WEBVTT - Vulnerability Opens Up Opportunity 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.559 Get your Vitamin DY right with me and get excited 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:12.040 about good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Um, you aren't 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:14.600 tuned answer the Vitamin D but Dawn da podcast and 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:18.079 I'm your host, Dawn Day, here to get too excited 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:20.000 about your life so that you can live life on 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.919 purpose and for a purpose. And this is your first 0:00:22.920 --> 0:00:26.880 time tuning and welcome. I'm so glad you're here. Let 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:28.960 me just tell you right now, Vitamin D. Well, it's 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:31.479 a fun of our name. My name is Dawn, which 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:33.640 means the sun, and so vitamin D you get that 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:36.360 from the sun. So I'm here to shore light into 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:39.080 your life. And you know I do that with um 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:44.360 inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and everyday people like 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:48.080 you and me. And I always tell people, you know, 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:52.839 this podcast is all about inspiration and motivation, you know, 0:00:52.920 --> 0:00:56.880 just feeling good. Right. But here's the key. We keep 0:00:56.880 --> 0:01:00.840 it real here, so we touch on things they don't 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:02.480 make us feel so good, but we know that it 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:04.240 is for the betterment of us because we gotta see 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:06.360 all parts of it. And if we're gonna talk about 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:08.280 shedding the light, that means we have to shut it 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:10.479 on the good and the bad. Because if you want 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:12.440 to be better and you want to do better, you 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:16.679 have to be able to see better. Right, That's like 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:20.560 how we established the vision for our lives, the vision 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:22.920 for us to come. Shoot, that's how we see. So 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:27.640 that's how this podcast came to be. Um, you can 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:30.680 get it everywhere as far as on all platforms you 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:34.640 listen to your favorite podcast. We also have a YouTube page, 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.840 so a lot of the interviews and inspirational insights and 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:42.160 the conversations can be uh found there at during day Speaks. Also, 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:44.800 I want to encourage you that if you are an 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:47.400 avid listening to this podcast or this is your first time, 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.000 you're like, oh, I'm digging it, please tell somebody to 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:53.080 tell somebody and tell somebody. Look, this is my dream 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:54.960 and I'm busting my butts that we can get the 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:57.320 subscriber list up so we can make that money so 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:00.480 I can keep this going because in my vision, the 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:03.680 world is gonna Vitamin D. But I can't do this 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:07.760 without chewing me Like we're working together on this, okay, uh, 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.680 and it's manifesting. I know it's possible. In fact, you know, 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.000 usually this is where I'm saying, you know, without further 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.079 Ado goes to that dose of vitamin D. But I'm 0:02:17.080 --> 0:02:19.720 gonna get straight to it because since we're talking about 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:21.040 vitamin D. You know what, I was talking to my 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.840 baby last night. Now I don't have any kids, but 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:26.760 when I'm talking about my baby, my nephews. I have 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:30.080 two nephews, uh l J. And I'm called up to 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:34.000 my Jerry Berry, James and Jeremy. But l J and 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:38.440 Jerry Berry. L J was my first baby, and so 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.800 now he's fourteen, so you know, I'm adjusted to the 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:44.960 you know stuff like he ignores me. But you know, 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:47.720 I don't get the call back like I usually get back, 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.639 you know. But it's interesting that when you stay open 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:53.680 to receive those relationships that they they evolved. But I 0:02:53.720 --> 0:02:57.239 sell that to say I have we've been playing tag 0:02:57.360 --> 0:02:59.280 or I guess I've been hounding him waiting for him 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:01.239 to call me back. And you know, if you got 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.600 if your mother or a proud auntie, your uncle or 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:06.360 at least auntie, I can speak for myself, you know, 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:10.560 dumb hype. Dumb hype because if you're inside to call me, 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:12.160 but anywhere, let me get to us. So I was 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:15.400 talking to my baby last night and he said, Auntie, 0:03:15.440 --> 0:03:17.400 he came out of nowhere with this. He was like, 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.000 you know, this idea just came to mind that somebody 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:24.760 was like, um, Dawn day, that's what Auntie. And he 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:26.840 was like, yeah, because you're gonna be really famous one day. 0:03:26.919 --> 0:03:29.480 And I just I just said, thank you so much, 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:31.799 nephew for speaking life over me. And I said I'll 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:34.480 receive it on shot that I received it in the name. