Speaker 1: Welcome to Jay dot Im a production of I Heart
Speaker 1: Radio Friends, Friends, Friends is always so good When the
Speaker 1: line rings, it's an old school thing to do, like, oh,
Speaker 1: there's a phone in the background, would be well, there's
Speaker 1: a phone and there's a friend on the phone or
Speaker 1: on our zoom right now, this young woman, First of all,
Speaker 1: I have to use my baby voice for it because
Speaker 1: it is so cute to me, Like like every time
Speaker 1: I see the face, I actually want to bite her
Speaker 1: and it would be a pleasure. I just want to
Speaker 1: bite your face. Oh my god, Oh it's so pretty.
Speaker 1: All it's so so, so pretty, and her sing so
Speaker 1: good whatever kind of style you got to think is
Speaker 1: singing it. Okay, she's a brilliant poet. She is a
Speaker 1: band leader. Okay, now that's that's something that I love
Speaker 1: to see because one who's who's leading the band? Let
Speaker 1: me think brand new Heavies, India, Dave Report, you know Russian.
Speaker 1: Yes I'm talking. I'm talking about just being a band
Speaker 1: lead your own. I'm trying to think of she got
Speaker 1: that loosens, thank you, Yes, that rough kids. I don't
Speaker 1: want to fight Alabama shakes Alabama who love her? But
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I love how from Tank and the
Speaker 1: Bangers they call her? Why why they call you first? Agree?
Speaker 1: I want to be your laying I'm not right. It's
Speaker 1: a nickname. My daddy gave it to me. I don't
Speaker 1: know why he gave it to me. It's very interesting.
Speaker 1: He died if I could ask him. But it's a
Speaker 1: family nickname. And now the world happens to know your
Speaker 1: family nickname, Tank and the Banger's baby. That's something that's
Speaker 1: some good old If you can't hear, this thing is
Speaker 1: straight out of new order and and and comforting. Talking
Speaker 1: about your voice, I know what they say, sound like
Speaker 1: a mal like what is it? It's like a nice
Speaker 1: little um, a little baked chicken, some kind of a's
Speaker 1: maybe macaroni and cheese with the brown on the top. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: not a little, a little gravy. That voice is gravy.
Speaker 1: It's like the definitely had some gravy on it, for sure.
Speaker 1: My favorite meal is ross with gravy and rice and potato,
Speaker 1: saying like rebeans from my mama though, Yeah that sounds delicious.
Speaker 1: It's really good. The crawfish. I just want some color
Speaker 1: greens to some potato salad. Love some colleagues thing about
Speaker 1: them bitches, won't sheen? She love a colleague. I can
Speaker 1: eat them every day on my life. Well, I say this,
Speaker 1: I don't have. I don't have the top tier collar greens.
Speaker 1: They but you got something that's the talk alone time.
Speaker 1: I put that out married alone time. I love of
Speaker 1: way her husband looking at her time. I love it,
Speaker 1: looking at like I really like you and I think
Speaker 1: you're really smart. You want that. I could be staring
Speaker 1: at him like I could do marriage. I could do
Speaker 1: it because for these people I could do it. Do
Speaker 1: make it look possible. It's funny because I told him
Speaker 1: because take was like, um, I like the way you
Speaker 1: look at I said, this is what happened. They said
Speaker 1: you had told him. They said, you look at me
Speaker 1: like you like me? When I do, like yeah, And
Speaker 1: that's how he looked at you, he said, with the
Speaker 1: attitude like I said, well I do. Like. That's why
Speaker 1: she checking in where she's covering her mouth like a
Speaker 1: little kid, because she know that that I love me sexy.
Speaker 1: Did I tell you think I do? Oh yeah, that's
Speaker 1: called that. Okay, you gotta make sure you gotta take
Speaker 1: your bra off to do that. You don't need to
Speaker 1: take your bratty little circle. That's talent. I mean, I
Speaker 1: knew you was talented before, but you know, I appreciate that.
Speaker 1: But I love, I do love. That's all you did
Speaker 1: with Big Freedom, because that got that got me to
Speaker 1: understanding how to get my talk you could do. Just
Speaker 1: imagine surprised. I can do it. I can. I can
Speaker 1: only do these things in prime. Yes, he will not.
Speaker 1: He actually won't be surprised. The sad part. It's not sad.
Speaker 1: Not be surprised, that's the sad part. He would just right.
Speaker 1: He would just be making sure nobody is videotaping. He'd
Speaker 1: be like, please put your phones down, thank you very much,
Speaker 1: you put your phone down. Good night, Lord God. That's
Speaker 1: not that's a fear that we asked. We we over
Speaker 1: here giggling, were giggling. They ask Tank what we need
Speaker 1: to ask her? And what do we need to ask her?
Speaker 1: What's on your heart? What's on your heart? Boo boo?
Speaker 1: I don't know life? What let me see what's going
Speaker 1: on in our life right now? Oh, just got off
Speaker 1: a little book for her. That was that was really
Speaker 1: fighting a lot of fun. Hey, I think it's I
Speaker 1: think it's the one you stay, you know, it was
Speaker 1: a lot of fun, and it felt really good to
Speaker 1: get back to my poetry roots of just being in
Speaker 1: the club with one musician just playing behind me lightly
Speaker 1: and gently as I as I do my poems and
Speaker 1: I take my time and it's low and I oh,
Speaker 1: I love that there was everybody cried at the end
Speaker 1: of the night. I cried at the end of the night,
Speaker 1: and I just I love taking my time. I really
Speaker 1: thought I should go on tour by myself once every
Speaker 1: couple of years. It's special, it is, and the sound
Speaker 1: checks are so short. How about that? Can you hear that?
