1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast. 3 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in. Grub a dub dub. Happy Monday, Monday, 4 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: that was your weekend. I mean, I just feel like 5 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: there's so much to cover. I don't even know where 6 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:24,479 Speaker 1: to start. I mean, we just got to start, but 7 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: I just want to I want you all to know. 8 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: We have a very exciting two guest today. Actually did 9 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 1: the interview by myself because we'll get into it, but 10 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: Tanya had a very important appointment that she had to 11 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,639 Speaker 1: get too. So, UM I got to interview Dana Bash 12 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: and um Jasmine right from CNN and they're part of 13 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:47,199 Speaker 1: the new series on HBO Max about the um like 14 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 1: basically journalism in the political race right now. And it's 15 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: a very good interview. I'm very proud of you for 16 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: holding it down. Thank you. It was not my like 17 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: comfort zone. If I had to do by myself, I 18 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 1: would be like, I mean, my pelvic floor was really 19 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:06,039 Speaker 1: it was just really just couldn't cancel, you know. Um. 20 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: So we'll be getting into that interview and a little bit, 21 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: but let's talk about the pelvic floor appointment. I can't 22 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:16,639 Speaker 1: even tell you guys, just like how seen I feel 23 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:20,119 Speaker 1: in life because I so obviously I have not had 24 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: a baby, so I don't know. So the majority of 25 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: what the pelvic floor physical therapy does is, like I guess, 26 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,319 Speaker 1: after you have a baby. Sometimes it's like you easily 27 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: wet your pants when you like jump or just do 28 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: other things, and like women just think, oh, that's just motherhood, 29 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: like that just happens after you have a baby, and 30 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: that it is what it is. But that's what physical 31 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: pelvic floor physical therapy does. It like strengthens your pelvic 32 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: floor and you don't have to live like that anymore. 33 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: And so it's so crazy because I guess what's going 34 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: on with me, and I like have the scrubbers to 35 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: think because honestly, it was when I started a few 36 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: I don't know if it was talking about how many 37 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: like I just get chronic U T E S. And 38 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: I got so any messages from scrubber is telling me 39 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: to try pelvic floor physical therapy because I guess when 40 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,679 Speaker 1: you are like super prone to h U T I 41 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: S your body. Um, because remember I wasn't having sex 42 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: for like years, many years and I was still getting 43 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: these U t I s and my urologists would like 44 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: test me for all these things. He was testing me 45 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:21,519 Speaker 1: for STDs, and I was like, dude, I don't know 46 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:23,519 Speaker 1: how to tell you, like I'm not lying, like it's 47 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: not it's not that you know, everything was just coming 48 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: back negative. And now I'm realizing that. I think that 49 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: basically what this appointment made me realize. So she puts 50 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 1: her finger up my pelvic floor and she pushes down 51 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: like very very gently. She was what does this feel like? 52 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:43,480 Speaker 1: And she was do you feel this? And I was like, yeah, 53 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 1: it feels like burning, like yes, but that's not where 54 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: the U t I comes from. It doesn't come from there, 55 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 1: to come from like your bladder. And I was like, 56 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: oh my god, like that is that is what it is. 57 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: And so this whole time I could have been having 58 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: is like phantom uh what are they called symptoms? Your 59 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: body just get like I don't know, it's the mind's 60 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: a really powerful thing. And so basically what you can 61 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: do is this physical therapy to kind of help. I mean, 62 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 1: I'm not a doctor and not even pretend to be. 63 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: My physical therapist is telling me, but if I do 64 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,400 Speaker 1: it properly, Like I got sent home with like homework 65 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 1: and exercises and stretches and like different breathing techniques and 66 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: stuff like that to open up my pelvic floor because 67 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: it's very very tight and so basically I need to 68 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: like get nice loose. So is that like Keegel exercises 69 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: or I did do key goals, But like the other 70 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: thing is like it's just like I can't it's too 71 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: hard for me. I can't like to tell you how 72 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: to do it because like the crazy thing is like 73 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: her fingers up in me and I'm doing these exercises 74 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: and she's like it already feels fifty per cent better. 75 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: So it's quick, but it's you have to just you 76 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 1: have to continue to do it, you know what I mean. 77 00:03:56,440 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: It's exactly like working out, but just internal therapy. It's 78 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: just a different you know, we don't talk about or 79 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 1: I never knew anything about it. Honestly, when you were 80 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 1: talking about going, I was like just another weird donnia thing. 81 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: And then she called me and told me about it, 82 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: and I was so fascinated because so my mom, I'm 83 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: one of five kids, and my mom literally would be 84 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: like I can't, like she jump on the trampoline and 85 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: be like, I feel like I'm gonna pay myself. I'm 86 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 1: gonna pay myself. And that's I've heard so many women 87 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: who have had kids say the same thing, and so 88 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,279 Speaker 1: I just thought part of me it was like, I 89 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 1: don't like having kids. Just sounds rough and then you 90 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:38,040 Speaker 1: pee everywhere ever, and you know, and the thing that 91 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: this is the other thing that totally blue, you know, 92 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: when I kind of go down my rabbit hole and things, 93 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 1: and I just like get very invested in these things. 94 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:46,479 Speaker 1: So it can also help with women. A lot of 95 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 1: women have painful sex and they just think like that 96 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: they're broken or like that their vagina is weird or whatever, 97 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: and they just like deal with it, and it's like 98 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: it's not supposed to be painful. If you could do 99 00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: this physical therapy, it helps you get to a different 100 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: place in that as well. And it's like so crazy 101 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: because nobody talks about these things. So that's I think 102 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 1: that's why I was like so mind blown because when 103 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: I went on Instagram after my appointment, and like the 104 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 1: flood of messages I got from people saying like like 105 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: how grateful they are that I'm talking about this, because 106 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: like no, like they're like, you have trauma, you deliver 107 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: a baby, and then they just like send you on 108 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 1: your way. And then in all these other states they 109 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,240 Speaker 1: like suggest that you do these things, but like not 110 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:28,160 Speaker 1: here for some reason. Yeah, but also it's it's just 111 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:31,359 Speaker 1: the thing that's interesting and maybe you did have u 112 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: T I is, but the fact that you are having 113 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: the same pain without even having any sex or anything, 114 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: and then you're taking all this medicine that's maybe for nothing, 115 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: and all my test results are coming back negative. But 116 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 1: I'm like this pain, I know this pain, and I'm 117 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:48,840 Speaker 1: like this is It's so crazy. And then I got 118 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: down another rabbit hole where I'm like why is there 119 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:53,840 Speaker 1: nobody talking about this? Why is there no funding for 120 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:57,279 Speaker 1: these things? And I was like there's some stat about 121 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,680 Speaker 1: how um there's all these you know going into a 122 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: rectile dysfunction disorder for men, which is like all for 123 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:07,600 Speaker 1: like men's pleasure, and yet pelvic floor physical therapy is 124 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: like to deal with like women in their pain, and 125 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: then yet it's like so lopsided in terms of funding. 126 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 1: It's like crazy, Wow, Yeah, I'm anxious to hear after 127 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: you are doing this for a while, if you have 128 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: any more of these symptoms or this pain. I know, 129 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: it's always something. It's always got it. You always take 130 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: his own a journey. I have my next appointment tomorrow Wednesday, 131 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 1: so we shall see. Yeah, I'm gonna go once a 132 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: week from the beginning and then hopefully I can start 133 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: doing exercises on my own. And wow, um, you and 134 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: I had a friend date. We did our friend date. 135 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: We did our friend which was after our last podcast. 136 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: We talked about the friend date, but we went on 137 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: the friend date. It was so fun, it was so cute. 138 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 1: We went to this cute place in Santa Monica, and um, 139 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 1: it was the first time I had worn heels I 140 00:06:54,080 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: think since like actually put them on and walked in them. 141 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:02,719 Speaker 1: That is so crazy, Like that is crazy, I know. 142 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: And I felt like I was a baby deer walking 143 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 1: for the first time. I felt like I couldn't. I 144 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: for totally forgot how to walk on eels. But um, 145 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: normally when we go out to eat Tanya in the past, 146 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: you know, I get pizza and an appetizer or whatever 147 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 1: I want, and a drink. I did get a spicy 148 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: mark which I didn't drink a lot of. It was 149 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: Becca's first drink post palm springs, which was only a 150 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: week in between, by the way, and it was too soon, 151 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: I quickly realized. But um Tania was like, she did 152 00:07:33,240 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: get a salad, but we she indulged. It was so 153 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: fun to eat like normal food with you. Like we 154 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: both okay, I added, So we get this like eggplant dip, right, 155 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: and I'm just like, eat your eggplant. So I think 156 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: vegetable and I'm like, oh, this is great. It's probably 157 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:50,119 Speaker 1: like vegetable with like some you know, vegan a's because 158 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: it was kind of like whipped eggplant. It was like 159 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 1: a hummus yes, and it was like some sort of 160 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: like a hummus eggplant, which to me is vegan, you 161 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like it didn't even occur to 162 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: me that there was any sort of dairy or anything 163 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: in this, but it was delicious, like we were going 164 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: to town on this. Yeah. This eggplant whip was just 165 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: like I was like, can we get another one of these? 