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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and I Heart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, it's Becca and it's Tanya here. And we

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Speaker 1: have a very special guest today. We have a man

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Speaker 1: who has played a hot doctor many times in his career.

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Speaker 1: We have Eric Winter here. Thank you for being here. Um.

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Speaker 1: I know you from The Ugly Truth, which I saw

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Speaker 1: three times in theaters. I loved that movie and I

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Speaker 1: personally was very It was one of those movies where

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Speaker 1: I was very conflicted because they made you like I

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Speaker 1: was rooting for Drawer Butler's character, but I was rooting

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Speaker 1: for your character because it made you so likable. It

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Speaker 1: wasn't like you were this lame I don't know if

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Speaker 1: I can say douchebag, but you weren't like a douchebag.

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Speaker 1: You almost many times as well. And Harold and Comer,

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Speaker 1: I was a big douche um No, yeah, that the

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Speaker 1: whole goal was to make him as likable as a bee.

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Speaker 1: So there was a real triangle. So there was a

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Speaker 1: real yeah. And they made my pants come on change

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Speaker 1: that too. I just I mean, it was like that

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Speaker 1: similar feeling in the Notebook where you liked you loved Noah,

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Speaker 1: but you liked lawn to you know. They it was

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Speaker 1: like this challenge of who am I rooting for in

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Speaker 1: this which is a gift. You know, you're like always

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Speaker 1: rooting for the main couple, but you threw in a

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Speaker 1: little wrench in my my plans. You guys don't watch it,

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Speaker 1: but he played a doctor in The Good Doctor who

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Speaker 1: was very jerky. Wait, I do watch The Good Doctor,

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Speaker 1: but I haven't when one episode was it recent? I

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Speaker 1: went on for the Winter finale and then now okay

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Speaker 1: again after okay, so those are the only I My

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Speaker 1: last episode I saw was the one before the Winter finale.

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Speaker 1: So you're a jerk on it? Sexual harasser? Yeah, oh,

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Speaker 1: a sexual harasser. You really change your tune there from

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Speaker 1: Katherine Eigel did a number on you. Still trying to

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Speaker 1: get my pants off, but just in a different way.

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Speaker 1: It's weird you play a doctor so much because you

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Speaker 1: don't know anything about being a doctor as a premed student.

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Speaker 1: U C l A. Is that real? Fact? That's really

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Speaker 1: a doctor? Is this for real? Yeah? It was a

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Speaker 1: psychobiology major. Wow, that was my whole drive for a

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Speaker 1: long And you're you're married right, Okay, not to a doctor, no,

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Speaker 1: but you're just married he's married to the actress Rosalind Sanchez. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's just like I get I get with Becca thrown bare.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm the only one that picked up on that.

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Speaker 1: But we'll just let that. We'll just let that slide. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he's happily married. Do you have kids? Wow? Yeah, he's

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Speaker 1: really the roots have been planted. Um No, But I

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Speaker 1: we have this thing like, so Tony and I are

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Speaker 1: mainly her because I don't really give a lot of

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Speaker 1: effort but I don't try. It's hard to struggle when

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Speaker 1: you don't try. But Tonny tries, and she struggles a

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Speaker 1: little bit lot of it. Yeah. But um, like a

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Speaker 1: lot of times on this podcast we talked about her

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Speaker 1: dating adventures or her talking to guys and her pickup lines,

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Speaker 1: which really needs some help. So I've had a real

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Speaker 1: aha moment this weekend though, when we realized she's trying

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Speaker 1: to try. Yeah, yeah, I will. I'm realizing I think

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Speaker 1: that I still am ha Like I still am recovering

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Speaker 1: from so sounds it sounds so lame to say it

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Speaker 1: out loud, but I went through a really traumatic breakup

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Speaker 1: and I'm still feeling the residual effects of that breakup.

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Speaker 1: And I think that, um, all these guys that I'm

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Speaker 1: like dating, I think that I'm just like trying to

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Speaker 1: date because I that's what I want. But they're not rebounds.

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Speaker 1: But like I'm like, I don't think like you're forcing

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Speaker 1: yourself to try. No, I just have this block, Like

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Speaker 1: they really break this down, really break you down, break

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Speaker 1: break down. And that's I think of struggle. Try some

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Speaker 1: therapy though, right, Yeah, we do a lot of like

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Speaker 1: ask a guy for advice, so types of things, and

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Speaker 1: we have Eastern and Mark here, but this you're like

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Speaker 1: as a guy dating, how long have you been married? Uh, well,

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Speaker 1: between my current wife. Yeah, that's Tonya's all combining. All

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Speaker 1: that matters if you have marriage licenses at that point

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Speaker 1: as well. Find of all of that's like you like

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Speaker 1: Do you get it's a little easier. Let me see,

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Speaker 1: I've been so between those two relationships. That's a combined

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Speaker 1: That's a good chunk. Yeah, let's just put it. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I know he's married with kids, but you guys, this

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Speaker 1: guy does not look forty one person. No, you're and

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Speaker 1: your teeth are exceptionally straight. Like, I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: very Will you post an Instagram story so people can

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Speaker 1: see what Eric looks like right now? But you can

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Speaker 1: do Okay, I'm okay, I got very lucky. It's just

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Speaker 1: a funny. I have no I have no idea why

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Speaker 1: I have a screwed up to give a fifteen months

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Speaker 1: of mine, I'm gonna look like that. Jee Okay, in

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Speaker 1: the time I when you were dating your wife, for

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Speaker 1: anytime you've been dating as a guy dating in l A.

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Speaker 1: Are you from l A. Okay, what is the what

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Speaker 1: is the how how do you do it? What's the

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Speaker 1: two things? Too? You have to neither a noody from

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Speaker 1: in Hollywood and you're out in this circuit, very hard

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Speaker 1: Because if you're just not from here and you're here

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Speaker 1: they're really not. Most of the transplants, so what they

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Speaker 1: I was going to say, all this time, I've had

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Speaker 1: You lump them all into one little area and you say, okay,

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Speaker 1: and it creates this horrible environment. And those are people

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Speaker 1: I was like, am I going to make friends here?

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Speaker 1: I have an email on this subject if you if

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Speaker 1: Ashley Olivia and Megan, wait before your I like this

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Speaker 1: quick rapid fire if you were on a dating app

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Speaker 1: After we read this email, tell them what you said

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Speaker 1: to Matthew Perry. Yeah, but a lot of our listeners

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Speaker 1: you find a good church? Also, we're the best Bostler

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Speaker 1: three years old. The podcast is awesome. We look forward

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Speaker 1: You go to the valley, that's where even the valley,

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Speaker 1: like you have like a core group. You're not alone.

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Speaker 1: to lose? I always think it's better to Uh, I'm

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Speaker 1: what that person is into it? Like, well, what do

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Speaker 1: you want to do? Have to drinks? Do you want

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Speaker 1: to go? You know, you're kind of in a weird situation.

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Speaker 1: You know what my plan is for that though I

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Speaker 1: have I'm going to say I have plans afterwards in

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Speaker 1: that way, like and then if if I want to go,

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Speaker 1: then I'm like, I'll just know I want to bring

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Speaker 1: up the plans. So he says like oh, like no, no, no.

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Speaker 1: If he's like, hey, what what do you want to

433
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Speaker 1: hang out after this? But if I'm not having a

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Speaker 1: good time, I'll say, oh, I actually have plans. I

435
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Speaker 1: meeting some friends for dinner. And if I like him,

436
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Speaker 1: then I'll be like nothing, what where are we going?

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Speaker 1: That's my girl? That is my girl. I've done a

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Speaker 1: lot of first dates. This is the key to a good,

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Speaker 1: successful first date in my opinion. You make plans for drinks, okay,

440
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Speaker 1: just drinks. You give it the option for dinner or

441
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Speaker 1: dessert or maybe dancing. You leave it open for the

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Speaker 1: whole night. But you also have an out because you

443
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Speaker 1: can say, I have dinner plans. You know where you

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Speaker 1: nailed it? Dessert? Oh, I've had it. Sounds like I

445
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Speaker 1: had a date that I had. I was just getting

446
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Speaker 1: drinks with the guy. The date was going so well.

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Speaker 1: We had dinner at a different place. We had so

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Speaker 1: much fun at dinner. We went to dessert at a

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Speaker 1: different place, and then we're having so much fun. I

450
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Speaker 1: went back to his apartment dessert. But what happens this? Okay,

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Speaker 1: maybe this is just me. So what time do you

452
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Speaker 1: go to drinks? Because I'd be starving at like five, Like,

453
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Speaker 1: can we please get some food with these drinks? Appetizers?

