WEBVTT - Popping the Questions! 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:04.880 Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds Miller Key and Jared 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:09.799 Haven an iHeartRadio podcast. Hey, welcome to an whole new 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:13.079 episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? Still in 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:17.239 the works on that one teen Kaylin joining us on 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:20.799 this special special episode of help by Sucker dating you 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:23.919 don't Oh Jesus, Help by Sucker. We've been what's the 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:26.720 name this podcast? Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? It's 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:28.800 gonna take a little time. It takes me three years 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:32.879 just to remember anything. So we have a very special episode. 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:35.559 Two episodes this week. This is the second. First one 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:41.800 was with Emily Ferguson or Emily uh Carlson. Did we 0:00:41.840 --> 0:00:43.760 find out if she changed her last name? She did 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:47.320 to carl say, so it's Emily Carlson, which is so crazy. 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:50.440 So eighty six that's a restaurant term means no more 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:55.000 Goodbye to the Fergie Twins. That's so sad. No more 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:58.160 Fergie Twins. So weird. But it was a good run. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:01.040 They were on Paradise many times. They had their own show. 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:04.000 Great run. But this episode is going to be a 0:01:04.040 --> 0:01:07.560 Q and A. We asked you some questions on Instagram 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:10.759 because we just started doing this podcast. Kalin is obviously 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:13.360 on here as the new co host. She's amazing. I 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:15.039 know that you have a lot of questions for her 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:18.240 for the podcast moving forward, so let's get it going. 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:21.240 Here's the first question, Kaylin. This one is gonna be 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:26.440 for you, Kaylin. What makes you nervous about becoming a 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:29.679 mother someday? We just talked to Emily about being a mother. 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:31.640 We talked about Ashley being a mother all the time. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.480 So what are some things that you're nervous about. What 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:37.200 are some of your fears going into motherhood. I think 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.520 the one thing holding me back from kids, not that 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:43.080 I'm ready now, but you know, in the future, is childbirth. 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:47.920 It's just nothing about it excites me. I'm not good 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.000 at pain. My pain tolerance is low, so it really 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:52.320 freaks me out. But I just got dinner with one 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:56.240 of my girlfriends and she said that giving like birth 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:59.880 and her child childbirth was like the most fun experience 0:01:59.880 --> 0:02:02.240 of her life. So that gave me some hope the 0:02:02.520 --> 0:02:05.840 entire pregnancy or just giving birth. Just giving birth was 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.560 the most fun experience ever. She's like, it was like 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:12.440 a party, and I've never heard that, So I'm just 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:15.880 gonna if we do eventually have children, go into it 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.639 with that mindset and hope I'm the same. What kind 0:02:18.639 --> 0:02:20.400 of hospital did she go to? It sounds like a 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:25.800 great fun hospital party, I know. So that's definitely my 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.720 biggest fear. Also, like your body changing is scary and 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:31.880 all of the things that your body has to go 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:34.800 through to like adapt to have a child, and like 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:40.760 the sickness. It just people sometimes emphasize the bad side 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:43.079 of being pregnant, and I think that's what I've kind 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:49.680 of been focusing on. Yeah, it's it's not easy seeing 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.600 from you know, up close and personal, Ashley going through 0:02:52.800 --> 0:02:55.400 I gotta call up question if that's okay? Yeah, go Klan. 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:58.800 It seems like the only fears that you have about 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.639 having a child comes in the pre child of phases, 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:06.600 though right I'm wrong, I'm thinking that. Yeah, there are 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:10.560 actually a lot of fears that come after that too, 0:03:10.600 --> 0:03:13.760 but that's like the one that's front in my mind 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:16.280 right now. But yeah, obviously, like messing up your kid 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:19.520 is scary, and like what if I'm a bad mom. 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.800 And it's funny because like when you're growing up, you 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:25.080 feel like your parents can like protect you at all costs, 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.160 they know everything, and then the older you get, you 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:29.959 realize they have no idea what they're doing and how 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:32.160 many ways you can screw up a kid. So that's 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:35.600 just a whole other there are many fears that go 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.160 along with that as well. So I answer your question, 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:40.040 it does, it does. I was just curious because you 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:42.320 focus on the whole pregnancy thing, which I know is 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:45.080 a big thing for any girl to go through. But 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.800 I was just curious if there's any post pregnancy concerns 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:51.040 that you had, you know, oh, yeah, even more. Yeah. 