Speaker 1: So I don't think I told you guys the story
Speaker 1: about alex Earle. It was on social media, but I'll
Speaker 1: give you context and if you don't know the story,
Speaker 1: if you don't know alps Orla. She's a young I
Speaker 1: think twenty four year old influencer on TikTok and Instagram
Speaker 1: and I'm sure snap and YouTube, and she and I
Speaker 1: have texted in the past, just briefly via Instagram, not
Speaker 1: about anything. She asked me a question one time, then
Speaker 1: I asked her a question one time, and then I
Speaker 1: gave her advice about something, and then she asked me
Speaker 1: if i'd do something work wise with her, which I did,
Speaker 1: and then I said, if I'm in Miami, let's get together.
Speaker 2: And we were supposed to go to dinner.
Speaker 1: And I made a reservation at Carbone because I thought like,
Speaker 1: that's first I made a reservation at like this other place.
Speaker 1: But I feel like the people really were trying to
Speaker 1: get us in there and wanted sort of that keyr
Speaker 1: about it. So I then aborted and I was like,
Speaker 1: let me just call Carbone, and I thought, like that's bougie.
Speaker 2: And she wrecks.
Speaker 1: Some would like that because I don't know if I
Speaker 1: thought they I think I thought they were both coming together.
Speaker 1: I needed the reservation for them both to come together.
Speaker 1: I don't know how often they are together. I don't know,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, if they have independent lives,
Speaker 1: it seems on social media like they're together. Grabston is
Speaker 1: a Miami Dolphins player, but I guess now he's moving
Speaker 1: to Texas. So I booked Carbone and we confirmed it.
Speaker 2: I confirmed.
Speaker 1: She asked me if I wanted to do this charity
Speaker 1: thing of hers that I couldn't do, and then we
Speaker 1: confirmed thh which was Thursday.
Speaker 2: And I was tired that day. I remember I don't think.
Speaker 1: I think I'd gotten a massage maybe, and I was
Speaker 1: like a little leg zombie. And so I go to
Speaker 1: Carbone and I know the guy there, and I sat
Speaker 1: in this big gave me this gorgeous giant booth and
Speaker 1: I sat down, and once I was settled, I texted
Speaker 1: her to say, you know, main room, far corner booth,
Speaker 1: and my phone started ringing and it was her, which
Speaker 1: it doesn't seem it seems atypical. And she was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, my heart is in my stomach. I'm
Speaker 1: dying right now. No, She's like, is it wait, it's
Speaker 1: is it tonight. It's tonight, that's what she said. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, and she's like, my heart
Speaker 1: is in my stomach right now, I'm dying. And I
Speaker 1: said okay, and she's like, wait, do I like run
Speaker 1: and come there? But like I could tell she, you know,
Speaker 1: was home and didn't want to and that's jarring, and
Speaker 1: like now it's an obligation. And so I was just like,
Speaker 1: it's okay, because I mean, it is okay. It's so
Speaker 1: it's okay, and then it has.
Speaker 2: To be okay. It happened and people make mistakes.
Speaker 1: So I'm sitting now in Carbone by myself in this
Speaker 1: big booth and it's sat it's Thursday night, and it's
Speaker 1: Thursday night, you know, high season Miami, in the main room,
Speaker 1: in the best booth. And I'm also aware that we're
Speaker 1: at the right time, like a good time. So I'm
Speaker 1: taking up a big booth and you know, parbones On
Speaker 1: he's the reservation. So I'm taking up like the biggest booth.
Speaker 1: And they see Fat Joe with a group at the
Speaker 1: other big booth like this, and I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: and so.
Speaker 2: I go up to the front and I'm gonna leave.
Speaker 2: I text my driver, I just don't leave.
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm right out front, and I don't have
Speaker 1: another plan, and I'm in Miami and I'm dressed, and
Speaker 1: so I'm like, now what am I going to do?
Speaker 1: And I could have gone somewhere else. I called another
Speaker 1: friend or the can you come here now? It's just
Speaker 1: have dinner with someone on Monday, and they're like I can,
Speaker 1: I'm already doing something. Someone else was like, I'm a dinner.
Speaker 1: And then I saw someone I knew walk into the
Speaker 1: next room, but like he was.
Speaker 2: With a group.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be with a group I don't know.
Speaker 1: So I was like, what am I gonna do? And
Speaker 1: I really was like kind of a loser. I didn't
Speaker 1: have another plan, you know, And so I said, okay,
Speaker 1: so what am I gonna do. I'm gonna exercise, like
Speaker 1: going to exercise discomfort, which I think is very important
Speaker 1: that we don't just like always do the easy thing.
