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Speaker 1: are back yet again on a Monday. I hope you're

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Speaker 1: Mondays for real, for real, I actually love fucking Mondays.

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Speaker 1: this is Horrible Decisions. That's your girl, Mandy B. And

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Speaker 1: I'm wheezy. Hi everybody, Hey, and I'm super cute. We

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Speaker 1: have a dope guest this week. I'm very excited to

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Speaker 1: have her on. UM. If you guys are familiar with

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Speaker 1: the Grapevine that comes on YouTube, it's a millennial based

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Speaker 1: show that kind of talks a lot on the topics

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Speaker 1: that we have here on Horrible Decisions, UM, from a

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Speaker 1: lot of just well educated, well spoken black professionals that

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Speaker 1: ahead and introduce yourself to our listeners? Hey, y'all, my

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Speaker 1: name is Aisha Faints and you might know me from

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Speaker 1: the grape Vine, my own podcast Inside the Pink or

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Speaker 1: what does that mean? Inside the Pink? What you think

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Speaker 1: that puts thinking? Means? Actually we it a sex product. Um,

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Speaker 1: we just talk about sex. You actually talk about the

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Speaker 1: feminine experience from every angle, So we might talk about

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Speaker 1: love one week, about sperm the next, and how everything

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Speaker 1: So I actually tell something of that ship. You want

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Speaker 1: to get inside the pain? Oh that's the way, do

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Speaker 1: you know what? I ain't even go as you will

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Speaker 1: end up with a stock you read books. Don't you

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Speaker 1: do it right now? When you getting inside the pain? Anyways,

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Speaker 1: I always love I always feel like horrible decisions. Such

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Speaker 1: a fun and dope name. But that that's pretty good.

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Speaker 1: Very few names made me be like, so I want

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Speaker 1: on the grape Vine. She walked in, bitch. So I'm

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Speaker 1: Thank you put a beat behind the bat he wrapped

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Speaker 1: that ship that Joe Budden was talking about, stinky? What

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Speaker 1: Then he was walking around with that bluetooth, bitch, what

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Speaker 1: do you mean the bluetooth that that blue somebody old

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Speaker 1: ray J give way better head than Safari. Jamaican's don't

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Speaker 1: you know? He pushed that, he did push. He did

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Speaker 1: go on. You got cute cards again, bit By. I

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Speaker 1: mean waterboarding. Maybe it's a fetish of mine. It's a fantasy.

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Speaker 1: the toilet. So the king this week is called liquidophilia.

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Speaker 1: This is a fetish held by guys who find it

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Speaker 1: a turn on to immerse their genitals into various liquids.

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Speaker 1: This does tend to be exclusive to males. Simple American

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Speaker 1: pie bro the movie What is that? What he did? He? No?

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Speaker 1: It's a different consistency of liquid. But it's I mean,

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Speaker 1: some liquido files have a preference for liquids that resemble

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Speaker 1: bodily secretions. Examples would be yogurts and milk um as

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Speaker 1: a oh, and then they just add some other fetishes

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Speaker 1: would be a liquid aphilia because nobody enjoys a dry vagant.

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Speaker 1: Times get times get tough. What What's something I never

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Speaker 1: I want to list other water based fetishes. Aquaphilia um,

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Speaker 1: which is what we talked about, is a sexual arousal

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Speaker 1: from water and or water environments. Eusulphilia a sexual arousal

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Speaker 1: from water. And then you have other sexual arousals from

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Speaker 1: from a bidet as a genital sexual stimulant for women

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Speaker 1: while masturbating. Um yeah, that was very so that's why

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Speaker 1: I have conversations a lot where I just want the

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00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 1: companionship of a man, so I'll invite someone over. And

426
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: I say, very bluntly, if I'm I'm inviting you over

427
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 1: because I want your company. I do not want to

428
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:52,119
Speaker 1: have sex tonight. And he said that his take on

429
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:54,679
Speaker 1: that is a woman just may not want to seem

430
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 1: like she wants to have sex, so he comes over

431
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 1: and tries. And I said, this is my problem with

432
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,600
Speaker 1: feeling uncomme in my own home. I'm inviting a man

433
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: over saying that I want company. The last thing I

434
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: want to do is feel like I have to push

435
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 1: someone off of me. So I want to ask you women,

436
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,359
Speaker 1: that is that something that you feel as adults is

437
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 1: something that we can't do. Is it something that as

438
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 1: adult women we just can't invite a man over without

439
00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 1: around wanting sex with women. Men understand that, so they

440
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 1: assume that by us saying that we're trying to cover

441
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:31,200
Speaker 1: up something just much like we use I'm so tipsy,

442
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: but we might not be that drunk. We just want

443
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 1: you to think that's why we're coming over. By the way,

444
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,879
Speaker 1: I realized something um from that night to the day

445
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 1: before I left for l A. I haven't had in

446
00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: a very long time intimacy in that way before sex,

447
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 1: and I realized how much I enjoyed it. Like to me,

448
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 1: it is kind of weird to like cuddle so much

449
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,640
Speaker 1: like that before sex. You know, I could feel as dick,

450
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 1: but I will say I enjoyed it a lot. I

451
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 1: liked how much we were touched ing and like kind

452
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,919
Speaker 1: of just learning it was it made it more exciting

453
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: for me, Like I thought about him all that morning,

454
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:07,520
Speaker 1: I thought about how it might be ready for sex now,

455
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:11,959
Speaker 1: Like we don't really experience intimacy all the way until sex.

456
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:14,880
Speaker 1: But that's the thing. A lot of women are negotiating

457
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 1: trying to get that intimate access to that intimacy, but

458
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 1: what they end up with the sex instead because they

459
00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: don't know how to negotiate just for the intimacy. And

460
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: that's kind of the heart. Also for a tip to men,

461
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:29,840
Speaker 1: I don't know if they realize how sexy it is.

462
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 1: If I sit here and say I just want you

463
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 1: to come over and watch TV with me, and you

464
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 1: really can do that. If you really do that, say

465
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 1: you enjoyed my company and leave, honey, I'm probably gonna

466
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 1: want to invite you over and want to suck. Honestly,

467
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 1: you're not pressing me. But any man who knows anything

468
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,359
Speaker 1: about seduction, any man has got some experience, knows that

469
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 1: you write these things don't be known, you know what

470
00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 1: I mean. If he's only dealt with women that basically

471
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: turned over and was like okay, daddy, like, then he

472
00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:59,439
Speaker 1: doesn't know that. But if he but you know, I

473
00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:03,520
Speaker 1: didn't hear anything that older men, older man, he was

474
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 1: like he is older. But I find that they're able

475
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,199
Speaker 1: to take their time a little bit more because with

476
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:12,160
Speaker 1: that experience, you understand what women like and what they don't,

477
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 1: And a way I believe to make a woman really

478
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 1: comfortable is to know that she's making the choices, that

479
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: you are not putting them on me, that I'm making

480
00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 1: the choice to have sex with you, that I want

481
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 1: to get fucked. I don't. I didn't tell you this.

482
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: This was kind of the ending of it. But the

483
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: guy that I met at Angelie's birthday party, Damn, we're

484
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 1: both talking about birthday, right, But the guy I actually

485
00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 1: ended that he came over to talk because we just

486
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 1: weren't seeing eye an eye on a couple of things

487
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 1: and what we wanted and how we felt, and so

488
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: he came over and we had Matt. You know, we

489
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:50,199
Speaker 1: talked in the living room and I was pretty much

490
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:54,000
Speaker 1: getting tired. I was off of his vibe. And before

491
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 1: he left, he literally asked me, you invited me over

492
00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 1: and didn't have any plans of having sex with me.

493
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,679
Speaker 1: That's also a man feeling entitled. No, it is I

494
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 1: oneent where to God. This is what this man said,

495
00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 1: And I listened, I don't want sex tonight. You offered

496
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: to come over. I wanted the company, and I felt

497
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: like we needed to talk and those things needed to

498
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 1: be said face to face. No, I didn't invite you

499
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 1: over with any intent of having any sex with you.

500
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 1: I'm actually not horny tonight. Didn't want sex, just wanted

501
00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 1: to be able to talk to you face to face.

502
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 1: And you offered to come up to the box, and yeah,

503
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,360
Speaker 1: he felt that sham, I came all the way up here.

