1 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:18,119 Speaker 1: Poppy Friday, everybody, good morning, Good morning. I thought that 2 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: you might be sleeping, are recording because I'm gonna tell 3 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:26,560 Speaker 1: on you to the listeners yesterday you did. 4 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 2: I gave Kelly a scary yesterday. She literally made everyone. 5 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 2: She put out an APB on my ass. 6 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: I thought you were dead, and I was like, this 7 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,440 Speaker 1: is such a fucking bomber for my year. 8 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 2: You're just like, this is definitely Chip's year of Nope. 9 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, He's like, no about that was the way I 10 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: said no to everything. Actually, basically what happened is Chip 11 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: took a pill because you were having a pain, and 12 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 1: the pill, the pill made you fall asleep four. 13 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: Hours yesterday too. Like it was funny too, because I 14 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 2: feel like I looked back at like the time stams 15 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 2: of stuff. The last like text I sent was at 16 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 2: like eleven thirty eight, and then you emailed me. 17 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 3: Like eleven fifty and you were out. 18 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:13,679 Speaker 2: I was out. 19 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 1: But also do you know that I knew that that 20 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:18,919 Speaker 1: was your last email because I had you traced. Basically, 21 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: I know everything we had. 22 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,399 Speaker 2: I woke up to all these texts like you alive, bro. 23 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: No. I literally had everyone in Chip's office searching for 24 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: him because he's also been traveling. That was the thing 25 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 1: that really through me. I hadn't talked to you since 26 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: you got back to town, right, So I was like, 27 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: what if he didn't get back to town. 28 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 2: What if he was abducted in Mexico. Yeah, like it 29 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 2: would be more likely that I said fuck it and 30 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 2: stayed because I've been thinking since I got back, I 31 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 2: might just retire in Cancun. It's a pretty easy flight 32 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 2: back to you of the US. It's cheap, it's lovely, 33 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 2: it is. 34 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: Good, the weather's nice, the beaches are beautiful. 35 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 2: Heaven. If you have not gone to Cancun, put it 36 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 2: on your list. I know. It's like I wrote it 37 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 2: off forever because it sounded like you get a spring break, 38 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 2: you know, but it is. It's just lovely. And I 39 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 2: love Tuloom too, but Tulum is super sleepy. So if 40 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 2: you're gonna go there, you gotta just. 41 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 1: Like I see, I love Saloom, but that's yeah. 42 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 2: You got to go there for the reset and the 43 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 2: leg of it. Yeah, being good food, but the beaches 44 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 2: are better in Cancun. 45 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair. 46 00:02:24,800 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 2: The beaches are prettier. So if you really want that, 47 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:30,079 Speaker 2: like crystal blue water, I think that the government probably 48 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 2: brought in a bunch of white sand because it's very 49 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 2: conveniently right there on the hotel zone. But maybe they 50 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 2: built it there because the sand was white. 51 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 1: But get this little conspiracy theorist in here. I know, Well, anyway, 52 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: he's not dead, thank you, I'm not dead. 53 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:43,399 Speaker 2: I'm here. 54 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 1: It literally said to our friend Mary, if I go, 55 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:47,519 Speaker 1: I was about to leave to go to your house 56 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,280 Speaker 1: because I was looking for you for four hours with nothing. 57 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:52,920 Speaker 1: No one had seen you, but we had heard that 58 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,920 Speaker 1: you would eat sit your last email on record at 59 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: eleven thirty eight, and I was like, well, should I 60 00:02:57,440 --> 00:02:59,800 Speaker 1: go over there? Like I don't know, what if you 61 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: had a heart attack or something. And I mean we 62 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: had just talked about Ozimbic and I was like, what 63 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: if this is like a side effect of you know, 64 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: I was like all over the place with it. So 65 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 1: I'm about to drive over and he calls me. Literally, 66 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: I was like going to find my keys and at 67 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 1: that point, and you were like, I couldn't believe. 68 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 2: How late it was in the day either. It's weird though, 69 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 2: because you know, if you travel for work, it's particularly 70 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 2: for the kind of work that I do. It's not 71 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 2: like I'm sitting in meetings all day, Like it kind 72 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 2: of feels a little bit like vacation, especially when you're 73 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 2: in a place like Cancun, so you forget what day 74 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 2: it is. 75 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I held that problem since coming back from the holidays. 76 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think that's probably magnifying it too, 77 00:03:41,960 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 2: because I did not know what day it was during 78 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 2: the holidays. So you come home, you're tired. I had 79 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 2: some pain. I took a pain pill and it knocked 80 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 2: me out. But you also like have no concept to 81 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 2: what day it was, Like, it felt like a Sunday. 82 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: Yesterday, right, even though plus like it's. 83 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 2: Still pretty slow. I didn't have I didn't have a 84 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 2: ton of work like coming in that morning, so that 85 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 2: also like amplified it and made it feel like a Sunday. 86 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: So we were like opposites because I'm like, I'm leaving 87 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 1: town tomorrow, so I was like opposite, I'm getting everything done. 88 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 1: I'm trying to get all my work finished and packed 89 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 1: down to the minute with my skill chips stay. 90 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 2: And I'm gonna have to stay first. 