1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. We 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: are scrubbing in, and it is a Friday. It is 4 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,799 Speaker 1: not a Monday. We're recording this because Becca is going 5 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:20,599 Speaker 1: on a nice, much needed vacation with her s. Oh yeah, 6 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 1: I don't know. Much needed. Feels a little bit dramatic 7 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: as I have been traveling like all over the place, 8 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:30,160 Speaker 1: but you guys haven't had like a loan time she's 9 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 1: been on tour. Yeah, we're going on a bit like 10 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:37,240 Speaker 1: a vacation just us. And it's a vacation, not anything else. 11 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: It's the two quality time. It's a it's a huge 12 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: one of the acts of one of the love languages. Yes, yes, 13 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:45,959 Speaker 1: which I actually think I have all the love languages 14 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: and need them all, but well everybody needs all five. 15 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: But it's just an order of like which one times 16 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: actually I think my top one. So this is this 17 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 1: is much needed and importance, very needed and important. So yeah, 18 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: it is a Friday. We're off to a great start. 19 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 1: Why Becca was late today, Yeah, I was a few 20 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 1: minutes late. I underestimated traffic because right down the street 21 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: from Tania, like My home is like literally a straight 22 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: shot down the street. But we said at Hayley's last night, 23 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: which is actually quite far for a morning John Comte, Yeah, 24 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,200 Speaker 1: you know, I I go through that k kurmudgeon or 25 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: not Kirk Pucka or predicament, predicament, predica, go through those 26 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 1: words to get to predicament. I go through that predicament often. 27 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: Because I live so close to the radio studio, I 28 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: can just like pop on the freeway, pop off. It's 29 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,039 Speaker 1: a little jaunt in the morning. Robbie does not live 30 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:52,639 Speaker 1: as close. He does not, So you know, we're starting 31 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: to create a system, a system, a system of sorts. 32 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: It's not working great, but you know we're working at it. 33 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 1: I was thinking that we should start doing podcasts in 34 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: studio again. I'm down, but I want a comfy chair. 35 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: But you don't request a comfy chare on the morning show. 36 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 1: But it's a morning show. It's like there's quick, it's 37 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: hustle and bustle. The interviews are five minutes. Ours are 38 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: like longer. We need them to sit and relax. I 39 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:22,640 Speaker 1: know we want to eventually have a podcast studio, but 40 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,639 Speaker 1: I'm saying in the interim, now I'm happy that I'm 41 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 1: happy to purchase my own chair for our guests and 42 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 1: set up like a nice comfortable situation for them. I 43 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: from what I recall about that studio space, there isn't 44 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 1: a whole lot of room for a nice, big comfy chair. 45 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: You just let you just leave that to me, and 46 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: certainly will and have a I have a good feeling 47 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 1: because they could go back like where John Paris works, 48 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 1: because John Parra won't be there obviously he works for 49 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: the morning show, and we can set up like a 50 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: cozy chair back there, and then a microphone that like 51 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: bends all the way down so that they can all 52 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: so though the tabletops are high, so it would have 53 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: to be a high cozy chair so we don eye contact. 54 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:11,799 Speaker 1: Can't wait to see what that looks like. And I'm 55 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: sure where everyone John what's his name, Para John Bara Bara, 56 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:20,119 Speaker 1: he will be so excited to have to move that 57 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: chair every day. He will love it. He loves he 58 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: loves change. I think that this is all a pipe dream, 59 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: but I love the idea of the four of us 60 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: being in the same room again doing the show. That 61 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: would be very exciting. Why is that is that really 62 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: a pipe dream? To be back in studio. No, that's 63 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: not the comfy the rest of it. Anytime you guys 64 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: want to come in, I'm thrilled about it. Okay, one 65 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: thing we know about Tania, she is a dreamer. She's 66 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 1: a dreamer, and so we let her dream and then 67 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 1: we we look like we're I think we're really trying 68 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: to get like guests that we love. And Alice Myers, 69 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: I mean, she was a big hit. People were so excited, 70 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: and I feel like it would be so nice to 71 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: invite them into just a cozy these space with like 72 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: a little snuggly chair. Well the truth is, though, like 73 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 1: Alice Myers lives in. I think, so Alice Myers coming 74 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: in for the chair not your best example. But actually 75 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: Tisdale is going to be our next. Okay, so there 76 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: we go. Yeah, but can we get microphones in that? 77 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: This is again a little inside for everybody. But those 78 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,159 Speaker 1: the shares in the back there in those back in 79 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: that back corner, there are comfy shares that are already 80 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: Maybe we could just put Mike's there. Yes, I mean 81 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: we can. I've done podcast on a steam locomotive before. 82 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: Eason can do it anywhere, If anyone can do it, 83 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 1: it's Eastern. That's a great idea because their comfy chairs. 84 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: It's in like a little corner we can set up 85 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 1: like a great idea, Mark, thank you. Great. Well, just 86 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: like we're kind of just tossing some things around because 87 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:52,120 Speaker 1: you know, we're going for a little bit of a rebrand. 88 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 1: Um Beck and I have been feeling a little stagnant 89 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: just in many areas of our lives, and we want 90 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: to get the rolling again, you know, we want to 91 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: get the motivation or not the what's the inspiration. We 92 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: want to get the juices flowing. We want to get like, um, 93 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 1: I don't know, like a scrubbing in two point out. 94 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: Somebody say, We've I just feel like this is Groundhog's Day. 95 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: The way we talk about these things, like it's just 96 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: we talk about it and then nothing happens, and then 97 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: we talk about it again. But the truth is we 98 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 1: have been inspired by the Morning Toast collapse with Dear 99 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: Media because they basically did this whole rebrand and then 100 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 1: this like really cute and creative photo shoot, and Tanya 101 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: and I were like, we should do some new photos 102 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 1: and like just kind of like revamped the podcast look 103 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: not so much like the podcast. Obviously, we always want 104 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: the podcast to be elevated and like growing, growing, expanding, 105 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: if you know, aesthetically. Now, the best part is it's 106 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 1: like Becca sending me like inspiration and photos for this 107 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 1: photo shoot, and it's just like photos that like like 108 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: with newspapers in front of our faces, and like the 109 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 1: vibe is really cute. But I feel like in terms 110 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 1: of like logo for the podcast, I don't know if 111 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: it's like going to translate. You just leave that up 112 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:19,839 Speaker 1: to me. Fine, fine, fair. I sent it to Ali 113 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: and she was like, that is like so cute. I 114 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: love that, and I trust her opinion more than yours 115 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: on this fair thing. Fair enough. I was, I was 116 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,839 Speaker 1: making like Pinterest boards and I just you know, I 117 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 1: know Tanya is going to have some inspo that I 118 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 1: just have to grip my teeth and bite my tongue 119 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: and say, this is a two person podcast, and I'm 120 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 1: gonna leave the look up to you. I trust your judgment, 121 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,240 Speaker 1: I trust your vibe, your aesthetic. I think you're way 122 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:49,559 Speaker 1: cooler than I, so I'm leaving that in your hands. 123 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:53,600 Speaker 1: I will not protest, I will not like nothing. I 124 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,839 Speaker 1: will sit back and watch you lead the path. But 125 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: those are just inspo. We'll we'll make it our own. 126 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 1: So it's just like ideas, creative ideas. Thanks to try. 127 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 1: Because maybe the newspaper could be like our newsletter and 128 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 1: we can put like funny, let's see this is where 129 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: she loses mere. Yeah, I think we focus on the 130 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: podcast and then the newsletter comes. No, I'm saying the 131 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: newspaper that we're holding can be like a fake newsletter. Yeah, 132 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: that's what I wanted. It's all coming together in real time. 133 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: What do you think the newspaper is going to be 134 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: just like yeah, like the l A Times or something. 135 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 1: And I was like, dude, you you try to explain things. 