Speaker 1: Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
Speaker 1: put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
Speaker 1: share with you on our daily podcast. Are you a
Speaker 1: little stressed out? Maybe your mom or a dad, Maybe
Speaker 1: you're a single mom or dad. Parenthood brings such joy.
Speaker 1: There's nothing in the world, nothing that compares to the
Speaker 1: joy I feel loving my kids. But it also brings stress.
Speaker 1: And when that stress is complicated by a lack of funds,
Speaker 1: by a lack of time, and you feel guilty, guilty, guilty,
Speaker 1: all the time. I hope this show helps to relieve
Speaker 1: some of that stress, some of that guilt, and helps
Speaker 1: you connect in a very real way with your kids. Hi,
Speaker 1: good evening, Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who is this,
Speaker 1: hike Calima?
Speaker 2: It's Aamara.
Speaker 1: How are you Amara? I am wonderful. How are you?
Speaker 2: I am doing good? You can't complain?
Speaker 1: Well, you could, but it wouldn't do any good.
Speaker 2: Right right. I was calling because I was hoping you
Speaker 2: can help me. I well, I just had a baby
Speaker 2: three months ago, and I just have had some emotional
Speaker 2: problem and I've been taking it out on my fiance
Speaker 2: and I just was hoping you could dedicate a song.
Speaker 2: We both listened to you every single night, and he's
Speaker 2: at work and he's not here, and we just love.
Speaker 2: Things off on a bad note and I was hoping
Speaker 2: you can play a song that might, you know, help
Speaker 2: me sing better.
Speaker 1: Have you talked to anyone to see if you are
Speaker 1: dealing with postpartum? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have a therapist. I'm definitely taking the route
Speaker 2: and I'm trying. I just feel like sometimes I'm not
Speaker 2: the nicest person, and he doesn't deserve and he's a
Speaker 2: really good man and he works really hard for us,
Speaker 2: and I just sometimes my path and my trauma tends
Speaker 2: to really kind of take a hold of me, and
Speaker 2: I just I want him to know I love him.
Speaker 2: I don't want to lose him because of my craziness.
Speaker 1: Amara, You're not crazy, because crazy people don't recognize that
Speaker 1: they've gone through trauma. They don't recognize how it's impacted them.
Speaker 1: They don't have any self awareness. They're just crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you have been traumatized, and you probably have PTSD and
Speaker 1: it doesn't just go away.
Speaker 2: You said it perfectly.
Speaker 1: You're doing all the right things, so cut yourself a brak.
Speaker 1: It's good you're apologizing, you're owning your behavior. Now, I'm
Speaker 1: going to ask you to make a vow to me,
Speaker 1: a promise to me, because you won't keep it to yourself,
Speaker 1: but I know you'll keep it to me. Okay, promise
Speaker 1: me next time you start spiraling and you go into
Speaker 1: that fight or flight, because that's what you're doing. You're
Speaker 1: going into fight or flight and you're fighting like a
Speaker 1: horse and you're turning around and you're kicking him and
Speaker 1: the teeth with your words.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So when you start to go into that fighter flight
Speaker 1: and you feel the panic and you feel your your
Speaker 1: emotions losing control, I want you to stop and breathe
Speaker 1: and say I'm going to do this for Delilah. I
Speaker 1: am not going to say the words that are about
Speaker 1: to come through my teeth. I'm going to stop and breathe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going to do this for Deliah.
Speaker 1: Okay, thank you? All right, You have a good night,
Speaker 1: darling if.
Speaker 2: You thinks Delena.
Speaker 1: Hello, welcome to a winter night. Who is this?
Speaker 3: My name is James?
Speaker 1: What can I do for you? James?
Speaker 3: My kids are grown up during college, but I still
Speaker 3: worry all the time. And I know they're doing the
Speaker 3: best they can, but as a parent, there's always this
Speaker 3: worrying happening, and I trust that they can do what
Speaker 3: they have to. And as a kid growing up, I
Speaker 3: remember the times when I didn't know what to do.
Speaker 3: But they're doing so well and I'm so blessed.
Speaker 1: So what kind of things do you worry about? Are
Speaker 1: you talking about you worry about them being heard on campus?
Speaker 1: Are you talking about you worry about them making bad choices?
Speaker 1: What are you worrying about?
Speaker 3: It's about doing their best, you know, not taking the
Speaker 3: easy way out in terms of like oh I don't
Speaker 3: want to do an assignment or I'm not going to
Speaker 3: try and get into something. And you know, now they're
Speaker 3: going to graduate from college and they have to find
Speaker 3: a job, and I'm like, you really have to do it.
Speaker 1: So take a deep breath here, because I'm about to
Speaker 1: I'm about to dump some Mama Delilah wisdom on you.
Speaker 3: Okay, I love it.