166 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 1: Like I didn't want it to end, so I'm like mmmmm. 167 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: I still kept thinking about it all dinner, and so 168 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 1: I go Becca, what do you think, Like do you 169 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 1: think we can make this at home? And so Becca goes, 170 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 1: I think I know a friend that like has the 171 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: recipe or whatever, so she googles it. It's like like 172 00:08:26,240 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 1: every dairy under the sun. It's like Feta cheese and 173 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: Greek yogurt and this a butter and like all the 174 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 1: like literally every dairy thing that I avoid, like the 175 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: plague was in this I plant whip. So I'm like 176 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: starting to sweat a little bit because I'm like, I 177 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:50,360 Speaker 1: ate a lot of that. And so we get home. 178 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: Becca drops me off and I go upstairs and I 179 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 1: FaceTime Red Star and I'm texting Becca and I'm like, 180 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: I'm having the craziest gas right now, like crazy gas. 181 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: And we're face timing and thank god it's on FaceTime, 182 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:09,440 Speaker 1: and he's not like, you know, I r L and 183 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: so you know what like when you're on FaceTime and 184 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: you can mute. So I'm MUTI and farting up a 185 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: storm and he has no idea like what's happening. Okay, 186 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: I'm just letting him rip. And then all of a sudden, 187 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:25,679 Speaker 1: he said something and I started laughing so hard. But 188 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 1: I realized I was muted, and I didn't want him 189 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: to know that I had been muting him, so I 190 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: take it off mute and you just have like zero 191 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: control over your mouths, zero ibs. I literally turned beat 192 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: red and I like eyes come out of my head, 193 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: like ID. I'm like, there's no way he didn't hear that. 194 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: I love him to death because no acknowledgment whatsoever. He 195 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:55,199 Speaker 1: just keeps talking and I'm like, are we going to 196 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: talk about this or is he just gonna keep going? 197 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 1: And he just kept going. We lowed and the part 198 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 1: draut on and no one shut out just ripped and 199 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,520 Speaker 1: you've heard some of mine like it was woud I 200 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: just don't And he said not one thing like it 201 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:18,960 Speaker 1: was as if like nothing happened. You just like a 202 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 1: bold or just plowed through my room, just no acknowledgement whatsoever. 203 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:31,320 Speaker 1: You never like a dressed And like the best part 204 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:32,960 Speaker 1: is is I did. I brought it up later in 205 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: the conversation to see because he said, what did you 206 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 1: guys eat or like what was it good? And um, 207 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,199 Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, we got this eggplant whip. It 208 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: was so good, but there was so much dairy in 209 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:46,960 Speaker 1: and I ate so much and nothing he didn't say like, 210 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: oh yeah, I heard that. It's so funny. I have 211 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: to do the mute thing. A lot sometimes too, when 212 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 1: I eat bad things. Oh, it's my life saver. Her. 213 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 1: I'm you all the time. If I like, I'm just 214 00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: like let him go, let him go, And he knows nothing. 215 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: And now, of course I've talked about this before, but Tanya, 216 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: it's like very slow to get in and out of 217 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: the car. And so I also ate the whipped eggplant 218 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:20,240 Speaker 1: and wasn't feeling great and ready to get home. And 219 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: so I'm dropping her off and she's just slowly getting 220 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: out of the car and I'm like tapping my foot like, okay, 221 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:31,560 Speaker 1: you know how you feel, so go, I still have 222 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: to drive home. So yeah, I want the night to end. 223 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: It was so you never do, but never just you know, 224 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,200 Speaker 1: there's I'm not in control of things that are happening. 225 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:42,480 Speaker 1: I what if there's some psychological thing to that, because 226 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 1: I never want the fun nights to end, Like I'm 227 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 1: always just like please don't drive away. Now. You don't 228 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:50,199 Speaker 1: like being alone. I feel like like when you're with 229 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 1: people and I'm having fun, I don't like it to end. Yeah, 230 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:57,319 Speaker 1: it's weird. There's something psychological there for sure. Maybe should 231 00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:01,440 Speaker 1: have my public or physical therapy. Yeah, she should know. 232 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:05,320 Speaker 1: It probably is associated with your pelvic floor. Just the 233 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: fun never ending. Um. But you know we should talk 234 00:12:08,480 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: about is what we were discussing in the car before 235 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 1: you dropped me off. So we decided that we wanted 236 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:20,679 Speaker 1: to do like a questionnaire for and Red Star. That 237 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 1: was questions, and I guess we can come up with 238 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: them as a group that we give to our significant others. 239 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:28,760 Speaker 1: They fill them out like on a piece of paper 240 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,120 Speaker 1: like they did back in the cave man days, and 241 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: put it in an envelope and then we can read 242 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 1: their answers on the show. Yeah. I thought that'd be 243 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: really funny. I even thought the scrubbers could like it 244 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 1: gives us some questions for the questionnaires, right yeah, um, 245 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: So we just thought it would be funny basically to 246 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:49,319 Speaker 1: see how well they know us? Right, how well they 247 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 1: know us? Or like who knows? I mean one of 248 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: the stars. One of the questions for Red Star could 249 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 1: we have you ever heard ton of fart? I actually 250 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 1: would like to know he did in Palm Springs when 251 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 1: you got sick. Oh well that doesn't count. That wasn't 252 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 1: like a fart, that was like I had diarrhea coming 253 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:08,560 Speaker 1: out of like things. Okay, So here a chart he 254 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:10,920 Speaker 1: has never heard just a fart of air and that 255 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 1: was like I had, like, what's it called food poisoning? 256 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 1: So you know, like that's what doesn't count, right, Okay, 257 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 1: that's eliminated otherwise, right, that's that doesn't count. It wasn't 258 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: not in my normal state. Okay, I am a changed 259 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: woman now. I used to poop with the door open 260 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 1: in front of significant other mute, and they consippated. She's 261 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:41,199 Speaker 1: a change woman, mute and stay consippated. That should be 262 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:47,240 Speaker 1: the name of this episode. Wow, honestly, if that doesn't 263 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: intrigue the people. Oh. Also, my friend Monica text me 264 00:13:52,200 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: this morning and was like, by the way, um, Ellen 265 00:13:55,160 --> 00:14:00,280 Speaker 1: Pompeo is on Armchair Expert that I am so sided 266 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: to listen. I was going to try and listen before 267 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 1: the podcast, but it's going to be my afternoon delight. 268 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: Yea delight. I'm really excited. I know. And they have 269 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 1: video of that too, right, I know. And I've never listened. 270 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:13,840 Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever listened to her on a podcast, 271 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:15,439 Speaker 1: So we can see how she'll be one day when 272 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 1: she's on ours one day. From your Lips to God's Ears. 273 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 1: Um wait, Mark, this is a very quick shift. But um, 274 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: is the riots and everything going on? Is that anywhere 275 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 1: near your hometown? Or we got married in Kenosha, Wisconsin actually, 276 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: so yeah, that's it is it definitely hits home. Yeah, 277 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 1: it's it's horrible, Just like so tired of all this happening. 278 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 1: It really is horrible, and you would really think that, Um, 279 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: if there was ever a time for this sort of 280 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,640 Speaker 1: thing not to happen, it would be right now, I know. 281 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 1: I yeah, I I have a lot of thoughts on it, 282 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: and I just the more of these things keep happening, 283 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 1: I think the problem. The frustrating thing is that you 284 00:15:05,680 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 1: see it happening and you're kind of just like another 285 00:15:08,200 --> 00:15:12,640 Speaker 1: like you kind of go in anyone you know the worst, right, 286 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: get right? Yeah, And it's it's horrible and it's sad. 287 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 1: But I as soon as I saw wis consin, I 288 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: was wondering if that was near any of your family 289 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: or anyone who's definitely. And it's frustrating because now the reaction, 290 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: because of the numbness, a lot of people are like, oh, 291 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 1: here we go with the protests again. But you shouldn't 292 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:32,320 Speaker 1: be like that for the protests. You should be like 293 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: that for the shooting. The shooting should be the frustrating 294 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:39,440 Speaker 1: element of this, not the fact that more glasses being broken. Yeah. 295 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:42,680 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I, if you're frustrated about the 296 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 1: looting and the violence, whatever, you should you should be 297 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:53,200 Speaker 1: more frustrated about someone getting shot unnecessarily by the cops. Um. 298 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:56,680 Speaker 1: But anyways, speaking so, this conversation I got to have 299 00:15:56,800 --> 00:16:00,440 Speaker 1: with Dana Bash and Jasmine right we to be honest, 300 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 1: I felt very I had a little bit of imposter 301 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 1: syndrome going into it because I was like, I don't 302 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:07,880 Speaker 1: really feel qualified to talk to these people who are 303 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: on CNN and talking about politics when it's not something 304 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: I've fully immerse myself. And because there's so much disagreeing 305 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:20,160 Speaker 1: and you know, conversations are hard to have right now 306 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: when it comes to politics, and I have I see 307 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 1: every side of everything. Unfortunately that I mean, I guess 308 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 1: fortunately to take in all the information, but there's a 309 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 1: lot of information on both sides. There's a lot of 310 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: information in the media, social media. The people that we're 311 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 1: talking to just on a daily basis, um. But they 312 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:41,800 Speaker 1: were so warm and answered my questions and we're very 313 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 1: like thoughtful and generous and kind and um. I really 314 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 1: enjoyed talking to them, and so we're going to play 315 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: that interview you. We're gonna play that interview for you 316 00:16:52,760 --> 00:17:10,160 Speaker 1: when we come back. Um, we have two very special 317 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: guests today. I am so excited to have the chance 318 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 1: to talk to them. I think they're two probably to 319 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:18,720 Speaker 1: the busiest women, and the fact that we got them 320 00:17:18,720 --> 00:17:20,880 Speaker 1: on the podcast is a big deal. But please welcome 321 00:17:21,119 --> 00:17:27,639 Speaker 1: Dana Bash and Jasmine Right. I'm s So this was 322 00:17:27,680 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 1: one of those UM times where I felt totally unqualified 323 00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 1: in to be speaking with y'all, because, UM, what y'all 324 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: do couldn't be further from my worst nightmare, which is really, 325 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:46,160 Speaker 1: what you do could be further from my worst nightmare. 