1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Here's Nikki. Hello here I am. 2 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: How's it going everyone out there? Thank you for listening 3 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: to the podcast. It's Nicky Glazer podcast. You know it? 4 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: Uh Wednesday, heading to l a UM in a couple 5 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 1: of hours, gonna hop on a plane, go out there, 6 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: get a spray land to get a spray tand hopefully 7 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:34,159 Speaker 1: not get shot. Did I tell you last night? Then 8 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 1: I got a spray tan. I legit was in the 9 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:41,639 Speaker 1: crossfires of a um an active shooter because everyone has 10 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: the citizen apper now. And I got there and the 11 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:47,000 Speaker 1: woman was like, yeah, there's an active shooter nearby. UM 12 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: so I hope this time that doesn't happen. I also 13 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: hope that she's got it. She's gotta go darker. I was. 14 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: I was really not happy with the tone of my 15 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: spray tan and I just had to go over it 16 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 1: last time because it just wasn't dark enough. Um is 17 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: it ever dark enough? Like I, you know, looking at 18 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: my the second I have my body were all of 19 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:12,959 Speaker 1: its love soft and my skin color goes back to 20 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: the normal tone it is. I looked down on my 21 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 1: legs sometimes and I have to like do I'm much 22 00:01:18,880 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: more body positive now and I just accept myself. But 23 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: when the thoughts come in of you're not good enough, 24 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: your legs are gross, you're getting old, it's always when 25 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 1: i'm pale, So like I just gotta keep that tan 26 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: going and I wish I didn't have to. But feeling 27 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:39,839 Speaker 1: like crap today because well not emotionally, pretty good emotionally, 28 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: but like just finally my period started. You know what. 29 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: It's just like it's just outside the door and you 30 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: know it's gonna come, and it's like taunting you and 31 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: just making your life, just making you feel sick, like 32 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 1: I have a headache on one side of my face today, 33 00:01:57,960 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: which I'm trying to get to go away with some 34 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: coffe um And uh yeah, I was just a fucking 35 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: mess this morning, like it all just decided to come 36 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: at once after I had showered. I mean, this is 37 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 1: no one needs to hear this. But what do you do? 38 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 1: What do you do when you get what? What do 39 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: you do? You throw? Do you is it cold water? 40 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 1: Is it baking soda? Is it you do you toss everything? 41 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: And the like it's just it looked it was it was. 42 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 1: Unfortunately I have a friend, Josh Arnold, who used to 43 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 1: have a joke that when you take a shower and 44 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: then you fart when you get out of the shower, 45 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:36,040 Speaker 1: he has to go back in and clean up again 46 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: because he's just like, I'm dirty. I never really related 47 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: to that because it's just like, I don't think farts 48 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 1: don't make me feel dirty, but this shirt did. I 49 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: felt like I had to get back in, but I 50 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: didn't have time. Um, so I'm just gonna be kind 51 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: of gross. The problem is, on my period, my boobs 52 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 1: are like great, like they're just like do you feel 53 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:00,080 Speaker 1: that no one? Do you feel like they're like I 54 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:03,400 Speaker 1: feel like they're and they're taught, and they're heavy. I 55 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:06,239 Speaker 1: think I literally think they weigh like if I got 56 00:03:06,240 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: a scale, I would weigh ten pounds more and it 57 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 1: would all be heavy tit? Do you feel that way 58 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: like mine are? Like they're with girls with like really 59 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: big boobs, shout out to you all out there, because 60 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 1: the mine aren't huge, but they get weighed down so 61 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: much that they're just like awe and they hurt and 62 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:27,839 Speaker 1: it's just your boob changes completely. I like the look 63 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: of it. The problem is, no one's seeing me naked 64 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: right now because I'm you know, I can't have sex 65 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: like this. I mean I could. I wouldn't have a 66 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: problem putting down a towel, but sex with someone new 67 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 1: on your period, I try it. I really honestly don't care. 68 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: We're talking a lot about sex today because we're having 69 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 1: on dr Emily Morris from Sex with Emily later on 70 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: in the show, and she's going to talk to us 71 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 1: about masturbation, about orgasms and all that stuff. But we're 72 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: talking about the idea of sex toys being introduced early 73 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 1: on in a relationship. Like if Andrew texted this morning 74 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: to both of us, if we if we hooked up 75 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 1: with a guy for the first time and he had 76 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: a bunch of sex toys that were like clean, would 77 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: we be gross creeped out? I was like, absolutely not, 78 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: I would love it. That's the kind of guy that 79 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: will have period sex with you in the first time. 80 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 1: To like, let's just like not pretend that sex is 81 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:21,600 Speaker 1: something other than what we want it to be, and 82 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,280 Speaker 1: let's pull out of bragget tricks right away. If we're 83 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 1: going to be in a relationship, I will be on 84 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 1: my period at some point. I will need you to 85 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: have sex with me on my period. That is not 86 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: I won't be in a relationship where guys like you 87 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:36,359 Speaker 1: just close your eyes, turn off the lights and pretend 88 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: them super wet. I don't know what you need to do, 89 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:42,159 Speaker 1: but I mean, I guess it is can be very gross. 90 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 1: I don't know if i'd be down with it, um 91 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: if I were a guy. Uh, I wonder how guys 92 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: feel about it? Do they like it? I'm just kidding, 93 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,360 Speaker 1: what do you mean? Like not Like I wonder if 94 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: it feels like warmer and like slimier and they like 95 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 1: it's like the same consistency almost of like there come 96 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 1: uh kind of ours too, you know, like if if 97 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:10,799 Speaker 1: you really were blind, you would just think a woman 98 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: was super duper? What do you know? What I mean? 99 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 1: And I think it's just I'm like, I don't want 100 00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: to get really gross, but sometimes today's the day gets 101 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 1: a little what today's the day. That's the day. But like, 102 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: I just don't want people to hear about period chunks, 103 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 1: but sometimes things get a little I mean, it is 104 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:32,280 Speaker 1: the lining of your uterus shedding in case men do 105 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: not know that, dude, I gotta tell for everyone who's 106 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: still listening, thank you so much. And um, I do 107 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:41,359 Speaker 1: want to point everyone to something while we're on the 108 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: topic of just like kind of gross not gross things, 109 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 1: but like just women's issues and men's too. If you 110 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: or anyone you know is pregnant, about to have a baby, 111 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: has a baby, had babies. There is this my friend 112 00:05:57,560 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 1: Jamie Lee, comedian Jamie Lee told me about this podcast 113 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:05,919 Speaker 1: that's like old Oprah shows that are just like you 114 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:08,919 Speaker 1: know growing up. I've listened to it yesterday. It plays 115 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:10,880 Speaker 1: the whole like intro and it's like, oh my god, 116 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:13,280 Speaker 1: I Oprah to me was coming home from school and 117 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 1: eating four bowls of honey bunches of oats with almond 118 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: um after after school and then eating dinner like it 119 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 1: was just like plowing cereal watching Oprah. But it brought 120 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:26,920 Speaker 1: me back. But they're they're playing old episodes. There's one 121 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: with Brooks Shields and it is about postpartum depression, which 122 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 1: is not just baby blues, and she I can't believe, 123 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,479 Speaker 1: like it's not the number one thing you think about her. 124 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: I'm glad it isn't, because she's so much more than that. 125 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 1: But she goes on Oprah and she was saying, like 126 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:43,720 Speaker 1: I hated my baby. I didn't want anything to do 127 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 1: with her. I wanted her like and she she did 128 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: in viture. She did everything she could to have this baby. 129 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: And the baby was born, and she was just like, 130 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,479 Speaker 1: uh and just like I don't like I we should 131 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 1: get rid of her, not like kill her, but like 132 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: she and and the lovely thing is that Oprah was like, 133 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: did you you know Brookshields wanted to kill herself a 134 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: lot during this time. She was so depressed. And this 135 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,480 Speaker 1: was right when she had a baby. Noah. So everyone's like, 136 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: you must it's supposed to be this time of bonding 137 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: and you're supposed to love it. And she was just like, 138 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 1: I don't have any feelings towards this thing. It's annoying. 139 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to, not like care for it, but 140 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: I don't. She's crying and I don't care. I have 141 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: to feed her because that's what you do, but I'm 142 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 1: not like looking forward to it. She just she really 143 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: and she really goes into detail. It's almost uncomfortable how 144 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 1: much she hated her baby. This all turns around because 145 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 1: she got on medication. But I just thought, how many 146 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: women are out there feeling these feelings and I have 147 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 1: no I have no Brookshields to relate to them. Brookshields 148 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: fucking hated her baby. So if you have a little 149 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: resentments for your your kids, or if you're having postpartum 150 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: definitely listeners. Or if you know someone that does, please 151 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: give this to them because it will make them feel 152 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 1: so much less alone. Because she gets just gets so 153 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 1: real about it, and Opa says, did you ever have 154 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: any intention to harm your baby? And she goes, thank god, 155 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: I didn't. She goes, thank god, because I heard postpartum 156 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 1: depression and I thought, there's no way I have that, 157 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 1: because that's women who drive their cars into lakes and 158 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: throw their babies off balconies or whatever. And that wasn't me. 159 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: And it's like, no, that's the that's the end of 160 00:08:16,520 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: the spectrum of postpartum depression. That's postpartum psychosis, which all 161 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: of this can lead to if it's untreated from what 162 00:08:22,840 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: I understand. Um. But the way that she said, think 163 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:28,239 Speaker 1: because Ober goes, did you ever think of harming your baby? 164 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 1: And instead of Brooke being like, oh my god, no, no, 165 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: she just goes, no, but thank god I didn't. Meaning listen, 166 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: any woman that harms her baby doesn't. Do you think 167 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: that woman signed up to be someone who harms her baby. 168 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: She couldn't she couldn't help it. I mean, I really 169 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: believe that her brain tricked her. And no one wants 170 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: that when they when they are growing up, no one 171 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: wants to go Someday, I would like to be Suzanne 172 00:08:51,880 --> 00:08:54,960 Speaker 1: Smith and drive my Volvo into it, Like I remember 173 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: that woman who drove a car into a lake or something. 174 00:08:58,080 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: She's like five kids in it. This is in the nine. 175 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 1: It really stood out to me because I thought my 176 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 1: mom has evolvo and we're really annoying. Sometimes I better 177 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:08,680 Speaker 1: be on the lookout for this, you know. I really 178 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:11,440 Speaker 1: remember being like this, that's how could you do that? 179 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: And then going like I am more scared because I 180 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: could see how you could do this because me and 181 00:09:15,559 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: my sister pretty obnoxious. I have to bring in Andrew. 182 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: Andrew Andrews coming with the news in just a second. 183 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 1: Hey Andrew, good morning, Good morning. How did you sleep 184 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: last night? But what did we watch last night? The 185 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 1: end of Notting Hill? Yeah, I love Okay. Noah. Andrew 186 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 1: has seen Notting Hill, he said, probably like twelve times 187 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 1: in his life, which he knew everything that was happening. 