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Speaker 1: I also have some big news, so we're we're. We

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Speaker 1: have had this theme of Tawny being set up with

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Speaker 1: Tim Tebow. That's been like something we've been trying to

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Speaker 1: make happen. Um, we haven't gotten very far, but not

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Speaker 1: like not even far. Like we have so many connections

501
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Speaker 1: this event that Tim Tebow host. It's like some prom

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Speaker 1: Night to Shine, Yeah, Night to Shine. And I said,

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Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it's amazing. Pretty sure I'll be in town.

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Speaker 1: Need to extend that invite to Tanya And he said, yes,

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Speaker 1: do it, invite her? Do it? Yeah. You know what's interesting,

508
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 1: it's really easy for me to make the first move

509
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 1: on a dating app, like to say hi or hey.

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Speaker 1: It's hard for me to do it in real life. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's that's actually very interesting. I mean, that's why people

512
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Speaker 1: can be bullies on I mean, on social media. Yeah,

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00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 1: but it's almost also like I think when you're on

514
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Speaker 1: a dating app, if you're on there for the right reasons,

515
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Speaker 1: like but you know that they're like looking for somebody

516
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Speaker 1: to date, you know what I mean, Whereas in real

517
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 1: life you don't know if somebody has a girlfriend or

518
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Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, you don't know they're bad.

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Speaker 1: You don't know if you have a girlfriend. More. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, there's probably so many guys on

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Speaker 1: there that have a girlfriend. You don't even know if

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Speaker 1: it's a person you're looking at. I know, that's what's

523
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Speaker 1: really scary. That's why I want to meet for a

524
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Speaker 1: coffee because they get there, or if you're getting catfished.

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Speaker 1: I fear catfishing. I don't even want to go there.

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Speaker 1: Let's read any now, okay from Alexa. Hey, y'all real quick.

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Speaker 1: I'm also a big Grace fan and love the quiz

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Speaker 1: you did last week. F y I the pilot did

529
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Speaker 1: not die in the plane crash. He became paralyzed, which

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Speaker 1: I got a lot of tweets about that. Um, it's

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Speaker 1: so interesting to see if he'll pick up on Yeah. Second,

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Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship for six years and I

533
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Speaker 1: think one of the best things about us is that

534
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 1: we are completely content letting each other do their own thing.

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Speaker 1: Many times that's t him playing video games in one

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Speaker 1: room and me rewatching grays in another. I feel that

537
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 1: too many relationships these days are filled with partners trying

538
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 1: to spend of their time together and not knowing how

539
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: to have a life that is separate. What do you

540
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Speaker 1: think that is? Why do you think that is? I

541
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Speaker 1: would love to hear everyone's perspective. Love you all, Alexa.

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Speaker 1: See this is fascinating me because I have not My

543
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Speaker 1: longest for like real relationship was like six months and

544
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Speaker 1: it was, yeah, I'm like, emotionally, um unwell, um, I

545
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Speaker 1: amost think you got it right, but I am super

546
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Speaker 1: super independent and I what did you say? He asked

547
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Speaker 1: me how long? My long? It was, Oh, yeah, well

548
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Speaker 1: I was going to ask, I can't. This one's hard

549
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Speaker 1: for me to relate to because even in my short relationship,

550
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Speaker 1: one of the problems was that I was like too independent,

551
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Speaker 1: want to do my own thing. But I we were

552
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Speaker 1: both like on opposite into the spectrum. He was more

553
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 1: like normal and what he was looking for, and I

554
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 1: was more like just too distant. But I know that

555
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Speaker 1: there has to be a happy media. So I was

556
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Speaker 1: gonna take let you'll have this one. Since you've both

557
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: been in longer relationships to me, she's been shorter, no,

558
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Speaker 1: four years, at least four months four years. But well,

559
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Speaker 1: you're in a marriage, so by all means, I think, look,

560
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Speaker 1: with the marriage to you, the space or the gaps

561
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: you want to have your own things to do become

562
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Speaker 1: even greater because you're with somebody so much longer than

563
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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I'm fine, I go do this and

564
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 1: you know whatever, Whereas if it's brand new, you naturally

565
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 1: tend to have you want to spend more time with

566
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Speaker 1: that person. The longer you're with somebody, the more independence

567
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: you start to bring yourself or give yourself. Right. I

568
00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: do think it's important when you start dating because I

569
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 1: have a lot of friends that would immerse themselves into that,

570
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 1: you know, woman's life, and I think that's terrible because

571
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: you lose your identity who you are, You lose who

572
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Speaker 1: the girl you know, who you are that the girl

573
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Speaker 1: started to like because they just become you. And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: in the same thing with a girl, I'm like, no, no, no,

575
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Speaker 1: be you that you're the girl I you know fell for.

576
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Speaker 1: You want that independence. However, if it's too much, then

577
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Speaker 1: you start the question does she really like? So there

578
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Speaker 1: is a balance, But I think the most important thing

579
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Speaker 1: is just stay who you are, don't mold yourself to somebody,

580
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: and you don't have to be within at all times.

581
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,720
Speaker 1: I think that's right. That doesn't help. Well, I think

582
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Speaker 1: that was my thing. And then once we broke up,

583
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Speaker 1: he started like going out doing his own thing with

584
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Speaker 1: his guy friends and I was like, that's what I right,

585
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 1: You're like, where was that? Remember, the more needy you are,

586
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 1: the more it turns people off. Always the less you

587
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Speaker 1: want something, the more you attracted. I could have been

588
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Speaker 1: a little more needy than I. But that's every relations

589
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 1: I think there's a fine line. I think you have

590
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: to force yourself. I think it's really okay there. I

591
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 1: think you have to force yourself because I do think

592
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Speaker 1: especially when it's brand new and you're like falling in

593
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Speaker 1: love and it's that excited moment, you know, and you

594
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 1: just want to, like you do, you just want to

595
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:19,880
Speaker 1: immerse yourself in that person. And I think you have

596
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 1: to make a really conscious effort to keep your life

597
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Speaker 1: if you always go to you know, church on Sunday

598
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Speaker 1: morning in the farmer's market, like keep doing those things

599
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 1: just because he wants to, you know what I mean. Like,

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Speaker 1: I think it's really important to keep your identity and

601
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Speaker 1: the things that make you happy as an individual. I

602
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Speaker 1: think you really have to make that a priority otherwise

603
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Speaker 1: it can get really like fuzzy for sure. And you

604
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Speaker 1: and if you drift, you know which a lot of

605
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: people do. They drift from their friends and they start

606
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Speaker 1: doing everything with the girl and then or guy either way,

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Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden you break up and

608
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: your friends are like, of course you took off now

609
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 1: you want back, so you you definitely it's healthy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I'm glad that you watch grays in the separate

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Speaker 1: room while he plays videos. Rescourage it consensus healthy. I'm

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00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: an email question that would really like your help. Do

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00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 1: you want to hear it? Okay? So this is from Carly.

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Speaker 1: She dated a guy for three years. They broke up

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Speaker 1: four years ago. They when they were in college. She

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Speaker 1: he broke up with her because she thought he was

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Speaker 1: cheating on Does that make sense okay? And it was

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Speaker 1: the hardest breakup she's ever been through. She's now engaged.

619
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Speaker 1: Long story short, they're both invited to the same wedding

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Speaker 1: and she has a ton of anxiety over going to

621
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Speaker 1: the wedding and bumping into him and is looking for

622
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Speaker 1: any advice. You guys have to get through that situation.

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Speaker 1: He's still dating the girl he cheated on her with,

624
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: but it was so he definitely did cheat. It wasn't

625
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 1: just suspecting of cheating. He was cheated and then he

626
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 1: broke up with her. But she's moved on and she's

627
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 1: happy she's engaged, but she's still got a lot of anxiety.

628
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: She's like, I want to look hot, be confident, and

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Speaker 1: be fun. And her fiance knows about all this, so

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Speaker 1: she's been very open with him about it. She's looking

631
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Speaker 1: for advice, any advice on how to hand the ex

632
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Speaker 1: boyfriends and they are girlfriends who they cheated on you

633
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Speaker 1: with at weddings. What is the best way to play this.

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Speaker 1: I mean, obviously she's gonna go with her fiance and

635
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Speaker 1: just have a good time. I mean, there's probably it's

636
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Speaker 1: a wedding. I'm assuming there's gonna be a lot of

637
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: people aside from y'all there, and if you happen or

638
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 1: if he happens to approach or something like, keep it short,

639
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: be nice, and then have fun. For me on this,

640
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: I go athlete mentality. This is your super Bowl, this

641
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 1: is your big this is your time. You gotta look hot,

642
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: you gotta have your game face on, like you gotta

643
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: be in the zone. Do you know what I mean?