504
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,160
Speaker 1: You did. He tried it right, And so I think

505
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 1: it's that entitlement with men just to even when you

506
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: give them the space to be with you, they feel entitled.

507
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 1: And that's what I mean by And I always keep

508
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: going back to me, Mandy. I know you don't want

509
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:48,439
Speaker 1: to the seasons or anything, because we do need to

510
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: have more instances and realize that nightcaps can be common

511
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,679
Speaker 1: without sex and we should. Like I think men need

512
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:57,919
Speaker 1: to just start believing women when they vocalize that they

513
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: don't and take her word for that. If she really

514
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: has to say that, she probably isn't as comfortable whether

515
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 1: she lied or not. There's something in her that didn't

516
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 1: want her to do it. Like I would love to

517
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 1: start having people over just for dinners and a little

518
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: bit of chill and you leave, you know, when I

519
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: go to dinner at seven thirty or I think I

520
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: want to do with that dinner with this dude to eight.

521
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 1: I didn't really want to be outside in the cold

522
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:19,919
Speaker 1: at ten thirty, but I had to just go to

523
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 1: another bar just to enjoy your company some more. In

524
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: assuming that if I take you in my house now

525
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 1: you think of something else. No, I wanted to sit

526
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,800
Speaker 1: on my couch and enjoy you. But yeah, I just

527
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 1: I really wish that that would be a thing that

528
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 1: that could change when it comes to men, and especially

529
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 1: being an adult where we all have our own homes now,

530
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: Like just being comfortable and not feeling like you're gonna

531
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: have to push off you, just like like a private

532
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: space can be very scary for women. I mean, ship

533
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 1: um damn. I wouldn't even saying nothing. But Sunday, my

534
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 1: flight was eleven right. One of my friends had a hotel.

535
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 1: It was a w close to the airport and I

536
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: had some time to kill after filming with Sham. He

537
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 1: invites me over and he showed me something on his phone.

538
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 1: There was two beds in a hotel room, which made

539
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 1: me get in that bed, and the second I did,

540
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,640
Speaker 1: he was like on me. I literally had to say

541
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 1: the words because I was like stun. I was like no,

542
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 1: and he kept going, and I was like, I had

543
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,159
Speaker 1: to say I don't want you to touch me. He

544
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 1: was like, wow, okay, And I'm like, why did it

545
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: take me to say that I took your hand off

546
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 1: of my chest? But not not only that, I'll get

547
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,920
Speaker 1: into saying um, and so we're gonna cut this list

548
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 1: and half, we're only gonna be able to go through three.

549
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: But UM, I do want to sit here and say

550
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,639
Speaker 1: another thing that men do, and and men, if you're listening,

551
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,960
Speaker 1: you may do this without knowing. But even the way

552
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 1: you said, he pushed off and was like, oh okay,

553
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 1: what a lot of men do is passive aggressively. You

554
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 1: make us feel guilty and make us feel bad. So

555
00:28:45,080 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: something that happens often because I am a very blunt person.

556
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 1: If I don't want to have sex, I'm going to

557
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 1: tell you listen, I don't want to have sex tonight.

558
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 1: Some the reaction that I get often is oh, so

559
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: you think that's all I want? I can get pussy

560
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: from anywhere I did, and then they come off in

561
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: an angry way that I sat here and insinuated, oh,

562
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: I'm only gonna want to fuck you and now, and

563
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 1: then I feel guilty for saying that I didn't want

564
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 1: to suck. Yeah, but a lot of men never learned

565
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 1: how to date. They learned how to manipulate. And they

566
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 1: think that's what they literally never learned, like how to

567
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 1: see women as human beings. They really learned to see

568
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 1: women as objects a pleasure, and they learned how to

569
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,360
Speaker 1: manipulate them. They learned gain, not romance. And you wonder

570
00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: why we all want some more time, you know, like

571
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: why do you want to want to so many dates

572
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 1: before sex? Why do you want to do this because

573
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: we feel like at that point there will at least

574
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 1: be some respect established. Now we're trying to read you out.

575
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 1: Let me say, really, I want you to get to

576
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 1: pack if you wrote me about sex. But yeah, and

577
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: it's not like I'm trying to say, oh I didn't

578
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:46,880
Speaker 1: suck you until this date or til then. It's because

579
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: I genuinely feel like, you know, we can build something

580
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: a little bit better, stronger to where you won't do

581
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 1: ship like this, right, That's why I do it, you know.

582
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: So one of the so the third trade, and this

583
00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: is gonna be the last one before we get into

584
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:03,160
Speaker 1: our horrible decisions. Well, the third trade is holding the

585
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 1: relationship hostage. Um. What this means is when when when

586
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: one person has a simple criticism or complaint and blackmails

587
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: the other person by threatening the commitment of the relationship

588
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,959
Speaker 1: as a whole. For instance, for instance, if someone feels

589
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 1: like you've been cold to them, instead of saying I

590
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 1: feel like you're being cold, sometimes they will say I

591
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 1: can't date someone who is cold to me all the time.

592
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 1: So this is what you do. Basically, it's very common.

593
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,640
Speaker 1: What you do is you sit here and threatened leaving

594
00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 1: the person instead of just effectively having the conversation and

595
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 1: communicating what is bothering you about them. So for someone

596
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 1: who maybe doesn't text back as much as you would

597
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 1: like them to say, instead of just saying, listen, I

598
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: would like to find a way where we can communicate differently,

599
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: because I really I really need my partner to text

600
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: me and let me know what they're doing during the day. Instead,

601
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: they're gonna say, well, listen, if you don't text back,

602
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 1: I may I may just go funk with someone else

603
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 1: because others, you know, other people will give me this

604
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 1: attention and it's very it's a very toxic trait to

605
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: constantly that they do. I was just thinking, I was

606
00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:15,120
Speaker 1: like yes, when you love something, you don't threaten it,

607
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 1: So the fact that you are threatening me is already

608
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: due time for you to go, right. I agree, and

609
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 1: I feel like both, but both men and women feel

610
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: like specific women do it too. They'll sit here and say, oh,

611
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: you don't think I can go and get another one.

612
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:37,000
Speaker 1: You don't think, especially when you know how many people

613
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 1: to be listening to this right now, but they face

614
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: a room site. No, And it's really toxic. So people

615
00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: may think that their relationship is healthier than what it

616
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: really is. And these are things that you need to

617
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: look into. If you are a patron, I'll post this

618
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 1: to Patreon so that you can look into the other um.

619
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 1: Three toxic traits of relationships. I will say what they are,

620
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 1: but we won't dig into them. But one is blaming

621
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 1: your partner for your own emotions, displays of jealousy and

622
00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 1: thinking that jealousy means you love you love them more

623
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: because you don't want to see them around other people

624
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,600
Speaker 1: of the opposite sex. And the last one is something

625
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:15,440
Speaker 1: that you ain't gonna get if you're dealing with a

626
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 1: broken nigga, but buying the solutions to problems so instead

627
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: of communicating with your partner, you think a gift is

628
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 1: going to think about that, I'm thinking about that if

629
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 1: the relationship is on the rock. Gifts you see time.

630
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean, I'm up saying I think that's

631
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: Kobe Bryant deal with that whole. That's what that was. Actually,

632
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: can you be blinded with gifts from a nigga? So

633
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 1: we think this all the time because that's why women

634
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 1: who deal with wealthy niggas. The niggas is able to

635
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,160
Speaker 1: get away with ships painting tolerance absolutely because the thing

636
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: is like, at the end of I'm getting something I

637
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 1: am actually getting, you'd rather leave. I'd rather cry and

638
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: then rose voice than crying to beat up Honda Civic exactly.

639
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. I had a moment this weekend.

640
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: I was staying at this super nice hotel. I'm in

641
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Speaker 1: l A. The Beverly Whitney died there nothing miss the anniverse.

642
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:24,200
Speaker 1: Oh I was in the hotel, but like that's how

643
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 1: people know it. Every time I walk into Quad studios

644
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 1: were shot. Okay, so like can we not? The second

645
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 1: I walked in, I was like, oh, anyway, I love you.

646
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: Feeling something from New Jersey, you know, So I like

647
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: to Jersey while I was in there right, like, it's

648
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 1: this super bougie hotel and it's five star and I'm like, damn,

649
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 1: this is so nice. And then I had this immediate

650
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: moment of feeling lonely right because I was there alone.