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:54.000 It is funny when you talk about pregnancy because then 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.840 after you give birth, you're like, Okay, now I have 0:03:56.920 --> 0:04:02.680 to raise a child. You know, just doesn't stop. We 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:07.440 were actually talking last night, Ashley and I just kind 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:09.000 of talking in a whim. I was like, if you 0:04:09.040 --> 0:04:11.360 even had the choice, like, say, we could get you 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:14.640 a surrogate, and you like, it didn't cost us money 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:16.719 or whatever, like you just had the choice of getting 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:19.040 a surrogate for the second kid or not, would you 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:21.320 want to do it? And I was under the impression. 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:24.440 I was like, I don't think she would anymore. You know, 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:27.920 before we had Dawson, she was, of course like Oh, 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:32.240 I'm definitely gonna surrogate. And now I'm curious if given 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:35.080 the choice and everything worked out, she is kind of like, 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:38.120 I don't think she would, just because of the bond 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:42.040 that she has with Dawson and him growing in her belly. 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.640 I think that obviously just makes it feel a little 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.640 bit more special. I don't really know, but it was 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:49.520 just we talked about the pregnant state, everything like that that 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.320 was an interesting conversation. So Dean, this question is for you, 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:57.000 piggybacking off that will starting a family affect you traveling? 0:04:57.200 --> 0:04:59.239 Do you think it will make you stop or cut back? 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.600 It's funny actually that this was asked because I feel 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:05.680 like Kitlan and I just had a conversation recently about this. 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:10.080 I personally don't think it. I think come like your 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:13.200 immediate thought is, yes, it's going to change the way 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:15.919 that I travel, and I think it definitely would in 0:05:15.960 --> 0:05:18.440 some ways. But I would be happy to have a 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:21.440 little baby with me on every adventure that I go on. 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:23.920 You know, like, imagine bringing a baby in Artica. I 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.159 think that'd be awesome. We did have this conversation on 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:30.000 the podcast that's crazy. Yeah, imagine bringing a baby to 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:31.880 the top of Sarah Torre or up to the top 0:05:31.880 --> 0:05:33.880 amount Everest. You know that baby is going to touch 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:37.120 the highest point on Earth before he turns three. I 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:38.720 think that'd be an awesome achievement for him to be 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.200 able to do so. I do then think that there 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:43.159 are ways to travel with a baby. You know, there's 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.800 a lot of like van people that I follow on 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:48.400 Instagram that have children and they find a way to 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.880 make it work. I think that you don't necessarily have 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.239 to lose your travel bug if you have a baby. 0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:54.600 I think there's ways that you can find to make 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:57.760 it work. I think there's like baby safe adventures we 0:05:57.800 --> 0:06:00.440 could go on, Like our neighbor that lives in a 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.560 van two in Vegas. I just saw there set up 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:06.799 for like camping with the baby, and it looked pretty fun. Yeah. 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:09.160 I mean, of course, you see the highlight reel on Instagram. 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.240 It's probably not as glamorous as it like I. You know, 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.080 I love being in the van by myself, and when 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:16.200 you joined me in the van, it adds to my stress. 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:17.919 And then if we had a baby in the van 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:19.560 with us too, I could only imagine how much more 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:21.680 stressful and messy that van would look, but you just 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.599 find a way to adapt and make it suitable for 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.240 all three people, as I'm working on doing with just 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:27.960 the two of us in the van. So I don't 0:06:28.000 --> 0:06:31.160 necessarily think I would travel I would travel less, but 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.720 I wouldn't travel significantly less, you know, Yeah, that makes sense. 