644
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 1: Like yeah, But my advice would actually be the complete opposite.

645
00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: I would tell her not to even go to the

646
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 1: wedding if it's causing you so much anxiety. I would

647
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 1: just say, do not go. As I mean, if we

648
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 1: don't know, if this is an important friend, like I

649
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 1: invited to so many weddings. But let's say let's say

650
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 1: it is an important friend, well, like you have to

651
00:33:56,720 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: go the wed Well that really changes my answer. But

652
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 1: I would say my knee jerk reaction was don't go

653
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 1: to the wedding. The part that would bother me. Here,

654
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:11,400
Speaker 1: she's been broken up for four years. You need to

655
00:34:11,440 --> 00:34:16,919
Speaker 1: have moved on from that person. That's the first. If

656
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: you're you're engaged, so it's unfair to your fiance to

657
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:22,439
Speaker 1: still even be thinking about this guy from four years.

658
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 1: You need to be so confident in your new relationship

659
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:29,880
Speaker 1: that that happiness with this fiance go to the wedding.

660
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:34,359
Speaker 1: Be you be happy with your fiance, That alone will

661
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: show the other guy, look what you lost. I'm a

662
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: happy woman, I'm engaged, I'm with a great guy. I'm

663
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 1: gonna have a great night, and if I see you,

664
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 1: I'll say what's up. Even if you're dying inside, Never

665
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 1: show it. Don't alter what you're gonna do, because that

666
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 1: just makes him that much stronger in the situation. If

667
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,839
Speaker 1: he cheated on you, it's his, it's his mistake, it's

668
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 1: his loss. Now those show that you lost something great.

669
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,399
Speaker 1: But if if he knows that, he still as even

670
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: an ounce of you, he wins even an ounce because

671
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 1: in his mind, you'll be like, I still got her.

672
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: Four years later, she still she still help her. So

673
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 1: I say, you got a super Bowl game face if

674
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:15,240
Speaker 1: it's really bothering you. But I really think it shouldn't

675
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,399
Speaker 1: bother you. I think you've got to move on from

676
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 1: He's very right. I agree with him. You are happy

677
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,880
Speaker 1: to see him, not only do not avoid him. You're like,

678
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:27,040
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it was great, thrilled to see him.

679
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 1: You couldn't be happier from the challenge. I was actually

680
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 1: gonna that. I thought that's what I would do. But

681
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, I am so dexter that I'm like, is

682
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 1: that the problem that I would be able to just

683
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: do that? But I'd just be like, so like, oh

684
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 1: my gosh, how are you? Is this so? I've heard

685
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: so much. I don't think you have to start a

686
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:51,480
Speaker 1: conversation with I'm saying if they came up, like, I

687
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: think you just like, hey, great to see you, that

688
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 1: I hope you have a great night. And if you're

689
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:58,400
Speaker 1: going to look hot, look hot for yourself and for

690
00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: your fiance. Yeah, and just go have a great night.

691
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: I don't think I have the care conversation. Tony is like,

692
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 1: not dive clearly. I'm like, yeah, I'm clearly like the

693
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:15,359
Speaker 1: everything not what you should like. My advice should say

694
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 1: do the opposite for me. This is my advice and

695
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 1: then like ps hashtag the opposite. Um. I like this

696
00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: one because it's very relatable for me. It's from Lauren

697
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: and it says I'm thirty three and for the last

698
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,719
Speaker 1: several years I've been dating this guy on and off.

699
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 1: The spark never seems to really be there, and though

700
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:34,720
Speaker 1: there have been times where one or the other seems

701
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:36,880
Speaker 1: more into it, we've never been able to maintain a

702
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: steady relationship. The problem is that every now and then,

703
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 1: I'll get this rush of feelings for him when i

704
00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: haven't seen him in a while, when he'll text me

705
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 1: something witty out of the blue, and when I see

706
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 1: him with his friends or family on social media. Ever

707
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 1: been through something like this. It's like I'm in love

708
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: with him when I'm not with him, and when I'm

709
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 1: with him, I have so much trouble finding the spark

710
00:36:55,600 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: my perceived feeling. This as an alias Becca, because I'm

711
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:08,280
Speaker 1: I'm writing this from my apartment, writing into you, asking

712
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: for advice as an alias. Maybe maybe want to know

713
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: my perceived feelings of him when we're apart never match

714
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 1: how I feel about him when we're together. Does that

715
00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 1: make sense? Is the spark or real thing? Thanks for everything?

716
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 1: We love you girls, Lauren. Well, I have literally never

717
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: felt like I've written an email myself. Wow, what I'm

718
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:39,240
Speaker 1: just I'm just anxiously. Yeah, I've been trying to figure

719
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 1: out what to tell this person and I've been a

720
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 1: little bit flummixed by it because there's some element of

721
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 1: she wants what she can't have. I was just gonna say,

722
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 1: it's like that is the answer. It's like you get lonely,

723
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 1: you want you miss them because you get along with them.

724
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,399
Speaker 1: There's something there that you'll have a connection, but there

725
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:01,760
Speaker 1: is that spark that's missing, and you feel it sometimes

726
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 1: and so it tricks your mind into thinking like, oh,

727
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: I want to be there with this person. And then

728
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 1: you text them and then they don't text you back,

729
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 1: which is what recently happened to me, and then you

730
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 1: want them more. Well, I actually was like, so my

731
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 1: ex and I it was like kind of we broke

732
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 1: we dated and then we broke up, and then it

733
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 1: was like kind of on and off, but like it

734
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:22,880
Speaker 1: was one of those things where I felt like I

735
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:26,280
Speaker 1: could always text him and he would respond. And recently

736
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 1: I texted him and told him I missed him, and

737
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 1: he didn't respond, but I was kind of like, in

738
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: a weird sick way, I was like good for him,

739
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 1: Like he shouldn't always be on the backburner when I

740
00:38:37,640 --> 00:38:40,160
Speaker 1: like I feel like lonely and him to text me.

741
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 1: So yeah, Laura, I've totally and they love the idea

742
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:53,399
Speaker 1: of him more than at Like this is my thought.

743
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 1: With Robert, I'm like, I will I struggle with the fact,

744
00:38:57,239 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 1: will I ever find someone who cares about me and

745
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 1: treats me the way that Robert did? Does? Yeah, And

746
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 1: I think I hold onto that fact. But it's not

747
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 1: fair because he deserves someone who gives him what he

748
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 1: wants in a relationship more than I was able to.

749
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: And so I've had to be that's like very mature,

750
00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 1: mentally stable person in order to realize this and realize

751
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: that we both deserve someone who really wants to be

752
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:24,840
Speaker 1: with each other and and who you do feel that

753
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 1: like undeniable spark with when you're together, not just when

754
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 1: you're a part and don't hear from him for a while.

755
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think you need to move on and

756
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 1: wait for the spark. The spark, I think the spark

757
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: is worth waiting for from what I've heard. Or make

758
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:45,760
Speaker 1: it with the refrigerator. Yeah, that's your other option. Um okay.

759
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about one of my new

760
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 1: favorite websites. It's called adore Me and it is essentially

761
00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: a lingerie site, which I always need help with. Um. I.

762
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:00,919
Speaker 1: I am not in a relation ship and probably won't

763
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: be in one over Valentine's Day, but that doesn't mean

764
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't treat yourself to something special if you

765
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: are having a single Valentine's Day. I were lingerie for

766
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767
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Speaker 1: a great conversation by I want to talk about this

768
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Speaker 1: kind of well at a dormy dot com, I don't

769
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Speaker 1: how to follow up that. Um okay. So at a

770
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771
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772
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773
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Speaker 1: I just got a light pink matching braun andy set,

774
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: so cute. And fit me like a glove. So when

775
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 1: you went on the site, how did it work? It's

776
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Speaker 1: lingerie like, it's not just a bra and panty. It's

777
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778
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779
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Speaker 1: but they have kind of like everything. They also have

780
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781
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Speaker 1: And they have bodysuits and corsets. They have um like

782
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Speaker 1: um braw lets that you wear under shirts. They have

783
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Speaker 1: pretty much everything you would need as far as to

784
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: where undercloser is like something a little more. And the

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Speaker 1: pajamas we had like the we got the button up

786
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Speaker 1: you know, lung for They're so comfortable. I literally felt

787
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Speaker 1: like I was sleeping on a cloud. I love them.

