1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,360 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to at 2 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: Home on the Velvet Edge podcast. My guest this week 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 1: is comedian Jared Fraid. Jared's Instagram account and memes have 4 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:11,319 Speaker 1: been the silver lining for me to some dark days 5 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: during this isolation period, so I thought he would be 6 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: the perfect guest to give us all something to laugh about. 7 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: He's the host of the Jay Train podcast, which I 8 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,319 Speaker 1: was a guest on. He's also the co host of 9 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: the U Up podcast with the girls from Betches. Obviously, 10 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:26,840 Speaker 1: his stand up tour has been put on hold during 11 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:29,480 Speaker 1: this pandemic, so we talked about how he is handling 12 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 1: isolating in New York City, moving in with his girlfriend, 13 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 1: and of course the Bachelor. Here's our conversation. All right, 14 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: so you're in New York. What in the world is 15 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: it like there right now? Well, it's so funny, Like, 16 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: I New York is fine, okay, but I'm also not 17 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 1: working in a hospital, you know, you know, I I'm 18 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:53,240 Speaker 1: in a very luxurious position. But it is funny that 19 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: when I talked to Goe outside in New York, they're like, 20 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: how is it going there? And I'm like, it's fine, 21 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: and it's just very quiet. I'm not waiting through bodies 22 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: in the streets. It's not like that at all. Um. 23 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:10,520 Speaker 1: It's actually there's parts of being in New York that 24 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:13,400 Speaker 1: are probably that I enjoy better, like the fact that 25 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: I can go out for a walk and you know, 26 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,559 Speaker 1: there are coffee places that are open, there's a bodego. 27 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: But you know, there's there's a little bit more going 28 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: on here than people would assume, considering you know, the 29 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: numbers and how New York has become like kind of 30 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 1: the uh you know, the top coronavirus place in some reguards, right. 31 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 1: I just imagine it to be so kind of eerie feeling, 32 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: even just because New York is so busy all the time. Yeah, 33 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 1: that's well, that's the it's eerie to look like I 34 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 1: live in an apartment building to look out on the 35 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: street in the morning and just see no cars, like 36 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 1: nobody's moving in and out of the city. Like I moved. 37 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 1: So I moved in with my girlfriend mid quarantine. Oh wow, 38 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: the changes. Yeah, so I moved with my girlfriend and um, 39 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: you know, the stressful part was all the stuff leading 40 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: into it. Will people cancel at the last second when 41 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 1: we get our couches. Well, the movers still do it? 42 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 1: How do you do it? But you know, but then 43 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: once you got to the move, it was actually easier 44 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: because there's no traffic. You could park that the truck 45 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: could be parked outside. No one was beeping at you 46 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:26,960 Speaker 1: being like get the funk out of the way, like 47 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: it actually you know, And and this is it's it's 48 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:36,000 Speaker 1: so tough because we live in this world of black 49 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: and white and the reality is all nuanced and in 50 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: the in between, so like some people's lives are better 51 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 1: in quarantine, like and and no one wants to admit 52 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: that because then someone comes at you and goes, stave 53 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: are dying and my grandmother's and it's like and it's like, no, obviously, 54 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: that's obviously. I know that I'm an adult, I had 55 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 1: parents brought me up. I'm closer to you than than 56 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 1: any you know, we're all closer to one another's feelings. 57 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: I'm just saying that a mover when I looked at 58 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: the movers and I was like, so, what's this like? 59 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: And they were like, there's no traffic. It's sucking great. 60 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: It's like that it goes two, you know, and and 61 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: go ahead. I'm sorry. I was just gonna say. My 62 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: boyfriend says all the time, he's like living his best 63 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: life right now. I think if you can pay your bills, 64 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 1: it's like it's not that bad. And and and the 65 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: thing is, no one you know, this whole talk of 66 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 1: like who's privileged and where do you rank on the 67 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: privilege map, and it's like no one can ever tell 68 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: you like life is okay. So like everyone has to 69 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: go online, go on their Instagram and be like in 70 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 1: these trying times, we must come together. And it's like, 71 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: fuck you bitch you you had no job before, and 72 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: now all of a sudden, your team us. Like that's 73 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: the other thing, Like all these people that like had 74 00:03:55,920 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 1: no job now are quarantined and it's like, oh no, 75 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 1: now they get to like tell us all to stay 76 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: the funk home. It's like you've got to stay all before, 77 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: Like who are you gonna tell me? This is an 78 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: easy decision for you? It wasn't an easy decision for everyone. 