326 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:52,679 Speaker 1: I just, I mean, y'all are two of these I 327 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: just watched the documentary recently and I was just blown 328 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: away because I guess, well, I guess I should introduce 329 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:03,240 Speaker 1: who y'all are on What You Do? But um, Dana 330 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:08,920 Speaker 1: you're the CNN Chief Political correspondent for CNN, and UM, 331 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: Jasmine you are also um CNN political in bed producer, 332 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: And I had no idea what either of those meant 333 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 1: until I watched this documentary. And I just need to 334 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 1: know why, Like, why would you put yourself in a 335 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:33,639 Speaker 1: position to be in this industry that's so tough jazz. 336 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 1: You start and I'll finish, because I want to know 337 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:41,360 Speaker 1: what your answer is. Well, Um, So I have always 338 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:45,520 Speaker 1: loved politics. It comes from both of my parents, but 339 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: in large part my father, he was really heavy into politics, 340 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 1: um and so we were always talking about politics around 341 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: the table. I was always watching the news on politics 342 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: and kind of immersing myself. It's always been one of 343 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:02,639 Speaker 1: the things that I've really love. Um And so, you know, 344 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:05,720 Speaker 1: getting to work in this position where it is literally 345 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 1: you eat, breathe and sleep politics, all types of politics, 346 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 1: it's it's kind of like the best case scenario possible, right, 347 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:17,679 Speaker 1: You're just not much sleeping and not much eating. The breathing, 348 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:19,879 Speaker 1: I think is the only one that's the only thing 349 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 1: you can do consistently in this job. So when the 350 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:26,679 Speaker 1: option was presented to me, it was it was a 351 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:29,159 Speaker 1: no brainer, like I had to do it absolutely. But 352 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 1: I guess my question, so you for me, polity, politics 353 00:19:34,600 --> 00:19:39,320 Speaker 1: and political conversation are just something that I have always, 354 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,560 Speaker 1: to be honest, stayed away from because it's it causes 355 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: so much diversity, it causes I mean the conversations, especially 356 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: in the recent months friends and family, has been probably 357 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: the most challenging conversations I've had with anyone, and they're 358 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:56,600 Speaker 1: obviously necessary. And it's one of those things where I'm realizing, 359 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: as uncomfortable as political conversations be, they're needed and they're 360 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:06,399 Speaker 1: necessary for everyone to be at least willing to learn 361 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: and have a conversation. That's really the key. Um, You're right. 362 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 1: First of all, when I started covering politics, it was 363 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 1: rough and tumble, but it wasn't as as vitriolic and 364 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: as as gut wretching as it is now. I mean, 365 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 1: like I used to say that when I started covering Congress, 366 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:31,960 Speaker 1: I would stand in the hallways and wait outside of 367 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: a meeting between Democrats and Republicans, not to figure out 368 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 1: if they're going to come up with the deal, but 369 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: what the deal will look like on any given issue. 370 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,880 Speaker 1: Now there are no meetings, never mind a question of 371 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 1: whether or not there will be a deal or what 372 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,640 Speaker 1: the deal will look like. I mean, that is how 373 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:55,640 Speaker 1: far we have sunk, really um in in the kind 374 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:58,159 Speaker 1: of dialogue or laugh their lack there up or getting 375 00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:01,199 Speaker 1: things done. I mean that changed a bit at the 376 00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: beginning of the coronavirus pandemic, and the two sides did 377 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 1: come together in a real way that we hadn't seen 378 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,280 Speaker 1: in a long time to deal with the crisis. But 379 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 1: now we're just a couple of months from the election 380 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 1: and they're stuck again and they're not putting it aside 381 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 1: because it's so political, even though people are suffering so badly. 382 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 1: So I don't blame you. It's really really tough. Yeah, 383 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,119 Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend and we were talking 384 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 1: about how a virus that is killing people has been 385 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 1: made into a political situation, and um, how we were 386 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:40,640 Speaker 1: talking about how Colin Kaepernick taking a neal has it 387 00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 1: wasn't it. It shouldn't have been. It shouldn't have turned 388 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 1: into what it turned in, you know, like him taking 389 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: a neil was the most peaceful way that it could 390 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 1: have been done. And um, we were just talking about 391 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 1: how there's so much division, and like you said, it 392 00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: was so I remember at the beginning of the virus 393 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,439 Speaker 1: it did feel like there was this unity for a moment, 394 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:04,919 Speaker 1: and then I don't remember what those days look like 395 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:08,640 Speaker 1: because time is either moving too quickly or too slowly. 396 00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:12,400 Speaker 1: I don't know the spacetime Continueum is super off right now. Yeah, 397 00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 1: I was gonna ask, um, Jasmine, I was when I 398 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 1: was watching the documentary. So I don't know if it's 399 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 1: this has been crazy for you all because this HBO 400 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 1: Max documentary it's called On the Trail Inside Primaries, came 401 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:30,360 Speaker 1: out August six. Um, I just watched it recently. In 402 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:34,679 Speaker 1: your position, what you do, the running around, the getting 403 00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:38,600 Speaker 1: the information, the relaying the information. I was so stressed 404 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:44,320 Speaker 1: out for you and all of the other in bed producers. 405 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 1: I was just like you, I mean, you have to 406 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: kind of force your way through the crowd to get 407 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:50,240 Speaker 1: the camera up there and get the mic up there. 408 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:53,640 Speaker 1: It's like you have to have not only a mentally 409 00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:57,680 Speaker 1: tough skin, you have to have a physical six skin 410 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:01,640 Speaker 1: to like make your way. You're there. Well, it's kind 411 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:04,119 Speaker 1: of like trying to push to the front at a 412 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 1: music festival like Lollapalooza right like before you can be 413 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:13,000 Speaker 1: in bed for sure. Um, but yeah, like its great, 414 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:18,359 Speaker 1: cool job. Like that camera you saw Danielle carrying the camera, 415 00:23:18,520 --> 00:23:21,200 Speaker 1: you know all that stuff that's like forty pounds, right, 416 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 1: So it's like and we're constantly taking it out of 417 00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:26,720 Speaker 1: the car because we had to put it in, or 418 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,440 Speaker 1: we're putting it on the conveyor belt at the airport 419 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: and we're putting it in an overhead um on the airplane. 420 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,680 Speaker 1: Like it is a really physically tough job. After like 421 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,360 Speaker 1: three weeks, your arms stopped feeling like jelly and then 422 00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 1: you're like, okay, like, no, I'm not wheezing too much 423 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:46,240 Speaker 1: when I'm picking up, Like, but initially you're like, holy crap, 424 00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:49,960 Speaker 1: it is so happy and you have your tripod, so like, yeah, 425 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,679 Speaker 1: it's a really physically demanding job and it can be stressful, 426 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,200 Speaker 1: but like the best part about it is that even 427 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,280 Speaker 1: throughout that stress and and your arms feel like crap 428 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 1: and you walk fifteen thousand stub sent day, it is 429 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,920 Speaker 1: so much fun. Like I cannot express to you how 430 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:09,640 Speaker 1: exciting it is to get something that some news that 431 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 1: you know that nobody else has and you just got 432 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 1: it from having a conversation and you start to report 433 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 1: that out right, because that's what we're doing where they're 434 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,480 Speaker 1: great news, where they are to cover candidates, to provide editorial, 435 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:23,119 Speaker 1: to break news, so that a journaline Rushman, You're like, 436 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,360 Speaker 1: oh my god, did that just slip out of their mouth? Right, 437 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,600 Speaker 1: They can't take that back. You know that you know what, 438 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: you gotta go find someone else that knows it UM, 439 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,280 Speaker 1: and you gotta go report the news and so like, yes, 440 00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:35,880 Speaker 1: it is all these things, but it's also incredibly fun. 441 00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 1: And Jasmine is taller than that I am. Most people 442 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,040 Speaker 1: are taller than I am, but Jasmine is taller than 443 00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,639 Speaker 1: I am. But and I'm little. And so one of 444 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,960 Speaker 1: my things that I have done throughout my UM career 445 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:49,679 Speaker 1: in those scrum situations where that you saw in the 446 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 1: in the in the dock, especially in the spin room 447 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:56,720 Speaker 1: after debates, is I have no qualms about crawling under 448 00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:00,200 Speaker 1: people's legs because I'm already close to the ground. And 449 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: I cannot tell you how many times I have used 450 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,399 Speaker 1: that to my advantage. And I've just been there and 451 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 1: i just pop up and I'm just in their face 452 00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:11,439 Speaker 1: and they're like, where did you come from? There? Like 453 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 1: I did not see you gushing through the crowds like 454 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,199 Speaker 1: everybody else. Or it's like a debates when you have 455 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 1: to basically a debate, the candidates will walk up one 456 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:22,480 Speaker 1: win and you have to literally love your body over 457 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,800 Speaker 1: a gate so that you can keep the camera up 458 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 1: like basically in their face like it is. It's crazy. 