188 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:49,200 Speaker 1: I have seen this movie like probably three times, and 189 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,400 Speaker 1: I haven't seen it since probably we both knew the 190 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:58,959 Speaker 1: one line that was how long have you been? How long? Yeah, 191 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 1: they're at the press conference and he's like, excuse me, mom, 192 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: and she's like, um, yes, and they're both like having 193 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:08,559 Speaker 1: this like I funk moment. He's pretending to be a 194 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 1: guy from Holse and Hound Uh magazine and she first 195 00:10:14,280 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 1: of all, she gets asked how long she's staying in 196 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:17,199 Speaker 1: the country to shoot a movie, and she goes, I 197 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 1: leave tonight. And then someone else asked, what about the 198 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 1: gentleman you were seeing spotted with, which, by the way, 199 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 1: if they photographed her in her underwear at a man's 200 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: house and then the man came to the door in 201 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: his underwear. To the British tabloids would have known who 202 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: the man was, he would be famous in notting Hill. 203 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:33,200 Speaker 1: It would have been a whole thing. But instead they're like, 204 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: what it was the one guy we saw you at 205 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: the one time when there were hordes of crips. It 206 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 1: didn't make any sense. And then she goes, actually, we're 207 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: just friends, and this before she knows he's in the room, 208 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 1: and then they're like and then then Hugh Grunt says, well, 209 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,439 Speaker 1: is there any chance that you will be more than friends, 210 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 1: And who would ever say this to a reporter? Like, Okay, 211 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: so she's under the guy. Everyone in the room thinks 212 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:58,199 Speaker 1: she's talking to a reporter, even though she knows she's 213 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: talking to Hugh Grant, the guy that he's asked thinking about, 214 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 1: and she's like, think about celebrity doing this? Um, the 215 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: man I was spotted was was just a friend? Okay, 216 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:08,480 Speaker 1: excuse me? Could is there a chance you could be 217 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:12,200 Speaker 1: more than friends? Well? I wanted to be, but he 218 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:15,280 Speaker 1: didn't want that. Like he says to you, Grant, It's 219 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: like no actors that has guarded would ever be like 220 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 1: I wanted to be more than friends, but he didn't 221 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: want that. You know, the only person that says that 222 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,600 Speaker 1: admits that as a woman, me, I'm the only one. 223 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 1: No women admit being rejected. I've been rejected live on 224 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:33,440 Speaker 1: air from men otherwise. And I'm not saying I'm some 225 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:37,680 Speaker 1: like brave person. It's not a good look, um to 226 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 1: admit being rejected. And that's what Julia Roberts didn't that 227 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: scene to Hugh Grant, who she knew was like coming 228 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,440 Speaker 1: around to love her, because his eyes did that slopy 229 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 1: like the thing where he's like his eyes make a bridge. 230 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:52,560 Speaker 1: That's being you know when like boats pass under a 231 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 1: bridge and the bridge lifts up, like it splits in 232 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 1: the middle and it lifts. That's what he grants eyebrows 233 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 1: do when he wants to look like, well you still 234 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 1: love me, he looks like a Persian cat got excited, 235 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:09,880 Speaker 1: or like he he's a very exotic cat face expressive. Yeah, 236 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:16,560 Speaker 1: and his always are very drippy. You're you're a huge 237 00:12:16,559 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 1: grand fan. That's why you Hill twelve times? And he goes, 238 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:24,080 Speaker 1: I'm a huge grand fan. What and Andrew, I'm not alone? 239 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 1: I go, this is boggling my mind that Andrew Colin 240 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: has seen Notting Hill. And I go, do you? And 241 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: by the way, you are alone? Because I go, who 242 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 1: did you watch this with? Did you watch this alone? 243 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:34,559 Speaker 1: And you go, yeah, well yeah, I did watch a 244 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: lot of those I've watched. I was very in the 245 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 1: romantic comedies. I thought my life was going to be 246 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: a romantic comedy. I thought i'd meet a girl in 247 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 1: a bookstore where I was reading you know, uh, you know, 248 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 1: eating cheese sandwiches for Dummies, and she'd find me an 249 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 1: aisle for and like, hey, you liked this book too, 250 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:59,320 Speaker 1: and then oh my god, my uncle wrote this book, 251 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: and well, really, wow, that's crazy. Thought it was going 252 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: to be some kind of like great story instead of 253 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:05,839 Speaker 1: just a girl sliding into your dems because she is 254 00:13:05,880 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: a fan of your podcast. They're broth romantic story though, 255 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:13,320 Speaker 1: I do. I do, And I thought that's my life 256 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 1: was going to be a story. And then Hugh Grant 257 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:18,199 Speaker 1: had that and about a Boy. I was about a 258 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: boy because it was about this like, you know, this 259 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 1: guy that took in a girl. The father was not 260 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:25,199 Speaker 1: there enough and he took in this little boy. It 261 00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:27,680 Speaker 1: was kind of pedophile e the movie when you look 262 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 1: at it differently, um Nick Hornby I think is the author. 263 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 1: I like that guy's work. I loved Hugh Grant. I 264 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:37,000 Speaker 1: love actually because finally Hugh Grant was like he was 265 00:13:37,080 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 1: the Prime Minister. He's like so hot and he's the 266 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: most powerful man and he has a way of being 267 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 1: a very soft while being manly, which I it's an 268 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: interesting way to like, I don't know, it's like I 269 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 1: feel like David Spade has a way of doing it 270 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 1: where he's like self deprecating while still like getting respect 271 00:13:56,760 --> 00:14:00,319 Speaker 1: from everyone. There's an interesting like where I don't know 272 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 1: it's vulnerable, Yeah, vulnerable, being strong stay with me again, vulnerable, vulnerable, vulnerable. Um, yes, 273 00:14:10,200 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 1: I agree. Last night I was watching notting Hill Noah, 274 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: and I was like, I go, oh my god. Hugh 275 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 1: Grant is feminine energy. Julie Roberts to a tea is 276 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 1: masculine energy the whole the whole time. She makes the 277 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: first move. She's the one that shows up to him. 278 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 1: She's the one that asks him out. He tells her, 279 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: I can't tonight. I have my sister's birthday. She's like, 280 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:34,760 Speaker 1: I'll go with you. She makes all the money. It's like, 281 00:14:35,720 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 1: whoever wrote that film? I knew exactly what these rules were. 282 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 1: And then he's the one that's when she comes back, 283 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 1: and then she goes, I can't do that. He goes. 284 00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 1: She's like, I want to be with you. I'm just 285 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: a girl standing in front of boy asking him to 286 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:51,520 Speaker 1: love her. And he's like, I can't. I can't sign 287 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 1: up for the emotional pain that that this is going 288 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 1: to put me through. And she's just like what And 289 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 1: it's like whoa. The rules are flipped And at no 290 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 1: point does I mean he comes after her in the end, 291 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: but she's the one sitting up there in the lights 292 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 1: of the cameras on her going, well, he told me 293 00:15:07,320 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 1: he didn't want me, and so you know, I couldn't 294 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: do anything about that. He's like, well, maybe the readers 295 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: of Wholese and Hound would like you to be together. 296 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:18,840 Speaker 1: But I think I think there is something to where 297 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 1: he's going. Look, I I can't get into situation because 298 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: I've been hurt before. You're mean to me. You also 299 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 1: kind of left me for your apparently ex boyfriend at 300 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:30,960 Speaker 1: one point, and I think sometimes we just want to 301 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:35,320 Speaker 1: female energy, female energy that whole time. But I think 302 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: not calling him a woman, no, but I'm saying though, 303 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 1: we don't take his feelings, and like we don't really 304 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 1: take his feel because he is the man, and it's like, oh, 305 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 1: get over it. Stop being a little bit like get 306 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 1: over her. And I'm saying most men are not that type. 307 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 1: I mean, every man feels sadness when he loses a woman, 308 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 1: but the way that Hugh Grant expresses it in this 309 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: and being like I'm not doing that again and like 310 00:15:56,560 --> 00:16:02,440 Speaker 1: so sad it is a female um energy thing because 311 00:16:02,840 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 1: there are men who bond through sex and can that 312 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 1: like a woman normally does. But it's usually the woman 313 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 1: that um because they banged and then he was like 314 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:20,000 Speaker 1: gaga and then she was the one that was like 315 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: com out. He also read lines with her, which I mean, 316 00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: if you're a man and he read lines with a woman, 317 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 1: he ated with her, can you read lines with me 318 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 1: on the roof? Remember? And it was such a good 319 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:36,640 Speaker 1: argument they got into because so he goes to set 320 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 1: to like see her after she's rejects him, and he 321 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:42,320 Speaker 1: puts on headphones because he's sitting by the crew tent 322 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 1: and he hears her having discussion with another person on 323 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: the set, and the guy on the set is like, so, 324 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:51,240 Speaker 1: what's with that guy that came to visit you? Talking 325 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: about Hugh Grant, And Julie Robs is like, Oh, he's 326 00:16:54,360 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 1: just a friend, just a guy that I was saying, 327 00:16:56,640 --> 00:17:00,080 Speaker 1: I don't even know why he's here and you and 328 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 1: it's like so sad. The bridge comes up on his forehead, 329 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:06,440 Speaker 1: the boat passes through his eyes, his eyes get sad. 330 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: He leaves right and then later she comes into the 331 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: store the next day is a little bookshop, and she's 332 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: like she brings him with sugar, which is probably a 333 00:17:13,840 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 1: million dollar painting that they just abandoned when they go 334 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,880 Speaker 1: to track her down. By the way, we've noticed. So 335 00:17:20,640 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: she comes back to the store or she comes into 336 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: the store and he's like, well what about She's like, 337 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 1: I want you, and then he's like, well what about 338 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 1: on set? I overheard you? And she's like, oh, I 339 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:33,640 Speaker 1: I lied to that guy who's fucking talks to everyone 340 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: and it was just an asshole. It was such a 341 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:36,840 Speaker 1: moment that would happen with a guy where you're like, 342 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 1: you hear a guy kind of like talk badly about 343 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: you to someone or just like kind of dismiss his 344 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 1: feelings for you to like a guy friend, and you're like, well, 345 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 1: you didn't tell Bradley that, like how much you love me? 346 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:49,240 Speaker 1: And it's like, why would I tell Bradley He's not 347 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:51,520 Speaker 1: to be trusted. And then you're like, oh, it was 348 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 1: just funny for her to be like I'm not gonna 349 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:55,399 Speaker 1: tell that actor how I really feel. And if you 350 00:17:55,800 --> 00:18:00,119 Speaker 1: be like, oh, I'm I caught missus. I relate did 351 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:02,119 Speaker 1: to that so hard of just being like I know 352 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:04,679 Speaker 1: exactly what you're doing and it's like, no, I was 353 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,879 Speaker 1: protecting you in that. Yeah. Also, it's such a long converse. 354 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: Oh so I met this guy at the bookstore, like 355 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 1: she's going to go through the whole fucking story. It's 356 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,399 Speaker 1: Hugh Grant was like, why didn't she tell our love story? 357 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It would it took forever, I know, 358 00:18:18,920 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: but how often do women feel that way all the 359 00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:24,159 Speaker 1: time of like, but why didn't you just do that? 360 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:26,640 Speaker 1: And it's like because it would have just been more difficult. 361 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:29,720 Speaker 1: It is such a simple answer that would have cleared 362 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 1: up everything and they could have just gone from there, 363 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 1: and um no, because she goes it's she can say 364 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:38,680 Speaker 1: I don't know why he's here. I bet she didn't know. 365 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 1: But the last thing when I don't know, it seemed yeah, 366 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 1: I don't think she lied. But if she did, yeah, 367 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: that would kind of bug me too, because she's a 368 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:48,240 Speaker 1: way of saying it without lying. Let's get to the news. 369 00:18:48,680 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 1: The newsst one, It's Wednesday, It's hump day. I hope 370 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:05,840 Speaker 1: everyone's humping, humping around, hump around, and remember that song Hello, 371 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:10,399 Speaker 1: Humpty Dance, Humpty Dance. Interviewed that guy on my podcast 372 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: he died, I know just recently the all the swells, 373 00:19:15,359 --> 00:19:18,359 Speaker 1: what's what are the headlines? New study on sex toys 374 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:24,800 Speaker 1: break common misconceptions. The surveyed women I'm listening and then 375 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,760 Speaker 1: relationship said that they were open with partners about sex 376 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: toy use. New studies break the misconceptions that sex toys 377 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:37,399 Speaker 1: are only bought for solo use and the stereotype that 378 00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:40,880 Speaker 1: is for women who have difficulties having orgasms. In two 379 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:44,880 Speaker 1: thousand four study who thinks sex toys are for women 380 00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: who have difficulty having orgasms? Yes, that's why I buy them, 381 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:53,800 Speaker 1: But like, I don't think that that's well, I mean, 382 00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,760 Speaker 1: essentially this is this story is about like that that 383 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,400 Speaker 1: women are using sex toys. Every time you're thinking, oh, 384 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 1: it must be single women that are alone to fill 385 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 1: up their pussy with you know, a dildo, But no, 386 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:08,840 Speaker 1: you can add it to the relationship and I can 387 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: make things hotter, it can renew it can rekindle things 388 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:14,840 Speaker 1: if you're like in your forties and you want to 389 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:19,640 Speaker 1: try new positions anyhow. But yeah, so I mean when 390 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 1: do you when do you break it out? Like how 391 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,840 Speaker 1: long into a relationship before you bring out first time 392 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,159 Speaker 1: I'm having sex? I mean, if I want to like 393 