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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not putting my kids

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Speaker 1: in private school for free? So my husband thirty nine male,

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Speaker 1: and I thirty seven female, have been together for sixteen years,

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Speaker 1: married for thirteen. We have two COVID babies who I

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Speaker 1: of them who are currently enrolled in public school. Who

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Speaker 1: went to public school? Here your boy two v two

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Speaker 1: TV Twotholic.

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Speaker 2: Private school was, but Sam went to like, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I feel like the boys at your school pretty crazy.

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Speaker 3: Well just boys are crazy.

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Speaker 2: Everywhere, okay, okay, but no, like especially in middle school.

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Speaker 3: Oh the boys. Your boys in my middle school were terrible.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like crazy, Oh my god, they were nightmare.

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Speaker 3: Okay, story time about the boys in mass school.

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Speaker 4: Here we go.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Pinky Baine on the

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Speaker 1: r slash. Okay, storytime subd So the backstory. When I

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Speaker 1: first met my husband in two thousand and seven, he

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Speaker 1: was in a really bad place. It was so bad

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Speaker 1: I agreed to go on a date with him. That

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Speaker 1: was at his nice that's nice, but was that his

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Speaker 1: like thing where it's like go on a day with me.

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Speaker 2: Or I think it was more like he was like,

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Speaker 2: I've got nothing to live for and then hope he

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Speaker 2: was like hey.

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Speaker 5: He was like.

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Speaker 1: He had been kicked out of his home by his

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Speaker 1: mom after a fight because he came home smelling like smoke.

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Speaker 1: He worked at a bar and a restaurant at the time,

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Speaker 1: or maybe it was just by a campfire. No, come on,

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Speaker 1: that fight was the straw that broke the camel's back

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Speaker 1: and he went no contact with her. He lost his

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Speaker 1: job just a few months after. He moved in with

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Speaker 1: a coworker and they eventually asked him to pay up

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Speaker 1: or leave. I guess from the apartment he was CouchSurfing

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Speaker 1: when he could, but mostly living in his car when

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Speaker 1: he couldn't stay at a friend's place. He sold plasma

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Speaker 1: to earn jail enough money to take me on that date,

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Speaker 1: buying me a single rose and put four gallons of

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Speaker 3: That's insane.

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Speaker 1: Wow, literally his last bit of money like plasma, plasma

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Speaker 1: blood part of his body.

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Speaker 6: Romance isn't dead.

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Speaker 5: Chivalry, man.

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Speaker 1: He didn't eat anything for three days after our date

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Speaker 1: until he could donate plasma again. He never told me

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Speaker 1: any of this until we've been dating for five months.

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Speaker 1: After he broke down and told me everything, I couldn't

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Speaker 1: leave him like that, Oh, like was she considering leaving him?

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Speaker 3: So I brought him home with me.

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Speaker 1: I walked in and told my parents that this is

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Speaker 1: on our neighbors spare room. Says my dad would have

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Speaker 1: odd reason. My whole family accepted him with open arms

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Speaker 1: He calls me his angel because of me saying yes

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Speaker 1: to that date was the difference between life and death

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Speaker 3: Wow, that's I'm just about to say that.

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Speaker 1: I was just about to say that. That's a lot like, Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's cute, but imagine, imagine if it's not going well, yeah,

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Speaker 4: With me, and then anything goes wrong in the relationship,

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Speaker 4: It's like, ah, yeah.

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Speaker 5: Just put a lot of pressure.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it does seem however, to his credit, it does

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Speaker 1: Was It was pretty good, right, but but like my

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Speaker 1: to stay Good's the question? That's the question. So he

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Speaker 1: So everything was good, but here we go. I didn't

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Speaker 3: White white's blink white.

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Speaker 1: Nothing that was obviously racist, but very neatly. When he

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Speaker 1: getting her master's degree. When he tried to talk about

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Speaker 5: We don't care.