459 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:29,800 Speaker 1: You do a lot of crazy things. You just pray 460 00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 1: that you have a long dress on that day so 461 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 1: you don't question anybody. I know. I guess I would 462 00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:39,120 Speaker 1: imagine that the adrenaline and the excitement of the day 463 00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 1: and what's going on in the energeal around you probably 464 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:45,720 Speaker 1: kind of distracts you from the physical labor that your 465 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,600 Speaker 1: body is going through and the mental stress. I was 466 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 1: wondering because the news is a source where a lot 467 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,520 Speaker 1: of I would say most people when they take what 468 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: they hear from the news and then they don't do 469 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 1: any further research, like that's their knowledge that they're taking in. 470 00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 1: Is there a certain sense of pressure of I hope 471 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,959 Speaker 1: I'm getting this right because this is what Yeah, Because 472 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 1: like people are depending on you for for the facts 473 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:15,440 Speaker 1: and for the truth, and there's there's so much information 474 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,080 Speaker 1: from both sides. It's so overwhelming. And although they have 475 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 1: is our credibility, I mean, that's the most important thing. 476 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 1: That's that's it. You know, we're not we're not elected, 477 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:27,239 Speaker 1: we're not uh you know, we're we're they don't have 478 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 1: people don't have to come to us. We want them 479 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,720 Speaker 1: to want to come to us. Because they know that 480 00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:36,360 Speaker 1: we get it right, as Jeff said, hopefully we'll get 481 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:39,199 Speaker 1: it first, uh, and we explain it the best in 482 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 1: the most objective way. It's really hard in these times 483 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:48,880 Speaker 1: when everything is fractured, even and especially the media. Yeah, 484 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 1: I like I. My personality type is that I have 485 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:56,360 Speaker 1: to hear as much information from both sides as I can. 486 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:00,119 Speaker 1: So you should be a reporter. Why we do what 487 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:03,040 Speaker 1: we do? Know? Because I also on the flip side, 488 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:06,320 Speaker 1: I don't take criticism. Well. I would cry every time 489 00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:10,000 Speaker 1: I went to do anything, So I don't know they'd 490 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 1: be like, is Becca crying again? What happened? But I 491 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 1: guess if if you were to give young girls who 492 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 1: are in your position or who are who are wanting 493 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,359 Speaker 1: to be in this field, which is it's really cool 494 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 1: seeing so many women watching that documentary and seeing the 495 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,640 Speaker 1: amount of women who are killing it in a game 496 00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:32,720 Speaker 1: that I would say, for a long time was run 497 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 1: by men and predominantly men. Correct me if I'm wrong, yeah, 498 00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,400 Speaker 1: and white men. What advice would you give girls who 499 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,119 Speaker 1: are wanting to get into this industry and do what 500 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 1: y'all are doing? Um, I say to everyone, you just 501 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: have to do it, you know, all of these preconceived 502 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,840 Speaker 1: notions that we have that we're not strong enough that 503 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,679 Speaker 1: you know, we can't dedicate todd to do that, or 504 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,800 Speaker 1: just because we haven't had this job up before, we 505 00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 1: can't do this new job. It's crap. It's cerebral. Like, 506 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,480 Speaker 1: just do what you just have to, you know, pull 507 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: up your big girl pants or your big boy pants 508 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:14,199 Speaker 1: and and go out there and be immerse yourself. You know, 509 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:18,000 Speaker 1: watch others, like I learned from watching the folks. I've 510 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,439 Speaker 1: seen it. I've learned from watching my other and beds, 511 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:23,280 Speaker 1: and you pick it up right. It's it's no no 512 00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:25,880 Speaker 1: one can really teach you how to be right. They can. 513 00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:27,679 Speaker 1: They can show you how to turn your camera on 514 00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,360 Speaker 1: and you still kind of shoot terribly right. They can 515 00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 1: tell you how to pack your suitcase. But like, there's 516 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:37,320 Speaker 1: so many moments that you have no control over, and 517 00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,360 Speaker 1: it's just you have to rely on your knowledge, and 518 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,400 Speaker 1: you have to rely on the ability that that you 519 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,600 Speaker 1: know what you're what you're there to do, which is 520 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,600 Speaker 1: to give the editorial back to your network. So I 521 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:51,200 Speaker 1: tall all girls like you know, if you want to 522 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,360 Speaker 1: do this, if you love politics, just go do it. 523 00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:57,120 Speaker 1: You know, don't ask permission saying forgiveness when you um 524 00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:04,480 Speaker 1: break a big story US forgiveness brother, Yeah, that's true. UM. 525 00:29:04,960 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 1: I guess my follow up question to what I said 526 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,600 Speaker 1: earlier would be, how do you how do you figure 527 00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:13,280 Speaker 1: out what's what's real? Like if if you're listening to 528 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:17,800 Speaker 1: the news, how I guess for example, with the controversy 529 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:21,920 Speaker 1: with the mail in balance system, like there's so many 530 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:25,240 Speaker 1: different takes on what it means. Obviously from each side, 531 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:29,160 Speaker 1: they're going to be opposite opinions of what it means. 532 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:33,240 Speaker 1: How do you determine what's the truth or what's fact? 533 00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 1: Such a good question. The answer is there shouldn't be 534 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:40,040 Speaker 1: different opinions because this isn't an opinion question. This is 535 00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:44,320 Speaker 1: a fact question and um, and some of it is 536 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:48,560 Speaker 1: based on studies. I mean, some of this is genuinely new. 537 00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:53,560 Speaker 1: The volume of mail in ballots that is expected now 538 00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 1: because we're in a pandemic, is going to be greater 539 00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,520 Speaker 1: than we saw in the past, not a national scale, 540 00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 1: and the Post Office is is obviously a national um entity. 541 00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:06,200 Speaker 1: But if you kind of look at what has happened 542 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 1: in the states that have had only mail in voting 543 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: in the Northwest, for example, uh. In in other places, UM, 544 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 1: there's there have been studies that have been done, genuine 545 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 1: nonpartisan studies, and the results have been across the board 546 00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:28,480 Speaker 1: that there there is a miniscule amount of fraud, miniscule 547 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:31,080 Speaker 1: amount of fraud. UM. And then some of the things 548 00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,640 Speaker 1: that we've seen this election cycle, like what happened in 549 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: New York where it took a month for the Democratic 550 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 1: primary or one of them, a couple of them actually, 551 00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:43,920 Speaker 1: but one of them, especially to be UM decided it 552 00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,520 Speaker 1: wasn't because of fraud. It was because the system was 553 00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 1: was screwed up and they weren't ready for the volume. UM. 554 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:52,480 Speaker 1: Which is something that we that we really do have 555 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: to focus on as a country, as a democracy, and 556 00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:57,000 Speaker 1: reporters have to make sure that we ask the right 557 00:30:57,080 --> 00:31:02,680 Speaker 1: questions and UM. It is extremely frustrating from us as reporters, 558 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:06,880 Speaker 1: and I know how it must be for people who 559 00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: are just kind of regular average voters who want to 560 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 1: get the correct information in order to UM to do 561 00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: their basic democratic job which is UM and civic duty, 562 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:23,800 Speaker 1: which is voting. So the answer is it should be safe. 563 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,960 Speaker 1: There's no reason that it shouldn't be safe to mail 564 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:30,080 Speaker 1: in a ballot. Yeah, it's like you read one thing 565 00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: or you hear one thing, and then you go to 566 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 1: the next page on social media. And so I'm from 567 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,160 Speaker 1: the South and from Louisiana, so i have face My 568 00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 1: Facebook specifically is very conservative Republican, and then all my 569 00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:49,239 Speaker 1: other social media is very you know, Democrat liberal, and 570 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,520 Speaker 1: so my brain feels like it's on a swivel constantly. 571 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:56,160 Speaker 1: And you're living in you live the division in this 572 00:31:56,280 --> 00:32:03,200 Speaker 1: country through media and social media. Yeah, a lot like 573 00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:07,720 Speaker 1: sometimes them like trying to delete everything all the time, 574 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: all the time. So what happens moving into the election? 575 00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,120 Speaker 1: What what does work look like for you all? Like, 576 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,160 Speaker 1: what's happening next? Well, we're in the election right now, 577 00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, Yeah, I'm sitting here in Wilmington, Delaware, 578 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:27,960 Speaker 1: and I'll be going into the UM Convention Center. It's 579 00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 1: not really convention center, but it's it's the arena that 580 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:34,880 Speaker 1: Senator Harris will be speaking tonight UM to accept her nomination. 581 00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:39,440 Speaker 1: You know. So there is still a footprint on the trail, 582 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,520 Speaker 1: but it's a lot smaller, right, and it's a lot 583 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,880 Speaker 1: more socially distant. It looks a lot more like one 584 00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,440 Speaker 1: person who's a representative for all networks going in and 585 00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:51,120 Speaker 1: getting the information and covering of its right because we 586 00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,800 Speaker 1: have to kind of abide by these guidelines really to 587 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:55,920 Speaker 1: keep us all safe. It's a lot of mask wearing, 588 00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:59,480 Speaker 1: it's a lot of hand sanitizing and and rubbing clorox 589 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:06,120 Speaker 1: on all to and buttons and exactly right, So like 590 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,880 Speaker 1: it still is here, but but but it is true 591 00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,840 Speaker 1: that it's it's way smaller and it's way more socially distant. 