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.680 Somebody asks, how can I feel confident when meeting a 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:42.560 significant others friends? This is pretty intimidated to me. I mean, 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.360 just be I It's the stupidest thing I'm ever gonna 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.479 say in my entire life, But just be yourself. But 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:51.800 be a good version of yourself. You know, Like I'd 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:55.960 probably say, stay away from any racy or dirty jokes. 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:58.080 You know, you don't want to like offend anybody too 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:00.839 early on until you're comfortable with them. So of course 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:05.920 I would say the biggest thing is just be show 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:08.800 that you're putting effort. I think that's really it. Like, 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:12.680 we actually got dinner with so. We had Nate and 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:16.760 Rodney here for a meet and greet on Saturday at Audrey's, 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:19.360 and then we went to dinner with Jill and her 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:24.680 new boyfriend Jill from Bachelor Bachelor in Paradise and her 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:27.560 new boyfriend's great and I felt bad because he was 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.360 just like, Hey, you're gonna meet Jared and Ashley and 0:07:30.360 --> 0:07:32.000 then these two guys from Bachelor for the first time. 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:33.680 We're all going to get dinner. So he got a 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:36.480 kind of got thrown in there, but he was great, 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:38.560 Like he definitely like was trying to insert himself in 0:07:38.560 --> 0:07:40.920 the conversation. He was actively listening, and then even though 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:42.760 he didn't speak a lot, it was very sweet to 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:44.960 say like, oh, like, it just shows that you were 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:48.400 like at least trying to be personal while meeting Chill's friends. 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:50.320 And I think that goes a long way. So just 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:54.760 as long as you don't act indifferent, you'll be fine. Yeah. 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:56.960 And if they, I mean, your significant other likes you 0:07:57.280 --> 0:08:00.720 and she or he likes their friends, obviously, just be 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:05.360 yourself and it should be fine. Yeah. I like how 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:10.800 Jared's advice was to not say anything racy or like Ronchi, 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:12.800 And I was just imagining every time I meet any 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:14.680 of Kaylin's friends, that's like the very first thing that 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:16.840 I do is I put my foot in my mouth, 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:21.800 not like intentionally, but like you know, I mean, how 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:23.880 many stories do we have of me meeting any of 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:25.320 your friends? And then you make fun of me the 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:27.800 next day for do you remember asking this question or 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:30.760 saying this? Oh my god, I know you're talking about 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:33.920 That was one instance when you had too much to drink. 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.520 Can you say it on air or is it? No? No, 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:39.599 it was. I mean it was funny, but it was 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.640 like a little inappropriate. But that's my point exactly, is 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:44.920 that sometimes my mind goes to a dark place and 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:47.439 I'm like, oh, I know, like I got something that's 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.720 gonna kill and then I say it and I'm like, 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:51.600 I guess we're just not on that level, are we. 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:53.680 I only met you five years ago. Sorry about that. 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:55.200 I woke up in the morning and I was like, 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:57.640 big smile on my face, like, Kaylin, I was pretty 0:08:57.640 --> 0:09:00.160 funny last night, wasn't I as crushing it? And she 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.600 was like, no, do you remember remember the questions you 0:09:02.600 --> 0:09:04.280 were asking? And I was like yeah, I'm pretty sure. 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:06.360 And then Kaylyn repeated them to me and I was like, oh, 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:09.520 hearing you say them makes me realize how stupid eyes 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:14.679 must have said. So it was fun. I just think 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:17.840 I agree with you be yourself, be goofy. And you know, 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:21.120 I don't know, Kaylin, what's your advice because you've had 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.320 to meet a lot of my friends obviously, So what 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:25.760 what is your approach to that? I mean, yeah, it 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:28.120 was pretty nervous. The second we got off Paradise, we 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:30.360 flew to San Diego, picked up your van, and then 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:33.559 I met twenty of your friends and that was pretty 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:38.720 nerve wracking. Um yeah, but and I'm I'm also very shy, 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:40.719 and I'm better in groups of like one or two 0:09:40.760 --> 0:09:44.920 people versus like twenty. But um, you know, a beer helped, 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:49.000 and I just started playing whatever drinking games they were 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:53.120 playing and tried to tried to act like I wasn't nervous. 