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Speaker 2: Lucy is on the phone today for our first Day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Josh.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see
Speaker 2: if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe
Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Lucy, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Josh?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Hey, yeah, it's been about two weeks.
Speaker 1: A good amount of time. Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 3: I feel like we had such a good vibe and connection.
Speaker 3: I can't let this go.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Did you try to get a hold of him in
Speaker 1: that time? Oh?
Speaker 3: I definitely have. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, when was the last time you reached out?
Speaker 3: I actually reached out yesterday. Then I'm a text but yeah,
Speaker 3: I haven't heard anything from them.
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll tell us about the date.
Speaker 3: Well, okay, I know it sounds really wild, but it
Speaker 3: honestly felt like it might be something from out of
Speaker 3: a movie. That's how like magical account.
Speaker 5: We met in Vegas, and I don't know, we just
Speaker 5: had a really great time. It felt like otherworldly. It
Speaker 5: was I don't know, I just felt like the universe
Speaker 5: kind of put us.
Speaker 3: Together, and he made me laugh, like immediately it felt
Speaker 3: like disconnected to him, and we just like we saw
Speaker 3: each other at the Latin Machines and just had a
Speaker 3: great conversation and then he got my number and we
Speaker 3: text NonStop, and when I got back home, he actually
Speaker 3: asked me out on a real date. And I didn't
Speaker 3: even let him finish the sentence, like I was like, yes, yes.
Speaker 1: So you guys in the same city. How amazing.
Speaker 3: I know, it really felt like it was meant to be.
Speaker 1: Cool.
Speaker 5: Yeah, So so we ended up going to this really
Speaker 5: like vibe wine bar with fairy lights and and we
Speaker 5: shared like a sarcuitary board and like held hands the
Speaker 5: whole time, and I don't know, like it really just
Speaker 5: felt like we were falling in love.
Speaker 3: I know that sounds crazy, but it was just it was.
Speaker 1: Amazing, okay, and he was feeling the same way you think.
Speaker 5: Oh my goodness, Yeah, like I felt like we were
Speaker 5: so connected and we were like I don't know, it
Speaker 5: was just it was it was awesome.
Speaker 3: He definitely was into me.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: Well, then what happened, Like, was there anything off at
Speaker 2: the end of the day or even during.
Speaker 1: The date, I guess.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I thought everything was going well and I
Speaker 4: felt really like I wanted to be open and honest
Speaker 4: with him, and so towards the end of the date,
Speaker 4: I told him that I'm technically married. Oh yeah, but
Speaker 4: like I'm I'm really working on opening things up with
Speaker 4: my husband.
Speaker 2: And did you say opening things up with your husband? Yeah,
Speaker 2: so like open relationship type thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, like he already knows like I'm a free spirit,
Speaker 5: and he knows like I'm very open minded. I mean,
Speaker 5: he loves who I am, and so I I you.
Speaker 3: Know, I talked to him about it, and.
Speaker 5: I don't know, instead of listening and having a conversation,
Speaker 5: he just like felt very frantic and just left.
Speaker 3: And yeah, so like he grabbed his jacket. He didn't
Speaker 3: even finish his drink. And I haven't heard from Instnce, So.
Speaker 1: So we know why you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean yes, but I don't know.
Speaker 5: I just I felt like I was being really transparent
Speaker 5: and I believe in honesty and obviously love and multiple
Speaker 5: kinds of love. And he said he really liked emotionally
Speaker 5: intelligent women, and I don't know, I thought that he
Speaker 5: would be at.
Speaker 3: Least willing to have a conversation about it.
Speaker 1: So okay, that's what you wanted to have a conversation
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Well we'll play song come back and then
Speaker 2: call him and see if that is, in fact the
Speaker 2: reason that he's ghosting you and try to get you
Speaker 2: a second date if you still want one.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, that would be amazing, thank you.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first date follow up Next
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Speaker 2: for today's first Date follow up. Lucy is on the
Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Josh.
Speaker 2: We think we might know why, but we're not sure.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll
Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and get her a
Speaker 2: second date. But first, Lucy, why don't you break down
Speaker 2: your situation again real quick?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 5: So I had a really great connection with Josh. We
Speaker 5: went on a date and I was honest with him
Speaker 5: and told him that I'm married, but i'd like to,
Speaker 5: you know, have an open relationship.
Speaker 3: And I don't not see this last so I haven't
Speaker 3: heard from him.
Speaker 1: Since, all right, well, are you ready to call him?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2: Hi, man, I speak to Josh. Please, Hey Josh, how
Speaker 2: are you? This is a radio show. It's called The
Speaker 2: Jewel Show.
Speaker 5: Hi, Josh.
Speaker 1: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jewel.
Speaker 1: What's up?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 5: What's up?
Speaker 6: Guys?
Speaker 5: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 6: I have, but just in a minute, and I don't
Speaker 6: know what I'm doing on it.
Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment called the first eight follow up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go on a date with somebody
Speaker 2: and then you ghost them, that person can email us
Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're
Speaker 2: ghosting them. So we got an email about you, Josh. Okay,
Speaker 2: any idea who would email us.
Speaker 5: This?
Speaker 1: Vanessa?
Speaker 2: It's not Vanessa, it's Lucy, And that's she's actually on
Speaker 2: the phone and wanted to talk to you.