788
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 1: But another thing I was going to say with a

789
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Speaker 1: door meant you get the gorgeous lingerie. So you get

790
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 1: a braw and you get the panties with it, no

791
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: matter what. So when you order it, actually hate the

792
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:37,920
Speaker 1: word panties. Can I say underwear? Okay, I kind of

793
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 1: do too. You said ities panties makes it seem like

794
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 1: women hate panties. Women hate and moist together under something

795
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 1: that guy would wear. I switch, what what do you

796
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:03,520
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797
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 1: sounds better, can I okay? Well, with the dormy you

798
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 1: get gorgeous lingerie, you get a brawl and a panty

799
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 1: set right or underwear or underwear? Um, Eric prefers the

800
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 1: word panty. I like the word underwear, but apparently it

801
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Speaker 1: doesn't sound it sounds boring. UM visit or dormy dot

802
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804
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805
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Speaker 1: don't have to go to the mall, which I hate,

806
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: you know, leaving my house in general, anything since you

807
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 1: shopping online is kind of cool because you really can

808
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:46,799
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809
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:49,359
Speaker 1: when I'm talking underwear, boy, I say panties. When I'm

810
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 1: talking to a girl, I say underwear. Underwear is like

811
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Speaker 1: you're staying home watching Dexter in your underwear, going out,

812
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: going out on a first day in your panties of underwear.

813
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 1: I need underwear from a doormy because I've binge watching

814
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815
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Speaker 1: slash scrubbing in. Does anybody else also feel that when

820
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Speaker 1: you're wearing good underwear you have your A game on?

821
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,600
Speaker 1: It's true when I have to wear like my like

822
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: if I haven't done laundry and I'm in stuff that

823
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: I don't feel sexy in and I'm trying to go out,

824
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 1: it really affects my like state of getting ready. I

825
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: totally agree. If my hair is on point and I'm

826
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 1: wearing good underwear, my day will be good. What if

827
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Speaker 1: your hair is on point and you're not wearing good

828
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Speaker 1: at I always working handerwear thing um. Anyways, one more

829
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830
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Speaker 1: That's so awesome. I love that. I love my pieces

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Speaker 1: like a love. Um what did you like? I want

833
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Speaker 1: to go home and put on the pink one and

834
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 1: just walk around what you just walk around? I was

835
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 1: day one happy Saturday. I want to be at her

836
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:16,319
Speaker 1: house and see what a happy Saturday is light. You're

837
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: making our refrigerators, You're walking around your underwear. Everything looks good,

838
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 1: nothing's cheap. We are all going one happy Saturday to

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Speaker 1: our house and I will just will just in your

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Speaker 1: story the whole thing, like getting home putting on her

841
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,320
Speaker 1: launders in her robe, but that she always were just

842
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Speaker 1: rubbing up on the refrigeratory. Time she walks into the

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Speaker 1: kitchen and then just goes on and cook something, rubbs

844
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Speaker 1: back on it, goes back to the room. Wow, I'm good.

845
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:48,719
Speaker 1: You're really throughout some surprises. Um okay, I want to

846
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 1: read this next email switching gears. Um hi beca Tania

847
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: Amy Mark everyone she met Easton instead of everyone in

848
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: the air. I love you all so much to you

849
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:01,719
Speaker 1: all in inspire me and Tanya. I made a two

850
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 1: thousand and eighteen vision board because of you. I need

851
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 1: some advice and hopefully this isn't confusing. Around seven months ago,

852
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 1: I made plans to go to Coachella with my best

853
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 1: friend who's a girl, and two guy friends of ours.

854
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 1: We got tickets and booked our housing. Around five months ago,

855
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 1: I started dating this amazing guy. I definitely see us

856
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 1: being long term, if not for the rest of my life. Wow.

857
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 1: This past weekend, my boyfriend met the best friend who

858
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 1: I'm going to Coachella with. She has been out of

859
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:27,879
Speaker 1: the country. She mentioned the guys that we were going with,

860
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:30,279
Speaker 1: and a couple of days later, my boyfriend brought up

861
00:45:30,280 --> 00:45:32,160
Speaker 1: the fact that I was going with two guys. I

862
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:33,839
Speaker 1: wasn't trying to hide it from him. I just didn't

863
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 1: think about it. My boyfriend said I could go. He

864
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:38,319
Speaker 1: said that he was going to go to Vegas with

865
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 1: some friends that included girls, but didn't because he thought

866
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:42,840
Speaker 1: it was inappropriate. He said, if I was cool with

867
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 1: him going to Vegas, he didn't care if I went

868
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:47,319
Speaker 1: to Coachella with these guys. I am honestly not cool

869
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: with him going. I told him that he also knows

870
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 1: I've invested a hundreds of dollars into Coachella, he said.

871
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 1: He He said he wants me to go. I don't

872
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 1: want to lose my boyfriend, but I also don't want

873
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,919
Speaker 1: to miss out on Coachella? What do I do? Thanks

874
00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:01,720
Speaker 1: so much? You guys have the best podcast. Don't tell Ashley,

875
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 1: I am ben didn't try. I hit her back and said,

876
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: why can't you invite him to Coachella? I tried that

877
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 1: it didn't work. He's not into it or couldn't go,

878
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: or didn't want to spend the money or not into

879
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:16,239
Speaker 1: it or something like that. But the invite says a

880
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: lot totally. I also said, look, you can't be a hypocrite.

881
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 1: If he's cool with you going, why don't you just

882
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: be cool with him going to Vegas? That's the best

883
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 1: thing got That was actually pretty clean. If she extends,

884
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 1: if she really wants to marry, like it's that serious,

885
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 1: she's the future, you would want him to go to

886
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 1: Coachella with you, or at least extend the end. I

887
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:36,799
Speaker 1: can meet my friends, come hang out. If he's not

888
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:39,880
Speaker 1: into it, he can't get mad at you because you extended,

889
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 1: then it's up to him to decline. But don't you

890
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: think she needs to chill about Vegas? But let me

891
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: play devil's advocate here? Are men less trustworthy than women? Yes,

892
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: drunk guy in Vegas with hot girls is different. Than

893
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 1: girl going to Coachella with some guys and some girls

894
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 1: like girls aren't thinking like that. Guys think differently than that, right, well, yeah,

895
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 1: and if you're with your like your guy friends, and

896
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 1: then there's girls and sometimes it's this is the thing

897
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: girls don't really like. Girl. I don't know if I'm

898
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: gonna get blasted for this, but sometimes girls don't have

899
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:19,319
Speaker 1: the respect for other girls. Like when they're guys who

900
00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:21,880
Speaker 1: are in a relationship, they don't really think of like respecting,

901
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:23,520
Speaker 1: you know, if they're into the guy. They're into the guy.

902
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 1: They don't think like, oh, he's in a relationship or um.

903
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: And like you said, girls don't really think like if

904
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: this girl's excited about Coachella for whatever reason, I actually

905
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 1: can to Coachella, but she's excited about what I'm saying,

906
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 1: like the the experience. What's he going to Vegas far

907
00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:44,479
Speaker 1: with these girls party and drinking strip clubs? Who knows?

908
00:47:44,760 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe he wants to see Celen Dionie. He's probably

909
00:47:49,440 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 1: going for Celendon. Guys. I know that it's it's you say, well,

910
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 1: if you're okay with that, you should be okay with that.

911
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 1: But I think it could be two different scenarios. Who

912
00:47:57,040 --> 00:48:00,200
Speaker 1: are the girls that are going with him? We don't know. No, uh,

913
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 1: it just as including girls, some friends, including girls mystery blonde,

914
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 1: Mr Blunett. What if he just what if he just

915
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 1: made that up? What if he just made it up

916
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 1: because she said she was going to Cotchell with guys.

917
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:18,120
Speaker 1: By the way, there's some girls going just like the field.

918
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:21,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean personally, how I would handle

919
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 1: the situation. I'd say, you go to Vegas and I'll

920
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,919
Speaker 1: go to Coachella. Have a great time. Don't make any

921
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 1: dumb decisions. I won't make any dumb decisions. Yeah, Or

922
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 1: I would just say I'm sleeping, you know, in my

923
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 1: own room, or if you don't have your own room,

924
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: I'm it's gonna sleep on the couch by myself. Just

925
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:39,520
Speaker 1: make it very like apparent that you're going with guys,

926
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: but you're going to be very much not into the guys,

927
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 1: and then saying I would first and buy him though,

928
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: I think that's good. Yeah, And by the way, going

929
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 1: to Vegas with girls, if he's gonna screw around, he's

930
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,239
Speaker 1: gonna screw around, whether he's going to Vegas with girls

931
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: or he's here in town. I mean if if he

932
00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:56,440
Speaker 1: want to screw around, he's gon screw round. I know

933
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: it teas it up a little bit because you're drinking,

934
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 1: you're in Vegas. But if you're worried about him screwing

935
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:04,000
Speaker 1: around with girls, he can do that whether he's in Vegas.

