1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. Breakfast Club. 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 2: Morning, everybody is thevej Envy Jess, Hilarious, Charlamagne and the guy. 3 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:11,639 Speaker 2: We are the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest 4 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 2: in the belt. 5 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 3: Because today is National co Parenting Day. Yes, so we 6 00:00:15,680 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 3: had to bring in a man who I feel like 7 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 3: him and just have one of the best co parenting 8 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:21,919 Speaker 3: relationships I've ever seen. 9 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: Room is here, Room is here. I got already use 10 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: of you. 11 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 4: You got it already. 12 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: I got in trouble cause of you already. Wow. 13 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,239 Speaker 2: Just say, I want to know who gave Room some 14 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,279 Speaker 2: liquor exploi And I was like. 15 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:36,519 Speaker 1: I didn't give it to it. I just told him 16 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: where the ball was. Yeh, I said help yourself, help yourself, 17 00:00:40,520 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: and you said it. 18 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 5: Was You said it was apple juice. And so I 19 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:44,600 Speaker 5: was about to take a step and I was. 20 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 4: Like, you know what, apple juice, I just ain't thank you. 21 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 4: Was gonna pick the cup up you. 22 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:53,240 Speaker 3: And just have the best co parenting situation I've ever witnessed. 23 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 3: How did y'all get to this point? 24 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 4: Brough and she thinks she my mother first and foremost. 25 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 6: But it took Tom. It took Tom. I felt like 26 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 6: when you take the feelings out of it, and you 27 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 6: realize that the child is the most important part of 28 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 6: the relationship because it's still a reallyship. Whether you're intimate 29 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 6: or not. You can do magical things, magical things. And 30 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:19,480 Speaker 6: I think that me being a dad that I was 31 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 6: and that I am still today, I wanted that. I 32 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 6: felt like if we wasn't gonna be together, it was 33 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:28,479 Speaker 6: no need for us to beef. We've created over time. 34 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 4: Whereas now she's my best friend, She's my safe space. 35 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 6: I feel like, you know, I convent to her because 36 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 6: sometimes all the time I need it, But I feel 37 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,959 Speaker 6: like when I was pouring into these other women, they 38 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 6: would use it against me. 39 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:42,959 Speaker 4: Mm hmmm. 40 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 6: Whereas though now and now that she's pregnant, I don't 41 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 6: really call her and say certain things because I know 42 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:51,559 Speaker 6: she's going through certain things mentally now. 43 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 4: So justice is always in my safe space. 44 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 6: Though, so it's like she's always been a person that 45 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 6: I go to a call, give me advice, some advice, 46 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 6: sound take, but just to hear, but just to hear 47 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 6: her give it to you, just to know that she care, because. 48 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 4: I don't really have nobody. 49 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 2: How did y'all, how did y'all meet How did you 50 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 2: meet Jess And how did y'all start dating? 51 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 4: Back then, when it was like, oh, this is this. 52 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: Is something I want to know that. 53 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:15,399 Speaker 4: It's crazy because we grew the smile. 54 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: He's starting to smile because we grew up in the 55 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: same church. 56 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 4: But we didn't know. 57 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 6: We didn't know my mom. My mom was alive, my 58 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 6: mom down. I was ten, my mom was alive. We 59 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 6: went to the same church. 60 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:28,919 Speaker 4: My mom died. 61 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,239 Speaker 6: My father like really took me away from everybody. So 62 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 6: now it was like fast forward. I'm like seventeen. It's 63 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 6: Facebook and it's after my Space Facebook, and she came 64 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:44,079 Speaker 6: across my timeline and I was like, okay, so I 65 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 6: did a dot dot dot and I put a basketball 66 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 6: in Moji. 67 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: You thought she was a w just shut up. 68 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 4: Playing with you. She bid on it ta okay. 69 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: She she was like what I forgot what she said, 70 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: but I was like, I was just I think. 71 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 6: I was like, I'm just coming to get my ball, 72 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 6: coming to get with mine something. 73 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,639 Speaker 1: I said, what and why the basketball room? I need 74 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: to know I've seen it somewhere. Basketball. No, I seen 75 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:11,919 Speaker 1: somebody do. 76 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 6: That, Like I don't know what I seen basketball. 77 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 1: So I'm like I don't know. 78 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 4: I just I did it because I thought it was 79 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 4: it was corny, but I thought it was you know. 80 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:25,799 Speaker 1: But it worked. It got our attention. What do you 81 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: think just when you saw the basketball? 82 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 5: I just I said what they Okay? I just typed 83 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 5: that back and like he said, it was my ball. 84 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 5: It's my ball and I'm coming to get I'm coming 85 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 5: to get it or something like that, I'm coming to get 86 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 5: with mine. And I was like, okay, what's that. I 87 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 5: knew what I was giving, what it. 88 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: Was about it, but it worked. It worked. 89 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 2: So you started talking, Where was your first date? What 90 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 2: was your first When you started first talking? 91 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: What was your honest? 92 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 4: Man, Jasica did a lot. 93 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 6: I'm gonna say this before a lot of these young 94 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:58,440 Speaker 6: guys became Jody. 95 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 1: I was Jody, and our first date, big date, I'm 96 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: gonna say it was six Flags. Okay, okay, all right. 97 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 6: I never had a birth certificate that my mom died. 98 00:04:15,440 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: It was here. 99 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 4: My dad didn't want to come ahead to get it. 100 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 6: There because he was born in I was going to 101 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 6: stat Island, so my dad didn't want to get it. 102 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 4: So for a long time I just had a college 103 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 4: I d I was driving on a college I d 104 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 4: but Jessica, it was the. 105 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 6: Simplest one to let me drive with no ID. I 106 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 6: meant with no license. 107 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:36,280 Speaker 1: You know, I was. 108 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 6: I was responsible though, so I used to work at 109 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 6: the car wash. I used to clean it, shine it up, 110 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 6: jealum atizing old nine yards. 111 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 4: But our first date was six Flags. 112 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: That morning I went and would get my permit. 113 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 4: Before we left for six Flags. But I felt I. 114 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:52,359 Speaker 6: Went in there with my high horses. That's why I 115 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 6: felt at first big written. It was written, but it 116 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,599 Speaker 6: was a computer written. Get written. 117 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 4: That's difficult from I failed the one where it said 118 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 4: put on your high bings or your low bings when 119 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:06,560 Speaker 4: it's when it's like when it's raining or something like that, 120 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:08,279 Speaker 4: or when it's the ground most slippery. 121 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: Did you have shades on when you No, I ain't 122 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: really wear shades like that. 123 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 6: I did, But there was another you know, yeah, but 124 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 6: first big date, six Flags. 125 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 4: But before that we did a lot of other things. 126 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 6: But after that it was we did a lot like 127 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 6: she introduced me to a lot. Actually we both was 128 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 6: the same age, but she helped make me become well, 129 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 6: got me, you're becoming a man, coming to man. 130 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 1: And then. 131 00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, then boom just. 132 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 2: Always says that you are you were overprotective, make sure 133 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 2: she was good. 134 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 4: But she always said you can't fight. Oh my god, 135 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 4: she never seen me fight. 136 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 1: We fought. 137 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:49,479 Speaker 5: I got that from. 138 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:53,480 Speaker 4: Of course, I'm not going to fight her. Bro Oh 139 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,559 Speaker 4: it's crazy because I just got a picture from the window. 140 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 6: You bust the minds man, no one window? 141 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 4: What I fish? 142 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: What what happened? 