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Speaker 1: After several other meetings like this, we both decided it

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Speaker 1: You know, if someone's not making you feel good totally,

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Speaker 1: I don't think you have a time to day. We

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Speaker 1: usually Mother's Day, slash her birthday, and Christmas, and we

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Speaker 1: complete radio silence the rest of the year. They don't

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Speaker 1: it's day like this for nearly a decade. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: they've been like there now for thirteen years until we

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Speaker 1: fine until it wasn't. Fourteen months after we had Marcus,

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Speaker 1: oh no. The first thing mother in law said when

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Speaker 3: What is it trying to tell you?

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Speaker 4: Guys?

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Speaker 3: Babies are ugly. That's basic. That's the that's the headline.

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Speaker 3: So it did show me a picture of a baby.

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Speaker 2: Recently, everyone comes the babies are very cute. But the

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Speaker 2: first picture I saw them was like face screwed up.

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Speaker 3: Well, because they're all squistions.

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Speaker 4: They know when they just come out their faces because

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Speaker 4: still have sophia feel see the cone. There's a cone

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Speaker 5: Your head, you'd look like a cone.

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Speaker 4: Do you have a cone head? It's coney, yes, it

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Speaker 4: Uh, my head was so large that after much, much

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Speaker 3: So I had to be sea stick. That's what happened.

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Speaker 1: Oh, so like it got like head, My face was bruised.

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Speaker 1: My head, My little baby's skulls are soft.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so my.

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Speaker 4: Was pushed in like a like a roof shape. It

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Speaker 3: Your poor mother.

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Speaker 4: My dome piece was just too freaking My dome piece

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Speaker 2: I recently asked my mom, how are how her birth sweat?

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Speaker 2: And apparently mine was easier and Sam was smaller. He

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Speaker 3: Two weeks early. I was let's say, I'm the best child. Man,

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Speaker 3: I was easier. Yeah, who am I I'm.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't Oh what a cute little alien, because most

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Speaker 1: newborns look weird. It was, oh she looks darker than Marcus.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's a shame.

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Speaker 2: Not even a microaggression, just to full on aggression.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yep.

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Speaker 1: Because of this and other comments, we continue to stay low.

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Speaker 1: Contact with mother in law makes sense.

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Speaker 5: Yes, why would you want that around your children?

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Speaker 1: Sister a law did make an effort to spend time

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Speaker 1: to be in gymnastics and humbling classes every week for

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Speaker 1: We said no and didn't let Marcus and Christine sleep

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Speaker 2: That's a big yeah, especially because I mean young children

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, exactly, and then they start crying it takes

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Speaker 1: Also, the lawyer princesses granted second kids are always easier

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Speaker 1: get wrecked. Sophia cistern in Law asked to take Marcus

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Speaker 3: What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: While she climbed a mountain peak over and over when

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Speaker 5: Wait, I'm sorry. She's like, hey, can I take him

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna climb a mountain and he's gonna stay at

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he's three. Uh, he should be learning.

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Speaker 5: He should figure it out.

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Speaker 4: How do you how do you survive base camp? If

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Speaker 5: She calls up, She's like, hey, can I take you

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna leave him in the woods with a switch

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna go figure it out. He's gonna figure it out.

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Speaker 3: Character is gonna be built, It's gonna be a baby.

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Speaker 1: I want my baby to really just have all the

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Speaker 1: skills necessary to survive. And if you just give them

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Speaker 1: those skills, they won't really cultivate it for themselves, you know.

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Speaker 1: Teach a baby to survive or no, get the baby

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Speaker 1: survive for a day. Teach a baby to survive in

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Speaker 5: He'll never die.

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Speaker 3: They'll never die for a lifetime, for forever.

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Speaker 1: So Sister a Law didn't talk to us for a

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Speaker 1: few months after we said no to that. Most recently,

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Speaker 1: Sister a Law asked to go camping this summer. We

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Speaker 2: Now, you know, I think in those cases there are

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Speaker 5: It's just let them get out their emotions in other ways.

