1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:04,200 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:11,960 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,120 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading you're a 5 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:17,960 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to 6 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now, and you never know. 7 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: Send those letters in because we could be reading Yours 8 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 1: could be yours. It could be Buckle up and hold 9 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is 10 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: a Strawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects caught on film. 11 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for over half my 12 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:39,560 Speaker 1: life and my husband checked out of the marriage five 13 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then 14 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: eventually moved into the guest room. I'm okay with not 15 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: having sex because it wasn't ever that good anyway. I 16 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 1: went through periods of being bitter, but didn't do anything 17 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: drastic because of our children. He told his family that 18 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: I was verbally abusive to him, and his mother only 19 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: tolerant at me so she could see our children. We 20 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: had a brunch over the Christmas holidays to celebrate my 21 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: husband's grandmother's birthday, my husband's grandmother gave a speech and 22 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: looked directly at me when she said that a wife 23 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:16,360 Speaker 1: shouldn't be headstrong and should stay in her place with 24 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:18,880 Speaker 1: a man. That's when I knew that I had to 25 00:01:18,880 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 1: set the record straight and let his sorry family know 26 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: that he's always been the problem. He's always been the problem. 27 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: I couldn't figure I couldn't figure out if he was 28 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: having women in my house or not, so I had 29 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: two cameras to try to catch him. It wasn't until 30 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 1: recently that I got exactly what I was looking for. 31 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: I went out to a convention in Dallas and took 32 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: the kids. My husband entertained a woman for two nights 33 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 1: in my home. The second night, they had sex on 34 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 1: the couch in the den, and it was caught on camera. 35 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 1: I held on to it until his fiftieth birthday party. 36 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: His sister did a video money of my husband's accomplishments 37 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: and gave it to me for the party. I was 38 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: able to add the three minutes of my husband's sex 39 00:02:08,040 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: tape to the end of the video. During the party, 40 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,799 Speaker 1: I had my children leave the room and I played 41 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: the video. Everyone was shocked and speechless. I feel vindicated 42 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:24,239 Speaker 1: and I has filed for divorce. His family really hates 43 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: how I exposed him. Was I wrong for showing the 44 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 1: video to his family at his party? Look, it doesn't 45 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: matter at this point. It doesn't matter what you do 46 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: or you know, if you were wrong or not. At 47 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: this point, the verdict is in. They hate you no 48 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: matter what. They're suffering from what's called misplaced anger. And 49 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: it's quite obvious they never liked you. They even poisoned 50 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: your grandmother's mind, and she lets you know just how 51 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: she felt about you in her speech, you know, talking 52 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: about a woman should be be headstrong and should stay 53 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: in her place with a man. And all that. Your 54 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: husband was caught on film having sex in your home. 55 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: They all saw it. They chose to take his side 56 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:13,919 Speaker 1: and blame you. If I were you, I wouldn't care 57 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:17,239 Speaker 1: what is judgment or family thought of me. They're believing 58 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: what they want to believe at this point, and the 59 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,840 Speaker 1: truth is what they saw on film. They don't care. 60 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,359 Speaker 1: The best thing you could have done, after all, this 61 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: was filed for divorce from this man who lives in 62 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,440 Speaker 1: your home. He has them in your husband for years. 63 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: You said at least five years, and I'm surprised you 64 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 1: tolerated it for as long as you did. But you 65 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: said it was for the kids, but kids are not 66 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 1: It's time to let this thing go now because there's 67 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: nowhere else to go but your separate ways after something 68 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 1: like this, Steve, you know, I have a unique way 69 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 1: of looking at these letters, and I read very carefully 70 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:58,200 Speaker 1: what people are saying because I like timelines, you know, 71 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: I like to figure out where blaring their life when 72 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: they write these letters. So I have picked up a 73 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 1: couple of clues. I've been married for over half of 74 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: my life. My ex husband checked out the marriage five 75 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:16,000 Speaker 1: years ago. He started sleeping on the couch and then 76 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: eventually moved to