Speaker 1: I can hear too. Let's go yeah, because you spend
Speaker 1: forever doing them and then you get on stage and
Speaker 1: it's still different. Mm hmmm, it's still and just this
Speaker 1: is how you still got to push through, just so
Speaker 1: smiling down, turning around, person out your band maid like
Speaker 1: I loved him. But I enjoyed this too, because what
Speaker 1: what part of this part really opened you up? Like
Speaker 1: tell us about that part, Like you said you should
Speaker 1: do this once a year because of what what did
Speaker 1: it do for you? It's kind of like that moment
Speaker 1: where you know that she was born alone. M he
Speaker 1: was boring alone and that you have something special inside
Speaker 1: you and it don't take a lot to show it all.
Speaker 1: Even though I love the big sound, I love something,
Speaker 1: I could be tired as hell, but once I get
Speaker 1: on stage with the bankers, it's like somebody plugged me
Speaker 1: in the wall. I'm I'm alive, I'm not I'm not tying,
Speaker 1: I'm not thinking about the ride here because I don't
Speaker 1: even mind toll. I just hate to travel to get
Speaker 1: to where I'm going, like that's annoying. But when I
Speaker 1: get up there, I know I'm exactly what I'm supposed
Speaker 1: to be. I'm spiritually laid. But when I was up
Speaker 1: there by myself or just with one banker, just felt
Speaker 1: like I could I could do with them, and I
Speaker 1: needed to feed myself in that way and do what
Speaker 1: I want without about saying that's not the right nick.
Speaker 1: I'll make the melody like no my day. There's a
Speaker 1: There's a beautiful thing about balance, because something that you
Speaker 1: do could be really, really big, and a lot of
Speaker 1: people can come to that one thing, but then something
Speaker 1: else that you do can be just as big, but
Speaker 1: in a in a perfectly small way. It keeps you humble,
Speaker 1: and it keeps you balanced, and I think it inspires
Speaker 1: the fun and like like you said, it's a reminder
Speaker 1: of who you are, where you started. How important is
Speaker 1: the words for you, ma'am? The words, the words, it's
Speaker 1: not even so much, it's how important words are. It's
Speaker 1: important how I say the word. That's very important to me.
Speaker 1: Everybody could read the book and hit a song and
Speaker 1: it's great. That's really great, of course, because you want
Speaker 1: them sales. But when I read them, yeah, I bring
Speaker 1: life to him because it's my life. It's my life
Speaker 1: I'm reading from so I know where the pause, I
Speaker 1: know where to add extra breath there. I know that
Speaker 1: I'm about to send this line instead of just speaking
Speaker 1: to like a poem. It's about the way I say
Speaker 1: the words. You notice, you understand this, You all you
Speaker 1: understand what I mean. I'm kind of jealous that the
Speaker 1: rest of us I'm not gonna be able to experience.
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm just I'm just saying than just it
Speaker 1: was like a one in a lifetime thing. You're not
Speaker 1: going to take this to She said that there's something
Speaker 1: that she would do like every you know, a few
Speaker 1: years you can I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: it every Yeah, I think it's um. I think especially
Speaker 1: when I loved when I was out there seeing everybody,
Speaker 1: I saw Asian them, and I saw p J. Martin,
Speaker 1: and I went to see til Live Quite and I
Speaker 1: saw Lord. I couldn't even much think of it. I
Speaker 1: just saw so many people on this little toy. It
Speaker 1: was so much fun. I couldn't kill chicken. I know,
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, what you went my time? Missing nice?
Speaker 1: We was outside, Yeah, what a couple of d ch
Speaker 1: The hotel lady found out who Asian you want? Hug
Speaker 1: all tight may Chicago though, that was Chicago, Chicago show
Speaker 1: that Chicago. Wait, Chicago was the only they were the
Speaker 1: only city that received this. Where else did you go?
Speaker 1: Chicago was off the chair. See, I gotta think. I
Speaker 1: went to Atlanta, and I wasn't gonna go to Texas,
Speaker 1: but all my fans kept saying, you must not like
Speaker 1: Texas book, so you know, they made sure we put
Speaker 1: some Texas dates up, and okay with do tastes do Atlanta,
Speaker 1: we do Philly, New York, Boston, Alexandria, Virginia. And it's
Speaker 1: was a surprise that I remember these places, yea, because
Speaker 1: I don't remember anything. It's a huge surprise that I'm
Speaker 1: like telling you the cities like I don't. I hate
Speaker 1: when the fan tells me you remember me, tank a
Speaker 1: fan would tell me you remember me. You you threw
Speaker 1: the peace sign up? Are you remember that I had
Speaker 1: on a yellow shirt and you threw the peace sign
Speaker 1: up seventeen years ago? You remember that, don't you. I'm Gloria, Gloria, Gloria,
Speaker 1: good to see you again. I just been smiling. If
Speaker 1: you ever preaching to a choir that smile, yeah, because
Speaker 1: they will hold you accountable. They will hold you accountable
Speaker 1: for the peace side I had. I had on a
Speaker 1: pink risk bad baby, and I waved back you and
Speaker 1: you did this. You don't remember you did the peace
Speaker 1: side that you don't remember that. What I love, though,
Speaker 1: is that there are moments when you actually really do
Speaker 1: remember somebody like oh shid, like job my memory enough,
Speaker 1: Like I just told you, I will, it will come
Speaker 1: back to remember. Make somebody's life. It's it's it's these days.
Speaker 1: It depends on the person. Sometimes they life Jim. Sometimes
Speaker 1: all you gotta do is have one special moment with
Speaker 1: somebody and they will remember it. They will apply to
Speaker 1: their life. I love to tell people how important they are.
Speaker 1: And I think because somebody took so long to tell
Speaker 1: me that was important special Because the moment somebody told
Speaker 1: me I was special, I begin to walk in my purpose.