91 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: I was literally like, oh my god, this is going 92 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: to ruin my trip. I'm gonna be scarred for life. 93 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:26,839 Speaker 1: This year has gone to shit. It's already been a 94 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 1: hard or weird January. This would really be the icing 95 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: on the cake. I said to our friend Mary, like, 96 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 1: if I go to Chip's house and find him dead, 97 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:36,839 Speaker 1: I'm definitely retiring for twenty twenty five. Like that is 98 00:04:36,839 --> 00:04:39,840 Speaker 1: going to be the end of my year. In January, 99 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 1: the podcasts canceled, I mean everything. It would just be 100 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:45,920 Speaker 1: like nobody would hear from me. I just would be like, 101 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:48,720 Speaker 1: you know what, I'm just gonna go live in my 102 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:53,719 Speaker 1: little house by myself and can't be outside of. 103 00:04:53,680 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 2: The ship's house. Yeah, no one needs to know he's gone. 104 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: It's start anyway. On Wednesday of this week, I talked 105 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: to Carolyn Sharp. She wrote this book called Fire It Up, 106 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: which is all about I was telling you Chip, it's 107 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:14,120 Speaker 1: all about reviving stale relationships. Like how often are you 108 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: hearing people in our age group bitch about where they 109 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: are in their relationship? Because I hear about it. 110 00:05:20,640 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 3: A lot, a lot. Yeah, I think. 111 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 1: It's really common because people get married young or did 112 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,320 Speaker 1: get married young, and then you get to this point 113 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: where it's like you've been together for a while. How 114 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: do you keep the passion alive? How do you take 115 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 1: it deeper? 116 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 3: Even? 117 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: How do you get past the things that annoy you 118 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:40,159 Speaker 1: about your partner once you live together like jigs up, 119 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:43,120 Speaker 1: you know, like you see everything with another person. 120 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 2: Right. Also at our age, you know, because I can 121 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:49,359 Speaker 2: really only speak to that experience. You know, life isn't 122 00:05:49,360 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 2: as exciting. The honeymoon phase is even different at our age, 123 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 2: especially if you're in like a newer relationship, Like you're 124 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 2: not like going out to bars and getting hammer till 125 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 2: two am and coming home and having like super drunk sex. 126 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 2: Like that's just not the life that you live in, right, So, 127 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 2: I feel like the stale stuff comes a lot sooner 128 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 2: or is just inherently built in because life is more 129 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:13,479 Speaker 2: stale at this age. 130 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: We have more responsibilities. Yeah, we're tired. Yeah. I saw a. 131 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 2: Meme yesterday that says old age is one day you 132 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 2: get really tired, and then you're tired for the rest 133 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,600 Speaker 2: of your tired So true. 134 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:30,720 Speaker 1: Yeah that's pretty funny. 135 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 136 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: Well, so anyway, you and I were discussing, like how 137 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:36,280 Speaker 1: do we do a spin of a stale relationship. I'm 138 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: not in a steale relationship at this point. My boyfriend 139 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 1: and I have been together about a year and a half. 140 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:44,159 Speaker 1: You are dating, You're out, I'm dating, and so we 141 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 1: don't really have that to speak to at the moment. 142 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: I have been in that situation. 143 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 2: I've got plenty of syry too. 144 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. So we were like, Okay, let's talk about the 145 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: funny stuff that's come up for us. We have a 146 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: little game we're going to play too for you guys 147 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: at the end of this. But I want to know 148 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 1: when you first thought of this topic of like maybe 149 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:06,920 Speaker 1: annoying habits, even I think that's a good one. Did 150 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: anything pop into your brain that you do that you've 151 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 1: had to go, Okay, well, I'm the annoying one here. 152 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 2: I mean, I'd love to say that I'm perfect in 153 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 2: a relationship because that's what I want to it. Yeah, 154 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 2: but I know that that's not the case. Sure, And obviously, 155 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 2: from the observer standpoint, I don't look at myself as 156 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 2: much as I probably should when it comes to the 157 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 2: relationship because I'm paying attention to what's annoying me, something 158 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 2: annoying that I do. I am definitely guilty of thinking 159 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 2: that what I want to do is more fun and 160 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 2: more important than what the other person wants to do, 161 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 2: and it's like not even a conscious thing, you know, 162 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 2: so because I recognize that I often don't say what 163 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 2: I want to do, and then I get annoyed about 164 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,400 Speaker 2: the boring shit that they want to do, if that 165 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 2: makes sense. 166 00:07:56,920 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 1: So you're in a full circle with yourself. 167 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 2: It sounds like, bit yeah, because and I think that's 168 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 2: me being a people pleaser, because I'm like, I'm happy 169 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 2: to plan shit, but I don't want to feel like 170 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 2: I have to be the one that has to plan everything. 171 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 2: I want someone to show up and have some input too, 172 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 2: But then when they have input, I'm like, oh god, 173 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:18,679 Speaker 2: it's so fucking boring. 174 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:21,120 Speaker 1: Well, I also wonder if that's like because your partners 175 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: haven't been a good match for. 176 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 3: You though, possibly because it's like. 177 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: When you are dating someone who you're aligned with, not 178 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 1: that you're gonna want to do all the same things 179 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: or like the same things, like obviously that's not the case, 180 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: but you might enjoy the things they bring to the 181 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:41,679 Speaker 1: table more or like you do have a pretty exciting life, 182 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 1: that's true, but maybe dating someone who also does, do 183 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:47,360 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. 184 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:49,560 Speaker 2: But then it's like I get in my head about it, 185 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 2: like do they like me for me? Or do they 186 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 2: like me for like the life that I bring to 187 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 2: the table, So that messes with my head. I will say. 188 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 2: In my last relationship, in the beginning, it was like 189 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 2: we were kind of on the same page about like 190 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 2: liking a lot of the same stuff, so it was 191 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 2: really exciting. But then when it came to like some 192 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 2: vacation choices, I was like, there's some red floods, you know. 193 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 2: But I was also I was so into him that 194 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 2: I was willing to try things like all inclusive resorts. 