1 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: So I don't think I told you guys the story 2 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: about alex Earle. It was on social media, but I'll 3 00:00:17,040 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: give you context and if you don't know the story, 4 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: if you don't know alps Orla. She's a young I 5 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:25,799 Speaker 1: think twenty four year old influencer on TikTok and Instagram 6 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: and I'm sure snap and YouTube, and she and I 7 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: have texted in the past, just briefly via Instagram, not 8 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,279 Speaker 1: about anything. She asked me a question one time, then 9 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: I asked her a question one time, and then I 10 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: gave her advice about something, and then she asked me 11 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:50,479 Speaker 1: if i'd do something work wise with her, which I did, 12 00:00:50,640 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: and then I said, if I'm in Miami, let's get together. 13 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 2: And we were supposed to go to dinner. 14 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 1: And I made a reservation at Carbone because I thought like, 15 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: that's first I made a reservation at like this other place. 16 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: But I feel like the people really were trying to 17 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:08,199 Speaker 1: get us in there and wanted sort of that keyr 18 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:10,120 Speaker 1: about it. So I then aborted and I was like, 19 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: let me just call Carbone, and I thought, like that's bougie. 20 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 2: And she wrecks. 21 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: Some would like that because I don't know if I 22 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: thought they I think I thought they were both coming together. 23 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,320 Speaker 1: I needed the reservation for them both to come together. 24 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 1: I don't know how often they are together. I don't know, 25 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, if they have independent lives, 26 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: it seems on social media like they're together. Grabston is 27 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,919 Speaker 1: a Miami Dolphins player, but I guess now he's moving 28 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:36,679 Speaker 1: to Texas. So I booked Carbone and we confirmed it. 29 00:01:36,720 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 2: I confirmed. 30 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: She asked me if I wanted to do this charity 31 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 1: thing of hers that I couldn't do, and then we 32 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: confirmed thh which was Thursday. 33 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 2: And I was tired that day. I remember I don't think. 34 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: I think I'd gotten a massage maybe, and I was 35 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:52,600 Speaker 1: like a little leg zombie. And so I go to 36 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 1: Carbone and I know the guy there, and I sat 37 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: in this big gave me this gorgeous giant booth and 38 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,120 Speaker 1: I sat down, and once I was settled, I texted 39 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:06,919 Speaker 1: her to say, you know, main room, far corner booth, 40 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: and my phone started ringing and it was her, which 41 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: it doesn't seem it seems atypical. And she was like, 42 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: oh my god, my heart is in my stomach. I'm 43 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: dying right now. No, She's like, is it wait, it's 44 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: is it tonight. It's tonight, that's what she said. I 45 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:25,640 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, and she's like, my heart 46 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: is in my stomach right now, I'm dying. And I 47 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: said okay, and she's like, wait, do I like run 48 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: and come there? But like I could tell she, you know, 49 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: was home and didn't want to and that's jarring, and 50 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:40,840 Speaker 1: like now it's an obligation. And so I was just like, 51 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: it's okay, because I mean, it is okay. It's so 52 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 1: it's okay, and then it has. 53 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 2: To be okay. It happened and people make mistakes. 54 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:51,800 Speaker 1: So I'm sitting now in Carbone by myself in this 55 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 1: big booth and it's sat it's Thursday night, and it's 56 00:02:55,600 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: Thursday night, you know, high season Miami, in the main room, 57 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: in the best booth. And I'm also aware that we're 58 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: at the right time, like a good time. So I'm 59 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 1: taking up a big booth and you know, parbones On 60 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: he's the reservation. So I'm taking up like the biggest booth. 61 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: And they see Fat Joe with a group at the 62 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: other big booth like this, and I'm like, oh my god, 63 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: and so. 64 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 2: I go up to the front and I'm gonna leave. 65 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 2: I text my driver, I just don't leave. 