592 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,760 Speaker 1: Just like, but if I could just brag on Jasmine 593 00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:19,280 Speaker 1: for a second. Um, you know, the documentary started in 594 00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:23,720 Speaker 1: and Kamala Harris ran for president, but she dropped out 595 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:28,120 Speaker 1: before any vote was cast in and Jasmine was the 596 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:32,440 Speaker 1: Kamala Harris in bent. So all of the sourcing that 597 00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,920 Speaker 1: she's done, I mean, all the time that she spent 598 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:40,440 Speaker 1: before the pandemic while she while Kamala Harris was running, um, 599 00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,880 Speaker 1: getting to know her, getting to know her staff, getting 600 00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:47,240 Speaker 1: to know her friends and family. Now we have Jasmine 601 00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:50,400 Speaker 1: who is in the kaw bird seat because she has 602 00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,560 Speaker 1: all of that built up in her what we used 603 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: to call the rollo decks in the old days. Yeah, yeah, 604 00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,640 Speaker 1: I know Senator Harris pretty well. I'm as well as 605 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 1: I know myself, and that's what you need to do. 606 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:09,200 Speaker 1: A JOS. Remember you were you surprised or were you 607 00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:14,640 Speaker 1: aware that maybe Sendor Hairs would be um named as 608 00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:19,600 Speaker 1: Joe Biden's UM VP. Did you have any inkling that 609 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:22,799 Speaker 1: that would maybe happen. Well, we had great reporting from 610 00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:25,480 Speaker 1: all of our reporters that she was on the shortlist 611 00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:27,560 Speaker 1: that you know, and he said it himself multiple times, 612 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:31,360 Speaker 1: and so did Dr Joe Biden that, um, she was 613 00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:35,120 Speaker 1: a serious contender. And if you think about the scope, right, 614 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:38,120 Speaker 1: she was talked about as being Biden's VP before she 615 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,399 Speaker 1: even announced that she was running for president herself. And 616 00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 1: there were moments within her campaign. I remember this one 617 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:47,400 Speaker 1: time where um, she was doing pretty well in the 618 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:51,759 Speaker 1: polls and somebody asked her, reporter asked her, you know, 619 00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,520 Speaker 1: are you gonna be Biden's VP, and she said, well, 620 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,239 Speaker 1: maybe he's gonna be my VP, right, And so so 621 00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 1: there has never been a discussion about Senator hair Us 622 00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:04,200 Speaker 1: where Joe Biden and possibly being the VP wasn't somewhere 623 00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:07,440 Speaker 1: far behind it, right, So so they were always signs, 624 00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:09,360 Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, you know, like 625 00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,359 Speaker 1: everyone said, it was Joe Biden's decision, so no one 626 00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 1: really knew, but there were quite a small number of 627 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,240 Speaker 1: women who he could have chosen from, and Senator Harris 628 00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:22,239 Speaker 1: was among them. Yeah, and he was very specific that 629 00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:25,520 Speaker 1: he would have a woman as his VP, so, like 630 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: you said, it was he narrowed it down in that regard, 631 00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:31,319 Speaker 1: so we had limited options of knowing who it could be. 632 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:35,919 Speaker 1: But um, well, so moving forward, the advice you'd give 633 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 1: to young girls is that you just got to do it. 634 00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:40,040 Speaker 1: If you can push yourself to the front of a 635 00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:43,560 Speaker 1: crowd at a concert, you have the what it takes. 636 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 1: And UM, I just wanted to say thank you all 637 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:50,839 Speaker 1: for joining me because, like I said, I was very 638 00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:56,239 Speaker 1: um honored and also felt like, am I do I 639 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:59,680 Speaker 1: have what it takes to interview y'all? So, um, thank 640 00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:02,160 Speaker 1: you for coming on the podcast and talking. You're an 641 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:07,880 Speaker 1: awesome interviewer than it was. But normally my conversations are 642 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,800 Speaker 1: about like pop culture and what's going on in Grayson 643 00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,720 Speaker 1: at me and okay, so can we do that because 644 00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:18,200 Speaker 1: that's my that's my Okay. One of my questions though, 645 00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,480 Speaker 1: I was gonna ask you, I was gonna say, when 646 00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:24,560 Speaker 1: when there is downtime, what are what is your guilty pleasure. 647 00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:26,480 Speaker 1: What do you sit around and eat and what do 648 00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:28,759 Speaker 1: you watch on TV when you're not having to think 649 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:33,040 Speaker 1: about the news and politics? Um, I watched so much 650 00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:36,319 Speaker 1: Netflix and streaming script and TV. I mean, I don't 651 00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,160 Speaker 1: even know where to start. My favorite, my favorite part 652 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:41,680 Speaker 1: of the week is when my US and People magazine 653 00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,080 Speaker 1: come to my house and I still do it old 654 00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:45,640 Speaker 1: school like, they come to my house and I actually 655 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 1: feel a little guilty because my nine year old son 656 00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:52,479 Speaker 1: is now addicted. He will pull the I know, he'll 657 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:56,000 Speaker 1: pull the magazine in before anybody else can can touch it, 658 00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:58,960 Speaker 1: and he'll he'll scroll to the front like who wear 659 00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:02,439 Speaker 1: the ward best and tell me if he thought that 660 00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:07,120 Speaker 1: the magazine was right. Um, so I do feel a 661 00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:10,000 Speaker 1: little bit like, um, it's not the greatest parenting, but 662 00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,840 Speaker 1: I think it's good. It's important for people to know 663 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,520 Speaker 1: pop culture kids as well. Right, he doesn't only have 664 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:17,560 Speaker 1: to know about Elizabeth Warren and Joe Biden and Kamala Harris. 665 00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,720 Speaker 1: I think there should be a nice balance of both 666 00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: to be Because he has a fantastic dresser, that's all 667 00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:26,880 Speaker 1: that matters. He's gonna have great styles. Yeah, yeah, he 668 00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:31,640 Speaker 1: likes he likes his style. I've been obsessed, obsessed with 669 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:35,000 Speaker 1: selling Sunset on Netflix, the Real Estate show. Oh that's 670 00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,279 Speaker 1: time my last should I watch? I know? Oh my god, 671 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,320 Speaker 1: you have to watch it. It's great. Twenty seven minutes, 672 00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:44,080 Speaker 1: you know, maybe thirty minutes, and like the drama is 673 00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,799 Speaker 1: so like meek but interesting that you know. It's like 674 00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:52,000 Speaker 1: it's like Real Housewives meets a million dollar listing. Yeah, 675 00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:55,800 Speaker 1: it's total like house Like you see these beautiful houses, 676 00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,520 Speaker 1: you get a little bit of drama, you get some 677 00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:01,799 Speaker 1: great out like us. I love it. I just love 678 00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:07,040 Speaker 1: reality TV so um mindless that it's so it's such 679 00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,680 Speaker 1: a detachment from what's going on in the world because 680 00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,360 Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of movies and scripted shows 681 00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: have kind of gone into this place where it's based 682 00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:17,960 Speaker 1: on what's going on in the world. So you almost 683 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,279 Speaker 1: feel like I'm not even escaping anymore. I'm just going 684 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,680 Speaker 1: into a fictional version of what's really going on in 685 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:27,759 Speaker 1: the world. You know. Can you imagine, um, like, once 686 00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,560 Speaker 1: the studios open back up and people start scripting again, 687 00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:32,400 Speaker 1: and all the shows are going to be about the 688 00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,040 Speaker 1: pandemic and we're gonna have to belive it. Well, we 689 00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,319 Speaker 1: talked to someone from Grey's Anatomy the other day and 690 00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:41,440 Speaker 1: he was saying that, I mean, it's great for them 691 00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:45,120 Speaker 1: because they're already in scrubs and masks, but they're they're 692 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,360 Speaker 1: having to yeah, and they're going to address the pandemic. 693 00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:52,400 Speaker 1: And part of me is like, oh, it's just even 694 00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,680 Speaker 1: more to take on, Like we finally have a moment 695 00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:58,960 Speaker 1: to escape, and now we're reliving the nightmare that is 696 00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:02,640 Speaker 1: coronavirus iris. I know, I know, I know. Let's say 697 00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:06,399 Speaker 1: it's actually nice to not have coronavirus related stuff on 698 00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,800 Speaker 1: our streaming UM networks because it's the escape we need. 699 00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,840 Speaker 1: I know. I agree. Well, I'm gonna watch Selling Sunset 700 00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,000 Speaker 1: because you're about the hundredth person who's told me about 701 00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:20,640 Speaker 1: I know me too. Alright, Becca, So what give us 702 00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,160 Speaker 1: your your favorite? What should we watch? So? I just 703 00:39:23,280 --> 00:39:29,160 Speaker 1: watched UM Dirty John season two Betty Broderick story. Yes, 704 00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:32,799 Speaker 1: and my boyfriend is in that. He's an actor, but 705 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:34,919 Speaker 1: I don't I haven't don't tell him. I haven't seen 706 00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:40,160 Speaker 1: it yet. But he wait, but I don't know. You're 707 00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:41,640 Speaker 1: gonna ask me who he plays, and I don't know, 708 00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,400 Speaker 1: but he's in it. But he's in it. He and 709 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:48,120 Speaker 1: everyone says it's amazing. It's really good, right, it's amazing. 710 00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,520 Speaker 1: The first one, the first season I loved, and I 711 00:39:50,560 --> 00:39:53,200 Speaker 1: listened to the podcast, and then I remember hearing the 712 00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:57,239 Speaker 1: story about Betty Broderick, and I I was young, so 713 00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,319 Speaker 1: like when I hear would hear about it, it was 714 00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,640 Speaker 1: just something in passing somehow. But when I want to 715 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,920 Speaker 1: sit down and watch it, it's so well done, I couldn't. 716 00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:11,359 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that before Selling Sunset, sorry, Jeff Well 717 00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:16,640 Speaker 1: her boyfriends, and I'm gonna either way. Yeah, I'm gonna. 718 00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,320 Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a recap after I watched Selling 719 00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:22,239 Speaker 1: Sunset because there's three seasons, right, so I have a 720 00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:27,920 Speaker 1: long Yeah, there's three seasons. I can do it quickly. 