936
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:06,360
Speaker 1: That's a very good point. It's like, it's just because

937
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:07,759
Speaker 1: it's in front of you in Vegas doesn't mean it

938
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 1: can't be in front of you somewhere else. And you're

939
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:12,520
Speaker 1: gonna shooting in Vegas, is gonna shoot you anywhere, So

940
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 1: you kind of gotta get over that fear. I guess yeah,

941
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,720
Speaker 1: I think it would be good for y'all, maybe maybe

942
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 1: for him to go. And it kind of is a

943
00:49:20,120 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 1: lesson in trust in you girls relationship. You say like, oh,

944
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:24,680
Speaker 1: I can I trust you to go out even if

945
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:26,560
Speaker 1: there's girls that are going to be there, And you

946
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:28,720
Speaker 1: trust me to go to Coachell even if there's guys

947
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 1: that are going to be there, and if not, Dexter

948
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 1: Tany needs to go pretty soon. But before she does,

949
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 1: can we hit on some more Tanya topics? You run

950
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 1: into Mr Whole Foods. Tanya is getting set up with

951
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:48,799
Speaker 1: a magician. Tanya is getting set up with the friends, say,

952
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: is going to set you up? Right? Yes? A magician,

953
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 1: Like he pulls scarves out of his arm. You know,

954
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure what kind of magician he is,

955
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 1: but he seems like a legit magician. Like he's like,

956
00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 1: not like playing a rabbit magician logician. No, you're like

957
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: a magician. No, not at all? That is that a positive? Uh? No?

958
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 1: At first I was like, I don't really know if

959
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:17,520
Speaker 1: I believe in, but like, there's nothing to believe in

960
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 1: because you just do it. I'm learning a lot, I know,

961
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's not like a plus or minus.

962
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:26,320
Speaker 1: It's more of like a big giant question mark deal breaker.

963
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:27,879
Speaker 1: If on the day he tries to do a magic,

964
00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:38,320
Speaker 1: probably probably confused. Love this Saturday and here's a quarter listen,

965
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 1: I try the rest? How do I say this? Yeah?

966
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:49,200
Speaker 1: I mean I've tried every dating everything but a magician.

967
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 1: So who's to say that this work? As as he's

968
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: not trying to do the magic for you? And you're

969
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: and then like would be good if you're on the

970
00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:58,680
Speaker 1: date and then you're getting intrigued and you're like, right,

971
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:00,720
Speaker 1: he hasn't done anything, and you're like, do a tricky

972
00:51:00,960 --> 00:51:02,640
Speaker 1: because it's going to be eating you alive. Like, are

973
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:05,120
Speaker 1: you a good magician if he does some thing that's

974
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:06,959
Speaker 1: really amazing and you're not and he's not just doing

975
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: it as a pickup. Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I mean,

976
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 1: we'll see and the next week we'll talk about the

977
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 1: fact that you're meeting with a matchmaker next week. Next week,

978
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 1: I also have I also have to I still have

979
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 1: to send her a text to someone from her phone

980
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:26,440
Speaker 1: on the quiz next it's okay, she has an appointment

981
00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 1: of seeing a matchmaker. Yeah, I am, I know. I

982
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,160
Speaker 1: can't believe. I forgot. We should have talked a lot.

983
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:34,399
Speaker 1: But the matchmaker appointment is next week, so we'll do another.

984
00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:37,560
Speaker 1: Y want to talk about are you going on a

985
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,280
Speaker 1: date with the matchmaker this week? I mean the magician

986
00:51:40,360 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 1: this week. It's in their hands, so like whenever, like

987
00:51:43,800 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: the person that's it's not I don't have his number,

988
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: so I basically just said, you can give him a number.

989
00:51:51,760 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 1: You can do whatever you want, like you tell me

990
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:56,520
Speaker 1: what to do. Okay, so not this week, but you

991
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:59,400
Speaker 1: will have a date about We'll have your day and

992
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:02,120
Speaker 1: I want to go on to date, just like a stockbroker,

993
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:07,799
Speaker 1: just a regular old dude, tried that. What happened? No,

994
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:14,640
Speaker 1: just like he just didn't like me. Wait where making progress?

995
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 1: We're making progress because we're back in the day. She

996
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 1: would have been like, I think he disappeared and uh

997
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 1: moved to a difference today. Yeah, I think he lost

998
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 1: his spoof forgot how to speak English. It was never

999
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 1: about me, but now it's all me. No, it's not

1000
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:34,879
Speaker 1: all Its weird like, no, it's gonna take a special one,

1001
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 1: you know, a magician. Magician. Okay, I love you guys. Okay,

1002
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 1: love in your pink lunger with the refrigerator. Um. Okay.

1003
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:50,799
Speaker 1: So we got an email about finances and I wanted

1004
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 1: to bring an expert in, so we have Jesse Draper

1005
00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:57,959
Speaker 1: on the line. Jessie, are you there, Hi, Hi, thank

1006
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 1: you for being on We I definitely need some help

1007
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 1: with the financial area, so I'm glad you're here for

1008
00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 1: this email and for me to learn something to Um.

1009
00:53:07,000 --> 00:53:09,400
Speaker 1: So we got an email from Valerie and it says, hi,

1010
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 1: back Antonia. I wanted to ask you guys about finances

1011
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:15,840
Speaker 1: and being a responsible adult. You're both too successful ladies,

1012
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:17,440
Speaker 1: and I wanted to know if you ever struggled with

1013
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 1: money or saving. I'm twenty two and I've been working

1014
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:22,680
Speaker 1: since I was seventeen and still haven't saved a penny.

1015
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 1: I've been trying to get out of debt and stop

1016
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: living paycheck to paycheck. I want to know how you

1017
00:53:26,920 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 1: guys keep in check and can be money smart. I

1018
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: just need help getting it all together. Any advice would help. Thanks,

1019
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,360
Speaker 1: love and blessings, Valerie. Well, it sounds like it's a

1020
00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 1: question for you guys that you should probably share what

1021
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:40,440
Speaker 1: you know, what you guys have, what has worked for you.

1022
00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 1: But I think you know a common misconception that I

1023
00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:46,680
Speaker 1: hear a lot, especially from women, unfortunately because first time

1024
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 1: reason like when we look at historically, men take care

1025
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:54,320
Speaker 1: of the finances. So I first of all encourage every

1026
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 1: woman to take care of their own finances. If your

1027
00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,960
Speaker 1: husband's in charge or your significant others in charge time,

1028
00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 1: how make sure that you're in on every financial conversation

1029
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:06,319
Speaker 1: even if you don't understand it, because you will learn

1030
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,439
Speaker 1: and how else will you learn other than being there

1031
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:12,920
Speaker 1: and participating? Um. But also when you're saving, you know, yes,

1032
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:15,640
Speaker 1: cut away whatever you can. You know, there's like fifty

1033
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:19,840
Speaker 1: twenty rule where you use fifty towards your expenses, fifty

1034
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 1: percent of your income towards your expenses, and then there's

1035
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 1: twenty just to blow and like, you know, go do

1036
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 1: whatever you want to do, buy Starbucks, by clothes, whatever

1037
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 1: you want, and then you should save. So um, that's

1038
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:36,239
Speaker 1: a really really great rule of um. And I like

1039
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: to give credit to Alexa on Tobal from Learned Dusk,

1040
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:42,120
Speaker 1: which is a great financial advisor if you guys ever

1041
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: you need one, and um, she has a great book

1042
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 1: called Financially Fearless that can kind of teach you all

1043
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 1: the basics there. But something else to think about is

1044
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 1: we're so focused on saving, and so yes, you should save,

1045
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 1: but in order to get out of debt, you need

1046
00:54:57,680 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 1: to also grow your money. So you're savings that you are,

1047
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: you know, putting away, it's just going to sit there.

1048
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:07,239
Speaker 1: And so some ways to grow your money is one

1049
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 1: by investing in the stock market, where you can kind

1050
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,680
Speaker 1: of put it away. It's a safe for a long

1051
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Speaker 1: term investment and what I typically would recommend for someone

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00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:19,279
Speaker 1: who isn't familiar with investing in the stock market. And look,

1053
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 1: you don't have to put millions of dollars away. You

1054
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,360
Speaker 1: can put you know, a hundred dollars investment stocks. You know,

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00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: just put twenty dollars away every month until you have

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00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:32,319
Speaker 1: a hundred bucks to you know, put in the stock market.