651
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,520
Speaker 1: So I started to cry and then I started all

652
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: but then I started to laugh because in the middle

653
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: of me crying, I'm like, damn, y'all in this rope

654
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 1: and they just delivered steak, like you ass she said.

655
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 1: She started to cry and she started. I was like,

656
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 1: because you know, like sometimes you need the channel into

657
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 1: when I when I cry, I have to really like

658
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: assess it after I'm like feeling it right, and I'm like,

659
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: what am I feelings? I tried to store it through

660
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: them while I'm crying, and then I just took a

661
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: look around me and I was like, it is nice

662
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,759
Speaker 1: to cry and luxury though I like it is it

663
00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 1: really is because still toxic, toxic, but still ram tangible.

664
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 1: Give me a gift versus the promise that maybe one

665
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 1: day you might think about possibly marrying me. I'd rather

666
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: have the gift than the promise, not saying that like

667
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 1: it will buy my affection, but it hell no, I'll

668
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: take the gift. So, um, I'll be like this, thank you,

669
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 1: thank you. I hate it's the guys, the horrible decision

670
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:02,720
Speaker 1: or This week is going to be on the hookup

671
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: culture and motherfucking casual sex, especially with all of us

672
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,720
Speaker 1: dating giving our numbers out, um, having multiple partners, speaking

673
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:13,440
Speaker 1: to men even what we like some we don't like some,

674
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 1: or even just feeling the need to keep our options

675
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: open at all times. Um, there's this I'm actually gonna play,

676
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 1: um a snippet of audio. Um, this is going around

677
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 1: on Twitter. It's rather hilarious, but this kind of sums

678
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 1: up some of our woes in the casual hook up

679
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: dating culture. So hey, this is night. You never responded back,

680
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,319
Speaker 1: you didn't want me to have your number, and why

681
00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:47,840
Speaker 1: didn't you give it to me? That was kind of

682
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:50,400
Speaker 1: like dumb as hell. You seem like you want to

683
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: these lily young dumb mind abroad. You got your little

684
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 1: rinky Dinks minimum biage the job at Marshall's and you

685
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: thank you to Bomb and Amy and the Firecracker are

686
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: wigs like you need some ninety year old lady with

687
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:08,359
Speaker 1: no hair. Me and I thought you had a nice face, embody,

688
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: but beyond that, there's so many chicks in San Diego

689
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: with that, and I've got plenty of them, So I'm

690
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: not about to be chasing you around. I mean, unless

691
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 1: you're mentally retarded or something. Normally, when somebody calls or

692
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 1: texted you that you gave your number, you respond back.

693
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: So I guess you too retarded to realize that. So

694
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna just go ahead and delete your number. Let

695
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 1: me tell you don't be Melvin, So do not be Melvin.

696
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:39,720
Speaker 1: But Melvin spent how long was that long ass message?

697
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 1: Like thirties? At least a minute? You sweating her? I

698
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 1: know you say it. Oh she ain't all that, she

699
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 1: went wigs it. Apparently you like that because you still

700
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 1: sweating her. If you really didn't care, you would have

701
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 1: been likelyly and moved on to all the women you

702
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 1: supposedly have. We've said this multiple times. There are women

703
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: who have been shot and killed for not giving it

704
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,919
Speaker 1: because they number. You're not responding to a cat call.

705
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 1: We honestly will give, And I honestly feel like, thank god,

706
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: Um Steve Jobs and this Apple for given the block

707
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: feature because a lot of people caught onto that fake

708
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:18,879
Speaker 1: number that we used to have back in the day,

709
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,040
Speaker 1: they knew it was a fake number. Bitch, you remember

710
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: you have been giving the reject top fine that the

711
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:27,879
Speaker 1: comedian did when he was like she was like, I'm

712
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 1: gonna call your phone. I'm gonna call your phone. Why

713
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 1: don't you read no, Well, that's what guys do now,

714
00:37:37,719 --> 00:37:40,919
Speaker 1: and so I wanted to just bring that up because unfortunately,

715
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,919
Speaker 1: with dating UM multiple people, you do give your number out,

716
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:46,839
Speaker 1: whether it's on a dating site, whether you meet someone

717
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: at the grocery store. UM. I want to give you,

718
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 1: guys the actual definition UM up hook up culture. It

719
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 1: is one that accepts and encourages casual sexual encounters, including

720
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 1: one night stands, and other related activity, without necessarily including

721
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: emotional bonding or long term commitment. UM. I think that

722
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: it's something that we are in. We actually often on

723
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:16,280
Speaker 1: this show, UM boasts about casual sex UM meeting people

724
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 1: and maybe even being able to have sexual encounters without

725
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 1: the emotional connection. I know I mentioned that you do

726
00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 1: like more of the emotional connection, but I wanted to

727
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: bring up where this started UM and how although we

728
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:31,839
Speaker 1: sit here and preach about it, how many women don't

729
00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 1: like it, and how it actually sent from feminists wanting

730
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:39,320
Speaker 1: to take hold of their sexuality and not be shamed

731
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: for it. And now it's kind of a narrative that

732
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:46,360
Speaker 1: we're pushing on two women even though we all want commitment. Yeah,

733
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 1: all low key have these emotions. I don't know if

734
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: we want commitment more than we want to feel stable

735
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 1: with something. For example, like I don't expect real serious

736
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 1: monogamy or commitment from like the others I have, right,

737
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 1: but like I would at least want something, not nothing.

738
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: I don't even know if commitments to word, but just

739
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:12,239
Speaker 1: knowing that respect honesty which also could be known as

740
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 1: commitment or you know, a bit seeming like she's tripping

741
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 1: just for me to know that there's some stability and

742
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 1: what we have. I don't like people that aren't really

743
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 1: consistent and consistent. You can honestly mean you touched me

744
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:27,360
Speaker 1: once a week, But I like some kind of consistency

745
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: in something like like I said, I have people that

746
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 1: I'm sleeping with casually. I don't need every day ship.

747
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 1: I don't need every other day ship. Some of them

748
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: just need to be once in a blue But like

749
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 1: I like to know that I won't you won't go

750
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:42,919
Speaker 1: disappearing on me, I like some kind of I guess

751
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 1: commitment that it doesn't have to necessarily be as serious

752
00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 1: as everybody thinks. So what's the incentive for the man?

753
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 1: And that's the issue. There's no incentive that you think

754
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 1: about what sex does. If you think about it in

755
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: terms of like a marketplace, sex makes vagina very cheap.

756
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 1: There's no investment. You don't have to put in time,

757
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: you don't have to put in Yeah, you don't have

758
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 1: to invest time, you don't have to invest attention, You

759
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: don't really have to invest what the oh it does.

760
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: So that's why it's not about the sex, is about

761
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,759
Speaker 1: the culture. Because the individual sex, it's like you may

762
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: want it just as much as I do in the

763
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: we part ways and I feel good and you feel great,

764
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 1: and I'm liberated to have that experience. That's the beautiful thing.

765
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:26,280
Speaker 1: The unfortunate thing is it's happening in a culture where

766
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 1: patriarchy and sexism still exists. So even though you're liberated

767
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,840
Speaker 1: to participate in these relationships, men are still having the

768
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 1: upper hand because most often in hook hook up relationships,

769
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: a lot of women will be sexually loyal to one

770
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:41,840
Speaker 1: man who has a harem of women the man is

771
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: determining when it happens, the man often determines where it happens,

772
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 1: and man often determs if it happens, and man is

773
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 1: offering often in determining the terms of which it happened.