195 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: Like sure, yeah, I think I'll do that. 196 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 2: I wouldn't have ever done before. And you know, I 197 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 2: saw that there were some pluses to it, but it 198 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 2: was I also learned that it definitely wasn't my bag, 199 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 2: So how about yourself? 200 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:35,319 Speaker 1: I was thinking more like small weird things on the 201 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 1: daily the current battle my boyfriend and I have been. 202 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: We just laugh about it actually, and I mentioned it 203 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: on the Wednesday podcast too. But so you know, I 204 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: sit down to pee, which I found out a lot 205 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:50,080 Speaker 1: of boys do too, which is really bizarre to me, 206 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: but Brian does. Yeah, a lot of our friends do. 207 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 1: My boyfriend talks about it too. Is like in the 208 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: morning I do all the time. And or the middle 209 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 1: of the night. 210 00:09:57,000 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 2: For sure, the middle of the night, definitely. 211 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well so anyway, but I always sit down 212 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: to pee. That's the only way I can pee. And 213 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 1: so whenever you're a girl in a toilet paper, like 214 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:10,800 Speaker 1: if you use the last little bit of it, it's 215 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:13,199 Speaker 1: when you get up that you're going to go get 216 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: a new roll, you know. And like the way that 217 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: my brain works is I have to do it then 218 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: or I'll forget, and then the next time I go 219 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 1: to pee, I sit down and there's no toilet paper 220 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: on the roll. So I don't want that to happen 221 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 1: because I don't want to have to drip dry. So 222 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 1: like I go grab it. It's in the closet, like 223 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 1: in the room across the hall from my bathroom, and 224 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:35,679 Speaker 1: I go grab the toilet paper and I just like 225 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: stick it on top of the toilet paper roll, thinking, Okay, 226 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: next time I'm sitting down to pee, I'll put it on. 227 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, you'll put that effort in. Yeah. 228 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 1: Sometimes I forget though, or like it sits there for 229 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: a second. And so my boyfriend little last time he 230 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: was here, says to me, He's like, what do you 231 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: think about this? Standoff we've been in and I was like, 232 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:54,760 Speaker 1: what stand off? Like I don't even know, and he's like, 233 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: are you kidding me? And I'm like what. And he's 234 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: been taking the toilet paper roll and putting it on, 235 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:05,040 Speaker 1: but he thinks that I'm leaving it up there as. 236 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 2: Like a stake so that someone else will do the job. 237 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 1: Well, it just sort of like a this is how 238 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:13,720 Speaker 1: I'm doing it. I'm just gonna leave it here. And 239 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 1: then he puts it on and thinks that I notice 240 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:17,760 Speaker 1: he puts it on, and then do it the other way. 241 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 1: I don't. 242 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 2: I it's my house, well. 243 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 1: And I just but I just don't. I don't notice. 244 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: I actually think if I was at his house, I 245 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: probably would take the time and put it on, which 246 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: is like the funny piece of it. But anyway, so 247 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: that's been our current one that I can just see 248 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 1: over time, those little things, if we didn't talk about 249 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: it and make a joke about it, becoming the thing 250 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 1: where you're like, why the fuck doesn't she just put 251 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: it on the role? You know what I mean? Though, 252 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: that's the thing that like you get mad about the 253 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 1: other real thing and then you're like exploding about this. 254 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:55,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, because he thinks it's so much deeper 255 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 2: than it is. Well, you know what I mean, Like 256 00:11:57,480 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 2: he thinks it's a choice, right, I mean, you're just. 257 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: Like not noticing. 258 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 2: It's funny because that brings up a memory of mine. 259 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 2: Are you a toilet paper When you put toilet paper 260 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 2: on the roll, does it do you pull it from 261 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 2: the top over or do you have it hang down? 262 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 2: When you put toilet paper on the roll, does it 263 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:26,600 Speaker 2: do you pull it from the top over or do 264 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:28,559 Speaker 2: you have it hang down the back? 265 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 1: I think mine goes top over. 266 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 2: That's what mine does too, and my ex didn't. And 267 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 2: I would rather than have the conversation because I think 268 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 2: the top over you don't like accidentally pull. 269 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:42,679 Speaker 1: As more like there's a vent that blows air out 270 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 1: on mine. And so when I would if I do 271 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:46,920 Speaker 1: it the other way, sometimes I'll come in the bathroom 272 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: all the toilet papers on the floor because it's like. 273 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 2: And I would get so annoyed because I would change it, 274 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 2: and he would shake. 275 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: You wouldn't say anything anything. 276 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 2: It's that's like a little thing. 277 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:04,319 Speaker 1: But that's what my boyfriend is saying. He's thinking we're 278 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 1: in this passive aggressive standof and I was like, what 279 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:08,199 Speaker 1: are you talking about? 280 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 2: So good? 281 00:13:09,520 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: So, I mean, I'm so glad he said something in 282 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 1: a joke because we were he was totally laughing about 283 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: it at this point. But had we not addressed this 284 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: And this is one of those things where it's like 285 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,439 Speaker 1: if we move in together eventually or something like five 286 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: years down the front line, one hundred percent comes up 287 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: in fighting, yes, And it's just like he's yelling at 288 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: me about it, and he's like feeling and he's feeling 289 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: like I'm doing it. Like what Carolyn taught me was 290 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:38,320 Speaker 1: we always have this underlying motivation happening or this narrative 291 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 1: that we're attaching to the annoying behavior. Right Like he's 292 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:45,240 Speaker 1: thinking I'm disregarding him, I'm not valuing the house, or 293 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like he can make up 294 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 1: all these narratives about what my action is communicating, and 295 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:53,560 Speaker 1: in reality it's just I don't know if you call 296 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:56,800 Speaker 1: that laziness or like flightiness or whatever. It's just like 297 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 1: I'm on the go, come off to the next thing. 