136 00:07:39,320 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 1: You just try, and sometimes it doesn't translate. Sometimes it 137 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: just doesn't hit until your face to face, side by side. 138 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: Correct your hair looks great, thank you so much. Actually 139 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 1: just freshened it up. And what's so funny is I've 140 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: been seeing everybody go red lately. And so I went 141 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:56,440 Speaker 1: to Tonny and I was like, what if we did 142 00:07:56,520 --> 00:08:00,080 Speaker 1: made me like strawberry blonde? And she was like, she 143 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: literally laughed at me. She won't she want to do mine. No, 144 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 1: she won't. Like it's almost like she don't want to 145 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: deal with the regret if it's there because red is 146 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: so hard. No, no, no, and she knows I'm gonna 147 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: hate it, like she knows I'm gonna hate it. I 148 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: don't know. I think you would look so great with 149 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: red hair, because your eyes, I feel like, would pop. 150 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: Everyone who's done it has looked amazing. I know, not red, 151 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: like strawberry blonde, so it would be like a like 152 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: a strawberry blonde, you know, like not red, but strawberry. Yeah, 153 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:35,480 Speaker 1: like a soft strawberry. Well, but she wouldn't do it, 154 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 1: so she made me blonder, which honestly I love. I mean, 155 00:08:38,120 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: your blond is great. She does, she crushes the bushes it. 156 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:43,400 Speaker 1: So you know, I've got I'm gonna get some new 157 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 1: nails and I'm gonna be I'm gonna be fresh as 158 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: a daisy. Oh yeah, they're broken. I predicted that. Um. Yeah, 159 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:55,439 Speaker 1: everyone has gone red. It's officially feeling like, well, it 160 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: doesn't feel like started the trend. Um. I don't think 161 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: I can take credit for starting the trend because I 162 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: copied someone else. You know, so everything is a trend. 163 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: Everything is someone copying somebody else. Right, you should claim 164 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:11,680 Speaker 1: this as your own. You fully started this trend. You 165 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:13,959 Speaker 1: went red was the last year, so if it was 166 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: a trend that would have hopped on a lot fast. 167 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 1: They really don't. Really someone else started the recent trend. 168 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: It was not me, but um, I was thinking about 169 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 1: going more red, and then I was like, you know what, 170 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm onto something new. What's my next 171 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,959 Speaker 1: what's my next goal? Color? I don't know about color. 172 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: I was so I wanted to cut my hair, like 173 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: chop it, but then Haley and I would literally look 174 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 1: like twins from the back. We have a very similar 175 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 1: hair color and hers a short. So if I cut 176 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 1: my hair and you saw us from the back, you'd 177 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:59,360 Speaker 1: be like the what's horror movie? Honestly, not about Halloween idea. Yeah, 178 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: what are you guys going to be? Well, that's a surprise, 179 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: but yeah, who are we? What do you mean? What 180 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 1: do you mean surprised? This is the first time we're going, 181 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 1: like doing a costume together. Okay, there's a long time 182 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 1: before Halloween. I can't hype it up so soon. Yeah 183 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 1: you can. I'm not gonna You're already hyping it up 184 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: by saying it's surprised. I have to consult with my 185 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 1: with Haley before I reveal I'll tell you, Oh my gosh, 186 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 1: it's that if it's going to call the But I'll 187 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:37,560 Speaker 1: tell you, Okay, what are y'all gonna be. We're gonna 188 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 1: be Margot, Robbie and Ryan Gosling from the Barbie Movie 189 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: That's so good. It is he gonna get a wig? 190 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: Or is he gonna like spray paint? We're gonna get 191 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: him a wig. But we're gonna do the skating scene. 192 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 1: You know, they're on Cinemonica Pier and we're trying to 193 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 1: figure out. What we're trying to figure out now is 194 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: so we found like these covers that go over the skates, 195 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 1: like they're like knee because then skates are neon yellow, 196 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:02,160 Speaker 1: so they're like almost like um like those things that 197 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: you wear like in surgery, those booties, you know what 198 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 1: I mean. They're like covers for the skates. But we 199 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:11,199 Speaker 1: were kind of like, so we have to wear our blades, 200 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 1: like are like are we gonna get drunk? And like 201 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: it's not in my home? Feels like right, do you 202 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: want to go in your home? We would go around 203 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 1: the side, Okay, yeah, I'll open the gate for you. Okay, yeah. 204 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: We would hang out in the back by the bar 205 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 1: or like if the skates kind of make the costume, 206 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 1: so we have to have them. We just I think 207 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 1: for photos you do it in like a few videos 208 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 1: and then you change them the shoes. Yeah, it feels safe. 209 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 1: Maybe the booties just go over our shoes the rest 210 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: of the night. If I remember correctly, you should definitely 211 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: not have been on skates last year or so. I 212 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: was nervous about you being in heels. So yeah, um, 213 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: well that's exciting. That's a great costume. And then Sunny 214 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: is going to be a butterfly and uh ups driver. 215 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 1: Oh all all in one night. I'm gonna she's gonna 216 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: have three Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, so I'm gonna get 217 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: her four. Oh my gosh. She's a fun gal. She 218 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:07,320 Speaker 1: likes to dress up. I don't think she liked the 219 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 1: ups one or that's true, any of them. I think 220 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:13,600 Speaker 1: that she couldn't wait to get them off. Yeah, so 221 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:18,560 Speaker 1: that is false. She and she enjoys being festive like 222 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:21,720 Speaker 1: her family. Um, but it's just about finding the right thing. 223 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 1: So the butterfly wings like fit her nicely and she 224 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:28,080 Speaker 1: didn't bother as much, but hats are not her favorite. Yeah, 225 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: we're gonna have to tailor it in that way. Sure 226 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 1: she loves dressing up. Yeah, she's a huge fan of 227 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:39,199 Speaker 1: dressing up minus hats and clothes. Correct, but wings wings 228 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: she can do so maybe different pairs of wings like 229 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:46,959 Speaker 1: angel wings, butterfly wings now now a moth nice? Yeah, 230 00:12:47,400 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: in a fairy alright, or like a witch with like 231 00:12:50,160 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: a broom. Speaking of hocus Pocus too, did you watch it? 232 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 1: I loved it too, And I was really nervous because 233 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:15,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, I watched hocus Pocus one a bazillion times, 234 00:13:15,679 --> 00:13:17,440 Speaker 1: so it's very nervous about number two. But I feel 235 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 1: like it followed the same storyline. Yeah, and I've looked 236 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 1: the same. Like I loved how they made it look 237 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: like the old one. It didn't feel like to uh 238 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 1: four k. Yeah, it didn't feel also like two other times, 239 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 1: like they didn't try and like, I don't know, it 240 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 1: was like very well done. I agree. I thought it 241 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: was so great and I like laughed out loud. And 242 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: I don't even know what the reviews have said, but 243 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: I loved it. The reviews are good, the reviews are people, 244 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: please please we love It's just cool Because Sarah Jessica 245 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 1: Parker when the first one came out like, wasn't this 246 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: massive mega star like she is now, So it's funny 247 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:57,880 Speaker 1: that she kind of played like a such a small 248 00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:01,080 Speaker 1: supporting role and this one, you know what's funny. She's 249 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,320 Speaker 1: the only one. The other two sisters I felt like 250 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 1: really fell back into their characters completely. And she was 251 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: the only one that I felt like it wasn't totally. 252 00:14:11,120 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 1: It was a little more carry Bradshaw than is Card. 253 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: It was funny because I like felt she's the only 254 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:20,520 Speaker 1: one that I felt a little bit like she didn't 255 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: just go right back into her character. She was like 256 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 1: a little more like not that. Yeah, watch it again 257 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: with that mine. Okay, I mean I always watched her 258 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: with Carrie Bradshaw in mine, like it's just how I 259 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:34,560 Speaker 1: see her. I can't un see it. And just like 260 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 1: that started Um season two filming. I think Eastern takes 261 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 1: a deep breath. It's gonna take a lot of mental 262 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:45,960 Speaker 1: preparation to press play on that season, but I will 263 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 1: be there. I'll be shaking as I press play. Is 264 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: going on my face, Okay, here we go. Someone posted 265 00:14:56,080 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 1: it was Sada Ramirez posted the screw It was like 266 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 1: shadey As and someone said, I have to find it 267 00:15:05,360 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 1: because some of the comments. I think it's just become 268 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:12,440 Speaker 1: like comedy to hate that character. So it's like, do 269 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:17,080 Speaker 1: they like it? I think so, well know, but like 270 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 1: they like they not the hate, but like the I 271 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: don't know. It's like when you know some when you 272 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: know something so hated, you just like all right on 273 00:15:26,680 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 1: the joke. Um. I can't imagine they love it, but 274 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 1: I do think maybe maybe season two there will be 275 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 1: a shift, but a shift for the character, but also 276 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 1: maybe not. Someone commented under the picture and said, well, 277 00:15:44,520 --> 00:15:47,520 Speaker 1: the first thing said full body chills, and then the 278 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: next thing said like someone walking over my grave. So 279 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 1: it's not a good people are not excited. But I 280 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:59,240 Speaker 1: think it's also become like a bit right right, like 281 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: a joke within the thing. Yeah, but I listen. I 282 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:08,520 Speaker 1: know I was really harsh about the show, but I 283 00:16:08,560 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 1: think there's something deep down that I love about it. 284 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: Camp Quite it's a very having the characters back. But 285 