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:40.120 And I guess, you know, usually get all emotional and sentimental, 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.880 but this part, it was just so amazing to see 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:46.320 that my babies believe in me. And I feel like, 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:48.400 if you're going out to your dream, like that's how 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.840 a parent it should be. It should be something that 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:55.880 everybody recognizes. And it isn't an affirmation that somebody is 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:59.760 giving you. It's more like a confirmation. But I felt 0:03:59.800 --> 0:04:05.120 really good because it's gonna happen. And I guess if 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:07.240 you checked out a previous episode I put up, it 0:04:07.280 --> 0:04:09.480 was entitled do you Really Want It? And I was 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.520 talking about kind of like everything of how I got 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:13.680 to vitamin D right now and when we have to 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:17.240 really make the decision about what we want in our life. 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:19.520 You know, I feel like oftentimes like we say we 0:04:19.560 --> 0:04:21.440 want something, we say we want to do something, but 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.760 then when we look in the mirror, the person looking 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.480 back at us isn't matching the things that we said. Now, 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:29.680 what are the traditional excuses? Um, you're waiting for somebody 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:32.640 else to give you an opportunity. UM, you're waiting for 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:36.520 this opportunity to present itself to you. UM or you're 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:39.200 just waiting for the perfect time to start. And I 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:43.400 can't reiterate this enough. The perfect time is to start now. 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.159 The perfect time for the opportunity is for you to 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:50.960 create one um and build your door, create your seat 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.400 at the table, and you do it by taking one 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:55.640 step in front of the other, put in one foot 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:58.560 in front of the other. Buch leads me to my 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:01.240 next thing. You know, I talked about this as well 0:05:01.320 --> 0:05:05.160 um previous episodes about this whole proning process and UM, 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:08.000 how do people and things are just falling away and 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:11.160 just get into a space where I'm not holding onto things? 0:05:11.160 --> 0:05:13.039 And I guess I want that for you for the 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:16.719 season that we're stepping into, not just season of of 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:20.400 literally of of of the weather, but this season of life. 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:22.880 Like I feel like we need to know the seasons 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:26.520 that we're in like, are you on the planting season, 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:29.560 are you in the needing season of your soil? Are 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:32.000 you in the watering season? And are you in the 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:35.720 reaping seasons of your life? Um? And that goes to 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:39.320 whatever your vision was, whether it's your career, whether it's 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:43.880 your relationship, whether it's your kids, um, whether it's a goal, 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.440 whether it's school. I don't care what it is, but 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:50.679 understanding what that season is, um, but making it apparent 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:52.680 about what it is you want. So, as I was 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:56.720 thinking about that proning process, I know that my dreams 0:05:56.760 --> 0:06:00.520 are manifesting. That's why I'm not so gun hole about 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:05.000 things that aren't working, because as I've matured, it just 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:08.240 lived a little bit more. Ain't nobody trying to carry 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:11.719 nothing else they already got to carry. And what that 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:15.080 means is is that if it's not serving in the 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:18.040 betterment of me, if it's not serving in the betterment 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:23.400 of you, peace And it's no shade. It's just because literally, 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:26.560 what we're asking for more in life, when we're asking 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:31.120 to be elevated, when we're asking to be higher, you 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.719 realize that it's harder to get higher when you're carrying 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:38.080 so much. That's weighing you down. And that's how I 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:41.760 know what I know what I know with going through 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:46.120 the proning process and not not tripping over relationships that 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.960 are dissolving, not tripping on opportunities that I felt or 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:52.280 thought that we're mine, that seems as if they're fleeting 0:06:52.320 --> 0:06:55.839 because what's mine is mine because I see what God 0:06:55.960 --> 0:06:58.960 is doing, because I see that I'm putting one foot 