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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocatesla dot com. Abby is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for our first date follow up and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a dude named Mark. So in a few

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Speaker 1: minutes we're gonna call him and see if he'll tell

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Speaker 1: us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Abby, how long has the vinces you heard

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Speaker 1: from Mark?

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Speaker 2: It's then about a week?

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Speaker 3: About a week? Okay?

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Speaker 4: Have you tried to reach out to him multiple times?

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Speaker 5: I did a few times, but you know, I if

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Speaker 5: someone doesn't respond, like continuing to message.

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Speaker 2: Them, does it normally?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I did, like one and then I did one more, and.

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Speaker 4: Then I saw, well, let's hear about your date and

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Speaker 4: how you met him and see if we can't figure

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Speaker 4: out why he's ghosting you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we met.

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Speaker 5: We actually got sat up through Mark's co worker and

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Speaker 5: I have Mark's coworker's wife yoga class I attend that

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Speaker 5: cost So me and Serena, which is mark coworker's wife,

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Speaker 5: we grabbed coffee and it was kind of like Serena

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Speaker 5: recruited me to go out on a date with Mark,

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Speaker 5: but she and.

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Speaker 2: Her husband Josh are always on.

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Speaker 5: The hunt for a wife for Mark, and Serena thought

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Speaker 5: I would be perfect. So Mark and I met up

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Speaker 5: at a si restaurant that has amazing tropical.

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Speaker 2: Drinks and we shared food and chatted about our favorite thing.

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Speaker 5: And we had so much in common and tonight was

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Speaker 5: so good. We ended up going back to mark house

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Speaker 5: for like a little nightcap a sip.

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Speaker 4: We're like, a, wow, what is that? I was looking

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Speaker 4: for a nicer way to say it came out with sounds. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'm really sorry.

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Speaker 3: Is it just a drink or or.

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Speaker 6: Both?

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Speaker 5: Okay? I mean yeah, I was super like attracted to him,

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Speaker 5: and like I could tell that there were like instance

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Speaker 5: sparks between.

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Speaker 2: Both of us, and it was just like.

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Speaker 5: Easy and effortless. So yeah, we ended up hooking up.

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Speaker 5: And then afterwards Mark kept talking about his job and

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Speaker 5: how close he was to a promotion, but I was

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Speaker 5: kind of bored by it, so I pretended obviously.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm thinking like maybe he knew I was pretending.

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Speaker 5: Talking about No, I mean, he he did like mention

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Speaker 5: that I breathed. I breathed like differently when I'm in

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Speaker 5: like different sleeping phases. So I feel like snaby a

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Speaker 5: little bus and I mean, I'm really excited and I

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Speaker 5: want to support like his promotion journey and all of that,

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Speaker 5: But the time was just like wanting to enjoy my

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Speaker 5: posts playtime piece. And that was the nicest way to

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Speaker 5: get him to shut up by pretending I was asleep.

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Speaker 4: So what do you want to say to him?

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Speaker 5: Well, I want to explain myself and that like it

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Speaker 5: might have seemed rude, but that wasn't like I had

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Speaker 5: good intentions.

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Speaker 2: It's like it wasn't my it wasn't my plans.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 1: out for you. Then we'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 1: and then call him and see if it's us why

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Speaker 1: he's ghosting you, and see if you still want another

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Speaker 1: date after we find out the reason.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, sounds good.

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Speaker 1: Plus I'll come back and get your first day follow

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Speaker 1: up next. In the middle of your first day follow

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Speaker 1: up and if you're just joining us, Abby is on

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Speaker 1: the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Mark,

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Speaker 1: and it might be because she was bored by him.

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Speaker 1: We're about to call and see if you'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, Abby wanted you refresh everybody's

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Speaker 1: memory on your situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: We were set up by Mark coworkers, and we went

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Speaker 5: out to dinner and had drinks and had like a

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Speaker 5: great night. We went back to mark place for a

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Speaker 5: nightcab and we ended up cooking up and after that

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Speaker 5: I wanted to go to sleep, but Mark kept talking

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Speaker 5: about his job and his promotion he might be getting.

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Speaker 2: So I just pretended to be asleep.

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Speaker 5: And I think he might have noticed, and that's why

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Speaker 5: he's not talking to me.

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Speaker 3: All right, well, man, let's seef. We can figure it out.

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Speaker 3: All right, you're ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to

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Speaker 3: Mark please.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Mark.

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Speaker 3: Hey Mark, what's up?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jeubel and I host a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Mark, the show's here. My name is Nina, Hi,

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Speaker 4: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 6: Are calling me because you're cool?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Did you ever listen to the show at all?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 7: Wow?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Sometimes?

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Speaker 3: Okay cool?

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Speaker 7: Wait a minute, I think I know where you're going.