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: but this season Aiden's back, and I'm not happy about that. 286 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 1: I'm not very happy about that. Bring him back, and 287 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 1: that only if he gets the Peloton treatment. That's the 288 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 1: only way I'll be happy with coming back. Dark dark, 289 00:16:29,960 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 1: but I don't like. What if he's changed East and 290 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 1: what if he's had like a real a realization of 291 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 1: his flaws and things he needed to work on. I mean, 292 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: that's a possibility, and I'm open to that, and I 293 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,840 Speaker 1: will eat my hat if that happens. But I think 294 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:50,240 Speaker 1: it's gonna be more the same as a chance than 295 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 1: we're giving Aiden a chance. Okay, for sure, for sure. Yeah, 296 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 1: if I have to see or if I have to 297 00:16:56,840 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 1: hear Jad has sing another Beach Boys song, I'm gonna 298 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:04,040 Speaker 1: I'm on this season. But the real crazy thing is 299 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 1: I really want Soda Ramirez to come back to Gray's 300 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 1: in Arizona, and I want even there, but I need 301 00:17:11,600 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 1: them to both come back and have reunion. So it's 302 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:16,360 Speaker 1: not Sata. It's a lot of a lot of pipe 303 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:19,080 Speaker 1: dreams happening today. You know. It's just like speaking, are 304 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:21,399 Speaker 1: we all in that we're watching I know that we 305 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: haven't watched it yet. We're taping this Friday. It just 306 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: there last night. None of us stud of the indies 307 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:28,879 Speaker 1: actually have life television anymore. But so I'm going to 308 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:30,480 Speaker 1: watch it, and I want to make sure you're all 309 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 1: going to watch it, because they don't whole reboot with 310 00:17:32,359 --> 00:17:34,200 Speaker 1: a whole bunch of new interns are kind of I 311 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:36,160 Speaker 1: think this is kind of a test season, like we're 312 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: gonna pull back on Meredith and introduce a new Big 313 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 1: five or whatever. Wait, no, they totally are pulling back 314 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:44,959 Speaker 1: on Meredith because they sent like promo cookies out for 315 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 1: the new season and there was not a single Meredith 316 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:51,359 Speaker 1: Gray anything. They had Boky, and then they had like 317 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:54,120 Speaker 1: Chief Webber's like body, and then they had like Gray's 318 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:56,760 Speaker 1: Anatomy stuff, but they didn't have a single thing about 319 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:58,920 Speaker 1: Meredith Gray on there. You want to know something really 320 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:03,480 Speaker 1: funny about those cookie Becca Kou friend from Who Is 321 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: the Bachelorette, texted me and goes, this is so weird. 322 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 1: But my mom, who's in I think Minnesota, got a 323 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,680 Speaker 1: box of got a box that was addressed to your name, 324 00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:17,840 Speaker 1: my childhood home. And I was like name, it was 325 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:20,639 Speaker 1: my name, but to her home, her mom's home. And 326 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: she was like, um, I can get it when I 327 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:24,240 Speaker 1: go back for Thanksgiving and bring it back. And I 328 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:25,719 Speaker 1: was like, Oh, tell her she can open it and 329 00:18:25,800 --> 00:18:28,399 Speaker 1: just see what's in there. And it was the cookies. 330 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:32,400 Speaker 1: The Gray nun and I guess they just mixed up 331 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:36,440 Speaker 1: the name because it's from ABC, right, so they probably 332 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: have her because she's a bachelorette. They probably have her 333 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 1: name in there, and just like mixed up the name 334 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 1: with the address her childhood. Maybe she and Martinez probably 335 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 1: got hers, you know, it's just all the beck Is, 336 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 1: but Becca Cooper and loves Gray's Anatomy. So I was like, 337 00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: tell your mom to enjoy the cookies. The Probabise kids, 338 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 1: like one of them in particular, loves like those types 339 00:18:59,119 --> 00:19:02,159 Speaker 1: of cookies, So I brought them to him and probably 340 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,760 Speaker 1: sent them to school with like these Grays Anatomy cookie. 341 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 1: I was like, nothing that makes me blesses my heart 342 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:09,360 Speaker 1: more than imagining them at school, like chopping on Boky 343 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:15,639 Speaker 1: space so funny. Yeah, boy, finally getting the love she 344 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:20,480 Speaker 1: deserved your Instagram. Sorry, we're gonna watch right, Oh yeah, yeah, 345 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:26,720 Speaker 1: that's at least at least that yeah, yeah, I like 346 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:28,679 Speaker 1: it was all caught up at the end of the season, 347 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 1: and that season finality was fantastic. So I'm not like 348 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:37,160 Speaker 1: Poo Poo and Grays right now. I'm I'm into watching it. 349 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:38,639 Speaker 1: I'm down a lot. I'm not going to watch it 350 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:41,280 Speaker 1: tonight because I have a date night tonight. Good for 351 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 1: you on her hair, she's gonna bab and pull out 352 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 1: all I think. Yeah, we can't let a sweet thing last. 353 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:58,240 Speaker 1: We're too long with Donya. So I don't think you 354 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:03,320 Speaker 1: have to bab because Robbie said that it wasn't that's 355 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 1: what he thinks. But it's cute in our October goals. 356 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:10,879 Speaker 1: When we're making October goals, one of his goals was 357 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,640 Speaker 1: to take me on a date night once a week, 358 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 1: like and thought out one. So tonight it's like has 359 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:17,640 Speaker 1: a two part to it. It's like dinner and then 360 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:21,360 Speaker 1: like something up. Is it a surprise? Uh? Well, it's 361 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:22,840 Speaker 1: like a T B D. I think it's like there's 362 00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 1: two things. So it's just kind of like where the 363 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:29,480 Speaker 1: flow goes, you know, where the vabbing leads the leads. 364 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,280 Speaker 1: He might take you somewhere would be inappropriate to have 365 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 1: your mucus on your neck like that neck mark, you're canceled. 366 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 1: I don't like cancel culture, and you're canceled for that mucus. 367 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:49,600 Speaker 1: The whole thing is gross. Really, I'm the bad guy, yeah, 368 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:53,680 Speaker 1: because no one has yet described as mucus When your 369 00:20:53,800 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 1: neck misologynists, I heeart producer hates women's bodily functions. Good well, 370 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear what you'll do. Thanks so much, 371 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 1: and it's so sweet that he's planning data story. She 372 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:12,639 Speaker 1: can't get over me. You can't get over to me. 373 00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 1: Something next. Now I haven't image, and I didn't want. Well, 374 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:17,760 Speaker 1: let me take you away from that image because I 375 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 1: have two days gluten free, and let me tell you, 376 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:22,600 Speaker 1: I did not realize how much gluten I intake in 377 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 1: a day, and then I when I removed it, my 378 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:30,359 Speaker 1: whole diet is gluten. Yeah, I was like, wowsa, yawsa, 379 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 1: because everything, it's in everything. And so I found out. 380 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:35,960 Speaker 1: I went to the doctor and I found out that 381 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:39,000 Speaker 1: I do have hashimotos. So I've started doing some research 382 00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 1: and like the number one thing that everybody says you 383 00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:45,880 Speaker 1: have hashimotos is to eliminate gluten. So that's what I'm 384 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:48,240 Speaker 1: gonna do until I, like, you know, really figure out 385 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:51,120 Speaker 1: what's going on. But two days in and I'm like, 386 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:55,159 Speaker 1: for those people who don't remember when Mark didn't, he 387 00:21:55,200 --> 00:22:03,119 Speaker 1: thought it was like so rudely. I thought it was 388 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:06,800 Speaker 1: like an angiogram or referred to my hashimoto. I'm like 389 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,040 Speaker 1: oh boy, what are we doing now? But now I 390 00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:11,800 Speaker 1: understand that I respected and I apologize for that. That 391 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 1: was rude. Well, I do think a lot of people 392 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,919 Speaker 1: don't know what hashimoto is. So some are the symptoms 393 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,200 Speaker 1: that you It is so common. What I didn't realize 394 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:23,720 Speaker 1: is like one and eighteen women have it, and it's 395 00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 1: a thyroid disease. So basically, um, you can have like 396 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:31,120 Speaker 1: an underactive or an overactive thyroid. UM. And I don't 397 00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:32,640 Speaker 1: want to speak too much because I'm not a doctor, 398 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,160 Speaker 1: and I like literally just found out about it, but 399 00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:39,280 Speaker 1: it's super common and it mostly affects women, which is 400 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:43,159 Speaker 1: like so fun. Um, But there are other things like 401 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 1: you can take medication, you can take hormones to stabilize, 402 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:47,840 Speaker 1: or you can do it through like food and like 403 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:49,920 Speaker 1: your diet, which is the route I'm going to try 404 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 1: to take. Um. But yeah, it's basically just your thyroid, 405 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 1: which is a butterfly shaped thing in your throat. And 406 00:22:57,000 --> 00:23:01,000 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm sorry, what it's a butterfly shaped 407 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 1: gland or I'm not sure what it is exactly in 408 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:08,400 Speaker 1: your throat, the thyroid. Look it up, the thyroid. That's 409 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: lovely that that this some people could see the negative 410 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:15,720 Speaker 1: to this, but you're seeing the positive like a butterfly, right, 411 00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:17,240 Speaker 1: I'm like the fact that it's a butterfly. I'm like, 412 00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 1: I can, I can, like I can come on top 413 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,520 Speaker 1: of this, you know, yeah, you can beat this. I 414 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:30,160 Speaker 1: can beat there, can survive. Yeah yeah, yeah it's not Yeah, 415 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 1: conquered is the right word. All right? The butterfly oh wow, 416 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,919 Speaker 1: lovely just not what you think it is. This is 417 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:43,359 Speaker 1: in the throat. Yeah right here it looks just like 418 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,879 Speaker 1: just like but look type it and they describe it 419 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 1: as the butterfly shaped something. But anyways, it's really common 420 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:51,440 Speaker 1: among women. So I'm gonna do a lot of research. 