Speaker 1: We exercise being uncomfortable in a situation. And so I said, okay,
Speaker 1: it wasn't like writhing in pain. I just was like, okay,
Speaker 1: this is awkward. So I said, I went up to
Speaker 1: the front I'm like, I'm really sorry I took up
Speaker 1: a table because she's not coming.
Speaker 2: I was look embarrassed.
Speaker 1: I felt like a loser in front of them too,
Speaker 1: you know, and okay, got stood up. I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: so for anybody who later was like criticizing that I
Speaker 1: talked about it or posted about it, which wasn't most
Speaker 1: people like, this is what happened. I mean, So I
Speaker 1: say that he goes Bethany, we always have a table
Speaker 1: for you, which was very kind.
Speaker 2: So I go back to I'm like, I guess I'll stay.
Speaker 2: So I go back to my table.
Speaker 1: And you could tell that the waiter now that so
Speaker 1: badly crying badly. It wasn't, you know, But I mean,
Speaker 1: they don't know if it's a man who stood me up. Right,
Speaker 1: No one at the restaurant knows if it's a man
Speaker 1: who stood me up. So you servers as a waiter
Speaker 1: and a certain again someone who brings the service food,
Speaker 1: and they're both being so nice, and one of them
Speaker 1: like comes and he's they're bringing me a thousand free things,
Speaker 1: like I don't need free things. It's a separate rant.
Speaker 1: We talked about it because like I was trying to
Speaker 1: be healthy and not be a dumpster. But nevertheless, it
Speaker 1: was all coming over. It's why in my post I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna try to eat healthy and then
Speaker 1: like the RIGATONI was coming and everything was coming.
Speaker 2: They were so nice.
Speaker 1: Okay, they will be gaining five hundred dollars of food
Speaker 1: for like one hundred and something of food, but and
Speaker 1: they made a whole show of it, which was great
Speaker 1: for me posting for you guys, but for me it
Speaker 1: was also funny. It was like, oh my god, now
Speaker 1: I'm more embarrassed, like we're going deeper into this bit.
Speaker 2: They were so nice, and.
Speaker 1: They put security on my table because a lot of
Speaker 1: people when I'm alone and I want to get into
Speaker 1: that too. I want to talk about somebody who approached
Speaker 1: the other day and I've been thinking about it.
Speaker 2: It's been bothering me the way I handled it.
Speaker 1: So they put security on my table so people wouldn't
Speaker 1: keep coming up and city down because people slide in
Speaker 1: take pictures.
Speaker 2: And I love you, guys, I really do.
Speaker 1: I adore you, and I love when I run into
Speaker 1: and we talk about things, and I'll try Sometimes it's
Speaker 1: jarring when like someone comes into your personal space. It
Speaker 1: scares you like, I can't explain it. It's just because
Speaker 1: it's not what normal people are doing meeting. It's not
Speaker 1: what my friends are doing. It's not what business people
Speaker 1: are doing. It's just what like fans are doing. So meaning,
Speaker 1: if I knew someone from my neighborhood or from the
Speaker 1: entertainment industry and stand next to the table to say hi,
Speaker 1: like good to see you, they wouldn't slide in next
Speaker 1: to me like behind the table, which happens because people
Speaker 1: see an opening and they just are like, wait, let
Speaker 1: me talk to you. I have a business because they
Speaker 1: think that this is the big thing that they want
Speaker 1: to talk about, which I totally get, but they don't
Speaker 1: understand how many times in a day that this happens
Speaker 1: and no one wants to hear successful, well known people
Speaker 1: complain about that. I get that I'm just saying sitting
Speaker 1: in a booth and then having people like slide in
Speaker 1: and be like Hi, oh my god, so I have
Speaker 1: to tell you about this. My mother is just like
Speaker 1: your mother and she's insane, And I'm like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: it might not even be something I want to think
Speaker 1: about right now. I might not want to talk about
Speaker 1: my divorce right now because I did a podcast on
Speaker 1: my divorce, which was extremely difficult, or a podcast on death,
Speaker 1: which in that moment I wanted to share with you,
Speaker 1: and I mustered it up and I was prepared and
Speaker 1: I cried. But like out to dinner maybe on a Thursday,
Speaker 1: you don't know what I'm going through. I might not
Speaker 1: want to talk about my mother's death. Right then a
Speaker 1: broad stroke like you helped me so much with my
Speaker 1: mom's death.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: That's wonderful, and I want to connect with you on it.