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Speaker 7: What is this where you guys like call someone after

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Speaker 7: they went they met someone.

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Speaker 1: Yes it is. It's called the first day follow up,

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Speaker 1: where you go out on a date with somebody and

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Speaker 1: you ghost them. They can ask us to get you

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Speaker 1: on the phone and find out what happened. So we

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Speaker 1: got an email about you, Mark.

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Speaker 4: Oh boy, all right.

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Speaker 3: It's from Abby.

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Speaker 1: Do you mind telling us about your day with Abby

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Speaker 1: and why you're not why you're ghosting?

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'm sure she told you by the day, right,

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Speaker 7: it was pretty fun, But I guess I'll just say that, yes,

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Speaker 7: I'm ghosting her for the reason is because she used

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Speaker 7: my razor.

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Speaker 6: Like did she tell you we went back to my

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Speaker 6: place after a date?

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Speaker 7: All right?

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Speaker 6: She says she wanted to go like freshen up. But

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Speaker 6: I never crossed my mind that she would use my razor.

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Speaker 7: And I don't like sharing any personal items, Like I

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Speaker 7: don't share my razors, not even my tooth brush, like

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Speaker 7: not even with like the level of my life. I

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Speaker 7: feel it's so gross And I thought it was so

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Speaker 7: entitled of her just march into my bathroom and just

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Speaker 7: use my razor.

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Speaker 6: And I know she.

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Speaker 7: Used it because there's light, little brown hair. This is

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Speaker 7: so gross to me, So yeah, I ghosted her. That's

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Speaker 3: When when was this that she used your razor?

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Speaker 7: I'd say, like, I guess she used it before we

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Speaker 7: I don't know what she told.

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Speaker 3: You, but she said, you guys had fun at your place.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, we got like cozy with each other. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: she must have used it before that, because then I

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Speaker 7: didn't notice it till I use the restroom in the

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Speaker 7: middle of the night and I noticed it.

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Speaker 6: And also it wasn't like she put it back where

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Speaker 7: It was like fully out, like I don't even leave

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Speaker 7: my razor out, it's like in a drawer, and like

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Speaker 7: she had it out on the stank to sit their

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Speaker 7: hairs with. It was gross, and she was just making

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Speaker 7: herself at home. Like both of those were just to

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Speaker 7: turn off to me.

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Speaker 1: Well, thanks for telling us. I mean, yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I probably wouldn't care if somebody use my razor.

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Speaker 4: But also I mean I probably think it was funny,

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Speaker 4: but it might be a little bit interesting.

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Speaker 1: Mark Abby is on the phone and has been listening

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Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 6: I forgot I love this part.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I mean, I'm sorry. I had no idea

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Speaker 5: about like the razor. I didn't think it was updake

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Speaker 5: of a deal, and I just like I wanted to say, like,

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, I pretended to like be asleep.

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Speaker 2: I kind of thought that's why you were not talking

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Speaker 2: to me.

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Speaker 6: You were pretending to be asleep.

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Speaker 5: What it just well, what like afterwards when you were

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Speaker 5: talking about your promotion and stuff, I was.

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Speaker 2: Just kind of zoning out like I normally do after

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Speaker 2: right after that time, and I just wow, wow, And I.

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Speaker 5: Thought maybe you knew that I did that and that's

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Speaker 5: why you were mad at me.

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Speaker 2: But like, I'm really.

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Speaker 5: Sorry, I need anyways, And.

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Speaker 7: No, I actually thought I put you to sleep, and

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Speaker 7: I was actually like proud of that.

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Speaker 5: No, I mean you did it was amazing and you

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Speaker 5: did a very good job.

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Speaker 2: So I have no complaints.

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Speaker 5: And I didn't think like the razor would be that

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Speaker 5: big of a deal because you know, I was doing

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Speaker 5: it for you. I was trying to, you know, look

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Speaker 5: as fast as I could. I wasn't trying to just

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Speaker 5: use your razor for no reason.

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Speaker 6: Well that's not the only thing you did for me.

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Speaker 8: We're saying the radio, Well, Mark, would you like another

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Speaker 8: date with Abby?

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Speaker 1: Will pay for it? I mean, can you get past

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Speaker 1: the razor using I mean she was thinking.

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Speaker 6: About you, and I'll buy a razor of that oh

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Speaker 6: by it? Yes, yes, I would yes, wow.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean i'd love to. And I can promise

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Speaker 5: you this time like I won't. I won't use a razor.

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Speaker 5: I will stay far away from it.

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Speaker 6: I'll get you a new one. I mean you don't

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Speaker 6: need him now the well hair.

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Speaker 3: Does grow back.

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Speaker 6: Well, what are we having this date? How far in

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Speaker 6: the future we have his date?

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Speaker 2: Well, I'll shave before the date. Okay, all right. Jule's

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Speaker 2: First Date follow up