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Speaker 4: To look it up, Montessori school is basically where they

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Speaker 2: Like I don't think that going to an all girls

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I did a great experience in all schools that

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Speaker 2: I did have a great experience. Obviously, you know there's

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Speaker 1: Let's go what's your opinion on public versus private schools

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Speaker 2: what we pay today. It's like over twenty thousand for

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Speaker 2: the high school that I went to. Yeah, like I

447
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Speaker 2: heard of it can be yeah, like a like Harvard

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Speaker 2: Super Harvard West fifty k.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's super excitive, which is not.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think ours when we went it was under

451
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Speaker 2: it was like fifteen or lower something.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe lower than that.

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Speaker 3: But now it's super super expensive. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Once I recovered from the sticker shock and with some

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Speaker 1: nudging from my husband, I agreed to consider the offer

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Speaker 1: even though the whole thing made me uneasy, sisterlow was

457
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Speaker 1: all excited as if I'd already said yes, and said

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Speaker 1: she'd do all the leg work and get details from us.

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Speaker 3: That was back at the end of a lot. Fast

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Speaker 3: forward this week.

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Speaker 1: Sister in law called my husband on Tuesday and told

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Speaker 1: him that the private school she talked to had an

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Speaker 1: opening for Marcus and he could start right now. The

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Speaker 1: first issue is that there's only room for Marcus. Christine

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Speaker 1: would have to be put on the waiting list for

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Speaker 1: an opening that might not even happen until next year.

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Speaker 1: So Christine and Marcus would be to two different schools

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Speaker 1: that are across town from each other. Right now, we

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Speaker 1: depend on my mom to get them to school on time.

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Speaker 1: I meet with her in the mornings on my way

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Speaker 1: to work. She takes them to school, picks them up

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Speaker 1: from school, and I picked them up from grandma's house

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Speaker 1: after work. It's a lot, but it works. The second

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Speaker 1: issue is that Marcus doesn't do good with change. Last year,

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Speaker 1: he was picked up by bus from Grandma's and take

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Speaker 1: him to the school campus for the special needs class.

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Speaker 1: He was extremely upset when he figured out that this

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Speaker 1: year he'd be in a different school. The only reason

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Speaker 1: we walked into the school was because his sister Christine

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Speaker 1: told him it would be okay and she'd be with him.

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Speaker 1: She had his hand all the way to their classrooms.

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Speaker 1: It's been seven weeks and he's only just now settling

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Speaker 1: into the new school and routine. He gets to play

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Speaker 1: with his sister at recess and right now he has

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Speaker 1: two private speech therapists he sees every week. One therapist

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Speaker 1: comes to Grandma's house and one he sees in a clinic,

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Speaker 1: which Grandma drives him to both or right after school.

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Speaker 1: He also has an assigned speech pathologist at the public

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Speaker 1: school who works one on one with him three times

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Speaker 1: a week. It's like, yeah, would you get that setup?

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Speaker 1: Would he get that kind of support at this new school?

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Speaker 5: I don't know, maybe not, maybe not, And it also

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Speaker 5: might be a lot more.

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Speaker 1: Put the money into college fund? Yeah yeah, yeah, Well

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Speaker 1: I don't. I feel like they only wanted to be

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Speaker 1: used for private school. But you know what, we want

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Speaker 1: you to be used for this live stream on YouTube

498
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Speaker 1: every week day three PMPST just taber profile. So my

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Speaker 1: husband really wants to go to a private school because

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Speaker 1: he wants to give them the best of everything. He's

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Speaker 1: upset with himself and thinks he's a failure because he's

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Speaker 1: not in a place financially where he could pay for

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Speaker 1: it himself. He refuses to see how hard he's worked

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Speaker 1: to get where we are are now. He thinks it

505
00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 1: is not enough and he's stupid, worthless and doesn't deserve me.