721 00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:32,960 Speaker 1: Believe I'll have a ton going on right now. Um well, 722 00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:35,320 Speaker 1: thank you both for your time. You're both so lovely, 723 00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:39,040 Speaker 1: and good luck moving forward. Make sure you get sleep 724 00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:45,000 Speaker 1: and um rest and trash TV and good food whenever 725 00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:49,040 Speaker 1: you have a chance. Perfect. We appreciate thank you all 726 00:40:49,120 --> 00:41:08,120 Speaker 1: right bye. They were awesome. It was funny because when 727 00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:10,920 Speaker 1: I kind of went, you know, I want to talk 728 00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,560 Speaker 1: about I normally talk about pop culture, and it was 729 00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:16,560 Speaker 1: almost they responded in a sense of like, well, let's 730 00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:19,000 Speaker 1: talk about that, like, give us a break from what 731 00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,960 Speaker 1: we always talk about talk about. I mean, nothing to 732 00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:26,040 Speaker 1: me sounds more brutal than working for CNN right now, 733 00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:30,239 Speaker 1: any any anything involving pology? I asked. My first question was, 734 00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:34,520 Speaker 1: why have you chosen this? I can't imagine willingly putting 735 00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:36,920 Speaker 1: myself in your position like some people love it, you know, 736 00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:38,560 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. I mean, we need those like 737 00:41:38,680 --> 00:41:42,759 Speaker 1: one man's pie is another man's pleasure. Right, let me 738 00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:45,520 Speaker 1: tell you that is not my pie? How crazy though, 739 00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:49,160 Speaker 1: that that is my pie? How crazy though? That? I 740 00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,640 Speaker 1: had no idea that Danna's boyfriend was in Dirty John, 741 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:54,959 Speaker 1: that the season I just watched, and that's the show 742 00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:56,400 Speaker 1: I brought up that. She was like, what are you 743 00:41:56,440 --> 00:42:00,480 Speaker 1: watching right now? So yeah, I looked it up. Spencer Garrett, 744 00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:04,919 Speaker 1: he plays Judge Spiller. Yeah, and her boyfriend's an actor. Yeah. 745 00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:07,680 Speaker 1: How does she feel about that? Well, she hadn't watched 746 00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:11,160 Speaker 1: the show yet, so I don't know she. But I'm 747 00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,520 Speaker 1: just like thinking about, like if I seriously dated an actor, 748 00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:17,040 Speaker 1: like watching him make out with other people, I think 749 00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:19,879 Speaker 1: would be hard for me. I also think it would 750 00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:28,800 Speaker 1: be very hard for you too. Oh yeah, um takes 751 00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,400 Speaker 1: out takes a strong soul to endure that. So props 752 00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,640 Speaker 1: to anybody out there, by the way, I do want 753 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,520 Speaker 1: to say that during that interview, we knew that Becca 754 00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:39,480 Speaker 1: was very nervous about that, and so I was ready 755 00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,960 Speaker 1: standing by with questions in case Becca felt like she 756 00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:45,319 Speaker 1: was getting in over her head or anything. But I 757 00:42:45,400 --> 00:42:47,239 Speaker 1: never jumped in because she never needed me to. She 758 00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:50,600 Speaker 1: did a fantastic job, so I wanted really great job 759 00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:55,840 Speaker 1: Becca was Mark, that's so cute though, It's like, I 760 00:42:55,880 --> 00:43:02,000 Speaker 1: don't know, she was fantastic. And the fact that you 761 00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:04,160 Speaker 1: had questions like you have like a bat, you have 762 00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:07,520 Speaker 1: like a system in case she was drowning because I 763 00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:10,440 Speaker 1: told I was I was vocal about being you know, 764 00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:15,279 Speaker 1: feeling like I am I you know, how is this 765 00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,279 Speaker 1: going to go? I'm I qualified for this? But they 766 00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,160 Speaker 1: were so would you agree? I mean, they were so 767 00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:24,040 Speaker 1: humble and willing to and like validated my questions like 768 00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:28,520 Speaker 1: that's a great question. It's not you know, And um, 769 00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:32,360 Speaker 1: I just think any woman who's inserting herself into anyone 770 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,439 Speaker 1: who's inserting their themselves into a position like they are, 771 00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:40,880 Speaker 1: it takes a strong, thick skin. Yeah, and they do 772 00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:44,520 Speaker 1: it gracefully. The documentary is really great and informative to 773 00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:47,359 Speaker 1: see what it's like in their world. Um, you know what, 774 00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:51,000 Speaker 1: you know what, I don't have thick skin. My skin 775 00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:57,840 Speaker 1: like paper, like the tissue paper you put it a 776 00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:03,480 Speaker 1: present for a birthday. That's really easy. Yeah. I can 777 00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:06,840 Speaker 1: pope through real quick, real quick. There a little sprits 778 00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:10,640 Speaker 1: of water and a crumbles. So the HBO Max documentary 779 00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:14,440 Speaker 1: it's called On the Trail Inside the Primaries, and it 780 00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:17,360 Speaker 1: was really eye opening because I I've always thought that 781 00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:21,799 Speaker 1: job seemed like my worst nightmare, and it's solidified that 782 00:44:22,000 --> 00:44:25,680 Speaker 1: because they're running around like crazy. They eat, breathe, sleep 783 00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:29,560 Speaker 1: the election, and you know, they're in charge of getting 784 00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:32,000 Speaker 1: information out to all of us. Did you ever run 785 00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:35,080 Speaker 1: for like president or anything when you were in high school? Yeah, 786 00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:37,520 Speaker 1: I ran for vice president of student council, but no 787 00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:40,000 Speaker 1: one ran against me, so I didn't have to do anything. 788 00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:43,239 Speaker 1: My gosh, I did. We ran for my friend Carly, 789 00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:45,800 Speaker 1: and I did president vice president. She went for president. 790 00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:49,919 Speaker 1: I went and we did like a whole Our theme 791 00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:53,040 Speaker 1: was under the sea, and so our whole campaign was 792 00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,840 Speaker 1: like mermaids and oh shan like like like that matters 793 00:44:56,880 --> 00:44:59,120 Speaker 1: at all. I don't want to know. But for our speech, 794 00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:01,640 Speaker 1: we redid the Little Mermaid like we did under the 795 00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:06,880 Speaker 1: Sea Tanya Carly under the Sea Tanya Carly like changed 796 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:08,439 Speaker 1: like all like all the words to be like about 797 00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,839 Speaker 1: our campus and stuff. We end up losing, but I 798 00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:16,320 Speaker 1: put so much of my life and effort into that campaign. 799 00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,240 Speaker 1: I couldn't even imagine what it's like running for the president. 800 00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:23,000 Speaker 1: Probably very different, you know, pressure is the same, but 801 00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:26,120 Speaker 1: a little different. Yeah, they probably weren't passing out like 802 00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:29,720 Speaker 1: shell necklaces and stuff, but I appreciate that. I also 803 00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,560 Speaker 1: went to Girls State in Louisiana. It's where they grabbed 804 00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:36,439 Speaker 1: like three people I think from each school in the 805 00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:40,160 Speaker 1: state and you all go to the LSU campus for 806 00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:42,640 Speaker 1: seven days and we had to make up like cheers. 807 00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:44,680 Speaker 1: They woke us up at like six am. We slept 808 00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:48,040 Speaker 1: in the dorm rooms, and we formed like a government. Uh. 809 00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,040 Speaker 1: I was on the city council. I was like, what's 810 00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,439 Speaker 1: the least amount of work I have to do? Because 811 00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:54,359 Speaker 1: it was the summer. I was like, I don't want 812 00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:57,399 Speaker 1: to be doing more homework in school, but my mom 813 00:45:57,480 --> 00:45:59,240 Speaker 1: made me go because she was like, it's an honor 814 00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:03,160 Speaker 1: that you were was in out of your school. So, Becca, 815 00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:06,319 Speaker 1: there's a documentary about Boys State out right now. Wait, 816 00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,640 Speaker 1: I heard about this, but isn't it kind of it's 817 00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:10,239 Speaker 1: like dark? Right? Yeah, I think it's a little dark. 818 00:46:10,239 --> 00:46:13,440 Speaker 1: It's on Apple TV. Plus, I'm very interested in watching 819 00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:18,000 Speaker 1: that because it is well that's in Texas, right, I'm 820 00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:23,360 Speaker 1: not sure exactly, but um yeah, because there was a 821 00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:25,239 Speaker 1: girl's stay in a boys state. We are down there 822 00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:27,640 Speaker 1: at the same time, so I'm curious. I don't even 823 00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:30,040 Speaker 1: know what's about. But I felt dark when I was 824 00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:33,640 Speaker 1: reading about it. Yeah, I think I want some light TV, 825 00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:39,440 Speaker 1: you know, like I weirdly likely I really like dark things, 826 00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:41,799 Speaker 1: I know, you know what. Actually, somebody was telling me 827 00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:49,560 Speaker 1: that I would really enjoy normal people. Did you watch it? 828 00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:53,040 Speaker 1: It was a little slow to me, but my sister 829 00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,200 Speaker 1: loved it and she was like, you just have to 830 00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:57,279 Speaker 1: get past the first see episodes. But I hate when 831 00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:02,239 Speaker 1: people say that our episodes are there. I think they're 832 00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:06,360 Speaker 1: thirty minutes. But um yeah, it's just like it's a 833 00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,279 Speaker 1: lot of sex. So I don't know if people are 834 00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,719 Speaker 1: just like it's hot and steamy and that's I don't know. 835 00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:17,440 Speaker 1: I wasn't hooked immediately. So you're okay, um, Mark, you 836 00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:20,000 Speaker 1: have a game for us right where. So here's where 837 00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:22,000 Speaker 1: this came from. So I was talking to my neighbor 838 00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:25,680 Speaker 1: Jerry across the street and his daughter Bryn is a 839 00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:28,000 Speaker 1: big scrubber. And by the way, she just got engaged 840 00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:32,200 Speaker 1: to congratulations to Brenn. How did she meet her fiance? Well, 841 00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:33,960 Speaker 1: you know, I have no idea because I've never met her. 842 00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:38,520 Speaker 1: But um, Jerry was telling me that I have, you know, 843 00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:43,359 Speaker 1: these websites to tell you what people's celebrity net worth is. Yes, 844 00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:45,640 Speaker 1: and we rely on those like well, like how whatever 845 00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:47,120 Speaker 1: happened to that part? We look it up like we 846 00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:49,000 Speaker 1: take it as gospel. Well he let me know that 847 00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:54,279 Speaker 1: there's one for me, so, which is hilarious. So the 848 00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:56,400 Speaker 1: game is and I'll get to the others in a second. 849 00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:58,960 Speaker 1: But first we're gonna guess each of you will guess 850 00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:02,719 Speaker 1: how much my celebrity net worth is according to this website. 