79 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:13,120 Speaker 1: Like my shows, like I do stand up at night 80 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 1: every night, my shows had to get postponed and canceled, 81 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 1: like you know, you know, it wasn't easy, you know, 82 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: to say that. I was like okay, time to stay home, 83 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: Like I wasn't that way. I was. I was annoyed, 84 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 1: I was pissed. I'm ready to do shows right now, 85 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 1: you know. So it's like, um um, all of this 86 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: is more gray than we all. You know, you have 87 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,159 Speaker 1: to take time to understand that. And I understand. The 88 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: easy thing is like, you know, to live in the 89 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: black or white. And you know, it's like when you 90 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: see like when you see these people with seven homes 91 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: and they're like, I'm at we're all in this together 92 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 1: from their pool and you're like, no, no, no, not 93 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 1: no no, we're not in this together, not in the 94 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:00,479 Speaker 1: same boat here. Yeah. So like and it's like, you 95 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 1: know what, you know, the social media is a hot 96 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: mic at the front of the room. Yeah, and everyone 97 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: feels like they got to give a speech, and it's 98 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:12,919 Speaker 1: like some sometimes you just don't. We don't need to 99 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: hear from you, Like we don't have to hear from 100 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: the fifth bride made at the wedding, at the rehearsal dinner. 101 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:22,159 Speaker 1: You can hear from one maid of honor and maybe 102 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: one close friend at the rehearsal dinner, and that's it. 103 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:29,720 Speaker 1: I want to know what, So you moved in with 104 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 1: your girlfriend during this time? Like you' have been planning 105 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: that before this happened. We're planning it before an apartment ready. 106 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: The you know, the thing that sucks about it is like, 107 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: you know, I tell you know, we have our arguments 108 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: and you and you like any couple does, and you're like, 109 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:53,160 Speaker 1: is this quarantine or is this right? Yeah, so it's like, 110 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 1: I you know, the tough thing is like, my job 111 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:59,840 Speaker 1: is literally a joke. I am paid to make joke. 112 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:03,680 Speaker 1: It's tough. It's tough because like if I have work 113 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: stuff that comes up, which, yeah, this you calling me 114 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:10,279 Speaker 1: is a work thing. And we're talking about you know, 115 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:13,279 Speaker 1: we're we're having fun talking on the phone. She hears that, 116 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 1: and she's like, that's what you do for work, Well 117 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,599 Speaker 1: that's not important. Shut then up. I have to do 118 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 1: with math. And that's kind of that's kind of tough, 119 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:23,880 Speaker 1: And especially because we we had a week where so 120 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: we were living in my place and then she had 121 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: a place downtown and she was in a studio. So 122 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 1: we had a week where we're in a studio. Yeah, 123 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,799 Speaker 1: that was a little tough, Like I took a lot 124 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 1: of long poops and that was going on. And yeah, 125 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:46,600 Speaker 1: and but then now we're in a one bedroom um 126 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 1: together and that's you know, easier, and you know that's nicer. 127 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 1: I you know, I it's the one at the moment 128 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: where I'm thankful. I'm like, uh, you know, thirty five 129 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: and didn't have kids yet. I'm like saying, God, there 130 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:03,360 Speaker 1: isn't some kid in the back of my zoom meeting 131 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:08,280 Speaker 1: Dad Dad. You know. I you know, everyone's situation is different, 132 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: and like, you know, life is hard for everyone. So 133 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:15,480 Speaker 1: you know, our our our squabbles. Like like her birthday 134 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: was while we were in the studio apartment. It was 135 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 1: her birthday, so she went and like had social distance 136 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: drinks with their friends at a field. So she went 137 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: into that and while she was out, I cleaned up 138 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: the apartment a little bit and I put out a 139 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:35,280 Speaker 1: glass bottle of champagne. I put out a card and 140 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: then I lit like a candle and I was like, Okay, 141 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: when she comes back. Yeah, I was like, when she 142 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 1: goes back, I'll be like, happy birthday. Let's start. It 143 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: was a night before her birthday, so I was like, 144 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 1: let's start the birthday, you know what I mean. And 145 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: she comes back, and you know she does. At first 146 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:53,880 Speaker 1: she was like, this is so nice. So, my god, 147 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 1: thank you. She's had a couple of drinks in her 148 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: and then at one point she's like, I can't believe 149 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: you just lit that candle. And I'm like what And 150 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: she's like, I don't know. I mean, who has the 151 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: confidence to just light a candle in someone else's home? 152 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 1: And I'm like what what? I was like, I was like, 153 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:14,000 Speaker 1: what are you talking about? She's like, one was a 154 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 1: nice candle, Like that's kind of like a candle that 155 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:19,640 Speaker 1: I don't like, wait a minute, that's a candle you 156 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 1: don't light. At that point, it's called an art installation. Okay, 157 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: it's not. That's not that I don't I don't know. 158 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: I remember, I'm not familiar with the no light candle. 159 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:34,439 Speaker 1: It was just I guess, so it's you know that. 160 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:36,559 Speaker 1: And I was like, how much is this candle that 161 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: you're not a lot of lights? Like what price of 162 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:43,079 Speaker 1: a candle makes it not lightable? Like five? Is it 163 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:46,480 Speaker 1: a five candle? Because if it's a five hundred dollar candle, yes, 164 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: I'm mad at myself for lighting it. I'm also mad 165 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,959 Speaker 1: at you for being the person who buys a five 166 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:54,720 Speaker 1: hundred dollar candle. So I I'm mad for a number 167 00:08:54,720 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: of reasons. So now we're fighting about a candle. I 168 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: uh like, we're arguing about this candle. Do you get 169 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 1: get lit? What don't get lit? And then she, you know, 170 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 1: we we go over this in the studio and and 171 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: I tweet about it because I'm like that's what I do. 172 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: And I'm like, this is a funny fight. So I'll 173 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: tweet about the candle and I put it on Instagram 174 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 1: and I get a message being like, hey, um, I 175 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: I run a candle company. I love the things that 176 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:29,959 Speaker 1: you do. Can I send you and your girlfriends some candles? 