421 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:54,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna like reach out and just try and get 422 00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:55,879 Speaker 1: as much information as I can. But I'm saying that, 423 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 1: do you have symptoms where you like feeling a certain 424 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:05,760 Speaker 1: way it's fatigue, um, you get like brittle hair, brittle nails, um. 425 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,359 Speaker 1: And then I mean there's like severe symptoms, which I 426 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,600 Speaker 1: don't have. My levels are like not that far off, 427 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,119 Speaker 1: but it can it can get pretty bad. Yeah, So 428 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,159 Speaker 1: you're just getting on top of it. I'm just a 429 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 1: little off. So I'm like, I'm just gonna try and 430 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:18,960 Speaker 1: stabilize it. There might be people out there who are, like, 431 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 1: I feel fatigued, my hair and nails are changing, what 432 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: is this and they might be able to go in 433 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:25,959 Speaker 1: and get answers. So yeah, but you know what's interesting 434 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:28,160 Speaker 1: is they I didn't go in thinking I had anything. 435 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,359 Speaker 1: I just did my annual blood tests and they found 436 00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 1: it in my annual blood tests. So it's not like 437 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:35,479 Speaker 1: I like went seeking for answers. I didn't even feel anything. 438 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:38,840 Speaker 1: I was just doing my normal routine. Actually need to 439 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 1: do that blood test. I'm actually fatigued all the time 440 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:43,919 Speaker 1: and I eat so bad. So maybe I could just 441 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,920 Speaker 1: try cutting out some gluten and see if I noticed 442 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:51,439 Speaker 1: a change there. Yeah, I couldn't possibly be my diet. 443 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 1: Last night, I took an edible and got I was 444 00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:05,480 Speaker 1: living and I ordered these smash burgers, you guys, smashburger 445 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,400 Speaker 1: like the really thin patties. It was one of the 446 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:13,320 Speaker 1: best hamburgers I have ever had. It was from Chris 447 00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:15,320 Speaker 1: and Eddies. I have no idea where it is. It 448 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:19,159 Speaker 1: was just on door dash and it was so fresh 449 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: and hot when it arrived. It was delicious. Happy for you, 450 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Burger in the bun. While I'm 451 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:32,159 Speaker 1: not well, you have the option of protein style and 452 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:34,639 Speaker 1: in and out, which is delicious as well. Correct. I 453 00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,199 Speaker 1: love an in and out protein. All these sauces have 454 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,199 Speaker 1: gluten in them. It's just like, listen, Haley can't have 455 00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 1: garlic or onion. And let me tell you something. Garlic 456 00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:50,199 Speaker 1: and onion are in everything, every sauce, every dressing. You 457 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 1: can't escape it. So I believe in you. Thank you. 458 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:56,880 Speaker 1: I believe in me too. Yeah. I wanted to talk 459 00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,439 Speaker 1: about Gizelle and Tom, but I think we take a 460 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 1: break and then come back. Okay, we are back backing 461 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 1: better than ever. That break was good. Top tier break, yeah, 462 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:30,920 Speaker 1: top tier. Um. So Giselle and Tom Brady have split. Well, 463 00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:38,119 Speaker 1: they've hired divorce lawyers. Okay, they've hired divorce lawyers. So 464 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 1: they haven't officially announced to split as of now, as 465 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:44,360 Speaker 1: of Friday morning. Who knows these things are You're right, 466 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,640 Speaker 1: you're right. And maybe maybe they've gotten a huge fight 467 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:51,800 Speaker 1: and they just were like, I'm getting a lawyer, and 468 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,600 Speaker 1: maybe they're fine today. We don't know. We don't know, 469 00:26:54,720 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 1: but from what we can presume, they're splitting. Yeah, it's 470 00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,080 Speaker 1: a weird story. It's weird that the story would come 471 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:05,200 Speaker 1: out that these two are seeking divorced lawyers, like you 472 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,480 Speaker 1: never hear that. You hear people splitting or not splitting, 473 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:09,280 Speaker 1: And how would it come out that they're seeking divorced 474 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,680 Speaker 1: lawyers unless one of the camps leaked that to the press. 475 00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:15,119 Speaker 1: It's all very fascinating to me what's going on behind 476 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,760 Speaker 1: the scenes, because you know there's lots Yeah, isn't that 477 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:23,520 Speaker 1: public information? Or no, yeah, you're seeking a lawyer. I 478 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: don't think those cases are but yeah, seeking a lawyers 479 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:32,600 Speaker 1: not m and hiring a lawyers not privilege makes you think, Yeah, 480 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 1: makes you think. But I think at the base why 481 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 1: this story makes me so sad is because at its core, 482 00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:44,240 Speaker 1: at its root, the route scenario is that this man 483 00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:50,200 Speaker 1: is choosing career over family. Essentially, this is what we 484 00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:53,239 Speaker 1: have been alluded to. We don't know what that's the 485 00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:56,879 Speaker 1: core root, but essentially, yeah, everybody's saying that she wanted 486 00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,239 Speaker 1: him to retire, he unretired, and that causes a lot 487 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,560 Speaker 1: of tension and for and she's over it apparently. But 488 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:04,919 Speaker 1: it's like, literally, when you boil it down, it's he 489 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 1: shows career over family. And that's an interesting conversation because 490 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,600 Speaker 1: you know, everybody says, life's a balance and you can 491 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: have it all, and you know, sometimes some things are 492 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,280 Speaker 1: higher up than the others, and it's like, you know, 493 00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:25,240 Speaker 1: it's a balancing act. But when you're this good, like 494 00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 1: when you obviously have this gift to be this good 495 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 1: at a certain sport, he can't do this forever, you 496 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:31,639 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like, he literally can't do this 497 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:35,880 Speaker 1: when he's sixty. How do you then know? But like, 498 00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: how do you tell your partner, like you have this gift, 499 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 1: but I want you to be like I want you 500 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:47,240 Speaker 1: to be home more. So that's it. I don't know. 501 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,480 Speaker 1: I mean we obviously we only know what we know, 502 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,840 Speaker 1: but in what we see in these like articles and stuff. 503 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:59,480 Speaker 1: But because it is a limited time you like, she 504 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 1: I think maybe it's the fear of if he's always 505 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 1: going to need to do something where he's like disinvolved 506 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:10,440 Speaker 1: with something like he is only happy or content when 507 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:13,240 Speaker 1: he's focused on football, so whether he's actually playing or 508 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 1: if he goes into I don't know, like broadcasting or 509 00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:20,440 Speaker 1: like traveling for you know, coaching, even is this going 510 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:24,400 Speaker 1: to be my life forever? Because I would think that 511 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: you would go, Okay, there's a there haast his body. 512 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,480 Speaker 1: Eventually he's not going to be able to do this 513 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 1: at a certain age. So can we just get through 514 00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 1: these next few years and then he'll be home and 515 00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,320 Speaker 1: we'll be able to be a family together. But something 516 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,000 Speaker 1: tells me that maybe she's like, that's not going to 517 00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:42,920 Speaker 1: be what it is. But it makes you think, like, 518 00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:48,560 Speaker 1: if you had to choose career or family, what would 519 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 1: you choose? Well, I would choose family. But I'm not 520 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,840 Speaker 1: like a huge career like I'm not like I think 521 00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:56,840 Speaker 1: most people would have no choice but to choose career 522 00:29:56,880 --> 00:30:00,160 Speaker 1: because they need money. Jared and do not. Oh, I 523 00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 1: think that's another element of this that's not as relatable, 524 00:30:02,720 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 1: and we can relate to that because that's because I 525 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:11,480 Speaker 1: wanted to mention Jared him and that's why he's in 526 00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 1: my brain because help I suck at dating, which is 527 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:17,160 Speaker 1: out today wherever you're listening to Podkah, he talks at 528 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 1: length about this, and he's a big Brady fan, and 529 00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,240 Speaker 1: so his attitude is very different. His attitude is she 530 00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,280 Speaker 1: knew what she was getting into and and he's gonna 531 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,040 Speaker 1: he's at the prime of his whatever, and he's not 532 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,680 Speaker 1: going to be that much longer, and so she has 533 00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:30,520 Speaker 1: to deal with it. I see where Gazel is coming 534 00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: from because she knew what she was getting into. That's true. 535 00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 1: When they got married originally, that was a long time ago, 536 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:38,280 Speaker 1: so she knew there was an end date to this, 537 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 1: and she needs to get through his football career and 538 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:42,120 Speaker 1: then they can be happily her after. And then he's 539 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:44,080 Speaker 1: forty one, and then he's forty two, and then he's 540 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,160 Speaker 1: forty three, and then he's forty four and she's like, christ, 541 00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,600 Speaker 1: he's still playing. But then he retires and she's like, 542 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 1: thank god he retired. Yes, we are a family. And 543 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 1: then a month later he goes, I'm not going to 544 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:56,120 Speaker 1: be retired anymore. And I think she's just like Evan, 545 00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 1: I can't do this anymore. I kind of see where 546 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,200 Speaker 1: she's coming from us because he is five years old, 547 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 1: and there's got to be a time when you decide 548 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:06,400 Speaker 1: to give it all to your family. After giving it 549 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,960 