851 00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:09,400 Speaker 1: Whoever's closes without going over who goes first? Um, you 852 00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:13,560 Speaker 1: can go first time. You I'm gonna say two million dollars. Okay, Becca, 853 00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:23,040 Speaker 1: I have no I feel I feel very um, disadvantage 854 00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:29,600 Speaker 1: because you're all in radio and no, no, what there's 855 00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:33,160 Speaker 1: no stuff. No. But the point of this is, and 856 00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,359 Speaker 1: I'll get to yours in a second. Antonia is both 857 00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:36,880 Speaker 1: of you have one, so I'll get to yours in 858 00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:39,480 Speaker 1: a second. The point of this is how ludicrous this is. 859 00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:42,480 Speaker 1: So go ahead, Okay, okay, okay, okay, I'm gonna go. 860 00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:46,360 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go one point five, Becca wins. It is 861 00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:49,120 Speaker 1: one point six million dollars. That is my net worth 862 00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:51,800 Speaker 1: according to the site, which is now the only funny 863 00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:54,239 Speaker 1: thing about that, because I'm worth a fraction of that. 864 00:48:54,320 --> 00:48:57,319 Speaker 1: But also I did a like ten years ago. A 865 00:48:57,360 --> 00:48:59,319 Speaker 1: friend of mine said, Hey, I'm doing a video. Will 866 00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:01,319 Speaker 1: you be in it? I said yeah, sure, And I 867 00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:03,359 Speaker 1: came by a theater and I did it. I didn't 868 00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:05,640 Speaker 1: get paid, I didn't get lunch, I got nothing. I 869 00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:06,919 Speaker 1: just did it for a friend to put a suit 870 00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:09,720 Speaker 1: on and did it. I'm I'm apparently an actor best 871 00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:15,200 Speaker 1: known for that video. That's what it says. It's amazing, 872 00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:20,920 Speaker 1: all right. So next up is, um, Becca, let's go 873 00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:24,160 Speaker 1: with you. What is your net worth? According to this 874 00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:27,160 Speaker 1: website that I found And these are all different websites, 875 00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:30,000 Speaker 1: By the way, this is like famous intro dot com 876 00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:32,440 Speaker 1: orce something. They estimated your net worth? Becca, what do 877 00:49:32,480 --> 00:49:36,680 Speaker 1: you think it is? So it's a I can be 878 00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:41,319 Speaker 1: like a little crazy on this and okay, I'm gonna 879 00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:48,680 Speaker 1: guess three million. Okay, Tanya, how much? So I think 880 00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:51,680 Speaker 1: I already know mine because Patty told it to me 881 00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:53,640 Speaker 1: the other day and I literally have never laughed hard. 882 00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:55,120 Speaker 1: I'm going to get to yours because there's a lot 883 00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:57,520 Speaker 1: of fun stuff to dig into on yours. So I'm 884 00:49:57,560 --> 00:50:01,719 Speaker 1: gonna guess ten million, Rebecca, that is exactly right. Ten 885 00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:08,520 Speaker 1: million dollars. Okay, Um, here, just set the record straight. 886 00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:17,520 Speaker 1: That is not true. Is that wild? Ten million? Yeah? 887 00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:25,480 Speaker 1: Someone sponsored me? I know, I know. Maybe that's manifesting. 888 00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:30,239 Speaker 1: They're manifesting for me. Ten million is hilarious. And the 889 00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:32,000 Speaker 1: funny thing is they do have like they said that 890 00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:38,360 Speaker 1: you were born in Louisiana, which is accurate October. Okay, 891 00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:40,160 Speaker 1: so they got all that right, But they also say 892 00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:42,759 Speaker 1: ten million dollars for you. Where did they come up 893 00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:45,279 Speaker 1: with this number? This is a great question, But let's 894 00:50:45,280 --> 00:50:47,440 Speaker 1: go to Tanya. Now, Tanya thinks she might know what 895 00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:49,120 Speaker 1: it is, but there are a couple of different sites. 896 00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,960 Speaker 1: I found one that got specific about it. But go ahead, Becca, 897 00:50:52,040 --> 00:51:02,400 Speaker 1: you guess for Tanya. I'm gonna guess for Tanya. Seven million, Okay, Tanya, 898 00:51:02,880 --> 00:51:05,919 Speaker 1: I'm going to That's what I was told. This site 899 00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:08,319 Speaker 1: that I saw has you at three million dollars, so 900 00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:11,239 Speaker 1: you both went over. But here's the great stuff about this. 901 00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:17,160 Speaker 1: They're so confident in your biography. There's a whole biography 902 00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:19,000 Speaker 1: about you, and let me read some of it to you. 903 00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:23,040 Speaker 1: You were born July, so they're off by a day. 904 00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:30,160 Speaker 1: Not bad. But to your parents Cornelis and memory what 905 00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:36,400 Speaker 1: I don't even ever heard those names. You have a 906 00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:39,279 Speaker 1: brother named Henry. Wait, this might be a different time. 907 00:51:39,360 --> 00:51:41,399 Speaker 1: Your ad how call me. There's a picture of you 908 00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,560 Speaker 1: and even talks about how you're on yan Seacraft. He 909 00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:46,799 Speaker 1: used to be a blogger, like it gets some of 910 00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,080 Speaker 1: that stuff right, but talks about your brother Henry and 911 00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:55,000 Speaker 1: your sister Dorry Dorrika. You went to Orange High School, 912 00:51:56,480 --> 00:52:01,440 Speaker 1: you went to USC Your full name is Tanya Rarick 913 00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:06,880 Speaker 1: rad wrong and this is my favorite line. Let me 914 00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:10,520 Speaker 1: figure it up here because it's so funny. Tanya is 915 00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:13,719 Speaker 1: not married, but she is currently in a relationship with 916 00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:25,400 Speaker 1: Maxwell Dotch I don't know. That's so good, so bizarre. 917 00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:28,400 Speaker 1: It's almost like a like writing a fiction book. It 918 00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:31,800 Speaker 1: almost looks like if it doesn't know the actual names, 919 00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:35,640 Speaker 1: it just generates the names or something. Also, Yo, if 920 00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:38,080 Speaker 1: I was worth like even if I was even worth 921 00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:41,120 Speaker 1: a fraction of a three million dollar or whatever, I'd 922 00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:45,160 Speaker 1: be stoked. So like, I can't believe I'm worth ten millions. 923 00:52:45,600 --> 00:52:49,719 Speaker 1: People probably Wow, wait, can we back up? Was at 924 00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:52,200 Speaker 1: the end of the game because I have a very 925 00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:55,040 Speaker 1: funny story. It's kind of quick. But this guy messages 926 00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:59,600 Speaker 1: me on Instagram. Okay, and he goes and I've I've 927 00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:03,120 Speaker 1: heard this before. So he said, hey, am I talking 928 00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,759 Speaker 1: to you on hinge? Or am I getting catfished? And 929 00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,120 Speaker 1: I was like, this is weird because somebody else messaged 930 00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,080 Speaker 1: me that like a few days prior, And so I 931 00:53:12,160 --> 00:53:14,760 Speaker 1: hit him back and I'm like, hey, I'm not currently 932 00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:18,239 Speaker 1: on hinge. Um no, so you're definitely being catfished. I said, 933 00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:20,600 Speaker 1: do you mind sending me a screenshot at the conversation 934 00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:23,680 Speaker 1: or profile? Perhaps? Ps hope you have luck on their 935 00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:29,480 Speaker 1: hinges where I met my boyfriend Hart. This response, oh 936 00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:33,640 Speaker 1: day ha ha, Tanya, I stole this idea from your podcast. 937 00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:35,800 Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, how do you not remember 938 00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:39,480 Speaker 1: this bit? When he said it, I was like, oh 939 00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,600 Speaker 1: my god, that's so good. And he said, I didn't 940 00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:44,919 Speaker 1: realize that you had a boyfriend. I hope it works out. 941 00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,360 Speaker 1: Let me know if it doesn't, though, have a great week, 942 00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:53,279 Speaker 1: and I literally responded, okay. So I was trying to 943 00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:55,080 Speaker 1: find the d M because I didn't respond, but I 944 00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:59,719 Speaker 1: read it. This guy wrote me and goes, this is 945 00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:03,400 Speaker 1: who's been using your photo that I fell in love with. 946 00:54:03,520 --> 00:54:06,520 Speaker 1: But he sent an actual page of someone using my 947 00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:09,759 Speaker 1: photo and this person using my photo cat fishing him 948 00:54:09,760 --> 00:54:13,080 Speaker 1: and saying like in a relationship with his name, but 949 00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:15,719 Speaker 1: it was like a different name using my picture. So 950 00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:17,239 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my gosh, I wonder if it's 951 00:54:17,239 --> 00:54:20,640 Speaker 1: his name person. But now I'm just scared now. So 952 00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:22,680 Speaker 1: it's so good. The best part is that I like 953 00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:24,680 Speaker 1: showed it to red Star and I was like, this 954 00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:27,080 Speaker 1: is so weird because he we'd also had seen like 955 00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:29,040 Speaker 1: a fake profile of mine on Hinge when he and 956 00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:31,759 Speaker 1: I were dating or like talking on Hinge, and so 957 00:54:31,840 --> 00:54:33,760 Speaker 1: he goes asked him to send you like a picture 958 00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:36,279 Speaker 1: of the conversation. I was like, good, idea. However, like 959 00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:38,840 Speaker 1: in it together and now I'm like, oh my god, 960 00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,319 Speaker 1: it's who did you send that to? We sent that 961 00:54:41,360 --> 00:54:45,360 Speaker 1: to a celebrity, didn't we Chris Pratt, which is so 962 00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:54,120 Speaker 1: well now, oh yeah, but he was clearly probably in 963 00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:57,040 Speaker 1: love with Katherine Swords or one time, and I didn't 964 00:54:57,040 --> 00:55:01,480 Speaker 1: know who. Did I send it to? Zachary LEVI possibly 965 00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:06,640 Speaker 1: got about the Zachary Leave My song. I never forget that. Wow, 966 00:55:06,760 --> 00:55:09,399 Speaker 1: there's been so many, so many. I know he still 967 00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:11,239 Speaker 1: pops up on my feet ton of time. And I'm like, 968 00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:15,239 Speaker 1: the one that got away? There was another one night 969 00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:21,080 Speaker 1: that who was it recently? No, somebody just got married 970 00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:24,200 Speaker 1: or like wait what was it? And I was like, oh, 971 00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:27,880 Speaker 1: the one that got away? Someone you kind of dated. 972 00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:31,719 Speaker 1: I don't know. Shoot, I have to go through your rolodex. 973 00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:35,840 Speaker 1: It's quite a lengthy one. I'm not gonna lie. Oh, 974 00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:39,160 Speaker 1: me and my ten million dollars are just gonna I mean, 975 00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:41,239 Speaker 1: me and my three million. I'd be like, we're gonna 976 00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:47,799 Speaker 1: go cruise down to Yeah, you and Maxwell Dodge, who 977 00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:51,759 Speaker 1: is that? No idea? It also says in't here You've 978 00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:55,360 Speaker 1: been associated with British singer Charlie pooth, Who is that British? 979 00:55:56,200 --> 00:56:00,239 Speaker 1: And but that's true? Dodge d o t H. Did 980 00:56:00,320 --> 00:56:03,480 Speaker 1: you watch the video this girl send us a TikTok 981 00:56:03,560 --> 00:56:06,759 Speaker 1: of this guy saying, um about the strip club? Did 982 00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:10,040 Speaker 1: you watch that? No, I gotta see if I can 983 00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,400 Speaker 1: find it real quick because it is so funny. It 984 00:56:12,520 --> 00:56:17,000 Speaker 1: was in regards to um. You know, our last conversation 985 00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:18,920 Speaker 1: about the guy not deleting the photo? But can I 986 00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:25,839 Speaker 1: play it over the mic? Audio? Funny audio in New York? Sapphires. 987 00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:33,080 Speaker 1: But it depends depends on what I said. I never beens. 988 00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:41,279 Speaker 1: It never beens, I said, I never beens. I said Sapphires. 989 00:56:41,360 --> 00:56:45,880 Speaker 1: But I never been. He said, Sapphires. But it depends 990 00:56:46,080 --> 00:56:48,520 Speaker 1: and she goes, he like wasn't paying attention. He was 991 00:56:48,560 --> 00:56:51,319 Speaker 1: like playing a game, so he just mind. I didn't hear. 992 00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:55,600 Speaker 1: The depends depends on what. And he goes, I said, 993 00:56:55,640 --> 00:57:03,719 Speaker 1: I've never been. It's a good chuckle. Um, I'm sure 994 00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:08,000 Speaker 1: they're gonna be light and easy to well. Katie says. 995 00:57:08,040 --> 00:57:10,000 Speaker 1: My husband and I met seven months ago when he 996 00:57:10,080 --> 00:57:12,920 Speaker 1: was visiting his mom in Ohio. He proposed in April. 997 00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:15,520 Speaker 1: I moved to him in June. We got married last month. 998 00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:19,240 Speaker 1: I'm a Tania. Can you tell? He's my absolute dream 999 00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:21,520 Speaker 1: in every possible way, and I could not be happier. 