177 00:09:30,520 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 1: So I got free candles and I'm like, this is 178 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: so nice. I tell her. I'm like, how great is this? 179 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,440 Speaker 1: This girl? She is a candle company and she's a 180 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: follower and she wants to send us candles. I was 181 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 1: like great, so I go. She goes, so I said her. 182 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: I was like, thank you so much, and I send 183 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: and she goes, what's your address? I give her my 184 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:49,680 Speaker 1: address for the new apartment and she goes, you're She goes, 185 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 1: are you kidding me? The person? The candle person? She's like, 186 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: are you fucking kidding me? I was like what. She's like, 187 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: that's my exact address. That's the apartment, that's the apartment 188 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:04,679 Speaker 1: next to me. Oh, you met your neighbor exactly. So 189 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, no fucking way. And she was like, yeah, 190 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:10,680 Speaker 1: this is so crazy. I was like, same floor in 191 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: the same Oh my god, can you imagine? And so 192 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,600 Speaker 1: now like she's like she dropped him off at our door, 193 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:20,319 Speaker 1: like and then like we're moving in and like where 194 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:24,320 Speaker 1: is this candle chick? Like I'm looking for and we 195 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: end up moving our window. You can literally like the 196 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:29,800 Speaker 1: building is like an l you can see into the 197 00:10:29,840 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: girl's apartment. Like it's like kind of crazy. Oh my god. 198 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 1: So coronavirus really just bringing everybody together exactly. Candles in Corona, 199 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:50,760 Speaker 1: that Candles and Corona. It's great. You should I will. 200 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: You brought up the fact that she post everything on 201 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: Instagram on Twitter, and like, I personally something about being 202 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 1: isolated as you obviously are on social media a lot 203 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: more and I need a laugh, like especially if you 204 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: get sucked into the news. So one of your account's 205 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:06,839 Speaker 1: my favorite just because of the memes, and you always 206 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: are posting about your podcast. You have these rants you 207 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:13,679 Speaker 1: do about coronavirus, So what what is this about? Like, 208 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 1: are you just irritated with people, or what's the deal. Well, 209 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 1: I think you know, I am my comedy. The stand 210 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:26,600 Speaker 1: up that I do is just all luxury issues. I 211 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:30,040 Speaker 1: don't have real problems, and I'm fine with that and 212 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:32,880 Speaker 1: I and I'm fine with admitting it, like I'm happy 213 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: that I don't have real problems, but I what I 214 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: love to talk about on stage or the problems that 215 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 1: are in problems like the candle. Yeah, that's the candle situation. 216 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:47,680 Speaker 1: To me is my wheelhouse sums you yeah, And I think, um, 217 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:51,840 Speaker 1: my job on earth is to be funny, and I think, 218 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:55,200 Speaker 1: you know, I think what people what happens during times 219 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,560 Speaker 1: like these is like people forget the job you had 220 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 1: before coronavirus is the job we want you doing during 221 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:03,440 Speaker 1: it and the job we want you doing after it. 222 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:06,960 Speaker 1: So people think that, oh, I have a following, so 223 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: now it's my turn to be a politician. No no, no, 224 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: now now brown cow, it is your turn to be 225 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: a butt model. Still we still need but we only yeah. Yeah, 226 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna like all the sudden change what 227 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: I do just because of what's going on to me. 228 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:29,680 Speaker 1: I can help people by doing what I did before 229 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: and trying to be funny. So what I've what I 230 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 1: try to do is on my podcast, which is now daily. 231 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:40,480 Speaker 1: I went from twice a week to five times a week. 232 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:45,079 Speaker 1: And yeah, so we take emails and then every episode 233 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:50,200 Speaker 1: I blow some steam about something that is related to 234 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 1: what's going on. And listen, I'm not going on there 235 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: being like like these are thought out rants. I'm I'm 236 00:12:56,840 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 1: but I'm I'm trying to speak for the silent majority. 237 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: That's really what I do and everything I'm trying to 238 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: speak for the person the the You know, when you 239 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:15,440 Speaker 1: see an influencer on Instagram post something from their third 240 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: house and tell you how we're hauling this together, like 241 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 1: it's not worth your time to like comment on the thing. 242 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: It is worth my time to speak up for the 243 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 1: people that have real jobs and have you know, and 244 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 1: they have other things to do and be funny about it. 245 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 1: So that's where it came from, Like I'm gonna rant 246 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 1: about the things we're all thinking that really nobody has 247 00:13:36,280 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: time to say, and I've got the time. So we 248 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: got all the time. I got all the time in 249 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:46,600 Speaker 1: the world to dissect how annoying it is that people 250 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:50,640 Speaker 1: are baking banana bread and acted like they've been baking 251 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:56,160 Speaker 1: banana read their whole fucking lives. Yeah, the what bothering 252 00:13:56,200 --> 00:13:58,560 Speaker 1: me about the banana bread isn't that they're baking like 253 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 1: good for you, but like this, this like southern omission 254 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 1: that you've never baked before in your life, like and 255 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:10,720 Speaker 1: and this is why a lot of women do this. 256 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:13,160 Speaker 1: Will They'll be like, oh, let me just whip something up. 257 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 1: But it's like with something up, like you spent your 258 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 1: whole fucking day on this. You googled how to do this. 259 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: You didn't just reach into your back pocket like you 260 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:24,000 Speaker 1: did go to the market. You didn't have a bunch 261 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:26,240 Speaker 1: of flower you didn't have a bunch of old bananas. 