Speaker 1: all to the game for all these years, I think 550 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 1: she has realized or is realizing, that she is always 551 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:16,080 Speaker 1: gonna be second to that sport. And I think there 552 00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 1: was like hope that we have a family and and 553 00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,600 Speaker 1: eventually I will be number one. But I think maybe 554 00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:25,840 Speaker 1: there's this like once he came back from retiring for 555 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:28,680 Speaker 1: like what a couple of months, She's like, oh my gosh, 556 00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:32,400 Speaker 1: I'm never I'm like, I've been competing with this sport 557 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,720 Speaker 1: for however many years, and it's always gonna be like 558 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:40,000 Speaker 1: that's not want to do it anymore. And there's also 559 00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 1: the side of probably that Gizell battled of, like I 560 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,680 Speaker 1: love this person and he loves what he does and 561 00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:48,800 Speaker 1: it's his passion. I want to support him and be 562 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,320 Speaker 1: there and like watch him do what he loves. But 563 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,040 Speaker 1: I think at a certain point, I too would be like, Okay, 564 00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to be second anymore. I don't want 565 00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:01,720 Speaker 1: to be second forever. It's just such an interesting like 566 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 1: it's such an interesting debacle because it's like you try 567 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:13,239 Speaker 1: and put yourself in that situation. What it is. It's 568 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 1: an interesting, uh situation because I sympathize. I see it 569 00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:26,040 Speaker 1: from both sides. Like I see if I were that 570 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 1: good at football, you know, I'm like such a football 571 00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:31,320 Speaker 1: girl now, so I'm like really invested in this. Um, 572 00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 1: if I were that good at football and that was 573 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:37,480 Speaker 1: like this god given gift, like I was that good, right, 574 00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,840 Speaker 1: I would want to write it out until I possibly could, 575 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:42,920 Speaker 1: and then on the off season spend all my time 576 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,440 Speaker 1: being with my family and like, you know, do as 577 00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 1: much as I could during off season to be there, 578 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,080 Speaker 1: like be a better partner, step up my game, and 579 00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,080 Speaker 1: then when it was football season, like give that my all. 580 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,320 Speaker 1: But then I also see it on on her side 581 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:59,200 Speaker 1: of like having to just the off balance for so 582 00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 1: many years. Maybe she's just over him. Maybe she's just 583 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:04,400 Speaker 1: over him and it has nothing to do a football, 584 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 1: but this is her out. Maybe she's also He says 585 00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:11,040 Speaker 1: that there's been reports that they live apart anyway this 586 00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:13,200 Speaker 1: time of year because he's so involved in football that 587 00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 1: he doesn't even see his family doing football season. And 588 00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,040 Speaker 1: that's a drag for five six months out of the year, 589 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:21,800 Speaker 1: you're not a family anymore. Liked that would make me 590 00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:25,800 Speaker 1: so sad. Yeah, and it's not. I mean, my brother 591 00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:30,400 Speaker 1: in law played in the NFL for four years and he, 592 00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,680 Speaker 1: you know, would go to work and then he would 593 00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:36,320 Speaker 1: come home and it was like a not a normal job, 594 00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,440 Speaker 1: but a job in the sense that he got up, 595 00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:40,200 Speaker 1: went and worked and then he came back home and 596 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,240 Speaker 1: then he would travel for the game if he had to, 597 00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:45,160 Speaker 1: and then come back home you know, but he was 598 00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:49,479 Speaker 1: still very much a family man and a husband and 599 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:54,600 Speaker 1: a dad. And I think that if I was shut 600 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,560 Speaker 1: out for however many months, even if it was like, well, 601 00:33:57,560 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 1: you have the rest of the year with him, I 602 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:03,800 Speaker 1: would be like, I'm not. I'm not like your side piece. 603 00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 1: That's like you're you're able to just cast the side 604 00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:10,440 Speaker 1: like we're a whole family unit and you're going off 605 00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 1: alone for months at a time to focus on something else. Yeah, 606 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,239 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's weird, man, Like I've been having 607 00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:20,799 Speaker 1: these conversations with myself a little bit, just you know, 608 00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 1: as I turned thirty five, and I begin to think 609 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:28,160 Speaker 1: about babies, uh never being like when I leave in 610 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,680 Speaker 1: the morning to go to work, Sunny wakes up, come 611 00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:32,520 Speaker 1: gets out of her crate and Robbie sends me videos 612 00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:35,360 Speaker 1: of her like literally like searching for me, like literally 613 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,279 Speaker 1: like going into the closet, going into the bathroom and 614 00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: just like being like where is she? And I'm like, 615 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:42,200 Speaker 1: that's it's like such a weird thing when you have kids, 616 00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:44,239 Speaker 1: like you're never gonna take them, like I'll never take 617 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:48,840 Speaker 1: them to school, you know, that's just the reality. But 618 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:50,200 Speaker 1: I can pick them up, like I'll be there in 619 00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:52,719 Speaker 1: the afternoon and I'll have that whole you know thing. 620 00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:57,360 Speaker 1: But it's such a weird, Oh my god, it's a 621 00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:00,600 Speaker 1: weird thing to like think about. So I get it, 622 00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 1: like if I were Giselle and I was just kind 623 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,560 Speaker 1: of I don't know, I think there. I do think 624 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:12,080 Speaker 1: there's a balance between like you know, missing morning drop 625 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:16,520 Speaker 1: off but getting afternoon pickup versus like him just for 626 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,359 Speaker 1: five months. Yeah, And also it's like we don't know 627 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:22,759 Speaker 1: if on the off season, if they do if she 628 00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:26,120 Speaker 1: does get the attention and focus from him that she needs, 629 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 1: like he might just this I'm saying, like he's feel 630 00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,040 Speaker 1: like the applause. I feel like he's like, you know, 631 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:33,719 Speaker 1: he's like an Adam Well. I don't amost say he's 632 00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:35,520 Speaker 1: like an Adam Levian, but like I was having this 633 00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:38,560 Speaker 1: conversation with a friend of mine about these like men 634 00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 1: in the entertainment industry and how their egos are fed 635 00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:44,960 Speaker 1: by like the applause. So like Adam Levin's went a 636 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 1: little you know south. But maybe Tom Brady like needs 637 00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,120 Speaker 1: the attention, like he's just used to always having like 638 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:54,359 Speaker 1: people like it, not in a sexual or like a 639 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:56,239 Speaker 1: bad way, but like a and I just like he 640 00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:58,560 Speaker 1: needs the attention, he needs people talking about him, and 641 00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,920 Speaker 1: like being on the field, and like never goes away. 642 00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,480 Speaker 1: You just that is like who you are when you 643 00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:06,319 Speaker 1: are at a level especially I can't even I don't 644 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:09,440 Speaker 1: even know how to imagine that. But if you are 645 00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:13,360 Speaker 1: someone who enjoys playing in front of a crowd or 646 00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:16,840 Speaker 1: having people cheering your name, you don't just walk away 647 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,040 Speaker 1: from that and leave it all behind without a second thought. 648 00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:26,920 Speaker 1: You're always going to be seeking that um validation from 649 00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:31,880 Speaker 1: from people. So wish them all the best, truly. I 650 00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,839 Speaker 1: have a piece of information I want to share about this. 651 00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,040 Speaker 1: I got an email Mark actually probably got this too. 652 00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 1: In early September when rumors that they were like living apart, 653 00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:42,920 Speaker 1: we're going around. Uh, this is from a they make 654 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:46,520 Speaker 1: like betting odds for Vegas vets and they did the 655 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,640 Speaker 1: odds for who his next girlfriend will be if they 656 00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:54,839 Speaker 1: should they split, and uh, the lowest odds, so most 657 00:36:54,840 --> 00:37:01,560 Speaker 1: likely to happen is Taylor Swift. Very unlikely, I found baffling. 658 00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:04,680 Speaker 1: Jennifer Aniston is also up there one odds with Kim 659 00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:09,720 Speaker 1: Kardashi and also in the mix, but it's a Taylor 660 00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:12,520 Speaker 1: Swift most likely to be uh. Tom Brady's next girlfriend 661 00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 1: was such as most likely, most likely she's a boyfriend. Yea, 662 00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:21,920 Speaker 1: I will say I am. I am enjoying the memes 663 00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:27,360 Speaker 1: of Giselle dating Pete Davidson like I'm really that's very funny. 664 00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,319 Speaker 1: On the topic of family versus career, we have an 665 00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:36,759 Speaker 1: email coming up that addresses that exact dilemma. Mark, you 666 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,120 Speaker 1: had something else from the Facebook group, did you would? Yeah? 667 00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:40,880 Speaker 1: This is pretty neat in the Facebook group and I 668 00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:42,840 Speaker 1: got tagged by a lot of people. It's so sweet. 669 00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:46,840 Speaker 1: A group member who stayed anonymous posted, Hey, y'all flying 670 00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,000 Speaker 1: help my husband going on a trip soon. We're flying 671 00:37:49,040 --> 00:37:51,880 Speaker 1: Spirit for the first time. I'm twenty two, and I 672 00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:53,719 Speaker 1: started a panic because I'm not going to fit in 673 00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,200 Speaker 1: the seat or the seat belt. I hear they're really small. 674 00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:58,120 Speaker 1: What can I do to call my nerves? Blah blah blah. 675 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:01,480 Speaker 1: Christine Zelene guy, So we should be giving a shout 676 00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,320 Speaker 1: out to you, she says, I would like to pay 677 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:05,520 Speaker 1: for you and your husband to upgrade to the front 678 00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,680 Speaker 1: row or the emergency rows. I've been there. I'm sorry 679 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,560 Speaker 1: you're anxious. It shouldn't have to be that way. I 680 00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:14,200 Speaker 1: just thought that was fantastic and wonderful and and the 681 00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 1: spirit of the scrubbing and Facebook that makes me emotional. 