Speaker 1: And I like to tell people that because you people
Speaker 1: don't be knowing, they think they ordinary people be thinking
Speaker 1: they ordinary knowing. Damn well, had perfectly happened just for
Speaker 1: you to be here, and it's definitely not my chance,
Speaker 1: I gotta tell I like to tell him, well, somebody
Speaker 1: told me so they could. Yeah. I remember the first
Speaker 1: time I met you was at Essence and my husband
Speaker 1: was already familiar with with the Bad. Yeah, he said,
Speaker 1: you know who that is? I said, no, I don't
Speaker 1: know who that is. He said, oh, yeah, that's taking
Speaker 1: the bangers like they from the ones, like they they
Speaker 1: they banging like they're good. They're good, they're good. And
Speaker 1: he was like, and so we had seen you before
Speaker 1: we met you, and then when you came and met us,
Speaker 1: it was like you was just so loving and so
Speaker 1: sweet and so like, I love y'all, I love what
Speaker 1: y'all do. And I personally was really hyping. You might
Speaker 1: not remember this, but D'Angelo was playing in the main room,
Speaker 1: and I remember that you stayed to watch our show
Speaker 1: when you could have gone to see D'Angelo, which I
Speaker 1: thought everybody on the planet would choose to see d
Speaker 1: at that point because he was coming back, but you didn't.
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, that's so dope. And honestly,
Speaker 1: every time I've ever come in contact with you since
Speaker 1: you have been the exact same, mom beautiful, loving person
Speaker 1: since that day. And I was like, and everything that
Speaker 1: has happened to y'all to be able to stand back
Speaker 1: and see that, because you know, in an artist's life,
Speaker 1: you know, we come in contact with each other off
Speaker 1: and on, you know what I mean, like even you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying this or that, you know, And
Speaker 1: I think that was really a beautiful thing to to
Speaker 1: see how things have blown up and grown for y'all,
Speaker 1: but that you, yourself, your energy has really stayed the same.
Speaker 1: You know that you really have just always been this
Speaker 1: person that just shine from the inside. So you know, again,
Speaker 1: it's hard for me to understand that. I mean, I
Speaker 1: look at my I look at you, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, look at all that light. There's just
Speaker 1: a bright, sweet, beautiful person and I am. I am confused.
Speaker 1: How how you didn't know? I didn't know. I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I just didn't know. I think it's because you grow
Speaker 1: up with all these sisters. And I don't know if
Speaker 1: y'all notice or if y'all even experienced this, but black
Speaker 1: families don't really go crazy just because you gotta give,
Speaker 1: because everybody gotta gift in their family, everybody's family table.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she'd been signing Street Throw on the phone.
Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't have nobody pushing me in my family.
Speaker 1: I had friends later on to push me in life,
Speaker 1: but nobody around to just be like, you're you're really
Speaker 1: special because I was always writing, always singing, not like
Speaker 1: as well as my sisters, but always singing. So I
Speaker 1: just I just did not I just didn't know, not
Speaker 1: enough to walk in it. But I knew that I could,
Speaker 1: I could perform. I knew that we're gonna take a
Speaker 1: quick break and then we'll be right back. I always
Speaker 1: wanted to ask, because you signed so bright, and I
Speaker 1: always want to ask people who shine so bright how
Speaker 1: they maintain their life because because you signed so bright,
Speaker 1: and people around know this energy and go to you
Speaker 1: for this energy. Whether you're singing, it, you're speaking or whatever.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it and you know it has to be replenished
Speaker 1: at some point. So I'm just I'm so curious, especially
Speaker 1: in the last year and some change, how you've been
Speaker 1: replenishing yourself in that way. How have I been replenishing myself?
Speaker 1: First of all, just having conversation. I love when when
Speaker 1: Jill called me, like I love with my phone, I
Speaker 1: screenshot it every time. She don't notice, but I screenshot it.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, she calling and I just always make
Speaker 1: me so happy. And and I talked to her about
Speaker 1: some things, especially if I you know, if I meet
Speaker 1: anybody new, you know, or if if something's going on,
Speaker 1: you know, I like to get her advice on it.
Speaker 1: And my best friends are just they're the type of
Speaker 1: people that are really honest with you. Are very loving
Speaker 1: because I'm sensitive, so they know not to discourage me feeling.
Speaker 1: They know to encourage me. And if it's time to
Speaker 1: give me the real they'll She'll give me that too,
Speaker 1: without hurting my feelings. It's very careful about that because
Speaker 1: I'm so sensitive. You're not alone. It's say, oh my god,
Speaker 1: it's sad. It's really sad. I don't even know how
Speaker 1: you have a relationship being as sensitive as I am.
Speaker 1: It's crazy. I think I got a never to be sensitive.
Speaker 1: But but we'll tell you the truth without what's your
Speaker 1: What does that sign? What is that? I don't want
Speaker 1: to talk about it. You told me before, but I forgot.
Speaker 1: It sounds like a cancer. I didn't want to see
Speaker 1: a cancer. It's not a castle. It sounds like an
Speaker 1: aries to me. But I don't think it wass all
Speaker 1: like Arias but it's not. I like aeries, but I
Speaker 1: don't like how boss stop aggressive. I am virgo Virgo.
Speaker 1: I oh, I know this makes so much sense. Oh,
Speaker 1: this is why you as my whole baby. This is yeah,
Speaker 1: you like the Virgo. This is why I don't like
Speaker 1: what they sound like. The Virgo sound like harsh, critical
Speaker 1: old space. But you know what Virgos be knowing, and
Speaker 1: that's one thing. You got a good sense of people.
Speaker 1: And I trust a virgo's opinion. Virgo's opinion is almost
Speaker 1: a written law. They know what they're talking about, and
Speaker 1: that is that because they just do. I have virgo
Speaker 1: that I know, I trust. I trust what they have
Speaker 1: to say. I mean, you're not guess I gotta get
Speaker 1: into these signs like a really crazy but I'm thinking
Speaker 1: this is freaking how much it applies sometimes honestly, really
Speaker 1: like when I'm meeting somebody new, I go and check
Speaker 1: up our zodia competibility. You don't Maybe that was as
Speaker 1: know that, yeah, because if I would have known then
Speaker 1: what I knew now about my lass relationship, My zodier
Speaker 1: told me that it really wasn't gonna work out that well.