298 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 2: It's just not important to you because it's really not 299 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 2: hurting anybody. 300 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: So I know eventually I'm putting it on you. Know 301 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 1: what I mean, Like, it's just like I'll do it eventually, 302 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 1: and I just I don't know. I just the socian 303 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:14,319 Speaker 1: hadn't been a huge priority. But anyway, it was really 304 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: interesting to talk to her about stuff like that because 305 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:19,360 Speaker 1: those do end up becoming the things that you have 306 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: massive resentments about. Later. You get in these fights that 307 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 1: are really about feeling undervalued or whatever else you might 308 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:30,680 Speaker 1: attach to it, but you're fighting about a toilet paper roll, 309 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 1: and it's like that's where relationships can go wrong. I 310 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: was telling you before the podcast. I follow this this 311 00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: account where the woman I think is the relationship coach, 312 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 1: but she and her husband post like funny videos a lot, 313 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 1: and they do this thing where whenever they get annoyed 314 00:14:45,520 --> 00:14:48,200 Speaker 1: with each other with like a behavior like that, they 315 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 1: make themselves make a video saying the annoyance, with their 316 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 1: noses touching. So they come together, like they put their 317 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 1: faces together and they're like, you didn't put the toilet 318 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: paper roll, you know, like, and the second they start 319 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 1: yelling at each other about it with their faces that closed, 320 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 1: they start laughing. And I always think it's so brilliant 321 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 1: because now even when they're walking towards each other to 322 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: put their noses together, they'll start laughing, and so it 323 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: kind of just like takes the edge off of arguments. 324 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:20,120 Speaker 1: And also I think makes you realize what you're saying 325 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 1: out loud is you're annoyance, right, And it also. 326 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:26,200 Speaker 2: I mean in a physical sense, it brings they do 327 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 2: have to get closer in order to address it. 328 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: You know, you have to feel each other's energies, because 329 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 1: you're not just like walking away from the other person 330 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 1: going in the other room. 331 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 2: Right stealing. Yeah, you're Yeah. I think when you do 332 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 2: that energy exchange, it's like you realize if you're the 333 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 2: one that's complaining, you realize how insignificant it is, you know, or. 334 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 1: What it really is about, right, right, Because you said 335 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:52,600 Speaker 1: you often don't bring up the things, do you find 336 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: that they come out later? 337 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah. I had an issue once where I was 338 00:15:58,600 --> 00:16:01,160 Speaker 2: living with a guy and he would do laundry and 339 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:05,360 Speaker 2: only fold his and not mine. Yeah, And I just 340 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 2: like swallowed it for a while, and then one day 341 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:09,920 Speaker 2: it came out in a fight and he was like, 342 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 2: because I knew you didn't like the way I fold 343 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 2: clothes or something, so it was like he thought he 344 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 2: was doing me a favor. Because I was folding the 345 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 2: clothes that the way that I like them folded. But 346 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:22,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, well, why wouldn't you just fold them the 347 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 2: way that I like them folded? Then if you are 348 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 2: aware of the fact that I don't like the way 349 00:16:27,360 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 2: that you fold because I'm dish because I was like, 350 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 2: because I fold your fucking clothes and he's. 351 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 1: Like, I don't like the way he foldedm But like, 352 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 1: probably you both were attaching something behind it. He's attaching 353 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: what I do isn't good enough. You're attaching I don't 354 00:16:45,200 --> 00:16:46,840 Speaker 1: feel thought. 355 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 2: Of taking care of yeah, fearof. 356 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: We're considered right, and it's being shown through these clothes, 357 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 1: which is the importance of talking about stuff. Right, Like 358 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 1: we were talking before the podcast and you were like, 359 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:00,200 Speaker 1: I'm just not that person that's like gonna have this 360 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 1: little annoyance and be like we need to talk. And 361 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:06,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, because that sounds really heavy, Like that does 362 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:11,120 Speaker 1: because it seems like you're going to say something really serious, 363 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 1: but I can't ever figure out how to like light conversation. 364 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,400 Speaker 2: But I like what your boyfriend said, like, hey, we're 365 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:21,239 Speaker 2: going to talk about this standoff because that's funny. It 366 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:26,400 Speaker 2: breaks the ice immediately, and it doesn't automatically put you 367 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:28,880 Speaker 2: like in defensive mode, like if you say, like, hey, 368 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 2: we need to sit down and have a conversation. Like 369 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 2: if someone says that to me, I like, literally I 370 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:38,000 Speaker 2: feel my heart comes into my throat, a wall builds up, 371 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 2: and I'm like, who's dying? Who's getting broken up with? 372 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: Right? 373 00:17:41,760 --> 00:17:45,880 Speaker 2: What's going on? Right? So yeah, I'm gonna walk away 374 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,720 Speaker 2: with that as a lesson today, Like the standoff one, Yeah, 375 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 2: just like approach it with some humor, especially if you 376 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 2: know that it's not that big a deal, but it 377 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:55,920 Speaker 2: is something that's bothering you, you know, right. 