262 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 1: You don't just like oh, I just picked the bananas 263 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: from my banana tree. And then there's the the you know, 264 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: an instagram is the is the like the king of 265 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 1: that stuff. Everything on Instagram subtly omits the reality of life. 266 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:46,240 Speaker 1: It subtly omits the the dirty, kind of icky parts 267 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:48,400 Speaker 1: of life where you're like, yeah, I just want to 268 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: do this. I just want to bake this banana breads. 269 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 1: I can show it off to my friends to show 270 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:53,720 Speaker 1: them that I'm not a fucking you know, loser like them, 271 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: like you know what I mean. So that's so. So 272 00:14:57,520 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: every day I try to rant about something new, or 273 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:03,160 Speaker 1: I'll do a thing called the luxury Lounge where I 274 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:07,200 Speaker 1: complained about a luxury issue. Um, and then like today 275 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 1: the luxury lounge today was that the pouring my own drinks, 276 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:14,040 Speaker 1: Like I will talk about that before, you know, just 277 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 1: like like I know it's a luxury for me to 278 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: go to the fridge and pour my own drink, but 279 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,840 Speaker 1: I don't want to do that because I don't have 280 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:23,920 Speaker 1: the stopper at the top of my you know, bottle 281 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: of vodka that I can three count on. Like you 282 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 1: can't even do that three counts. So I do the 283 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 1: three count and it's like glug, glug, glug, and then 284 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 1: I go and then every time you stop pouring, you 285 00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: pour a little more. So it's like I don't want 286 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: to pour my own drinks anymore. It's fucking annoying. So 287 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 1: I and then I do a church putery chat where 288 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: I chit chat about chartutery because that's my real cash, 289 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:47,400 Speaker 1: is it. I didn't know this about you. Yes, I 290 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: am a big fan of the church. Wow, okay, well 291 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 1: you also you're a big fan of the Batchelor. Would 292 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 1: you describe yourself as a fan of the Bachelor, I 293 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: mean you love to hate on it, right, I'm a 294 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 1: huge fan the Bachelor. I love the show. I like 295 00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 1: to comment on the show that I love so much, 296 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 1: and I'm watching, I'm watching Listen to your Heart about 297 00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: Nashville's represent I mean, that's exactly what you do, these 298 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:16,200 Speaker 1: things called live screams, and so you do you promote it? 299 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 1: Are you? You're talking about the show as it's happening, 300 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:20,800 Speaker 1: So what are you thinking about this Listen to your 301 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 1: Heart show? Like give me the whole. I actually like it. 302 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 1: I wasn't so I I live scream I put on 303 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 1: my Instagram stories. I just watched the show and I 304 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: commentate as it's going on. And I wasn't planning on 305 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: watching Listen to Your Heart. And then the quarantine happened. 306 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, I gotta fill some time. So now I'm 307 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: watching Listen to Your Art and I like the show 308 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:51,600 Speaker 1: because the Bachelor, Um, the the Bachelor. This fall idea 309 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:55,080 Speaker 1: of like that you're not there for love is like, 310 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: you know, kind of like a background noise on The Bachelor, 311 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: Like you know, you're on a date the bachelors, Like yeah, yeah, 312 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: But what I like what listening to your Heart is 313 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: that it's a lot of it is about that these 314 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 1: guys on the show want to be touring musicians. Like 315 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:15,399 Speaker 1: so like they do. They are there for two things 316 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 1: and they can admit to it. So I kind of 317 00:17:17,840 --> 00:17:20,359 Speaker 1: like it. So what they've done is like the first 318 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:23,040 Speaker 1: two episodes, they did it like Bachelor in Paradise where 319 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: it was like, okay, match up and whoever doesn't have 320 00:17:25,840 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 1: a partner at the end of the day, I call 321 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:32,919 Speaker 1: it genital musical chairs and like so like if you 322 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: don't have a genital, you better leave the show. The 323 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:37,159 Speaker 1: first two episodes they like they like got rid of 324 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:39,639 Speaker 1: some people and now they're down the couples. And in 325 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,720 Speaker 1: the last episode, Chris Harrison was like, you better be 326 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 1: serious with someone because if you win with it, you're 327 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:48,639 Speaker 1: gonna match up with one person and if you wouldn't 328 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 1: need them, you're gonna tour the country together. Like okay, 329 00:17:54,280 --> 00:17:57,960 Speaker 1: I'm not well. Then it turned into like American Idol, 330 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:01,439 Speaker 1: and they did, like the duet went up and saying 331 00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:05,439 Speaker 1: and they were one of the things that they were ranked, 332 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 1: you know, judged on, was their compatibility as musicians and 333 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 1: if it looked like they were in lover Yeah, and 334 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 1: that's I kind of like. I kind of like that 335 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,439 Speaker 1: it turned into like America, like Jason mraz is one 336 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: of the judges, and Kesha and that saw your commentary 337 