Speaker 1: I was like, uh, Leo, oh yes, too cool. No,
Speaker 1: that's too that's that's close. That's right there. I just
Speaker 1: think that, um, all the Leos in my life are
Speaker 1: very um, they're around the same, and I think that
Speaker 1: the personalities are very interesting of a leo, and it's
Speaker 1: it's could be difficult, but you love them very much.
Speaker 1: I love my interesting. That's that's what y'all. That's what y'all.
Speaker 1: Just friends child a child? Oh good, louve is it? Dear?
Speaker 1: Is Nina is next week? It's like the Leo thing.
Speaker 1: Is she kind of like like they say, um, strong minded,
Speaker 1: doesn't like to be wrong, loves to give advice, but
Speaker 1: not really take all those things. No, he's not like that.
Speaker 1: That's because he likes Yeah, that's because Huck got that magic,
Speaker 1: got that she got space. I'm going to say that
Speaker 1: I finally have that magic finally. It's it's interesting when
Speaker 1: you have something good to give, but you're just giving
Speaker 1: it to the wrong person. Like I just I want
Speaker 1: to encourage you to stay on course because I think
Speaker 1: that you're absolutely wonderful. I do. I do you to, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: stay on course. I'm just saying that it's it's it's
Speaker 1: not the love that you're giving, it's the who you're
Speaker 1: giving it to that that isn't working out just yet,
Speaker 1: but that love is beautiful. So told tight and we
Speaker 1: will and we do fight. We do fight, and I
Speaker 1: will fight. I will fight. I don't play that messing
Speaker 1: part my people with the big all r it's okay,
Speaker 1: then put these dudes, and my husband loves y'all. You
Speaker 1: know he will fight this. I love y'all, dude. I
Speaker 1: just know that. Well. I like what Jill said about
Speaker 1: who you're giving it to. And also after you get
Speaker 1: out these relationships, you also see where you went left
Speaker 1: or right. You know. Um A damn show was not perfect.
Speaker 1: But in the beginning, I don't even gonna lie. I
Speaker 1: thought I was because I was just so ready to
Speaker 1: love someone, not even someone, excuse me, I was ready
Speaker 1: to love him, and I zoned in, I'm gonna love you.
Speaker 1: I want to love you. Then after while, since he
Speaker 1: wasn't giving it to me so easily, and by the
Speaker 1: time he was ready to give me his love, my
Speaker 1: feelings were different because I I felt like I chased
Speaker 1: you so long. Should have been like, yeah, yeah, well,
Speaker 1: let me just say this. Fine as your ass be
Speaker 1: looking on the internet, upset your point. I'm in a
Speaker 1: different like it's about titties to be out now. It
Speaker 1: sounds a legs the show, it's time for weed, for
Speaker 1: the booty or any like. It's it's a different sign
Speaker 1: like now can we go to when can we go
Speaker 1: to the hand with Tank? We could go to New
Speaker 1: Orleans and hang with Tank. That thing has invited me
Speaker 1: to New Orleans, like I can't even tell you how
Speaker 1: many times. And I'm gonna say this, and every time
Speaker 1: I'm in her city, I call her and I've never
Speaker 1: been there. I'm never here, Mommy be working. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say this that I would love to come to New Orleans,
Speaker 1: but um, I needed to not be the summer. Oh
Speaker 1: that part. I love it so I like JC, so
Speaker 1: I can handle the human asia. I'm from DC. That
Speaker 1: ship is another level. This summer wasn't that hot to me,
Speaker 1: but almost every day and that was that was kind
Speaker 1: of way. I'm gonna need to come in the winter, Okay,
Speaker 1: I need to know when you're on. No, that's not
Speaker 1: that's not at least like okay, but just not the
Speaker 1: summer like that I was. I don't like being swoothy
Speaker 1: like that with some citties. We don't like that sweat boobs.
Speaker 1: I can't underneath them no more. You got to get
Speaker 1: the organics you can. You can't even mess with regular
Speaker 1: the older I got he use a spray deolder and
Speaker 1: the older one't be a strong for me no more.
Speaker 1: Because here's a tip. Here's an old school tip. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you could find it, but tussy is
Speaker 1: that work right around the one that memorial the tussy
Speaker 1: around the busset. I want to go down the brothers
Speaker 1: smelling like the ordering on not my friends, just to
Speaker 1: put the older hell in the thighs. Me too, I
Speaker 1: did I did that too, yeah, especially in the when
Speaker 1: they let me. I know, it's a stupid question. I
Speaker 1: know it's a silly question below now, please don't nobody
Speaker 1: with me. Does certain deodorance cause cancer? Yeah? Aluminum aluminum,
Speaker 1: aluminum one one aluminum, And they tell you to stay
Speaker 1: away from the ones that say anti purse point the
Speaker 1: stops you from persepiring, then it can be difficult for you.
Speaker 1: And then you want something that that that helps you
Speaker 1: to stay fresh whilst sweaty right, don't stop my sweat?
Speaker 1: How you doing to stop the natural order of things?
Speaker 1: Or be prepared to wash? Several times in the course
Speaker 1: of the days on here? I wonder where he was here?
Speaker 1: I wonder what what do they thala? What are they?
Speaker 1: What are they saying? I had a right make it
Speaker 1: show making? Wen't only one? So for all of you
Speaker 1: are who are lost. Right now, we're making a reference
Speaker 1: to the hyenas and scar in. How many times you'll
Speaker 1: watched that ship? I didn't see it three times. I
Speaker 1: still don't know what y'all was talking. I've seen it
Speaker 1: more than fifty times in my life. Pushed inside out
Speaker 1: last night and it was just so good. You love it?
Speaker 1: Feelings having feels it is my favorite, is my favorite
Speaker 1: animated film ever made. I can't wait for Tank's new
Speaker 1: animated film. Uh yeah, sure, I appreciate you speaking of
Speaker 1: its existence. Yeah, that's what I'm doing. That's what i'm doing.