66 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: He's like, I'm right out front, and I don't have 67 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: another plan, and I'm in Miami and I'm dressed, and 68 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,079 Speaker 1: so I'm like, now what am I going to do? 69 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: And I could have gone somewhere else. I called another 70 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 1: friend or the can you come here now? It's just 71 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 1: have dinner with someone on Monday, and they're like I can, 72 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: I'm already doing something. Someone else was like, I'm a dinner. 73 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: And then I saw someone I knew walk into the 74 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 1: next room, but like he was. 75 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 2: With a group. 76 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: I don't want to be with a group I don't know. 77 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: So I was like, what am I gonna do? And 78 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: I really was like kind of a loser. I didn't 79 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: have another plan, you know, And so I said, okay, 80 00:03:57,600 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: so what am I gonna do. I'm gonna exercise, like 81 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: going to exercise discomfort, which I think is very important 82 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: that we don't just like always do the easy thing. 83 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: We exercise being uncomfortable in a situation. And so I said, okay, 84 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: it wasn't like writhing in pain. I just was like, okay, 85 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: this is awkward. So I said, I went up to 86 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:26,320 Speaker 1: the front I'm like, I'm really sorry I took up 87 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: a table because she's not coming. 88 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 2: I was look embarrassed. 89 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: I felt like a loser in front of them too, 90 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: you know, and okay, got stood up. I mean, you know, 91 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: so for anybody who later was like criticizing that I 92 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: talked about it or posted about it, which wasn't most 93 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: people like, this is what happened. I mean, So I 94 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: say that he goes Bethany, we always have a table 95 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,039 Speaker 1: for you, which was very kind. 96 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 2: So I go back to I'm like, I guess I'll stay. 97 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 2: So I go back to my table. 98 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 1: And you could tell that the waiter now that so 99 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: badly crying badly. It wasn't, you know, But I mean, 100 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:56,279 Speaker 1: they don't know if it's a man who stood me up. Right, 101 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: No one at the restaurant knows if it's a man 102 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: who stood me up. So you servers as a waiter 103 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,119 Speaker 1: and a certain again someone who brings the service food, 104 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,360 Speaker 1: and they're both being so nice, and one of them 105 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: like comes and he's they're bringing me a thousand free things, 106 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:12,279 Speaker 1: like I don't need free things. It's a separate rant. 107 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 1: We talked about it because like I was trying to 108 00:05:13,839 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: be healthy and not be a dumpster. But nevertheless, it 109 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: was all coming over. It's why in my post I 110 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: was like, I'm gonna try to eat healthy and then 111 00:05:19,600 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: like the RIGATONI was coming and everything was coming. 112 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 2: They were so nice. 113 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: Okay, they will be gaining five hundred dollars of food 114 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,919 Speaker 1: for like one hundred and something of food, but and 115 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: they made a whole show of it, which was great 116 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:34,159 Speaker 1: for me posting for you guys, but for me it 117 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 1: was also funny. It was like, oh my god, now 118 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: I'm more embarrassed, like we're going deeper into this bit. 119 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:39,840 Speaker 2: They were so nice, and. 120 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:43,359 Speaker 1: They put security on my table because a lot of 121 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 1: people when I'm alone and I want to get into 122 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: that too. I want to talk about somebody who approached 123 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 1: the other day and I've been thinking about it. 124 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 2: It's been bothering me the way I handled it. 125 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: So they put security on my table so people wouldn't 126 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:56,480 Speaker 1: keep coming up and city down because people slide in 127 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:57,320 Speaker 1: take pictures. 