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00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 1: There's so many easy ways to do that now, um

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00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 1: and investing things you understand. Just so Starbucks is like

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00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 1: a Fortune size hundred company, which means it's one of

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Speaker 1: the five hundred best performing companies in the stock market. Uh, Starbucks, Amazon,

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00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 1: things you've heard of and understand, and then you can

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Speaker 1: read about them and see how they're doing. And so

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00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 1: I always say, if it's your first time investing in

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00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:57,080
Speaker 1: the stock market, you know, make sure you're you pick

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00:55:57,120 --> 00:56:00,040
Speaker 1: a couple of stocks, but you know you understand and

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00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:03,719
Speaker 1: have heard of and um, follow the Fortune five. I

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00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:06,080
Speaker 1: think that will be the best the best case scenario.

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00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 1: But there's also some great apps. There's Acorns is one,

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00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,839
Speaker 1: robin Hood is one where you can just connect your

1070
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:15,759
Speaker 1: big bank account, put a hundred dollars you know into

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00:56:15,800 --> 00:56:19,400
Speaker 1: Amazon or wherever and let it grow. Because that's how

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00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:21,439
Speaker 1: you will get out of debt. You will grow your money.

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00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:23,760
Speaker 1: You don't want money just sitting there and like turning

1074
00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:26,680
Speaker 1: scale because when you have to dip into your savings,

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00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:30,080
Speaker 1: nothing will have happened, and you'll kind of end up

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00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 1: back where you started. And so I think that is

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00:56:32,760 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 1: the difference between um, saving and growing your money. Yeah,

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00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 1: and I mean I was. I mean I really didn't

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00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: even start saving till I was around twenty seven. And

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Speaker 1: so the fact that you know, Valerie, that you're twenty

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Speaker 1: two and you're you know, really looking and trying and

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00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:52,560
Speaker 1: working hard to get out of debt, I think that's

1083
00:56:52,960 --> 00:56:55,440
Speaker 1: you know, I think the fact that you're ready to

1084
00:56:55,560 --> 00:56:58,080
Speaker 1: start that is a is a great start in general.

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00:56:58,719 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 1: But no, no, I live you tea for so long. Yeah,

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00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:05,800
Speaker 1: she's still on top of it. I know. I was

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00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 1: definitely not thinking about No, I'm like, wow, I'm trying

1088
00:57:08,640 --> 00:57:12,080
Speaker 1: to think of twenty two. I was eating a pizza

1089
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 1: and saving it for a few days to save. That

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00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:20,120
Speaker 1: was my way of saving money. So, um, well, thank you.

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00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 1: That's a great advice. I mean even for me, it's

1092
00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 1: like I have a savings account now and it's like

1093
00:57:24,040 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 1: what do I do with this? It's just sitting there.

1094
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:28,560
Speaker 1: So I think that's very important for everyone to hear

1095
00:57:28,600 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 1: that's listening to this. Yeah, I think definitely grow it.

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00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:32,919
Speaker 1: You know, if you have a savings account just sitting

1097
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 1: there and you're not You'll still have to kind of

1098
00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:37,600
Speaker 1: like define your risk profile. So that means like, how

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00:57:37,680 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 1: comfortable are you investing in the stock market, because yes,

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00:57:40,840 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 1: you know, you could lose it all, Like that's definitely

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00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 1: a possibility and you should always keep that in the

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00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:48,160
Speaker 1: back of your mind, but it's very unlikely if you

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00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 1: stick to the companies that you know. But so you

1104
00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 1: could say, you know what, I'm going to take fifty

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00:57:52,240 --> 00:57:54,120
Speaker 1: percent of my savings. I'm going to take, you know,

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00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:57,200
Speaker 1: twenty percent of my savings and grows that and focus

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00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 1: on growing back. I'm still saving and I still have

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00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:03,000
Speaker 1: some in there, but I could also be growing at

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00:58:03,080 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: least some of it and also then maybe become a

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00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:08,000
Speaker 1: little more comfortable and eventually your risk profile grows and

1111
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 1: you're like, I'm gonna I'm going to invest all of it. Yeah, yeah,

1112
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm so clueless when it comes to this stuff.

1113
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: So I would actually like to have a like sit

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00:58:15,320 --> 00:58:17,680
Speaker 1: down meeting with you and actually talk about this for

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00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:21,360
Speaker 1: longer terms, So any time time. Well, thank you so

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00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 1: much for coming on. No problem, alright, I have a

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00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:27,640
Speaker 1: good one. Okay, thanks, all right, But one thing I'd

1118
00:58:27,680 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 1: like to add if I could. Guy taught me this once.

1119
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 1: It was great advice is have it automatically leave your

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00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: checking account, go into your savings account, so that you

1121
00:58:34,360 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 1: never even see it, because if you see it, you

1122
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:39,520
Speaker 1: will spend it. If you don't see it, and it's

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00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: fifty bucks is five bucks a week, pretty soon that's

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00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 1: going to be a decent amount of money. And then

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00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 1: and then you can decide what to do with that situation.

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00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:48,520
Speaker 1: Suddenly you have a same My dad to do that

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00:58:48,960 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 1: very early on was take ten percent right away, set

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Speaker 1: it aside like it doesn't exist. Just put it away.

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Speaker 1: And then you know, like you said, you know, you

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00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 1: don't see it, you look at it. You just keep

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00:58:57,080 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 1: building it up for something later. Yeah, I know I have.

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00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 1: Every time money goes into my account, I keep my

1133
00:59:03,040 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 1: checking account at a certain level, and anything above that

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00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:10,120
Speaker 1: I put into my savings account. So but I mean literally,

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00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 1: I mean literally, until the past couple of years, I

1136
00:59:12,520 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 1: was just had no clue what I was doing. Well,

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00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:17,880
Speaker 1: most people live paycheck to paychecks, Yeah, yeah, and I

1138
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 1: mean that's especially at twenty two. It's very normal that

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00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 1: you're It's like I said, I think it's very smart

1140
00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:26,440
Speaker 1: that you're already thinking about, you know, um, having a

1141
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 1: savings account and getting out of debts. You know, it's

1142
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 1: a good move, a good move. I don't know where

1143
00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:40,200
Speaker 1: the man crazy thing is. I'm like trying to like, actually,

1144
00:59:40,280 --> 00:59:43,040
Speaker 1: man creates. Have you ever heard of man creates? Okay? Um,

1145
00:59:43,720 --> 00:59:45,320
Speaker 1: I'm mean ask you that again, Eric, have you ever

1146
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: heard of man creates? No? Um? Okay? So I always

1147
00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: feel like the guys are kind of in charge of

1148
00:59:54,320 --> 00:59:56,480
Speaker 1: the gift giving on Valentine's Day and they kind of

1149
00:59:56,520 --> 00:59:58,320
Speaker 1: get the short end of the stick. Would do you

1150
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 1: agree with that? Like we get flowers or get chocolate.

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01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:03,640
Speaker 1: But it's hard, it's and it's hard for us girls

1152
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:05,520
Speaker 1: to find something that guys will like. It's always like

1153
01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:08,520
Speaker 1: is this corny? While they like it? What what do

1154
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:12,200
Speaker 1: they want? Um? And man Crates is solving that problem.

1155
01:00:12,360 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 1: And they have literally boxes in would that you have

1156
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 1: to break open with a crowbar? Is it a crowbar?

1157
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:22,960
Speaker 1: Is that what it comes with? Yeah, we had some

1158
01:00:23,040 --> 01:00:24,640
Speaker 1: hard time. We had a hard time getting it open

1159
01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: in here. But they have specialized boxes. So if you

1160
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:31,240
Speaker 1: if your guy likes the NFL, they have an NFL bar.

1161
01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 1: Were crate giving the Moscow Mule. They have a Moscow mule,

1162
01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:38,920
Speaker 1: which I love. Actually, they have whiskey appreciation crate. They

1163
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,080
Speaker 1: have if you want to have like a barbecue, they

1164
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:44,440
Speaker 1: have like a grill kit crate. It's brilliant and you

1165
01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:48,600
Speaker 1: can customize it. Um. They have traditional Valentine's gifts like

1166
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:52,440
Speaker 1: the jerky heart or the salami bouquet. What guy, I

1167
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 1: want to love that? That just sounds like a dream

1168
01:00:56,480 --> 01:00:58,880
Speaker 1: come true. They all are the one I got with

1169
01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 1: the beer kit and they have beer snacks and everything

1170
01:01:01,480 --> 01:01:04,680
Speaker 1: with the glasses. It's I love it. Um. If you

1171
01:01:04,720 --> 01:01:06,960
Speaker 1: go to man Creates dot com, you can pick the

1172
01:01:07,040 --> 01:01:09,440
Speaker 1: perfect gift and then wait for that magic moment. When

1173
01:01:09,480 --> 01:01:12,040
Speaker 1: it arrives, he gets to pry it open with an

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01:01:12,080 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 1: included crowbar. Not to mention, every gift comes with a

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01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 1: complete satisfaction guarantee. UM. So if you're not happy, you

1176
01:01:19,960 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 1: get a refund. Who would not be happy with the

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01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:28,480
Speaker 1: Moscow Mule? Your dude's gonna be like a little drunk happy. Um.