Speaker 1: You see that. You see I did that. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. It's a lot of things that
Speaker 1: this that this Tank thing can do. I listen when
Speaker 1: I when I really love you, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: just call you a thing. It's always been a thing
Speaker 1: that like people that I love, like, look at it,
Speaker 1: look at that, look at this thing. You know, I
Speaker 1: don't know. You send that to me in the comments
Speaker 1: of my Instagram the other day and I just gritted
Speaker 1: because I could hear your voice. I can't hear the
Speaker 1: baby voice saying it. I'm just so glad that people
Speaker 1: understand me a little bit when it comes to that,
Speaker 1: because they're like, I'm not a thing. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's over you, Like whatever, Sorry, I'm saying stuff different
Speaker 1: when I was in Indiana because when the storm head,
Speaker 1: when I can't Contraine in here and my family moved
Speaker 1: to Indianapolis and in the walls with somebody tell a
Speaker 1: joke or when they're funny, we'd be like, man, you're stupid.
Speaker 1: And there was not so I used to say that,
Speaker 1: and there's like, I'm not stupid. Same. Oh it's over, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's over. It's over. And so enough, like you
Speaker 1: don't feel my you don't feel my vibe on that thing,
Speaker 1: Like I'm not trying to hurt you at all. You
Speaker 1: didn't get the tone, you didn't pick up on the tone,
Speaker 1: you didn't pick up in any of the context clues. Nothing,
Speaker 1: nothing like I'm smiling. I mean it's coming from the inside. Huh.
Speaker 1: Because you're so silly, right, not stupid? Right. They didn't
Speaker 1: say you're so stupid, they say you're so silly, right.
Speaker 1: Not experience in my life though, good experience, and didn't.
Speaker 1: Let's help me come out of my shell and know
Speaker 1: myself more because those New Orleans is the city west
Speaker 1: all freedom, be yourself. That's not easy to be yourself
Speaker 1: in New Orleans high schools, they talk about you, they'll
Speaker 1: rip you. They got you know, every class whom got
Speaker 1: their bullies. I hated bullies for real, for real. Still
Speaker 1: still I don't even understand how people honestly can go
Speaker 1: online and like unneed somebody picture just write like a
Speaker 1: real mean comment, especially when they like to do it
Speaker 1: just because you got a blue check as if you're
Speaker 1: not like a regular person. They just I'm like, wow, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all really on one. So I don't like bullying. And
Speaker 1: even when I was a teacher, and is zero tolerance
Speaker 1: in my classroom for that, because I don't want nobody
Speaker 1: feeling small or weird. I'm making them feel awkward. I
Speaker 1: don't know what you teach like everything because all grades,
Speaker 1: because what happened was they instead of getting substitute teachers,
Speaker 1: they would let artists come into classrooms and make their
Speaker 1: own lessons plans. So it was really special and um,
Speaker 1: and so that means I was with all grades. Now
Speaker 1: what I like about the little kids. The little kids
Speaker 1: have burst of energy and they're not ashamed and they
Speaker 1: love you all day. But their attention span is really small.
Speaker 1: But with the older kids, they understand my lessons, but
Speaker 1: they're too cool for school. They really jump in. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I fIF guators are alive with where the state seven,
Speaker 1: So I don't really mess with the figuators. Did so
Speaker 1: my son teachers middle school right now, he is just
Speaker 1: like mom, he said. I don't mean no harm, he said,
Speaker 1: but middle school girls they think that they know ever
Speaker 1: and they mean, they mean. I didn't know that girls
Speaker 1: were mean and boys were sweet and sensitive and wanted
Speaker 1: affection and girls were mean. I didn't know that. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: the boys own is tang, but get off me with
Speaker 1: your student child like and the girl's being class just
Speaker 1: just me, you know, Like I'm like, wow, I didn't
Speaker 1: know that boys got their heartbroken and then they got
Speaker 1: me and they are broken and they got sweet. I
Speaker 1: didn't that also happened when there's a cute female teacher today,
Speaker 1: like coming here, she comes getting all. You know, I
Speaker 1: used to come with the fly close. You heard me.
Speaker 1: We love no let me. I'm glad you brought that
Speaker 1: up because I love your style everything, with your hands,
Speaker 1: with your look, no fear. You don't have no fear.
Speaker 1: That's what I love about it. It's just like it's
Speaker 1: always one point. It's always pushing the AFLD like I
Speaker 1: love it, and I didn't know it was responsible. Pretty.
Speaker 1: I think my only fear is like, you know, like
Speaker 1: falling on stage and even then I'm gonna have to
Speaker 1: play at all to split. Yeah. I had been working
Speaker 1: out a lot and then what these badass shoes and
Speaker 1: I had managed to stay in the shoes the whole show,
Speaker 1: and I was geeked about them shoes. And for some reason,
Speaker 1: on my way out, on my way off the stage,
Speaker 1: my leg was like bitch, and it just it just
Speaker 1: down sheet up to humble. Remember did they see Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, I felt. I felt pretty good. And then
Speaker 1: all I could do was lift my legs in the
Speaker 1: air to show my shoes. That's why that's who I
Speaker 1: got a drum. I love it. I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't exactly fall, but one of those wibble wobbles
Speaker 1: that was so bad. I should have just felo drunk
Speaker 1: it was. It was one of as yes, it really does,
Speaker 1: and I should have just gone ahead and fell down, right.
Speaker 1: So that's what I told about that. That's what I
Speaker 1: told my mom about Beyonce. When Beyonce almost fell the
Speaker 1: Super Bowl, my mama said, y'all, this is this is
Speaker 1: my mama just showed me like the expectations of all
Speaker 1: the street. I can't believe my mama said this. When
Speaker 1: Beyonce almost felt, my mama said, and that quote, what
Speaker 1: was that like? She's supposed to be perfect, I said, mother.