the guest room. So, if you've been 77 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: married over half your life, and later on in the 78 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: letter you wait to expose your husband at his fiftieth 79 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:33,280 Speaker 1: birthday party, I'm assuming you were married in your twenties 80 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 1: and y'all fifty. Let's just say y'all got married at 81 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: twenty five and y'all fifty. Now, that's how you've been 82 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 1: married over half your life. That's what I'm going to 83 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 1: assume with the timeline. Five years ago he checked out 84 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 1: and moved into the guest room. I'm okay with not 85 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: having sex because it wasn't ever that good anyway. Now, 86 00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: you say you weren't upset about not having sex, but 87 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: then you said I went through periods of being bitter, 88 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: but I didn't do anything drastic because of our children. 89 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: What if you ain't cannon about having a sex. What 90 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 1: you what you're made for? Now? See little conflict hill conflict. 91 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: You were upset because he checked out the marriage, and 92 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,720 Speaker 1: you should have done something about it in spite of 93 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:25,160 Speaker 1: the children. He told his family. I was verbally verbally 94 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 1: abusive to it. Now, he told one side of the story. 95 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 1: But you were verbally abusive to him, and you know 96 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,360 Speaker 1: who you were because you said you got bitter. You 97 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: can't cause a woman to get bitter and then she 98 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 1: let you live in that house in peace. That's are 99 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: not fitting to happen, ain't No, women are not built 100 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: that way. You can't make a woman bitter and then 101 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 1: she don't bring up bit her nests. No, it just 102 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: don't happen. That don't make her wrong. You made her 103 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 1: bitter by checking out the marriage, and she became very 104 00:05:56,960 --> 00:06:00,080 Speaker 1: verbally abusive. He told that part. He didn't tell his 105 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 1: family he had checked out, though, and his mother only 106 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 1: tolerated me so she could see how child you. We 107 00:06:06,200 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 1: had a brunch over Christmas Holidays to celebrate my husband 108 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: grandmama's birthday. My husband grandmama gave a speech and looked 109 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 1: directly at me when she said a wife shouldn't be 110 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 1: headstrong and she's stay in her place with a man. 111 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 1: Listen to this line. Their grandmama stood up at the 112 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: party and saying a wife shouldn't be headstrong and sho's 113 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: stay in her place with a man. Can your grandmama 114 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:34,279 Speaker 1: speak at Mordred's birthday party? Nicktion, This is not about you. 115 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: Your grandmama will speak at Mordred's birthday party being headstrong. 116 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at 117 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letters subjects 118 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:52,160 Speaker 1: caught on film. We'll get back into it right after this. 119 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve. Let's recap today's strawberry letter. 120 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 1: The subject is caught on film. Well, this woman been 121 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: married over half her life, so I'm assuming she's fifty 122 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:06,159 Speaker 1: been married because her husband's fifty birthday is coming up. 123 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: In the letter. I'm assuming they got married in at 124 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: twenty so he would go he checked out the marriage 125 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: five years ago, start sleeping on couch and moving into 126 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 1: the guest room. She's okay, She's okay with not having 127 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: sex because it wasn't that good in anyway. Well, then 128 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: right after that, she said she went through peerds of 129 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: being bitter, but didn't do anything draft because of the kids. 130 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: And so that means you wasn't okay with him checking 131 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: out the marriage, And I understood he told his family 132 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: that I was verbally abusive to him, which is true 133 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: because you were bitter, and you have every right to 134 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: be verbally abusive because he's abusive to you. What man 135 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: checks out the marriage and stay in the house. That's 136 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 1: abuse right there. You did verbally abuse him, but he 137 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: did not tell his family what he did to you. 138 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: He told one side of the story. That's why people 139 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: always tell, right, So I'm so far on your sizes. 140 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 1: His mother only tolerated me so she could see the children. 