1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting, 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,160 Speaker 1: FM and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading 5 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:17,160 Speaker 1: your letter live on the air, just like we're gonna 6 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: read this one right here today. Okay, bug it up 7 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:21,920 Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here. 8 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letters subject the minister wants more 9 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: than my todds. All right, Dear Stephen Shirley. I am 10 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 1: a twenty nine year old single female and my dad 11 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: is a well known pastor. I moved back home after 12 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: college and I've been a big part of the church 13 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: family since then. I help out with the youth ministry 14 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: and I get along well with the youth minister. He 15 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: is five years older than me and he's married. The 16 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: youth minister and I always had great faith based talks 17 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: and I looked up to him as a spiritual mentor 18 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 1: until recently. Two weeks ago, after service, he was walking 19 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: me to my car and he said, we need to 20 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: talk about sex and salvation and I was like, say what. 21 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: I reminded him that I was abstinate and did not 22 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:14,200 Speaker 1: want to talk about sex at all. He said he 23 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: needed to confide in me because he is a natural 24 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:21,199 Speaker 1: born freak and he's ready to leave his wife because 25 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: she can no longer satisfy his sexual needs. Then he 26 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 1: said there is nothing wrong with having sex before marriage, 27 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: that God created sex for men and women to use, 28 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: not abuse. He told me that every man in the 29 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,479 Speaker 1: church talks about how I am a brick house and 30 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,280 Speaker 1: it's a shame that I won't let anyone show me 31 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:44,759 Speaker 1: how to use this gift to my advantage. He said, 32 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,000 Speaker 1: being sexually active is a natural thing if experienced with 33 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: the right person. He said that he could show me 34 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: all of this mess that he said goes against everything 35 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 1: that I've been taught. I know I may sound slow, 36 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: but he'd be right, and I'm saving myself for nothing. 37 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: I am somewhat attracted to him, and the thought of 38 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 1: him teaching me about my body and sex is enticing. 39 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 1: But he's married. What do you think is it worth 40 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 1: the weight? Or should I go ahead and get a 41 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: little experience from someone that's willing to help me? Wow? Wow, 42 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: this guy is a minister. Huh, Well, he should know better. 43 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: He really should know better. And he's a youth minister 44 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 1: on top of that, so he's leading our youth. What 45 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 1: he's doing is tempting you. And I got to ask you, 46 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 1: please don't take the bait. Don't listen to him talking 47 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: about how he's a natural born freek who's ready to 48 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 1: leave his wife because she can't satisfy him sexually. What 49 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: does that have to do with youth ministry and he's 50 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 1: married on top of that. You know, this is why 51 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:54,920 Speaker 1: they say, and this is why you have to please 52 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 1: know God for yourself and don't let anyone tell you 53 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: their version or their interpretation of the truth. You can 54 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: read the Bible just like he can, and he can 55 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 1: tell you these things, but you have to read in 56 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: there what it says. If you're a Christian and you 57 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 1: want to do what it says, you're in the church, 58 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: so hopefully you know you would want to lead by example. 59 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, yeah, sex is natural and all 60 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: of that stuff, but we also have a thing called 61 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:22,160 Speaker 1: self control. Now I'm speaking to you because you're in 62 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: the church and you're around the youth and all the stuff. 63 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: You know, and he should be leading the youth, not 64 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: trying to mislead the youth with what he's talking about. 65 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:33,959 Speaker 1: He's trying to have sex with you and he's married. Okay, 66 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: all of that's wrong. No, you should not let him 67 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 1: give you this experience and all of that he is wrong. 68 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: He's got a wife at home. If I were you, 69 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: I would tell my dad what he's doing and let 70 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:48,560 Speaker 1: him know that this youth minister is trying to lead 71 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: you down the wrong path as well. Steve, I'm not 72 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 1: going along with this total naive conversation. Twenty nine female, Fine, 73 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: come home working into daddy's church. Now youth ministers five 74 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: years old. And you y'all always had great faith based talks. 75 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: You know, you always looked up to him as a 76 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: spiritual mentor. And then he was walking you to your 77 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: cond and he said the one thing that I don't 78 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 1: know how he put in the same sentence, but he said, 79 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: let's talk about sex and salvation. Let me immediately make 80 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: a statement that it is filled with corruption, sex and salvation, 81 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: lost and found. That's the same time glory. It's what 82 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: we're talking about with sex and salvation. All right. You 83 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: know that's like saying the Boogeyman ain't really that scary. 84 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: I would venture to say, come on here now that 85 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: this young man wants to bid you, w wants to 86 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: laid down in any kind of pass, not where the 87 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: Lord lead him, but where he wants to go. Yeah, 88 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:15,279 Speaker 1: because how in the hell is we walk into the 89 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: car and all of a sudden the subject of sex 90 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:26,600 Speaker 1: and salvation pop up. It didn't come out of nowhere. 