378 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:58,120 Speaker 1: I've said this before, and this is something that's really 379 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 1: helped me in this relationship. And I'm pretty sure Carolyn 380 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 1: and I talked about this, but one of the greatest 381 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 1: lessons for me as I've gotten older and just done 382 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 1: more work around relationships and I don't know, love relationships 383 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 1: very specifically and communication and all that stuff. Looking at 384 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 1: my partner and thinking they're always coming from a place 385 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:24,680 Speaker 1: of good intention changes everything. Like if you immediately remove 386 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:28,119 Speaker 1: the they're out to get me, they're not thinking about 387 00:18:28,160 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: me whatever that might be happening. But like ultimately they're 388 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 1: not trying to hurt you kind of energy, like for 389 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 1: some reason, switching that narrative in my head of going, Okay, 390 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 1: my boyfriend, like, I know he didn't intend to hurt me. 391 00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:42,200 Speaker 1: He did, so I want to talk to him about 392 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:44,600 Speaker 1: what happened, but I don't need to like come at 393 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:48,960 Speaker 1: him so aggressively in defense mode of like you fucking 394 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:52,399 Speaker 1: you know whatever. I'm very much like and I know 395 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: you love me, and I know you never want to 396 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 1: hurt me, you never intend to do that. This is 397 00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:59,160 Speaker 1: what happened, and this is how it made me feel. Right, 398 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: Can we work through ways to do it differently next 399 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: summer whatever? And he approaches me in the same way. 400 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 1: It's changed the game, like as far as communicating not fighting, 401 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:10,800 Speaker 1: I mean, we fight, but like we're pretty quick to 402 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: get to the repair piece of it because of that 403 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:15,000 Speaker 1: one little narrative shift. It's wild. 404 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:18,359 Speaker 2: That's it's really interesting because it's not coming from a 405 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:20,919 Speaker 2: place of lack, it's coming from a place of abundance. 406 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 1: That's a good way to look at it. Yeah, because 407 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 1: in a team like we're a team, we're not again, 408 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:30,800 Speaker 1: we're not enemies where we like have to defend ourselves 409 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:31,680 Speaker 1: to each other. 410 00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 2: Right right, Yeah, because we're all human, Like we do 411 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:37,560 Speaker 2: things that hurt people everybody, we're realizing it. That's where 412 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 2: the word apology exists exactly. 413 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:43,760 Speaker 1: And like repair is going to need to happen in relationships. 414 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:46,280 Speaker 1: Like people who are like I don't fight, we don't fight. 415 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, then you're just all suppressing shit because 416 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:54,000 Speaker 1: like yeah, and two people in a relationship, they're gonna 417 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,720 Speaker 1: see life differently, like two people see through different lenses. 418 00:19:56,760 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: Two people have different preferences, two people have different weird quirks. 419 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 1: Like one of the ones I was thinking about is 420 00:20:03,640 --> 00:20:05,640 Speaker 1: my sleep habits. Like you know, I'm not a good 421 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:08,160 Speaker 1: sleeper and I never have been, like my mom says, 422 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: I've always been this way, but it's gotten worse as 423 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: I've gotten older and life is stressful and trauma and 424 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: blah blah blah all the stuff. But so I have 425 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 1: these really specific things that I have to like get 426 00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 1: my surroundings right. Like I have to have a sound machine. 427 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:23,960 Speaker 1: I have to wear a sleep bask because I'm light sensitive. 428 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:28,159 Speaker 1: I usually need to meditate. Oh god, I mean when 429 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 1: we're traveling, Yeah, I have to have air pods in 430 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:33,360 Speaker 1: so I have no extra noise. Like, there's just all 431 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: these things that I do. I put magnesium on my feet, 432 00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: I like have essential oils. You know, there's just lots 433 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:44,080 Speaker 1: of different things, and it could be a recipe for 434 00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: someone to be like, what in the world. 435 00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:48,080 Speaker 2: Is this witch doctor? 436 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:48,960 Speaker 3: Yeah? 437 00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:51,399 Speaker 1: I mean, and my partner is a good sleeper, and 438 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:54,760 Speaker 1: so he's just kind to me about it, and he's like, gosh, like, 439 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 1: you know, I feel sad that you don't sleep well, 440 00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,560 Speaker 1: and then he tries to help support. 441 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,440 Speaker 2: Me and that all put the magnesium on your feet too. 442 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, but like I mean, we all have that stuff, right, 443 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:08,120 Speaker 1: and you don't really necessarily realize it until you get 444 00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,360 Speaker 1: in a relationship, and then you're like having someone else 445 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,159 Speaker 1: observe all the weird things you do. 446 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,080 Speaker 2: I mean, tell me about it. I just got a 447 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 2: seapap machine and I haven't had anyone, like, I haven't 448 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:20,679 Speaker 2: had any relations since and I'm like, is this going 449 00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 2: to be sexy? Oh, there's nothing sexy about it. 450 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:26,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, But you just got to find a person who's like, well, 451 00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 1: I want him to survive, right, and I don't. 452 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:32,639 Speaker 2: I mean, I might have a couple of snores throughout 453 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,679 Speaker 2: the night, but like anyone who shared a room with 454 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 2: me knows that I saw logs I don't snore with. 455 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,720 Speaker 1: It, Well, I would see. I would be like put 456 00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:41,760 Speaker 1: that machine on all day every day because like I 457 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,520 Speaker 1: can't sleep near you because the snoring is real. 458 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, it is real. Even my dad said something about it. 459 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:50,640 Speaker 2: And my dad is the worst to snore in the world, 460 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 2: but he's got a seatpap now, so he doesn't say. 461 00:21:52,440 --> 00:21:56,440 Speaker 1: Ah, and he heard you mm hmmm. Interesting. So really, 462 00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 1: the machine's doing everyone a favor, so they should be 463 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:00,000 Speaker 1: frateful for it. 464 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 2: It also goes like you'd probably love it because it's 465 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:04,399 Speaker 2: also rhythmic, and. 466 00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:08,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, see, okay, we'll see these some of these things 467 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:11,800 Speaker 1: can work well. Since we were on this topic, we 468 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:15,440 Speaker 1: were thinking through okay, well some habits like the seapat, 469 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:18,359 Speaker 1: we just immediately got to where it's a benefit for everyone, 470 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 1: so like it's kind of cute now instead of cringe. 