143 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 2: Oh, you can't be herd And if she could break 144 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 2: a window from a fist out trying to. 145 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 1: Fight, what happened? Wrong to take a slip thinking about that? 146 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 4: All right? 147 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 1: I was just talking. 148 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 4: I was just in North Carolina this weekend. 149 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 6: I was just just talking about this, like how my 150 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:23,880 Speaker 6: step brothers was like corny and ship right my step like, Jessica, 151 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 6: pull up, mind you ate together, Jessica pulls up. I 152 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 6: had a girl in the house. So my brother like 153 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 6: he come to the top of the steps, like just 154 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:34,160 Speaker 6: at the door. 155 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, here I come the nigga. Don't 156 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: even wait for me to come. He let her in. 157 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: He let her in. Oh boy, I walked right past 158 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:43,600 Speaker 1: him and his friends with the girl. 159 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 4: Jessica get in the steps. 160 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 5: Right, she wrote, But what did I see? When I 161 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 5: walked down the steps, Jerne, you didn't see. 162 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:54,719 Speaker 1: And then she tries to fassage this story. 163 00:06:55,480 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 6: Ashton, I had a portable rocking bassing that we could 164 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 6: put it in the trunk, send it to her, bring it back. 165 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 6: Ashton was in a portable rocking joint. Me and the 166 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 6: girl was on on the bed. I had on basketball 167 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 6: short she had on her uniform pants. 168 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: She's gonna say she's been saying this was the middle CEO. Correct, 169 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:18,679 Speaker 1: she's a correctional officer. 170 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 6: So like she's sitting she facing me, but her legs 171 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 6: is like you know how that goes? Just coud come 172 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 6: down and say she keeps She gonna say, oh, we 173 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 6: was naked. We was not naked. If it had been happening, I. 174 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 4: Don't get naked. 175 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 1: And when she topped it. 176 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,239 Speaker 4: Up, Oh my gosh. 177 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: She's never gonna tells anyway, she banged the girl. You 178 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: beat up the girl. She didn't beat up bang popped 179 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:39,760 Speaker 1: us and I. 180 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:43,360 Speaker 4: Picked up and walked up and throw outside. 181 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 5: You could never lift me. 182 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: You never see what I'm saying. She never wants to. 183 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: She never wants to admit the truth. On the field. 184 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 1: Couldn't fight, No. 185 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 5: I ain't noight or not, but she had the one 186 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 5: time and then she she put on her uniform and 187 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 5: went unless went upstairs. 188 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: I promise you, I wish it was the. 189 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 5: Cat started fighting that that. No, my son was not 190 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 5: in no portable nothing. He was on the floor on 191 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 5: a blanket, and the cat was looking at him like 192 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 5: he wanted. 193 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:18,080 Speaker 4: To eat him under the carpet. 194 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 1: So I will never lay my I wouldn't even lay 195 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:20,239 Speaker 1: on the floor. 196 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 5: So I was my son on the floor. 197 00:08:22,840 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: My son was in a portable bassinet. Okay, y'all were 198 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:30,160 Speaker 1: arguing about this for eleven. Tell you she was drunk 199 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: out of her mind. 200 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 4: And I'm trying to figure out. 201 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 5: I was just getting off for. 202 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 4: Work, hadn't God, you did not just get off where 203 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:38,920 Speaker 4: he was fired at that time. 204 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 5: So I got fired right after that. I was working 205 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 5: at McDonald's. That's when I was stealing. And then if 206 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 5: I was drinking, okay, I was drinking on the joe, 207 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 5: but I was at work. So and then I came 208 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 5: to get my son, and it did not come. 209 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:56,079 Speaker 6: Get your son because it was my weekend. So what 210 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 6: I was getting till Monday from. 211 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: Day kid, why would you coming? 212 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 4: No, he was coming to be nosy, I didn't have 213 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 4: to come to me. 214 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:03,439 Speaker 1: She was looking for the passing your water. If you 215 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: get cousin, she because go home. Eleven years years old. 216 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 4: Man, that's my god. How did you break the woman 217 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 4: that should her hands? You walked out? No, I threw 218 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:19,880 Speaker 4: ass out. 219 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:23,120 Speaker 5: You're not that she was not that strong. 220 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: You did not. Yeah, I mean I had you and 221 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 1: it was steps right there. 222 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 5: Could never ever eaten right now, could not do that. 223 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 1: You need the window. I was just really really because. 224 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,520 Speaker 5: He wouldn't give me my son. She's give me my son. 225 00:09:38,559 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 5: You called the police. 226 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 6: Say, I didn't call the police, called the police, never 227 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 6: called the police. Yeah, I didn't call the police. 228 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 1: Listen, very everybody here is well, I'm. 229 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 6: From the jail is right there, right around the corner. 230 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 1: You can walk. It's the women. The commotion he walk to. 231 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: I don't know how they came. 232 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 6: I thought my stepmother called my god call one. 233 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 4: It was my step mother house, my god mother house. 234 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 4: Somebody called because I ain't called the police. 235 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:07,719 Speaker 6: My phone was cracked because you cracked the phone. 236 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 5: The phone, but he can still everybody in the house 237 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 5: had the phone. He called my He called the police 238 00:10:12,440 --> 00:10:15,079 Speaker 5: on me, and then going and then when the police came, 239 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 5: I was I just sat in my car. I was mad. 240 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,160 Speaker 5: I was like, no, I can't move here to get 241 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 5: my son. And Nicole did tell me your come on 242 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 5: this pull off. He's not giving you the baby. He 243 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:24,520 Speaker 5: not giving you the baby. I was like, all right, cool, 244 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 5: but I was mad, so I didn't pull off police 245 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 5: paddy wagon and pulled up and got out, and you 246 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:41,559 Speaker 5: was like, she right, there. 247 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: Was I trying to get you? 248 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 6: How did I try to get you locked up when 249 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 6: I'm the same one call trying to bail you out 250 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 6: with no money. 251 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 5: I don't know why you ever thought you could build 252 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 5: somebody out with no mindy, I. 253 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 1: Ain't sleep that night out you have a been You 254 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:51,560 Speaker 1: ever went through a woman phone? Of course? 255 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:54,280 Speaker 4: Could you eat after that? Yes? 256 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 1: You could? 257 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:55,559 Speaker 4: Well I couldn't. 258 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: I'm comparing that to you when she went to jail. 259 00:10:58,320 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 4: I couldn't eat. 260 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 1: I couldn't sleep, you know, and sick. I didn't. I 261 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:05,160 Speaker 1: didn't want want jail. Why the would I call the police? 262 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: So how did you push the window? 263 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 4: That's what I had. 264 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 5: Brought up to it, and then I just he had 265 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 5: a Honda hand No, it was it was my first 266 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 5: car and it just got adn't like it when I got. 267 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 1: It because you are jealous. Now remember freedom. 268 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 6: I had freedom once I got it very much. She 269 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 6: couldn't call me say bring me my car back, Jody. 270 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 1: I've never called you that. I've never call you any 271 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: She took you to get the car. 272 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 5: I ain't never seen nobody. 273 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,440 Speaker 6: When we when we when we got when I got 274 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 6: the car. 275 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: When I got the car, she was like, I don't 276 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: like this ship. 277 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:45,120 Speaker 5: I said, yeah, so this means you re really be 278 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 5: doing you. 279 00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: Because she was just doing you. 280 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 5: He would drop me off the work and go act 281 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 5: like he in class. 282 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:53,720 Speaker 1: I was a student then at a beach for my associates. 283 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 1: That's I did. 284 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 6: I went to the class because that's why you got 285 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 6: off work two o'clock. You have to be to work 286 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:58,839 Speaker 6: six o'clock. So I was getting up five am every morning. 