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:30,480 Speaker 1: not the first time I'm having well, I mean yeah, honestly, 394 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:32,400 Speaker 1: like if I want to come. I need a sex 395 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 1: toy because I am especially the first time with the guy, 396 00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,879 Speaker 1: I just don't I don't really if to have it 397 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: feel the best it can possibly feel for me. Yeah, 398 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:46,040 Speaker 1: sex toy is gonna really speed up the process. And 399 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 1: like I've said before, it's not gonna be as good 400 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:51,119 Speaker 1: as me alone with a sex toy. To have also 401 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:54,640 Speaker 1: a guy there too, but both together, it's like it's 402 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:57,120 Speaker 1: just a combination. I just I'm so excited about. It's 403 00:20:57,119 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 1: like having all your best friend from college and your 404 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: best for from high school visiting at the same time, 405 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 1: and you're like, we all get along. This is so 406 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: much more fun with all of us than it would 407 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:08,639 Speaker 1: be if I just visited you individually. So true. Well, okay, 408 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:10,439 Speaker 1: how about this a guy You hook up with a 409 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:13,159 Speaker 1: guy because this happened to me recently. You woke up 410 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,639 Speaker 1: with a guy. He has an orgasm, right, but I 411 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 1: mean for a little while he has an orgasm, you 412 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,800 Speaker 1: try to use the toy while he fingers you, right, 413 00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,959 Speaker 1: But there's like maybe a little bit too much pressure 414 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,840 Speaker 1: because he's not quite as into it anymore because he's 415 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: already come, but he's trying to be into it. But 416 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 1: he's like looking at her and kissing her neck, but like, 417 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 1: don't put yourself in the scenario because he's no, Okay, 418 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,880 Speaker 1: now it's getting less sexual and I into it, Okay. 419 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:47,199 Speaker 1: So anyhow, he goes, hey, you know what, Look, I 420 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:48,920 Speaker 1: think I'm putting too much pressure on you because I'm 421 00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 1: in here. I already came. Why don't I go outside 422 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: for ten minutes. You do whatever you gotta do, plug 423 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:56,680 Speaker 1: up all the holes, have a great time, no pressure, 424 00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,320 Speaker 1: take your time and have an orgasm, and we come 425 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:01,600 Speaker 1: out and we'll go at dinner. How do you feel 426 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 1: about that? I would be annoyed that I didn't come before, 427 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:10,640 Speaker 1: because it feels better when I tend to come when 428 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 1: like the guy is invested in it. That's like makes 429 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 1: it better. But um, I'd probably just forego the orgasm 430 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,240 Speaker 1: because I'd be like, you know what, I I don't 431 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:21,800 Speaker 1: really need. If I really wanted to, I would get 432 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 1: it done myself. But the thing is, I was masturbating 433 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 1: last night and I realized that if I get in 434 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:30,119 Speaker 1: a relationship and I'm living with someone, I can't have 435 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 1: them like almost like outside the door walk like they 436 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 1: could walk in the bedroom. I need to lock myself 437 00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 1: away to do what I do to myself to get off, 438 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,280 Speaker 1: Like it is not a pretty sight, it is not sexy. 439 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: It's not something I could just do when the guy 440 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,560 Speaker 1: goes to the shower, and it's like just you know, 441 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:49,200 Speaker 1: take care of yourself. It's so involved and so one 442 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:52,359 Speaker 1: man band in a town square with like so many 443 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 1: different things going that it's it's a really personal experience. 444 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,919 Speaker 1: And I almost was like having this moment last night 445 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,800 Speaker 1: where I was like, enjoy the fact that you have 446 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:04,400 Speaker 1: no one in your life that can enter your room, 447 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:08,000 Speaker 1: Like Andrew is across the way. He is not like 448 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,399 Speaker 1: I live with someone, but he's not going to be 449 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 1: walking in my room anytime. I truly have privacy, which 450 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 1: when I'm in a relationship or married at some point 451 00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 1: I will only get when I'm like away at a 452 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:24,639 Speaker 1: hotel or something. It's almost like you want to I 453 00:23:24,760 --> 00:23:26,879 Speaker 1: want to do it unless the guy took a walk 454 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: for an hour. Yeah, and like really gave me and 455 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:32,440 Speaker 1: had enough toys there to satisfy me. If I Matt 456 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: his place and only has a little vibrator that you know, 457 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,359 Speaker 1: his roommate got sent to him her in a box 458 00:23:38,359 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 1: of toys and she just handed one to him. That's 459 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,040 Speaker 1: the thing. Women get these toys and they just get 460 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: whatever novelty toy their friend gives them as a gift. 461 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 1: You need to go find what works for you. I 462 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 1: have found a system through so much practicing that works 463 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,399 Speaker 1: for me. And I couldn't just like someone just couldn't 464 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 1: give me a little lipstick vibrator and go, oh, gonna 465 00:23:57,760 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 1: have fun. That would be worthless to me unless a 466 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:01,760 Speaker 1: guy had his fingers in me as well. It was funny. 467 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,360 Speaker 1: I was like, were you thinking of me at least 468 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:05,680 Speaker 1: while I was not in the room? Are you thinking 469 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: like John Stamos? And she goes, I was only thinking 470 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,640 Speaker 1: to you, and it was really like nice even though 471 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:12,920 Speaker 1: she lied Probably John Stamos, I think she probably just 472 00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:17,960 Speaker 1: didn't know who that was because she's Yeah, her vision 473 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:27,479 Speaker 1: of that would be like you and someone asking you 474 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: if you masturbated to like Aunt b from like Andy 475 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:36,240 Speaker 1: Griffith show. So next story, brain scans of people with 476 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:40,359 Speaker 1: oh do you know what mesophony is? Yeah, that's when 477 00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:43,639 Speaker 1: people get enraged rage, rage, rage, not just like I 478 00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:46,280 Speaker 1: don't like there's other people chewing fucking want to rip 479 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:49,160 Speaker 1: your head off and have blood boiling at the sound 480 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:52,399 Speaker 1: of people eating or chewing her mouth sounds. In other words, 481 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,600 Speaker 1: they're people that can't be friends with either of us. 482 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,080 Speaker 1: Thank god, learning from my father, I feel like that 483 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:02,800 Speaker 1: should be a commercial learned from you, Dad. My dad 484 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 1: is the loudest I can't do with him. If but 485 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 1: people could, I bet they're misophonics that have heard your 486 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 1: dad eating at a ruby to the next table and 487 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,760 Speaker 1: we've wanted to kill him. I think masophonics have probably 488 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:18,000 Speaker 1: murdered before, and they it's probably been like because it's 489 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:20,120 Speaker 1: chewing was loud and people don't understand. But I've heard 490 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: it described. Shout out to those people out there with misophonia. 491 00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:27,000 Speaker 1: It sounds like hell, like to be literally enraged by 492 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 1: the sound of a mouth sound that you can't like 493 00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: control that rage. And it's like scientifically proven that it. 494 00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: So it's like it's a what are you suggesting is 495 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,800 Speaker 1: that mesophonian to trigger sound activates the motor area even 496 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 1: though the person is only listening to the sound, So 497 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 1: it actually like affects the part of your brains like 498 00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: stabs stabs. Yeah. Yeah, And so I mean, so they 499 00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,040 Speaker 1: really can't They're not being annoying by being like, hey, 500 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:56,120 Speaker 1: can you it's not if someone tells you that there 501 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 1: you're chewing is annoying you. If you don't know about misoponiasophonia, 502 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,720 Speaker 1: get into it, because how would you feel though, if 503 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 1: someone goes, hey, can you not chew as loud? I 504 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,560 Speaker 1: would say, Oh my god, I am so sorry. I 505 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 1: really am. I'm not paying attention. I'm in my own world. 506 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,360 Speaker 1: I am very That's the thing we get in our 507 00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 1: own world while we're eating. Yeah, I mean, Andrew gets 508 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 1: annoyed at the sound of the bowl scraping because I 509 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,120 Speaker 1: eat a lot of oatmeal. You know the and if 510 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:24,760 Speaker 1: you want the oatmeal recipe, here you go. Okay, here 511 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,400 Speaker 1: we go. Everyone get your pens out and um, if 512 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,200 Speaker 1: you don't want to get your pens out, you maybe 513 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 1: get out your notes on your phone and someone someone 514 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,680 Speaker 1: take this down and then we will repost it on 515 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:37,720 Speaker 1: our story if you posted on your story. So here 516 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:41,840 Speaker 1: we go. Ready, let's go. It is one packet of 517 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 1: either low sugar oatmeal, whatever your flavor. There's many multi 518 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 1: flavor boxes of low sugar or regular oatmeal. Now that 519 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,160 Speaker 1: can be you know, whatever kinds you want, right, One 520 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:56,200 Speaker 1: packet of regular or low sugar. Then if you like stevia, 521 00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 1: whatever you like to sweeten. Some people don't like stevia. 522 00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:00,240 Speaker 1: Sometimes this might be enough. If you're not a big 523 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:02,119 Speaker 1: sugar head, you won't even need to put in ceva. 524 00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,480 Speaker 1: I put in three cva, but that it can I 525 00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:07,880 Speaker 1: would say, would start with one. Then I would put 526 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:13,359 Speaker 1: in one scoop of or gain chocolate fudge powder. That 527 00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:17,280 Speaker 1: is a vegan uh protein powder. It has the green top. 528 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 1: It's a big tub. They're like forty bucks. And then 529 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,520 Speaker 1: it will last you. Like if you eat as much 530 00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,480 Speaker 1: oatmeal as I do, it will last you about four days. No, 531 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:28,560 Speaker 1: it's it should last you months and months. One scoop 532 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,360 Speaker 1: of that. Then add water, add a bunch of water. 533 00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:33,400 Speaker 1: I would add a cup in a fourth of water. 534 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 1: I like mine to be very stupy. This depends on 535 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,240 Speaker 1: your consistency. Put it in the microwave two minutes. Put 536 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 1: it in a big bowl because that's is gonna rise 537 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,359 Speaker 1: two minutes. Take it out, depending on I like mine, 538 00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,520 Speaker 1: piping hot. Pour some oat milk or almond milk into it. 539 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: Just a splash or a splash or two, just to 540 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,080 Speaker 1: cool it down. Taste it. If it's too cool, throw 541 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,399 Speaker 1: it in for another thirty stir it up, put some 542 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,119 Speaker 1: more cold oat milk in to settle it into temper 543 00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 1: the temperature, and then you got your oatmeal. Okay, next story. 544 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,000 Speaker 1: I do feel like that's a long time. I feel 545 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,880 Speaker 1: like it would be too hot. Why do I care? Well, 546 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:09,359 Speaker 1: you like things very I like things very, very hot. 547 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 1: So um, Andrew, I think puts it in for one 548 00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:16,200 Speaker 1: minute because he's I just shoot the protein and I 549 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: snort the protein. I will say that mush stuff is great, 550 00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 1: mush oatmeal. That stuff is cold and it's so good. 551 00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,680 Speaker 1: Go on. I love a lazy snack. Why do I care? 552 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:33,920 Speaker 1: Why do I care? Matt James back in the news. Oh, 553 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,440 Speaker 1: he's always putting his hand on Rachel kirk Connell. I've 554 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,240 Speaker 1: seen so many photos of them walking the streets and 555 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,160 Speaker 1: he always has his hand like this on her and 556 00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 1: it is so cute. He's always protective of her. He's adorable. 557 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: They even spotted a bunch. Uh. There's nothing you can 558 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:51,680 Speaker 1: tell me about them. But I don't know what gave 559 00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 1: him actually an altimatum. She like flipped it on him. 560 00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,880 Speaker 1: An ultimatum. Okay, you said an ultimatum. But he will 561 00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 1: let a new card aid by Toyota. I think seven 562 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: hours to get a lease, okay, an ultimatum, an ultimatum, 563 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:12,800 Speaker 1: alterman concert okay, So no ultimatum to do a fully 564 00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: committed relationships. So she kind of flipped it on him. 565 00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:18,120 Speaker 1: She was like, look, if you're going to make this work, 566 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:19,680 Speaker 1: let's do it. But if you're not going to make 567 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:23,040 Speaker 1: it work, I'm going to let you do your own thing. Eventually, 568 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 1: she's like, someone read the book. Wait a minute, Andrew, 569 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:30,680 Speaker 1: you're missing a very vitals. Okay, No, he said, that's 570 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 1: really all I needed. It was an ultimatum that I needed. 