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Speaker 1: All you have to do go to man Creates dot

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01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:33,840
Speaker 1: com slash beecca for five percent off. They don't offer

1180
01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 1: a discount anywhere else, so get your five percent off

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01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:40,840
Speaker 1: right now. At Man creates dot com slash Rebecca. Once again,

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01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:44,640
Speaker 1: Man creates dot com slash Beecca. One thing we haven't

1183
01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:47,439
Speaker 1: talked about at all, and whenever Meredith graze in the news,

1184
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 1: we need to be on top of that. This is

1185
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:59,880
Speaker 1: what it was. Okay, Um, so did I employ this? Okay? Everyone?

1186
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:02,120
Speaker 1: And you know, or if you've listened to the podcast

1187
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 1: or you follow me on Instagram, you know that I saw.

1188
01:02:05,080 --> 01:02:06,800
Speaker 1: First of all, I'm obsessed with grace anatomy. That's why

1189
01:02:06,800 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 1: it's called scrubbing in. I'm explaining to Eric why scrubbing in?

1190
01:02:10,480 --> 01:02:14,320
Speaker 1: And I'm not a medical professional, um, nor have I

1191
01:02:14,400 --> 01:02:17,000
Speaker 1: ever played a doctor like you. I don't really have

1192
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:19,920
Speaker 1: any legitimate reason other than I'm obsessed. But I was

1193
01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 1: on a flight with Ellen Pompeo and she was with

1194
01:02:22,360 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 1: her family and the whole flight I was just so

1195
01:02:26,240 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 1: in my head, like how am I going to say Hi?

1196
01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 1: Do I say Hi? Like? Do I just let her be? Um?

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01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:34,000
Speaker 1: Ends up? I asked her husband and he said no

1198
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 1: and whatever. He was just like, you know, with the

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Speaker 1: kids around, like maybe not as a good time. So

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Speaker 1: I just kind of was like whatever. At least she

1201
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:44,960
Speaker 1: didn't reject me that would have heard a lot worse

1202
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:48,680
Speaker 1: he did, but she didn't. But I'm kind of terrified

1203
01:02:48,720 --> 01:02:51,880
Speaker 1: of her, Like she is like such a strong powerhouse

1204
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:55,080
Speaker 1: of a woman in my opinion, and I feel like

1205
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:59,880
Speaker 1: this Hollywood Reporter article kind of just exemplifies who she

1206
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:02,240
Speaker 1: is as a woman in like knowing her worth and

1207
01:03:02,320 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 1: how powerful she is on that show is really actually

1208
01:03:05,800 --> 01:03:08,920
Speaker 1: super cool to me because all these years I have

1209
01:03:09,960 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 1: had these emotions, this emotional connection with Patrick Dempsey and

1210
01:03:13,720 --> 01:03:18,040
Speaker 1: her character Um on the show, and when he died,

1211
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:20,600
Speaker 1: I was like, how are they gonna continue? Like how

1212
01:03:20,760 --> 01:03:26,560
Speaker 1: is this spoiler alert? How are they going to continue

1213
01:03:27,320 --> 01:03:29,520
Speaker 1: to have this show without this love interest? And I

1214
01:03:29,640 --> 01:03:31,720
Speaker 1: put a lot of weight in that, and reading this article,

1215
01:03:32,280 --> 01:03:35,920
Speaker 1: I realized that had the role been reversed and her

1216
01:03:36,080 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 1: character died, I don't know that I'd still watched the show.

1217
01:03:38,880 --> 01:03:41,280
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'd been invested, because I've followed

1218
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:44,160
Speaker 1: her character and her career on the show, and I

1219
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:47,840
Speaker 1: think she she is She's the Gray and Gray's anatomy.

1220
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:51,680
Speaker 1: And so this article of her going into this meeting

1221
01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:54,360
Speaker 1: and demanding that she makes this amount of money when

1222
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:56,560
Speaker 1: she's been the voice of the show I thought was

1223
01:03:56,720 --> 01:04:02,000
Speaker 1: so um like empowering for men, and I felt like, wow,

1224
01:04:02,080 --> 01:04:04,760
Speaker 1: what a what a And maybe right now it's a

1225
01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:06,600
Speaker 1: time where you have a lot much more power as

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Speaker 1: a woman, like as people are realizing, you know, in

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Speaker 1: the past, maybe there wasn't that. I think this movement

1228
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Speaker 1: to stand on, you know, it's become more of a

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Speaker 1: time where women feel that they can do that and

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Speaker 1: that they have the power to do that. But I'm

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01:04:21,200 --> 01:04:24,200
Speaker 1: still terrified over I don't think that. In the article

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Speaker 1: it said she said men have no problem walking in

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Speaker 1: and demanding exactly what they feel they deserve, where women

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01:04:30,000 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 1: tend to be more like, well, you know, I don't

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Speaker 1: want to appear greeding and I don't want to step

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Speaker 1: in any tones and gosh, they're so generous to begin with,

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Speaker 1: and that's nonsense. Women should be able to go in

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01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:40,840
Speaker 1: there and demand it. And that's what she did, and

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01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 1: it's inspiring. Is it easier for me to negotiate Rebecca

1240
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:48,720
Speaker 1: than myself? Like I can be a tough girl or

1241
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:51,120
Speaker 1: another girl, but it's hard for me to do it

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01:04:51,320 --> 01:04:53,200
Speaker 1: for myself, I know. And I feel like it's the

1243
01:04:53,240 --> 01:04:56,520
Speaker 1: same way. It's like you almost you feel like you're

1244
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:58,680
Speaker 1: asking for too much or you should just be grateful

1245
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:00,960
Speaker 1: that you're giving the opportunity. But it's like, and I

1246
01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:03,320
Speaker 1: don't know, I mean, I don't know do men feel

1247
01:05:03,360 --> 01:05:05,400
Speaker 1: that like is there that sense of like can I

1248
01:05:05,520 --> 01:05:07,880
Speaker 1: think that happens a lot in in the business in general.

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01:05:07,920 --> 01:05:11,560
Speaker 1: Everybody's so afraid to lose a job or not have

1250
01:05:11,720 --> 01:05:14,840
Speaker 1: a job that I think male or female on a

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01:05:15,080 --> 01:05:18,280
Speaker 1: at a certain level, everybody's intimidated to ask for more

1252
01:05:18,360 --> 01:05:20,480
Speaker 1: because no one wants to lose a job or asking

1253
01:05:20,520 --> 01:05:22,160
Speaker 1: from more because it's so hard to get the job

1254
01:05:22,400 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 1: to begin with. Now, if you talk about like same

1255
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:30,000
Speaker 1: level male female in some position, maybe that's been the

1256
01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:32,360
Speaker 1: norm that men sort of feel they can just ask

1257
01:05:32,440 --> 01:05:36,040
Speaker 1: for whatever they want. I think it's still I think

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Speaker 1: it just depends on the character of the person. I

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Speaker 1: think it's a difficult thing to ask at any point

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Speaker 1: if you feel like it could jeopardize by asking just

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Speaker 1: a little too much, I could lose it all in

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Speaker 1: this business, male or female. She also, I think, and

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Speaker 1: it's great that article and what she went after and

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Speaker 1: the way she approached it in was, you know, given

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Speaker 1: what she was due. It's it's phenomenal, But she had

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Speaker 1: a very powerful woman backing her up as well, and

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Speaker 1: Sean right, so that helps a lot. On Shana tells

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Speaker 1: you go tell me what you feel pretty darn secure

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Speaker 1: that if I go do what she just told me,

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Speaker 1: I have somebody backing me, and that gives you a

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Speaker 1: lot of strength. I was going to say that was

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Speaker 1: my next thing. And in the article she mentions that

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Speaker 1: Shawna signed a nine figure deal with Netflix, and in

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Speaker 1: my head, I'm like, I don't think I've ever wadden,

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Speaker 1: like read anything that had nine figures. I know it

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Speaker 1: was millions, so and you're thinking, that's the person who

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Speaker 1: has my back. Of course you're going to have a

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Speaker 1: sense of like, I can do anything to give you

