3: get pregnant because this looks you make it look like
Speaker 3: a hot access time. You said no because I just
Speaker 3: want to look hot, but I really was like, you
Speaker 3: make me want to be pregnant because it makes you
Speaker 3: look so beautiful.
Speaker 5: I am to see your picture with you.
Speaker 3: They're really cute. And then they did this like, what's
Speaker 3: the Jewish ritual where you like, he walks around you
Speaker 3: a bunch.
Speaker 4: That's the nervous energy tradition.
Speaker 2: Yes, so so.
Speaker 1: In the Jewish wrote him, I have to walk around
Speaker 1: him seven times. I don't give him a ring. During
Speaker 1: the ceremony, I.
Speaker 3: Thought they were going to stop playing the music and
Speaker 3: it was going to be like musical chairs and you're
Speaker 3: gonna have to like both violently slit sit somewhere because
Speaker 3: you're just like but you walk around to symbolize the ring.
Speaker 1: So yeah, like so that's like my my ring to him.
Speaker 1: That's me symbolizing to him that you know, I'm accepting
Speaker 1: him and all that.
Speaker 3: Stuff walk around him. He doesn't to wear anything to Oh. Actually, yeah,
Speaker 3: he has a right, so.
Speaker 2: There's like okay.
Speaker 1: So basically, after the ceremony and Jewish tradition, you go
Speaker 1: down to a private space for twelve minutes and you're
Speaker 1: supposed to have sex for the first time. I've never
Speaker 1: heard and that's what that's your a present. It's called
Speaker 1: the room. And you go there and you give him
Speaker 1: a ring or like a gift or anything like that.
Speaker 1: You know, he he presents you with a gift or
Speaker 1: anything like that, and you have sex sealed for the
Speaker 1: first time for twelve minutes, at least twelve minutes. And
Speaker 1: every then you come back and everyone knows you've just
Speaker 1: banged yes.
Speaker 4: And I go, that was only six minutes. What's going on? Well, No, the.
Speaker 1: Rabbi stays outside the room and make sure you don't
Speaker 1: come out before twelve minutes.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, did you actually go to a room.
Speaker 2: We didn't.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm we've already had sex because I was pregnant,
Speaker 1: so it wasn't like that. But that's that's where we
Speaker 1: signed our marriage license and our friends came down and that's.
Speaker 2: Why I gave his ring.
Speaker 1: We had an orgy with the rabbi. It was wonderful
Speaker 1: in the stomping on the glass, Yes, stopped on the glass.
Speaker 1: But the chairs of where they like lift you in
Speaker 1: the in the party and ye shake you up and down.
Speaker 3: They just do it to the guy right now, they
Speaker 3: lift you both.
Speaker 1: Oh I only got raised halfway because you know of
Speaker 1: the case.
Speaker 3: Oh that's fun.
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh wow.
Speaker 3: Well in Australia, after you get married and you say
Speaker 3: I do, they step to the side, they sit down
Speaker 3: at a table and then they call up witnesses and
Speaker 3: then they sign the legal papers there and it takes
Speaker 3: like ten minutes and everyone just kind of stands there
Speaker 3: and waits, and Chris, I guess I just would go
Speaker 3: what's I know? And everyone's like the signing and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: I don't even know what they called it, but I
Speaker 3: go what is this? And they're like, you guys, don't
Speaker 3: do this, and we're like no, we just want to party,
Speaker 3: we want some attention. We don't really want the documents.
Speaker 3: Party don't even sign the documents afterwards. I have friends
Speaker 3: who have gotten divorced and they go to get a
Speaker 3: divorce and they realize they never even went and filed
Speaker 3: the paperworld, so they're not even married. I have a
Speaker 3: friend that happened, because it's just you could just say
Speaker 3: that you are, no one's gonna question it. But in
Speaker 3: Australia they make you sign the papers like proof want
Speaker 3: prove ye.