Speaker 1: I said, first of all, she didn't fall. It's second
Speaker 1: of all, that's a human up their mother. My mama
Speaker 1: is Llari. And she still was like, I said what
Speaker 1: I said, that's the expecting. I know somebody saying that
Speaker 1: about her daughter somewhere, but I will say that I
Speaker 1: used to run around stage a lot, but when I
Speaker 1: did see Jail performed and let me know that I
Speaker 1: can stand still and it's all good. Wow. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: needed to to steady myself because I was running around
Speaker 1: so much. Heard a recording to myself and I just
Speaker 1: started crying because I was running around so much that
Speaker 1: nobody even heard my voice. Because I'm so busy trying
Speaker 1: to entertain you that you can't even hear the beauty
Speaker 1: of my own voice. It's a beautiful thing. Let me
Speaker 1: steady myself. You don't have to stay still. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I remember somebody saying that about sand about how Shand
Speaker 1: would come out on stage and and literally stand in
Speaker 1: one space and people would lose their minds as if
Speaker 1: they was watching Michael Jackson do full on coreo, and
Speaker 1: that it was like, you know, she could come out
Speaker 1: there and she was standing there and it was like
Speaker 1: she would just do a little bone with her hid,
Speaker 1: you know, just move her body and the people would
Speaker 1: just go and it would be like and it was.
Speaker 1: It was like a masterclass on you know what you
Speaker 1: bring people to. You bring people in and when you
Speaker 1: first start performing and you first coming up, you're you're
Speaker 1: not confident, and so you feel you have to win
Speaker 1: over the audience instead of standing your but still like
Speaker 1: you said, and grounding yourself in your gift and bringing
Speaker 1: people into your gift. You know what I'm saying. And
Speaker 1: I identify with that. And Jill is very good at this.
Speaker 1: I ain never seen I never seen you, Doug Eyo.
Speaker 1: I never saw her do it. It's more of a twerk,
Speaker 1: but a little bit with the mic. You're not about
Speaker 1: to with Na, She's gonna make get you a little microphone. Listen.
Speaker 1: I'm smighter, guys. I'll tell you, I'll tell you million times.
Speaker 1: I'm a writer. First and then the singing just happened
Speaker 1: and I was like, Okay, y'all like that, Okay, you
Speaker 1: like it, Okay it is with this. I'm just so
Speaker 1: glad that people enjoy it. I'm like, oh great, let's
Speaker 1: do it again. And this is fun to me, feels
Speaker 1: so good. More real talk after the break. I want
Speaker 1: to ask both of you you sang as a question.
Speaker 1: I want to know if you're aware, because you know, y'all,
Speaker 1: since you're blow up and you're so good, you got
Speaker 1: your luck, and since I'm like, I don't think we're
Speaker 1: blowing up yet and whatever, whatever, do y'all think that
Speaker 1: y'all are already legends. I'm already you know. You know
Speaker 1: I don't think so. No, But you know, people I
Speaker 1: want to argue, I'm gonna let them say. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let them. You know. I like to think of
Speaker 1: it more of an O G G marks. I think
Speaker 1: O G works for me, and and then I would
Speaker 1: say also to legendary becomes a thing that always are
Speaker 1: so subjective and that anybody could argue down for a
Speaker 1: number of different things. And for me, I say, just
Speaker 1: for me and for the team, because we haven't reached
Speaker 1: that level to which it becomes like household name type
Speaker 1: of thing. Or it's like I tell my children, it
Speaker 1: means something to who it means something too. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, And that to me has been the
Speaker 1: story of our career, is that we've come in contact
Speaker 1: with some people in which it needs something to them,
Speaker 1: like we've called okay, I thought, that's what I mean.
Speaker 1: But we've come to this point where it's like, yes,
Speaker 1: when you come in contact with somebody where it means
Speaker 1: something to them, then that's the magic. That's that moment
Speaker 1: where you understand, Okay, you did something that connected with
Speaker 1: a person's actual life and that that that's No one
Speaker 1: can take that from you. No one can extract that.
Speaker 1: Nobody can tell you you didn't sell enough records. Nobody
Speaker 1: can tell you you wasn't number one on the charts.
Speaker 1: Nobody can't tell you nothing. Because that part, that moment,
Speaker 1: that connection is that's legend. Like I made a difference, Mama, mama,
Speaker 1: because my mom would be like, why isn't yell? But
Speaker 1: when Walmart you just always get that question. Day. I mean,
Speaker 1: Tank doing her thank with her little gigs, little I
Speaker 1: don't ever say that to me again. This is my career, mom.
Speaker 1: That's cute, baby, That's what I'm mad. That's what I'm mean, baby,
Speaker 1: that's your little career. How's your little show going, little
Speaker 1: cute little career? Game? People nominations and a gig? Okay,
Speaker 1: it's not a game, honestly, Okay, here's here's my question
Speaker 1: as a as a non twerker uh in in public.
Speaker 1: My question is does that action actually translate to sex?
Speaker 1: Can do? It? Doesn't? Doesn't translate in a good way
Speaker 1: to say? I think I would like to ask somebody
Speaker 1: like that who was what we call the New Orleans
Speaker 1: a shaker. That's his girl in New Orleans that could
Speaker 1: really shake Donovans go we'll get on builders with Freed
Speaker 1: or she will climb up the wall. Seen I'm saying too.
Speaker 1: And she's really good at it. And I would love
Speaker 1: to know if she like brings that to her bear room,
Speaker 1: because why wouldn't you. I'm just saying that since you
Speaker 1: all do. I'm just asking does it doesn't? Does it translate?
Speaker 1: Because I have done it on the like, I definitely
Speaker 1: think it's a muscle memory thing. It may not be
Speaker 1: as as as intense, it's the muscle memory I think
Speaker 1: is there. But that's the only thing that has helped
Speaker 1: me out in a bedroom Romo. It's squats. Squats have
Speaker 1: made such a difference in my life that when I
Speaker 1: was training with my trainer both flip him in New
Speaker 1: Orleans and after these only that's that's his name, both
Speaker 1: flipping and as he and as he and after I
Speaker 1: was training in it for a while, and when I
Speaker 1: was having a moment in my life of sexual behavior,
Speaker 1: I was like, I start it laughing while I was
Speaker 1: doing it, because I was like, oh this is different.