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:58.040 I guess, yeah, it's gonna be one of the boys, right, 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.480 Who are they playing? They're they're They're playing King's Cup 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.200 or something like that. That was funny. There was like 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:03.439 twenty of them. They were down there for like a 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:06.640 golf trip, so they were all like wasted and smelly, 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:08.319 and then we had known each other for like a 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:10.400 week at that point. That was a pretty funny experience. 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:12.439 But we went over there to shower because we didn't 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:15.680 have a shower in the van. Did we even end 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:18.480 up showering? I don't remember showering there. I don't think 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.160 you did I think it was like too messy and 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:23.520 we left. Yeah, that's funny. All right, what else? Let's 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:25.319 see if I want to ask you guys a question, 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.200 it's my turn now, but I gotta pull up the list. Okay, 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:31.920 here we go. Jared, did you think that Kaylin and 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:39.880 I would get engaged when we first started dating? Um? Wow, 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:45.200 that's a great question. I think it's okay if it's no. Yeah, 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:48.360 I guess no because of Dean, Because you know, for 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:51.880 the longest time, you've always talked about how you're non 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:56.400 traditional and you didn't see yourself getting engaged or getting married, 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:58.600 and that was just kind of who you were. And then, 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:01.360 you know, a special right before Paradise, you kind of 0:11:01.360 --> 0:11:04.840 have to put yourself back in that spot you were. 0:11:05.480 --> 0:11:09.640 You just bought the van, you know, you grew the mustache. 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:13.240 You were, I mean, going down a very different path 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:16.120 of settling down. And then you got asked to go 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:18.480 on Bachelor in Paradise, and then you were going back 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:19.920 and forth whether you wanted to do it, and then 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.079 you said you were going to do it. But you're 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:22.760 just gonna go there and be honest and be like, 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:25.480 I'm just a dude living in a a Van and then 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:29.520 you met Kaylin and then obviously everything changed after that, 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:35.160 so I guess probably, I mean, god, I don't know 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:39.720 a timetable, but once you guys started dating for months 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:44.760 and it was very clear that it was a serious relationship, 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:48.200 then yeah, I always thought that Kaylin would definitely convince 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:51.680 you to get engaged, and then ultimately that's exactly what happened. 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:54.600 Not convince you to get engaged because you were against 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:57.439 I think it was more like you were going to 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:00.920 realize how important Kaylin was to you and that you'd 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:03.640 want to take that step for her. That's how I 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.280 phrase it when I say, you know, Calin was going 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:09.600 to convince you to get engaged. Yeah, Calin really had 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:12.280 to put a gun to my head to make me, 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:17.000 you know, pull pull the trigger on that metaphorical to 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:23.160 make it go on that hellish, hellish hike. Yeah. Yeah. 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:26.560 Dean and Jared, what were your first impressions of each other, Well, 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.520 let's think about the first time that we met each other. Well, 0:12:29.559 --> 0:12:36.320 my first impressions of Dean were from Bachelorette and Paradise, 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:40.280 and of course I thought what everybody else thought was 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:43.920 that this guy is definitely an f boy. Like not 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:49.040 from bad because well, also, Dean, you were you're obviously 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.880 so good looking now, but when you were back then, 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:56.520 it was like you had the hair and like the tan, 0:12:57.280 --> 0:13:00.600 and you were so sweet and tongue looking. And it's 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:03.680 like this guy is definitely he like collects toenails in 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:06.280 his closet. There's no way anybody is this perfect, Like 0:13:06.320 --> 0:13:10.320 this is impossible, It's impossible. I know I've gone down 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.720 the hill since then, for sure. I disagree. I think 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:17.840 you've gone uphill since then. But I guess my first well, 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.599 when did we meet? That's what I'm I'm trying to 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.160 remember when we first met. Do we meet at Nick's 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:27.000 apartment or you're you'res in Kni's apartment. I guess maybe, Yeah, 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.520 I don't remember the first time we met. It's so 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:33.680 funny how um this podcast came together, because I remember 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:38.400 you were doing you were doing the podcast, and then 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:41.959 