287 00:11:58,880 --> 00:11:59,559 Speaker 6: We got your work. 288 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,320 Speaker 4: You got the job bout five forty five. 289 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 6: I got out of class at one thirty, did my 290 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 6: homework for the fifteen minutes, came the cold Spring, make Donalds, 291 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 6: and picked you up. 292 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:09,079 Speaker 4: Then we went home. 293 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 1: That was my routine. Money to Friday, won a lot 294 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:14,960 Speaker 1: of things. But did you hurt your hand? No? 295 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:16,839 Speaker 5: It didn't hurt till I got in jail. I ain't 296 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 5: gonna lie when I got in jail. 297 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 4: But it hurts. 298 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 1: She's sobered up. 299 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 5: This is the crazy thing. I was not that drunk. 300 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 5: So then when I got guess who did my job? 301 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:30,680 Speaker 5: Damn gotten no gas? Who did my intake? The damn 302 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 5: girl who was with him? 303 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: The one did you punched? 304 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 5: Yeap, yes, she went. 305 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 1: She didn't do that? 306 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:42,959 Speaker 5: Did the same girl that I popped? 307 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: Y'all? 308 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 5: She did it, but she didn't say nothing because she 309 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:50,079 Speaker 5: couldn't be caught up in nothing like that got fired. Yeah, 310 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:51,840 Speaker 5: I straight sold on her, like yeah, because I was like, 311 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:56,959 Speaker 5: so you absolutely at Wow, how could you actually want 312 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 5: to fuck with a nigga who laid his baby and 313 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 5: the cats on the on the carpet she got. 314 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 3: I ain't mad at that on that very much because 315 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:07,560 Speaker 3: you don't know what she could have tried to do 316 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 3: to you in that situation, so you gotta put everything 317 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:09,839 Speaker 3: on it. 318 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:12,840 Speaker 5: I was like, it was ghetto will be gotten, and 319 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 5: that's what it was. 320 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 3: So now when you hear this story and you say 321 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:19,360 Speaker 3: to yourself, why they there on National co Parent Day 322 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,839 Speaker 3: because they are like the best of friends. Now they 323 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:23,800 Speaker 3: call each other. Jeff called you her brother. How do 324 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 3: you feel about that? 325 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: How did y'all get there? Do you look at her 326 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:30,000 Speaker 1: like your sister? You said, mama, I was gonna. 327 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 6: Say what she said, created that like my mother, Like 328 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 6: when we are the town and she got like my mother. 329 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:37,959 Speaker 4: No, I ain't gonna disclose too much, but she thinks 330 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 4: my mother. No. 331 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 6: I just know she likes to control, like she know 332 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 6: how I am though like me and alone. I think 333 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,720 Speaker 6: part of that controlling pause, like o'kay b be twenty 334 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 6: of us. 335 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:50,959 Speaker 1: I don't want to be with child, So guess what 336 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:51,440 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do. 337 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:53,679 Speaker 5: He can go out of town with these twenty people 338 00:13:53,760 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 5: and then be like all right. 339 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 6: I'm like, no, we could be all on sprinting. What's 340 00:13:57,040 --> 00:14:00,120 Speaker 6: going on now on sprint or whatever state we go to. Bro, 341 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 6: I'm won't even gonna go with a rental or slingshot 342 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 6: or something better not be raining. 343 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 1: But I think that that. 344 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:11,680 Speaker 6: Controlling part comes in just because she cares, and sometimes 345 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:15,280 Speaker 6: especially when I'm under the influence, I've done dumbass ship. 346 00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 2: So as good as you know that you I don't 347 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 2: know if you heard just assist in the back. 348 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 6: Everybody like you know, everybody knows, but I hold myself 349 00:14:25,520 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 6: accountable that mind you. 350 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:28,320 Speaker 4: Now, I ain't gonna say you I learned from Oneman six. 351 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 4: I did the dumbas ship over and over again. 352 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 6: But I think in that aspect, that's when the mother 353 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 6: of the mother with the v coming but the brother 354 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 6: calling me brother, and sisters were like, honestly without the 355 00:14:39,680 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 6: child like. 356 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:41,680 Speaker 4: It it's there. 357 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 6: It's it's seem like Amazon cameras off, like you can't 358 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 6: fake this or make this ship up. 359 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,640 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, Rome started that room started calling me sis first, 360 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 5: and then I started calling him bro. I you know, 361 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, we do have like a sibling dynamic 362 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:58,800 Speaker 5: in some way. You know, he's still confides in my mom. 363 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:02,600 Speaker 5: He like, my mom is our mother. Like it's not 364 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 5: it ain't nothing crazy, it's nothing intimate. Like seriously, I 365 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,680 Speaker 5: always say this, people be like, yeah, right, I can 366 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 5: literally walk past and I don't do this. But what 367 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 5: I'm saying, I can walk past this man nigked and 368 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 5: he just they be like, girl, what like put that out? 369 00:15:16,760 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 5: I'm talking about seriously, like how do y'all know. 370 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: Each other's spouses or each other's boyfriend and girlfriend? Like 371 00:15:21,680 --> 00:15:23,640 Speaker 1: how do you deal with his girl, And how do 372 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 1: you deal with with. 373 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 5: Five? I never told you always try. 374 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 4: It's cool. Though it's cool, but this is this and 375 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,920 Speaker 4: now this was the friction part and we got over that. 376 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 4: But this is the The friction part. 377 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:43,800 Speaker 6: Was mom my bendess, I'm getting hot ship, But the 378 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:47,440 Speaker 6: friction part was her getting into minds. 379 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 4: But she's still a woman. I'm still a man. So 380 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 4: women tend to do that. And this is not no 381 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:54,040 Speaker 4: shame to women. 382 00:15:54,040 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 6: I don't mean no disrespect by saying it, but I 383 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:58,880 Speaker 6: think women tend to do that, especially a woman. 384 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 2: That care about you, she said, But sometimes you make 385 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 2: bad decisions and she's there as your sister to make 386 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:08,680 Speaker 2: sure you're good, regardless if it's relationship or whatever. 387 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 6: Correct with me personally, I never really like I talk 388 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:14,280 Speaker 6: to her about certain things, but I never really like 389 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:18,160 Speaker 6: my family to get into no intimate situation. Yeah, because 390 00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 6: guess what, y'all feel a way about this person. However 391 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 6: y'all want, whether it's negative or good. If I'm gonna 392 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:25,440 Speaker 6: deal with this person, I'm gonna deal with her like 393 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 6: the female can smack shit out me yesterday. 394 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:31,520 Speaker 4: Mm hmmm, I might get over it and fucking them all. 395 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:35,280 Speaker 6: But it's like, that's why I always That's how I 396 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:38,200 Speaker 6: was always able to distinguish the two, Like when Jessica 397 00:16:38,200 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 6: would have men when she come to me, like, I 398 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 6: don't know, like, I ain't never pillow talking or sneak 399 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 6: dish or nothing like I don't really care for Like, 400 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 6: it ain't nothing a nigga have that I don't if you. 401 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: Put it in that sense. But when she come to 402 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:51,880 Speaker 1: me with a man, I tell her ain't right. 403 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:54,040 Speaker 3: But both of y'all gotta share, though, because you're gonna 404 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 3: want to know who around your son. 405 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 6: I never did though, Yeah, I never so in the 406 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 6: beginning stage, Yeah, don't have this nigga my summer. 407 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:01,760 Speaker 1: But I grew out of that. 408 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:04,399 Speaker 6: So now it's I trust my child mom enough to 409 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 6: she won't bring no fans sit around my child, So 410 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 6: I don't say, oh, don't have this nigga round. That's 411 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:11,879 Speaker 6: never been a problem. It has been a problem. Was 412 00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 6: motherfucker's envy me. It's that for my last dog. 413 00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, my dogs. Who's the dog my dog, Chris Chris Chris, 414 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 1: my dog my dog. I ain't gonna hold he. I 415 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 1: think he's the I think. 416 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 6: Like me, honestly, me and jess Man like, I think 417 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 6: it's been times where a woman didn't like me and 418 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 6: her situation. 