Speaker 1: I can things I couldn't did before. And I just
Speaker 1: started laughing and I was just go ahead, squats. So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give it. I go. I would give it
Speaker 1: to squats. I swear I think it's all about listening.
Speaker 1: Oh God, I swear. I swear it's like listening to
Speaker 1: what your body is saying and what that thing saying.
Speaker 1: And I swear it's about listening. Sorry, that's what I
Speaker 1: think I do. I don't like to laugh. Oh there
Speaker 1: you go. There you like that is So I'm gonna
Speaker 1: talk about these things. Do we like for a man
Speaker 1: to talk to us? Do you like a man talking?
Speaker 1: Do you like a man? Mo hands? They're depending on
Speaker 1: what's being said. The moan, yes, but the words not
Speaker 1: call me daddy, of course when I say you call
Speaker 1: me daddy. But how let me know how good it feels.
Speaker 1: How I'm a giggler. So if it makes you laugh,
Speaker 1: not doing the door, don't laugh you've been giggling door
Speaker 1: the door, something chanting? If something is said that is funny.
Speaker 1: Then I'm like, that's funny. That's ouse she don't get
Speaker 1: somebody see take the thing about Asia sex stories. She
Speaker 1: can't want to give us a little bit because we
Speaker 1: know we know him time. But that's not the only
Speaker 1: person that she has. You don't remember nobody else like
Speaker 1: you don't remember baby Nigga said a dick got glasses
Speaker 1: on it, just brind just before whatever was glasses just sunglasses.
Speaker 1: Girl with the with the mirrors on the frost. Is
Speaker 1: what happens when that man when you start talking about
Speaker 1: sex and penis, I know you get excited, Yes, we
Speaker 1: get excited that we're talking about I talking about this.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I want to I want to know.
Speaker 1: I want to know what y'all have to say, because
Speaker 1: I am you know, I'm very interesting. Well, I mean,
Speaker 1: I won't have to coach side what you'll said. There
Speaker 1: is a little bit of a conversation that is happening
Speaker 1: between two bodies. If you're listening, HALLELLEENJH. If you're stay
Speaker 1: in tune with the conversation, all will come out of
Speaker 1: the experience feeling extraordinary and and and it may not
Speaker 1: be a pretty move that you make. It may not
Speaker 1: be a gentle move that you make. But if you're listening,
Speaker 1: if nobody and tell you that I'm looking better way
Speaker 1: for the weekend, just send your thanking. Have I listened
Speaker 1: to the biological song like the vox like least you have?
Speaker 1: Because let mena say you something list the fruit, and
Speaker 1: the vagina says the fruit of that labor is something day,
Speaker 1: a very quiet or some good day. Sometimes the fruits
Speaker 1: we're talking about. Yes, yes, we're specific about what you want.
Speaker 1: Are you quiet and let him do it? Stay? Depends
Speaker 1: sometimes yes, sometimes now turned into another episode. This is
Speaker 1: a separate episode thanks to I'm here on the communication,
Speaker 1: me too. I'm here for it though, let's go now
Speaker 1: that's what I'm here for, like when it when it
Speaker 1: comes to sex, like I need to so would you say? Well,
Speaker 1: if you said that, then I'm gonna say this, And
Speaker 1: now we're now we're saying stuff. Take y'alla. I think
Speaker 1: I need some more things to say. Maybe you can
Speaker 1: teach your class because I find that I get him
Speaker 1: no pay and thanks to say do yeah, y'all should
Speaker 1: because I get lost in something the same three rotatings
Speaker 1: things Yeah yeah, I can't come on, y'all can embarrass him.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying. I mean, I say some of the
Speaker 1: same things. How good if it is yes, this ship is,
Speaker 1: this ship feels yes, all of that amazing, you know,
Speaker 1: like this thing like this is us? Right? Nothing else?
Speaker 1: What some things that he should not say during sex?
Speaker 1: What will completely turn you off? Oh? I know what?
Speaker 1: Anything anything with daddy in it, anything with daddy in it.
Speaker 1: Do Daddy's was there. That's why they turned you off
Speaker 1: so much. I didn't know that was a thing. I
Speaker 1: can't if your dad was there, you may not be
Speaker 1: all about saying daddy. But I've let that slip before.
Speaker 1: And that's also because my dad died before I could
Speaker 1: even call him dad number one and number two because
Speaker 1: he's kind of taken can right it? Ye, it's his
Speaker 1: hand right here that you know, like and so. But
Speaker 1: before that moment, I was like, it's like a SEPERVERTI
Speaker 1: ship is that you don't want to slip off your tongue.
Speaker 1: Now you know why? Now you know, well, maybe listen,
Speaker 1: maybe I just haven't had that one right, that one
Speaker 1: right in which it has it has. Look at Jill
Speaker 1: remember her daddy her daddy moment as you. I'll see
Speaker 1: you in your daddy moment. I don't let us slip
Speaker 1: once she let us. Probably did let us slip, but
Speaker 1: it's not a habit for me. I talk a lot
Speaker 1: of ship. I believe. I believe you can make a
Speaker 1: man orgasm. In fact, I know it's true by by
Speaker 1: what you say. Give me one line, just give her
Speaker 1: a work. Come on, just give us one. Come on,
Speaker 1: come on. I can't do that. Just come on, just
Speaker 1: I can't do in the sentence, y'all have y'all have
Speaker 1: to tell me that one thing that a male say
Speaker 1: in bad complete turn know. I had to. I had
Speaker 1: to do giggle once and I was like, I'm done.
Speaker 1: You couldn't do I didn't. I didn't appreciate that. I
Speaker 1: wouldn't like that. Don't you stare? Yeah, we're in here,
Speaker 1: but that's I think of the exact thing. I think.
Speaker 1: It was like maybe something that was corny. Yes, that
Speaker 1: was like it was corny. And I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't really like my thing. Beat I don't like. I like.
Speaker 1: I like to feel it like you can do it,
Speaker 1: but I'd rather you not tell me you're about to
Speaker 1: beat this ship? How bad you're about to beat it up.