774
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 1: So you didn't escape anything like anything, And what you're

775
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: saying is something I just had a conversation with. So

776
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:01,359
Speaker 1: a male from my past came back um and he

777
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,759
Speaker 1: was scared at where I was in my mind and

778
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 1: what essentially I wanted out of him, because essentially what

779
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 1: he wanted out of me was the sexual aspect of

780
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: our relationship that we had so many years ago, but

781
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 1: feelings got involved. He's like, I don't want you to

782
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 1: hate me anymore, but this is what I'm what I

783
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: have to offer to you. And my literal retort back

784
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 1: to him was exactly what you just said. I said, listen,

785
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: I enjoy that you're into the kinky things that I

786
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 1: would be into. That's the only reason why I'm even

787
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: entertaining this, because I feel like you're someone who can

788
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:38,439
Speaker 1: satisfy that part of my sexual space. However, I will

789
00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:41,080
Speaker 1: not move forward or want to engage in this if

790
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: the only time I get to see you is when

791
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 1: you're telling me to hop on a plane, you're telling

792
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 1: me you're coming to my city, or I literally have

793
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,800
Speaker 1: to wait for your call. So you're not really getting

794
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: then what am I getting If I can't get you

795
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 1: when I want you? And how satisfying your needs? That's

796
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 1: an issue I've also had and we've been having that

797
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: conversation too, like it's not fair that I can't suck

798
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,400
Speaker 1: you when I want to fuck you, I have to

799
00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:09,960
Speaker 1: wait on your call. That's the point. That the point,

800
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 1: and that's the thing as as someone who's super busy

801
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 1: right now, it's coming to the point where not only

802
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 1: do I feel like I need you to respect me

803
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: in a sexual way, but respect what I'm doing as

804
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 1: a hard working woman. With with me and Weezy being

805
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 1: on tour, we literally are we can't even do a

806
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 1: shoot that we want to do together because we're like,

807
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 1: we're for the name wants to do an editorial, bro,

808
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:38,920
Speaker 1: we can't even find for one day and for one

809
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:42,880
Speaker 1: day for so work between the tour. Well, maybe we

810
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 1: could do. Mandy was like, we can do April. That's

811
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 1: literally April, which it's the first week in February. It

812
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: can't be too available. No, And that's the thing so

813
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 1: right now. So but I've been to where I've been

814
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:56,919
Speaker 1: able to be available with a previous job, and now

815
00:42:56,960 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: it's just like my nig like I have not available,

816
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:03,799
Speaker 1: And so to me, it's also becoming to where my

817
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:06,839
Speaker 1: time is so much more valuable than anything the fun else.

818
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 1: I had a guy text me recently or no, I

819
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: think I texted him. I'm like, hey, where you've been?

820
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 1: And he's like, oh, you always do that to me,

821
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 1: and he sent me away and can he put on

822
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 1: busy babe you? I said, you're a busy question mark

823
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: L O L. He said, what you're trying to say?

824
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: I sent him then all of my travel dates and

825
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 1: all of my entire calendar on Google so you can

826
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 1: see household. It was literally a screenshot of it, and

827
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 1: I said, who's busy? Right? He's talking about right. But

828
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 1: it's also a way that I feel like just men

829
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:42,839
Speaker 1: don't respect women who really be working, um, and so

830
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:44,719
Speaker 1: that's something I want to eally. I don't believe you're

831
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:46,839
Speaker 1: grind is as much as they know. So I wanted

832
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 1: to bring up something that has also affected us with

833
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 1: getting into this hookup culture is apps and online dating

834
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: as well as reality TV. Um, and that's where all

835
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 1: of these dating games came. Where you're looking for love

836
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,359
Speaker 1: and you have all of these options. That's the thing.

837
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: It is an illusion, and in some ways you do

838
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 1: have more options. But the thing is men and women

839
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,239
Speaker 1: have more options. Just is that men are socialized to

840
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:13,320
Speaker 1: actually pursue those options, and women frequently will remain loyal

841
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 1: to her. I know that's why. That's what all the

842
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 1: mocker's mad at. Lorie Harvey. I love it. I don't

843
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 1: think any single woman should be dating one person, especially

844
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 1: unless he has unless he is yours established. She looked

845
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: at her dad's book. She's just going by what he's saying.

846
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 1: And we're not going to talk about her mama. Her

847
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 1: mama really is. Let me tell you her mom. That's

848
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 1: the word mama Mom talked her. She's one of the best.

849
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:43,399
Speaker 1: So with casual dating, I wanted to bring up this

850
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: word that is now very common. What it means, um,

851
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:49,399
Speaker 1: And it's a term that we may have used very

852
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 1: often called ghosting. Yeah. Ghosting for many is when you

853
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:58,240
Speaker 1: simply stop messaging the other person or returning their texas

854
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:02,360
Speaker 1: and essentially disappear from their lives and it just feels practical.

855
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 1: You know why it feels bad though, because number one,

856
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,760
Speaker 1: we have three human instincts, their basic instincts to love,

857
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 1: to attach, and to have sex. So when you're ghosting

858
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: it first of all asked for two of those instincts

859
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: to have sex and to attach, but also makes you

860
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: feel like you've been exploited. And then the way you

861
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:22,640
Speaker 1: have because a man can just have sex with you

862
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: and when he decides he's done, dispose you, which is

863
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 1: what hook up culture does. It makes women disposable. It

864
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 1: makes women, It turns women into tupper were then you

865
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: feel like now you're sitting there and you're like, oh ship,

866
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: I feel used. And the one thing about like when

867
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 1: you said the definition you said it's like a culture

868
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 1: where sex isn't attached to emotion. Well, when you love things,

869
00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:43,359
Speaker 1: you don't exploit them. So one of the issues of

870
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:47,479
Speaker 1: taking sex away from emotion is then it really does.

871
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 1: Then you realize like all I got was dick. I

872
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 1: didn't get anything else I got. I didn't get commitment.

873
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: Some girls out here didn't even get back, Like you've

874
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 1: got nothing, but you don't even get food. Sometimes you

875
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 1: literally it's to really but but but you have to

876
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:05,919
Speaker 1: reaction that though, like you have that when you are

877
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 1: just getting fucked that you have to be the one

878
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 1: to have made that choice. You should be calling for

879
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:13,319
Speaker 1: the dick. That's kind of why I even said, like

880
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 1: I almost like inviting dudes to my I don't even

881
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 1: want to feel like because I know your point You've said,

882
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:20,439
Speaker 1: like I like going to your house because I can leave,

883
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:22,759
Speaker 1: but I kind of like being in mind. No, I mean,

884
00:46:22,920 --> 00:46:26,680
Speaker 1: that's only anyone else that I've dealt with you have,

885
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 1: because then I have to do you like to just

886
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: be able to fall asleep in my bed and you leave,

887
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 1: you know you calling the uber? Yeah out, Like I

888
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 1: like to be in the confines of my own home.

889
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:39,359
Speaker 1: I also just feel really comfortable in my own space. Yes,

890
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,640
Speaker 1: I feel also more in control. Um going to other

891
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 1: people's houses, you never know who's gonna be there. You

892
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 1: don't know escape routs, bitch, Like you don't know what

893
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 1: if he's one of those dudes that feels like he's

894
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:51,759
Speaker 1: has the right to do whatever it is he wants

895
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,680
Speaker 1: to do to you, Like he might turn into you

896
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 1: know Dr Jekyll wants the door closes, he will, so

897
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 1: do you guys? Have you guys ghosted anyone? I ghosted

898
00:47:02,280 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 1: a guy that was like stalking me and he continued

899
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:09,480
Speaker 1: to stalk me. So but beyond that, um and see,

900
00:47:09,480 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 1: I feel like I have. I'm one of those that

901
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 1: I just once I don't vibe, you won't get a text,

902
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: you won't get a follow back. I will do the

903
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 1: I'll be the one to okay l O L and

904
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: short word you the death. I'm one of those. I mean,

905
00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:29,279
Speaker 1: I will eventually, like if I feel like someone just

906
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: really likes me, I'll let them know. Listen, I'm very,

907
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 1: very busy. My time means a lot, and I just

908
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 1: don't feel like you're trying enough. I just I don't

909
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 1: feel anything, which is what I told the guy that

910
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:40,480
Speaker 1: I met at Angelo's party, Like, yeah, it's just I'm

911
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:42,960
Speaker 1: not feeling that. And I'm not gonna lie to me

912
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,240
Speaker 1: when it comes to dating. And I do want a boyfriend.

913
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:47,799
Speaker 1: I do want commitment. However, the men who I have

914
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 1: really liked and fell for it's butterflies. I don't want

915
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 1: to leave them. I'll go out of my way to

916
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 1: see them. And if you're not really making me feel

917
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: that way, then I know that I need to decide

918
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 1: what this is really gonna be a find to be

919
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 1: the schedule if you're not finding that space, like, oh,

920
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 1: I got twenty minutes between his flight, Like if you're

921
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: not finding he right right? And I feel like that's

922
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 1: the thing too, Like with options, Wheezy and I both

923
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:15,800
Speaker 1: have all these nicknames for different people on our phones

924
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: right now, and it's just like we do. We got nicknames.