682 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:22,400 Speaker 1: I just I mean every time I feel like someone 683 00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:26,879 Speaker 1: does something that makes me feel so proud, they talk, 684 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:33,800 Speaker 1: they someone does another thing that is so I can't 685 00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:39,440 Speaker 1: shout out to our scrubbers. That's like what life is about. 686 00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,120 Speaker 1: Like it's about helping each other. It's about being in 687 00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:45,040 Speaker 1: community and like helping in ways that we can, and like, 688 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,239 Speaker 1: I just, I don't know. I feel like, Wow, we 689 00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:51,840 Speaker 1: just sat here and talked for twenty minutes about people 690 00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:54,280 Speaker 1: that we don't even know, like you know what I mean, 691 00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,640 Speaker 1: Like this is what we should focus on. I know, Yeah, 692 00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:02,040 Speaker 1: that is really awesome. I don't have a follow up 693 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,400 Speaker 1: here except that the group member responded saying, I'm in 694 00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,680 Speaker 1: full blown tears. I don't know what to say, and 695 00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:09,080 Speaker 1: then Christine's like responded, I've been in here as many 696 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,240 Speaker 1: times from the anxiety of being a normal humans dressing 697 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:15,240 Speaker 1: but fitting into the box society decided on it shouldn't 698 00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,719 Speaker 1: be a world where normal people have to pay just 699 00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,560 Speaker 1: to exist. I hope you'll accept so you can focus 700 00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,080 Speaker 1: on the excitement of the trip for you and your husband. 701 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:30,200 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that is amazing. I mean, that is 702 00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:35,120 Speaker 1: such a beautiful way of showing up for someone, and 703 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:39,440 Speaker 1: especially from a perspective if I've been there before, like 704 00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:44,760 Speaker 1: please let me like save you the stress that I've endured. 705 00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:48,040 Speaker 1: Like what an act of kindness and love to do 706 00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,839 Speaker 1: that for someone a stranger. Really, I mean, I know 707 00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,960 Speaker 1: we're like a group and we all like have come 708 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,320 Speaker 1: together because of this podcast, but to reach out to 709 00:39:56,440 --> 00:40:01,120 Speaker 1: someone in that way is such a beautiful active And 710 00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:03,160 Speaker 1: I'm also sure that's the last thing she was expecting, 711 00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:04,759 Speaker 1: Like she was probably just coming for like words of 712 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,359 Speaker 1: affirmation or like tips and tricks of how to like 713 00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:12,320 Speaker 1: ease anxiety, and like just was so not expecting that. Yeah, 714 00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:17,440 Speaker 1: that's really cool. Thanks for sharing that. Mark. Do we 715 00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:20,120 Speaker 1: take a break before emails or let's do that. Okay, 716 00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:36,760 Speaker 1: we'll take a break and we'll be right back. Okay, 717 00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,480 Speaker 1: we are back and Mark break did us some good 718 00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:45,160 Speaker 1: not great at break? Yeah, some nice deep breathing, so 719 00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:49,200 Speaker 1: we did some yoga stretches. That's great, all right, Mark, 720 00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:53,000 Speaker 1: with the emails, let's go all right, Bega, thank you. 721 00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:56,640 Speaker 1: This is that one about the family your career. Anonymous 722 00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,920 Speaker 1: does I'm really having one of my biggest predicaments ever. 723 00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,200 Speaker 1: My husband's name was floating around for a big promotion 724 00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:04,520 Speaker 1: at work, and he was encouraged to apply for the 725 00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:07,400 Speaker 1: position which is which is currently a remote position you 726 00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,040 Speaker 1: can do do it from home. He's been making waves 727 00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:12,360 Speaker 1: through the interview process, but has just gotten worth of 728 00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:15,239 Speaker 1: position will no longer be remote and we would have 729 00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,080 Speaker 1: to move to the East Coast. We're very established on 730 00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,719 Speaker 1: the West Coast, close to family. I have my dream job, 731 00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,600 Speaker 1: a job i'd have to quit if we move, great 732 00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,120 Speaker 1: schools for the kids. I don't want to move, but 733 00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:27,400 Speaker 1: he now feels that since I'm supporting, I supported him 734 00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 1: applying not wanting to move isn't supporting him or his 735 00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:33,319 Speaker 1: dreams for his career. He also has concerns he'll be 736 00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:37,120 Speaker 1: overlooked for future opportunities if he turns this job down. 737 00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:40,240 Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable to not uproot 738 00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,160 Speaker 1: our entire lives for maybe a ten KSE salary increase 739 00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:46,200 Speaker 1: for future opportunities, but I feel his concerns with being 740 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:49,600 Speaker 1: overlooked in the future are valid. I am stuck as 741 00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:52,239 Speaker 1: to what to do. Am I being selfish or unreasonable? 742 00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:54,719 Speaker 1: He has a great job currently. He would have never 743 00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:57,600 Speaker 1: applied for this new role if it wasn't a remote job. 744 00:41:57,920 --> 00:41:59,759 Speaker 1: What do I do. We'd have to be on the 745 00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,239 Speaker 1: east close for at least five years, likely more, and 746 00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:11,479 Speaker 1: I'm struggling. Help oof God, relationships are Yeah, I don't 747 00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:13,520 Speaker 1: know that we any of us, will be able to 748 00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:18,200 Speaker 1: have like a great solid answer. But I do want 749 00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:22,560 Speaker 1: to applaud you for being very um aware of the 750 00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,200 Speaker 1: fact that your feelings are very valid and so are 751 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,239 Speaker 1: his feelings, because sometimes I think we only focus on 752 00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:31,400 Speaker 1: like what we're feeling in the moment, and it's like, 753 00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:36,480 Speaker 1: this isn't fair. But I really applaud you for for 754 00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:40,520 Speaker 1: being gracious to how you're both feeling about it. I 755 00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:47,080 Speaker 1: think that sometimes there's these like moments, and especially when 756 00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:51,400 Speaker 1: you have a family and a spouse, you are presented 757 00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:56,080 Speaker 1: with um dilemmas where you have to decide if this 758 00:42:56,160 --> 00:43:01,040 Speaker 1: is where you take up the compromise that you promised 759 00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:03,160 Speaker 1: to each other when you got married. And I think 760 00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:06,880 Speaker 1: sometimes it's like trying something new, and like if you 761 00:43:06,920 --> 00:43:09,880 Speaker 1: know it's gonna be five years, maybe you get to 762 00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:13,840 Speaker 1: experience a new city and meet new people that you 763 00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,640 Speaker 1: would never get to meet if you didn't take that step. 764 00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:20,000 Speaker 1: But I also think if you're just like I can't 765 00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:24,560 Speaker 1: even get to that mentality having a conversation that how 766 00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:27,880 Speaker 1: you ended the email was you would he would have 767 00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,720 Speaker 1: never applied for this if he knew it wasn't remote 768 00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,960 Speaker 1: and reminding him that that was kind of the agreement 769 00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,560 Speaker 1: of him applying for a new position, which was that 770 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,640 Speaker 1: it wasn't going to be a significant change like this. 771 00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:43,880 Speaker 1: It was gonna be a salary increase without anything changing, 772 00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:46,840 Speaker 1: And just talk about it in that way because I 773 00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:48,799 Speaker 1: don't know that there's going to be an answer where 774 00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:52,319 Speaker 1: you're both feeling yeah. But also you can really get 775 00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,399 Speaker 1: granular on it and like do a lot of roman 776 00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,000 Speaker 1: It's gonna take work on your end, but like do 777 00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:58,279 Speaker 1: research and like look at the cost of living on 778 00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,440 Speaker 1: the East Coast. And also if you're away from family, 779 00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,200 Speaker 1: that means you're going to have to have a lot 780 00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:05,520 Speaker 1: of help and hire babysitters and hire whatever like to 781 00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:07,600 Speaker 1: help because you don't have family around. So it's like, 782 00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:10,080 Speaker 1: when you add all that extra stuff up, is it 783 00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:12,560 Speaker 1: worth the ten k salary increase? You know? And I 784 00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:16,520 Speaker 1: think also communicating that to your husband and then having 785 00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:21,320 Speaker 1: your husband communicate that to his uh employers is also 786 00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:23,000 Speaker 1: like a smart way of looking at it. It's not 787 00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:25,319 Speaker 1: him saying like, oh, my family's here and like I 788 00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:28,120 Speaker 1: don't want to move. It's like the ten k is 789 00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:31,040 Speaker 1: not worth us uprooting. The cost of living is going 790 00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:33,040 Speaker 1: to be much more were away from our families, So 791 00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:35,960 Speaker 1: like economically doesn't make sense for me, which I think 792 00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:38,920 Speaker 1: is more respected than like. So I'm sorry to interrupt, 793 00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:41,200 Speaker 1: but yeah, I agree with you a spreadsheet kind of 794 00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,680 Speaker 1: a situation because if she can't do her job there, 795 00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:45,520 Speaker 1: and that means she's not gonna be working at least 796 00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:47,520 Speaker 1: at first, So that's not a ten k increase in 797 00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:51,279 Speaker 1: that sense, it's a decent Yeah, So that's got to 798 00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:54,120 Speaker 1: be factored in as well, and to like the cost 799 00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:58,239 Speaker 1: of moving. But there are two things I wish I 800 00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:00,280 Speaker 1: knew about this. One is how old the kid are, 801 00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:02,560 Speaker 1: and one is what her job is, because is it 802 00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:04,400 Speaker 1: a job and maybe a dream job now, but is 803 00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:06,320 Speaker 1: it a job you can get on the East Coast? 