you were taking like a hiatus, and then I think 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:46.719 they were debating adding a co host. And I still 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:48.760 don't to this day. I don't know how I got chosen, 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:51.920 but I got super lucky. Wait, so before you joined, 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.920 you hadn't met Dean. No, I did? Oh, we didn't 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:57.400 know each other that well. We had like barely known 0:13:57.440 --> 0:13:59.440 each other. I think we met when we when you 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.200 were living with Nick, and Nick got the idea or 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:03.960 you got the idea, whoever it was, to film those 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:06.720 bad Chiller episodes, and like, that's kind of when we 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:08.920 hung out. Actually, if you thought that was my idea, 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:10.319 get the hell out of here. You know that on 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:15.240 that I disagree with it. I just I didn't want 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:16.480 you to have thought of it and may not give 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:18.959 you any potential credit. Okay, So that's when that very soon. 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.320 That's when we at least hung out a couple of times. 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:26.160 My first impression of Jared was Okay, he's obviously very handsome, 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.520 a lot shorter, a lot shorter than I expected him 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:37.520 to be. Um and uh, very smart about very specific things. 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:39.120 I think that was the thing that really stuck out 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.600 to me was your like movie catalog in your head 0:14:41.720 --> 0:14:43.200 was like so vast and I was like, damn, how 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:46.040 does one person know that much about one topic? And 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.520 I was really impressed by that. It's so pathetic. I 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:50.400 felt bad. There was a girl that came in to 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:53.040 Audrey's like three weeks ago, and she was wearing a 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:57.160 Michael Myer's shirt Halloween T shirt, and I figured that 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:00.520 she must be a big Halloween fan to come in 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.240 and wear a Michael Myer's shirt. So it's like, oh, 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:06.040 you're a Halloween fan, and she goes, oh love Halloween. 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:08.840 I love Michael Myers. So then I start going for 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:11.920 like fifteen minutes on this like, oh, you know the 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:13.480 first one? Or what's what do you think about the 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:15.560 new trilogy? And would you think about Halloween Ends? And 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.600 with Jamie Lee Curtis and Laurie Strode and blah blah 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:19.840 blah blah blah, and dude, I lost her like three 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:22.640 minutes in, and I'm like, I'm I guess I just 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.000 talk about movies on a different level than a lot 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:28.880 of people expect. And it really, like you said, it's 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:31.520 the specificity of it that, like how much I know 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:35.480 about certain like the dumbest why do I know about 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.680 this stuff? I think? I think Easton's trying to play 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:39.640 the Brady Buzzer, but he's muted, so he's not able 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:45.360 to That's a shame, yeah, which which is funny because 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:50.040 there it is. There's the Brady Buzzer. I bet you 0:15:50.120 --> 0:15:52.120 the girl at the coffee shop wish she had a 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:55.160 Brady buzzer. But if this don't exist in every day 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.600 long oh, I could tell, like, well, I started ending 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.160 the conversation once I could see that she was It's 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:02.600 like gone, and I'm like, Okay, never mind, here's your chie. 0:16:15.400 --> 0:16:17.440 I have a question for both of you, guys, Okay, 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:20.680 has dating within the Bachelor franchise made it easier or 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:24.680 more difficult in your relationship? Or is it doesn't even matter? 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.280 I think it's made it more difficult at times, just 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:31.440 with headlines. Like last week, I was so annoyed by 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:35.640 a certain publications Instagram post about our podcast that they 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:40.120 didn't even cite our podcast. But they I don't know 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:42.040 they I don't remember what the quote was, but they 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:45.200 pulled a random quote from the podcast about Dean want 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:47.360 to give a sect to me before kids, and it 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:49.560 wasn't even correct. And then Dean read the comments and 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:52.480 everyone was coming after him, verst saying like, I don't 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:55.080 know you read the comments, Dean. What were they saying? Oh, 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:57.560 it's just a lot of comments about how I'm controlling 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.680 and how I make the rules, and you are forced 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:01.840 to fall all of them. You have no say in 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:04.879 the relationship. And that's what's crazy, is like he was 0:17:04.960 --> 0:17:09.640 doing this as a kind I had proposed the idea 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:11.720 of secting me to help you and to give you 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:15.040 the option of not taking birth control anymore. And that's 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.399 what's so frustrating. I'm like, screw you to that publication. 