00:18:22,560 --> 00:18:27,080 Speaker 1: about them, Yes, and Jojo who's the former Bachelrette she 338 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: was on my favorite. So I did enjoy the music aspect, 339 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 1: like I I do like how it's like a changeup 340 00:18:35,960 --> 00:18:38,879 Speaker 1: and it's not the same, like like the Bachelor batcharette, 341 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 1: like you know the beats. You know, it's opening episode 342 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: and they go on the dates. This the dates don't 343 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:47,719 Speaker 1: even matter. I just want to see them sing and 344 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:50,440 Speaker 1: see if they suck or not, like you do. And 345 00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:53,360 Speaker 1: the thing is, you do see that they are not 346 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 1: really that compatible to them, um I you you point 347 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 1: out that they keep putting at the end of each 348 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:04,000 Speaker 1: episode the thing a Claire Crawley or whatever, like guys 349 00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:06,359 Speaker 1: like have they always done this or did I just 350 00:19:06,440 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 1: not and I didn't I didn't notice it? Or is 351 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:12,720 Speaker 1: it like worse with her? So Claire Crawley is going 352 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:15,720 Speaker 1: to be the next Batcher att Yeah, she's famously thirty 353 00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:18,680 Speaker 1: eight years old now thirty nine which is like hilarious 354 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: that people are acting like this is ancient. I mean, 355 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:25,040 Speaker 1: I know that's the big joke. Well, the thing is 356 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: like I make fun of it because her season had 357 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:34,280 Speaker 1: to stop taking right now they when they I have 358 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: always been on the side of I always thought the 359 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:44,440 Speaker 1: Bachelorette should be like late thirties early forties once divorce, 360 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 1: because then they would know what they want well. And 361 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:52,200 Speaker 1: then I and then I wanted it to be older men, 362 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,199 Speaker 1: like like that was like I wanted to be like 363 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:59,200 Speaker 1: fifteen above men with a thirty eight year old woman. 364 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:01,879 Speaker 1: As I thought that was that that would be a 365 00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:05,640 Speaker 1: better show and a more realistic watch. The thing about 366 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 1: the Bachelor, The Bachelor's a better show than the Bacherette 367 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:11,359 Speaker 1: because the Bachelor's, you know, thirty women that are in 368 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 1: their twenties looking to get married, Like that's a kind 369 00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:18,040 Speaker 1: of a believable plot. And then but then the Bacherette 370 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,440 Speaker 1: is like thirty men in their twenties trying to get married. 371 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:24,920 Speaker 1: You're like, they don't really want to get married. So 372 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 1: you kind of know on the bachelotte who's gonna like 373 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: do well right away, because like there'll be an older 374 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 1: guy who's like a little bit more serious, and it's 375 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 1: like the I always thought had twenty early twenties woman 376 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:46,320 Speaker 1: is probably the worst representation of the female race. And 377 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: and it's because it's it's a little embarrassing, which is fine, 378 00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 1: but the unfair part is the most embarrassing form of 379 00:20:54,840 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 1: the male uh species is midlife crisis. May so I 380 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:07,679 Speaker 1: kind of like, so, I kind of like that that 381 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 1: older bachelorette might offer, are like the most embarrassing version 382 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: of man. It was kind of like even things up. 383 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I never thought about this, right. Divorce 384 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 1: has a company that is semi retired where exactly we're 385 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:31,720 Speaker 1: sneakers with jeans and shirts, the shirts with the paisley 386 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: under the cuffs, like you know that guy, Like I 387 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:38,440 Speaker 1: want to see that embarrassment. Oh my god, I'm cringing 388 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:42,679 Speaker 1: just thinking about it. Right, that's that's the male version 389 00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: of the girl who goes, who goes? It's my birthday 390 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:53,920 Speaker 1: months like, that's the male version sampagne exactly. So. I 391 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:55,960 Speaker 1: but then they cast the show and it was all 392 00:21:56,080 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 1: younger guys suck. Yeah, it doesn't mean I think so. 393 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:04,960 Speaker 1: Then when they stopped tasting, I think they saw it 394 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:07,200 Speaker 1: as an opportunity to kind of like add some people 395 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:08,960 Speaker 1: to the show. So that's why they keep coming on 396 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,399 Speaker 1: Listen to Your Heart, and they're like, hey, if you 397 00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 1: want to submit to the backrest. So I keep making 398 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 1: this joke find one man boy, thirty eight year old woman, 399 00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:24,119 Speaker 1: and it's like, I am joking and because it's funny, 400 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:27,879 Speaker 1: because I put up to posts and one was like 401 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 1: me making fun of how Jason Mraz looks like a 402 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:32,680 Speaker 1: baby and a baby like a toddler and a hat. 403 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 1: And then like there was a Swue girl that was like, 404 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: I like the Jason Mraz joke. I don't like the 405 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 1: thirty eight year old Claire joke. And it's like, oh, 406 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:43,399 Speaker 1: you don't like jokes when they don't relate to you. 407 00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: It's like, listen, I if anyone thinks thirty eight years old, 408 00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:55,520 Speaker 1: they're out of their fucking minds, like you you know, 409 00:22:55,720 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: so everyone is stupid. So but I I I do 410 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 1: enjoy all the shows. I like, you know, these shows 411 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:08,360 Speaker 1: on a big scale are stupid, but more fun like 412 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,800 Speaker 1: like like the small moment like this on this Listen 413 00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 1: to Your Heart show like this, uh, girl, Julia got 414 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 1: dumped by one of the guys and then she stayed 415 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:18,880 Speaker 1: on the show because she's got a guy that's obsessed 416 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,920 Speaker 1: with her, so she put one guy in the friend zone, 417 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 1: and then she keeps talking shit about the guy who 418 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,720 Speaker 1: dumped her in his new relationship, and it's like, what 419 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: a fun thing to rot. Yeah. Also, it's like for 420 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:34,720 Speaker 1: me every I say this every season, I'm like, I'm 421 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 1: not gonna watch it this season. I don't like that person. 