925
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 1: I didn't even go. I told my friend the other day,

926
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 1: I gotta stop telling you all these nicks nicknames because

927
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:24,879
Speaker 1: then not forget their names, Like I go to text

928
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 1: them and what then is your name again? The only

929
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 1: person I for real and true to forget his name

930
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 1: and to call him that. My mom even calls him

931
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 1: that was lover Boy. Oh yeah, I forgot lovely Boy's name.

932
00:48:34,360 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: It's his name is boy. So minute to figure out

933
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:39,319
Speaker 1: seven was a dude? When you first started said, I

934
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:44,440
Speaker 1: was like, wait, seven guys, that's probably dead. No, it's

935
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: probably dead. Oh is he dead to you? Or is

936
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 1: he dead? We both kind of said, yeah, you got daddy,

937
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 1: same ship. Is he dead to you? Or? Let nick

938
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 1: hart stop? You got to ask these days if you

939
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:01,279
Speaker 1: don't know, you know? And I go to the cemeterial.

940
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:09,160
Speaker 1: Okay here right, It was very like, it was very

941
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 1: possible because like if I saw the headline and saw

942
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,360
Speaker 1: he got shot, God forbid, or I don't want to

943
00:49:15,360 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 1: wish on anybody, but I'd be like, oh damn, like yeah,

944
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: well no. That's why every time I met you, fella

945
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: bay oh ship he out, I get it, I get it.

946
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,040
Speaker 1: He might not really be here, he might not be

947
00:49:25,120 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 1: present outside. I do, and I really be watching. I

948
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:31,960
Speaker 1: told you when he came over, I felt bad that

949
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:35,320
Speaker 1: I was watching locked up girl, I had I switched

950
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:38,239
Speaker 1: to hollow Man so goddamn quick because I felt bad,

951
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: like I really be like a these stories. Bit How

952
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 1: long was he in there? Though he did eight years?

953
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,960
Speaker 1: How tender? That's why I will be all swiping on.

954
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 1: He was tending after he got it, after he got out,

955
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 1: and then and then while we dated. This is the thing.

956
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: I met him over the summer, like in July. He

957
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:58,279
Speaker 1: violated parole. He violated parole. People just don't like. And

958
00:49:58,320 --> 00:49:59,800
Speaker 1: this is how I found out. I cooked him a

959
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:01,360
Speaker 1: whole last meal because he was going to see his

960
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 1: p O and but his messages went green when he

961
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,239
Speaker 1: was supposed to be over. I was mad as did

962
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: you did you have a feeling? Well, yeah, he was

963
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 1: there to see his po and next thing you know,

964
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:11,920
Speaker 1: he just stopped and I'm like, nick, I cooked, I

965
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:13,960
Speaker 1: bought what you said you wanted and everything, which made

966
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,400
Speaker 1: me so mad. Then finally, three days later, when his

967
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:19,520
Speaker 1: message still was green, I hit up my homeboy, like,

968
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 1: you know how to look up the system because I

969
00:50:21,960 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 1: don't know if he's booked. If you guys living, you

970
00:50:32,120 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 1: can look up like literally who went in the last

971
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: few days? All of that and then here go, here go.

972
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:39,920
Speaker 1: My mama ain't ship. She looked it up. She's like, well,

973
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:41,479
Speaker 1: I want to see what he in therefo. I'm gonna

974
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 1: find him too. She looked up his name, his height,

975
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:46,360
Speaker 1: She's like, he's a little short for your for you,

976
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:48,680
Speaker 1: she was looking out for you. My mama was looking

977
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 1: out for He was like, let me make sure it's

978
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:55,440
Speaker 1: not anything. What did he originally go to jail for? Anyways,

979
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 1: before we go out, of course, we're gonna go ahead

980
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:59,799
Speaker 1: and get into our homemail. Um, the wholemail for this

981
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: segment is possible, baby, Mama, drama right, possible if he

982
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 1: got one, it is I'm just saying in spades A

983
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 1: possible may or may not be a book. Okay, yeah, huh,

984
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:17,520
Speaker 1: that's the game. I gotta teach you go fund yourself.

985
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:27,319
Speaker 1: He's still playing what is your You can't play? Did

986
00:51:27,360 --> 00:51:38,400
Speaker 1: she play? You know? Go inside? All right, y'all. So

987
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: hi ladies, I started listening. I just started listening to

988
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 1: the podcast, and I love everything you'll represent. I am

989
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:46,520
Speaker 1: writing you all because I'm so confused. I'm going to

990
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 1: try to keep this as short as possible. She did

991
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 1: a good job. So about a year ago, I went

992
00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:53,840
Speaker 1: through a terrible breakup because my ex was fucking with

993
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 1: a minor and he was twenty four at the time

994
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 1: before we got together. It turns out he got her

995
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:00,800
Speaker 1: pregnant and when he found out, she six months pregnant

996
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,399
Speaker 1: and it must be up really bad. That was a lot.

997
00:52:03,480 --> 00:52:05,799
Speaker 1: That was just the first sentence, y'all. So fast forward

998
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 1: a few months. I met this guy on a dating

999
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 1: app called soul Swipe. Oh one day I was off

1000
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 1: of that. He's from Detroit and I'm from Chicago. So

1001
00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 1: we've been talking for a year and face timing NonStop.

1002
00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 1: What brought us closer together is he just said he

1003
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:21,799
Speaker 1: was moving to Texas in a few months for a job,

1004
00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:23,960
Speaker 1: and I've already had plans to move to Texas after

1005
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 1: I graduate with my masters. We decided to keep in

1006
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 1: touch because we both barely know any anybody in Texas,

1007
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 1: and we made plans that we were going to have

1008
00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:34,800
Speaker 1: sex when I come down there, either for an interview

1009
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 1: or when I officially move in. In our text messages,

1010
00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 1: he said that he is looking to settle down and

1011
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:42,320
Speaker 1: is interested in me, so that leads to us sending

1012
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,160
Speaker 1: each other pictures and videos. Fast forward to a couple

1013
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:47,720
Speaker 1: of days ago. He moved to Texas by this time

1014
00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 1: and been here and been there for three months. We um.

1015
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 1: He faced times me and tells me he's been going

1016
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,839
Speaker 1: through a lot. I did question it because I didn't

1017
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:58,839
Speaker 1: want to seem intrusive, but he said, I'll tell you

1018
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:01,200
Speaker 1: since we're supposed to be umping. I hate that he

1019
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 1: used the term humping. So he says, remember I told

1020
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: you that I was drunk and I had sex with

1021
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:09,560
Speaker 1: a girl. Well, she's pregnant. I played a cool while

1022
00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 1: on the phone, but it hurt me on the inside.

1023
00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 1: This goes back to hook up culture, where you know

1024
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 1: without these commitments, that these type of things happen. So

1025
00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:20,200
Speaker 1: I asked him, so, what are you going to do?

1026
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 1: He said, be a good father, But I still want you.

1027
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:26,760
Speaker 1: That girl don't mean anything to me, She's just a friend.

1028
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 1: But from experience, I know how this stuff goes by

1029
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 1: going to get close for the sake of the baby,

1030
00:53:32,440 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 1: and I don't come second to no bitch. I'm not

1031
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 1: even the second child. I am the only child, So

1032
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:39,360
Speaker 1: funk I look like sharing a man. I know this

1033
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:42,320
Speaker 1: sounds dumb, So my question is should I just sucked

1034
00:53:42,400 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 1: him then ghost him? Or should I see how this

1035
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: plays out with him and the baby mama and try

1036
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: a relationship or should I just remove myself from the

1037
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: entire situation. Ps My X already had a six year

1038
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:55,719
Speaker 1: old daughter, and I didn't have no problems with that

1039
00:53:55,800 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 1: child's mother because she was in a relationship, and I've

1040
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: grown attached to that child. P s s. The dude

1041
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 1: I'm currently talking about has a felony. It's not violent,

1042
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 1: but he has a questionable path. Is he even worth it?

