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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Lucy is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Josh.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if you'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Lucy, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Josh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Hey, yeah, it's been about two weeks.

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Speaker 1: A good amount of time. Yeah, I mean.

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Speaker 3: I feel like we had such a good vibe and connection.

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Speaker 3: I can't let this go.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Did you try to get a hold of him in

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Speaker 1: that time? Oh?

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Speaker 3: I definitely have. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay, when was the last time you reached out?

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Speaker 3: I actually reached out yesterday. Then I'm a text but yeah,

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard anything from them.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we'll tell us about the date.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, I know it sounds really wild, but it

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Speaker 3: honestly felt like it might be something from out of

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Speaker 3: a movie. That's how like magical account.

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Speaker 5: We met in Vegas, and I don't know, we just

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Speaker 5: had a really great time. It felt like otherworldly. It

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Speaker 5: was I don't know, I just felt like the universe

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Speaker 3: Together, and he made me laugh, like immediately it felt

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Speaker 3: like disconnected to him, and we just like we saw

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Speaker 3: each other at the Latin Machines and just had a

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Speaker 3: great conversation and then he got my number and we

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Speaker 3: text NonStop, and when I got back home, he actually

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Speaker 3: asked me out on a real date. And I didn't

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Speaker 3: even let him finish the sentence, like I was like, yes, yes.

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Speaker 1: So you guys in the same city. How amazing.

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Speaker 3: I know, it really felt like it was meant to be.

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Speaker 1: Cool.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So so we ended up going to this really

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Speaker 5: like vibe wine bar with fairy lights and and we

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Speaker 5: shared like a sarcuitary board and like held hands the

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Speaker 5: whole time, and I don't know, like it really just

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Speaker 5: felt like we were falling in love.

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Speaker 3: I know that sounds crazy, but it was just it was.

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Speaker 1: Amazing, okay, and he was feeling the same way you think.

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Speaker 5: Oh my goodness, Yeah, like I felt like we were

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Speaker 5: so connected and we were like I don't know, it

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Speaker 3: He definitely was into me.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Well, then what happened, Like, was there anything off at

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Speaker 2: the end of the day or even during.

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Speaker 1: The date, I guess.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so I thought everything was going well and I

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Speaker 4: felt really like I wanted to be open and honest

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Speaker 4: with him, and so towards the end of the date,

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Speaker 4: I told him that I'm technically married. Oh yeah, but

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Speaker 4: like I'm I'm really working on opening things up with

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Speaker 2: And did you say opening things up with your husband? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so like open relationship type thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like he already knows like I'm a free spirit,

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Speaker 5: and he knows like I'm very open minded. I mean,

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Speaker 5: he loves who I am, and so I I you.

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Speaker 3: Know, I talked to him about it, and.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, instead of listening and having a conversation,

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Speaker 5: he just like felt very frantic and just left.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, so like he grabbed his jacket. He didn't

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Speaker 1: So we know why you're getting ghosted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean yes, but I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I just I felt like I was being really transparent

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Speaker 5: and I believe in honesty and obviously love and multiple

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Speaker 5: kinds of love. And he said he really liked emotionally

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Speaker 3: Least willing to have a conversation about it.

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Speaker 1: So okay, that's what you wanted to have a conversation

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Well we'll play song come back and then

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Speaker 2: call him and see if that is, in fact the

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, that would be amazing, thank you.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first date follow up Next

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Speaker 2: first Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: online at advocatesla dot com. If you're just joining us

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Speaker 2: for today's first Date follow up. Lucy is on the

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Speaker 2: phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Josh.

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Speaker 2: We think we might know why, but we're not sure.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and get her a

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Speaker 2: second date. But first, Lucy, why don't you break down

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Speaker 2: your situation again real quick?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: So I had a really great connection with Josh. We

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Speaker 5: went on a date and I was honest with him

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Speaker 5: and told him that I'm married, but i'd like to,

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Speaker 3: And I don't not see this last so I haven't

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Speaker 1: Since, all right, well, are you ready to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hi, man, I speak to Josh. Please, Hey Josh, how

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Speaker 2: are you? This is a radio show. It's called The

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Speaker 2: Jewel Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Josh.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jewel.

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Speaker 1: What's up?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 5: What's up?

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Speaker 6: Guys?

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 6: I have, but just in a minute, and I don't

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Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment called the first eight follow up.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go on a date with somebody

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Speaker 2: and then you ghost them, that person can email us

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Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting them. So we got an email about you, Josh. Okay,

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Speaker 2: any idea who would email us.

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Speaker 5: This?

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Speaker 1: Vanessa?

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Speaker 2: It's not Vanessa, it's Lucy, And that's she's actually on

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Speaker 1: So Lucy, all right?

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Speaker 5: Bus So Vanessa, I know I freaked her out by

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Speaker 5: telling you I'm married, But are you going out with

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Speaker 3: I thought we really had like a connection.

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Speaker 6: Uh huh uh Okay, hold on, I'm still trying to

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Speaker 6: process all this work. So you thought I ghosted you,

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Speaker 6: so you called a radio station to call me on

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Speaker 6: the on the air. Is that what?

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Speaker 5: That?

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Speaker 6: What is happening here right now?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 4: I I didn't know what else to do, so I

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Speaker 5: So what did?

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Speaker 3: I don't know what to do?

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm gonna break this down in a way that

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Speaker 6: I hopefully you can understand. Lucy, you casually dropped that

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Speaker 6: you're married and you're planning to ask him for permission

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Speaker 3: So you're asking your.

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Speaker 6: How do you think this was gonna go? Like I I, yeah,

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Speaker 6: I do like you, but this is so messy. This

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Speaker 7: Know, But I mean I was being really vulnerable with you,

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Speaker 3: That I want you to be in my life.

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Speaker 5: I feel like something's really here between us and I

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Speaker 6: Yeah, let's see, I didn't sign up for a throuttle

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Speaker 3: Okay, like I don't not a threuple just me Like,

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Speaker 3: I'm okay, I would still be married, but I would

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Speaker 6: You wouldn't be with your husband anymore. Is that what

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Speaker 3: Okay, I well, I would be with him, but but

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Speaker 6: That's not not miss with me. Do you understand what.

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Speaker 3: But like, what if I just I feel like, okay,

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Speaker 5: Let you date whoever you want, but then you're still

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Speaker 6: Okay, I'm going to refer back to the monogamous. Do

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Speaker 5: To me, it's being with my husband and then and

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Speaker 3: Would you at least see when I can maybe like

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Speaker 6: Like absolutely was at this point. I'm like fascinated with

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Speaker 6: what's going on in your mind. I'll never talk to

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Speaker 6: I want to know how crazy you are. I'm being honest.

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Speaker 6: I want to figure out what's going on in your head.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't know that that's you, Josh. Would you

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Speaker 1: like another day with Lucy? Will pay for it? Oh?

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Speaker 6: Well, you know, sometimes we think wrong.

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Speaker 6: That Yeah, okay, yeah that's a hard No. There will

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Speaker 5: Josh, I feel like it's really unfair that you think

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Speaker 1: Escalated.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I don't think you're getting another date, Lucy,

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Speaker 2: but at least you got to talk to Josh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Well, thanks, guys, I don't know what to say.

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Speaker 1: You'll figure it out, I'm sure. And Josh, thank you

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Speaker 1: for your time.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I still don't know what happened with all this time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you will. First date fall