419 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 5: But guess what, bye, yeah more so on and yeah, 420 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:39,040 Speaker 5: it'll be more so on his end because it's much 421 00:17:39,119 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 5: more of them. But the thing is, the thing is, 422 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:47,520 Speaker 5: like I don't like when because I even tell him 423 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:50,199 Speaker 5: what he's going wrong to, like, yo, don't cheer her 424 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 5: like that. This is how how how you going to 425 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:53,440 Speaker 5: introduce me to it? 426 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 1: Now? 427 00:17:53,920 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 5: Now I done got to know where, you know, and 428 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 5: whether she had a kid or not. Most of the 429 00:17:58,240 --> 00:18:00,520 Speaker 5: time it's the ones that have the kids. But it's like, yo, 430 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 5: you gotta do right or just be single, Like, don't 431 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 5: keep hurting women in the process of trying to find 432 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:10,320 Speaker 5: what you're looking for. I mean, I know that's all 433 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:13,080 Speaker 5: a part of dating, but when you have kids, it's different, 434 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,920 Speaker 5: you know. And then here be like, oh, that's why 435 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:17,719 Speaker 5: I don't like you to be getting into it, you know, 436 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 5: And then I don't like he he attracts a lot 437 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:23,880 Speaker 5: of toxic women to like abusive relationships where women will 438 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:26,400 Speaker 5: put their hands on them. I'm like, what, yeah, all right, 439 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 5: you know, but he don't. He's like no, but I 440 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,239 Speaker 5: might be fucking with it them all. What she just 441 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:34,159 Speaker 5: blacks your eye? What are you talking about? You know 442 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:38,440 Speaker 5: what I'm saying, Like, no, we're not doing it, but okay, 443 00:18:38,440 --> 00:18:42,040 Speaker 5: well she busts your nose whatever. Women have put. 444 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 6: Their hands on you, and that's why, and that's why 445 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:47,920 Speaker 6: she's my dog, Like I think she's the only one 446 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 6: really honestly, do want to get the fuck under my skin? 447 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:54,399 Speaker 6: Like it's a certain word place she used and I 448 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 6: don't care what tone she uses in, but to say that, 449 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 6: it's like I was really never taught how to love, 450 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 6: like from I lost my mom at ten years old. 451 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:08,920 Speaker 4: My heart, I'm moving my dad, and when I move 452 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:10,560 Speaker 4: with my dad, my dad didn't move my dad in 453 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:12,719 Speaker 4: my step mom, which is my mom. Now me and 454 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:14,640 Speaker 4: my mom have a great relationship. That's my step mom. 455 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:19,879 Speaker 6: And my dad was married. But my dad was cheating, 456 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 6: like saying, like my dad, my dad showing me. 457 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:28,520 Speaker 4: Ship that all right, I'm thinking cool m hm. 458 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 6: So like when even when I started dealing with women 459 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:33,320 Speaker 6: and stuff like that, multiple women and all that, my 460 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 6: dad was like yeah, absolutely, And I'm thinking it's cool 461 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 6: because that's that's that's what I'm saying. I'm being taught, 462 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:43,680 Speaker 6: like and every man in my life that I looked 463 00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 6: at as a role model me was the same way. 464 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:51,400 Speaker 4: So it's like what you expect. 465 00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 6: But the good thing is now it's like I'm old 466 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:55,639 Speaker 6: enough now in mind, I ain't perfect. 467 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 1: Now I'm seeing it. I'm trying to, you know, change it. 468 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:02,800 Speaker 6: But I never was taught to love properly, so and 469 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:05,360 Speaker 6: I never my trust issues is fucked up from my dad, Like, bro, 470 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:09,159 Speaker 6: my trust is hues. I met her because I'm seeing 471 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,920 Speaker 6: what he's doing, but I'm saying when it's done to him, 472 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 6: his reactions like damn, my nigga, you were just doing this. 473 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,160 Speaker 1: How you're gonna get married? Right? 474 00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:21,119 Speaker 4: So it's like every relationship I've went into, I had 475 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:21,960 Speaker 4: an expiration date. 476 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:22,440 Speaker 5: Me. 477 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 6: I put an X frame on myself. I say, she's 478 00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:25,560 Speaker 6: gonna get she gonna get get what I'm getting. 479 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:28,639 Speaker 4: I'm gone, m hm. So I've never really gave a 480 00:20:28,640 --> 00:20:33,280 Speaker 4: woman the what's the word I'm looking for. I never 481 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 4: really gave a woman commitment, not even commitment, but I've 482 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:36,960 Speaker 4: never gave a. 483 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 1: Woman a chance to really love me. But even with 484 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:42,160 Speaker 1: the kids, like even having kids, No, I haven't. 485 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 6: And this is like I said, no distress to my children, moms. 486 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,920 Speaker 6: A lot of my my children came out of vulnerability. 487 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:52,000 Speaker 1: M found on that. And I'm explaining that, So I will. 488 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:55,359 Speaker 6: Meet a woman who I may feel like she's what 489 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:58,159 Speaker 6: I need, another safe place or whatever the case may be. 490 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:01,199 Speaker 6: But I'm already vulnerable from a previous relationship ship have 491 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 6: a child, knowing I don't want to be with this woman. 492 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 4: I don't want to. I don't I really don't want 493 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 4: to be. 494 00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 1: With her, but I feel like I'm forced to be 495 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 1: with her because of a child. 496 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:16,120 Speaker 4: Mhmm. And I've done that. 497 00:21:18,720 --> 00:21:22,560 Speaker 3: You know multiple times you needed a therapist, not another baby, Mam. 498 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,880 Speaker 4: I need correct but at the time of need, at 499 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 4: the time in vulnerability. You know women, you know. 500 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:32,399 Speaker 6: Women, women, can they be masked up? 501 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:31,720 Speaker 3: Yea. 502 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,360 Speaker 5: But then also you know, just on a accountability part 503 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 5: which he has taken over his recent years, is like 504 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:42,760 Speaker 5: you was looking for like your mom and women, and 505 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 5: you would never get that, you know what I'm saying, 506 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:49,280 Speaker 5: because you was trying to look for an emotional connection 507 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 5: with with you know, nurturing also and then like you 508 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 5: was really really searched searching for Keisha. Keisha's his mother. 509 00:21:56,800 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 5: You were really searching for her and women. You know, 510 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 5: that's that's a different type of love, you know what 511 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 5: I mean. 512 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,880 Speaker 4: I think different women always dealt with different women because 513 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:07,240 Speaker 4: different women had certain. 514 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 1: What is it, certain things aspects of her aspects of it. 515 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 6: But like I never knew how to be alone, bro, 516 00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:18,600 Speaker 6: Like I would be single and my own apartment and 517 00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:22,680 Speaker 6: all that and let it go and go move with 518 00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 6: a woman because I never knew. Really, I don't know 519 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 6: how to I don't like being lonely like so it's 520 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 6: like a lot of the times when I say this 521 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,239 Speaker 6: ship is real, like I don't know if a lot 522 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,280 Speaker 6: of other men like me. But when being lonely, bro, 523 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,040 Speaker 6: you go through so you don't get how much money 524 00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:38,640 Speaker 6: you got. I don't cap out none of that. But 525 00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:41,119 Speaker 6: like I never really knew how to be alone, Like 526 00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 6: I feel like I got to have somebody laying next 527 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 6: to me. 528 00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:46,960 Speaker 1: Because even before my mom died, my mom was sleep naked. 529 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 6: This is a back then thing. How old were you 530 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 6: with I was telling? But I was a mommy's boy. 531 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 1: Did you ever did you ever really properly so grieving? No? 532 00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:58,399 Speaker 4: I never really grieved. 533 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,000 Speaker 6: All I did was I thought it was gonna help 534 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 6: me by going to school for social work because that's 535 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,359 Speaker 6: what she was. But I never really probably agrieved and 536 00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:07,360 Speaker 6: that's a that's a process. Now I do want to get, 537 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,240 Speaker 6: you know, back in the gym. I do want to 538 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,119 Speaker 6: get a therapist, but don't want everything else around me 539 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:13,639 Speaker 6: to be in tact so that I could fully commit, 540 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,600 Speaker 6: because if I ain't fully committed, it ain't gonna work. 541 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:17,879 Speaker 1: And then as I. 542 00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:20,840 Speaker 5: Also feel like your your dad didn't get you any 543 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 5: tape dad. 544 00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,480 Speaker 6: Honestly, I felt like me personally, and this is probably 545 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 6: the first time I said this, Like I did. I 546 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:30,679 Speaker 6: think my father really wanted me for a check and 547 00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 6: exactly what I said, like the money and lied to 548 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,480 Speaker 6: me for so long. 549 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:39,160 Speaker 4: I lost a scholarship because of my dad. Oh because 550 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,200 Speaker 4: at the time where I wanted to go, I wanted 551 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:41,880 Speaker 4: to get away from. 552 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:44,439 Speaker 6: Them, so I had I had a couple of scholarships. 