804 00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:08,959 Speaker 1: I don't know. And that the kids are three and four, 805 00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:11,000 Speaker 1: it's a lot easier to move them across the country 806 00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,200 Speaker 1: than if they were twelve. Thirteen, you know, with an 807 00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,640 Speaker 1: established friend group in school system and all that stuff, 808 00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:18,960 Speaker 1: so that stuff would factor into it as well. But 809 00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,440 Speaker 1: my gut is that you go on this adventure together 810 00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:24,480 Speaker 1: and look at it that way. It's an adventure and 811 00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,400 Speaker 1: let's see what where life leads us. I'm with Tania 812 00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:31,200 Speaker 1: in this sense of what what type of salary increase 813 00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:34,200 Speaker 1: would make it worth it for us to uproot our 814 00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:37,600 Speaker 1: lives because I agree. I don't now that we're talking about, 815 00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:40,000 Speaker 1: I don't think ten k is worth it. I get 816 00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:43,080 Speaker 1: like him not wanting to ruin opportunities for the future 817 00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:46,080 Speaker 1: and the company, but I think having a conversation with 818 00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,640 Speaker 1: his company and being like, hey, I want to grow 819 00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,040 Speaker 1: in this space, but I need to make sure it's 820 00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:54,880 Speaker 1: worth it if there's a financial increase to uproot my 821 00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:58,439 Speaker 1: whole family. Yeah, and like guys going all the time 822 00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:03,719 Speaker 1: asking more money, like give me that praise? Yeah, like 823 00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:06,799 Speaker 1: they like guys do it all the time. They ask 824 00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:08,600 Speaker 1: for what they want, they get it. So it's like 825 00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:10,640 Speaker 1: if if you guys are gonna move and you're gonna 826 00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:12,359 Speaker 1: do that, like it needs to be way more than 827 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,359 Speaker 1: a ten k increase. Yeah, I agree, So I would 828 00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:17,319 Speaker 1: sit down and say what what makes it worth it 829 00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:19,480 Speaker 1: to make this move, Like if I'm not going to 830 00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:22,600 Speaker 1: be working or if I can't do my job, and 831 00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,080 Speaker 1: what is it going to cost the employer that Like 832 00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:28,439 Speaker 1: he's actually like doing his research and doing what's best 833 00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,200 Speaker 1: for him and taking care of himself. And I think 834 00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:34,480 Speaker 1: that's commendable for men. But we do wish you the 835 00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:38,359 Speaker 1: best and good luck for whatever y'all decide to do, 836 00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:42,319 Speaker 1: because I know it's a sticky, hard situation to be in, 837 00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:47,480 Speaker 1: and I hope to never have to make such a 838 00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:52,080 Speaker 1: difficult decision because I don't. I mean, Tom and Giselle, 839 00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:56,319 Speaker 1: they don't have to deal with these conversations you know, 840 00:46:56,920 --> 00:47:01,479 Speaker 1: different different all the money you need, Like, dude, she's 841 00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:05,399 Speaker 1: worth more than he is, right, build build, But that's 842 00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,920 Speaker 1: what Yeah, Yeah, I think if you go, you'll be 843 00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,200 Speaker 1: happy you did. Five years from now, you'll realize why 844 00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:13,319 Speaker 1: it was a good thing for your family. I like 845 00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:17,280 Speaker 1: see this future of you having these like lifelong friends 846 00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,839 Speaker 1: and you realizing that you would have never met them 847 00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:23,480 Speaker 1: had you not taken that step. I don't have that 848 00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,200 Speaker 1: same vision, okay, I have visions at the end of 849 00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:30,319 Speaker 1: your comfort zone. Sometimes you got to make the leap. Yeah, 850 00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:32,080 Speaker 1: do you know how much cost to live on the 851 00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:37,799 Speaker 1: East Coast? It's like, well, where you live? Yeah, if 852 00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:40,319 Speaker 1: she lives in nag said North Carolina, it might not 853 00:47:40,360 --> 00:47:44,560 Speaker 1: be as bad. Yeah, we don't have details to compare. 854 00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:50,479 Speaker 1: But does she live in Los Angeles? Dowhere? True? You're true, 855 00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:54,200 Speaker 1: You're right. Well, either way, good luck. We're rooting for 856 00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:58,040 Speaker 1: you and it's hard and you're doing a great job. 857 00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:05,719 Speaker 1: Was there another email? Relationships are wept? That one? Absolutely? 858 00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,080 Speaker 1: There is. We have an anonymous from She said, my 859 00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,560 Speaker 1: sister is getting married in two weeks and I'm freaking 860 00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:12,840 Speaker 1: out about it. She and this guy have been together 861 00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:14,760 Speaker 1: for over two years and I didn't love him at first, 862 00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:16,879 Speaker 1: but I've come to terms with their relationship. But he's 863 00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,279 Speaker 1: patient with her and treats her well, and she can 864 00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:21,560 Speaker 1: be a difficult person to be with. I'm three years 865 00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:24,360 Speaker 1: younger than my sister, and we're polar opposites. I'm a Becca, 866 00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,800 Speaker 1: she's a Tanya, but not in a way that makes 867 00:48:26,880 --> 00:48:30,279 Speaker 1: us best friends. It makes us hard to understand each other. 868 00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:32,879 Speaker 1: I love her, but I wouldn't choose her as a friend, 869 00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:36,040 Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Now. Over the course of their relationship, 870 00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:39,360 Speaker 1: especially the last few months she's confided in me about 871 00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:42,000 Speaker 1: their issues. She says things that make it clear to 872 00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:44,600 Speaker 1: us that there's no way this relationship will last. The 873 00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:47,279 Speaker 1: last thing she told us that she told him that 874 00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:49,760 Speaker 1: he makes her good days bad and her bad days worse. 875 00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:53,359 Speaker 1: She's been incredibly stressed out planning this wedding. She has 876 00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,719 Speaker 1: called me drunken crying. Wonder if she's doing the right thing. 877 00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:58,760 Speaker 1: She didn't ask for my opinion, She just unloads her emotions. 878 00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:00,880 Speaker 1: So my question is how this am I supposed to 879 00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,680 Speaker 1: be in these scenarios? Do I tell her I think 880 00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:06,640 Speaker 1: she should call off the wedding two weeks out or 881 00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:08,680 Speaker 1: just talk cross the ledge and make her feel better 882 00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:10,360 Speaker 1: In the moment, I'm trying to be a good sister, 883 00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,880 Speaker 1: but I can't help but feel that this relationship is doomed, 884 00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:15,239 Speaker 1: and I don't want to regret saying something when I 885 00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:20,560 Speaker 1: could have. If I ever tell one of you that 886 00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:24,240 Speaker 1: Hayley makes my good days bad and my bad days, 887 00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:31,120 Speaker 1: what'd you say worse? Someone stopped me in my track. Yeah, 888 00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:37,279 Speaker 1: that's so bad, A really bad wedding, vows that is? 889 00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:44,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I can't imagine saying those words, and then yeah, girl, 890 00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:46,320 Speaker 1: you gotta do everything you can to stop this wedding. 891 00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:51,600 Speaker 1: Like I think, it's just having a gentle conversation where 892 00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:56,040 Speaker 1: you're all listen, I love you so much and I'm 893 00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:59,879 Speaker 1: never going to stop you from doing something that makes 894 00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:02,080 Speaker 1: you happy. But I don't feel like you're happy in 895 00:50:02,120 --> 00:50:05,839 Speaker 1: this relationship. And you literally told me this person makes 896 00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:09,879 Speaker 1: your good days bad and your bad days worse, and 897 00:50:09,920 --> 00:50:15,800 Speaker 1: you're going to vowel to be with this person forever, 898 00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:20,160 Speaker 1: and that like a math equation, you know, like there 899 00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:23,600 Speaker 1: are ex billion people in this world. If this guy's 900 00:50:23,680 --> 00:50:25,920 Speaker 1: making your good days bad and your bad days worse, 901 00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:30,160 Speaker 1: why not roll the dice and maybe try I don't 902 00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:34,200 Speaker 1: know another one because there are other men in the sea. 903 00:50:36,040 --> 00:50:39,120 Speaker 1: It sounds bad. It's tough because I'm sure people will 904 00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:41,200 Speaker 1: respond and say, look, I tried this with my sister 905 00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:43,440 Speaker 1: and now we no longer speak because she didn't appreciate 906 00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,440 Speaker 1: me saying that two weeks before her wedding, and now 907 00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:47,120 Speaker 1: I've been cut on in their lives. It sounded like 908 00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:48,959 Speaker 1: wouldn't be a huge loss. You two aren't that close 909 00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:51,319 Speaker 1: in the first place. But I do think if you 910 00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:53,560 Speaker 1: talk to her and focus on her. It's not that 911 00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:55,960 Speaker 1: he's a jerk, it's not that you can do better, 912 00:50:56,360 --> 00:50:59,640 Speaker 1: it's I don't think you're happy. I think that's a 913 00:50:59,640 --> 00:51:01,239 Speaker 1: good way to focus on. It gives you something to 914 00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,440 Speaker 1: think about. But I do think they're going to get 915 00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:05,920 Speaker 1: married no matter what you say, and divorce is the 916 00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:07,600 Speaker 1: worst thing in the world. As long as you don't 917 00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:10,200 Speaker 1: feel like he's abusing her, might not be much you 918 00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:12,759 Speaker 1: can do in this situation. I agree. I think you 919 00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:15,040 Speaker 1: just say, like, listen, just from what you've told me, 920 00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:18,239 Speaker 1: I don't feel like you're in the best relationship that 921 00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:20,080 Speaker 1: you could be in. And I want the best for you, 922 00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:24,440 Speaker 1: but you're you know, you're responsible for your decisions and 923 00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,319 Speaker 1: who you're with and who you spend your life with. 924 00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,880 Speaker 1: And I'm just giving you my two cents from what 925 00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:33,239 Speaker 1: you've told me, I just think that you should speak up. 926 00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:34,960 Speaker 1: I remember Robbie told me he did this with one 927 00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:38,200 Speaker 1: of his best friends, like basically told him like, this 928 00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:40,719 Speaker 1: is the wrong girl for you, and he listened and 929 00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:42,439 Speaker 1: ended up with like the best girl in the whole 930 00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:46,640 Speaker 1: wide world. So like maybe she as an example. And then, 931 00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:51,640 Speaker 1: like Mark said, it seems like y'all are besties you know, 932 00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:55,560 Speaker 1: and you say what you need to say that makes 933 00:51:55,600 --> 00:52:00,440 Speaker 1: you feel like peace about the situation and you know, 934 00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:03,680 Speaker 1: like a good sister. And then if it backfires and 935 00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,399 Speaker 1: she gets mad or they cut you out, then that's 936 00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:09,759 Speaker 1: their loss. Really, I think it's it's her loss to 937 00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:14,040 Speaker 1: eliminate you because you were the one who wants the 938 00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:16,239 Speaker 1: best for her, like a good sister. State Farm is 939 00:52:16,280 --> 00:52:20,200 Speaker 1: they I was gonna finish. I wasn't gonna say the 940 00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:24,640 Speaker 1: whole thing, but sponsor. This podcast was sponsored by State Farm, 941 00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:27,120 Speaker 1: and that's how we worked it in. Yeah, that would 942 00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:36,560 Speaker 1: be really good. It's not. It's not so yeah, don't skip. Um. Yeah, 943 00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:40,560 Speaker 1: that's tough. That's a really tough situation. What would you 944 00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:42,840 Speaker 1: want if you were about to make a big mistake? 