506
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Speaker 1: I've done the research and spoken to some trusted family members,

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Speaker 1: one of them is also a teacher, and they've all

508
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Speaker 1: said the same thing. The best thing is for him

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Speaker 1: to stay where he is until next year, and that

510
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Speaker 1: we run the risk of him shutting down because of

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Speaker 1: such a big change.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Also, like switching schools in the middle of the.

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Speaker 5: Year, someone who is in like specialized classes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's so many change the dynamic with a sister.

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Speaker 4: They're like holding hands every class, playing it like it's

516
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Speaker 4: it's perfect.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and he has it seems like he gets all

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Speaker 1: the resources he needs to get.

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Speaker 5: Back at ours and he's doing well.

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Speaker 1: Like what is this private school going to do that

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Speaker 1: will improve things?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 1: Like is it just extra money? Like you know, not

524
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Speaker 1: all private schools are that great.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it feels like it really is just the in name.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Yeah, cislied pushing the private school because it's a

527
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Speaker 1: smaller class, and we run the risk of Marcus being

528
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Speaker 1: pushed through the public system and something will get missed,

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Speaker 1: and there's no guarantee that the private school will have

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Speaker 1: an opening for either kid next year. I'm trying so

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Speaker 1: hard to do what's best for both of my babies,

532
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 1: but I don't know what to do anymore. Am I

533
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Speaker 1: the a hole for not wanting to put my son

534
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Speaker 1: in private school? I want to know from you guys,

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Speaker 1: what do you think is OP the a hole for

536
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: not putting the son in private school?

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Speaker 3: John?

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Speaker 1: Like and Sofia like, what do you think OP should do?

539
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 1: Are they the a hole for not putting their son

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Speaker 1: in private school?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 1: What do you think should be part of the decision

543
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Speaker 1: making process with this?

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Speaker 4: I feel like there's kind of an undercurrent here of

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Speaker 4: like the and this is the this is the good grandparents,

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Speaker 4: right that.

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Speaker 5: Are so this is her husband's sister.

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Speaker 4: Right, the one that took him through him in the woods? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I think ultimately like, uh, like this is the parents decision,

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Speaker 4: and yeah, the sister in law.

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Speaker 3: They seem like very they're really trying to like.

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Speaker 4: Kind of impose their will on the kid and like

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Speaker 4: make it a decisions and ultimately, at the end of

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Speaker 4: the day, this is the parent's decision and they need

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00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 4: to like understand that. And you're like, look, you don't

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Speaker 4: get the final say and what happens to the kid.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, there's that for one and then two.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it seems like I don't know, to me, it

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Speaker 4: kind of feels like they're just they just want to

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Speaker 4: get their way and not even it's not even necessarily

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Speaker 4: about what the kid.

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Speaker 2: No and or what's best for him. And I also

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Speaker 2: think I think it is harder because the husband, like

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Speaker 2: you do have two parent different like ideas from the

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Speaker 2: two different parents. Yeah, but I do think you just

566
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Speaker 2: have to have a conversation with your husband and say

567
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Speaker 2: it's not if he doesn't go to private school.

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Speaker 5: It is not like it doesn't look bad on you.

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Speaker 2: He's still doing great in his public school and he's

570
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Speaker 2: getting a great.

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Speaker 1: Education, and it like I think the question is is

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Speaker 1: anything in deficit? And if there is anything that is

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Speaker 1: in deficit in his social or academic life, what will

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Speaker 1: the private school do to help out with that? So

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Speaker 1: I think that's kind of like the analysis that needs

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Speaker 1: to be done to just side whether the kid should move.

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00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 1: The other thing is like, I don't think you should

578
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: move during the middle of the year. Definitely not so

579
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 1: waiting until next year. No need to rush conspiracy theory.

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00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:16,359
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm off base here, but remember in earlier in

581
00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 1: the story where the mother in law was like, oh,

582
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,400
Speaker 1: she's so much darker than Marcus.

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Speaker 2: I do think there is like some favoritism, favoritism towards

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Speaker 2: Marcus because he's lighter.