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:01.800 in front of the other and dreams are manifesting. When 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:04.600 I get the confirmation from my fourteen year old nephew 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:08.520 that lives in Michigan talking about his auntie and said 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:10.800 that he just saw, he was like, see, you're gonna 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:19.080 be real big Amen. Amen. And I think also I 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.520 just want to say this too, like when we're asking 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:24.200 ourselves do we really want it right? And we're looking 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:28.840 at this proning process. You got a vision board, I 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:32.320 got a vision board. I think oftentimes we're kind of 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:37.040 duels us A little bit is that we call them 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:39.080 vision boards, but I feel like they're more of like 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:42.680 timeline boards. I was talking to my good friend Shallow. 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:44.320 You may have heard me talk about her on the 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:48.360 previous episode Boys Set on the phone a couple of 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:50.760 days ago, and I said, why is it that people 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:52.720 call these vision boards? Were feeling like they need to 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:54.440 have a new board every year. I said, that's not 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:58.000 a vision board, that's a timeline board. I created my 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:00.520 vision board on the last one I did it. Well, 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:02.240 I didn't do one last year, so it's probably will 0:08:02.280 --> 0:08:05.080 be two years come this December October because I did 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:08.040 it after the moon of one. The new moon was 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:11.000 coming about, and you know they say when you do 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:12.960 stuff on a new moon, that allows for things to 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:15.320 grow with a lot of prosperity. Like when I was younger, 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:18.000 my mother used to always tread my sister and our 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:21.560 hair um according to the moon, and you know that 0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:26.360 was the whole logic behind that. But anyway, I digress. 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:30.240 I'm saying all that to say is that, uh, I'm 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:34.240 realizing even this one and a half years later last 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:37.840 time I did the vision board, things are still manifesting. 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:41.320 And perhaps sometimes that we put too much pressure thinking 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:43.880 that it has to happen at a certain time. Chick, 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:48.280 be easy. You didn't say you want to see you 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.800 set the vision, so the pieces have to come together. 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:53.960 I'm gonna say this right now. One of the things 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:56.600 that I have on my vision board is to be 0:08:56.800 --> 0:09:00.199 a women in media, and the women of color are 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:04.199 syndicated how to read. That's what I'm doing with this podcast. 0:09:06.160 --> 0:09:09.640 I know, Dawn, who are you to be this bold 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:15.320 to say this? I know I am, I am, and 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.200 I want to just encourage you to be that bold. 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:21.239 But you know, as I told you on this podcast 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:27.400 of how I'm learning me and understanding different facets and 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:32.880 different seeing different size of me, I'm working on this 0:09:32.960 --> 0:09:41.200 level of vulnerability, vulnerability. You know, I've always been that 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:45.040 person that somebody says, darn, you're strong, Darn you handle it. 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:46.560 It's kind of like that thing You've gotta get it 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:50.880 done because it's me. But I realized that why I 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:55.080 thought that this whole vulnerability of opening up, uh, this 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:58.760 area of calling like I don't have anything figured out, 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:06.040 I realized that there's actually strength in that. And um, 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:08.680 I had to tap into a Brune Brown because I 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:10.760 told God, I said, I want to be there. I'm 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.480 telling myself I want to be there to be open 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:17.240 to more things. Because when you're vulnerable, you allow yourself 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:23.280 to be open to receive, to release, and also um 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:26.959 to connect. So what did I say to receive, to 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:30.120 release and to connect because it's just open, and it's 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:32.360 just like anything, when you allow things to be open, 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.400 you can you can roll right through it. And one 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:41.720 area that I think that UM, that my vulnerability has 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:44.439 always I guess been open with us. My dreams are 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.600 my dreams, UM. I've always been bold by saying what 0:10:47.679 --> 0:10:51.720 I want, UM, whether it's moving across the country, whether 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:55.240 it's asking for what I feel I deserve or acknowledging 