Speaker 1: I don't like. But Tina and I have this joke
Speaker 1: about violent words and about how men always use words
Speaker 1: that are synonymous with violence when they're talking about what
Speaker 1: they feel to do or not they do it, Like
Speaker 1: we had this whole conversation. Ever since then, it's like
Speaker 1: a thing we laugh about. So yeah, it's absent from
Speaker 1: intimacy that I love that. I don't like if someone
Speaker 1: says something regarding children while we're doing that. What you mean,
Speaker 1: what it's like, let me get you pregnant? Uh something
Speaker 1: something like that, something like that, because when I think
Speaker 1: of that, that instantly makes me think about responsibility. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you might through you, right though, Like after this moment
Speaker 1: over like what response a kid pampa's life just for
Speaker 1: a little bit of fun, for a little bit of fun,
Speaker 1: I did. I can recall one moment that that I
Speaker 1: really did enjoy it. I said that I couldn't take it.
Speaker 1: I was like, I can't, I can't take it all right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and since you're not take it because it was so
Speaker 1: good it was it was touching places that I didn't
Speaker 1: know to existed, Like you know that that that the blackout,
Speaker 1: the blackout, like you consistently blackout like you come back
Speaker 1: and then blackout again back. Never were like a death
Speaker 1: not I do your blind well? Who put my titty
Speaker 1: on the table right here? I I can't see you, guys.
Speaker 1: I can't see like y'all wall But I heard love
Speaker 1: take man, girl, I don't remember death, yo take. I
Speaker 1: still want to ask you a question, but I don't
Speaker 1: want to ask you to work. But I'm a whole fan,
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna just ask you and I'm never gonna
Speaker 1: I would never ask you to sing or anything like
Speaker 1: that because that would just be rude. But because you
Speaker 1: did not come to set up, it is. It is
Speaker 1: a set up. I don't jill hat just I don't
Speaker 1: care because I'm a FA and I'm I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: something because you did not come to my city, book
Speaker 1: whatever whichever. When I'm in Where's my Feeling l A?
Speaker 1: When you I mean, I wentn't there at the time
Speaker 1: d C came to Feeling and I came in the
Speaker 1: DMV area. L A is my town, l A. That's
Speaker 1: where I like, I don't know about it. We got
Speaker 1: to play to get there, Okay, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Is it is. I'm not I just curious about a
Speaker 1: certain poem in this book, any poems in this book
Speaker 1: that really pulled to your heart and may pull to
Speaker 1: your heart today, where you might want to read us something.
Speaker 1: I'm just asking. I don't know so long. The one
Speaker 1: I like is like, but but I can't do survival. Guys,
Speaker 1: do whatever, yes, please, whatever you feel like in your heart,
Speaker 1: please please, please please. Okay, I'm gonna do son and
Speaker 1: move folk. Yeah, that one is sweet. Okay, Um. I
Speaker 1: used to call you son and I your moon. We
Speaker 1: gave each other such important names so early in the day.
Speaker 1: Maybe I can see why you turned the clips. I
Speaker 1: never thought up at the names would become bigger than
Speaker 1: the sky that carried them. I guess you. I didn't
Speaker 1: want the responsibility of brightening my day in that way.
Speaker 1: I didn't know you never wanted to glean like that.
Speaker 1: But you should know I didn't call you son with
Speaker 1: the intent for such a responsibility. I called your son
Speaker 1: because when I saw you, I shot mm hmmm, I love.
Speaker 1: This is a very horny episode the heart. I'm kind
Speaker 1: of squiggling around in the journey. Y'all already know. If
Speaker 1: I got the phone with y'all do a little writing session.
Speaker 1: You know, may call somebody yelled, maybe it's wrighting. Yeah, well, Tank,
Speaker 1: you have to, you have to. Didn't fill me in
Speaker 1: on some things, my friends. I thought I did last
Speaker 1: time I was on the phone with you, but you
Speaker 1: know you had your baby on the speaker phone. I
Speaker 1: told you something you did, but I didn't know. You know,
Speaker 1: I didn't know that the transactions. Yes, you told me
Speaker 1: something very important, and I don't mind repeating it to nobody.
Speaker 1: She told me make sure you get an HRV test. Yes,
Speaker 1: I did, to make sure that if you get involved
Speaker 1: with anybody in any way that you're just protected and
Speaker 1: use know your status, they know their status, and I
Speaker 1: do think that's very important. So black so strong and
Speaker 1: we're so immune. We are not That slavery mentality of
Speaker 1: us believing we're stronger than everybody else is a freaking myth.
Speaker 1: We got the same, we opened everything. It's like everybody else.
Speaker 1: So I respected the advice, and I already even had
Speaker 1: it in my mind. That's good. Hope you got that
Speaker 1: COVID test on his way out to you might as
Speaker 1: well get they got that one. You get to get
Speaker 1: that wall grade to test up, test up, tot upest up, stop,
Speaker 1: stop to listen. I love y'all, but I'm hungry and
Speaker 1: my soul on for total levels. Yeah, I understand. I
Speaker 1: was away for the weekend. I did get a chance
Speaker 1: to see Usher perform in Vegas, and that was that
Speaker 1: was quite the avowal. He still looked like a baby.
Speaker 1: Listen what he does. He's like, call me a man. Yes,
Speaker 1: he looks good. He still looks like he looks good. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I like this. He's gotten a little man weight. He's
Speaker 1: got a little man on him. Now. I put a
Speaker 1: little man weight on you when he was real skinny.
Speaker 1: I like that. I like that. You can tell it's
Speaker 1: a it's a man weight on that. Now, that's real nice.
Speaker 1: Bless him. All right, I'm gonna go and be such
Speaker 1: a good kisser. I'll tell you later. Thank you everybody
Speaker 1: for listening to Jay dot Ilda podcast. It is always
Speaker 1: a pleasure. Thank you too. I love you. I love you'all.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy I talked to you all the day.
Speaker 1: Get it hi. If you have comments on something we
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