Speaker 1: Good parents don't determine path their kids are going to take,
Speaker 1: not up to us to pick whether they're going to
Speaker 1: be an engineer or a doctor, or a street sweeper
Speaker 1: or a disc jockey on the radio. Everybody's got their
Speaker 1: path and hoping they do good or hoping they study,
Speaker 1: or hoping they succeed is foolish.
Speaker 3: It's still learning, and I'm still learning, and I really
Speaker 3: appreciate your thoughts and your understanding.
Speaker 1: I hope and pray that you find some peace and
Speaker 1: that you because our adult children become our best friends,
Speaker 1: they are so fun when they become adults. I hope
Speaker 1: that you are able to relax and trust that God's
Speaker 1: got them so that you can just enjoy these wonderful
Speaker 1: human beings that you were blessed to get to raise.
Speaker 1: Because it sounds like you were an extremely loving and
Speaker 1: involved dad, So thank you for that.
Speaker 3: I appreciate it. Good Night, I work, good night. Thank you.
Speaker 1: I got a letter from a young mother who needed
Speaker 1: a shoulder to lean on. She says, Dear Delilah, I'm
Speaker 1: twenty five years old and just had a baby this
Speaker 1: past January. When I found out I was pregnant, the
Speaker 1: first person I mentioned it too was my best friend
Speaker 1: of ten years. She was going through some difficulties with
Speaker 1: her career and relationship and we lost touch. It's been
Speaker 1: a year and a half since we last spoke, and now,
Speaker 1: more than anything, I could really use my friend in
Speaker 1: my life. I'm having a hard time coping with brand
Speaker 1: new motherhood. Being a first time mom with a teething
Speaker 1: infant test my patience as I'm sure it does other moms.
Speaker 1: I feel sometimes like I'm not a good enough parent.
Speaker 1: I wish I had my girlfriend here to talk to
Speaker 1: someone that might understand. And I want to be all
Speaker 1: that I can possibly be for my beautiful new son.
Speaker 1: I guess I just need some help through these new
Speaker 1: mommy hood blues. Please dedicate a song to my baby
Speaker 1: from me. His name is Jaden, and I pray that
Speaker 1: for many years of his life we will have this bond.
Speaker 1: And I'm trying to be the best mom that there
Speaker 1: ever could be because I love him with all of
Speaker 1: my heart. Amy, thank you for writing, and I hope
Speaker 1: that you're able to reconnect with your old friend and
Speaker 1: to find some new ones. All young moms need support.
Speaker 4: You need friendships. You need girlfriends you can call in
Speaker 4: the middle of the night, and women you can whind
Speaker 4: too when you're exhausted and you have dark circles under
Speaker 4: your eyes and you're feeling like you're just gonna lose
Speaker 4: your mind. Amy, thank you for writing, and thank you
Speaker 4: for being brave enough to reach out.
Speaker 1: And I hope you surround yourself with good friends. Hello,
Speaker 1: good evening. You've called the Delilah Show. Who is this?
Speaker 3: This is Brandy.
Speaker 2: I was calling to see if maybe you could find
Speaker 2: a song to play for My husband just had our son.
Speaker 1: What's your husband's name?
Speaker 3: Weston?
Speaker 1: Okay? And what about your son?
Speaker 3: We just had our son in September.
Speaker 2: So things have been a little rough, and I'm thinking
Speaker 2: he thinks that I'm not as attached to him as
Speaker 2: they used.
Speaker 1: To be because you are spending all your time and
Speaker 1: energy taking care of the baby, focusing on the baby.
Speaker 1: You're tired because of the baby, and your husband's like,
Speaker 1: where did my wife go? Yes? Do you want to know?
Speaker 1: That is one of those unspoken issues that people just
Speaker 1: don't talk about. But almost every person who's partner has
Speaker 1: a baby feels that way, and they're unable or unwilling
Speaker 1: to articulate it because they don't want to sound like
Speaker 1: their self, like they're being babies, or like they're jealous.
Speaker 1: So what your husband is feeling is very real and
Speaker 1: it's very common, And the sooner he can be honest
Speaker 1: about how frustrated he feels and talk about it with somebody,
Speaker 1: the sooner you guys will be able to come back
Speaker 1: together in a new and even better way.
Speaker 2: The patience saying this is for sure.
Speaker 1: So do you have family that lives in the area.
Speaker 2: I do, thankfully.
Speaker 1: So here's what I'm going to say to you. Call
Speaker 1: your mom, call your dad, call your sister, and say,
Speaker 1: next Saturday night, can you come and watch the baby
Speaker 1: for three or four hours and then go out on
Speaker 1: a date with him, Go see a sweet movie, go
Speaker 1: out to dinner, and then go make out.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I will, thank you very much.
Speaker 3: All right, good night, good night, thank you.
Speaker 1: I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
Speaker 1: much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
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