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:57.719 or requesting what it is I'm worth. But I look 0:10:57.720 --> 0:10:59.520 at other areas of my life where I feel as 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:04.400 though no ability could really support that UM. Whether it 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:06.200 is when I first moved in my apartment, I said 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:07.719 about an age of thirty, I said, I'm gonna have 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:11.360 my own apartment to myself. Well, I got in that 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.560 apartment that pertman didn't have any furniture, so I literally 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:17.560 slept on the floor in the comforter, and so people like, well, hey, 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.680 don why don't you just say anything. I guess for me, 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:21.439 a part of it was like, well, I put myself 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.520 in that situation, so I need to figure it out. 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.200 But what happens is that when you don't allow where 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:29.840 you don't share with people what's going on, you don't 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:32.959 leave room for people to support. So as I was 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:38.040 thinking about burnet brown um. She describes vulnerability as the uncertainty, risk, 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:42.840 and emotional exposure. Hence open right and now just so 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:46.000 that I'm falling along with my words. If we're talking 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:48.320 about vitamin D and shutting light, things have to be 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:50.920 open so the lights can get in. Hello, dawing day 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:55.480 okay um. And she describes it as this unstable feeling 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:58.360 we get when we step out of our comfort zone 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:03.920 or do something that forces us to loosen control. Did 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:09.080 you catch it? Let me go again? Unstable feeling we 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.320 get when we step out of our comfort zone or 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:16.040 do something that forces us to loosen control. I see 0:12:16.080 --> 0:12:18.200 how that could be have been better when it comes 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:22.760 to my relationships both into minted platonic um. I see 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:25.640 how that can even be better with myself putting myself 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:29.240 out there being more daring. But I think the reason 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.400 or what has prevented I would say that got in 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:32.959 a way is when we talk about these myths to 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:35.839 thinking about vulnerability, Like one a lot of folks for 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:39.720 like it's weakness, you know, and that's usually like maybe 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:42.640 you've experienced it about telling somebody first that you like them, 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:44.640 or you know, being the one that's going in for 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:49.719 the kiss, or um perhaps even asking to love one 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:53.240 of like how their health is doing, asking somebody else 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:54.360 to do that. I don't care what it is. You 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:58.320 put yourself out on frustrate, right, but it's only there 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.080 the kid you seek to get your answers. When we 0:13:00.120 --> 0:13:01.959 talk about being out of comfort zone, when you talk 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:04.840 about and I said, used this loosely about putting yourself 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:07.680 on blast, but it's putting yourself out there to be seen. 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:14.920 Catch it another one, not this. I'm gonna go into 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:16.400 this one because I feel like this woulda be me. 0:13:17.000 --> 0:13:20.720 I don't do vulnerability. Now. I don't know if I 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:24.040 ever said like I don't do it, but it's the 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:29.040 thing of m probably in the sense of not opening 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.400 it up and asking for help and support that that 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:36.400 kind of shut down some doors. And also um a 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.600 backfire because it was almost a sense that I wasn't 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:43.280 connecting UM. And I think that's one of the things 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:45.440 that's so important we talk about vulnerability. You gotta allow 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:49.320 yourself to be seen, you know, and it's a weight 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:52.160 that you carry when you're constantly trying to protect yourself 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:56.280 or comfort yourself. Take it off, Take it off. I 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.559 said this before and I'm gonna say it again. Gami 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:02.480 said on red table Tall, nobody can beat you with 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:07.120 your own truth. What's your truth? Then this as a 0:14:07.200 --> 0:14:09.400 third one, here we can go at it alone. Like 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:11.600 I said, the second one, probably the third one. It's 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.680 always this thing like I can handle it now. I 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:15.240 think a lot of it has to do with nurture 0:14:15.360 --> 0:14:17.720 and nature. And I say that because I grew up 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:20.000 in a single player a hound fold. Like my mother 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:22.280 was the epitome of strength that I've seen, because here 