128 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,240 Speaker 2: And I love you, guys, I really do. 129 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: I adore you, and I love when I run into 130 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: and we talk about things, and I'll try Sometimes it's 131 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: jarring when like someone comes into your personal space. It 132 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,160 Speaker 1: scares you like, I can't explain it. It's just because 133 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: it's not what normal people are doing meeting. It's not 134 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 1: what my friends are doing. It's not what business people 135 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: are doing. It's just what like fans are doing. So meaning, 136 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 1: if I knew someone from my neighborhood or from the 137 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: entertainment industry and stand next to the table to say hi, 138 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: like good to see you, they wouldn't slide in next 139 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: to me like behind the table, which happens because people 140 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: see an opening and they just are like, wait, let 141 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: me talk to you. I have a business because they 142 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: think that this is the big thing that they want 143 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 1: to talk about, which I totally get, but they don't 144 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: understand how many times in a day that this happens 145 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 1: and no one wants to hear successful, well known people 146 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 1: complain about that. I get that I'm just saying sitting 147 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: in a booth and then having people like slide in 148 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 1: and be like Hi, oh my god, so I have 149 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: to tell you about this. My mother is just like 150 00:06:57,320 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: your mother and she's insane, And I'm like, oh, okay, 151 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 1: it might not even be something I want to think 152 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 1: about right now. I might not want to talk about 153 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: my divorce right now because I did a podcast on 154 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: my divorce, which was extremely difficult, or a podcast on death, 155 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 1: which in that moment I wanted to share with you, 156 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: and I mustered it up and I was prepared and 157 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: I cried. But like out to dinner maybe on a Thursday, 158 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 1: you don't know what I'm going through. I might not 159 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: want to talk about my mother's death. Right then a 160 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: broad stroke like you helped me so much with my 161 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: mom's death. 162 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 2: Thank you. 163 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 1: That's wonderful, and I want to connect with you on it. 164 00:07:27,560 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: But like sometimes someone comes in and they're like, wow, 165 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 1: what you said about your mom, I'm so sorry that 166 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 1: happened to you. Or wait the divorce. You talked about 167 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,559 Speaker 1: your schedule and how do you manage to like things 168 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 1: that might trigger that I don't necessarily want to go 169 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: through at that time. So they put somebody on the table. 170 00:07:56,200 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: And the reason I stayed by myself is because I 171 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: wanted to do it for you too. 172 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 2: Like I know a. 173 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: Lot of you that I get messages from here or 174 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 1: on social media are alone or lonely. By the way, 175 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: I've been alone. Someone said to me solitude. I think 176 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 1: I've read that solitude is like having four drinks a 177 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: day as far. 178 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 2: As lack of healthiness. 179 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: So I'm lucky I have a lot of people around 180 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: my house that work with me, because if it was 181 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 1: just on my own life. You know, I'm with my 182 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: daughter a lot, that she has her friends, and she's 183 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: at school and she has practiced. 184 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 2: I'm alone a lot. 185 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:34,960 Speaker 1: So so I know that a lot of you are 186 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:36,320 Speaker 1: alone a lot too. And I know that a lot 187 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:37,680 Speaker 1: of you fe like you have nobody and you have 188 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:39,079 Speaker 1: no friends, and you don't want to meet someone, and 189 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: you don't want to date, and you're a free and 190 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 1: you just don't even want the aggravation. 191 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,119 Speaker 2: And I know that a lot of you get. 192 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: Some parasocial connectivity through social media. Myself as well. I 193 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: never understood it. I understand it now. So I also 194 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 1: understand that you want to get dressed and look cute 195 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: and like go somewhere and do something, and like how shackling, 196 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: just like you can't go somewhere do something if you 197 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: don't have someone to go somewhere and do something with. 198 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: And so like I stayed at the table to be 199 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:09,400 Speaker 1: like I'm dressed, I'm at Carbone. 200 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 2: People would die to come here. They don't have it 201 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:12,440 Speaker 2: all over the world. 