141 00:07:56,720 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 1: We had a brunch over the Christmas holidays because her 142 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 1: grandma for her grandma's birthday party. My hub and grandmama 143 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: gave a speech and looked at record at me when 144 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: she said that a wife should shouldn't be headstrong and 145 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 1: should stay in her place with a maiden. The only 146 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: thing I gotta this was Kenny, your grandmother speak at 147 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 1: Margie's birthday party. Next she come talk to my headstone 148 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: and had wife and try to talk some old school 149 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: as sense into her because she only a new thing. Okay, 150 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: so she not coming. That's when I knew I had 151 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 1: to set the record straight, and I had let his 152 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,680 Speaker 1: side family know that he always been the problem. So 153 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 1: I couldn't figure out if he was having women in 154 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: my house and not. So I hear two cameras to 155 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 1: try to catch you. You do know he's been having sex, 156 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 1: ain't no man checked out for five years and ain't 157 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 1: had set Because you don't think it is good? He 158 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: going to go get a whole lot of opinions about 159 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:59,559 Speaker 1: his six Is this good thing? To get a whole 160 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: lot of opinions about his sex? It to you? I 161 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: don't like it. She was right about that. Next and 162 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: he just doing numbers. Now somebody fitting' like this little 163 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: sorry sex he got, And so she put cameras up 164 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 1: trying to catch him. Wasn't too recently that I got 165 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: exactly what I was looking for. Went out to convention 166 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: in Dallas, two kids with him, and he had entertained 167 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: the woman for two nights in the house. Second night 168 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: they had sex on the couch in the den, and 169 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 1: you caught it on camera. My lord, Well you held 170 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: on to this and to his fiftieth birthday party. How 171 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: you did that, I will never know, because I'm telling 172 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: you right now, everybody out of there walking in with 173 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:49,079 Speaker 1: that damn take the night she get it. I'm getting 174 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 1: woke up with cold water. Heyy got something wants you 175 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:57,720 Speaker 1: to see. His sister did a video montage of my 176 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:01,800 Speaker 1: husband's accomplishments, gave it to me for the party. I'll 177 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: be in the low down there. The hell of that. 178 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:09,080 Speaker 1: I am the three minutes of my husband's sex tape 179 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:12,439 Speaker 1: and put it on at the end of the video. Well, 180 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: I will go agree with you nine that sex is 181 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 1: side because all the sex tape is three minutes. I'll 182 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:27,280 Speaker 1: be damned you saying he had some sorry sex and 183 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:30,240 Speaker 1: now he'd put it on somebody else. Ain't ain't but 184 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:33,839 Speaker 1: three damn minutes. I'll be damned you added three minutes 185 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 1: of the sex tape to the end of the video. 186 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: During the party, I had my children leave the room 187 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: and I played the video. Everybody was shocked in speech. 188 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 1: I guess they are because they're talking about it and 189 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: done it. H what's his name, Dariel? I was trying 190 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 1: to think that his rain. It's about Herbert this time, 191 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:01,719 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen. Herbert by the outstanding man of the 192 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 1: year member of the Elks lodge. Herbert has been it. 193 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 1: Also outstanding member down at the local union eight eighty, 194 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 1: where he's been delivered and saving speeches and rights for 195 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 1: all the workers in an auto plane. Herbert is also 196 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: a deacon down at the church Church Herbert four thirteen 197 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 1: years down at the church kat founding money and taking 198 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: kids and kids. Everybody, they gentlemanly, put your hands together 199 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 1: for Herbert, fast forward, taking kids. Oh Lord, not looking here, 200 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:39,400 Speaker 1: hold on girl more doubt been too minute. I ain't 201 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 1: got but the middle. All right. Everybody was shocked. I 202 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:49,599 Speaker 1: feel vindicated and have filed for divorce. Now here's the 203 00:11:49,679 --> 00:11:52,200 Speaker 1: part surely that I think you kind of missed on. 204 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 1: His family really hates how I exposed him. It ain't 205 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 1: that they didn't that they took his side. She they 206 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: hate the way you exposed till you was dead. Wrong 207 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: for for waiting until that man's fiftieth birthday party, push 208 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: it on it end or the montage tape that his 209 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,600 Speaker 1: sister took all this time put together. He dined at 210 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 1: the Elksloud he's sentencing on a year. He dined at 211 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: the local Union. He didn't want the basketball and turn 212 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 1: this right here he had now your a bitter bitter 213 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 1: then set up here and put the three minute sex 214 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 1: tape after end at his birthday party. When you wrong that, 215 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 1: you damn right you was wrong, even you're shut up, 216 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: Shirley and Calum. He had that woman in the house 217 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: send the town montage. Harvey f Eminence put on the 218 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:56,839 Speaker 1: here podcast on demand coming up at forty six minutes 219 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 1: after the hour. It's Sports Talk with Junior. You're listening 220 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: to the Day Harvey Morning Show.