91 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:36,479 Speaker 1: She had been devising this, planning it, nurturing the moment 92 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: land in weight and bush walked you to the car, 93 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: walk on down. He said he needed to confide in 94 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 1: you because he is quote unquote a natural bone freak. Yes, 95 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: that's from the end bl foundation. What's that? What's that mean? 96 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: Right now? Then? Is the natural born freaks of a male? 97 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: I mean now he's ready to leave his wife because 98 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: she can no longer satisfy his sexual need. Anybody ever 99 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: wandered she might not be satisfied. Well, you know, sometimes 100 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: we want to say that they can't satisfy us no more, 101 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: when it's actually us that can't satisfy them. No, we 102 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: come back. We're gonna get into this thing way deeper. 103 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:43,280 Speaker 1: Then you're gonna wound us to get in there. Man 104 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: man again. All right, Part two coming up. Steve's response 105 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:56,640 Speaker 1: right after this at eight twenty three, you're listening, all right, 106 00:06:56,800 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 1: does Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letters some like the 107 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: minister wants more than my time, Yes he does. He 108 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 1: won't hug. He walked up to her car and in 109 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 1: the same sentence said, he wanted to discuss six in Salvation. Yes, 110 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: let's talk about it. I want to talk about freedom 111 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: and slavery. What you know, since we're talking about stuff 112 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: that don't go you want to talk about six and salvation? Right? Well, 113 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: ain't that about nothing? Let's you and I get into this. 114 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: He told me that he needed my attention because his 115 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: wife could no longer satisfy him sexuality. What was that? 116 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 1: Sexual wild sexual wilder because he is a natural bone freak, 117 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: a member of the NBA, and he's ready to leave 118 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: his wife because she can no longer satisfy his sex 119 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: for me. Then he went on to say, listen to 120 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: this lie. There's nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. 121 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: Now you know that ain't technically right. You know that, 122 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: mister minister, And for you to miss guide this woman 123 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 1: is really you're going to heal faster than you need 124 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: to know about right now, and said that oh, ain't 125 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 1: nothing wrong with having sexual marriage. That God created sex 126 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: for men and women to use, not abused. He also says, 127 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: when you marry to cleave only unto her and to 128 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: leave all others. But you hadn't still he help in 129 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: your face leave it. He told me that every man 130 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: in the church talks about how I am a brick house, 131 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: and it's a shame that I won't let anyone show 132 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: me how to use this gift to my advance. Well 133 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: right now, he said that being sexually active is a 134 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: natural thing. It just come out natural. Sometimes you just 135 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: sitting there and all of a sudden, something natural healthy. 136 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: You're just sitting there, just feeling all natural. Next thing 137 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: you know, naturally is everywhere natural. Now you looking at it, 138 00:09:55,240 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: Now you naturally slove it. Now you drooland. Now you're 139 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:10,439 Speaker 1: saying stuff. All this is natural. He said that he 140 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: could show me all of this mess that he said 141 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 1: goes against everything that I've been taught. He go gets 142 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 1: what he's been taught. I know I may sound slow, 143 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: but could he be right? And am I saving myself 144 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:31,840 Speaker 1: for nothing? I am somewhat attracted to him and thought 145 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: of him teaching me about my body and sexis Entyson, 146 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:39,439 Speaker 1: but he's married. What do you think is it worth 147 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:41,120 Speaker 1: the weight? Or should I go ahead and get a 148 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: little experience from someone that's willing to help. Girl, First 149 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: of all, letting me help you understand you don't need 150 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: no help. Come on, pastor, uh, I'll say that again. 151 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 1: You don't need no help. Just continue being the fine 152 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 1: young woman that you are and know that real help 153 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: is on the way. See God gonna send you what 154 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:23,640 Speaker 1: you need. He's not gonna let you live without it. 155 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 1: So hold on. Stay away from this married man. That's 156 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: a dangerous trap. He's not leaving his wife. He's lying 157 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: about that. He may be a natural bone freak, but 158 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 1: you don't need to find out how freaky he is. 159 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: He would put you in a no win situation, young lady. 160 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:46,280 Speaker 1: There's nothing to gain from it from you at all. 161 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: It's all a win win from him. Tell him to 162 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: kiss yo behind, Tell him to take your behind, put 163 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: it in a box, kiss it and don't miss a corona. 164 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 1: Tell him that hell is awaiting him. Tell your daddy, 165 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: the pastor, that's what I said. Tell your daddy. That's 166 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:18,199 Speaker 1: really all I have to say about this. Oh thank you, Pastor. 167 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:20,080 Speaker 1: Do we want to her to send a picture though 168 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 1: the times till two thousand and three at y'allhood dot coms. 169 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 1: We just see this brick house. Do you get any 170 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 1: pictures in there? You've been pushing any pictures? Make it? Boy? 171 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: Do I tell him on what he gets loaded? I 172 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: need to know because I'll give you the colde because 173 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 1: I can't use it no more. I give you the 174 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: code you realize you're married. I ain't stupid. The last 175 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: thing I'm am stupid? No that last statement. No, No, 176 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: that's not the last thing you are, thank you uncle. 177 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: Still you're gonna stop saying last thing I am stupid. 178 00:12:53,559 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 1: That's the very first thing. All right. You can email 179 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: us your Instagram us, your thoughts on the Strawberry letter. 180 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 1: For today, it's Steve Harvey f M. All right, we'll 181 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,560 Speaker 1: be back with more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show 182 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.