422 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna get sucked in. But it's like you, 423 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 1: you sit there and you're so for me, I'm so 424 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 1: shocked at the absurdity most of the time. That and 425 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:49,639 Speaker 1: I hate myself for watching it, but I can't stop either. 426 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 1: There's nothing they hate. This is the thing, like you know, like, 427 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:58,679 Speaker 1: well you know what we hate. Do you ever watched 428 00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:02,239 Speaker 1: like Full House growing up? Of course, you know the 429 00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:06,680 Speaker 1: end of Full House episodes when they teach the lessons 430 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 1: and the musical change. I used to get this feeling. 431 00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 1: I would always like try to change the channel because 432 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I don't want to feel like I 433 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 1: connect with this, And I think the same goes for 434 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,680 Speaker 1: a lot of people. With the bachelom bacherette, you connect 435 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:26,879 Speaker 1: with kind of like the worst part your humanity. You 436 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,400 Speaker 1: know that's true because I watched these twenty Sunding girls 437 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I know I did stupid ship like that, 438 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:36,159 Speaker 1: but I would like to remember that. Yeah, and it 439 00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,359 Speaker 1: feels icky. It's like it's like when you watch as 440 00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,640 Speaker 1: scene like in around Come from high school and you're 441 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:42,680 Speaker 1: like and it's like someone being evil in the high 442 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,080 Speaker 1: school and you're like, oh, I remember having those thoughts like, oh, 443 00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: that was such a stupid, fucking idiot. Yeah, it's amazing. Okay, 444 00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:51,840 Speaker 1: so you have two podcasts, let's talk about him. I 445 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:54,560 Speaker 1: actually was a guest on the Jay Train podcast, which 446 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: was so fun, and we break down. You have so 447 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 1: many of these listeners right in with very serious questions. 448 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,479 Speaker 1: These are like a lot of romantic questions. But we 449 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:07,360 Speaker 1: went through a couple of those. I remember um answering 450 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 1: and they're so fun. What else do you talk about 451 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:13,160 Speaker 1: on the j Drain podcast? It's basically any We take 452 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:16,080 Speaker 1: any email and give advice, so you can write in 453 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: with any. So it's like most of them are dating 454 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,720 Speaker 1: in relationships just because that's the kind of the group 455 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:26,280 Speaker 1: that I uh that follows me, and that's what they're 456 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 1: worried about. But like, you know, you get roommates stuff, 457 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,119 Speaker 1: you get stuff with your you know, family stuff. But 458 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:34,560 Speaker 1: it's really just like I'm not an expert. Um. You 459 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: know you are a guest. You're not an expert either, 460 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,399 Speaker 1: But it's just people giving their perspective. And like there's 461 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:42,800 Speaker 1: nowhere easier to be honest than on a podcast because 462 00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:44,800 Speaker 1: we don't have you know, like we don't have to 463 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 1: see their faces. We see an email and we don't 464 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,120 Speaker 1: even have to relate it to our You can tell 465 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,320 Speaker 1: your own stories that relate to it, but you can 466 00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 1: just give advice. And that's kind of what we do. 467 00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:59,400 Speaker 1: And it's um, I I you know, for me, like 468 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 1: I think the best you know, you know the best 469 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:05,920 Speaker 1: people the I think. The reason the podcast exists and 470 00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 1: why so many people right in is people UM aren't 471 00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: really good at giving advice. UM. And a lot of 472 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,959 Speaker 1: times friends aren't good at giving advice because in family, 473 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:21,439 Speaker 1: because friends and family use the history they know about 474 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 1: you against you a lot of times. So like, no 475 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:28,000 Speaker 1: situation is just taken for what it is. Like you'll 476 00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:29,879 Speaker 1: be like, well I dated this guy and they'll be like, 477 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,439 Speaker 1: well you you have set you You go home with 478 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,479 Speaker 1: a lot of guys on the first date, and it's like, well, 479 00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:40,919 Speaker 1: can I just tell you my story? You know? So yeah, 480 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 1: and like I have people that comment, like my Instagram 481 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:47,720 Speaker 1: isn't just podcast, and it's also like people who like 482 00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 1: other stuff that I do. So it's interesting because I'll post, 483 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 1: you know, snippets and stuff, and I can see the 484 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:57,439 Speaker 1: worst parts of people respond to them because like and 485 00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:00,159 Speaker 1: I'll and I know right away why the podcast this 486 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:06,520 Speaker 1: Because so like I posted something where someone I can't 487 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,359 Speaker 1: remember what the email was. The email was like something 488 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:13,280 Speaker 1: where the person will didn't like they were feeling anxiety 489 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:16,119 Speaker 1: about their relationship. And it's like someone wrote, well, I 490 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:20,360 Speaker 1: guess someone's very confident, and I'm like, yeah, nobody's confident. 491 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,840 Speaker 1: We all have our own things, Like we all have Yeah, 492 00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:27,439 Speaker 1: we all have insecurities, and like all it takes is 493 00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,159 Speaker 1: for you to feel like you're vulnerable to you know, 494 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:32,159 Speaker 1: to not be sure what to do or to do 495 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,480 Speaker 1: the wrong things. That there's nothing easier than giving advice. 