571 00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 1: He continued, It's been great. It was honestly a commitment 572 00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,280 Speaker 1: that we made to each other that we were working, 573 00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,200 Speaker 1: that we were going to work on the relationship. Love it. 574 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:47,720 Speaker 1: Ultimatums they work. Ladies out there, men out there. If 575 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,360 Speaker 1: you if you're dealing with someone who is a masculine 576 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:54,160 Speaker 1: energy person, whether you're decide what you are, but if 577 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: you are the one that's in like the submissive role, 578 00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,280 Speaker 1: which does not mean you're a pussy, but the other 579 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:01,560 Speaker 1: person is calling shots. If you're not getting what you 580 00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,240 Speaker 1: want a relationship, what you say to them, I want 581 00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,280 Speaker 1: to be clear you go and this might not get 582 00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:07,600 Speaker 1: what you want, but it's the only way to get 583 00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 1: what you want. You say, listen, because I even told 584 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,680 Speaker 1: this to Andrew. I would go, like, if someone wants 585 00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:15,920 Speaker 1: something and you're not saying it, girls, I'm talking to 586 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 1: you out there. You're in a relationship, you're fucking a guy. 587 00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 1: You're not he's not your boyfriend. You have to say 588 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 1: to him, here's what I want. Tell him your feelings truthfully, 589 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 1: be like I'm in love with you. If that's the truth, 590 00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:26,720 Speaker 1: I like you a lot. I could see being in 591 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:27,960 Speaker 1: love with you, I could see you as a husband. 592 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,560 Speaker 1: Tell them exactly how you feel. It's okay. They'll be 593 00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 1: able to handle it if they're the right guy. And 594 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 1: this isn't to say like you don't just you don't 595 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:36,360 Speaker 1: want him. If he's not gonna be able to handle it, 596 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:38,920 Speaker 1: this actually will turn him on more than you think 597 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:41,600 Speaker 1: it will. Tell him your feelings only speak from I feel. 598 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 1: Then say this is what I want and if you 599 00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:48,120 Speaker 1: don't want that, but bye, and literally you have to 600 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,480 Speaker 1: say goodbye and cut them off in every way, and 601 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,080 Speaker 1: there's no gray area of like, let's see how it goes. 602 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: It's if you want this or not, because I know 603 00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:57,040 Speaker 1: what I want. I'm as sure as I'm as sure 604 00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 1: as hell that I want this, and I don't know 605 00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 1: if it's gonna last forever, but it might, and I 606 00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,840 Speaker 1: want to give it a world. And then you need 607 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,680 Speaker 1: to actually go through with the ultimatum. You can't just 608 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 1: say I'm leaving you unless you do this and then 609 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: never leave and just let them kind of go, oh, 610 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna look into getting therapy now. Unless 611 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 1: you get help, I'm leaving and here's the date I'm leaving. 612 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 1: And if they don't, you gotta leave. And guess what, 613 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,120 Speaker 1: it's the only way to get have you ever seen intervention? 614 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:23,920 Speaker 1: People need to give ultimatums to get people to get help. 615 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,080 Speaker 1: It's the same system as getting a guy to commit. 616 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 1: Guys do not want to commit. It is not in 617 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:29,920 Speaker 1: their nature. Addicts do not want to give up the drug. 618 00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:32,160 Speaker 1: It's not in their nature. You need to make it 619 00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:34,440 Speaker 1: so that they lose things that they love and make 620 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:37,760 Speaker 1: them realize how much they love you in order to 621 00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:40,600 Speaker 1: make the change. And I also think reading the article, 622 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 1: I think she was doing the work for the racism stuff. Meanwhile, 623 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:47,920 Speaker 1: he was fucking other girls, and he was doing the work. 624 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:49,760 Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, he was doing a lot of work. 625 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:52,240 Speaker 1: And she was like, look, I'm doing this work. I'm 626 00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,840 Speaker 1: doing everything I need to do to get. I'm reading, 627 00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,280 Speaker 1: and you're fucking other women and get you're holding it 628 00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:59,440 Speaker 1: over me that you're not with me because I'm racist. 629 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,880 Speaker 1: I think she was just tired of that show and 630 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:04,120 Speaker 1: she and I'm sure she was in the doghouse with 631 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:06,560 Speaker 1: what she did, and she was just like, you know what, 632 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,680 Speaker 1: I'm actually trying to get out of this and I'm 633 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,480 Speaker 1: ready for a commitment. Let's talk about that. Let's not 634 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,720 Speaker 1: talk about the racism thing, you know, which is an 635 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,720 Speaker 1: important topic, but like it's been addressed. What about the commitment? 636 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:19,120 Speaker 1: What about you? Yeah, stop using my racism to go 637 00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,480 Speaker 1: down on for the other one. Yes, all right, let's 638 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:25,440 Speaker 1: get to our guest today. We're doing a deep dive Wednesday, 639 00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:27,479 Speaker 1: which is a new thing I came up with just 640 00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:30,320 Speaker 1: recently where we just like go really hard into a 641 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:32,520 Speaker 1: topic that you know, we kind of talked about a 642 00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:34,040 Speaker 1: lot on the show and we never really have time 643 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: to get into. Today it's going to be masturbation, self pleasure, 644 00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:41,720 Speaker 1: sex toys and who better to have with me today 645 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:44,880 Speaker 1: on the show talking about this than obviously Andrew is here, 646 00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:49,840 Speaker 1: but uh, Emily, Dr Emily Morse, who is a Let 647 00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,320 Speaker 1: me just get your credits right, because you are You're 648 00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,360 Speaker 1: a doctor, and I always forget about that because you're 649 00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:57,360 Speaker 1: just so cool and I've not the doctors aren't cool, right. 650 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:01,120 Speaker 1: She's a doctor of human sexuality And obviously you can 651 00:33:01,160 --> 00:33:04,640 Speaker 1: listen to her longest running sex in Relationship podcast, Sex 652 00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:06,800 Speaker 1: with Emily, which I talked a lot about on this show, 653 00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,800 Speaker 1: has taught me so much. Sex with Emily Sex with Emily. 654 00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:12,480 Speaker 1: There are two episodes every week Tuesday and Friday, and 655 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,240 Speaker 1: you can follow her on Instagram for so much great 656 00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:21,160 Speaker 1: sex info, info graphics, just great positive reinforcements, statements like 657 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,480 Speaker 1: you should have an orgasm today? Do it and I'm 658 00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 1: like okay Instagram, Yeah, it's it's it's it's a motivational 659 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,960 Speaker 1: speaking for for sex. And you can follow her at 660 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:37,960 Speaker 1: Sex with Emily on Instagram and everywhere else. Um. Love 661 00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 1: having you on the show. We've worked together before. Welcome 662 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,560 Speaker 1: to the show, Emily Morris. Hi, Hi, It's so good 663 00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:45,520 Speaker 1: to see it, so good to see you, all of you, 664 00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 1: the whole teams. Thank you congratulations on being our first guest, 665 00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:52,920 Speaker 1: because we wanted to have in someone who was an 666 00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 1: expert who is going to enlighten us on something that 667 00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:57,520 Speaker 1: we talk a lot about but we don't really have 668 00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:01,960 Speaker 1: all of the facts. Um are you. We're talking about 669 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,600 Speaker 1: masturbation today, which we've already talked about on the show, 670 00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:07,680 Speaker 1: and sex toys you, I just want to say, or 671 00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:11,479 Speaker 1: someone that got me into using lube by myself, uh, 672 00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:15,120 Speaker 1: because why not? You also got me into audio porn, 673 00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 1: which I haven't gone back to, but the first time 674 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,440 Speaker 1: I did it was almost too intimate because it was 675 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:21,160 Speaker 1: just like felt like a man was whispering in my 676 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 1: ear and it was just made me sad because it's 677 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,880 Speaker 1: what I wanted so badly. But you've you've introduced me 678 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,400 Speaker 1: to so many new concepts in terms of self pleasure 679 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,040 Speaker 1: as a single woman. Are you a single woman right now? 680 00:34:31,080 --> 00:34:34,640 Speaker 1: And what's your sex life like when you are? Okay? Well, 681 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:37,919 Speaker 1: I am I'm dating. So I'm dating a few people 682 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 1: right now, which is kind of my jam. It's been quarantine. 683 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:44,919 Speaker 1: I am single. I got a dog, she's sitting right there, 684 00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:49,359 Speaker 1: super happy, makes faive. But I'm dating someone. I'm maybe 685 00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 1: like two or three people and they all know about 686 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,680 Speaker 1: each other. But during quarantine, I was mostly single, I 687 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:56,680 Speaker 1: would say for the majority of the time. So I 688 00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:00,280 Speaker 1: do masturbate a lot. If that's your question, how often, 689 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:06,200 Speaker 1: I would say, okay, So first off, it's masturbation month. Yeah, 690 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 1: so this is perfect. So happy masturbation month. Thank you, right, exactly, 691 00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:21,240 Speaker 1: generation it's great. But here's the thing about masturbation. Whether 692 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:24,880 Speaker 1: you're single or you're in a relationship, you should always 693 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 1: be masturbating because sex begets sex. So people wonder like, oh, 694 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:30,680 Speaker 1: I've been single and I'm not having sex, and then 695 00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:32,719 Speaker 1: they go to have sex and they're like, I wasn't 696 00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:34,000 Speaker 1: in the mood or I didn't know what to do. 697 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 1: You've got to keep that engine running. It. Think of 698 00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,560 Speaker 1: it like working out. If you worked out twice a year, 699 00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,960 Speaker 1: you wouldn't be in great shape. So the more you 700 00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:45,279 Speaker 1: keep going and self love and self pleasure. First, for me, 701 00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,600 Speaker 1: masturbation was how I learned everything about my body. I 702 00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:51,480 Speaker 1: learned how to better orgasms. I learned how to connect 703 00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:53,520 Speaker 1: with a partner and say this is exactly where I 704 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:55,920 Speaker 1: need you to touch me. Because they don't freaking know 705 00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:05,719 Speaker 1: on the button of my vibrator. Yeah, exactly here, that's 706 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:08,120 Speaker 1: what it is, the blue button with a plus sign 707 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,239 Speaker 1: on it. Turn it up. Um. I think you're so right, 708 00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:13,120 Speaker 1: and that is something else that you taught me in 709 00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,520 Speaker 1: listening to your podcast. I'm serious, you guys have to 710 00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:17,600 Speaker 1: listen to Sex with Emily. It's not one of these 711 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,439 Speaker 1: sex podcasts that you kind of roll your eyes about 712 00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:22,239 Speaker 1: where it's just like girls just talking about how much 713 00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:24,000 Speaker 1: they love an know, which is like my favorite kind 714 00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,839 Speaker 1: of podcast as well. But this I really someone who 715 00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:28,879 Speaker 1: thinks I know everything when it comes to this ship 716 00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:31,759 Speaker 1: and and I just don't. And it's you even talk 717 00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,440 Speaker 1: to me about like just the self love aspect and 718 00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:38,000 Speaker 1: like feeling your vagina, like feeling trying to put your 719 00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,320 Speaker 1: brain down there and feel what it feels like to 720 00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:41,880 Speaker 1: have the blood rush on there. I really when you 721 00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:44,920 Speaker 1: told me that one you told me that like your podcast, 722 00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 1: but it was like a friend was telling me I 723 00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:50,040 Speaker 1: wentn't masturbated, and I was like masturbated, and I thought 724 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,000 Speaker 1: of that I was like trying to think with my vagina. 725 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,680 Speaker 1: It was a totally different experience because I realized I 726 00:36:54,719 --> 00:36:57,080 Speaker 1: don't even I don't even pay attention to what I 727 00:36:57,080 --> 00:37:00,279 Speaker 1: feel down there. Most of the time, it's here. Well, 728 00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:03,080 Speaker 1: here's the thing. We are cut off so so many. 729 00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:04,840 Speaker 1: And I hear this from women more than men, but 730 00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 1: when you think about it, it's actually for all genders. Well, 731 00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,200 Speaker 1: let's talk with women. We are cut off. We don't 732 00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:11,680 Speaker 1: want to look at our but this is just many. 733 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:13,520 Speaker 1: We don't want to look at our vaginas. We have 734 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,120 Speaker 1: shame around it. My lady is long. Someone shaved me, 735 00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:19,399 Speaker 1: someone shaving, someone shamed me about my vagina. I can't 736 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:22,680 Speaker 1: have orgasms, so but then we expect, but when sex happens, 737 00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:24,960 Speaker 1: I should be totally ready and open. So the thing 738 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,759 Speaker 1: about breathing during sex not only does it during masturbation, 739 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:33,239 Speaker 1: not only does it help facilitate orgasm like your orgasms, 740 00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,680 Speaker 1: it's it's all energy, right, So it's like breath when 741 00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:38,840 Speaker 1: you picture yourself breathing deep into your pelvic floor like 742 00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:40,960 Speaker 1: a And I'm not all wuie on my show. I'm 743 00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:43,799 Speaker 1: just saying this is reality. When you are like like, oh, 744 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 1: blocking yourself, like orgasm blocking, you just kind of picture 745 00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,600 Speaker 1: it and you can feel it moving through your body. 746 00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:52,759 Speaker 1: So breath is important. Uh, Taking a look, like take 747 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,279 Speaker 1: a mirror, and actually like, what is going on down there? 748 00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,560 Speaker 1: Because this is what I've learned. I was like, and 749 00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:59,200 Speaker 1: I was in grad school for this, right, and they 750 00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:00,520 Speaker 1: were like, you gotta go home look at the mirror. 751 00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want to do that, you know, 752 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, I gotta look. But when you look and 753 00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,120 Speaker 1: then you touch yourself when you masturbate, you realize that, 754 00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,520 Speaker 1: like you know all those Georgia O'Keeffe paintings, you're like 755 00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:13,880 Speaker 1: flower blue. Oh my clitter is. Actually, when I touched myself, 756 00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,960 Speaker 1: it blossoms because the blood starts to flow, like it's 757 00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:20,000 Speaker 1: like it becomes more swollen. So the cool thing is 758 00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 1: since I love my vibrators and I use them, I mean, 759 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:26,719 Speaker 1: I'm one of these women. Only of women can orgasm 760 00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:30,800 Speaker 1: from a penis alone, so really most women isn't for guys. 761 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,560 Speaker 1: Just so you're worried about your penis eyes, Andrew, I've 762 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:38,600 Speaker 1: heard you make some comments about this time O jokes totally, 763 00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,279 Speaker 1: but we don't care, Like sure, some care, just like 764 00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,279 Speaker 1: you might want a woman with large breast, small breast. 