Speaker 1: So Lucy, all right?
Speaker 5: Bus So Vanessa, I know I freaked her out by
Speaker 5: telling you I'm married, But are you going out with
Speaker 5: somebody else?
Speaker 3: I thought we really had like a connection.
Speaker 6: Uh huh uh Okay, hold on, I'm still trying to
Speaker 6: process all this work. So you thought I ghosted you,
Speaker 6: so you called a radio station to call me on
Speaker 6: the on the air. Is that what?
Speaker 5: That?
Speaker 6: What is happening here right now?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 4: I I didn't know what else to do, so I
Speaker 4: called the radio station, like you've been ghosting me?
Speaker 5: So what did?
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do?
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm gonna break this down in a way that
Speaker 6: I hopefully you can understand. Lucy, you casually dropped that
Speaker 6: you're married and you're planning to ask him for permission
Speaker 6: to date me.
Speaker 3: So you're asking your.
Speaker 6: How do you think this was gonna go? Like I I, yeah,
Speaker 6: I do like you, but this is so messy. This
Speaker 6: is not how I operate, I.
Speaker 7: Know, But I mean I was being really vulnerable with you,
Speaker 7: like I felt like, I don't know, I felt like
Speaker 7: we reached this place and like I was able to
Speaker 7: open up to you in that way and and.
Speaker 3: That I want you to be in my life.
Speaker 5: I feel like something's really here between us and I
Speaker 5: felt like I could tell you the truth and we
Speaker 5: could like kind of work through this.
Speaker 6: Yeah, let's see, I didn't sign up for a throuttle
Speaker 6: dot watch that I don't want that. I don't want that.
Speaker 3: Okay, like I don't not a threuple just me Like,
Speaker 3: I'm okay, I would still be married, but I would
Speaker 3: be monogamous with you, so.
Speaker 6: You wouldn't be with your husband anymore. Is that what
Speaker 6: you're saying to me?
Speaker 3: Okay, I well, I would be with him, but but
Speaker 3: it would just be him and then you and nobody else.
Speaker 6: That's not not miss with me. Do you understand what.
Speaker 5: I know?
Speaker 3: But like, what if I just I feel like, okay,
Speaker 3: what if I.
Speaker 5: Let you date whoever you want, but then you're still
Speaker 5: my boyfriend?
Speaker 6: Okay, I'm going to refer back to the monogamous. Do
Speaker 6: you even know what that word means? This is bothering me.
Speaker 6: Can you tell me what it means? If you if
Speaker 6: you know?
Speaker 1: I mean, what does it mean?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 6: No, no, no, tell me like, I don't know what
Speaker 6: I mean.
Speaker 3: I don't know what it means.
Speaker 6: So can you explain it to me? Just tell me
Speaker 6: what it is? What does that mean?
Speaker 5: Word means?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I mean I think it's going to take more
Speaker 3: than like a conversation on the radio to talk about that.
Speaker 6: No, no, no, no, I'm just telling you to tell
Speaker 6: me one thing you dragged me on the radio I
Speaker 6: just want you to define one word. What's monogamous?
Speaker 5: Needs?
Speaker 3: What does it mean?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 6: Definition, you got your phone to google it?
Speaker 3: You don't know? Yeah, I mean I just feel like it.
Speaker 5: To me, it's being with my husband and then and
Speaker 5: then you with my boyfriend and then nobody else. That's great.
Speaker 6: Okay, thank you, that's that's amazing cool. So chairs are
Speaker 6: dead too in my world? Like, I don't you know
Speaker 6: you can't just change the definition of a word to
Speaker 6: suit your application. Do you understand that?
Speaker 3: Would you at least see when I can maybe like
Speaker 3: talk to me more about this?
Speaker 6: Like absolutely was at this point. I'm like fascinated with
Speaker 6: what's going on in your mind. I'll never talk to
Speaker 6: you from a romantic angle ever again, or that that's
Speaker 6: that's not happening. That's that's but I want to know.
Speaker 6: I want to know how crazy you are. I'm being honest.
Speaker 6: I want to figure out what's going on in your head.
Speaker 1: No, I don't know that that's you, Josh. Would you
Speaker 1: like another day with Lucy? Will pay for it? Oh?
Speaker 5: No? Like, okay, I get that you think I'm crazy.
Speaker 5: It's a little unconventional, but I just like you would
Speaker 5: maybe want to see like where our connection to go,
Speaker 5: Like it might be worth you know, exploring a little
Speaker 5: bit more.
Speaker 6: Well, you know, sometimes we think wrong.
Speaker 5: Wow, Okay you did say we so.
Speaker 6: That Yeah, okay, yeah that's a hard No. There will
Speaker 6: never be you and me we as long as you
Speaker 6: have a husband. Okay, okay, Well.
Speaker 5: Josh, I feel like it's really unfair that you think
Speaker 5: I should leave my husband for you.
Speaker 1: Escalated.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I don't think you're getting another date, Lucy,
Speaker 2: but at least you got to talk to Josh.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Well, thanks, guys, I don't know what to say.
Speaker 1: You'll figure it out, I'm sure. And Josh, thank you
Speaker 1: for your time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I still don't know what happened with all this time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you will. First date fall