471 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:22,600 Speaker 1: So we were going to play a quick game of 472 00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:26,040 Speaker 1: cute or cringe. And I'm going to list off a 473 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:29,520 Speaker 1: bunch of prompts that the chat GBT gave me as 474 00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 1: far as some ideas of what could be cute or cringe, 475 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: And then you and I both have to weigh in 476 00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:37,840 Speaker 1: on if we think it's cute okay in a relationship, 477 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: or it's cringe. 478 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:47,400 Speaker 2: Okay. 479 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:51,199 Speaker 1: Are you ready for this? I guess so okay. So 480 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 1: let's talk about household habits first, because I think this 481 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:55,239 Speaker 1: is the big one. So once you move in with 482 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,760 Speaker 1: someone or you're staying with them a lot, or things 483 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 1: like that, leaving dishes in the sink instead of putting 484 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,320 Speaker 1: them in the dishwasher cute or cringe. 485 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:07,040 Speaker 2: If I'm doing it, it's cute if someone else does 486 00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:07,680 Speaker 2: and it's cry. 487 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 3: Okay. 488 00:23:09,440 --> 00:23:13,160 Speaker 2: I say that because I live alone, so I do it. 489 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,360 Speaker 2: But if I were living with somebody, I would put 490 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,440 Speaker 2: them away or wash them because I actually like washing dishes. Yeah. 491 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 1: My big thing is before we go to bed at night. 492 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 1: I don't like there to be stuff in the sink 493 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 1: if during the day you're in a hurry and it 494 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:28,719 Speaker 1: just happens, Yes, and every now and again when you're like, 495 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: I can't do the dishes tonight. 496 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, who cares? 497 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:31,879 Speaker 3: Like thet it go? 498 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 1: So to me, it's just kind of like it depends 499 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 1: I lived. 500 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 2: This was a college roommate situation, so it wasn't romantic, 501 00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,320 Speaker 2: but it was you know one of my best friends 502 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,719 Speaker 2: at that time, and we still laugh about it, like 503 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,640 Speaker 2: he would never do dishes, so I would just put 504 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:49,880 Speaker 2: the dirty dishes on his bed. 505 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:51,880 Speaker 1: Oh. 506 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:53,800 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm not doing your fucking dishes, man, 507 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 2: I would just put them all on his bed. Yeah, 508 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,640 Speaker 2: that is We still about it. 509 00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:02,760 Speaker 1: It's not even like passive aggressive. It's pretty just straight 510 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 1: up aggressive. It's kind of not like you, I know. 511 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,040 Speaker 2: I was just like, dude, you got it. I'm not 512 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 2: I'm done doing your dishes. 513 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay. Squeezing toothpaste from the middle of the tube. 514 00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 2: Ough, that is cringe. 515 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 1: I think. Okay, my boyfriend doesn't put the top back 516 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,880 Speaker 1: on the toothpaste and that's that's been another that's. 517 00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:26,480 Speaker 2: Cringey for me too. That was a criteria central. 518 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:27,120 Speaker 3: Well. 519 00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: It's just also like I could lose the top then 520 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:31,439 Speaker 1: I'm floating around. It's just like I don't and I 521 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,480 Speaker 1: could hit the toothpaste and toothpaste scarselle Like, it's just 522 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 1: I just want the lid on it. 523 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:37,640 Speaker 2: Put the lid on. By the way, if you haven't 524 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:41,880 Speaker 2: watched the Nate Burgatsy Special, The New Special on Net, 525 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:45,280 Speaker 2: notice I watched it last night. He's literally the funniest 526 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 2: person on earth because he just talks about very normal things. Yeah, 527 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:49,879 Speaker 2: and he talks about how his wife is like a 528 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:53,199 Speaker 2: penny pincher and there's a whole like he's like, you know, 529 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,240 Speaker 2: if I get to the end of the like ketchup 530 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:57,359 Speaker 2: and there's like a little bit left, I throw it away. 531 00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,639 Speaker 2: He's like, my wife puts the old ketchup in the 532 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,159 Speaker 2: new ket so my ketchup's always gross. And then he 533 00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,280 Speaker 2: has a toothpaste thing where he's like, she cuts it 534 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:08,960 Speaker 2: open and gets every last No, it's so funny. 535 00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:15,520 Speaker 1: Okay, anyway, okay, Leaving wet towels on the bed, that's cringe, 536 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,439 Speaker 1: so cringe. I'm a weird one about the towels, Like 537 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:22,840 Speaker 1: wet towels on clothes, even on my rugs. 538 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,639 Speaker 3: Like hang it up, Yeah, no, hang your towel up. 539 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,640 Speaker 1: Setting tin alarms in the morning, this is so good 540 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 1: for you, and snoozing every single one. 541 00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 2: I mean, it must be cringe, but I do it. 542 00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 1: It's so cringe, but you're gonna say cute because you 543 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: do it. 544 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:43,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. I actually someone I saw someone talking about that 545 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 2: thing the other day and they actually say it makes 546 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:51,560 Speaker 2: your morning worse. It does because if you just get 547 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 2: up on the first one, you just start your day right, 548 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 2: But now that you're dealing with the second one, you're 549 00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:00,320 Speaker 2: like this that you have to get up finally. So 550 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 2: I'm going to That's something that I want to try 551 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 2: and repair. This year is not hitting so well. 552 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,399 Speaker 1: And if you live with someone or someone else is 553 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:10,120 Speaker 1: like at your house with you, it's really disrespectful because 554 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:12,480 Speaker 1: I really, once I'm up, it's hard for me to 555 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: go back to sleep. But one alarm sometimes I can 556 00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 1: you know if there were five different alarm, like I'm up, 557 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 1: and what if I didn't want to get up when 558 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 1: you got up right right? 559 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:23,320 Speaker 2: Yeah? That is cringe. 560 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 1: Wearing the same quote unquote lucky shirt for multiple days 561 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:29,000 Speaker 1: in a row. 562 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,800 Speaker 2: That's cringe. That's also that's just gross. 