765 00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:47,160 Speaker 1: It's really about the clitterest. It's all external, even though 766 00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:50,760 Speaker 1: there's internal nerve attings. The point is I use a vibrar. 767 00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,160 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, when I use that as well. 768 00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,160 Speaker 1: So when I'm with a guy and I can come 769 00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:56,360 Speaker 1: from oral sacks, that can come other ways. But I 770 00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,400 Speaker 1: was like, look at this cool toy. I'm like, do 771 00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:00,200 Speaker 1: you see when you put it there and watch like 772 00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,880 Speaker 1: swells and then they get into it and they're like, 773 00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:04,319 Speaker 1: I'm like, this is how you use it, and then 774 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,160 Speaker 1: there's no threat and there's no weirdness. They're They're part 775 00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,839 Speaker 1: of the orgasm. But I had to learn that through masturbation, 776 00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,799 Speaker 1: and I do it so sometimes I forget. I wear 777 00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:15,799 Speaker 1: a vibrator around my neck. Nicky, I have to send 778 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:22,920 Speaker 1: you one of these. It's waterproof and rechargeable. It's a vest. 779 00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:26,480 Speaker 1: It's literally the best vibrator. Like a really long like pen. 780 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,120 Speaker 1: It looks like a pen, like a wait pen, Yeah, 781 00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:34,080 Speaker 1: exactly where every day it's called a vesper, Crave, thank you, 782 00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:38,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get are you in l a still love? 783 00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,000 Speaker 1: It says it's it's I do it with this company 784 00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:44,520 Speaker 1: called Crave, and it says you can get three phrases, 785 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,120 Speaker 1: I come first, turn me on, or meditate, master, rate 786 00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:50,080 Speaker 1: manifest But anyway it works. I always have it. Then 787 00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:55,680 Speaker 1: I like, what was I saying? Vibrates vibrate like your necklace. 788 00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,360 Speaker 1: If you're at the bank and the tellers like, I 789 00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:58,879 Speaker 1: like your necklace, what do you do? You just say 790 00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:01,279 Speaker 1: it some pens. Okay. It depends where I'm at, Like 791 00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,120 Speaker 1: if someone's like, oh, that's cool, I can kind of 792 00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:05,880 Speaker 1: read the road. But sometimes if it's a woman, and 793 00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:08,040 Speaker 1: I'll be like, you know what, it's actually a vibrator, like, 794 00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:12,200 Speaker 1: oh my god, YE want that. I also vibrate in 795 00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,880 Speaker 1: the shower, so sometimes I forget to masturbate, and I 796 00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:18,280 Speaker 1: like have waterproof in the vibrators in the shower because 797 00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm just gonna nap one out. Because the 798 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:25,200 Speaker 1: thing about masturbation is it enhances our mood. It improves 799 00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: our our ability to connect with ourselves. It boost your 800 00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,440 Speaker 1: immune system, and we all know you have an orgasm, 801 00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:33,360 Speaker 1: you feel better. Can I ask a question, though? Do 802 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:36,239 Speaker 1: you ever? Do you ever masturbate and then you know 803 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,239 Speaker 1: your guy you have a date that night or a 804 00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,960 Speaker 1: date the next day, and you don't. For me, I 805 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:44,040 Speaker 1: feel like I'm not as horny if I masturbate the 806 00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,640 Speaker 1: day before or the day of to want to pleasure, 807 00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:50,440 Speaker 1: to woman or like stock, So it's hard for me 808 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,080 Speaker 1: to actually have an orgasm, like I really only can 809 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:55,560 Speaker 1: have them with a woman if like once every three 810 00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,160 Speaker 1: or four days, I don't, it's something going on in 811 00:40:57,160 --> 00:40:59,400 Speaker 1: my hands. Different for men, it's different for men. So 812 00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,600 Speaker 1: the j others are pretty similar when it comes to 813 00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:04,160 Speaker 1: a lot of things with sex. But the one area 814 00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,560 Speaker 1: is that for men it's better to kind of for 815 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:08,920 Speaker 1: you sounds like for you you'll understand your body. It's 816 00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:10,880 Speaker 1: better to wait. You're like, I'm gonna build it up 817 00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:12,680 Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna be ready to go. But for 818 00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:16,200 Speaker 1: women it's like pregaming, like we can have like two 819 00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,680 Speaker 1: d and thirty six orgasms a day. If you look 820 00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,919 Speaker 1: at like like Tom Trick, like if you go back 821 00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,399 Speaker 1: to like Tom Trick massage or Tom Trick beliefs, it's 822 00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:26,719 Speaker 1: like we can keep coming and coming and coming, and 823 00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:29,080 Speaker 1: in fact, the more we come, the more chey we have, 824 00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,680 Speaker 1: the more energy. But for men, it's better to save 825 00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:34,640 Speaker 1: it so you're doing the right. I totally agree. I 826 00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:37,200 Speaker 1: feel like before a date, I sometimes would masturbate before 827 00:41:37,200 --> 00:41:39,400 Speaker 1: a date that I'm nervous about or like, am I 828 00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:41,360 Speaker 1: even gonna feel sexual? Because I have a lot of 829 00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:44,120 Speaker 1: hang ups with intimacy with men, and I would I 830 00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,520 Speaker 1: just I shut down a little bit when I feel 831 00:41:46,520 --> 00:41:49,160 Speaker 1: like we might get intimate for the first time. I 832 00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,200 Speaker 1: just I am scared of that first time. But if 833 00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,640 Speaker 1: I'm already been masturbating a lot, like you said, it 834 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,480 Speaker 1: gets me in the mindset of like I'm a sexual person, 835 00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:00,160 Speaker 1: like I went through a draught of two years of 836 00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,839 Speaker 1: not having any sex or like you know, making out 837 00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:05,680 Speaker 1: with guy one time in two years, like just really nothing. 838 00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,719 Speaker 1: But I masturbated so much that I feel like I 839 00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:10,600 Speaker 1: came out of it like I had been sucking the 840 00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:12,799 Speaker 1: whole time, like I've been in a relationship, and came 841 00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:15,840 Speaker 1: out of it so much more, so much better in 842 00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:17,959 Speaker 1: bed that by the time I did get in bed again, 843 00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:21,160 Speaker 1: I was like a dynamo. I was really impressive. I 844 00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:22,920 Speaker 1: remember the guy being like, you're like a porn star, 845 00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,880 Speaker 1: and I was like, this is pretty basic to me, 846 00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:26,520 Speaker 1: and it's like I just know what I like and 847 00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:28,960 Speaker 1: I'm just know, hey, let's do this position, let's do this, 848 00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,200 Speaker 1: And it wasn't anything that crazy, but I was just 849 00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:36,040 Speaker 1: more comfortable with myself. But I feel though, um, I 850 00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,640 Speaker 1: when we talk about sex toys and like what works 851 00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:42,160 Speaker 1: for us. It's it's not just like one vibe fits all. 852 00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,000 Speaker 1: And I feel like a lot of women just get 853 00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:47,600 Speaker 1: whatever vibrator they get from a bachelorrette party, or they 854 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,279 Speaker 1: go to the store once and they hastily pick it 855 00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:51,520 Speaker 1: out because they're embarrassed, or they get with their friend. 856 00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:56,480 Speaker 1: Got I found my clip is like lower than every 857 00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:59,160 Speaker 1: rabbit toy thinks. It is like the rabbit toys always 858 00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,600 Speaker 1: hit in my belly button, and I'm like, I need that, 859 00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:04,640 Speaker 1: so for me, let me just show you. And I 860 00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,400 Speaker 1: talked about this on your podcast. You've got to check 861 00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:08,400 Speaker 1: out the podcast I did with Emily. I did a 862 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,040 Speaker 1: recent episode of her show and getting so much great 863 00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:13,120 Speaker 1: feedback about it where we had more time to really 864 00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:15,839 Speaker 1: get into the stuff. But um, I did clean this off, 865 00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:17,640 Speaker 1: so any kind of thing on it, it's just water, 866 00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:20,759 Speaker 1: I promise you. So this one is my favorite. It 867 00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:28,200 Speaker 1: is the rabbit unkin. Actually, when she's getting money from 868 00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:34,520 Speaker 1: the bank, she's like, no, it's uh, I think it's 869 00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:37,279 Speaker 1: a weapon. The bank They're like, well, we'll give you 870 00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:40,480 Speaker 1: whatever you want. So it's a giant, big thing. It's 871 00:43:40,520 --> 00:43:44,560 Speaker 1: probably like you know, a good like five and a 872 00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:48,360 Speaker 1: half inches from insertion, and then there's the little rabbit 873 00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,280 Speaker 1: thing on it. This thing is doing not my clips, 874 00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,239 Speaker 1: like all the way down at the base here, and 875 00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:55,200 Speaker 1: so when I put this thing in me, this thing 876 00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:57,200 Speaker 1: is doing nothing. All it does is this whole part 877 00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:59,480 Speaker 1: gets in my way. And so when I want to 878 00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:01,600 Speaker 1: put something on my clip, this thing is just blocking it. 879 00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,520 Speaker 1: And but this the best part about this thing is 880 00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:07,200 Speaker 1: that it uh, it has a thrust to it, so 881 00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:09,560 Speaker 1: when you plug it in yourself, and I plug it 882 00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,080 Speaker 1: with my heel so that I don't have to use 883 00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:13,640 Speaker 1: my hands and feel like I'm bringing it to myself 884 00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,120 Speaker 1: and I can imagine it's someone else. And when I 885 00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:17,799 Speaker 1: plug it. That's the thing I like best about it 886 00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,000 Speaker 1: is that it has that thrust to it that makes 887 00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:21,880 Speaker 1: it feel like it's a penis. But this part I 888 00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:23,520 Speaker 1: want to I think I might just literally get a 889 00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:27,960 Speaker 1: raised Nicky Nikki. I'm sending you so many because here's 890 00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:30,160 Speaker 1: the one I love, but I broke. This is the 891 00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:32,320 Speaker 1: one I love so much. This is the thrust or 892 00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:34,640 Speaker 1: it has no attachment, so it doesn't block my clip. 893 00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,839 Speaker 1: But it was like this thing I have that I 894 00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:46,520 Speaker 1: have this one, yeah, yeah, tell me. First off, I'm 895 00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,000 Speaker 1: going to change all of your life. I guess I 896 00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,520 Speaker 1: get twenty five pounds of sex toys delivered to my 897 00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,719 Speaker 1: office to day, and it used to just I'm not 898 00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:58,440 Speaker 1: I should show you pounds, and so it used to 899 00:44:58,480 --> 00:44:59,759 Speaker 1: be just me. I mean, I have doing this for 900 00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:01,560 Speaker 1: sick seniors. It needs to be like, what is my 901 00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:03,560 Speaker 1: vagina think about this toy? It turns out no one 902 00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:07,160 Speaker 1: like it's just mine. So my whole tests out toys, 903 00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:10,200 Speaker 1: so I know. But there's other companies I'm gonna send you. 904 00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,239 Speaker 1: So what you need is you need like a thruster toy. 905 00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:15,239 Speaker 1: I didn't bring them all out, but there's ones that 906 00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:18,680 Speaker 1: just thrust without the little rabbit part of it. And 907 00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:22,680 Speaker 1: then there's also one by we Vibe called the it's 908 00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:26,360 Speaker 1: the Nova, and they have figured out that little external 909 00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:28,440 Speaker 1: part for the clitterest. The little rabbit ears, but it 910 00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,879 Speaker 1: curls like this, so it doesn't it doesn't just do 911 00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:33,960 Speaker 1: this and it will touch your clitterest. But I just 912 00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:37,360 Speaker 1: think you need a thruster that's not broken, and the Nova. 913 00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:38,719 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have them send it to you, so you 914 00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,880 Speaker 1: guys can all Noah, and I'll thank you and Andrew, 915 00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,279 Speaker 1: I'll send you guys toys because I do. Here's one 916 00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:45,440 Speaker 1: more thing. I just want to share it before we 917 00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:48,560 Speaker 1: get to Andrew's toy. And I want to hear a 918 00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,920 Speaker 1: question though about and I think as guys out there 919 00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:54,319 Speaker 1: and you know, guys not feeling comfortable with girls with 920 00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:56,520 Speaker 1: sex toys and stuff like what. You just showed me 921 00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,800 Speaker 1: that robot arm that goes like this and it twirls 922 00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:02,279 Speaker 1: and it No, it just goes like this, literally just 923 00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,800 Speaker 1: goes like this. Let's not make it into something. Okay, 924 00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:10,960 Speaker 1: But you also had a rabbit that was sucking your 925 00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,239 Speaker 1: clip at the same No, it's not sucking. We don't 926 00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:15,400 Speaker 1: like that like that, it's in the way. This thing 927 00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:17,560 Speaker 1: I'm saying, no, but that is me to touch your 928 00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:18,880 Speaker 1: Can I show it to you? I want to go 929 00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,560 Speaker 1: get you the job. In my point is I'm just asking. 930 00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:25,960 Speaker 1: I'm just asking that if I'm competing, if any guy 931 00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,600 Speaker 1: with the penis competes against these things, like I'm just saying, 932 00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,520 Speaker 1: there's ego involved, and they do you as a woman, 933 00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:36,320 Speaker 1: is the penis still feel as good when you because 934 00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,319 Speaker 1: you have penis and then use a vibrator on top 935 00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,880 Speaker 1: of your clips and yeah, the fact that warm penis 936 00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:45,920 Speaker 1: is always going to feel better, always, Andrew always. I 937 00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:48,080 Speaker 1: was listening to a recent podcast that you guys did, Andrew. 