496 00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:39,000 Speaker 1: It's really hard to take the advice that being given. Yeah, 497 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: so you know, when you came on, you were great 498 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: and we talked about a lot of like remember I 499 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 1: remember when you came on, we did the email about 500 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:50,479 Speaker 1: you know, traveling with Spirit Airlines Spirit and it was 501 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:53,600 Speaker 1: so I actually, that's a very good email. I wish 502 00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: um you know, I wish I had video of it 503 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:57,919 Speaker 1: so I could post it because I think it's so 504 00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 1: relatable that you're like dealing with a friend who doesn't 505 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:04,840 Speaker 1: want to spend the same amount of money on something 506 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 1: like money is such a personal and like very raw 507 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,600 Speaker 1: subject to get into his friends. Yeah, it's like, well, 508 00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,720 Speaker 1: like we were saying, you don't want to travel with 509 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:17,439 Speaker 1: those friends that I don't want to spend money because 510 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 1: when you take a tip, you want to be able 511 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:21,520 Speaker 1: to splurge. Or that's my mentality, that's your mentality too, 512 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,280 Speaker 1: And that was the dilemma and this email, it was 513 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:28,000 Speaker 1: it was really a tough one. It was tough and 514 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,159 Speaker 1: you know what, and like I see I with that 515 00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:33,359 Speaker 1: email because like I remember, like as my friends just 516 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 1: started to have kids, like it became really important for 517 00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,640 Speaker 1: some of my friends when we went away together to 518 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,880 Speaker 1: play golf, and I was like, why the funk all 519 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: of a sudden, they need to play golf, And it 520 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:46,680 Speaker 1: was like it was so interesting because like I and 521 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,320 Speaker 1: I started to realize I was like, oh, golf is like, 522 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 1: at least I played golf, like when you're younger taking 523 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:56,200 Speaker 1: trips with no kids, Like we'll go on a trip 524 00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,680 Speaker 1: the next week. It doesn't matter, you know, like whatever 525 00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 1: we do. You know if if this weird thing, like 526 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:07,480 Speaker 1: I remember we did turtle races that one of my buddies, Um, yeah, 527 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 1: they did in Chicago. There's a bar that like you 528 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: can bet on turtle races, and so we did that 529 00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:18,160 Speaker 1: as one of the events. When you know, he got 530 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 1: married young. When you're getting married at twenty three and 531 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,120 Speaker 1: everyone has no wife, no kids, yeah, we'll do the 532 00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:27,640 Speaker 1: turtle race. I gotta We'll give you a ship. When 533 00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 1: someone started on the Bachelor Party, they're like, no, I'm 534 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:32,920 Speaker 1: taking this is the one week we can I get 535 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,560 Speaker 1: away from my kids. I need to do golf because 536 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,160 Speaker 1: at least I know it's a seven. I can't have 537 00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 1: something via three. Yeah, I can't waste it, you know. Yeah, 538 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,000 Speaker 1: um we see you guys. Check out the Daytrain podcast. 539 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 1: You also have another podcast with um betches, which I 540 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 1: am obsessed with them, all of them, but you it's 541 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,280 Speaker 1: called you Up. Tell me about this. I haven't listened yet. 542 00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:59,600 Speaker 1: I need to listen to this one. So it's like 543 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,720 Speaker 1: a you up text, So it's you know, I was 544 00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 1: doing my podcast. We're giving advice, and I knew the 545 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 1: vetches and they're they have a fantastic company and I 546 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,720 Speaker 1: love working with them. And they were like, we want 547 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:14,960 Speaker 1: to start a new podcast where it's just date, just 548 00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:20,239 Speaker 1: modern dating and dating and relationship with and talking about it. So, 549 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 1: like Jordana Abraham, who's one of the vetches for and I, 550 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:27,360 Speaker 1: every episode we dig into like modern dating issues, the 551 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:31,240 Speaker 1: cross section of technology and relationships, the advice you can't 552 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 1: go to your parents to get. You can't ask your 553 00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 1: parents what does it mean when he likes and pictures 554 00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 1: on my Instagram in a row and they're gonna, you know, 555 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: like what does it mean when the snapchat streak ends? 556 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,400 Speaker 1: What does it mean? And it's like all these questions 557 00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:48,320 Speaker 1: that you know, you and I and we all understand 558 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,320 Speaker 1: is very much a you know, a part of the 559 00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:55,520 Speaker 1: times and like what we're living in. So there's a 560 00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 1: lot of stress right now, Like you know, you know, 561 00:30:57,880 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: I want to date, but I don't want to be 562 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,240 Speaker 1: in a dating app. But I I I'm in a 563 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,480 Speaker 1: small pound I love and I live in the South. 564 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:07,480 Speaker 1: Everyone's religious or there or there or there? You know, crazy, 565 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 1: are there too? Immature? Like I've got So we go 566 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 1: through it and we take are and so many of 567 00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 1: these conversations, especially dating is like an uncomfortable conversation there. 