1043
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 1: Because I'm twenty three with two more months before I

1044
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:13,000
Speaker 1: have a master's degree. I got my own place, my

1045
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: own car, my own my own money, and he works

1046
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,720
Speaker 1: at a fast food joint, but he has a bachelor's degree. Sincerely, Oh,

1047
00:54:19,840 --> 00:54:21,759
Speaker 1: that's not about to take another else. I'm gonna guess

1048
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:25,240
Speaker 1: that masters is that that masters is not in common sense,

1049
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:28,520
Speaker 1: and they deserve each other. She gotta go ahead and

1050
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 1: take him, because y'all deserve each other. For a minute,

1051
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 1: when he said humping, I was like, throw the whole

1052
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:33,839
Speaker 1: man away. And then when she got said up part

1053
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:35,279
Speaker 1: about the babies, I was like, you know what, you

1054
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:37,080
Speaker 1: deserve him? Go heay bab with your type and when

1055
00:54:37,080 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: you glow up and you level up in mind and

1056
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:41,359
Speaker 1: spirit and body, then you go get yourself a man

1057
00:54:41,400 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 1: and don't have right now, you know she ain't. She

1058
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 1: gotta get home. I right. It's funny because she literally

1059
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 1: gave all the details that she knew would make us.

1060
00:54:53,480 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 1: I'm just laid back, bro. Honestly, I'm not dead. She

1061
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 1: just talks about how her life is going and how

1062
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:03,719
Speaker 1: trash these niggas are. So bitch, why you wrote in

1063
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 1: you're about to get a mask? I'm not gone. She

1064
00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,520
Speaker 1: can't figure this out, bitch, be the master of how

1065
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: fucking m this is. He has a bachelor but he

1066
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 1: works in Oh, I got my own car, you're only

1067
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 1: twenty three and you're about to jump into this bull.

1068
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 1: You got to have a goddamn car seat in the

1069
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,800
Speaker 1: back of your ship. You know, got a car. He

1070
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: won't be able to afford it no more because he's

1071
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:28,920
Speaker 1: gonna have to pay for diapers and other ship and

1072
00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:31,400
Speaker 1: guess what he gonna gonna be a good father in

1073
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 1: real life? You want a nigger that ain't gonna have ship?

1074
00:55:34,480 --> 00:55:36,799
Speaker 1: You know how hard it is, how expensive it is.

1075
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 1: I was out to eat with um Erica from Good Bombs,

1076
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:43,239
Speaker 1: Bad Choices. Okay, we we had a brunch together. She

1077
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 1: told me she spends twenty four hundred dollars a month

1078
00:55:49,520 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 1: on daycare. Oh, daycare is not a game. I've worked

1079
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 1: with women who quit their jobs because what they would

1080
00:55:54,800 --> 00:55:57,239
Speaker 1: be paying to take the babies more than I'm not

1081
00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:00,680
Speaker 1: gonna lie. Let's daycare and her whole as kid has

1082
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:03,320
Speaker 1: to have other fucking things. Thank God she's a fluent

1083
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 1: and can afford it. But she's like, bro, like it's

1084
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:06,919
Speaker 1: no joke, No, it's nine. I'm not gonna lie. Even

1085
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 1: growing up um in a single parent household with my

1086
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:14,080
Speaker 1: two sisters, my mom literally had to decide between making

1087
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 1: a couple of dollars more, or staying at her pay

1088
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 1: grade just to keep force Section A food stamps because

1089
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:23,480
Speaker 1: literally her getting a raised by even a dollar or

1090
00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: two would make her not qualify for these things. So

1091
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 1: with four c we got free daycare and stuff like that.

1092
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 1: But that ship costs so much. It's really expensive. It's

1093
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:33,320
Speaker 1: so sad that women have to really make the decision.

1094
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: I have a friend who didn't get promoted in her

1095
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,239
Speaker 1: job when offered it because she was worried. She had

1096
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:39,360
Speaker 1: three kids. She was like, I'm so worried now I

1097
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:43,719
Speaker 1: won't be able to get the government. Nobody has conversation.

1098
00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:45,640
Speaker 1: But I'll sit here and say, is someone who's in

1099
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: school to get their masters. And it's a conversation that

1100
00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:49,799
Speaker 1: me and Fellen Bay have had. And so he just

1101
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 1: took me to the movies and he was like, man,

1102
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: you don't want me to be your boyfriend because I'm

1103
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 1: I'm too broke. Like he says stuff that he I mean,

1104
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:59,440
Speaker 1: I'll be saying that to night. I don't mean it

1105
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 1: like that. You're nice. I like being around you, but

1106
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:05,920
Speaker 1: I couldn't be with you. Won't even hire you, bro So,

1107
00:57:06,000 --> 00:57:10,880
Speaker 1: like we have those conversations why not because he's a felony.

1108
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:13,319
Speaker 1: It won't say felons. No, that's why so many of

1109
00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: them end up back in the system. So he need

1110
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 1: to work at combody. He's a trainer, I know. Yeah,

1111
00:57:19,760 --> 00:57:22,680
Speaker 1: he has a job in a gym. Yeah, but it's

1112
00:57:22,720 --> 00:57:27,680
Speaker 1: not he don't make what I know. And so now

1113
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:30,600
Speaker 1: he's been telling me millionaire Mandy, I'm like, chill out,

1114
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: because you know we're making all this money with the podcast.

1115
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: I'd be like seeing money, man, Yeah, you're gonna pay them.

1116
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:39,880
Speaker 1: When niggas talk to me like that, I'll be whipping

1117
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: my dick out and say. Would they be like, oh,

1118
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:43,160
Speaker 1: I know you're good. I don't need I don't I

1119
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:46,720
Speaker 1: am good. I love how you say that. But no,

1120
00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 1: he knows I make a way more money than him,

1121
00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 1: but I let him no, I don't care if these

1122
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 1: residents are twenty dollars you're buying them. I was just

1123
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:57,600
Speaker 1: like my mom, I like, that's your money. Money you

1124
00:57:57,640 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 1: have is your money. The money I have is my

1125
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:02,560
Speaker 1: money right right. What we're spending is needed to be lucky.

1126
00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 1: I paid for the uber home, I say, and I

1127
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 1: let him know in the car, I don't do this

1128
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 1: with the other niggas, Just so you know, this is

1129
00:58:09,040 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 1: why he probably hate me in real life, but he's

1130
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:12,800
Speaker 1: still come over. We enjoy each other's company. But I

1131
00:58:12,840 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 1: will say for a woman with her master's dating down,

1132
00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:18,920
Speaker 1: I would say that is when when you know this

1133
00:58:18,920 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 1: guy has this many problems, isn't bringing much to the table,

1134
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 1: and you can literally sit here and list the accolades

1135
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:26,120
Speaker 1: that you know that this man does not have, why

1136
00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:28,720
Speaker 1: do you still want him? For the women even listening

1137
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:31,280
Speaker 1: that she know that she knows the answer. I don't

1138
00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 1: know what she was hoping. You always say something magical,

1139
00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:37,920
Speaker 1: but motherfucker's she There's no way she thought we was

1140
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 1: gonna say anything nice. I don't know what she was.

1141
00:58:41,440 --> 00:58:43,000
Speaker 1: But a lot of people think like, oh, if you

1142
00:58:43,040 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 1: got my master, like I'm special, and it's like not

1143
00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 1: even thinking like that girl, like I'm glad you got

1144
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 1: your masters, tap it up, but like, just this is horrible.

1145
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, but you can be the most accomplished

1146
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 1: and wealthy and all that doesn't matter, but it's like

1147
00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 1: that basic intrinsic value and if you haven't figured that

1148
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 1: outcome on yet that you would even aunt ask. Look,

1149
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:09,600
Speaker 1: the man said humping done throwing a home man away.

1150
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:15,280
Speaker 1: I'm from Florida, and we say hunching, we really like

1151
00:59:15,360 --> 00:59:19,480
Speaker 1: boot up? Yeah, Like just you know it's already signed. Girl,

1152
00:59:19,760 --> 00:59:22,200
Speaker 1: Like if your home girl asked you, if your homegirl

1153
00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:26,800
Speaker 1: is in the same situation, say simple, you know what.