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Speaker 1: some strength. But I was also very distraught by the

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Speaker 1: fact that she said when Patrick Well actually mentioned the

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Speaker 1: word tumultuous, and I was like, this could have been

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Speaker 1: left out. I did not need to know that it

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Speaker 1: was a tumultuous ending. But you know, I just I

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Speaker 1: thought it was very inspiring and gave me. It made

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Speaker 1: me think a lot about how like women in general

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Speaker 1: approach anything. And I think there was this whole thing

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Speaker 1: with the E News anchor Cat Sadler that um like,

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Speaker 1: you know, Jason Kinneda is making more than her, but

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Speaker 1: at a time Juliana Ransick and they didn't name Julie Ryansick,

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Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure that that's who it was. She

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Speaker 1: was the co host and she was making triple what

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Speaker 1: Jason kinne Yeah, and I and I think that's just

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Speaker 1: kind of like if you're you know, I don't think

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Speaker 1: it has to be this thing like women all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden need to be making more than men. But

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Speaker 1: I do think if a woman is doing more, worker

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Speaker 1: is in a position where she is more um what's

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Speaker 1: the word like, not more important, but more value value

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Speaker 1: value to it. I agree with what you're saying, like,

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Speaker 1: if you're bringing value to the table and whatever it is,

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Speaker 1: male or female, you should be paid what you're do.

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Speaker 1: But if you're if you're the male star of something,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't be penalized because you're a male person. But

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Speaker 1: a woman should definitely not be penalized, and she should

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Speaker 1: be given the exact same or more if she's in

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Speaker 1: that position to get more, Like I don't think actually

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Speaker 1: negotiating you sort of have to figure out what am

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Speaker 1: I word earth, what are other people making, and then

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Speaker 1: go in and do your best to get that and

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Speaker 1: then know what also you would accept well, And I

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Speaker 1: don't like I mean, I feel like there's been times

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Speaker 1: where I felt like the like men have been kind

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Speaker 1: of villainized or it's been like this weird thing about

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Speaker 1: a little bit of a downer on men, and I

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Speaker 1: don't think that's right either. But I just feel like,

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Speaker 1: if you're a value in like in this position, she

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Speaker 1: knows like, this is my voice, I'm the I'm what

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Speaker 1: is it called the over when you're she like does

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Speaker 1: her monologue or whatever, Yeah, it's her inner monologue. It's

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Speaker 1: you see the show through her. Yeah, and it's like

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Speaker 1: you think about how many seasons and how many just

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Speaker 1: billions of viewers that they've had on that show. She's

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Speaker 1: show Dome. Roseanne bar is making the most on the

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Speaker 1: New Roseanne. Yeah, right by the by the perfect example.

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Speaker 1: If she wasn't and John Goodman was just because he's

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Speaker 1: a male, that would be really weird. But yeah, I

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Speaker 1: love the part of the article. I didn't love it,

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Speaker 1: but I was. I was very entertained by this juicy

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Speaker 1: tidbit that you know, the Friends team that they all

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Speaker 1: six of them teamed up and oh yeah, we all

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Speaker 1: want this, and so they had no choice but to

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Speaker 1: give them me you a million in episodes. So she

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Speaker 1: went to Patrick Dempson said, hey, you know, you and

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Speaker 1: I team up here. What do you think? And he says,

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Speaker 1: but I do believe the modern family cast the adults

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Speaker 1: yeah smart like Kaylee Cook was getting the same as that.

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Speaker 1: You guys. Yeah, the the information on Patrick and that

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Speaker 1: article killed me a little bit. But you know, aside

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Speaker 1: from that, the article itself was really really cool, and

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Speaker 1: it was something that I was like, I felt this

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Speaker 1: like pride to be such a loyal fan to her

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Speaker 1: for all these years, you know, all of a sudden,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, well, it's really cool to like have this

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Speaker 1: respect and admiration for someone even though she terrifies me.

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Speaker 1: Who is has this confidence and and knows her worth?

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Speaker 1: I thought that was cool. Um, Eric, you and your

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Speaker 1: wife wrote a children's book, is what I'm hearing? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: We did go to bring it along, is it. My

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Speaker 1: daughter's name is Sabella, her nickname is Seby. So how

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Speaker 1: did this come about? This was just a passion project.

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Speaker 1: We are not children's authors by trade. It's something we

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Speaker 1: sat down one day. I was actually doing a show

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Speaker 1: up in Vancouver at the time, and we were like,

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Speaker 1: we we want to write a children's book, and we

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Speaker 1: sort of just jumped in and wanted to do something

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Speaker 1: that wasn't out there on the market, which is talking

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Speaker 1: about Latin dancing and with Dancing with the Stars and

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Speaker 1: these shows. Ballroom dancing is so big, there's nothing out

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Speaker 1: there representative of it in the book, you know, the

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Speaker 1: book stage it's all ballet. That's what you buy a

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Speaker 1: girl's book. It's ballet. And what's great about Latin rhythms

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Speaker 1: or ballroom as you need a male partner as you

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Speaker 1: see what you know dance with the stars. All these

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Speaker 1: guys are tremendous athletes. So this was a book sort

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Speaker 1: of a nod you know, culturally, because my wife's Puerto Rican,

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Speaker 1: my daughter's half Puerto Rican. Obviously that's um going into

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Speaker 1: Latin dances and you know, celebrating the love of dance

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Speaker 1: that she has and and making it fun for boys

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Speaker 1: and girls. It's so cute. So it's called Seby in

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Speaker 1: the Land of Wait, do you dance? I mean I

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Speaker 1: can't actually did chat shot from my wedding, so I actually, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I met hand dance. I'm not it takes a lot

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Speaker 1: of practice. Yeah, I don't just jump into yeah I'm sane,

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Speaker 1: but does your wife did? She grabbed as a dancer,

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Speaker 1: so that that's that's where that part comes from. You.

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Speaker 1: I love this and I wish Unfortunately in podcast you

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Speaker 1: can't see it but all into the storia. But it's

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Speaker 1: so cute, the graphics are. How long did it? What's

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Speaker 1: the process of doing? Really long process? We had no

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Speaker 1: idea how It's been a couple of years as it,

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Speaker 1: you know, to put it together. We wrote it, then

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Speaker 1: we had to sell it to a publisher, Penguin Celebrators

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Speaker 1: one who came on and published it, and then we

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Speaker 1: had to deal with the illustrator, which was another practically

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Speaker 1: practically a year. You get all the illustrations together and

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Speaker 1: then come up with a launch date. So you know,

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Speaker 1: now you can buy it everywhere. You can buy an Amazon,

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Speaker 1: you can buy it in bookstores, you can. You know,

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Speaker 1: Penguins do a great job of getting it out there. Um,

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Speaker 1: but it was a long, long road and it's something

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Speaker 1: that there's actually a link on the back of it

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Speaker 1: sebibook dot com, but if you go to it, we

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Speaker 1: did a little dance tutorial for kids. So my daughters

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Speaker 1: in it with her three best friends and so they're

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Speaker 1: doing a little cha cha am ange and a samba.

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Speaker 1: How fine. Okay. So that's sebbibook dot com and the

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Speaker 1: book is called Sebby in the Land of Cha Cha Chaw.

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Speaker 1: How fun. Well, thank you for coming on today. We

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Speaker 1: have not had someone who has stayed with us the

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Speaker 1: whole episode. I don't think have we. No, definitely not

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Speaker 1: a guy. Well you like really hung in there with us.

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Speaker 1: We're a little neurotic and crazy. Um, but thank you

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Speaker 1: for coming. Eric and his book, Sebby in the Land

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Speaker 1: of Cha Cha is available now at sebibook dot com.

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Speaker 1: Thank you to Jesse Draper for the financial advice, and

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Speaker 1: thank you all for listening. Thank you for your emails.

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Speaker 1: There's so many we have every week and we just

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Speaker 1: can't get through them all. But I love reading them all,

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Speaker 1: so thank you for sending them in. Continue to send

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Speaker 1: them in at scrubbing in at i heeart media dot com.

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Speaker 1: Next week we'll talk about my dinner. I mean my drink.

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Speaker 1: Stay no dinner, no dinner, just drinks. You know, there's dinner.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming back. Yeah, there's dinner. We'll have Eric back.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about dinner, and we'll talk about

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Speaker 1: Tanny's matchmaker visit, and I'll text someone in Tanny's phone,

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Speaker 1: which I was supposed to do today, but I still

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Speaker 1: need to think about that. So um tweet me and

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Speaker 1: send me suggestions of who I should um text and

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Speaker 1: what I should say. And until then, time of death.

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Speaker 1: What is it trying to nightmare