563 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,440 Speaker 1: I don't know if I care two days in a row, 564 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,120 Speaker 1: especially like if you're traveling. I think there's a lot 565 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:41,520 Speaker 1: of exceptions to this rule. 566 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,960 Speaker 2: Is it like a sweatshirt or like a button down 567 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 2: that you wear as a jacket. We don't know. 568 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,280 Speaker 1: I think we can make it whatever we want. A 569 00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: T shirt though, nah, yeah, because the pits. Yeah, Okay, 570 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: communication quirks. How about sending memes? Instead of saying I 571 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:01,960 Speaker 1: love you, Like I think all day you're sending like 572 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,159 Speaker 1: cute things that are making you think about the person, 573 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,920 Speaker 1: but you're not saying I love you over and over. 574 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,240 Speaker 2: I think it's cute because I think it's a cute 575 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 2: way of saying I love you. Like any sort of 576 00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:17,159 Speaker 2: interaction to me means you're being thought of. And the 577 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:18,920 Speaker 2: memes are kind of my love language. 578 00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's not like pcial memes. 579 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,240 Speaker 2: I know. I don't blanket memes, you know. It's like 580 00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 2: when I see a meme, I'm like, this is going 581 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:30,400 Speaker 2: to this person because I think they'll think it's funny. Yeah, 582 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:34,000 Speaker 2: I don't have like a distribution list, you know. So 583 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,400 Speaker 2: I think it's a love language move. It's cute. 584 00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:41,280 Speaker 1: Well I need both, so right, I don't know. I 585 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,399 Speaker 1: don't know if I would say it's cringe. If I 586 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,720 Speaker 1: was only getting memes and not getting I love you, 587 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:47,600 Speaker 1: I would be. 588 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:48,680 Speaker 3: Upset by the house. 589 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, because at a certain point it becomes friend zoning. 590 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:56,960 Speaker 1: Well, and it's just like it's not real intimacy. It's 591 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,639 Speaker 1: like faux intimacy in a way, so you're not actually 592 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 1: being honorable enough to like take the next step or 593 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:06,159 Speaker 1: write lean in or whatever it is. It just feels 594 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,600 Speaker 1: very like surface level to me, right right, I get 595 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 1: that using baby talk when addressing each other. 596 00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 2: No fringe, cris. I mean you couldn't even read it. 597 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 2: It was so cringe. I know. 598 00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:23,720 Speaker 1: Well, because there is one thing my boyfriend and I do. 599 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:27,200 Speaker 1: He calls me ma'am. So he's like ma'am sometimes on 600 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,040 Speaker 1: something and blah blah blah, and so I started calling 601 00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:32,920 Speaker 1: him sir back, and I'm like, if anybody else hears us, though, 602 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,679 Speaker 1: like it's cute between us, but if someone hears. I 603 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:39,680 Speaker 1: actually was in the grocery store with him recently and 604 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,880 Speaker 1: I was like, sir, and he turned around because he 605 00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:43,880 Speaker 1: knew it was me. But then it's like five other 606 00:28:43,920 --> 00:28:46,000 Speaker 1: guys also turned around. 607 00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:48,560 Speaker 2: That it was just. 608 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:52,720 Speaker 1: Funny, but baby talk hell no. Hell now over using 609 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:55,800 Speaker 1: pet names even in public, Well, I just said it. 610 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 1: I don't mind it. I don't know. I think it's 611 00:28:58,600 --> 00:28:59,120 Speaker 1: kind of cute. 612 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,040 Speaker 2: When it's kind of cute, I think it's kind of 613 00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:07,960 Speaker 2: It also kind of depends on the name, like true yeah, I. 614 00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,800 Speaker 1: Think of a cringe one sweetie. 615 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:11,840 Speaker 2: Pie, Snookers. 616 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: I don't know, honey child, No, we're just losing it 617 00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:19,320 Speaker 1: texting K instead of a full response. 618 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:23,840 Speaker 2: It really depends on what you're responding to. To me, 619 00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,680 Speaker 2: that that one's like right down the middle, because sometimes 620 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 2: you just didn't need to acknowledge that, like you've received 621 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,800 Speaker 2: the information, okay, kay is like it should be okay. 622 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:39,760 Speaker 2: Like one other letter, one other letter I had This 623 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,400 Speaker 2: was a friendship thing. What was the word that I 624 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,080 Speaker 2: used to say all the time? And it drove my 625 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:48,000 Speaker 2: friend Bonnie crazy? But I was it was a word 626 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 2: of acknowledgement. I can't remember what it was, so this 627 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 2: is a bad story. But it drove her crazy that 628 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,360 Speaker 2: I would do it. I was like, wait, I'm acknowledging 629 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 2: what you said. But so I had to like find 630 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:58,280 Speaker 2: a new word because it made her unhappy. 631 00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 1: Romantic gestures planning surprise date nights without consulting the other 632 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:03,200 Speaker 1: person's schedule. 633 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:08,640 Speaker 2: I think that's cute. I think it can be a problem. 634 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, Like you got to think you would have to. 635 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 2: Say like hey, keep Thursday open. 636 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, or be like what's your week look like? And 637 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,640 Speaker 1: then get the vibe and and yeah. But I like 638 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 1: what you said, like have a little bit of a 639 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,120 Speaker 1: heads up of like we're going to do something, or 640 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,239 Speaker 1: let's make that the night for each other. And then 641 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 1: if you plan something cute, that's really cute. I think 642 00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 1: all people love that stuff because that makes you feel 643 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 1: thought of, considered. It's, yeah, a bid for connection all the. 644 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:42,000 Speaker 2: Things, and it's exciting to plan something fun like that, 645 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:42,400 Speaker 2: you know. 646 00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, spontaneously serenading them at home or in public. 647 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:53,280 Speaker 2: I think it can be really cute. The public side 648 00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 2: of it brings the cringe. 649 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 1: But it's also like, yeah, go ahead. 650 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:02,920 Speaker 2: But that's me really personalizing it because I think that 651 00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 2: there is something very When I see it on the internet, 652 00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:06,360 Speaker 2: I think it's really cute. 653 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 1: But if it were happening to see this on the internet, though, 654 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:09,040 Speaker 1: is this I. 655 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 2: Don't know, I've seen am I missing seeing stuff go 656 00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:14,240 Speaker 2: viral where people like do really it seems really cute 657 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:15,760 Speaker 2: when it's happening to somebody. 