553 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 6: I had like over thirty a septences. 554 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:49,960 Speaker 4: I got to accept it to a school in Florida. 555 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,240 Speaker 5: I think it did your mom leave you money or. 556 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 4: Yeah my mom? Yeah my mom, So my mom left you. 557 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:56,960 Speaker 1: Maybe the government gave you a job my mom? 558 00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 4: My mom left money, my mom was getting money, and 559 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 4: you know, social securities stuff. 560 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 6: So it was like my dad was making bank like 561 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,000 Speaker 6: I did that case. I ain't even say the calculations. 562 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:04,919 Speaker 6: Calculations is crazy. 563 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:06,320 Speaker 4: What's your relationship with your dad? 564 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:06,439 Speaker 1: Now? 565 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,040 Speaker 4: We okay, you know we all right? 566 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:14,320 Speaker 6: He you know, he's still living with that regret, and 567 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,640 Speaker 6: I feel like that's why we can't really get there. 568 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:20,119 Speaker 1: But yeah, like I feel like my dad wanted me 569 00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 1: for a check man a scholarship. 570 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 6: I lovet scholarship. I lost a scholarship because August, like 571 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 6: TVC's full school was supposed to start. I had got it. 572 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,600 Speaker 6: I was leaving like my mom's side. He brought all 573 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,000 Speaker 6: my dorm stuff and all of that. All my life, 574 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,640 Speaker 6: my father always said, yeah, when you get eighteen, you're 575 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,159 Speaker 6: gonna have money. You can go get your car, you 576 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:40,520 Speaker 6: can go do what you want, you go to school, 577 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 6: whatever the case may be. 578 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 1: Alrighty cool, I get eighteen, I graduate. It's nothing there, 579 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,080 Speaker 1: I asked my father. I'm like, well, there's. 580 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,359 Speaker 6: Still no answer to My brother never even answered. So 581 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 6: I know I got a scholarship. I had a partial scholarship. 582 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:56,480 Speaker 6: So a partial scholarship with the you paying the school 583 00:24:56,600 --> 00:25:00,920 Speaker 6: and on and room and board that's at the school. 584 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:01,439 Speaker 1: I was going through. 585 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 6: That was about sixteen, seventeen thousand semester. I had like 586 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,639 Speaker 6: a forty two thousand dollars partial joint. 587 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:09,119 Speaker 1: So my dad was always. 588 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 4: Saying, all right, I got the rest. I got the rest. 589 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,080 Speaker 6: So two weeks before I was supposed to leave, so 590 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:16,000 Speaker 6: a month was supposed to be my family got all 591 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,600 Speaker 6: my doing stuff. A week before I was supposed to leave, 592 00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:19,320 Speaker 6: my father called me. 593 00:25:19,359 --> 00:25:22,600 Speaker 4: Up to the room and he like, I didn't even 594 00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:24,320 Speaker 4: say what he said. I'm like, he like, you can't 595 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 4: go to school. I'm like, why not, Like nigga, I'm 596 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:28,439 Speaker 4: an age. 597 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 6: Student, like I work off for this. I was an athlete. 598 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,000 Speaker 6: I was a student. I ain't getting no office from 599 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,880 Speaker 6: basketball my junior senior year. So I gave up and said, 600 00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 6: fuck it, I'm gonna fall back on my grades. You 601 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 6: always said I had the money. The money wasn't there. 602 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 4: He spent it all. 603 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,760 Speaker 6: And you know, we turned eighteen, like seventeen and a half, 604 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,360 Speaker 6: it stopped coming. But even even if it come again 605 00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 6: when I'm eighteen, that's one check, all the rest gone. 606 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,400 Speaker 6: And my stepmother used to always tell him, my stup 607 00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,760 Speaker 6: And I love my stepmother for this, and I wish 608 00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 6: I'd known this when I was younger. But my step 609 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:02,719 Speaker 6: mother used to always tell them put that money up, 610 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 6: But she never came to me because she didn't want 611 00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:07,479 Speaker 6: to overstep the boundaries of her husband. 612 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 4: And I understood it. 613 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 6: But now that I'm grown and we have conversations now, 614 00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:14,160 Speaker 6: it's like I understood it because my father always tried 615 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 6: to make. 616 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 4: People hate me. I hated my step Yeah, I hated 617 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 4: my step mother growing up, but it was never herd 618 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 4: it was him. 619 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,159 Speaker 6: Lights sayn't get cut off. We had Christmases because of 620 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:26,160 Speaker 6: my stepmam. My dudes got paid my senior due. I'm 621 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,960 Speaker 6: talking my middle school dudes. My bro, you're getting money 622 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 6: for me in my middle school dues my step mother 623 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,919 Speaker 6: paid them. My step mother and my teachers paid them. Wow, 624 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:33,560 Speaker 6: high school dues. 625 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,320 Speaker 4: My stepmother paid them. 626 00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: And my friends. I got two friends. Their mother's paid 627 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,760 Speaker 1: all that. So it was like my dad really crushed me. 628 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:38,919 Speaker 4: Man. 629 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,360 Speaker 6: I told my dad a couple of weeks ago. Man, 630 00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:41,879 Speaker 6: I said, Bro, you hate me, not literally saying you 631 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:43,120 Speaker 6: hate me, but you hate me so much. 632 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,640 Speaker 4: Because I got you. I caught your ways. 633 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:46,600 Speaker 6: I said, what the difference between me, I'm young and 634 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 6: I'm changing. I'm gonna change them. You're twenty years older 635 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:50,800 Speaker 6: than me, You're still doing. 636 00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:52,960 Speaker 1: The same thing. You want to break those cycles. 637 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 6: And I want to It's not even me breaking a cycle, rogers. 638 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:57,720 Speaker 6: I don't like being like this, Like I don't like 639 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 6: hurting people. I don't like hurting women. I don't like 640 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 6: I never really heard. I'm so loyal to my friends 641 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 6: that any little disloyal thing they do to me, they 642 00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 6: cut off. So it's like the shit be hurting man, 643 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:10,879 Speaker 6: And it's like, damn, I already had nobody. So then 644 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,840 Speaker 6: when I got a child, mom, I cherish it. I 645 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:17,120 Speaker 6: tell horash the really ones you love, the really ones 646 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 6: that's genuely there for you, the ones that you ain't 647 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:20,639 Speaker 6: got to do nothing for, And I really love you 648 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 6: because guess what, at the end of the. 649 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,600 Speaker 4: Day, when shit goes, if shit go bad, they're gonna 650 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 4: be the ones you can count on. 651 00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 3: You know, there's this thing when when you start going 652 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 3: to therapy you'll hear about. It's this thing called the 653 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,919 Speaker 3: mother womb, and it's a type of attachment trauma that 654 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 3: instills deeply rooted beliefs that make the child feel unloved, abandoned, 655 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 3: unworthy of care and numb to their feelings that do that. 656 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:45,800 Speaker 4: You mass low loss, mas lole loss. 657 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:47,160 Speaker 1: It's done, yours. 658 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:48,720 Speaker 6: A child will affect you as an adult, but it 659 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:52,440 Speaker 6: will not define you, That's right. So it's like it's 660 00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 6: crazy because going to schools, like, man, you're reading this shit. 661 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,320 Speaker 6: I'm like, man, it's me, it's me, Like you know, 662 00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,160 Speaker 6: I'm thinking of my own therapists. But you know, every 663 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,439 Speaker 6: therapist need a therapist, and that's how they that's how 664 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,920 Speaker 6: they're able to be effective. So it's like, man, like, no, 665 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,320 Speaker 6: I've been through I ain't have a bad upbringing, but 666 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,879 Speaker 6: I've been through some traumatic situations, man, and you know, 667 00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 6: like I ain't. They ain't gonna define me like them 668 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 6: babies and mom. Man, I love them babies. I feel 669 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 6: like if it weren't for my babies, i'd have crashed 670 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,480 Speaker 6: out long ago, long time ago. 671 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: But that's what I said. I got them babies. 