568 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,800 Speaker 1: So we I like to call it like uh a 569 00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:25,240 Speaker 1: place where we have uncomfortable conversations comfortably. I think that's 570 00:31:25,240 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 1: like the strength of do you what? Podcast? Is like 571 00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:32,520 Speaker 1: we talk about things that someone could you know, I 572 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,800 Speaker 1: think for me, especially as a guy, you could look 573 00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:37,200 Speaker 1: at me and be like, well, you're being a dick, 574 00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,360 Speaker 1: you're being this, And it's like Jordana never does that 575 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:42,200 Speaker 1: to me. She's always like open to hear, you know, 576 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:45,520 Speaker 1: a perspective that is maybe a little icky, Like the 577 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 1: guy who liked you know, the guy who DM s 578 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 1: you is it's it's his penis d M and you 579 00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:54,920 Speaker 1: it's has nothing to do with he likes you and 580 00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,480 Speaker 1: like the idea that and like a lot of women 581 00:31:57,600 --> 00:31:59,200 Speaker 1: right now, they're like, well does he like me? Or 582 00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:01,280 Speaker 1: does he not? Likely? And it's like that's not how 583 00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:04,360 Speaker 1: like exists to a guy? To a guy like exists 584 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:09,600 Speaker 1: on a very wide spectrum. What do you mean? Well, 585 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,080 Speaker 1: I like, do I like her enough to fuck her. 586 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 1: Do I like her enough to go on a date 587 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 1: with her? Do you know? Do I like her enough 588 00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:17,960 Speaker 1: to just look at her Instagram stories every day and 589 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:21,120 Speaker 1: never message her? And just that's enough for me? That 590 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,720 Speaker 1: gets me going just enough. Yeah, see that actually helps me. 591 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:26,920 Speaker 1: I like to hear the guy's perspective because I would 592 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:30,160 Speaker 1: it would be confusing to me otherwise, like exactly the 593 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,880 Speaker 1: behavior you're talking about would be so confusing totally that 594 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 1: and that's kind of what the podcast is there for, 595 00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 1: is to have the male and female side of things. 596 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,360 Speaker 1: And and also like there's no shutdown. There's never a 597 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:46,400 Speaker 1: point where you know, I look at Jordana or Jouanna 598 00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 1: looks at me and it's like, well, that's stupid talking 599 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: it up. Um, I need to listen to this one. 600 00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:55,480 Speaker 1: I'm assuming you guys have talked a little bit about 601 00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,800 Speaker 1: quarantine dating and all this. Oh my god, that's the 602 00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 1: only thing we're talking about, right, I mean, it's crazy though, right. 603 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,000 Speaker 1: I keep having friends say, I mean if some of 604 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 1: my friends are dating more than they did in regular 605 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:09,120 Speaker 1: life right now? Yeah, Well, because there's more eyes on 606 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 1: the screen, Like even if you look at like your 607 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,200 Speaker 1: socials are probably like you know, more people are looking 608 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,480 Speaker 1: at Instagram every day, more people are looking at at 609 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:19,600 Speaker 1: their phones, more people have more time. Like, you know, 610 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:23,000 Speaker 1: dating is seasonal, you know, we we we only think 611 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 1: of it during cuffing season, but all seasons have differentiation 612 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 1: of dating. And we just added a new season and 613 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:36,280 Speaker 1: season so now and and a lot of people right 614 00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,120 Speaker 1: now are getting reached out to by people they used 615 00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,200 Speaker 1: to date, and they're like, well, you know, why is 616 00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:45,440 Speaker 1: that guy reaching out. Well, that guy can't just find 617 00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:48,280 Speaker 1: someone who said yes to their penis before on a 618 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:51,320 Speaker 1: dating game. You know, he's going to go back to 619 00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,680 Speaker 1: the rolodecks of people who have said yes to his 620 00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 1: naked body before and try to hit up those spaces there. 621 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,640 Speaker 1: You say, go for it. My advice is no. I mean, 622 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:05,320 Speaker 1: if you want to fun and you want to hook up, yeah, 623 00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 1: but I wouldn't expect anything more. Like, if someone's reaching 624 00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,319 Speaker 1: back out to you, it's not because they're like, they're 625 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,640 Speaker 1: not sitting. I'll say this, Not a lot of guys 626 00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:15,600 Speaker 1: are saying in quarantine me, like I gotta get my 627 00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:18,839 Speaker 1: life right. They weren't visited by the ghosts of fun 628 00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:23,880 Speaker 1: Boy Pass. You know, you know, they're not like having 629 00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:27,600 Speaker 1: a moment they're like, I've been wrong my whole life. 630 00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:31,279 Speaker 1: I find the girl, and and and Kelly was the one. 631 00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:35,879 Speaker 1: You know, Like they're not saying that, they're saying ship. 632 00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 1: There was no option there. I'm alone. There's no option 633 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:44,280 Speaker 1: for random fucking. So I'm gonna go I'm gonna message 634 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:48,360 Speaker 1: someone that if they say no, my egos intact, because 635 00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:51,279 Speaker 1: they're only saying no because they sucked me before, not 636 00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,920 Speaker 1: because they're not attracting me. That's why old people come 637 00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,759 Speaker 1: back to you, because it's an ego protection. I never 638 00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,200 Speaker 1: thought about it that way. Yeah, like if you if 639 00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:02,400 Speaker 1: if you poked up with someone and they're like, hey, 640 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:05,040 Speaker 1: where you been, how you how you doing? You know, Kelly, 641 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,480 Speaker 1: come on, let's go and and and then you're like 642 00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:11,000 Speaker 1: you're like, hey, why are you messaging me? They can go, oh, 643 00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:13,799 Speaker 1: well we ended before at least I had I had 644 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:19,319 Speaker 1: been there when Yeah. Yeah, crazy dudes, man. And there's 645 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:24,560 Speaker 1: so much Okay, so j J podcast you up podcast? 646 00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:28,760 Speaker 1: Where else can people find you? At? Jeric Freed on Instagram. 647 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,920 Speaker 1: That's that's where it all happen. And it's s R 648 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:38,640 Speaker 1: E I D. That's right. Free. Well, I appreciate you 649 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:42,560 Speaker 1: being here so much. I totally appreciate your Instagram. It 650 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:46,040 Speaker 1: keeps me laughing and some days, right now you really 651 00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:51,120 Speaker 1: need that. That means a lot. I'm happier you too. 652 00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:54,719 Speaker 1: Good luck in New York, good luck with the candles man, 653 00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:58,400 Speaker 1: I know all right. Thank you guys for listening.