938 00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,680 Speaker 1: You were saying with girls, moan, are the only moaning 939 00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:54,560 Speaker 1: because the penis is big? And I'm telling you because 940 00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,919 Speaker 1: it feels good. It has nothing to do the size. 941 00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:58,759 Speaker 1: There are women who are size queens, like I said, 942 00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,120 Speaker 1: for sure, they're like I only want sizes, but it 943 00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:04,360 Speaker 1: just feels good to be with a warm, working human penis. 944 00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:06,960 Speaker 1: And so what Nikki's showing you is she's figured out 945 00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:09,799 Speaker 1: her body that come hither. This one doesn't come hither, 946 00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:12,640 Speaker 1: but it's like you could do that with your fingers 947 00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:22,719 Speaker 1: and hither, come hither. I have the mimi or it's 948 00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,680 Speaker 1: like suction no, no, but do you have the suction to? 949 00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:28,560 Speaker 1: I have a couple of suction ones. This one makes 950 00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,759 Speaker 1: so much noise. I can't use it. It's let me see, 951 00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:33,040 Speaker 1: this is the lowest. Feel like I'm looking at two 952 00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:37,560 Speaker 1: girls play with dolls. It's so loud. God, and that's 953 00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,600 Speaker 1: the lowest. It's just too loud. And when I when 954 00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:44,080 Speaker 1: I put it on my clinic goes an old man 955 00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:50,840 Speaker 1: showing it's just too much. Yeah, okay, it's too much suction. 956 00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:53,920 Speaker 1: This one, okay, I go. There's one called the melt 957 00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:56,759 Speaker 1: by we Vibe that is the suction, but it's much less. 958 00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,640 Speaker 1: It makes no, it doesn't make any anyway. And then 959 00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:01,840 Speaker 1: there's this. I use this my cltters. This is the 960 00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:07,560 Speaker 1: Mimi by j Ju and it's really quiet, like rumbly sensations. 961 00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,840 Speaker 1: Can you just do you put something inside if you're masturbating? 962 00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:14,080 Speaker 1: Do you have Do you ever use multiple toys? Yeah, 963 00:48:14,160 --> 00:48:17,400 Speaker 1: totally I do, but mostly I use Oh oh, here's 964 00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:20,640 Speaker 1: my new favorite thing too. This is the g Spot vibrator. 965 00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:24,120 Speaker 1: But it's so little, but it's great because first I'm 966 00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:28,880 Speaker 1: not intimidating, right Andrew, this doesn't scare you, but it 967 00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:31,520 Speaker 1: has the come hither. It doesn't make the motion, but 968 00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:33,600 Speaker 1: it like really fucking works. I was like, that's not 969 00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,560 Speaker 1: going to do anything. But when you think about it, 970 00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:38,080 Speaker 1: most of the magic is happening about an inch and 971 00:48:38,120 --> 00:48:40,040 Speaker 1: a half to two inches inside. I mean, you probably 972 00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:41,919 Speaker 1: don't need that thing all the way. The pink one, 973 00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:45,759 Speaker 1: it's not going like touching your belly button. It's like 974 00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:47,600 Speaker 1: it's like the coming. I mean, I have to show 975 00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:49,839 Speaker 1: you I have this all those. I mean, I just 976 00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:52,080 Speaker 1: want to go to finger me honestly, like like I 977 00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,600 Speaker 1: like two fingers. I don't even need it. This is it. 978 00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:58,320 Speaker 1: I want something that can really like Yeah, that's great, 979 00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:01,320 Speaker 1: that's all I neat. So let me show you this. 980 00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:03,000 Speaker 1: This is like think of this is your this is 981 00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:05,880 Speaker 1: your oh yeah, your puppet. Yeah you have puppet, a 982 00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:09,600 Speaker 1: puppet of a vulva vulva. Oh yeah, I'm holding a 983 00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,880 Speaker 1: vulva puppet. So here is it's upside down. So here's 984 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:16,000 Speaker 1: the clitterest right, here's the opening at the top of it. 985 00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,600 Speaker 1: It's all the clitoral hood. Because I think guys don't 986 00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:22,919 Speaker 1: understand to lift the hood of the car. Like there's 987 00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:25,359 Speaker 1: a baggy part on top of the clip that looks 988 00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:27,439 Speaker 1: like the chewed piece of gum that everyone talks away. 989 00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:29,279 Speaker 1: You gotta lift that part to get to the clip. 990 00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:45,880 Speaker 1: Exact the clip stand for it in their clothes, giggy 991 00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:52,840 Speaker 1: board as many. So here when you touch the clitters 992 00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:54,319 Speaker 1: at the top of the cliteral hood is right here. 993 00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:56,839 Speaker 1: But look there's a little bud underneath it. But when 994 00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:59,359 Speaker 1: you start to touch it, sometimes it retracts on its 995 00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:01,359 Speaker 1: own because as you're getting turned on and it will 996 00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:04,839 Speaker 1: move back on its own right and reveal the clitters. 997 00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:07,680 Speaker 1: Not every woman has a clitteral hood. I didn't know that. 998 00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:11,360 Speaker 1: That's why we need this, Like literally, we're all different. 999 00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:14,840 Speaker 1: But if you do, it retracts, so you get turned on. 1000 00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:16,640 Speaker 1: And here's the other thing I want to tell you, 1001 00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:18,560 Speaker 1: and we might have talked about this, Nikki, is that 1002 00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:21,839 Speaker 1: the clitterest is this little bud, but there's also internal 1003 00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:24,759 Speaker 1: clitteral nerve endings. So let me show you this. This 1004 00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:27,960 Speaker 1: is what the clitterest looks like on the inside. So 1005 00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,239 Speaker 1: here's the outside of the clitters. I'm gonna show you this. 1006 00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:34,960 Speaker 1: It looks like a wishbone. So those the labia right, 1007 00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:37,680 Speaker 1: so you have the external little bulb. Everyone thinks that's 1008 00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,600 Speaker 1: the thing that eight thousand nerve endings, but it's the 1009 00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:45,560 Speaker 1: legs that runs throughout out the labia. So people don't 1010 00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:48,120 Speaker 1: know that either. But here's the point. You take this 1011 00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:50,160 Speaker 1: little toy and you put it inside. This is about 1012 00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:53,120 Speaker 1: two and f inches. It's called the g spot vibe 1013 00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:55,880 Speaker 1: from j Ju and you put like, which means I 1014 00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:58,920 Speaker 1: play in French. And all we need mess think, So 1015 00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:01,560 Speaker 1: let's talk about size. Men think that we want this 1016 00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:03,880 Speaker 1: your penis to go all the way back. What we 1017 00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:06,759 Speaker 1: really want why Nikki likes to come hither, is we 1018 00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:12,160 Speaker 1: really wanted to go up and right here, Like you're 1019 00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:17,160 Speaker 1: hitting this trying to like hook you like yeah, like 1020 00:51:17,200 --> 00:51:19,480 Speaker 1: the put a girl up on a pillow or two 1021 00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:23,000 Speaker 1: the guy and I did last summer that the victims. 1022 00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:28,719 Speaker 1: Yeah you do the captain look, Yeah, it's a hook 1023 00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:31,480 Speaker 1: that's going up towards I'm getting very technical here this morning. 1024 00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:37,640 Speaker 1: It's pubic mound, which is like your pelver as. As 1025 00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:41,000 Speaker 1: a guy, I think like we have some we have 1026 00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:42,520 Speaker 1: you were talking about you want to look at your 1027 00:51:42,520 --> 00:51:45,000 Speaker 1: own vagina when you masturbate. I feel like so many 1028 00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:47,920 Speaker 1: guys have had sex with their girlfriend or for years 1029 00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:51,680 Speaker 1: and have never actually seen their girls vagina really doesn't 1030 00:51:51,719 --> 00:51:54,239 Speaker 1: look at it and to show it, and I don't 1031 00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:57,160 Speaker 1: when you see shame, yeah I do too. I mean 1032 00:51:57,239 --> 00:51:58,360 Speaker 1: I want to go. I want that to be in 1033 00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:00,400 Speaker 1: the dark. I don't want you getting up some personal 1034 00:52:00,440 --> 00:52:02,440 Speaker 1: with it until like I love you and you love 1035 00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:04,479 Speaker 1: me and you can really accept me. And then there's 1036 00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,680 Speaker 1: nothing hotterer though than a guy like being like can 1037 00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:08,920 Speaker 1: I just like look at your pussy and like up 1038 00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:12,040 Speaker 1: close so turned on when the guys like, can I 1039 00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:17,319 Speaker 1: just like stay down there and like investigated with a 1040 00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:19,040 Speaker 1: woman and it was like, you know, during the day 1041 00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:21,680 Speaker 1: or delights were kind of more more on than usually. 1042 00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:23,640 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is a pussy, Like, let 1043 00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:25,920 Speaker 1: me take this in. I feel like any guys aren't connected, 1044 00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:28,160 Speaker 1: like a woman isn't connected with their own pussy. A 1045 00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,279 Speaker 1: lot of guys aren't connected with the pussy because they 1046 00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:32,880 Speaker 1: don't ever see it because they always have sex in 1047 00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:36,399 Speaker 1: the dark. Matthews, it's like, turned to Dave Matthews, off, 1048 00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:39,719 Speaker 1: put out the lights and let's examinate, eminate, look at it. 1049 00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,560 Speaker 1: And you know what, the hottest thing a man can say. 1050 00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:44,239 Speaker 1: A guy can say to a woman is like when 1051 00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:46,839 Speaker 1: he goes down on her because we also we don't 1052 00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:48,719 Speaker 1: want it because we have shame. We think you don't 1053 00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:50,960 Speaker 1: really want to do it. We don't really know what 1054 00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:54,040 Speaker 1: feels good. But once we get comfortable with our bodies, 1055 00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,640 Speaker 1: and then if a guy says, wait, let me just 1056 00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:59,200 Speaker 1: take a look. You just lay back. We have all night, 1057 00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:01,960 Speaker 1: I'm not going anywhere, and then you're like, he's like, 1058 00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:04,160 Speaker 1: I just want to be between your legs and we 1059 00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:08,160 Speaker 1: can relax. He I'm like, all right, I'm in you know. Yeah, 1060 00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:10,000 Speaker 1: I'm like, do a path smeare while you're down there, 1061 00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:12,960 Speaker 1: like if you can't, let's just like like I like 1062 00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:14,840 Speaker 1: feeling like I'm on like an exam table, like and 1063 00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:16,520 Speaker 1: there's something like hot about a guy just being like 1064 00:53:16,960 --> 00:53:21,000 Speaker 1: curious and like, I don't know, there's like the first 1065 00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:22,360 Speaker 1: time it happened to me, I just remember being like 1066 00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:24,200 Speaker 1: I'm so turned on by the fact that he's not. 1067 00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:26,120 Speaker 1: And I'm the same way with dicks, Like when I 1068 00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:28,080 Speaker 1: get to really know someone, I'm just like I've never 1069 00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:29,960 Speaker 1: seen like a dick up close, and I just like 1070 00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:32,560 Speaker 1: play with it and like he face to face with 1071 00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:34,120 Speaker 1: it in not a sexual way and be like can 1072 00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:36,960 Speaker 1: it stretch this way? Like learn about it? And I 1073 00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:39,239 Speaker 1: and and the thing is it all stems from the 1074 00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:41,359 Speaker 1: fact that, like you said, I don't like to look 1075 00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:45,040 Speaker 1: at myself when I'm mascurating, especially after I use this thing. 1076 00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:47,480 Speaker 1: I use a wand to get me started. And I 1077 00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,760 Speaker 1: do this like outside the covers because it's too intense. 1078 00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:53,279 Speaker 1: It's also good for burglars to keep it away from 1079 00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:55,880 Speaker 1: the house. Yeah, I mean, this isn't truly a weapon. 1080 00:53:56,280 --> 00:54:00,680 Speaker 1: But this thing, I um, what was what was this thing? 1081 00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:05,279 Speaker 1: This thing really makes me like like get Like my 1082 00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:08,920 Speaker 1: vagina today is swollen and looks like I was in 1083 00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,719 Speaker 1: a boxing ring last night because of what I did 1084 00:54:11,760 --> 00:54:13,839 Speaker 1: with this last night, Like it has to deep up. 1085 00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:15,920 Speaker 1: I look, it looks like I have a jellyfish down 1086 00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:19,040 Speaker 1: there today. So there's a little bit of security about that. 1087 00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:22,360 Speaker 1: But then I found that when I because after a 1088 00:54:22,400 --> 00:54:25,360 Speaker 1: guy has used this with me, it did that and 1089 00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:27,279 Speaker 1: it really got like swollen, and I was like, oh 1090 00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,399 Speaker 1: my god, this is so embarrassing. Like my clip looks 1091 00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:32,120 Speaker 1: almost like a like a tiny you know what I mean, 1092 00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:35,920 Speaker 1: like because if your clip like getting yeah, And I 1093 00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:37,719 Speaker 1: was insecure, and then it was like there was one 1094 00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:39,239 Speaker 1: time that I was like, wait, can you just look 1095 00:54:39,239 --> 00:54:41,160 Speaker 1: at what we did? And it was just so funny. 1096 00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:43,360 Speaker 1: It was hot and it was funny, and it was 1097 00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:46,080 Speaker 1: just like it's fine. It's not like I just I'm 1098 00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:50,200 Speaker 1: I'm did anything wrong because my vagina looks weird right 1099 00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:54,400 Speaker 1: now and it's it's but it's hard for me to 1100 00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:56,439 Speaker 1: to get used to like looking at it and being 1101 00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:59,240 Speaker 1: like into it. It's it's uh, it is a struggle. 1102 00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,319 Speaker 1: But but it's just a practice. It's about It's about 1103 00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,880 Speaker 1: practicing to practice. Think about doing like stand up if 1104 00:55:04,920 --> 00:55:06,680 Speaker 1: you go back baby, watch some year old stuff where 1105 00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:08,440 Speaker 1: you're like, oh god, but you keep doing you a 1106 00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:11,759 Speaker 1: comfortable sex is exactly the same thing. The more you 1107 00:55:11,800 --> 00:55:13,640 Speaker 1: do it, the more open you are. Then it becomes 1108 00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:15,880 Speaker 1: something shared with a partner, like my guy, Like the 1109 00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:18,400 Speaker 1: guy he comes over, I'm like, look what we're trying. 1110 00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:20,200 Speaker 1: I got this for your copa. This is gonna be 1111 00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,480 Speaker 1: a butt plug. We're trying. This is a coperate like 1112 00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:24,839 Speaker 1: like it's excited with me and like this we gotta 1113 00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:30,680 Speaker 1: put on twenty minutes before sex. This arousal thought. Did 1114 00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:34,080 Speaker 1: you try this? I I have before. That's the weed, 1115 00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:37,880 Speaker 1: that's the teach in it. This one doesn't. But you 1116 00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:41,240 Speaker 1: can't get to teach. This is CBD. But it works, 1117 00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:43,560 Speaker 1: like if you have pain or you just want to relax, 1118 00:55:43,640 --> 00:55:45,600 Speaker 1: it's good for the penis as well. Like there's so 1119 00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:47,960 Speaker 1: much fun to have a sex, but we make it 1120 00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:52,960 Speaker 1: so weird. Like and people's and men's apprehension about that. 1121 00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,520 Speaker 1: I would say that's also a thing that stems from women. 