672 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,360 Speaker 6: And out of all my te I got, I got 673 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,359 Speaker 6: I got two children moms like that. My last one, 674 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 6: you know, she she made no harm by certain things, 675 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,240 Speaker 6: but I got that one and I got this one 676 00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,879 Speaker 6: to my left, man, my dog, and it's like she 677 00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:34,639 Speaker 6: give me hope every day she don't even know it, 678 00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 6: like even when you know, we might not even argue, 679 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:38,120 Speaker 6: but like every days I wake. 680 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 4: Up, she's doing all right? Are you feeling? Just because 681 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,400 Speaker 4: I know that she needed like. 682 00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:46,960 Speaker 6: When you when you when you the the shoulders in 683 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 6: the head of families or communities, bro, Like it's a lot, 684 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:52,960 Speaker 6: you know, Honestly, I think them people need it the most. 685 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 4: So I give her her flowers every day, and I 686 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 4: feel like man like without her. 687 00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you're on the right back, you know, 688 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,720 Speaker 3: they stay healing the mother when first starts with acknowledging 689 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,400 Speaker 3: the pain and then seeking professional help. 690 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: What you want to do cultivating healthy relationships. 691 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 3: What y'all have done, and you're focusing on self care 692 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:12,560 Speaker 3: personal growth, right, you're definitely on the right path. 693 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:14,959 Speaker 4: Just won't get that mass time, take time, you know, 694 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:15,920 Speaker 4: but it'll be there. 695 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,280 Speaker 3: How did y'all that's the most thing, the most I 696 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 3: won't say most important, but one of the most important things. 697 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,440 Speaker 1: How did y'all realize we don't have feelings for each other? 698 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 1: No more? 699 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:24,400 Speaker 3: Like? 700 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,920 Speaker 1: How did that just go away? Like y'all have y'all 701 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 1: love each other, but not in that way. 702 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 4: I got my answer you want to go first, you 703 00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:31,280 Speaker 4: can go first. 704 00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:33,720 Speaker 6: Because I'm still thinking when I stopped caring about who 705 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,800 Speaker 6: she dealt with, when I wouldn't even like I wouldn't 706 00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,200 Speaker 6: even care, Like how long. 707 00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: Did that take? 708 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 4: Oh? Oh three years? 709 00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,040 Speaker 1: So like when Ashton was like three, yeah, it was 710 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 1: still really yeah. 711 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,959 Speaker 6: It was like things but at that but honestly, that 712 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:58,560 Speaker 6: three years, like I had caught a big check. So 713 00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:02,760 Speaker 6: it's like I was almost a nigga. So it was 714 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:06,800 Speaker 6: like it was the pain that I had. Whatever the 715 00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 6: case I would, I would pay. I was like just 716 00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,800 Speaker 6: boy ship to block it out. But other than that, like. 717 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:13,360 Speaker 1: You ain't trying to stun on her a little bit? 718 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:17,520 Speaker 6: No, I never, no, I never, No, I'm waiting for that. 719 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 6: I never intentionally stunted on her. 720 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:20,760 Speaker 4: I never did that. 721 00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:21,160 Speaker 1: Never. 722 00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 4: I did everything she possibly could ask me to do. 723 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:30,160 Speaker 4: And she said on one of these souls something about 724 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,120 Speaker 4: a B G. E. Bill And I'm addressed that. I 725 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:36,480 Speaker 4: never wanted that. I'm addressed that now with the bill. 726 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,760 Speaker 1: So so I'm explaining her life got cut off. 727 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,600 Speaker 2: I got a five hundred thousand dollars checking Listen. 728 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,479 Speaker 6: No, it wasn't right then and there, but it's over time, 729 00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:50,520 Speaker 6: because like a lot of my places helped me, she 730 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 6: helped me get a lot on the back end, but 731 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 6: in a time like I helped her. 732 00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 4: Whatever the case, I didn't. 733 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:56,520 Speaker 1: Know she's moving with a man. 734 00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:58,080 Speaker 5: I didn't move with a man. 735 00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,680 Speaker 6: Well she moved man in with her. Yeah, alright, okay, 736 00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:06,840 Speaker 6: he had you and the dog too, now in my business, 737 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,120 Speaker 6: so I don't know that he's not there, so boom 738 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:12,200 Speaker 6: hiss his So he's here's my logic, and I'm ana 739 00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:14,880 Speaker 6: say what I'm gonna say to her after I explain it. 740 00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,960 Speaker 6: My logic was all right, man is in the house. 741 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 6: Boom be eagy cut off, right, I'm thinking, like damn. 742 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:25,000 Speaker 1: So she like was wrong. 743 00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:27,760 Speaker 6: I'm like, well, I take my son with me. But 744 00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:31,400 Speaker 6: that wasn't me talking. That was the girlfriend I had talking. 745 00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,479 Speaker 6: Oh ship, ain't I never told you that because as 746 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 6: a woman, you ain't trying to hear that, and I 747 00:31:35,960 --> 00:31:38,600 Speaker 6: just wants as a man and you be and me, 748 00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:40,280 Speaker 6: I don't want to hear that. So I didn't want 749 00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,280 Speaker 6: to tell you that because I have felt less of 750 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:42,680 Speaker 6: a man. 751 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:46,760 Speaker 4: So yeah, but I'm understand him. 752 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,080 Speaker 2: If somebody else is smacking the cheeks, listen. 753 00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:51,480 Speaker 4: So the girlfriend was living in the house. So the 754 00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:52,240 Speaker 4: girlfriend was. 755 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,560 Speaker 5: Like, don't talk about no house ahead. 756 00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:59,880 Speaker 1: So the girlfriend was like, I took a certain amount 757 00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:00,840 Speaker 1: of mon out the bank. I did. 758 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:04,560 Speaker 6: She was with me, She like, mind you the certain 759 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:07,080 Speaker 6: amount of money I had to call because I was 760 00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 6: gonna break it in half, give it to Jessica and 761 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:09,240 Speaker 6: I take the rest. 762 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,800 Speaker 4: And I was going, man ash man ask that's all 763 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:12,800 Speaker 4: I did, shot man ash. 764 00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:16,000 Speaker 6: So I was gonna give it that. But the girl like, 765 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 6: why are you giving it to Jessica. I'm like, cause 766 00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:20,360 Speaker 6: she needed. 767 00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:22,400 Speaker 5: And she like, I never said that here. 768 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 6: I never said the reason. I never said the reason. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 769 00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:28,320 Speaker 6: I never said the reason though. 770 00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:31,720 Speaker 5: She was like, what ex that to do? 771 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:32,080 Speaker 1: She needs? 772 00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:33,800 Speaker 6: Because I know you ain't giving her. No, she don't 773 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 6: need a bag or nothing like that. I'm like, no, 774 00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:36,480 Speaker 6: it's something else. 775 00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 4: She like, well, don't she got. 776 00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:43,280 Speaker 1: A nigga living with her? And mind you, I'm drinking 777 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 1: at the time. 778 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:45,000 Speaker 4: You're thinking the same thing. 779 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,960 Speaker 5: I'm like, you weren't even thinking that till she said it. 780 00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 1: I wasn't thinking that, but I'm drinking. 781 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 6: But when she say it, because I'm not, like I said, 782 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,960 Speaker 6: bro like wives and girlfriends I've seen. I've seen I've 783 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,320 Speaker 6: seen men crumble and go against a family. 784 00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,480 Speaker 4: Because of her wife or a girlfriend. 785 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,040 Speaker 1: I've seen it, and I'm like. 786 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:02,160 Speaker 4: Know what, You're right? 787 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:05,080 Speaker 1: Why you ain't a just though crazy people? 788 00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,960 Speaker 4: Sause I was a young emotional boy who had. 789 00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:11,880 Speaker 5: Just ran into a bunch of money and just came with. 790 00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 6: Thatches every my nigga, I'm hurt, hurt young man got 791 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:16,200 Speaker 6: a lot of money. 792 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:17,160 Speaker 4: Everybody and fucked me over. 793 00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,000 Speaker 1: Nigga, I got some money, I'm doing the fun. 794 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:21,480 Speaker 6: I wanted to make myself happy, and that's how my 795 00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:24,400 Speaker 6: nigga went broke. Like it was times when I'm not happy, 796 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,640 Speaker 6: but I go spend money just because I'm not like, 797 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:28,400 Speaker 6: oh the coaches came out like that. 798 00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:33,640 Speaker 5: Everybody except me, I. 799 00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:35,400 Speaker 1: Was like and granted. 800 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:39,440 Speaker 6: Right now on today, I'm gonna say I truly, sincerely 801 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:43,920 Speaker 6: apologized for not taking care of you the way I 802 00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 6: should have. And I'm gonna take my glasses because for 803 00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,720 Speaker 6: a long time, that ship hurt me. 804 00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:53,520 Speaker 1: And it's like. 805 00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:59,200 Speaker 6: I never ever ever, especially I never ever ever ever 806 00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,120 Speaker 6: meant to do that to you. And it's like, now 807 00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,760 Speaker 6: that's why I even I worked so hard today. 