202 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: People would like literally accept a coach plane ticket to 203 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,240 Speaker 1: just come to have dinner at Carbone and try it, 204 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna run out of here because like I 205 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: got you know, stood up by accident, by the way, 206 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 1: by accident, or because someone forgot about the dinner. So 207 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: I was like, no, I'm going to do it because 208 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 1: I want you to go out to dinner. I want 209 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:31,960 Speaker 1: you to get dressed and be like it's empowering. And 210 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: by the way, there was something meditative about it, like 211 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:38,040 Speaker 1: I wasn't on my phone the whole time, even though 212 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: I filmed parts of it. I was sitting like just 213 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 1: being present, being like, Okay, this is there, this is 214 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: happening here, and this is an interesting experience and like 215 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: I'm not dying. Nothing happened, and it was actually nice, 216 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: Like it was nice. So I just I did that 217 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: to push myself through something that was slightly uncomfortable, just 218 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: to say like you could do it too, and to 219 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:58,880 Speaker 1: inspire people. That's what I want to meet to people 220 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 1: like I'll do difficult things, you know, so you will 221 00:10:03,960 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 1: do difficult things too. I want to make that like 222 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 1: something that's normalized. So anyway, that was what happened with 223 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 1: that but the people coming up to my table reminded 224 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,439 Speaker 1: me of something recently that just happened. 225 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 2: So I thought, this isn't like you could tell me 226 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 2: your opinion. But I actually I thought about this all day, 227 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:27,360 Speaker 2: which was weird, like why it was bothering me. 228 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: So there was a person who did my makeup in 229 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:34,560 Speaker 1: the Hamptons years ago, and I don't remember the actual 230 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: makeup job. 231 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 2: It seemed to fine enough. They came last. 232 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: Minute, that was very appreciated, and they were filming about 233 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: it as they were leaving the house in the driveway 234 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: and the person who booked them it was like a 235 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:49,079 Speaker 1: glam concierge service. I think I might have someone from 236 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: my team saw it and told them because you know, 237 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: it was in my driveway and it was like right away, 238 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: like look what I just did or who I worked with. 239 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:59,560 Speaker 2: It was like a flex and I get it. Listen. 240 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: I used to talk about cooking for Merchica Hargateay and 241 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 1: working for Paris and Nikki when I was a nobody 242 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 1: in Life of Style magazine and trying to get somewhere 243 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: like you know that game the street cred that I 244 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: cooked for Dennis Leary all that it's currency. 245 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 2: I get it. I really did. I'm part of it, 246 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 2: and that was it. I don't never use them again. 247 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:20,160 Speaker 2: I'm not even sure if that was why. 248 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 1: I think if it was, like this was a person, 249 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 1: I was glad that they came last minute. 250 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 2: They I think seemed lovely. 251 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: And so I was at kitchen cabaret a place and 252 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:31,880 Speaker 1: on the way to the Hamptons where I go to 253 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 1: like get food. On the way out there ice coffees, 254 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 1: and I was in my car. So the parking lot 255 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 1: there is weird. The parking lot there has like normal 256 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 1: park parking spots and then there are parallel park parking spots, 257 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: one in front of the other with the lines in between, 258 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: and like they're tight and getting in and out of 259 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 1: them can be tricky. So I go back out and 260 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: the dogs are with us and brings in the back seat, 261 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,520 Speaker 1: and I start the car and I almost run someone over. 262 00:11:57,559 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: I'm not exaggering, and I almost run them over because 263 00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:02,720 Speaker 1: they step between the two parallel parking spots. So I'm 264 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 1: backing up, but then I'm going to go forward to 265 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 1: move out of the spot. 266 00:12:05,880 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 2: Does that make any sense? 