945 00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:47,920 Speaker 1: If I said that literally? And I would maybe be 946 00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:50,040 Speaker 1: like defensive and mad, But I think I would think 947 00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,480 Speaker 1: about it and be like, oh my gosh, what am 948 00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:55,880 Speaker 1: I doing? I just think I think this is my 949 00:52:56,000 --> 00:53:01,560 Speaker 1: issue with weddings. Okay, no, this is my issue with 950 00:53:01,600 --> 00:53:06,360 Speaker 1: the weddings. People get so wrapped up and committed party planning, 951 00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:09,799 Speaker 1: the party and the event and making everyone happy in 952 00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:14,120 Speaker 1: it that they forget they lose themselves in it, they 953 00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:17,120 Speaker 1: lose the whole purpose and the reason for it. And 954 00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:19,560 Speaker 1: I feel like people end up getting married out of 955 00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:25,480 Speaker 1: the convenience of not disappointing anybody. Yeah, for sure, I 956 00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:27,359 Speaker 1: see that. I think people have a lot of eye 957 00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:30,640 Speaker 1: opening moments in the interim between getting engaged and the 958 00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:34,359 Speaker 1: wedding where maybe they're like, because now they've said yes 959 00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:37,520 Speaker 1: to this, right, so now they're really thinking about the 960 00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:39,759 Speaker 1: future things, and they're seeing things in their partner that 961 00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:42,120 Speaker 1: they're seeing in a different way because now they're about 962 00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:46,080 Speaker 1: to like commit forever to forever with them. And then 963 00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:48,640 Speaker 1: they're like, oh, maybe I don't like this, But then 964 00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,120 Speaker 1: they've already picked out the napkins, they put down a 965 00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:54,040 Speaker 1: deposit for the flowers, and they play out X amount 966 00:53:54,040 --> 00:54:00,359 Speaker 1: of dollars. Mom would be disappointed. Yeah, it's like I'm 967 00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:05,040 Speaker 1: just gonna spare everyone inconvenience and suck it up. For 968 00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:08,279 Speaker 1: many couples, this is the first like long term project 969 00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:10,880 Speaker 1: you're doing together, you know, like like sometimes people have 970 00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:12,960 Speaker 1: bought a house together or raised a child. But I 971 00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:14,759 Speaker 1: think for a lot of people, I know, it was 972 00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:16,800 Speaker 1: this one. For Alison and I, this is the first 973 00:54:17,200 --> 00:54:19,400 Speaker 1: like time you have to do a lot of these 974 00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:21,880 Speaker 1: things that reveal parts of your personality, and I just imagine, 975 00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,480 Speaker 1: like it's such a it's such an important test, I think, 976 00:54:24,520 --> 00:54:28,560 Speaker 1: but also like so hard to realize that it's not 977 00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:34,160 Speaker 1: gonna work after going through that. Yeah, good luck to 978 00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:39,520 Speaker 1: everyone planning. Yeah, I'm sorry. I wasn't trying to be 979 00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:41,040 Speaker 1: a doubt about the wedding. I'm just saying I do 980 00:54:41,120 --> 00:54:42,800 Speaker 1: feel like a lot of people get into that, like 981 00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:46,680 Speaker 1: actually to like you don't want to disappoint people, like 982 00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:49,360 Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, I feel like we hear that a 983 00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,160 Speaker 1: lot of like I'm planning a wedding and I'm just 984 00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:55,040 Speaker 1: not sure and then maybe it's just the nerves and 985 00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:57,520 Speaker 1: you get married and everything's great. But you know, I 986 00:54:57,560 --> 00:54:59,680 Speaker 1: think with this girl, Yeah, if if I'm ever in 987 00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:04,080 Speaker 1: the asition, please step in, don't be gentle. You don't 988 00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:07,560 Speaker 1: need have to be gentle. No, probably probably will try 989 00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:09,960 Speaker 1: to come in at approach tour. He's like a lawyer. 990 00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:12,440 Speaker 1: I need you to be a friend to be like, No, 991 00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:21,640 Speaker 1: I don't need to see like both sides. Um, all right, Well, 992 00:55:21,680 --> 00:55:23,719 Speaker 1: I think that's the end of this podcast. That is 993 00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:25,719 Speaker 1: the end of this problem. I don't think I talk 994 00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:28,440 Speaker 1: about my jury duty experience. I talked about this how 995 00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:33,640 Speaker 1: I met the scrubber. Okay, I wanted to bring it 996 00:55:33,719 --> 00:55:35,160 Speaker 1: up because this was a couple of weeks ago, and 997 00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:38,880 Speaker 1: I have when I say I have tried, I googled 998 00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,520 Speaker 1: every way to get out of jury duty. I had 999 00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:45,120 Speaker 1: postponed it already, I had done everything. And I was 1000 00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:49,440 Speaker 1: like the night before because every night that week I 1001 00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:50,920 Speaker 1: had called and it had been like, you do not 1002 00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:53,000 Speaker 1: have to report, And of course I was just having 1003 00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:56,160 Speaker 1: one of those days where like nothing was going right. 1004 00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:58,080 Speaker 1: And I call that night and it's like, here are 1005 00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:01,879 Speaker 1: your jury duty instructions, and was like, dang it. So 1006 00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:04,880 Speaker 1: I was like I'm just gonna go. I go, and 1007 00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:07,160 Speaker 1: I'm sitting. I had just gotten there and I sit 1008 00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:10,640 Speaker 1: down and this girl comes up to me and she's like, hey, um, 1009 00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,799 Speaker 1: you're back a right, And I said yeah, And we 1010 00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:14,880 Speaker 1: talked for a little bit and she was like you 1011 00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:17,800 Speaker 1: your story, like really it has just been really encouraging 1012 00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:21,080 Speaker 1: for me, and um she was also she's out as 1013 00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:24,440 Speaker 1: a lesbian and I we just started chatting and we 1014 00:56:24,520 --> 00:56:26,080 Speaker 1: ended up like going to one of the tables and 1015 00:56:26,120 --> 00:56:28,160 Speaker 1: we just sat and talked for a long time. For 1016 00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:30,799 Speaker 1: probably two hours, and then we got released. We got 1017 00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:34,200 Speaker 1: literally released before eleven. It was amazing, and I was like, 1018 00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:37,880 Speaker 1: I literally tried everything to get out of this jury duty, 1019 00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:40,279 Speaker 1: and I'm so glad I went because we had the 1020 00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:44,040 Speaker 1: best conversation and I was just so like encouraged by 1021 00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:48,080 Speaker 1: her and just she was I don't know, I just 1022 00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,239 Speaker 1: really really enjoyed our time together. And so I just 1023 00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:53,960 Speaker 1: wanted to say, like, you never know who you're going 1024 00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:57,160 Speaker 1: to meet in situations that you're trying to get out 1025 00:56:57,160 --> 00:57:01,880 Speaker 1: of the great life. Lesson button it up with a 1026 00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:07,400 Speaker 1: nice little bow. Oh that's so good, that's great. I 1027 00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:09,759 Speaker 1: will say though I enjoyed your duty. I was on 1028 00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:12,560 Speaker 1: a jury. There was a great experience, and uh, I 1029 00:57:12,600 --> 00:57:15,000 Speaker 1: would do it again. Wait, so the next time we 1030 00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:20,120 Speaker 1: see each other, it's going to be mid October. Oh, 1031 00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:22,520 Speaker 1: it will be the seventeenth of October. That's right, it 1032 00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:24,600 Speaker 1: will be two weeks out from Halloween. Maybe then Becca 1033 00:57:24,640 --> 00:57:28,360 Speaker 1: will tell if she's dressing. And Becca's birthday and Sunny's birthday, 1034 00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:35,000 Speaker 1: and we just passed Eastern's anniversary five years anniversary. You listen, 1035 00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:37,480 Speaker 1: you might like this. Actually saw my scrap book. So 1036 00:57:37,560 --> 00:57:39,440 Speaker 1: every year on our anniversary. We're doing this thing, like 1037 00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:43,280 Speaker 1: our five favorite memories from the year. It's cute as 1038 00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:44,760 Speaker 1: I like pulled up the book and I was like, 1039 00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:46,440 Speaker 1: we have to start thinking, because we're gonna have to 1040 00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:50,800 Speaker 1: do on our anniversary, our top five actual anniversary November five, 1041 00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:54,600 Speaker 1: is this Hill's first date or what was the Yeah, 1042 00:57:54,760 --> 00:57:57,680 Speaker 1: the night we met at Black Liquor Market Okay, yeah, um. 1043 00:57:58,240 --> 00:58:00,400 Speaker 1: And so it's like this little scrap look and it's 1044 00:58:00,440 --> 00:58:02,400 Speaker 1: like our top five memories from that year. And it's 1045 00:58:02,440 --> 00:58:04,040 Speaker 1: like fun to kind of look back on your memories 1046 00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:05,680 Speaker 1: from like each year, and then you think back on 1047 00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:07,040 Speaker 1: the year and like what your memories around when we 1048 00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:09,640 Speaker 1: put photos in it. It's cute. I love that. I 1049 00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:12,120 Speaker 1: remember when you got that book. Yeah maybe yeah, you 1050 00:58:12,200 --> 00:58:14,320 Speaker 1: were like maybe calm down because I had printed like 1051 00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:18,320 Speaker 1: eight to ten pages and because like, yeah, she had 1052 00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:24,080 Speaker 1: their anniversary already printed out. Yea from the year thirty 1053 00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:28,200 Speaker 1: five or something. It's good to get ahead exactly. Thank you. 1054 00:58:28,440 --> 00:58:32,320 Speaker 1: It's good to get ahead. That's beautiful. Thank you so much. 1055 00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:35,440 Speaker 1: Happy early anniversary, thank you so much. Happy early birthday, 1056 00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,520 Speaker 1: thank you so much. And early birthday to Sunny too, 1057 00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:40,080 Speaker 1: and happy early birthday to sunny as well. We're gonna 1058 00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:44,040 Speaker 1: have a party for her as babies invited, I would hope. 1059 00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:48,880 Speaker 1: So okay um, we love you all, have a wonderful week, 1060 00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:52,320 Speaker 1: and we'll see you next time. We love you by