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Speaker 1: I feel like the sister in law is favoring Marcus

586
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Speaker 1: because he's lighter, and like this whole like, oh, there's

587
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: only space for Marcus. She probably Marcus. Like is that

588
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: based in some kind of racism. I'm maybe totally off base,

589
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 1: but I think.

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Speaker 2: So because I think the fact that we got that

591
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 2: information about the mother in law, it does seem like Chris, yeah, right,

592
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 2: that family has maybe that mindset.

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Speaker 4: She's probably indoctrinated that into into the sister, even if

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00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 4: the sister doesn't even realize that's what she's doing.

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Speaker 5: Unconscious biased Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, death or death or rage says. I can't

597
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Speaker 1: believe Mama can't see the racist undertones with everything this

598
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 1: sister is doing. Michelle they only want to pay for Marcus.

599
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: They don't see the daughter as family too.

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, where there was literally zero mention of

601
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Speaker 4: activities or anything with which, which like.

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Speaker 3: It altera needs less help to be fair. But yeah,

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00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 3: yeah true.

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00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 4: But yeah, in my in my mind, I'm like, if

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00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 4: I have like the you know, the aunt's uncle couple

606
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Speaker 4: that's like really wanting to be involved with their nieces

607
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Speaker 4: and nephews, they want to be involved with like all

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Speaker 4: of them, like roughly approximately equal. Yeah, I mean that's

609
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 4: how it's just common. Yeah, exactly true.

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Speaker 3: Also, one more thing on schools.

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Speaker 1: My friend went to a Quaker school and like just

612
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Speaker 1: like played in the Mud and he's really cool.

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Speaker 3: MUD's great, He's super cool and very smart.

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Speaker 2: I want to wait, uh you told me last name.

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Speaker 2: What's the school with the what's it called immersion school

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Speaker 2: where they can learn multiple languages? Oh yeah, that's I

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Speaker 2: just want to make sure that my whatever my kid goes,

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Speaker 2: there's a good language program, because I didn't have a

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Speaker 2: good language program all.

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Speaker 3: I don't know all of them.

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Speaker 5: Schools are good to have.

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Speaker 1: Immersion If you want a second language, yes, but then

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Speaker 1: your kids can talk behind your back.

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Speaker 3: I'll let it you learn the language, and then that's true.

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Speaker 3: They come back and it's never too late, never too late.

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Speaker 5: Significantly with them.

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Speaker 3: We could probably an episode.

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Speaker 4: I think we call that an episode.

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Speaker 2: They get a fun discussion about public versus exactly.

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Speaker 4: I like that'll be.

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Speaker 2: Comment education just say we're not who says we're not educational?

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Speaker 3: We're so educational, super education.

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Speaker 5: We should change the title of our show to education, education, Education.

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Speaker 3: Send your kids here. Just watch our podcast all day long.

635
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 5: That you'll get you You learn something.

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Speaker 1: Something, how to navigate the relationships that matter most exactly.

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Speaker 3: We did.

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Speaker 1: Oh just about how crazy my uh like all boys school.

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Speaker 1: It was my all boys it.

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Speaker 3: Was my middle middle school. I've said this.

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Speaker 1: A little bit, but my grade in middle school was

642
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Speaker 1: so notorious.

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00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 5: It was notorious for years, four years under.

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Speaker 1: Every teacher was afraid when our class would come because

645
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: our group of boys was terrible. These were boys that

646
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: were getting like blowies and movie theaters in fourth grade,

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Speaker 1: like insane. These were people that were like smoking weed

648
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 1: and doing salvia and doing like like like you know,

649
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Speaker 1: psychedelics in like fifth or sixth grade.

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Speaker 3: These are boys.

651
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:08,160
Speaker 1: That these are boys that would be like smoking like

652
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 1: SIGs and vaping before it was really a thing.

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Speaker 3: They created the bath room.