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.240 And they do this often where they like pull these 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.200 tricky headlines. I guess everyone does it and it's stupid, 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:25.320 but I'm like, he was doing such a kind thing 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:28.240 that most men would never offer up to do so 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:31.119 in instances like that, it makes it more difficult, but 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:34.399 usually I feel like it doesn't matter. I gotta be honest. 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:36.440 What I'm annoyed at is the fact that they didn't 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:40.120 credit the podcast. I didn't know that. I know. Yeah, 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:44.000 I never comments on this post, but I commented on 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:46.480 that one. I was like tagging the podcast at least 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:49.800 or give some context. But yeah, everyone is coming at 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:51.800 me in the comments for that. It's so annoying. Even 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:54.879 my brother was like, dang, that's pretty crazy. I'm so 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:56.480 used to it now, but that one really did irk 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:58.720 me because I'm trying my best to be a good 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:01.720 person and no one thought my way. They just think 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.800 that i'm some controlling, manipulative jerk who is trying to 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:06.800 convince Kalin that I don't want to have kids and 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:08.520 this is my way of getting out of it. It's 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.320 just it's so so stupid and it's crazy, and if 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.119 this publication wants to do right, they should correct it 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:16.960 and like acknowledge the fact that what he was doing 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:20.159 was so kind and thoughtful, like what man offers to 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:21.919 get a dissect me so the woman doesn't have to 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:24.320 be on birth control because it doesn't agree with her body. 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:31.120 I'm angry, but continued Dean, I was going to say, 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:36.399 even since we first came off Paradise and you know, 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:41.040 we were kind of both polarizing figures, I guess if 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:42.760 you will, I feel like the odds were kind of 0:18:42.760 --> 0:18:44.680 against us, and I do think that kind of strengthened 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:46.800 our bond a little bit. So these headlines that we 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:50.080 see that are negative, although it is like annoying for 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:51.800 us to see and have to deal with them, I 0:18:51.840 --> 0:18:53.960 do think it does bring us closer in a weirder way. 0:18:54.760 --> 0:18:56.960 And I do think being part of the Bachelor franchise 0:18:57.280 --> 0:18:59.880 has made dating a lot easier for us and for Jared. 0:18:59.880 --> 0:19:02.639 I'm sure you would agree with this too, because the 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:04.720 franchise has given us so many opportunities to live in 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:07.040 abdormal lifestyle where we don't have to work as much 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:09.440 as we would otherwise, And so for us to be 0:19:09.480 --> 0:19:11.360 able to live a life that we live now, it's 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:13.919 all because of being on a Bachelor obviously. So I 0:19:13.960 --> 0:19:16.320 do think that there are many, many, many more positives 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:19.639 and there are negatives, and I'm grateful for all those positives, 0:19:19.800 --> 0:19:23.320 and I think it's been a good thing for us. Yeah, 0:19:23.560 --> 0:19:25.840 I would one hundred percent agree. I think the good 0:19:25.960 --> 0:19:32.199 greatly outweighs the bad. What somebody asked, when do you 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:35.560 think is the most ideal time to move in with 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:41.120 a significant other? I think like two years. Oh wow, 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:43.000 it's a long time. Yeah, it is a long time. 0:19:43.080 --> 0:19:45.560 Damn a year, I don't know, no, but I would 0:19:45.560 --> 0:19:49.480 say at least a year of knowing this person moving 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:54.760 in it changes things, like like it just does. It's 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:57.200 not as special anymore when they come over because they're 0:19:57.240 --> 0:19:59.800 not leaving, they're always staying. You wake up to this person, 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:02.960 like their stuff is there. You see them a lot more, 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:08.159 and you see them and not you know you like 0:20:09.359 --> 0:20:12.000 you'll smell their poop, like you will smell their poop. 0:20:12.080 --> 0:20:14.280 That is what's going to happen when you live together. 0:20:14.640 --> 0:20:16.360 So it definitely changes things. So I would make sure 0:20:16.359 --> 0:20:18.359 that you guys have a strong foundation that this is 0:20:18.520 --> 0:20:20.760 something that you want to go forward with. Like the 0:20:20.800 --> 0:20:24.240 worst thing and this happens. It's actually happened to someone 0:20:24.240 --> 0:20:28.280 I know right now where it's like they pretty much 0:20:28.359 --> 0:20:31.000 moved it. They just started dating, but they were living 0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:33.840 at home and so now they stay there every single night, 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:35.760