1122 00:55:55,600 --> 00:55:58,759 Speaker 1: Because I am insecure. Why can't I get wet on 1123 00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:00,560 Speaker 1: my own? Why am I not what enough? It's like 1124 00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:02,720 Speaker 1: such a point of pride to be I'm so wet 1125 00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:05,360 Speaker 1: and then to go need to bring in some wetness. 1126 00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:07,600 Speaker 1: It feels like, oh, my men a pousle and my 1127 00:56:07,840 --> 00:56:10,319 Speaker 1: old is he gonna think my dry pussy is just 1128 00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:12,680 Speaker 1: like that you have? I had all these fears about it, 1129 00:56:12,680 --> 00:56:14,479 Speaker 1: and now I'm like, let's bring it in. It makes 1130 00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:17,719 Speaker 1: things so much better, so much better. I mean, well, 1131 00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:20,439 Speaker 1: here's what I always say, that everything we've learned about 1132 00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:24,040 Speaker 1: sex is untrue. It's just that just know that. And 1133 00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:26,279 Speaker 1: one of the things is that women should when you're wet, 1134 00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:30,200 Speaker 1: that your wetness level is an indicator of being aroused. 1135 00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,279 Speaker 1: And let me tell you that is not true. You 1136 00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:36,160 Speaker 1: can be wet and not turned on. You could be 1137 00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:39,400 Speaker 1: really turned on and not wet. What wetness has to 1138 00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:42,879 Speaker 1: do with is for women, your hormone cycles. Where are 1139 00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:45,279 Speaker 1: you in your cycle. It could be when you're ovulating, 1140 00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:47,719 Speaker 1: it could be after your period, before your period. You 1141 00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:51,520 Speaker 1: might be taking a medication, and antidepressant, a blood thinner, 1142 00:56:51,640 --> 00:56:55,120 Speaker 1: the birth control pill can all impact your wetness. However, 1143 00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:59,239 Speaker 1: men are told that, oh, she's wet, she's turned on, 1144 00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:01,520 Speaker 1: and it's because thing that I did. Probably she sell 1145 00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:03,960 Speaker 1: my penis and got so wet. So there's all this 1146 00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:06,680 Speaker 1: shame around using lube. We're like, oh, I better get 1147 00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,560 Speaker 1: the loop from under the table. My dream is a 1148 00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:12,160 Speaker 1: lube on every night stand. So everybody just says, like, 1149 00:57:12,239 --> 00:57:14,960 Speaker 1: I do not have sex with myself or others without 1150 00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:17,440 Speaker 1: getting the loop because and it's not just me saying this, 1151 00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:21,120 Speaker 1: it's like the Kinsey Institute, which is the premier sex 1152 00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:24,480 Speaker 1: research center in the world, did a study and when 1153 00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:27,080 Speaker 1: you add just a few drops of lube to to 1154 00:57:27,200 --> 00:57:29,680 Speaker 1: any sex situation for a woman like on her clars, 1155 00:57:29,680 --> 00:57:33,320 Speaker 1: just a few drops, she's eight percent more likely to orgasm. 1156 00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:36,120 Speaker 1: It's like, so no shame in the Loube game. And 1157 00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:41,040 Speaker 1: I can tell you all my favorite Well, okay, so 1158 00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:43,680 Speaker 1: I love for you because it's just has coconut oil 1159 00:57:43,720 --> 00:57:45,840 Speaker 1: and a little bit of CBD and coconut oil and 1160 00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:48,440 Speaker 1: just you can turn this into massage and you can 1161 00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:51,160 Speaker 1: play with it. It's not great with condoms or toys. 1162 00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:55,680 Speaker 1: So I love a water based loop too. I love 1163 00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:58,640 Speaker 1: pure it's spelled PG. You are. I have a huge 1164 00:57:58,640 --> 00:58:01,040 Speaker 1: freaking bottle of it here, But let me tell you 1165 00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:05,040 Speaker 1: what else. I love flavored because you got me into 1166 00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:09,080 Speaker 1: flavor for oral sex? Who thought if you were getting 1167 00:58:09,080 --> 00:58:11,160 Speaker 1: a blowjob and a girl busted out lube? What what 1168 00:58:11,160 --> 00:58:13,960 Speaker 1: would your thought be under just before we had this conversation. 1169 00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,440 Speaker 1: Let's just like dispel I mean you know, I mean 1170 00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:21,200 Speaker 1: I would initially I would say, oh, am, I not 1171 00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:24,280 Speaker 1: turning you on enough to have her mouth be wet 1172 00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:29,320 Speaker 1: enough to have no oral sex for oral sex for lub. Yeah, 1173 00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:31,360 Speaker 1: we would just helps me because it's it's different. But like, 1174 00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:33,000 Speaker 1: what would your thought be? I just want to know, 1175 00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:38,400 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, a small percentage would be like, Okay, 1176 00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:41,240 Speaker 1: does your vagina smell like bad or tastes bad? Have 1177 00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:44,920 Speaker 1: you been told that before you need that? To blow? 1178 00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:53,080 Speaker 1: You too? Me yand you put on my penis? I wouldn't, 1179 00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:55,440 Speaker 1: but yes, a girl would put lube on your penis 1180 00:58:55,560 --> 00:59:00,000 Speaker 1: before she blew you. Okay, Well, I don't know. I'm 1181 00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:01,800 Speaker 1: mean I would. I would think that maybe my dick 1182 00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:04,640 Speaker 1: would taste bad, and I would maybe a little insecure 1183 00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:06,680 Speaker 1: about it, be like why are you breaking out blueberry? 1184 00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:10,920 Speaker 1: Isn't because your dick tastes bad? Okay, Emily, let's let's Okay, 1185 00:59:11,120 --> 00:59:12,880 Speaker 1: let me just spell the smith. Well, first off, I 1186 00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:14,840 Speaker 1: mean it doesn't have to even be flavored lub, because 1187 00:59:14,840 --> 00:59:16,840 Speaker 1: if you use a silicone lube or the coconut, it 1188 00:59:16,880 --> 00:59:18,960 Speaker 1: all tastes fine, like if you use a good lube. 1189 00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:20,959 Speaker 1: I don't don't go to the drug store by loup. 1190 00:59:21,520 --> 00:59:24,000 Speaker 1: But this is this amazing thing. It's called it's by 1191 00:59:24,040 --> 00:59:26,600 Speaker 1: System Joe. This is mused there like sister brand that 1192 00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:28,560 Speaker 1: they don't have anymore, and they just started calling it 1193 00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:32,040 Speaker 1: System Joe again. Whatever that doesn't matter. This is mint chocolate. 1194 00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:35,640 Speaker 1: This is cranberule, and they've salted caramel and it comes 1195 00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:38,520 Speaker 1: in a pump bottle. And I am telling you I 1196 00:59:38,560 --> 00:59:40,360 Speaker 1: tried it in a trade show for years ago. They 1197 00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:42,960 Speaker 1: put it on ice cream. It's fucking like, I will 1198 00:59:43,000 --> 00:59:49,480 Speaker 1: eat this delicious. What I'm scared? She is like fingers 1199 00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:53,960 Speaker 1: like the good Marathon. It's so fucking good. So then 1200 00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:55,680 Speaker 1: my guy and I will have it in my nightstand. 1201 00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:57,480 Speaker 1: He said, go get the mint chocolate and he'll go 1202 00:59:57,520 --> 00:59:59,480 Speaker 1: down to me. I go down. It's like, first off, 1203 00:59:59,480 --> 01:00:01,960 Speaker 1: why lup great is because my mouth is never going 1204 01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:04,000 Speaker 1: to be as wet as like a little bit of 1205 01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:05,760 Speaker 1: lube can be like you want it to be wet. 1206 01:00:05,840 --> 01:00:08,000 Speaker 1: That's the key to a great blow job. It's wet 1207 01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:10,959 Speaker 1: using enough pressure. You're using your hands and your mouth 1208 01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:12,840 Speaker 1: all the things. But if you're not, Like sometimes I'm 1209 01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:14,760 Speaker 1: just not and I keep taking water. I'm like, just 1210 01:00:14,800 --> 01:00:18,600 Speaker 1: fucking us lube and this stuff tastes. It's so I don't. 1211 01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:21,120 Speaker 1: It's really good ingredients too, because I think there used 1212 01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:23,600 Speaker 1: to be like cherry lubs and blue they don't suck. 1213 01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:26,200 Speaker 1: But this for some fucking reason, Like I'm making my 1214 01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:28,280 Speaker 1: own brand. I'm like, this is great. I'm doing it. 1215 01:00:28,400 --> 01:00:31,439 Speaker 1: My god, I love it. So I love lub. Okay, 1216 01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:33,600 Speaker 1: tell us the brand of that again. It's called Muse. 1217 01:00:34,240 --> 01:00:36,520 Speaker 1: Well yeah, well it was called They don't make this 1218 01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:40,640 Speaker 1: anymore but System Joe. Okay, we got on my website. 1219 01:00:40,920 --> 01:00:43,280 Speaker 1: Thank you, sending you guys a bunch of Oh my gosh, 1220 01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:49,880 Speaker 1: I learned so much. Like first of all, I didn't 1221 01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:53,320 Speaker 1: know that most women didn't have clitoral hoods because my 1222 01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:57,920 Speaker 1: mind is, uh my my clip looks like Billie Eilish, 1223 01:00:58,080 --> 01:01:00,640 Speaker 1: which is depressed after a show, Like wearing a hood 1224 01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:04,160 Speaker 1: overhead like mine is like a depressed teening. My clips 1225 01:01:04,160 --> 01:01:08,080 Speaker 1: a depressed teenager with like like I gotta really like 1226 01:01:08,080 --> 01:01:09,760 Speaker 1: like hold it up, and then my clip is like 1227 01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:13,000 Speaker 1: so it's the only thing that I'm like, it's so small. 1228 01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:15,440 Speaker 1: I wish it weren't because it's so hard to find 1229 01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:18,000 Speaker 1: and it's a lot of times I just like give 1230 01:01:18,120 --> 01:01:21,120 Speaker 1: up on it. But um, I didn't know that some 1231 01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:23,560 Speaker 1: women like don't have them, and then someone who don't 1232 01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:27,120 Speaker 1: have is it The labia minora are the ones that 1233 01:01:27,200 --> 01:01:30,040 Speaker 1: stick out more that women can be insecure about. And 1234 01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:33,200 Speaker 1: majora is that the major the outer but it's the 1235 01:01:33,800 --> 01:01:38,320 Speaker 1: women are insecure about the mandora, the majora. They're they're 1236 01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,320 Speaker 1: insecure about all of it. And so it's because for 1237 01:01:41,360 --> 01:01:43,840 Speaker 1: some women because what we see in porn is like 1238 01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:46,560 Speaker 1: I tucked in, like literally they tuck it in for porn. 1239 01:01:46,920 --> 01:01:50,640 Speaker 1: There's from different angles, but every single woman looks different. 1240 01:01:50,640 --> 01:01:52,800 Speaker 1: So they are insecure about it. But just to me, 1241 01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:54,800 Speaker 1: it's like, great, you have more nerve endings, you have 1242 01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:56,800 Speaker 1: more access to it. I just think there should be 1243 01:01:57,240 --> 01:01:59,680 Speaker 1: no shame. There's no one right way for abl but 1244 01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:03,160 Speaker 1: to look. So going back to your cliteral hood, I think, 1245 01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:06,640 Speaker 1: and you're your Yeah, So women have in securities about that, 1246 01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:08,960 Speaker 1: and I'm just like let it let like just unless 1247 01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:11,280 Speaker 1: there is stories about women like it's so long and 1248 01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:13,240 Speaker 1: they have to like take it into the wrong way 1249 01:02:13,320 --> 01:02:16,200 Speaker 1: and it gets painful they get surgeries because it's a 1250 01:02:17,040 --> 01:02:19,280 Speaker 1: yeah it's a pain thing, but that's for most women. 1251 01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:22,320 Speaker 1: It's like totally fine and it swells and it feels great. 1252 01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:24,640 Speaker 1: But as far as the cliteral hood, I'm just trying 1253 01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:27,520 Speaker 1: to think of what like it Usually why you probably 1254 01:02:27,560 --> 01:02:31,440 Speaker 1: like the wand is because it quickly arouses, like it 1255 01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:33,680 Speaker 1: gets you turned on, so that it does retract on 1256 01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:36,840 Speaker 1: its own. But it's not even about the clitterest. The 1257 01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:40,800 Speaker 1: thing is so also back, it's down the side, but 1258 01:02:40,840 --> 01:02:43,440 Speaker 1: it's also in here the pubic mound. Like so do 1259 01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:46,600 Speaker 1: you ever find that you put the vibrator like right here? Yeah, 1260 01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:48,520 Speaker 1: I can't even put it on the clip sometimes because 1261 01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:51,360 Speaker 1: it gets too sensitive, so you go around to the edge, 1262 01:02:51,480 --> 01:02:53,880 Speaker 1: which is where the branches are of the clip. You're 1263 01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:56,320 Speaker 1: talking about all the nerve endings, So it doesn't even 1264 01:02:56,360 --> 01:02:59,120 Speaker 1: matter if it's small the clitterest sort of the actual bulb, 1265 01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:01,160 Speaker 1: but it's like it's all this area that you've got 1266 01:03:01,160 --> 01:03:03,160 Speaker 1: to get into. So what I'm even having sex with 1267 01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:05,960 Speaker 1: like partner like they know like because they've seen me masturbate. 1268 01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:09,400 Speaker 1: Another great thing is mutual masturbation because if you watch 1269 01:03:09,480 --> 01:03:12,680 Speaker 1: your partner masturbate and then you're masturbating like it's hot, 1270 01:03:12,720 --> 01:03:15,640 Speaker 1: and then you can see how what they do, You're like, oh, 1271 01:03:15,680 --> 01:03:17,760 Speaker 1: I didn't know he uses to a hand like over 1272 01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:19,720 Speaker 1: the tip. I'll do that next time I blow him 1273 01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,080 Speaker 1: or give my hand job, and then you can see 1274 01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:25,400 Speaker 1: he sees it. I like press on my pubic mound 1275 01:03:25,520 --> 01:03:27,760 Speaker 1: or I put my fingers in a certain way so 1276 01:03:27,800 --> 01:03:30,120 Speaker 1: then when he's pleasing me, he does that. So that's 1277 01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:32,880 Speaker 1: why I love mutual masturbation. But it makes sense that 1278 01:03:32,960 --> 01:03:35,560 Speaker 1: you would just be all these areas feel good, so 1279 01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:42,600 Speaker 1: I think you're clipping it's all. What about anal uh 1280 01:03:42,800 --> 01:03:46,280 Speaker 1: stimulation during masturbation? Is that even something like? Because I 1281 01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:48,160 Speaker 1: do like anal sex. I like the feeling of that. 1282 01:03:48,240 --> 01:03:51,000 Speaker 1: But sometimes I'm like, I just can't do another, Like 1283 01:03:51,040 --> 01:03:52,760 Speaker 1: I can't put three things up here. That's why I 1284 01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:57,000 Speaker 1: bought this thing, which is like you ride this and 1285 01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:58,800 Speaker 1: then this parts supposed to your clip, and then this 1286 01:03:58,840 --> 01:04:01,120 Speaker 1: is supposed to do something back there. I guess it 1287 01:04:01,120 --> 01:04:03,440 Speaker 1: didn't really do it for me because again my clip 1288 01:04:03,480 --> 01:04:06,160 Speaker 1: is like down here and it's totally missing this thing. 1289 01:04:06,240 --> 01:04:09,600 Speaker 1: This is just again rubbing my uh you know, my 1290 01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,840 Speaker 1: stern um at this point. And U but like, do 1291 01:04:12,880 --> 01:04:15,360 Speaker 1: you ever what what would you repare me for anal? 1292 01:04:15,520 --> 01:04:17,640 Speaker 1: Or yeah, what what would would you recommend? Like a 1293 01:04:17,720 --> 01:04:24,800 Speaker 1: butt plug? Like for maybe uh yeah, totally I think that. 1294 01:04:24,920 --> 01:04:27,520 Speaker 1: But I think it's great to experiment with anal play 1295 01:04:27,520 --> 01:04:30,160 Speaker 1: on your own if you've never done it before. So yeah, 1296 01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:33,200 Speaker 1: get a plug, um, like a little like you can get. 1297 01:04:33,320 --> 01:04:35,560 Speaker 1: That's a big butt plug you just showed me, Like, 1298 01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:37,800 Speaker 1: I mean this is well, this is to go inside 1299 01:04:37,800 --> 01:04:40,040 Speaker 1: your vagina and then this is the tapper of the 1300 01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:43,600 Speaker 1: would be insane. I mean this is what I could 1301 01:04:43,640 --> 01:04:45,800 Speaker 1: probably do at this point because I really like anal, 1302 01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:49,320 Speaker 1: but like, yes, I definitely would start with something smaller. 