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.560 she is, she raised two kids, she had a three 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:26.520 year old and three month old, and then your husband 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:28.520 dies and then a year or two after that you 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:31.520 battle cancer. So this whole idea of having to take 0:14:31.560 --> 0:14:33.920 care ofself and having to get done how in the 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:36.760 sense how that vulnerability start doing me that I mentioned 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:40.520 in step two or the second one, is that I 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:43.480 didn't make room for somebody to come support. And that's 0:14:43.480 --> 0:14:46.040 why I want you to make room. After songs, we're 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.280 going after these dreams thinking we have to do it alone, 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:50.640 or being in this sense of having to have all 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:52.680 the control of it. Well, what did I say that 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:56.840 vulnerability is vulnerability is you do something that forces you 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.840 to loose in control. There's the things like when you 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:01.760 think about a company, you think about playing a position, 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.720 when you think about connecting, you have to open it 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.680 up so somebody can step in. Now, I know, I 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:11.080 think I'm a bad mamajamma, and in many retrospects, I 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:13.600 consider myself a god. But I realized that other things 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:15.960 have been placed in front so that can support me 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:17.920 on my way. So when we go with this, I 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:20.440 can do it alone. Aspect, you're literally putting up a 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:23.840 wall and not letting anyone in. You're literally shutting down 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:27.680 that communication. We are here to communicate. Heck, the very 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:30.440 thing eighty percent of your body is based on the 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:35.280 communication of two hydrogen molecules and one oxygen because we're 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.760 made eighty percent of water. So at what point do 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.640 we step into life feeling like we gotta stop communicating? Heck, 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:42.440 let me tell you something right now. Just when I 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:44.040 was talking to Pronou, I'm gonna get real. I'm gonna 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:47.480 call names, but I'm just gonna keep it real. Um, 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:49.400 one of my what I want to say friends, But 0:15:49.440 --> 0:15:53.680 I'm like, I don't know, do you call it a friendship. 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:57.200 You know, sometimes we hold on to two friendships just 0:15:57.240 --> 0:15:59.600 because and it's just like we gotta get to a 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:01.760 point in normalize and the fact that you I'll grow 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:05.800 people and there's no animosity and making it seem like 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.120 it's okay. But I say that because we talked about 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:12.640 this whole realms of communication. And while I'm talking about 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:15.480 communication with self and open of vulnerability, I want to 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:17.640 just give an example what happens when you block off 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:19.960 communication and you gotta be aware to see it. So 0:16:20.040 --> 0:16:22.240 like I was saying somebody I went to college with 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:24.040 when I said, it was like my best friends, like 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:26.640 my brother, like you know, like that was like it 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.840 was us And I don't know, I can't call it 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:31.840 what happened over the years, but what I will say 0:16:31.920 --> 0:16:33.320 is this is that we got to a point of 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:35.880 just even a bump in the heads. And Um, everybody's 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:38.320 not a great communicator, and I get that. I understand that, 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:42.080 Like I probabe myself on being a fantastic communicator. Um, 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:44.720 that's my strength, that is with my gift. That's where 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:48.400 it's at. And this friend or I should say former friend, 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.040 doesn't really have the means to communicate like that. But 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:53.640 what I realized is that when we get about I 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:56.360 don't want to force anything, and that's what I want 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:58.520 to encourage with you is I'm talking about these dreams, 0:16:58.520 --> 0:17:01.200 as we talk about these timeline boards, as we talked 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:05.680 about this communication relationship. We're at a headbut I'm saying, 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:07.680 do you want to talk about it? You haven't called 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:11.399 me back, I'm not carrying it. If you're not picking 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:13.960 up the phone line to receive me, there's nothing to 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:16.720 be sent. So what I'm saying is doesn't mean that 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:18.320 I'm not open, but you have to get to a 0:17:18.359 --> 0:17:20.399 point with yourself of what you have to stand on 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:23.080 your own feet about your integrity with self. What I 0:17:23.119 --> 0:17:25.479 have