267 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: Like I've reversed, but I got to get out, so 268 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: I've turned the wheel to the right and I'm now 269 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: gonna get out. And now person in that moment and 270 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 1: I'm looking into the right hand just slipped right in 271 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: front of the car stand like I almost I almost 272 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 1: ran them over right next to the mirror, like right 273 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:21,360 Speaker 1: against my car. 274 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 2: And that's jarring to me. 275 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: That's just like pulling in on the booth and sitting 276 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: next to me motioning for me to roll the window down, 277 00:12:26,280 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 1: which is never a good idea, but I'm just like, 278 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: so shook. So I rolled the window down. Hi, Hi, 279 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 1: it's hi, Bethany. I'm like, yeah, I used to do 280 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 1: your makeup in the Hampton's And I said, and I'm 281 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 1: very literal, this. 282 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 2: Is not a rude slight to this person. This was 283 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 2: not intended to be. 284 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:45,480 Speaker 1: But I said, oh yeah once because I wanted to 285 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: make sure it was the right person. And it was 286 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: the right person. But in the moment, it was like, wait, listen, 287 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: you know, have things flashed so quick. I'm looking at 288 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: them and I'm thinking, you can do my makeup multiple times? 289 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: Like I think it's probably that guy who came and left. 290 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:57,720 Speaker 1: But I was like, so shook that I So I go, 291 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: oh yeah once, and he's like yeah, once, but like 292 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: you could tell he was a little annoyed at the exchange, 293 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, hi, and then you know, that was it. 294 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:08,439 Speaker 1: I wasn't like, oh my god, yes, that was amazing. 295 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 2: How are you like? All was so jory. 296 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: I don't know why I thought about it for hours. 297 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,080 Speaker 1: I thought about it for hours, like I wish I 298 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:18,079 Speaker 1: had been like a little friendlier and that like corrected 299 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: that I used to do it because who cares. It 300 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 1: was just like in the moment, I was like being 301 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:25,959 Speaker 1: literal because I didn't know who it was. And then yeah, 302 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: I don't know why I told that story. It's just 303 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 1: thing you don't always know what perspective someone's coming from, 304 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:30,840 Speaker 1: if that makes any sense. 305 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 2: You don't always know. 306 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 1: So anyway, these are the things I think about when 307 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 1: like you don't think I'm thinking about it. I obsessed 308 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: over things that really don't fucking matter. So I didn't 309 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: finish the Alex Earl story. Incidentally, I did Alex Earl's 310 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 1: podcast a couple of weeks ago, or maybe it was 311 00:13:57,880 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 1: a month ago, and it hasn't aired yet. It will 312 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 1: air very shortly, so now I could talk about it, 313 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 1: and she was very. 314 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 2: Respectful. I don't know how to explain it. She doesn't. 315 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:15,240 Speaker 1: She was very respectful. She's launching a product that I 316 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: paved the way for. I created the low calorie ready 317 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 1: to Drink Space, I invented the skinny Margarita, and I 318 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 1: definitely created the low calorie ready to drink Margarita Space. 319 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 1: And Alex Earl now has a low calorie ready to 320 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 1: drink Margarita. So she kind of gave me my flowers 321 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:31,680 Speaker 1: about it and was like utilized me to announce it, 322 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:34,680 Speaker 1: which was smart of her. And I enjoyed my time 323 00:14:34,720 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: with her friend. Sally, who's a fan, was there. 324 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 2: It was nice. 325 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 1: So anyway, I went out with alex Earle two days 326 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: after she mistakenly accidentally stood me up. We went out 327 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: to a restaurant called The Joye, which is a small, 328 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 1: little private place. 329 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 2: We were supposed to go somewhere else. 330 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:57,240 Speaker 1: Someone was kind of felt like they were using us, 331 00:14:57,280 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 1: so we ended up going to the Joyce. 332 00:14:58,800 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 2: It was in Wonderful Steak. 