808 00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:06,920 Speaker 4: And just try to. 809 00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:13,279 Speaker 6: Even just give you something, but in due time that 810 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,120 Speaker 6: you're gonna come back. I ain't, you know, I hadne 811 00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:16,960 Speaker 6: made that shit back when broke again, made it back 812 00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:19,880 Speaker 6: broke again. But my biggest downfall of the comments denominated was 813 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,799 Speaker 6: alcohol and women. So that shit them two problems never 814 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:27,120 Speaker 6: allowed me to really reach my full potential. And even 815 00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:28,719 Speaker 6: when I seen a couple of years ago, you've seen 816 00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:31,880 Speaker 6: it twenty nineteen when I was single, when I went 817 00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 6: moved back by myself, I ran that motherfucker up. 818 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:35,960 Speaker 5: Flourish ran. 819 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,040 Speaker 6: That's one thing I know how that I'm running up, 820 00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 6: but women holding me back. Man, I'm sorry that I 821 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:44,719 Speaker 6: didn't do what I was supposed to do, and a 822 00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:46,319 Speaker 6: lot of motherfuckers said what I was in your job? 823 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:46,879 Speaker 4: That one you done. 824 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:48,920 Speaker 1: I felt that was my duty, but because I had 825 00:34:48,960 --> 00:34:50,399 Speaker 1: certain people in my in my. 826 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 6: Ear that I thought had their best interest in me, 827 00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:54,760 Speaker 6: but when the bag ran out, they left. 828 00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 4: I'm sorry. I'm not a sorry person. 829 00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:59,120 Speaker 1: I apologize. 830 00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:04,279 Speaker 5: I appreciate that, and but listen, I was not. I 831 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:07,319 Speaker 5: was talking to a nigga. He moved in months after. 832 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:09,040 Speaker 5: You think a nigga was gonna move into a dark house, 833 00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,160 Speaker 5: You can't you think I wanted to a niggas see, 834 00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:14,560 Speaker 5: I was living no. And when you said I asked you, like, yo, 835 00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,719 Speaker 5: can you just get my my lights on? I'll pay 836 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,319 Speaker 5: you back. That's when I was scamming and doing all 837 00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,560 Speaker 5: that shit. That shit got slow too, So I'm like, 838 00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:23,319 Speaker 5: all right, you was like, no, I take my son. 839 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:26,200 Speaker 5: Nobody taking my kid, not even as far Like as 840 00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,439 Speaker 5: long as ash was in stad of the dark, we 841 00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:30,120 Speaker 5: was good, you know what I'm saying. Like I still 842 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:32,480 Speaker 5: had candles, we was playing, We was doing all that. 843 00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:36,439 Speaker 5: We would stay outside until it went until it got dark, 844 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,640 Speaker 5: and then we would go in the house. And him 845 00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:40,680 Speaker 5: he ain't never asked me why the lights ain't coming on. 846 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:42,839 Speaker 5: It don't matter. So as long as he was good, 847 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 5: I was good. I just wanted to be able, you 848 00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:47,040 Speaker 5: know what I'm saying, and just be like, yo. 849 00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:50,960 Speaker 4: Get and you should have. Well guess what that made you? 850 00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:51,520 Speaker 1: A demon? 851 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,640 Speaker 6: And when I say deeming, I said, in the best way, 852 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:57,480 Speaker 6: that turnt you up. And I to teach my kids, 853 00:35:57,520 --> 00:35:59,400 Speaker 6: especially my oldest boy might love me, yo, bro, like 854 00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 6: I don't want you to go through something bad and 855 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,560 Speaker 6: learn a lesson. I don't think everybody should have to go 856 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:04,640 Speaker 6: through something bad and not a lesson. 857 00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:09,799 Speaker 4: But in your case, I feel like, yeah, I put 858 00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:10,919 Speaker 4: that battery in your back. 859 00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:14,440 Speaker 6: You know, when that battery came in your back, it 860 00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,120 Speaker 6: ain't treat me no way. It took still a minute 861 00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:20,320 Speaker 6: for us to create that bond. 862 00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:21,759 Speaker 1: But y'all have it now. And I think y'all bo 863 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,200 Speaker 1: should give each other some greades because. 864 00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:27,640 Speaker 6: Y'all and I always was a hurt young man, so right, 865 00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 6: but I love the story. 866 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:32,239 Speaker 2: It shows the foundation and how now and how you 867 00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:34,000 Speaker 2: treat each other now. You know, I don't know you, 868 00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,000 Speaker 2: but the way she talks about you on the radio, 869 00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,680 Speaker 2: and like you said, she is a mother, She protects you, 870 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:39,640 Speaker 2: she holds you down. 871 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:41,600 Speaker 4: I just love to see it. You know. 872 00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:43,839 Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll be telling us stop talking about room like that. 873 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 5: He always did, like why you be talking about But 874 00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:48,239 Speaker 5: I get it. 875 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,080 Speaker 1: She don't mean no harm. 876 00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:53,320 Speaker 6: But she don't, like I said, man like I wish 877 00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:55,799 Speaker 6: a lot of other people but. 878 00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:58,520 Speaker 1: Take from us. 879 00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:00,799 Speaker 4: And that's why this ship got to be on TV. 880 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:01,960 Speaker 1: That's why y'are writing a book. 881 00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:06,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, book coming, everything book coming, Yes, everything coming. 882 00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:08,920 Speaker 3: I think the most important thing because I want you 883 00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:10,319 Speaker 3: all to save a lot of this, but what's the 884 00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,359 Speaker 3: most important thing. It takes the cold parent if y'all 885 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,719 Speaker 3: you're just leaving on that because the national co parent 886 00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:16,319 Speaker 3: the day yo. 887 00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,880 Speaker 5: I think I started off communication like a lot of 888 00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:23,279 Speaker 5: people be scared to hurt each other feelings, and a 889 00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,719 Speaker 5: lot of people be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations, whether 890 00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:32,960 Speaker 5: it's about kids, unhashed differences whatever. Like one day me 891 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:35,200 Speaker 5: and Rome just literally met up and just we just 892 00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:38,040 Speaker 5: talked about everything that, you know, he felt like I 893 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,440 Speaker 5: did him wrong in certain situations, and then he felt 894 00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,000 Speaker 5: like like I will always try because he says, I'm 895 00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:45,800 Speaker 5: controlling a lot, and I do take that, you know 896 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:47,400 Speaker 5: what I'm saying, Yeah, I own that. 897 00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:47,640 Speaker 3: I do. 898 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,080 Speaker 5: Like I was trying to control how he parents sometimes, 899 00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,560 Speaker 5: like how how he would raise Ash and all of 900 00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:56,040 Speaker 5: that type of stuff. We just put everything on the 901 00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:58,680 Speaker 5: table and just just was like, all right, you're moving 902 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:02,840 Speaker 5: forward because it's really about Ash and that's really like 903 00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:05,920 Speaker 5: when we after that, it was like no looking. 904 00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:06,680 Speaker 4: Back, It's like all right, whatever. 905 00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:07,400 Speaker 3: Cool. 906 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:09,399 Speaker 5: It was just communication. 907 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:13,279 Speaker 6: But I think that it's a couple of things, man, communication, 908 00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,120 Speaker 6: feelings out of it, ego out of it, ego for sure, 909 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:22,319 Speaker 6: and just man, both parties, both parties got to be 910 00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:24,399 Speaker 6: in it. Door man like, I feel like you know now, 911 00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:26,960 Speaker 6: like even at my kids school and ship man like, dang, 912 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:27,640 Speaker 6: you should the man. 913 00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:30,239 Speaker 4: I think that's fucked up. 914 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,040 Speaker 1: Your kids school, my children, my own children. 915 00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:37,880 Speaker 4: I feel like, you know, the father is not a 916 00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:39,839 Speaker 4: norm so I always been. 917 00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:41,239 Speaker 1: I ain't. It's not I want. 918 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,160 Speaker 6: I ain't say I'm changing on, but I'm changing on, 919 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:46,920 Speaker 6: like it's me. You ain't got to call the mother, 920 00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:50,080 Speaker 6: you know I didn't Max, So call your father, Yeah 921 00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:50,560 Speaker 6: that's me. 922 00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:51,000 Speaker 1: Call me. 923 00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:53,719 Speaker 4: Don't call them others. I'm hands on. 924 00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:54,279 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be that. 925 00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:58,320 Speaker 6: And my oldest eleven man young. I just sat to school, 926 00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:01,439 Speaker 6: sat in the class for them the whole day. 927 00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,400 Speaker 5: They call you, but Ash called me on the side 928 00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:07,200 Speaker 5: my dad much. 929 00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:09,839 Speaker 1: But that was the thing too. 930 00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:12,279 Speaker 4: We had to she had to learn don't don't don't 931 00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,200 Speaker 4: try to take the father from the child. 