liked to to resolve this relationship yet, but if 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:27.719 you're not ready, you're not ready. And we see that 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.080 in so many cases of even relationships with people that 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:32.200 you with. We have to get out of this whole 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:34.840 idea of trying to force stuff. Now, that part is 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:38.080 not vulnerability. Vulnerability is saying what it is that you want, 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:42.120 being open to receive, but understanding that loosening that control 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:46.000 that if it doesn't go your way, one you're gonna 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:51.200 be okay, and two you're gonna keep it moving because 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:54.119 even with the communication, communication don't start with yourself. You 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:56.440 don't see it in these hydrogen molecules in your body 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:59.359 block all right, I'm not banging with oxygen today. No, 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:03.040 they worked together. That's part of the survival. And it's like, 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:05.240 as we come together, we have to work together. But 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:08.120 as I'm talking about this friend, I can't force you 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:11.240 to want to communicate. And I realize it's just going 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.560 back to the promise in the vision because if you're there, 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:16.159 you're there, and if it works, it works. But if 0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:18.200 you weren't stepping up to the plate to do it, 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.080 there's nothing that can be done here. And I think 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:24.080 that's what I think is one of the key things 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:26.240 that I want to get across of when we're talking 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:29.359 about vulnerability and opening up for the whole point of 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:32.000 it all. Because I knew reaching out to him that 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:33.920 perhaps he wouldn't have anything to say, but I said, 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.199 let me put myself on fund street because I know 0:18:36.280 --> 0:18:38.919 the healing that I want to do with myself. So 0:18:39.000 --> 0:18:41.760 let me just say this again, we're talking about not 0:18:41.960 --> 0:18:44.320 using your vulnerability. Do you know how how you do 0:18:44.400 --> 0:18:47.600 anything is how you do everything? I tell Jeremiah, Jeremiah, 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:50.680 all this all the time. If I am stopping my 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:54.240 vulnerability of not being able to communicate with somebody else 0:18:54.280 --> 0:18:57.080 outside of me, do you understand how that backfires and 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:01.240 hits me where actually vulnerability will do me well, I 0:19:01.280 --> 0:19:04.119 won't even know. I won't even understand in the sense 0:19:04.160 --> 0:19:06.959 I won't even effectively communicate because I won't even know 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:10.400 what I'm feeling because we are made of these materials 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:13.879 and these molecules that are meant to communicate. Hen So 0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:15.520 why they always say you gotta go with it for 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:21.320 your dreams. Huh? But here's the thing. If it doesn't flow, 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:26.720 it can't go. So yeah, this was just about dawn 0:19:27.680 --> 0:19:32.560 walking into fact, reaffirming the aspect of dreams. Um two, 0:19:33.560 --> 0:19:39.040 Understanding how big vulnerability plays a factor in that, being 0:19:39.080 --> 0:19:41.520 open to see it being up and to understand what 0:19:41.560 --> 0:19:44.800 it is you want, and really understanding that the greater 0:19:44.920 --> 0:19:48.600 the risk, the greater the reward. Are you ready to 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:51.720 be vulnerable with yourself? Are you really ready to sit 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:54.679 down and be honest with yourself about what you really want? 0:19:56.200 --> 0:19:58.800 If it frustrated, I bet there's some miscommunication going on. 0:20:00.720 --> 0:20:02.679 I think it's time to have a conversation with yourself. 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:04.600 I think it's time to be real, to understand what 0:20:04.640 --> 0:20:06.080 it is that you wanted, what it is that you 0:20:06.119 --> 0:20:09.159 don't want. Because yet again, when it comes down to 0:20:09.160 --> 0:20:11.360 do you really want it? When you're saying the things 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:12.800 that you want in your life and when you're looking 0:20:12.840 --> 0:20:14.480 in the mirror and the person looking back at you 0:20:14.560 --> 0:20:16.320 it's and matching up, then what is it what you 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:19.040 can say, Hey, Dawn, I want to be this multimillionaire. 0:20:19.240 --> 0:20:21.480 Hey Dawn, I want to owe my own media company. 0:20:21.720 --> 0:20:23.560 What do they say? Faith with our works? Instead, you 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:25.879 don't have to wait for it to materialize. See so 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:28.280 you think it's so you are, you have to already 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:30.639 be it. I'm not waiting for the million dollars to 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:32.639 come into my account for me to start acting like it. 0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:35.400 I'm already imagining the lifestyle that i want, the type 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:37.440 of trips that I'm taking, the reach that I'm gonna have, 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:42.400 just everything. It's already here. But it takes a level 0:20:42.400 --> 0:20:46.720 of vulnerability to even reach outside of that, to even 0:20:46.800 --> 0:20:50.560 see outside of that. So perhaps it's also blanketed it 0:20:50.640 --> 0:20:54.119 with the level of grace. Have your your vulnerability, but 0:20:54.160 --> 0:20:58.520