1154
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 1: People fall in love, though the activity here been nerd

1155
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 1: out from men that the activity in their frontal cortex

1156
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 1: goes down. The frontal cortex, obviously is where we make decisions,

1157
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: rational decisions, and there's a reason. It's because we have

1158
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:39,600
Speaker 1: to be a little bit dumb to make babies. If

1159
00:59:39,640 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 1: he really thought about like what evolutionary biologists called the

1160
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:48,720
Speaker 1: reason for the reason why like the activity and you're

1161
00:59:48,760 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 1: like reasoning section of your brain goes down when you

1162
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 1: fall in love is because you need to be a

1163
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 1: little bit delirious to really go happens. I guess I

1164
00:59:57,280 --> 01:00:01,480
Speaker 1: don't know that you and sucking me in my frontals

1165
01:00:04,000 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 1: in your brain, they definitely do. They come into brain

1166
01:00:06,480 --> 01:00:09,560
Speaker 1: well when it gets really good, like affectually you body

1167
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 1: feels good, but when they really getting a good from

1168
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 1: a man, it messes out there home right, I ask

1169
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 1: you what side sound rational? What what side do rappers

1170
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 1: come up with Ryan because I told you, when I

1171
01:00:22,440 --> 01:00:24,440
Speaker 1: get good dick, I'd be coming up with songs about

1172
01:00:24,440 --> 01:00:26,360
Speaker 1: the dick. So maybe he do be sucking me and

1173
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:28,680
Speaker 1: whatever part of the brain, they'll be making these rhymes. Bitch,

1174
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 1: are you're looking at me? I swear to God, I'm

1175
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 1: gonna se you my rhymes one day. I'm gonna come

1176
01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 1: in here here like me. Do you know what's crazy?

1177
01:00:37,400 --> 01:00:39,720
Speaker 1: Crystal said when she used to watch the show, She's like,

1178
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 1: every time she does that, I'll be thinking of you.

1179
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:44,439
Speaker 1: I'm one of those I love it. You're going off

1180
01:00:44,800 --> 01:00:46,640
Speaker 1: and you buy yourself and you tell me coming up

1181
01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:48,520
Speaker 1: with things. Bitch off the top of the dog. Do

1182
01:00:48,600 --> 01:00:51,920
Speaker 1: your fucking sh it sound like the dude Christia who

1183
01:00:51,960 --> 01:01:00,520
Speaker 1: did eminem abortion driving into portioning. No, actually, my ship

1184
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 1: sounds very very rapper, very kaya. Oh that's if I

1185
01:01:07,640 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 1: was a rapper. Bitch, I'm dropping. Don't do this. You

1186
01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:18,040
Speaker 1: can we go ahead and claim this. We gotta like

1187
01:01:19,400 --> 01:01:22,360
Speaker 1: literally the hoodest of rights. Yeah, I'm just a movie.

1188
01:01:23,920 --> 01:01:26,040
Speaker 1: I see you want to get fired too. You over

1189
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 1: there shaking your head. I will don't play it up now, okay,

1190
01:01:33,520 --> 01:01:36,439
Speaker 1: but but it's the right I'm talking about nasty though,

1191
01:01:36,560 --> 01:01:40,760
Speaker 1: like lick my crack. Who says crack? That sounds nasty.

1192
01:01:40,920 --> 01:01:42,640
Speaker 1: That's the type of rapp you don't want. Did that

1193
01:01:42,680 --> 01:01:46,120
Speaker 1: barbecue for everybody? Was like, damn, bit you're doing barbecues.

1194
01:01:46,160 --> 01:01:49,000
Speaker 1: You remember that they booked for barbecue. No, maybe you

1195
01:01:49,000 --> 01:01:51,800
Speaker 1: could start like that. No, don't do that. Maybe you

1196
01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 1: just act like that. I'm not even gonna lie. It's

1197
01:01:54,200 --> 01:01:57,640
Speaker 1: still an anthem. If you guys have not heard it yet,

1198
01:01:57,920 --> 01:01:59,760
Speaker 1: don't trust no nigga, this is kind of what I

1199
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:03,160
Speaker 1: who hasn't heard this? A lot of people so mouse

1200
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:05,440
Speaker 1: came out to um, don't trust at our show, and

1201
01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:09,840
Speaker 1: I just really gotta say it honestly, felt right like,

1202
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:14,160
Speaker 1: I don't know who hasn't heard this? Ship God, it

1203
01:02:14,160 --> 01:02:17,360
Speaker 1: feels like gospel when it starts. This is the gospel song. Wait,

1204
01:02:17,360 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 1: you don't know this, you don't know this song. I

1205
01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:23,760
Speaker 1: think maybe we're about being told on real quick. And

1206
01:02:23,800 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 1: you know we gotta talk over and do our Joe Button, y'all, Oh,

1207
01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 1: we're bringing music to the podcasts. I am you put

1208
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:36,200
Speaker 1: your trust in and nigga stupid? How how you figuring

1209
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:39,520
Speaker 1: he won't fucking best friend? And your sister a lie

1210
01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 1: to you and it screw you. I get mad if

1211
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: it's homeboys, do you don't let him fool you. They

1212
01:02:47,360 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: all dogs, that's what they do. Who is first? Yes?

1213
01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:57,560
Speaker 1: Who is this kaya? I don't even yet. She got

1214
01:02:57,640 --> 01:03:00,200
Speaker 1: more than my neck, my back. The fact that we

1215
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:05,000
Speaker 1: we just got real Florida big oh tam fo seven

1216
01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:07,960
Speaker 1: chop the city. I used to live Florida and I

1217
01:03:07,960 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 1: have no idea what all that is? Girl? Oh from

1218
01:03:12,840 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 1: Ortlanta was a very high murder rate. And they brought

1219
01:03:15,520 --> 01:03:18,360
Speaker 1: that ship up when one savage went to jail, and

1220
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 1: they were like, you know, Atlantain that hard. Orlando got

1221
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:23,720
Speaker 1: a lot of kills. Orlando is really that ship. Pie

1222
01:03:23,800 --> 01:03:27,000
Speaker 1: Hills west Side. The ghetto was niggas i've ever met

1223
01:03:27,040 --> 01:03:31,040
Speaker 1: my life were from no Jacksonville, Harol little bit. They

1224
01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 1: like that, they like do val niggas? Yeah, they just

1225
01:03:33,680 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 1: ain't got They got the Druids and the goal. Jackson

1226
01:03:37,760 --> 01:03:40,240
Speaker 1: supported us my first job. I can't believe that Jacksonville,

1227
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 1: Florida a little too much class. I feel like for

1228
01:03:43,360 --> 01:03:45,160
Speaker 1: a Jackson I was. I was on the other side

1229
01:03:45,200 --> 01:03:54,320
Speaker 1: of the bridge. She said, I know you got out where.

1230
01:03:54,880 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 1: I want to thank you so much for joining us.

1231
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:58,480
Speaker 1: I know you're like, what did they bring me in?

1232
01:03:58,560 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 1: I love it. I loved every thing that you brought

1233
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:03,720
Speaker 1: to the table. Where can our listeners check you out?

1234
01:04:03,760 --> 01:04:06,000
Speaker 1: And where can they listen to your podcast if they

1235
01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 1: want the more sophisticated you are so funny when they

1236
01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,720
Speaker 1: want them que cards. Yes, all right, So first of all,

1237
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:14,520
Speaker 1: women love power. That's why I talk about all things

1238
01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:17,280
Speaker 1: how women could get their power, sexually, seduction, captivation, all

1239
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:19,480
Speaker 1: this stuff we're not supposed to be talking about. Women

1240
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 1: Love Power dot com. Um, you can go to Inside

1241
01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:25,040
Speaker 1: the Pink podcast is on Instagram, but if you just

1242
01:04:25,040 --> 01:04:28,400
Speaker 1: look at it, Inside the Pink podcasts everywhere podcasts are found,

1243
01:04:28,600 --> 01:04:30,200
Speaker 1: and then you can find me on Instagram and I

1244
01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:34,320
Speaker 1: ushak fames already podcast we are new. We started at

1245
01:04:34,320 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 1: the end. I can't remember his October of last year,

1246
01:04:37,800 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 1: but yeah, and I met her her co host and

1247
01:04:43,600 --> 01:04:49,000
Speaker 1: how many co hosts you have? You're smart split the bag.