932 00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:15,680 Speaker 1: Let me father him. 933 00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:18,400 Speaker 6: Because I refuse for my son to become a statistic 934 00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:21,000 Speaker 6: I refuse my son to become a young, hurt little boy. 935 00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:23,000 Speaker 6: I refuse from my son to grow up not knowing 936 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:23,760 Speaker 6: how to love a woman. 937 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:24,560 Speaker 4: I refuse my. 938 00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:26,480 Speaker 6: Son to be so many things that his father was, 939 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:29,840 Speaker 6: I'm still young, so I'm still you know, I told 940 00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,120 Speaker 6: I told now, you're early. I said, man, like you 941 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:33,640 Speaker 6: know one of my I'm gonna write my right. I'm 942 00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:35,280 Speaker 6: gonna write my rights to my boys. 943 00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:39,560 Speaker 1: Still learning unlearning right correct correct, unlearning to learn when 944 00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:41,319 Speaker 1: this co parents ain't easy man. 945 00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,479 Speaker 5: And I used to be. I used to be hold 946 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,160 Speaker 5: on him. How he was so hard on my son, 947 00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:49,480 Speaker 5: Like no, like you like as gotta want to talk 948 00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:51,279 Speaker 5: to you. You got to make him want to talk 949 00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:55,080 Speaker 5: to you, like he used to like come and talk 950 00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:56,680 Speaker 5: to me about things. He was scared to go to 951 00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,560 Speaker 5: his father about now because it was any abusive relationships anything. 952 00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:02,640 Speaker 5: It was just like I can't talk today. You know. 953 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,120 Speaker 4: It was my son problem. 954 00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:05,880 Speaker 1: And I like to say, I'm creating a young man man. 955 00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:12,759 Speaker 6: What some problem was? He don't like confrontation. Not confrontation, 956 00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,480 Speaker 6: but he don't like to confront a man. You When 957 00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:19,759 Speaker 6: I say that me his father, he don't like to 958 00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:21,479 Speaker 6: And I tell him, I said, Bro, you don't like something. 959 00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:24,319 Speaker 1: You tell me I'm not like my father. Shut the 960 00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:24,719 Speaker 1: fuck up. 961 00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:25,680 Speaker 4: Oh I'm your father. 962 00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:27,560 Speaker 1: Nah, No, ain't none of that. 963 00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:30,360 Speaker 6: Same brom We go to McDonald's and I'd be like, 964 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,279 Speaker 6: all right, do you, Oh dad, I don't want that. 965 00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,960 Speaker 6: What you want, it's the same concept. 966 00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:36,160 Speaker 1: I get his head done. 967 00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,080 Speaker 6: Now you want to hair? Oh dad, I don't like that. 968 00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:39,880 Speaker 6: Tell me, don't go back and tell your mother. That's 969 00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,360 Speaker 6: what I'm getting mad because he was just with me 970 00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:43,920 Speaker 6: and I just asked you. He ain't say nothing. 971 00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:44,920 Speaker 1: You want to communicate. 972 00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,120 Speaker 6: I want to communicate. When you communicate with me, you 973 00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:49,560 Speaker 6: look me in my eyes and tell me, Dad, I 974 00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:51,680 Speaker 6: don't want this. You ain't gotta be disrespectful when you 975 00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:54,040 Speaker 6: said I want to my baby getting better. 976 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:58,440 Speaker 1: But I'm here, so it's like, I don't know. 977 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:02,600 Speaker 4: Man, it's not hard, easiest fun. You have to make it, 978 00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:04,000 Speaker 4: make it a little bit. 979 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:05,839 Speaker 5: But it's like, I don't like to do that. 980 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:08,239 Speaker 6: It's just man like, I don't know. It's a mom 981 00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:10,640 Speaker 6: is different than when a dad raising. I'm doing everything 982 00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:12,880 Speaker 6: that I wanted. I wanted my father to come up 983 00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,640 Speaker 6: my squell, wanted my dad to talk to me. I 984 00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:16,920 Speaker 6: wanted my dad to ask me what I wanted. I 985 00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:17,719 Speaker 6: wanted my dad to. 986 00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:19,680 Speaker 4: Come to my basketball game, my baseball game. My dad 987 00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:23,040 Speaker 4: been a one baseball game out of four years. Two 988 00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:24,720 Speaker 4: basketball games out of four years. 989 00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:26,680 Speaker 1: You got to make sure you're raising your child out 990 00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:27,239 Speaker 1: of out of. 991 00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:30,040 Speaker 4: And I don't want to live and that's that I 992 00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:30,759 Speaker 4: was scared of my father. 993 00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,480 Speaker 1: My mouth I got picked up. 994 00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:34,759 Speaker 4: That's what I got busted, lept. 995 00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:36,200 Speaker 1: Multip All fathers raised this. 996 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:39,239 Speaker 3: Multip All fathers rais us how to figure They didn't 997 00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:40,960 Speaker 3: want us to end up going down the same path 998 00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:41,560 Speaker 3: they went down. 999 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:42,920 Speaker 1: So we got to figure out how to raise our 1000 00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:45,600 Speaker 1: kids out of love. But you know, if mom's moms 1001 00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:46,799 Speaker 1: get this, and I think I got that. 1002 00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:48,400 Speaker 6: And I told my dad a couple of weeks ago, bro, 1003 00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:50,520 Speaker 6: like you know, because he always come to me with my. 1004 00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:51,839 Speaker 4: Father my fu. I don't want to hear that ship. 1005 00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:53,400 Speaker 1: That's what I'm I'm a man now. 1006 00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:54,640 Speaker 4: Ain't gonna tell me how the fuck up. 1007 00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:55,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to hear that ship. 1008 00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:56,799 Speaker 4: Your father wasn't farther. 1009 00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:57,560 Speaker 1: He was a provider. 1010 00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:02,560 Speaker 4: I'm a nurturer. I'm my dad other nurture my baby. 1011 00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:06,040 Speaker 5: Even your response to your dad is angry because he. 1012 00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:09,320 Speaker 6: Always My response to my dad is what he's given 1013 00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:11,359 Speaker 6: to me. Now, Like I'm a man now. 1014 00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,719 Speaker 1: So it's like, bro, I don't have to take that ship. 1015 00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:14,600 Speaker 4: I leave. 1016 00:42:15,239 --> 00:42:18,280 Speaker 5: But he's trying to explain, try to explain. 1017 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:21,440 Speaker 4: He's still ain't figured it out. 1018 00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:23,360 Speaker 6: So it's like you in the room and this is 1019 00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:24,440 Speaker 6: meet and being in the room because you know, I 1020 00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:25,840 Speaker 6: don't call you about this type of stuff. 1021 00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:27,800 Speaker 1: But this is me being in the room. It ain't 1022 00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:28,480 Speaker 1: is he. 1023 00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:31,359 Speaker 4: It's a different story. 1024 00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:32,680 Speaker 1: Man, I got somebody if you talk to him. I 1025 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:33,240 Speaker 1: got a therapist. 1026 00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:34,200 Speaker 4: I got a good therapist. 1027 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:37,080 Speaker 1: I got a lot of them. No, no, no, I'm 1028 00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:37,680 Speaker 1: not saying it like that. 1029 00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,759 Speaker 3: I'm talking about a real professional and I got a 1030 00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:40,480 Speaker 3: real Yes. 1031 00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,440 Speaker 5: Don't want to require what you want. 1032 00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:46,160 Speaker 1: I think I got somebody in mind for I want 1033 00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:47,799 Speaker 1: a woman. You want a woman? I got you. 1034 00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,040 Speaker 4: I don't like man, I got you. 1035 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I got you. You know exactly what you talk to. 1036 00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:55,520 Speaker 4: That's cool, man. I'm always open to it. 1037 00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:55,799 Speaker 1: Man. 1038 00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,319 Speaker 4: But you know other than that, like you gotta want 1039 00:42:57,360 --> 00:43:01,200 Speaker 4: to for yourself and do you you I've been there, man, Okay, 1040 00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:02,279 Speaker 4: cut back. 1041 00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:04,000 Speaker 6: You know, my biggest thing was just cutting back on 1042 00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:08,960 Speaker 6: the alcohol. Like now, I do it for recreation. Thank 1043 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:15,280 Speaker 6: you for this is drink coffee, shot, drink coffee. 1044 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,080 Speaker 3: This is a great conversation I'm sure it's a discussion 1045 00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,120 Speaker 3: that will continue on not even just the monkst you know, 1046 00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:23,080 Speaker 3: just in Rome, but this is amongst anybody out there, 1047 00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:25,160 Speaker 3: you know, dealing with co parents issue. But I think Rome, 1048 00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:27,280 Speaker 3: you know, Rome is talking to a lot of different 1049 00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,200 Speaker 3: issues that a lot of us men go through, you know. 1050 00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:29,520 Speaker 1: What I mean. 1051 00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:32,960 Speaker 3: So I'm happy that you was vulnerable this morning, That's right, 1052 00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:35,359 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. And their book is coming 1053 00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:39,400 Speaker 3: soon be a black privilege polish simon the shoes, all right, 1054 00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:40,080 Speaker 3: well it's wrong. 1055 00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:41,720 Speaker 4: Yes, it's the breakfast Club. 1056 00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:44,760 Speaker 5: In the morning, wake that ans up in the morning. 1057 00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:45,920 Speaker 1: The breakfast Club