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Speaker 1: These are boys that this poor teacher who was like

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Speaker 1: one of the older teachers in Missus Hanson, one of

656
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Speaker 1: the older teachers who was probably like I don't know,

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Speaker 1: she seemed like a hundred.

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Speaker 5: But she was probably when she taught us, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: She was, she seemed well, yeah, but she was.

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Speaker 5: She quit yeah our year and then she came back.

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Speaker 1: And she came back, but she quit because the boys

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Speaker 1: terrorized her so much. I remember these these like anytime

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Speaker 1: she uh, there was this like game like all the

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Speaker 1: boys played. I was not involved because I wasn't cool enough,

665
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Speaker 1: but there was a game as soon as she uh

666
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Speaker 1: turned her every time she turned her back, and all

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Speaker 1: the boys would throw p she is a paper h

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Speaker 1: in the air at each other and at her, and

669
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 1: that would be super still, but it was coming from

670
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 1: like twelve dishit for directions, and so she would get

671
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:15,680
Speaker 1: super pissed at that. And then someone like she always

672
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: would drink her water bottle out of a straw, and

673
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 1: someone taped the bottom of her straw so she couldn't

674
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: drink it. Remember she like she was like and she

675
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 1: couldn't drink it, and she took it out and she

676
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: saw taping the bottle.

677
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 3: She's like, did.

678
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 1: Did I think that was like one of the things

679
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: that made her quit? Oh my god, dude.

680
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 3: Yeah.

681
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 1: It was a simple prank, but very effective if you're

682
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: trying to like mess with someone's mental sanity.

683
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like it's like so small but so infuriated.

684
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 3: Infuriated, you know.

685
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 6: Like hand sanitizer and a drink or something. Oh my god,

686
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 6: Yeah that happened at my school.

687
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:59,880
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, but one of them was dating Olivia Whole,

688
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 2: who one of the guys from your year.

689
00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 5: She's a Disney Channel star.

690
00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean like like people of my year

691
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: went on dates with like the Kardashians and so so

692
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't hang out with these people. But

693
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 1: Marcel hung out with these people, the Kings of the Valley.

694
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:24,719
Speaker 1: There was like a show about them, and they would

695
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 1: like literally land to parties and helicopters and stuff like

696
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 1: school not no, that not well, no, this was at

697
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 1: Saint Cyril, so Roman Colombo, he's known on that, but

698
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:42,400
Speaker 1: like like like that was a he went to school

699
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: with with Christian and like like that whole squad of

700
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 1: people like were they were getting like show. They were

701
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:51,800
Speaker 1: like the I heard stories about them in middle school,

702
00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: like they were they were like our local celebrities, but

703
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 1: were kind of actually celebrities because they hung out with

704
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 1: the Kardashians and like all of these uh like like

705
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: people in the valley and stuff.

706
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:06,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so insane, it's so wild.

707
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 5: I don't think we had that.

708
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 6: I just know one kid that made it to the

709
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:11,719
Speaker 6: MLB that's as famous.

710
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 5: I don't think we had any really famous people at

711
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 5: our I know, but.

712
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 4: Like like being that that some sort of proximity to

713
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 4: that is like I was very I just.

714
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 3: Heard stories about that. I was very far.

715
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 4: You're not you're not directly involved, but I was actually

716
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 4: friends with all that.

717
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 2: That's crazy stories your kids in l A.

718
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 5: I personally had a great upbringing.

719
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're all right.

720
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 5: I like living in l A. I still live.

721
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,360
Speaker 1: Like, like, I think l A can be good. You

722
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 1: just don't hang out with Yeah, just.

723
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Speaker 3: Keep your kids away from We didn't do a great

724
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:58,439
Speaker 3: job to that's kind of oh yeah, like taking ass

725
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:00,840
Speaker 3: and it's not you know, drinking my.

726
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 5: Veryone else.

727
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 3: Was terrible.

728
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 5: God, it's just Sam's Yeah, I'm a little afraid. Oh

729
00:36:09,200 --> 00:36:09,560
Speaker 5: my god,