1303 01:04:50,040 --> 01:04:52,080 Speaker 1: So take a little button and I'm like what okay, 1304 01:04:52,080 --> 01:04:53,880 Speaker 1: So take a little butt plug and put it inside 1305 01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:55,800 Speaker 1: with some lube and yeah, try it out with you. 1306 01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:57,840 Speaker 1: It is a third toy for you. But that's why 1307 01:04:57,840 --> 01:05:00,640 Speaker 1: I want to send you this rabbit. But anyway, try 1308 01:05:01,080 --> 01:05:04,640 Speaker 1: for men too. And what about porn um? I feel 1309 01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:09,440 Speaker 1: that my porn use is heading in a UM direction 1310 01:05:10,280 --> 01:05:12,240 Speaker 1: that I can't I can't get out. I'm in a 1311 01:05:12,720 --> 01:05:14,840 Speaker 1: I just like B D S M. I like really 1312 01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:17,080 Speaker 1: like kinky stuff. I like girls being tied up. I 1313 01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:20,840 Speaker 1: like forced orgasms is my favorite porn because for me, 1314 01:05:21,080 --> 01:05:23,360 Speaker 1: I push orgasms away when I feel them bubbling up 1315 01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:25,120 Speaker 1: because they are going to feel so good, and I'm like, 1316 01:05:25,240 --> 01:05:27,040 Speaker 1: I don't want it to be over. I want to 1317 01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:30,280 Speaker 1: like keep this anticipation of this great thing happening. And 1318 01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:33,080 Speaker 1: so then when I finally come, I don't feel depressed 1319 01:05:33,120 --> 01:05:35,800 Speaker 1: afterwards are sad, but it just feels like the day 1320 01:05:35,800 --> 01:05:37,919 Speaker 1: after Christmas, a little bit of like a whole another 1321 01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:40,240 Speaker 1: day until I can feel that again. And so I 1322 01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:41,840 Speaker 1: push it and push and push it. And that's why 1323 01:05:41,880 --> 01:05:44,600 Speaker 1: I am drawn to UM women being tied up and 1324 01:05:44,640 --> 01:05:46,800 Speaker 1: being like said, like, you have to have an orgasm, 1325 01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:49,640 Speaker 1: it's not your choice. UM. And now I'm kind of 1326 01:05:49,680 --> 01:05:53,000 Speaker 1: scared that that's the only kind of uh thing I can. 1327 01:05:53,160 --> 01:05:55,840 Speaker 1: Like I've told partners before, like tell me I can't come, 1328 01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:57,920 Speaker 1: tell like, tell me I can't come, and then try 1329 01:05:57,960 --> 01:05:59,439 Speaker 1: to make me come, and then you have to tell 1330 01:05:59,480 --> 01:06:02,360 Speaker 1: me I can't on Is that something that I should 1331 01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:05,040 Speaker 1: just embrace is like that's what I'm into or is 1332 01:06:05,040 --> 01:06:08,400 Speaker 1: it something that I should When do you look at 1333 01:06:08,400 --> 01:06:10,400 Speaker 1: the porn you're watching and go I should talk to 1334 01:06:10,480 --> 01:06:12,680 Speaker 1: a therapist? Yeah? This I should need to pull back 1335 01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:15,040 Speaker 1: because it didn't start this way for me. This was 1336 01:06:15,080 --> 01:06:19,840 Speaker 1: like a slow progression into just only kinky, like really 1337 01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:23,160 Speaker 1: like not not necessarily rough. A lot of the porn 1338 01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:25,680 Speaker 1: I watched is rough because it tends to be women 1339 01:06:25,680 --> 01:06:27,720 Speaker 1: tied up. Men tend to be mean to those women. 1340 01:06:27,840 --> 01:06:29,880 Speaker 1: That doesn't need to be. But that's all I can find. 1341 01:06:30,080 --> 01:06:31,520 Speaker 1: I would love me to tie up a woman and 1342 01:06:31,560 --> 01:06:33,600 Speaker 1: be nice to her, but it's just harder to find that. 1343 01:06:33,800 --> 01:06:35,520 Speaker 1: What if the therapist was like I think it was 1344 01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:37,760 Speaker 1: back when your dad wouldn't let you play until you 1345 01:06:37,920 --> 01:06:40,480 Speaker 1: ate all your peace? Like that's why I mean, honestly, 1346 01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:43,600 Speaker 1: it could be that like delaying pleasure does does this? 1347 01:06:43,880 --> 01:06:47,920 Speaker 1: Is this? Am I broken? No? Not at all. You're 1348 01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:51,160 Speaker 1: so not at all broken. You It's like, if you're 1349 01:06:51,240 --> 01:06:54,400 Speaker 1: interested in exploring, there's some great porn that's made for 1350 01:06:54,680 --> 01:06:59,400 Speaker 1: women by women, I love the less to work with them. Yeah, 1351 01:06:59,400 --> 01:07:02,320 Speaker 1: I've they've because that's made by women. It doesn't it 1352 01:07:02,320 --> 01:07:04,320 Speaker 1: makes me feel like, oh, these women are being treated well, 1353 01:07:04,360 --> 01:07:07,479 Speaker 1: but they don't. They don't get they don't get weird 1354 01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:09,960 Speaker 1: enough for me, they don't have enough. Because I watch 1355 01:07:10,000 --> 01:07:12,080 Speaker 1: a video, I can't watch it again until I forget 1356 01:07:12,120 --> 01:07:14,840 Speaker 1: about it. I need to like Eternal Sunshine it so 1357 01:07:14,880 --> 01:07:16,640 Speaker 1: that it's new to me. It's almost like kind of 1358 01:07:16,640 --> 01:07:19,520 Speaker 1: how you know, I just need I can't go back 1359 01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:24,280 Speaker 1: to the old hits um right, and so you're not broken. 1360 01:07:24,320 --> 01:07:26,400 Speaker 1: I think it's great that you know what turns you on. 1361 01:07:26,680 --> 01:07:29,040 Speaker 1: And then there's also if you just want to sometimes 1362 01:07:29,040 --> 01:07:30,600 Speaker 1: here's the thing. A lot of us worry that what 1363 01:07:30,640 --> 01:07:34,080 Speaker 1: we fantasize about and what we masturbate to and what 1364 01:07:34,120 --> 01:07:36,400 Speaker 1: we do and how we sound during sex is wrong 1365 01:07:36,520 --> 01:07:38,800 Speaker 1: and not normal. But like the fact that you have 1366 01:07:38,880 --> 01:07:41,760 Speaker 1: an active fantasy that you can go to and that 1367 01:07:41,840 --> 01:07:45,240 Speaker 1: turns you on and makes you feel good is incredible. 1368 01:07:45,280 --> 01:07:47,320 Speaker 1: There's like literally nothing wrong with you. In fact, some 1369 01:07:47,360 --> 01:07:50,240 Speaker 1: people are trying to get fantasies and they don't have them. 1370 01:07:50,280 --> 01:07:52,600 Speaker 1: But if you want to expand, I mean you could 1371 01:07:52,600 --> 01:07:55,080 Speaker 1: say I'm going to actually try to like get into 1372 01:07:55,120 --> 01:08:00,480 Speaker 1: watching something maybe b DSM adjacent. Maybe there's like maybe 1373 01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:03,520 Speaker 1: there's something else that, But there's something I mean, I 1374 01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:06,040 Speaker 1: love that, you know that unless it feels like a problem, 1375 01:08:06,080 --> 01:08:08,360 Speaker 1: I just feel like it's a slippery slope. I and 1376 01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:10,880 Speaker 1: I don't mean to bring it to the to this area, 1377 01:08:10,920 --> 01:08:13,800 Speaker 1: but I recently really statistic that five percent of the 1378 01:08:13,880 --> 01:08:18,080 Speaker 1: US population consumes child sex abuse images. And that is 1379 01:08:18,120 --> 01:08:20,559 Speaker 1: not because five percent of people are pedophiles. It's because 1380 01:08:20,840 --> 01:08:23,479 Speaker 1: a lot of those five percent are people that got 1381 01:08:23,520 --> 01:08:27,320 Speaker 1: into extreme porn. And the most extreme porn is porn 1382 01:08:27,400 --> 01:08:29,840 Speaker 1: with that's illegal with children in it, and they just 1383 01:08:29,960 --> 01:08:32,240 Speaker 1: want the next thing that's more extreme. And I'm I'm 1384 01:08:32,280 --> 01:08:34,120 Speaker 1: not scared I'm going to get to that point, but 1385 01:08:34,160 --> 01:08:35,760 Speaker 1: I'm a little scared I might get to something that 1386 01:08:35,840 --> 01:08:39,280 Speaker 1: actually might be exploiting someone because when you go down 1387 01:08:39,320 --> 01:08:42,360 Speaker 1: that whole of like and no pun intended of like 1388 01:08:42,720 --> 01:08:45,200 Speaker 1: I need, I needed to be more more. I need 1389 01:08:45,240 --> 01:08:47,639 Speaker 1: a girl in a warehouse tied up. I now need 1390 01:08:47,640 --> 01:08:49,640 Speaker 1: two toys in or now I need double penetration. Like 1391 01:08:49,800 --> 01:08:52,160 Speaker 1: I used to be turned off by double penetration, Like 1392 01:08:52,280 --> 01:08:54,320 Speaker 1: how could you even want that? Now it's all I 1393 01:08:54,479 --> 01:08:58,360 Speaker 1: watched two dicks Insider, It's like, what are you Mormon? 1394 01:08:58,720 --> 01:09:00,960 Speaker 1: So for me, I just go where does this end? 1395 01:09:01,160 --> 01:09:03,040 Speaker 1: And is it going to end in a place where 1396 01:09:03,400 --> 01:09:06,000 Speaker 1: no one can satisfy me except uh uh, you know 1397 01:09:06,600 --> 01:09:09,400 Speaker 1: a football team, you know, in a locker room, Like, 1398 01:09:09,760 --> 01:09:12,639 Speaker 1: where does it end? Well, I think that you've been 1399 01:09:12,640 --> 01:09:15,040 Speaker 1: doing some You haven't been in a relationship, right, you 1400 01:09:15,040 --> 01:09:19,400 Speaker 1: haven't been dating last year, you said, so, I feel 1401 01:09:19,439 --> 01:09:22,200 Speaker 1: like you've been doing actually what I've been telling a 1402 01:09:22,200 --> 01:09:23,960 Speaker 1: lot of people to do when they're single, they're alone, 1403 01:09:24,040 --> 01:09:26,760 Speaker 1: especially quarantine, take the time to figure out what you're into. 1404 01:09:26,840 --> 01:09:28,680 Speaker 1: But I promise you, Nikki, when you are in a 1405 01:09:28,720 --> 01:09:31,759 Speaker 1: relationship with someone, which it sounds like that's what you want, 1406 01:09:33,120 --> 01:09:35,439 Speaker 1: then you're going to create a whole new scenarow. Which 1407 01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:38,400 Speaker 1: that's correction, and that's about This is just my relationship 1408 01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:41,120 Speaker 1: with myself that's be coming to an end soon. But 1409 01:09:41,200 --> 01:09:43,960 Speaker 1: it's like these days I'll miss the women in the dungeons. 1410 01:09:43,960 --> 01:09:45,519 Speaker 1: When I'm in a relationship. I might need to go 1411 01:09:45,520 --> 01:09:47,040 Speaker 1: and check in on those ladies here and there and 1412 01:09:47,080 --> 01:09:51,200 Speaker 1: refill their water bowls. But like the women in the 1413 01:09:51,280 --> 01:09:54,519 Speaker 1: dungeons too, I know, like, well, this dungeon it's just 1414 01:09:54,600 --> 01:09:57,040 Speaker 1: not doing anymore. Let's go to a darker Dungeon, and 1415 01:09:57,040 --> 01:09:59,160 Speaker 1: then it just is like the stuff I see on porn, 1416 01:09:59,200 --> 01:10:01,360 Speaker 1: I just have to say is alarming. Some of the 1417 01:10:01,360 --> 01:10:03,240 Speaker 1: stuff that they go, hey like this, why don't you 1418 01:10:03,280 --> 01:10:05,400 Speaker 1: try this? And I go that is blood in it? Wait, 1419 01:10:05,400 --> 01:10:07,120 Speaker 1: why would you want that? And they go, we'll see 1420 01:10:07,120 --> 01:10:08,840 Speaker 1: you next week. And I'm like, God, you know me born, 1421 01:10:09,240 --> 01:10:11,960 Speaker 1: So it just scares me where it could go. Uh 1422 01:10:12,040 --> 01:10:14,920 Speaker 1: final thought here though, I did last night do exactly 1423 01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:17,519 Speaker 1: what you said, Emily, which is try different things, maybe 1424 01:10:17,520 --> 01:10:21,120 Speaker 1: pull back a little bit. I we were watching, we 1425 01:10:21,120 --> 01:10:25,479 Speaker 1: were were just like, yeah, just trying a different avenue, 1426 01:10:25,479 --> 01:10:27,360 Speaker 1: being like, uh, because I wanted to get back to 1427 01:10:27,960 --> 01:10:30,120 Speaker 1: what what really turns me on? That isn't a woman 1428 01:10:30,160 --> 01:10:33,639 Speaker 1: tied up in a seller? And initially the one thing 1429 01:10:33,640 --> 01:10:35,719 Speaker 1: that I was very turned on by was a scene 1430 01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:39,080 Speaker 1: and The Departed, the movie that The Departed with Leo 1431 01:10:39,200 --> 01:10:41,960 Speaker 1: and his therapist where he goes to visitor after they've 1432 01:10:41,960 --> 01:10:43,920 Speaker 1: stopped seeing each other, and it's very hot. It's just 1433 01:10:43,960 --> 01:10:45,720 Speaker 1: the hottest scene. And last night I saw it on 1434 01:10:45,720 --> 01:10:47,320 Speaker 1: Netflix and I was like, Andrew, can we watch this? 1435 01:10:47,640 --> 01:10:50,240 Speaker 1: And we watched all the scenes leading up to it 1436 01:10:50,560 --> 01:10:52,439 Speaker 1: to see their sexual attention. So I tried to get 1437 01:10:52,439 --> 01:10:57,519 Speaker 1: back to basics of you know, uh, enjoying of romance 1438 01:10:57,560 --> 01:11:01,760 Speaker 1: and like the build up and you know, I I 1439 01:11:01,800 --> 01:11:03,920 Speaker 1: don't know that it did the same thing for me, 1440 01:11:04,000 --> 01:11:08,040 Speaker 1: but it was an innocent uh you know, visit back 1441 01:11:08,080 --> 01:11:10,640 Speaker 1: to my like the the initial things that used to 1442 01:11:10,640 --> 01:11:13,639 Speaker 1: turn me on as like a high schooler. But it's 1443 01:11:15,360 --> 01:11:19,160 Speaker 1: I just struggle with, Yes, maybe try a porn that's 1444 01:11:19,200 --> 01:11:22,080 Speaker 1: more romantic and just see where that goes, Like something 1445 01:11:22,160 --> 01:11:24,720 Speaker 1: that's like he's like petting her hair and giving her 1446 01:11:24,720 --> 01:11:28,479 Speaker 1: a cupcake and you know, like telling her how pretty 1447 01:11:28,520 --> 01:11:32,800 Speaker 1: she is. Do you watch porn, Emily? I do watch poor, 1448 01:11:32,880 --> 01:11:34,760 Speaker 1: but not a ton just because I don't have a 1449 01:11:34,760 --> 01:11:37,240 Speaker 1: lot of time. Funny, my time is spent talking with 1450 01:11:37,840 --> 01:11:41,519 Speaker 1: three guys. Yeah, I know. How are they not jealous 1451 01:11:41,520 --> 01:11:47,720 Speaker 1: of each other? No? I mean honestly, like would I 1452 01:11:47,760 --> 01:11:50,200 Speaker 1: say dating, Like there's one that I'm the primary partner 1453 01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:51,559 Speaker 1: that I see. I mean I'm not. It's not like 1454 01:11:51,600 --> 01:11:53,479 Speaker 1: open like he's my guy forever, but he's a guy 1455 01:11:53,520 --> 01:11:54,960 Speaker 1: that I see more often. And there's like guys that 1456 01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:57,840 Speaker 1: coming to town that I've seen and I'm just very 1457 01:11:57,840 --> 01:12:00,759 Speaker 1: open with everyone because that's just where I'm at right now, 1458 01:12:00,840 --> 01:12:05,599 Speaker 1: it's awesome. We don't have to be that, but you can. 1459 01:12:05,880 --> 01:12:08,040 Speaker 1: The thing is I think that people appreciate Listen, if 1460 01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:10,799 Speaker 1: you meet someone on a dating app, for example, you're swiping, 1461 01:12:11,000 --> 01:12:13,160 Speaker 1: you go on a date with them, assume they're sleeping 1462 01:12:13,160 --> 01:12:16,200 Speaker 1: with other people or assume like just why wouldn't they 1463 01:12:16,240 --> 01:12:19,360 Speaker 1: be and also like I feel like that. The flip 1464 01:12:19,400 --> 01:12:20,800 Speaker 1: side of that is you go out with someone a 1465 01:12:20,800 --> 01:12:22,479 Speaker 1: few times, you have sex with them, and then you're 1466 01:12:22,479 --> 01:12:24,160 Speaker 1: with them for the next six months or a year, 1467 01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:25,920 Speaker 1: and you're like, I don't even barely know, like do 1468 01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:27,559 Speaker 1: I actually want to be with this person? And I 1469 01:12:27,560 --> 01:12:29,720 Speaker 1: think there's a great time in your life when you 1470 01:12:29,800 --> 01:12:31,639 Speaker 1: are single that you get to date a few people 1471 01:12:31,680 --> 01:12:33,280 Speaker 1: and figure out like who do I like? Like what 1472 01:12:33,360 --> 01:12:35,599 Speaker 1: do I actually want? What am I into? And when 1473 01:12:35,600 --> 01:12:37,240 Speaker 1: you're sleeping with a few people, you can be like, 1474 01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:39,840 Speaker 1: oh you like learn from all. If the primary guy 1475 01:12:39,920 --> 01:12:41,880 Speaker 1: that goes, hey, I don't want you to sleep with 1476 01:12:41,960 --> 01:12:43,760 Speaker 1: the other people that come into town, what would you 1477 01:12:43,800 --> 01:12:49,040 Speaker 1: do this primary I'm trying to think. I know it 1478 01:12:49,080 --> 01:12:51,720 Speaker 1: wouldn't happen that the deal that we're in right now, 1479 01:12:51,760 --> 01:12:54,080 Speaker 1: but I think if it would have to be mutual, 1480 01:12:54,240 --> 01:12:56,599 Speaker 1: like I think it would have to be. I'd be like, really, well, 1481 01:12:56,600 --> 01:12:58,040 Speaker 1: tell me more about that. Are we going to change 1482 01:12:58,080 --> 01:12:59,920 Speaker 1: the structure of relationship. Do you think we should be 1483 01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:02,960 Speaker 1: being maybe we could spend more time together or are 1484 01:13:03,000 --> 01:13:08,360 Speaker 1: you being with other people? Yeah? Um, I think Andrew's 1485 01:13:08,400 --> 01:13:12,400 Speaker 1: projecting himself all over I'm wondering. I'm just wondering. I 1486 01:13:12,400 --> 01:13:14,760 Speaker 1: don't I don't really know the answered, because you put 1487 01:13:14,800 --> 01:13:17,840 Speaker 1: yourself in the situation of her primary guy with your 1488 01:13:17,920 --> 01:13:20,000 Speaker 1: girl that you're dating, that's your primary girl, that isn't 1489 01:13:20,000 --> 01:13:23,200 Speaker 1: your girlfriend. If you would rather just not know what 1490 01:13:23,320 --> 01:13:26,280 Speaker 1: she's doing. You're saying that the fact that Emily Funny, 1491 01:13:26,280 --> 01:13:28,960 Speaker 1: We're about to have sex the other night, and uh, 1492 01:13:29,040 --> 01:13:30,840 Speaker 1: I was on like on top of her, about to 1493 01:13:30,840 --> 01:13:32,479 Speaker 1: go down on her, and she got a phone call 1494 01:13:32,760 --> 01:13:36,040 Speaker 1: from a boy's number, and I got a little jealous 1495 01:13:36,040 --> 01:13:38,920 Speaker 1: and it affected how good I was sexually. I think 1496 01:13:39,000 --> 01:13:41,680 Speaker 1: because I kept thinking of this guy's name. You know, 1497 01:13:41,760 --> 01:13:44,920 Speaker 1: like your official with someone, though you should assume that 1498 01:13:44,960 --> 01:13:48,360 Speaker 1: they're sleeping with other people, right, Does that hurt you 1499 01:13:48,439 --> 01:13:51,040 Speaker 1: to hear? No, it doesn't hurt me to hear. I know. 1500 01:13:51,160 --> 01:13:52,720 Speaker 1: I just want to know how you can be like 1501 01:13:52,840 --> 01:13:57,599 Speaker 1: open with communication and how the girl will be only 1502 01:13:57,640 --> 01:14:00,320 Speaker 1: sucking him and he can funck other girls. That's that's 1503 01:14:00,360 --> 01:14:02,599 Speaker 1: what we all want. I don't want that. I don't 1504 01:14:02,600 --> 01:14:04,679 Speaker 1: want that. Well, then why not just make it official? 1505 01:14:06,880 --> 01:14:08,639 Speaker 1: How long have you? How long have you been with her? 1506 01:14:08,800 --> 01:14:11,599 Speaker 1: Like three months? I like, like I was going for 1507 01:14:11,640 --> 01:14:15,600 Speaker 1: two months? But yeah, yeah, okay, I don't know. This 1508 01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:18,040 Speaker 1: is about the time. Maybe you had the conversation. You 1509 01:14:18,040 --> 01:14:21,160 Speaker 1: could just be like to define the relationship or not. 1510 01:14:21,200 --> 01:14:23,080 Speaker 1: Maybe not yet. What did she say about the guy? 1511 01:14:23,320 --> 01:14:25,320 Speaker 1: What did she say? It was that he has a 1512 01:14:25,400 --> 01:14:28,240 Speaker 1: huge cock? And but did you ask about it or 1513 01:14:28,320 --> 01:14:30,439 Speaker 1: was it just all like did you follow up with it? 1514 01:14:30,560 --> 01:14:33,240 Speaker 1: Or was it just like you seem a little off 1515 01:14:33,400 --> 01:14:37,040 Speaker 1: and I and I was honest about it. And she goes, 1516 01:14:37,080 --> 01:14:40,000 Speaker 1: that's my childhood friend that I've told you about thirty times. 1517 01:14:40,000 --> 01:14:44,920 Speaker 1: You just don't listen to it. Okay, Well we gotta go. Emily, 1518 01:14:45,040 --> 01:14:47,680 Speaker 1: thank you so much. Thank you just hanging out of 1519 01:14:47,800 --> 01:14:50,720 Speaker 1: this and teaching us so much. We are like I 1520 01:14:50,760 --> 01:14:53,200 Speaker 1: feel like this, we're better off for this conversation, which 1521 01:14:53,240 --> 01:14:55,840 Speaker 1: I always am after listening to you. Make sure you 1522 01:14:55,880 --> 01:14:59,240 Speaker 1: subscribe to Emily's podcast, Sex with Emily wherever you can 1523 01:14:59,240 --> 01:15:05,640 Speaker 1: get podcasts. It's out on sorry Tuesdays and Tuesday's, Friday's 1524 01:15:05,720 --> 01:15:08,200 Speaker 1: and sometimes there's a third one. But she has great 1525 01:15:08,240 --> 01:15:11,680 Speaker 1: interviews with people. She just has great, uh conversations. You 1526 01:15:11,720 --> 01:15:13,080 Speaker 1: fell in love with her today on the show, so 1527 01:15:13,160 --> 01:15:15,679 Speaker 1: make sure you subscribe. Thank you so much, Emily Morrise, 1528 01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:18,679 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. And I can't wait for those 1529 01:15:18,680 --> 01:15:22,120 Speaker 1: toys to arrive in that lube in the necklace. I'm 1530 01:15:22,200 --> 01:15:24,679 Speaker 1: very excited. Um, all right, well we'll see you tomorrow. 1531 01:15:24,720 --> 01:15:26,320 Speaker 1: We've got one more show this week. You guys, thanks 1532 01:15:26,360 --> 01:15:27,040 Speaker 1: for joining us.