1248
01:04:49,080 --> 01:04:55,440
Speaker 1: Only people be like, oh, I friend, it's not but

1249
01:04:55,520 --> 01:04:59,640
Speaker 1: it's not a crew. It's just too anyways, as you know, UM,

1250
01:04:59,680 --> 01:05:01,600
Speaker 1: we to thank all of you guys for coming and

1251
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:04,160
Speaker 1: supporting us at our live shows. We're just gonna say it.

1252
01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:05,760
Speaker 1: We ain't. I'm not even gonna drop all the names

1253
01:05:05,800 --> 01:05:07,919
Speaker 1: of the cities. But get your tickets. We're selling out,

1254
01:05:08,320 --> 01:05:10,960
Speaker 1: not a humble flex, but we appreciate the support. I

1255
01:05:11,000 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 1: do want to say, though, get your tickets early. We

1256
01:05:13,800 --> 01:05:17,080
Speaker 1: are saving tickets for patrons only, so if you do

1257
01:05:17,120 --> 01:05:21,480
Speaker 1: want to support us, I saw that if you want

1258
01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:24,520
Speaker 1: to join us in Chicago on three thirty, become a

1259
01:05:24,560 --> 01:05:28,920
Speaker 1: patron and there are tickets for both or maybe nine.

1260
01:05:29,760 --> 01:05:32,000
Speaker 1: But by the way, Miami, we are coming. I know

1261
01:05:32,080 --> 01:05:34,040
Speaker 1: y'all niggas do ship last minute and I ain't even

1262
01:05:34,040 --> 01:05:36,400
Speaker 1: gonna hold you. I'm about to cancel that ship. What

1263
01:05:36,960 --> 01:05:41,520
Speaker 1: how to funk? Toronto got more tickets than Miami. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna be real with you. So like I think forty

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Speaker 1: people bought tickets the day of my Miami show. I

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Speaker 1: was shocked. Do y'allniggs just be late, y'all n don't play.

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Speaker 1: It's like going on Miami like everybody else. It's just

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Speaker 1: nice and they get their ship on time and we

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Speaker 1: can make plans on time. Anyways, UM go ahead to

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Speaker 1: say the spiel because we are going to go ahead. Yes,

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Speaker 1: that's right. If you UM Enjoy this next clip and

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Speaker 1: you want to hear the rest of it. Join us

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Speaker 1: on patreon dot com. It's five dollars a month and

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Speaker 1: you get three bonus episodes a month. Three bonus episodes. UM.

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Speaker 1: We also have merch for fifteen bucks. On that tier.

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Speaker 1: You can be a producer of this show. You can

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Speaker 1: call me and Mandy and you can plan an episode

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Speaker 1: with us. Give us feedback. We love it. We also

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Speaker 1: also spend y'all march. Okay, we march on the fourth month,

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Speaker 1: we ship it out to you. UM. Join us patreon

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Speaker 1: dot com. Slash Horrible Decisions within the description of the bio.

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Speaker 1: Enjoy this clip piece. This is yet another episode of

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Speaker 1: horrible decisions by I know we don't do king shaming

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Speaker 1: around here, but this is this one should be shame.

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Speaker 1: This is the king. We say that as long as

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Speaker 1: a kink doesn't involve children or animals, it's ago. However,

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Speaker 1: this kink is kind of odd and I don't know

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Speaker 1: how it comes about. So the kink this week is necrophilia.

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Speaker 1: Necrophilia is sexual intercourse with or attraction towards corpses. Um.

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Speaker 1: So these are dead human beings, um, And so yes,

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Speaker 1: you're having sex with a human, but the human is

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Speaker 1: not alive. So I do think that there is something

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Speaker 1: very much wrong with this. I actually came across this

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Speaker 1: kink while watching the Ted Bundy tapes on Netflix. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna get into that later, but we're gonna go ahead

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Speaker 1: and delve into our horrible decision, which is kind of

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Speaker 1: like crazy. But I'm excited about this because this is

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Speaker 1: going to allow the Patreon community to do a lot

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Speaker 1: of talking. I'm hoping I bring some stories to you

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Speaker 1: guys that maybe y'all did not know of, and for

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Speaker 1: details that you weren't aware of. And yeah, this is

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Speaker 1: super exciting for me. I hit up Stephen yesterday while

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Speaker 1: I was finishing up the Ted Bundy tapes and I'm

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Speaker 1: was like, Yo, I know what we're gonna talk about,

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Speaker 1: because there's just so much in the news right now

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Speaker 1: going on about this and I think it's important. So

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Speaker 1: we're talking about sex criminals today, but criminals that I

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Speaker 1: don't think we wouldn't necessarily deem doesn't society wouldn't say

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Speaker 1: they look like criminals or be deemed criminicals. Um, So

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Speaker 1: before we start, I do want to say r I

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Speaker 1: P to Jazzy Correa. UM, this is a very very

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Speaker 1: very sad story. I'm going to post the link as

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Speaker 1: well to all of these stories so that you guys

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Speaker 1: can do your own research and bring these conversations to

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Speaker 1: your group chats. I would hope. So, Jazzy Corea is

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Speaker 1: a twenty three year old mother UM who was recently

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Speaker 1: found killed in Boston. She was found Unfortunately the details argorism,

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Speaker 1: but she was found in two suitcases in a man's trunk. Basically,

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Speaker 1: the story behind this is I'll sit here and reading.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. This is from Fox News. So, the body

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Speaker 1: of a twenty year old mother who vanished after leaving

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Speaker 1: a Boston nightclub last weekend was discovered Thursday in the

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Speaker 1: trunk of a vehicle during by the man suspected of

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Speaker 1: adapting her UM. Louis D. Coleman the Third. He is

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Speaker 1: thirty two of Providence, Rho, Rhode Island, was named as

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Speaker 1: a suspect in connection with the disappearance of Jazzy Korea.

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Speaker 1: He was arrested in Delaware after cops found Korea's body

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Speaker 1: um in the back of his trunk in two suitcases.

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Speaker 1: Korea was survived by a two year old daughter, and

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Speaker 1: she was reportedly reportedly last seen at the Venue nightclub

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Speaker 1: early Sunday in company of an unknown male UM, and

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Speaker 1: she was getting inside of a red car with her. Basically,

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Speaker 1: the conversation is that she was celebrating her birthday with

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Speaker 1: all of her friends. UM, I'm hearing that this gentleman

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Speaker 1: caught her eye and they vibed. She decided to leave

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Speaker 1: her friends after the club and instead of going straight home,

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Speaker 1: I'm hearing that she chose to leave the club with

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Speaker 1: this guy and she never came home came home. So

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Speaker 1: this is really sad because I'm seeing a mixture of

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Speaker 1: conversations going on on the social media. So unfortunately, a

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Speaker 1: lot of people are blaming her friends. It's a super

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Speaker 1: tough one. So, ladies, we know we have girl code

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Speaker 1: in the club. We know that when we go to

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Speaker 1: the club, we like to go to the bathrooms together

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Speaker 1: and nine times out of ten we do leave together. However,

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Speaker 1: we have all been in situations where we met a

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Speaker 1: nice little gentleman and maybe we wanted to go for

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Speaker 1: a nightcap, or maybe we wanted to have fun that night,

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Speaker 1: maybe we wanted to do some home ship. And literally,

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Speaker 1: as I was reading the story and seeing the response.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking of how many times you've been in

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Speaker 1: that same sort of scenario. I've been in that scenario.

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Speaker 1: I have left with guys after the club. I've you know,

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Speaker 1: I've met guys and thought that it was it was

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Speaker 1: all right, like they seem cool, We was vibing, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna hold you. This gentleman not only

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Speaker 1: is he black, but he's fairly good looking. And so

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Speaker 1: I don't think we view our own kind as criminals.

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Speaker 1: We always say like it's white people ship, and especially

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Speaker 1: when it comes to we don't view our own people

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Speaker 1: as being capable of doing these things. And so never

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Speaker 1: once and I'm reading, like I said, I'm reading the story,

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Speaker 1: and never once have I gone to the club I

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Speaker 1: met a decent looking guy and thought, oh damn, he

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Speaker 1: might he might kill me or right me or those

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Speaker 1: those things just don't even cross my mind. And so

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Speaker 1: it's so crazy that we're preyed on, not only in

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Speaker 1: this way, but we don't even really lies the kind

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Speaker 1: of situations we put ourselves in.