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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Pop your paper,

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Speaker 1: Pop your paper, buckle up, and hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject.

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Speaker 1: I love my man, but I'm cool with his ex

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Speaker 1: wife too. Dear Stephen Shirley, I feel like I already

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Speaker 1: know my answer, but I want your advice anyway. My

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Speaker 1: partner and I have been dating for seven years, yes seven.

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Speaker 1: We are both divorced and have adult children. He is

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Speaker 1: sixty three and I am forty nine. His ex wife

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Speaker 1: and I have become good friends, and she has told

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Speaker 1: me that he is a good man, but a terrible husband.

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Speaker 1: We live in a big, beautiful home, but it's in

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Speaker 1: front of others, but behind closed doors he's a different man.

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Speaker 1: His ex wife cheated on him because he was gone

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Speaker 1: tells me about him, and he can't stand that we're close.

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Speaker 1: I have continued to try to work it out with him,

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Speaker 1: and we are finally talking about marriage. There are only

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Speaker 1: He says I have misplaced loyalty. Then there is the

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Speaker 1: issue of him being a Trump supporter, and he has

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Speaker 1: contributed to his campaign several times. Our finances are separate,

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Speaker 1: so I'm not concerned with what he does with his money.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know how he can support the current president.

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Speaker 1: I will be fifty soon, and I want to be

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Speaker 1: sure I am not wasting time with this guy. I

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Speaker 1: We have great sex and he is a great father

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Speaker 1: to his children. Is that enough to stick it out

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Speaker 1: another seven years to make this relationship work? Okay? This

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Speaker 1: letter is about a whole lot of stuff. I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's a lot dating for seven years, friends with his

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Speaker 1: ex wife, who says he's a good man, terrible husband,

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Speaker 1: Trump supporter, All those things you know stick out to

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Speaker 1: me in the letter. But like I said, it's a

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Speaker 1: she does know a lot, but she did her dirt too,

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Speaker 1: so and you really trust her? Is she trying to

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Speaker 1: you guys to be friends. I'm sure about that because

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Speaker 1: of what she could still reveal to you about him.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, and do you love this guy?

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Speaker 1: Do you love him? Never want to hear you mention that.

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Speaker 1: I don't really hear that in the letter you say

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Speaker 1: he's a Trump supporter. That bothers you. You know, behind

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Speaker 1: and you want to know if this is enough? Well?

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Speaker 1: Is it? Is it? To you? Just these two things?

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Speaker 1: I don't really see the redeeming qualities in here, and

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Speaker 1: can't stand at y'all close. Yeah, because she's telling everything

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Speaker 1: it's his past. Yeah, all right, hang on, Steve, Part two,

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Speaker 1: of Stee's response coming up at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour. Today's subjects of the Strawberry letter I love

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Speaker 1: morning show. All right, Steve, come on, Let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters. Subject I love my man, but I'm cool

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Speaker 1: with his ex wife too, which is none but trouble.

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Speaker 1: He sixes you forty nine. You're both to bor. You

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Speaker 1: got beautiful kids, adult kids, Mr ex. His ex wife

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Speaker 1: that he's bought. He treats you like a queen in

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Speaker 1: His ex wife cheated on him because he was gone

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Speaker 1: all the time working as a fireman. He told you

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Speaker 1: get the big ass house? Did see? Now that's a

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Speaker 1: work to get a big, beautiful home, all right, and

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Speaker 1: you believe everything the ex wife tell you. I'm curious

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Speaker 1: I have continued to try to work it out with him,

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Speaker 1: The only thing you keep doing is going on what

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Speaker 1: this woman had told you that he's a good man

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Speaker 1: you're trying to work it out, So me and Shirley

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Speaker 1: can't get your advice on that. He calls his ex

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Speaker 1: try to defend it. He says you have misplaced loyalties.

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Speaker 1: Well you do, you do? That's a true statement. Now.

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Speaker 1: The last thing he's being that you have in trouble

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Speaker 1: to get off this as well, this whole thing, just

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Speaker 1: beautiful house. You living, I got all that, but his ass.

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Speaker 1: It's giving money to the Trump campaign right there. I'm

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Speaker 1: Our finances are separate, so I'm not concerned with what

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Speaker 1: to this right here? What is it, Steve Teller? I

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Speaker 1: start as friends? We do well, y'all, friends, y'all love

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Speaker 1: see what you want with him, especially the Trump supposed

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Speaker 1: the mass I got back to you. I'm back. I'm

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Speaker 1: a woman told me I have something to share with you.

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Speaker 1: I'm a Trump supporter. How do you digest that? I'm

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Speaker 1: Harvey FM, on Instagram and Facebook. And coming up in

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Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour, he's back Junior with

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Speaker 1: his birthday poem right after this. Yeah, don't get off.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to the Dame Harday Morning Show.