333 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:03,960 Speaker 1: It's part of this app that I've joined that gets 334 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 1: you reservations. And she was dressed like me. I was 335 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: dressed like her. I was like, what am I going 336 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 1: to wear to go out with a twenty four year 337 00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:14,920 Speaker 1: old in Miami on a Saturday night. So I wore 338 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 1: like this little denim like sort of Miami slutty, cute 339 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 1: chain bordered little boustie with miniskirt. That's age inappropriate. I've 340 00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 1: rocked and I landed it, but like only for Miami, 341 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 1: only for like a slutty Saturday night. Only with context, 342 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: like if I'm just walking out and that's like, what 343 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 1: is she doing? Does she understand how old she is? 344 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 1: So that's what I wore. And Alex Earl walks in 345 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: in tights and a little black skirt and a little 346 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 1: black carting and I'm like, wait a second. We dressed 347 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 1: as each other. We couldn't think of the movie. And 348 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 1: it was Freaky Friday. So we go to this restaurant 349 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: and she's very poised and very sweet and you know, 350 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: very sensible and like together like quiet, you know, and 351 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 1: we talked and we confided in each other about life 352 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:08,120 Speaker 1: and love and struggles and relationships and childhood and divorce 353 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: and parenthood and all these different things. I gave her 354 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 1: advice and hopefully it was good advice. I think I 355 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 1: know it was good advice. So we had a really 356 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 1: nice conversation and then we went to Fightina where they 357 00:16:24,320 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 1: have the living room, which is a place for live music. 358 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:30,840 Speaker 1: And she loves live music, which is also interesting because 359 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:32,760 Speaker 1: at that age I certainly didn't love live music. I 360 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:34,640 Speaker 1: don't even always love live music now, so that was 361 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:38,560 Speaker 1: sort of mature. And we go to the Fightina living 362 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:41,120 Speaker 1: room and we didn't realize till the end of the 363 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: night that it's like a dork conference. Like it's all 364 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 1: these Ai guys in Hawaiian shirts, and I was like, 365 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 1: why is everybody wearing a Hawaiian shirt? It just was 366 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 1: very strange. And then we later at the end of 367 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:56,360 Speaker 1: the night, I realized I took her to like a 368 00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: dork Ai conference. 369 00:16:57,440 --> 00:16:59,280 Speaker 2: She didn't care. She met some of my friends. We 370 00:16:59,320 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 2: were really nice time. 371 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:05,719 Speaker 1: We shot some social I broke of OZ like it 372 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 1: was like it was rollover, so I broke a OZ. 373 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 2: I was the embarrassment. She was mature. It was completely ridiculous. 374 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:12,919 Speaker 1: You know. I felt like I was her mom, like 375 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:15,760 Speaker 1: the crazy mom. And I was like, do I make 376 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 1: you think of your mom? And I'm her mom's age, 377 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:21,320 Speaker 1: and she reminds me of my daughter. She's older, but 378 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 1: like she definitely reminds me of Brynn, because Brynn is 379 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: more like a little quieter and very diligent about her 380 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:32,479 Speaker 1: studies and wants to go to Univernity of Miami and 381 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 1: takes her school work very seriously, like a responsible young 382 00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:40,520 Speaker 1: woman like Alex's, not like I am. So we had 383 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: a really nice night. I'm proud of Alex's success. I 384 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 1: told her I'm here as a sounding board. I honestly 385 00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:51,959 Speaker 1: want nothing from her, you know, obviously she's twenty four 386 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:55,040 Speaker 1: years old. It feels like she's the first person that 387 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:59,320 Speaker 1: I could give good advice to help navigate because things 388 00:17:59,320 --> 00:18:01,520 Speaker 1: are going very well, and it all seems like it's 389 00:18:01,560 --> 00:18:03,399 Speaker 1: going good, but it's hard to know the decisions to 390 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:05,720 Speaker 1: be made. And I gave her some advice on different 391 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: areas of our podcast, and I liked her a lot. 392 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:15,639 Speaker 1: I enjoyed my night out, and she brought me stunning flowers, gorgeous, 393 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:18,920 Speaker 1: gigantic flowers. I can't even say all is forgiven about 394 00:18:18,920 --> 00:18:22,359 Speaker 1: the stand up, because all was forgiven right after. It 395 00:18:22,440 --> 00:18:24,640 Speaker 1: was very funny and it ended up being a place 396 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: of yes for me.