Speaker 1: But like sometimes someone comes in and they're like, wow,
Speaker 1: what you said about your mom, I'm so sorry that
Speaker 1: happened to you. Or wait the divorce. You talked about
Speaker 1: your schedule and how do you manage to like things
Speaker 1: that might trigger that I don't necessarily want to go
Speaker 1: through at that time. So they put somebody on the table.
Speaker 1: And the reason I stayed by myself is because I
Speaker 1: wanted to do it for you too.
Speaker 2: Like I know a.
Speaker 1: Lot of you that I get messages from here or
Speaker 1: on social media are alone or lonely. By the way,
Speaker 1: I've been alone. Someone said to me solitude. I think
Speaker 1: I've read that solitude is like having four drinks a
Speaker 1: day as far.
Speaker 2: As lack of healthiness.
Speaker 1: So I'm lucky I have a lot of people around
Speaker 1: my house that work with me, because if it was
Speaker 1: just on my own life. You know, I'm with my
Speaker 1: daughter a lot, that she has her friends, and she's
Speaker 1: at school and she has practiced.
Speaker 2: I'm alone a lot.
Speaker 1: So so I know that a lot of you are
Speaker 1: alone a lot too. And I know that a lot
Speaker 1: of you fe like you have nobody and you have
Speaker 1: no friends, and you don't want to meet someone, and
Speaker 1: you don't want to date, and you're a free and
Speaker 1: you just don't even want the aggravation.
Speaker 2: And I know that a lot of you get.
Speaker 1: Some parasocial connectivity through social media. Myself as well. I
Speaker 1: never understood it. I understand it now. So I also
Speaker 1: understand that you want to get dressed and look cute
Speaker 1: and like go somewhere and do something, and like how shackling,
Speaker 1: just like you can't go somewhere do something if you
Speaker 1: don't have someone to go somewhere and do something with.
Speaker 1: And so like I stayed at the table to be
Speaker 1: like I'm dressed, I'm at Carbone.
Speaker 2: People would die to come here. They don't have it
Speaker 2: all over the world.
Speaker 1: People would like literally accept a coach plane ticket to
Speaker 1: just come to have dinner at Carbone and try it,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna run out of here because like I
Speaker 1: got you know, stood up by accident, by the way,
Speaker 1: by accident, or because someone forgot about the dinner. So
Speaker 1: I was like, no, I'm going to do it because
Speaker 1: I want you to go out to dinner. I want
Speaker 1: you to get dressed and be like it's empowering. And
Speaker 1: by the way, there was something meditative about it, like
Speaker 1: I wasn't on my phone the whole time, even though
Speaker 1: I filmed parts of it. I was sitting like just
Speaker 1: being present, being like, Okay, this is there, this is
Speaker 1: happening here, and this is an interesting experience and like
Speaker 1: I'm not dying. Nothing happened, and it was actually nice,
Speaker 1: Like it was nice. So I just I did that
Speaker 1: to push myself through something that was slightly uncomfortable, just
Speaker 1: to say like you could do it too, and to
Speaker 1: inspire people. That's what I want to meet to people
Speaker 1: like I'll do difficult things, you know, so you will
Speaker 1: do difficult things too. I want to make that like
Speaker 1: something that's normalized. So anyway, that was what happened with
Speaker 1: that but the people coming up to my table reminded
Speaker 1: me of something recently that just happened.
Speaker 2: So I thought, this isn't like you could tell me
Speaker 2: your opinion. But I actually I thought about this all day,
Speaker 2: which was weird, like why it was bothering me.
Speaker 1: So there was a person who did my makeup in
Speaker 1: the Hamptons years ago, and I don't remember the actual
Speaker 1: makeup job.
Speaker 2: It seemed to fine enough. They came last.
Speaker 1: Minute, that was very appreciated, and they were filming about
Speaker 1: it as they were leaving the house in the driveway
Speaker 1: and the person who booked them it was like a
Speaker 1: glam concierge service. I think I might have someone from
Speaker 1: my team saw it and told them because you know,
Speaker 1: it was in my driveway and it was like right away,
Speaker 1: like look what I just did or who I worked with.
Speaker 2: It was like a flex and I get it. Listen.