Speaker 6: At my wedding, I opted not to do the chair
Speaker 6: thing for the most Jewish reason possible, which is I
Speaker 6: thought I'd get nauseousnous, and so it's like, it should
Speaker 6: be the tradition that you decline the chair thing because
Speaker 6: you're gonna get nauseous.
Speaker 4: That should be the Jewish tradition. It's not for me.
Speaker 4: I don't want to put myself in that position.
Speaker 3: And then you you, they go, Okay, we're gonna stop
Speaker 3: the glasses, but it's gonna make a mask that's gonna get.
Speaker 6: That's more Jewish. It's to be like, but what if
Speaker 6: I cut my foot?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I warned us about oh, pick out thin glass.
Speaker 3: It reminds me of another night when Dad caught a
Speaker 3: stink bug in the TV room. He's like, I hate
Speaker 3: these damn things, and I'm just like God, just let
Speaker 3: it out. And he goes, no, you gotta kill it.
Speaker 3: And so he goes out in his socks and he
Speaker 3: puts the stink bug in a paper towel and then
Speaker 3: he stomps on the paper towel and he really stops it.
Speaker 3: It's like this very dramatic thing. And I go, what
Speaker 3: did that feel good? Really? Oh? You let him have
Speaker 3: it? And he goes, no, you gotta kill him. I was
Speaker 3: trying to make sure he was dead. I was like,
Speaker 3: that was a little much. And he came back in
Speaker 3: and he goes, God, he could smell that damn stink bug,
Speaker 3: he expressed before I killed him. And then he goes, oh,
Speaker 3: it's he smelled his foot and it's soaked into Who
Speaker 3: stumps on a bug in their sock?
Speaker 5: That hart, you.
Speaker 3: Know, oozes out the worst smell.
Speaker 5: Yeah, well dad hates stink bugs. No one likes that.
Speaker 5: I like him, I mean.
Speaker 3: Kind of they are harmless. He's obsessed. He built a
Speaker 3: special trap out of a leader bottles. Nikki Glazer pod means,
Speaker 3: will you please do a meme about my dad and
Speaker 3: stink bombs and how he is out to get them
Speaker 3: and he wants them to suffer. Actually, hates them that much.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I hate this thing because they fall into
Speaker 3: this trap and they die. Dad.
Speaker 5: That's the type two and their biggest We're going to
Speaker 5: I'm going to do a test on him.
Speaker 3: No, oh yeah, we should.
Speaker 2: I'll sign you that.
Speaker 3: You got to give it. You gotta tell me which
Speaker 3: one is. I'm going to guess and I bet, I
Speaker 3: bet I'll know. But all right, well I don't know
Speaker 3: what that is yet. Okay, we gotta go. Thank you
Speaker 3: guys so much for listening to the podcast. We will
Speaker 3: be here tomorrow. Don't even think you we won't. This weekend,
Speaker 3: I'm going to be in Grand Rapids and Columbus. So
Speaker 3: excited about those shows. We are back on tour. It
Speaker 3: is so fun. Bessie's have been coming up to shows.
Speaker 3: It's like the best time meeting you guys afterwards. As always,
Speaker 3: you can go to the merch booth after the show.
Speaker 3: Tell Anya that you're a bestie. She'll give you a
Speaker 3: free meet and greet. You know how it works, So
Speaker 3: buy tickets to those shows Grand Rapids and Columbus this weekend, Yes,
Speaker 3: this weekend, and then the following weekend. We're somewhere else,
Speaker 3: Brian where are we Cincinnati, Gary, Gary, Indiana. Yeah, place
Speaker 3: with Michael Jackson and then Cincinnati birthplace of Moir.
Speaker 5: We're gonna have a bunch of people coming.
Speaker 3: A bunch of people and also best easy. You got
Speaker 3: to fill that up too, because I don't want to
Speaker 3: all be my family, all right, Love you guys so much,
Speaker 3: thank you for listening. Don't be good Bye.