658 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 1: Else, But I tell you, when it's cringe for me 659 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,479 Speaker 1: is because you know, we work in the music industries 660 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,240 Speaker 1: are around artists a lot, like people who can legit 661 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,840 Speaker 1: sing and who are also used to being on a 662 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:31,120 Speaker 1: stage and having an audience. If that person is serenading 663 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:34,360 Speaker 1: in public or kind of all the time, or you 664 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,800 Speaker 1: know pleasure. It's like, that's about you. You want attention, 665 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,720 Speaker 1: This isn't about me, So that's cringe to me. 666 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,360 Speaker 2: That is, I get. I'm on board with that. 667 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:45,400 Speaker 1: But if it's about you and maybe it's an inside 668 00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 1: joke with the song or you're just feeling overcome with 669 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,200 Speaker 1: love and you're being kind of fun and silly about 670 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 1: it and like maybe you're dancing with the person or 671 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 1: whatever it is. 672 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:54,920 Speaker 3: I think it's cute. 673 00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:59,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, okay, physical habits, cracking knuckles constantly. 674 00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:02,320 Speaker 2: I don't think that that's cringe. 675 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,920 Speaker 1: I think it's one of those things though, that like 676 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,200 Speaker 1: almost you know, when like you've been with someone for 677 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,320 Speaker 1: a really long time and then the way they eat 678 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: starts to bother you like this, Yes. 679 00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:15,960 Speaker 2: Yes, but I think I think those things are when 680 00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:18,200 Speaker 2: those are really cringe to you, it's an indication of 681 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,400 Speaker 2: something so much deeper, Like you just don't like the 682 00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:21,600 Speaker 2: person and you're like ugh. 683 00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,880 Speaker 1: Or you're mad about something else, and then it's like 684 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,200 Speaker 1: dumb chewing cereal literally feels like it's going to send 685 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,000 Speaker 1: you over the eg. 686 00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,440 Speaker 2: Right, You're like, uh, now it's time to put your 687 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:30,880 Speaker 2: noses together and talk about it. 688 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:36,160 Speaker 1: The way you've been into that apple, you didn't eat 689 00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:42,280 Speaker 1: it down to the core, leaving hair behind, like beard clippings, 690 00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:43,480 Speaker 1: long strands. 691 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:43,920 Speaker 2: Cringe. 692 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,320 Speaker 1: And yeah, I think it's cringe too. I used to 693 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,040 Speaker 1: date a guy who would literally shave his balls into 694 00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 1: the sink and leave it. Sometimes. I was like, are 695 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:52,160 Speaker 1: you joking? 696 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:53,880 Speaker 2: Oh my god, do that in the shower? 697 00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:58,640 Speaker 1: Yeah? Exactly, Oh okay. Social media posting mushy partner tributes 698 00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 1: on Instagram without warning. 699 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:03,320 Speaker 2: I think that's a little cringe too too. That's for 700 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,240 Speaker 2: attention and not for intention. 701 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,840 Speaker 1: Also, I had a boyfriend who did that once, and 702 00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:11,080 Speaker 1: it would always actually be when we were in a 703 00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:14,880 Speaker 1: massive fight or like not doing well, and then I 704 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,040 Speaker 1: would open my Instagram and he had done some mushy 705 00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,080 Speaker 1: post about me, and I was like, Yo, why don't 706 00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:20,959 Speaker 1: you take care of it on the home front first, 707 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,960 Speaker 1: versus trying to like tell the public that how amazing 708 00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:27,400 Speaker 1: I am. You know, like that just felt it doesn't 709 00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:30,680 Speaker 1: feel sincere constantly texting during date. 710 00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:32,760 Speaker 2: Night, that's cringe. 711 00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Making tiktoks or reels together willingly, I. 712 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:42,040 Speaker 2: Mean, oh that makes me cringe. My neck just got 713 00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:43,080 Speaker 2: tight thinking about that. 714 00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,160 Speaker 1: I think it depends on the context. I mean a 715 00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 1: regular iDeer of that. 716 00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,360 Speaker 2: What's that couple that like it's like Pumpkin and baby 717 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:55,520 Speaker 2: Boo or something like that, like where he it's like 718 00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,200 Speaker 2: he seems kind of gay but he. 719 00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:59,480 Speaker 1: Loves his oh yeah yeah yeah, yeah, he. 720 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,200 Speaker 2: Like loves her outfits. Like that's cringe to me. 721 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:10,680 Speaker 1: But yeah, anytime that you're making your relationship public, it 722 00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:13,680 Speaker 1: gets tricky because then it becomes like is this a business? 723 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:17,680 Speaker 1: Is this real life? Like those lines, they get tricky 724 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:21,239 Speaker 1: and then it can become cringe really fast because when 725 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:23,960 Speaker 1: you're not doing it authentically and it's just for the public. 726 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:24,840 Speaker 1: Yeah cringe. 727 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:25,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 728 00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,279 Speaker 1: Anyway, I could go on with these. I have a 729 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:29,239 Speaker 1: whole like a full list. Maybe we'll have to do 730 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,759 Speaker 1: another game of cuter c for me. 731 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:33,239 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 732 00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:34,839 Speaker 1: Maybe you hate being in a relationship. 733 00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:36,680 Speaker 2: Maybe I do. God, I need therapy. 734 00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,640 Speaker 1: We just don't know. If you guys have any cuter 735 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,680 Speaker 1: cringe ideas or things that we said that you think 736 00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,200 Speaker 1: are cuter cringe. Email us at the Edge at velvet 737 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 1: edge dot com. You can also slide into my dms 738 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:51,960 Speaker 1: I'm at Velvet's Edge on Instagram Chip. 739 00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,160 Speaker 2: I'm at chip door should chip d o R s 740 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:56,440 Speaker 2: ch And. 741 00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,640 Speaker 1: As you guys go into the weekends and you're living 742 00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,799 Speaker 1: on the edge, I hope you alway remember. 743 00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 2: Too a casual bye 744 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:10,120 Speaker 1: M hm.