1000 00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:25,360 Speaker 1: Here's the situation. We were both married previously, both of 1001 00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:27,720 Speaker 1: our exes cheated on us, and we met mid divorce. 1002 00:57:28,160 --> 00:57:30,680 Speaker 1: We have both been extremely understanding of the issues from 1003 00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:33,720 Speaker 1: our previous marriages and started couples counseling immediately when we 1004 00:57:33,800 --> 00:57:37,080 Speaker 1: knew it was serious. Recently, his access started to reach 1005 00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:39,680 Speaker 1: out to his family and harassing us. We block her. 1006 00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:42,360 Speaker 1: She reaches out through her friend social media accounts. She 1007 00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:45,240 Speaker 1: even reached out to my to my ex husband. She 1008 00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:47,040 Speaker 1: lives in the same city as us, and I'm honestly 1009 00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:49,640 Speaker 1: terrified of what she could do. My husband says she's 1010 00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:52,680 Speaker 1: harmless and just insecure, and then he moved down so quickly, 1011 00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:55,800 Speaker 1: and that's what's bothering her. I've considered taking legal action, 1012 00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:58,760 Speaker 1: but it doesn't think that's necessary. Am I overreacting? I 1013 00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:00,440 Speaker 1: just wanted to be able to feel safe. If I 1014 00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:02,240 Speaker 1: don't want my family and in laws, they have to 1015 00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:04,720 Speaker 1: deal with the past the ps we are twenty five 1016 00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:11,920 Speaker 1: for reference. Yes, I might just want to save my 1017 00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:16,360 Speaker 1: advice to the end because it's really just forwards. Oh, 1018 00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:20,240 Speaker 1: go ahead, save us. Does anyone else have anything to 1019 00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:23,040 Speaker 1: do advice for her? We disagree, then we'll step in, 1020 00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:26,560 Speaker 1: all right. I gotta tell you what's her name, Katie. 1021 00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:31,840 Speaker 1: This is easier said than done. But this was told 1022 00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:34,520 Speaker 1: to me and it was so effing mind blowing, And 1023 00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:38,960 Speaker 1: I say, I try to do this, very tried, very hard, 1024 00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,800 Speaker 1: and I'm successful about I'm successful like nine percent of 1025 00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:47,760 Speaker 1: the time. No audience, no show. If you go and 1026 00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:50,960 Speaker 1: report her to the police or whatever, get a restraining order, 1027 00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:53,440 Speaker 1: you make all this drama. This is what she wants. 1028 00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:57,640 Speaker 1: She wants this reaction from you. No audience. If she 1029 00:58:57,680 --> 00:59:00,520 Speaker 1: doesn't have an audience, if nobody's giving her paying an attention, 1030 00:59:00,560 --> 00:59:03,959 Speaker 1: she's just this fly, just making herself exhausted, flying around 1031 00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:10,800 Speaker 1: in circles. No show, no audience, no show, no audience, 1032 00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:18,000 Speaker 1: no show. I having just watched that Betty Broderick story, 1033 00:59:18,040 --> 00:59:22,280 Speaker 1: the Dirty John thing, I get where she's saying, Like, 1034 00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:25,120 Speaker 1: if she's like harassing, like calling and doing things that 1035 00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:28,880 Speaker 1: are threatening, it's much like you said, it's easier said 1036 00:59:28,880 --> 00:59:31,200 Speaker 1: that if she's not, if it's not being threatened to you. 1037 00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:33,600 Speaker 1: The thing that got me as a husband said she's harmless. 1038 00:59:33,760 --> 00:59:37,200 Speaker 1: So if she really is harmless and she's just being well, 1039 00:59:37,240 --> 00:59:41,720 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that some I understand because sometimes you 1040 00:59:41,760 --> 00:59:45,760 Speaker 1: don't know what harmless. To him might be harmless because 1041 00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:49,960 Speaker 1: he knew her when she was side, but if she's 1042 00:59:50,960 --> 00:59:55,600 Speaker 1: been pushed to a point one hinge, un hinged harmless, 1043 00:59:55,720 --> 01:00:00,480 Speaker 1: This is not always described what someone is capable of, true, 1044 01:00:00,680 --> 01:00:03,080 Speaker 1: but I do agree, like as much as you can 1045 01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:07,080 Speaker 1: to not acknowledge it or let it show that it's 1046 01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:12,040 Speaker 1: affecting you or bothering your relationship, I think you do 1047 01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:15,000 Speaker 1: your best to just you know, like not give her 1048 01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:17,120 Speaker 1: any attention. It's kind of like a kid. The more 1049 01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:20,240 Speaker 1: you if they are annoying, if you stop giving them 1050 01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:23,280 Speaker 1: attention for that behavior, they eventually get tired and stopped 1051 01:00:23,640 --> 01:00:26,560 Speaker 1: a bully. It's like the bully. The bullies feed off 1052 01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:28,520 Speaker 1: of that, you know what I mean. And so it's 1053 01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:30,480 Speaker 1: just like you have to kind of almost beat them 1054 01:00:30,480 --> 01:00:33,320 Speaker 1: at their own game. And like she might meet someone 1055 01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:35,880 Speaker 1: and find her own happiness and move on and not 1056 01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:38,760 Speaker 1: even care about what y'all are doing. But if she's 1057 01:00:38,840 --> 01:00:43,800 Speaker 1: feeling threatened by your relationship or you know, regretting what 1058 01:00:43,880 --> 01:00:46,400 Speaker 1: the decisions that she's made. It's like you're just gonna 1059 01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:50,200 Speaker 1: have to, you know, deal with one man's trash is 1060 01:00:50,240 --> 01:00:54,520 Speaker 1: another man's treasure. Oh alright, girl, you threw them in 1061 01:00:54,520 --> 01:00:59,400 Speaker 1: the trash. Oh you're saying that she cheated. So yeah, 1062 01:00:59,720 --> 01:01:03,160 Speaker 1: so um. I mean, guys, do all have any advice 1063 01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:05,880 Speaker 1: on this? I like Tanya's advice. I think it's good. 1064 01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:08,400 Speaker 1: I think maybe have a line in mind, and if 1065 01:01:08,440 --> 01:01:11,080 Speaker 1: that line gets cross, take action. But until that happens, 1066 01:01:11,120 --> 01:01:12,640 Speaker 1: I think you go with your husband who knows here 1067 01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:16,440 Speaker 1: better than you. Yeah. This is coming from a woman 1068 01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:19,120 Speaker 1: that is in the very I mean, not similar in 1069 01:01:19,280 --> 01:01:22,360 Speaker 1: terms of like harassment. Seems that word makes me scared. 1070 01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:26,200 Speaker 1: But I think anybody that is dating somebody that's divorced 1071 01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:28,440 Speaker 1: or you know, just come out of a very serious relationship. 1072 01:01:28,480 --> 01:01:32,320 Speaker 1: I think everybody kind of deals with that kind of stuff. Yeah, 1073 01:01:32,400 --> 01:01:37,320 Speaker 1: especially when he's remarried seven months later. Yeah, Caitlin says, 1074 01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:39,200 Speaker 1: I have a close guy friend who I have had 1075 01:01:39,240 --> 01:01:41,880 Speaker 1: a special connection with from the first time I met him. 1076 01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:44,680 Speaker 1: I blame being young and afraid, but I friend zoned 1077 01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:46,960 Speaker 1: him a couple of times we were first friends as 1078 01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:49,840 Speaker 1: a defense mechanism. I've dated other people but I've always 1079 01:01:49,840 --> 01:01:52,040 Speaker 1: had the same feelings for him. I never told him 1080 01:01:52,080 --> 01:01:54,040 Speaker 1: how I felt. It always nagged at me that he 1081 01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:57,520 Speaker 1: never knew. Well, he's engaged. Now I'm happy for him, 1082 01:01:57,560 --> 01:01:59,560 Speaker 1: but the what ifs haven't stopped going through my head. 1083 01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:02,040 Speaker 1: Do you think I can make a lighthearted joke or 1084 01:02:02,120 --> 01:02:04,080 Speaker 1: something to let him know that he's always had a 1085 01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:06,080 Speaker 1: soft spot in my heart that I used to have 1086 01:02:06,120 --> 01:02:08,919 Speaker 1: a huge crush. I want to be respectful, but don't 1087 01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:11,440 Speaker 1: want them never telling him to eat away at me forever, 1088 01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:14,280 Speaker 1: no intentions of getting in the middle of them at all. 1089 01:02:14,560 --> 01:02:17,720 Speaker 1: Is this a terrible idea? What would y'all do for reference? 1090 01:02:17,720 --> 01:02:24,040 Speaker 1: I'm twenty six, we've been friends for seven years. Um, 1091 01:02:24,360 --> 01:02:29,400 Speaker 1: I would definitely not say anything. It's a terrible idea. Yeah, 1092 01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:32,720 Speaker 1: don't there's no you're you're doing it because there's probably 1093 01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:34,880 Speaker 1: always been this thing in the back of your head 1094 01:02:34,920 --> 01:02:37,240 Speaker 1: that thought, oh, if things don't work out with anyone else, 1095 01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:40,640 Speaker 1: he's like there as maybe a backup or someone you 1096 01:02:40,680 --> 01:02:44,720 Speaker 1: could maybe maybe see yourself with. But you're just feeling 1097 01:02:44,760 --> 01:02:48,440 Speaker 1: like now he's not he you don't have that option 1098 01:02:48,480 --> 01:02:51,320 Speaker 1: of him anymore. And if it took you seven years 1099 01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:53,600 Speaker 1: to feel that and it just only happened when he 1100 01:02:53,760 --> 01:02:56,880 Speaker 1: got engaged to someone else. And I think that your 1101 01:02:56,920 --> 01:03:00,760 Speaker 1: reason is coming because you feel like he's moving on 1102 01:03:00,880 --> 01:03:04,240 Speaker 1: and you're not. Let me tell you what to do. Girl, 1103 01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:09,720 Speaker 1: You're gonna get out of diary or a piece of 1104 01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:13,120 Speaker 1: paper and you're gonna write out all these feelings that 1105 01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:15,160 Speaker 1: you have from You're gonna write down to the deepest, 1106 01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:18,640 Speaker 1: darkest soul that you're a vagina tingles when you think 1107 01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:20,920 Speaker 1: of him. You're gonna write everything that you think about 1108 01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:23,720 Speaker 1: this man on this piece of paper. You're gonna roll 1109 01:03:23,760 --> 01:03:26,080 Speaker 1: that piece of paper up, you're gonna stick it in 1110 01:03:26,160 --> 01:03:29,640 Speaker 1: a shoe box, and you're gonna throw it in the 1111 01:03:29,640 --> 01:03:33,440 Speaker 1: trash can. So that way, you're releasing your feelings. Like 1112 01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:35,840 Speaker 1: you're writing them down, you are like releasing them from 1113 01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:39,880 Speaker 1: your body, but you're just putting them out into the universe. 1114 01:03:40,040 --> 01:03:42,800 Speaker 1: That way, you're not interrupting his relationship to he's in. 1115 01:03:42,880 --> 01:03:45,680 Speaker 1: You're not causing any drama there. But your feelings are 1116 01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:51,880 Speaker 1: out there and what's meant for you we'll find its way. Yeah, 1117 01:03:52,560 --> 01:03:56,640 Speaker 1: that's some. That's some dear future husband right there. Yeah. 1118 01:03:56,680 --> 01:03:59,040 Speaker 1: I think it's great. I love the writing it down 1119 01:03:59,040 --> 01:04:00,720 Speaker 1: and getting it out of yourself him. But there's no 1120 01:04:00,800 --> 01:04:07,840 Speaker 1: need to tell him about it. Nothing. You might feel better, 1121 01:04:07,880 --> 01:04:10,000 Speaker 1: but nothing good is going to come from it. Yeah, 1122 01:04:10,040 --> 01:04:12,720 Speaker 1: and I know it's it's so hard when you are 1123 01:04:12,800 --> 01:04:15,360 Speaker 1: going through these feelings and your heart feels like it's hurting, 1124 01:04:15,480 --> 01:04:18,120 Speaker 1: and you're like, well, maybe things could be different if 1125 01:04:18,120 --> 01:04:20,120 Speaker 1: I just get this off my chest. But it doesn't. 1126 01:04:20,160 --> 01:04:23,960 Speaker 1: It won't benefit. It might ruin your friendship, it could 1127 01:04:24,320 --> 01:04:28,360 Speaker 1: harm their relationship. It's just not worth it. It's bad karma. Yeah, 1128 01:04:28,800 --> 01:04:33,080 Speaker 1: tell your great advice both both emails. Great advice, well done, 1129 01:04:33,840 --> 01:04:36,680 Speaker 1: hard not so the stuff help books are working, is 1130 01:04:36,720 --> 01:04:40,760 Speaker 1: what you're telling me. H depended, no more depending, no more, baby, 1131 01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:46,560 Speaker 1: it's learn learn some real good advice. There. Um. I 1132 01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:49,280 Speaker 1: think that's it for today. I know you hate for 1133 01:04:49,320 --> 01:04:52,600 Speaker 1: it to end when we're having fun, but we must 1134 01:04:52,640 --> 01:05:00,440 Speaker 1: do what we must do, and that is in the podcast. God. Okay, well, 1135 01:05:00,480 --> 01:05:02,280 Speaker 1: I guess we have homework. So we have homework for 1136 01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:05,240 Speaker 1: the week that is to write down some things and 1137 01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:08,960 Speaker 1: m well, we'll do like a master post in the 1138 01:05:09,040 --> 01:05:15,640 Speaker 1: Facebook group so that you can submit your question questionnaire suggestions. Yeah, 1139 01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:21,040 Speaker 1: we'll do like ten Okay, we'll do ten um, but 1140 01:05:21,080 --> 01:05:24,560 Speaker 1: if we get really good ones, we can do depending um. 1141 01:05:24,600 --> 01:05:27,840 Speaker 1: We love you guys, thanks for listening. As always, I'm 1142 01:05:27,880 --> 01:05:33,320 Speaker 1: gonna go do my public floor therapy exercises. All right, 1143 01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:36,280 Speaker 1: We'll see you or you'll hear from us next week. 1144 01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:38,760 Speaker 1: Keep it loose, what