Speaker 1: I used to talk about cooking for Merchica Hargateay and
Speaker 1: working for Paris and Nikki when I was a nobody
Speaker 1: in Life of Style magazine and trying to get somewhere
Speaker 1: like you know that game the street cred that I
Speaker 1: cooked for Dennis Leary all that it's currency.
Speaker 2: I get it. I really did. I'm part of it,
Speaker 2: and that was it. I don't never use them again.
Speaker 2: I'm not even sure if that was why.
Speaker 1: I think if it was, like this was a person,
Speaker 1: I was glad that they came last minute.
Speaker 2: They I think seemed lovely.
Speaker 1: And so I was at kitchen cabaret a place and
Speaker 1: on the way to the Hamptons where I go to
Speaker 1: like get food. On the way out there ice coffees,
Speaker 1: and I was in my car. So the parking lot
Speaker 1: there is weird. The parking lot there has like normal
Speaker 1: park parking spots and then there are parallel park parking spots,
Speaker 1: one in front of the other with the lines in between,
Speaker 1: and like they're tight and getting in and out of
Speaker 1: them can be tricky. So I go back out and
Speaker 1: the dogs are with us and brings in the back seat,
Speaker 1: and I start the car and I almost run someone over.
Speaker 1: I'm not exaggering, and I almost run them over because
Speaker 1: they step between the two parallel parking spots. So I'm
Speaker 1: backing up, but then I'm going to go forward to
Speaker 1: move out of the spot.
Speaker 2: Does that make any sense?
Speaker 1: Like I've reversed, but I got to get out, so
Speaker 1: I've turned the wheel to the right and I'm now
Speaker 1: gonna get out. And now person in that moment and
Speaker 1: I'm looking into the right hand just slipped right in
Speaker 1: front of the car stand like I almost I almost
Speaker 1: ran them over right next to the mirror, like right
Speaker 1: against my car.
Speaker 2: And that's jarring to me.
Speaker 1: That's just like pulling in on the booth and sitting
Speaker 1: next to me motioning for me to roll the window down,
Speaker 1: which is never a good idea, but I'm just like,
Speaker 1: so shook. So I rolled the window down. Hi, Hi,
Speaker 1: it's hi, Bethany. I'm like, yeah, I used to do
Speaker 1: your makeup in the Hampton's And I said, and I'm
Speaker 1: very literal, this.
Speaker 2: Is not a rude slight to this person. This was
Speaker 2: not intended to be.
Speaker 1: But I said, oh yeah once because I wanted to
Speaker 1: make sure it was the right person. And it was
Speaker 1: the right person. But in the moment, it was like, wait, listen,
Speaker 1: you know, have things flashed so quick. I'm looking at
Speaker 1: them and I'm thinking, you can do my makeup multiple times?
Speaker 1: Like I think it's probably that guy who came and left.
Speaker 1: But I was like, so shook that I So I go,
Speaker 1: oh yeah once, and he's like yeah, once, but like
Speaker 1: you could tell he was a little annoyed at the exchange,
Speaker 1: I'm like, hi, and then you know, that was it.
Speaker 1: I wasn't like, oh my god, yes, that was amazing.
Speaker 2: How are you like? All was so jory.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I thought about it for hours.
Speaker 1: I thought about it for hours, like I wish I
Speaker 1: had been like a little friendlier and that like corrected
Speaker 1: that I used to do it because who cares. It
Speaker 1: was just like in the moment, I was like being
Speaker 1: literal because I didn't know who it was. And then yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I told that story. It's just
Speaker 1: thing you don't always know what perspective someone's coming from,
Speaker 1: if that makes any sense.
Speaker 2: You don't always know.
Speaker 1: So anyway, these are the things I think about when
Speaker 1: like you don't think I'm thinking about it. I obsessed
Speaker 1: over things that really don't fucking matter. So I didn't
Speaker 1: finish the Alex Earl story. Incidentally, I did Alex Earl's
Speaker 1: podcast a couple of weeks ago, or maybe it was
Speaker 1: a month ago, and it hasn't aired yet. It will
Speaker 1: air very shortly, so now I could talk about it,
Speaker 1: and she was very.
Speaker 2: Respectful. I don't know how to explain it. She doesn't.
Speaker 1: She was very respectful. She's launching a product that I
Speaker 1: paved the way for. I created the low calorie ready
Speaker 1: to Drink Space, I invented the skinny Margarita, and I
Speaker 1: definitely created the low calorie ready to drink Margarita Space.
Speaker 1: And Alex Earl now has a low calorie ready to
Speaker 1: drink Margarita. So she kind of gave me my flowers
Speaker 1: about it and was like utilized me to announce it,
Speaker 1: which was smart of her. And I enjoyed my time
Speaker 1: with her friend. Sally, who's a fan, was there.
Speaker 2: It was nice.
Speaker 1: So anyway, I went out with alex Earle two days
Speaker 1: after she mistakenly accidentally stood me up. We went out
Speaker 1: to a restaurant called The Joye, which is a small,
Speaker 1: little private place.
Speaker 2: We were supposed to go somewhere else.
Speaker 1: Someone was kind of felt like they were using us,
Speaker 1: so we ended up going to the Joyce.
Speaker 2: It was in Wonderful Steak.
Speaker 1: It's part of this app that I've joined that gets
Speaker 1: you reservations. And she was dressed like me. I was
Speaker 1: dressed like her. I was like, what am I going
Speaker 1: to wear to go out with a twenty four year
Speaker 1: old in Miami on a Saturday night. So I wore
Speaker 1: like this little denim like sort of Miami slutty, cute
Speaker 1: chain bordered little boustie with miniskirt. That's age inappropriate. I've
Speaker 1: rocked and I landed it, but like only for Miami,
Speaker 1: only for like a slutty Saturday night. Only with context,
Speaker 1: like if I'm just walking out and that's like, what
Speaker 1: is she doing? Does she understand how old she is?
Speaker 1: So that's what I wore. And Alex Earl walks in
Speaker 1: in tights and a little black skirt and a little
Speaker 1: black carting and I'm like, wait a second. We dressed
Speaker 1: as each other. We couldn't think of the movie. And
Speaker 1: it was Freaky Friday. So we go to this restaurant
Speaker 1: and she's very poised and very sweet and you know,
Speaker 1: very sensible and like together like quiet, you know, and
Speaker 1: we talked and we confided in each other about life
Speaker 1: and love and struggles and relationships and childhood and divorce
Speaker 1: and parenthood and all these different things. I gave her
Speaker 1: advice and hopefully it was good advice. I think I
Speaker 1: know it was good advice. So we had a really
Speaker 1: nice conversation and then we went to Fightina where they
Speaker 1: have the living room, which is a place for live music.
Speaker 1: And she loves live music, which is also interesting because
Speaker 1: at that age I certainly didn't love live music. I
Speaker 1: don't even always love live music now, so that was
Speaker 1: sort of mature. And we go to the Fightina living
Speaker 1: room and we didn't realize till the end of the
Speaker 1: night that it's like a dork conference. Like it's all
Speaker 1: these Ai guys in Hawaiian shirts, and I was like,
Speaker 1: why is everybody wearing a Hawaiian shirt? It just was
Speaker 1: very strange. And then we later at the end of
Speaker 1: the night, I realized I took her to like a
Speaker 1: dork Ai conference.
Speaker 2: She didn't care. She met some of my friends. We
Speaker 2: were really nice time.
Speaker 1: We shot some social I broke of OZ like it
Speaker 1: was like it was rollover, so I broke a OZ.
Speaker 2: I was the embarrassment. She was mature. It was completely ridiculous.
Speaker 1: You know. I felt like I was her mom, like
Speaker 1: the crazy mom. And I was like, do I make
Speaker 1: you think of your mom? And I'm her mom's age,
Speaker 1: and she reminds me of my daughter. She's older, but
Speaker 1: like she definitely reminds me of Brynn, because Brynn is
Speaker 1: more like a little quieter and very diligent about her
Speaker 1: studies and wants to go to Univernity of Miami and
Speaker 1: takes her school work very seriously, like a responsible young
Speaker 1: woman like Alex's, not like I am. So we had
Speaker 1: a really nice night. I'm proud of Alex's success. I
Speaker 1: told her I'm here as a sounding board. I honestly
Speaker 1: want nothing from her, you know, obviously she's twenty four
Speaker 1: years old. It feels like she's the first person that
Speaker 1: I could give good advice to help navigate because things
Speaker 1: are going very well, and it all seems like it's
Speaker 1: going good, but it's hard to know the decisions to
Speaker 1: be made. And I gave her some advice on different
Speaker 1: areas of our podcast, and I liked her a lot.
Speaker 1: I enjoyed my night out, and she brought me stunning flowers, gorgeous,
Speaker 1: gigantic flowers. I can't even say all is forgiven about
Speaker 1: the stand up, because all was forgiven right after. It
Speaker 1: was very funny and it ended up being a place
Speaker 1: of yes for me.