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Speaker 1: episode of poor Minds. What t is? Titty? That is

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Speaker 1: I had to say something. We're a drug mind speak

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Speaker 1: sober thoughts. I'm a lady. First of all, I'm looking

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Speaker 1: First of all, I've been serving nothing but claw and

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Speaker 1: ass and titt. That was my stop looking at them. Well,

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Speaker 1: stop because you're making me uncomfortable. I'm a woman. I

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Speaker 1: see you a lot of women. Man, what's been going on?

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Speaker 1: Look blessed you're here. I love this hair on you.

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Speaker 1: The deep side part is giving what it's supposed to get.

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Speaker 1: Even it's definitely I love it too. You was giving

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Speaker 1: very much, Beyonce. I told you that I'm really loving

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Speaker 1: the blind like. I think that this is your look

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Speaker 1: it's I don't know. It's just bleeding so well with

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Speaker 1: to switch it up a lot. I feel like she

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Speaker 1: does a good job at channeling my inner I feel

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Speaker 1: like I love the listeners because with us, they've seen

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Speaker 1: our growth, but especially with me, because one thing about you,

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Speaker 1: You've always been a polished ass beach. You've always been

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Speaker 1: You've always been beautiful. Yeah, But I was not like

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Speaker 1: know that it was gonna turn into this, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So I used to be I mean,

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Speaker 1: But I think still, even though I knew that, we

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Speaker 1: just would wake up and we would just be like,

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Speaker 1: gonna lie. Whoever hates me and doesn't want to see

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Speaker 1: me all the time with my stiff wigs, because every

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Speaker 1: like this in the bag, Y'all'm in that cartoon, freaking oid,

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Speaker 1: I mean that's so kind. I think you look beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I mean, but yeah, but I was just I couldn't

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Speaker 1: done those well, First of all, those episodes were just

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Speaker 1: those old episodes. Our wildest said. The topics were always fired.

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Speaker 1: great show. We just had to get past, you know,

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Speaker 1: this soul shout out to Carlos. That was a real down.

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Speaker 1: and Garfield been shutting this motherfuck up A proud mama,

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Speaker 1: this bit y'all. Shut this bit y'all. Me and Garfield

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Speaker 1: call me licks p and I punish. You ain't my people.

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Speaker 1: So let's get into the next topicst Okay, your topic,

468
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Speaker 1: this is my topic. When I wanted to say that,

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Speaker 1: because you say that every time I have a topic,

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Speaker 1: this is your topic. What do you crazy? That's what

471
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Speaker 1: you were saying. Okay, So I wanted to talk about that.

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Speaker 1: It is very delicate a queen, peasants. Stop touching me peasants.

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Speaker 1: That was kind of hard. So I'll say this, a

474
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Speaker 1: lot of the inspiration from my topics come from conversations

475
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Speaker 1: that I have with my friends. And I want to

476
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Speaker 1: talk about dating outside of your league. Because I was

477
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Speaker 1: having a conversation with my friend Killer one day and

478
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Speaker 1: I was telling her about this guy, maybe I'm kind

479
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Speaker 1: of interested in kind of want to give him a

480
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Speaker 1: chance a little bit. She was like, no, bitch, no,

481
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Speaker 1: you're up here, he's down here. You don't need to

482
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Speaker 1: fuck with him. That's not it doesn't match your image,

483
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Speaker 1: and it doesn't match what you got going on and

484
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Speaker 1: this and that. So but I want to talk about,

485
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Speaker 1: like why does it all is it? Does it have

486
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Speaker 1: to always be levels when you're dating, like just because

487
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Speaker 1: they're not? Because I mean, he's financially stable, good guy,

488
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Speaker 1: no kids, you know, he's pretty attractive. So it's like

489
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Speaker 1: if somebody checks off all the check box, is there

490
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Speaker 1: really like levels? So why does she why does killer

491
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Speaker 1: feel like he she feels like he laying, not like me.

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Speaker 1: She be thinking everybody laying. She does. She thinks everybody

493
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Speaker 1: is laying because they are. It's very rarely that a

494
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Speaker 1: nigga like that you meet somebody and they not laying.

495
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 1: But I'll say this, but I feel like a lot

496
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Speaker 1: of times this is how I feel updated the same

497
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,919
Speaker 1: type of man for so long. Maybe I need to

498
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Speaker 1: try to date outside my box. What do y'all feel like?

499
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Speaker 1: You're tight? Uh? Bdb's y'all know out date athletes, rappers,

500
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 1: business owners, niggas that you know, niggas that be hustling, balling,

501
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Speaker 1: you know, you know the type. Don't act like that

502
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Speaker 1: you don't know the type. Nigga. I know the type,

503
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Speaker 1: but I be cool with dating the type. That's what

504
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Speaker 1: I'm just saying. But it's like because I know, because

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Speaker 1: because realistically speaking, I told you about these the other day.

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Speaker 1: We was on the phone and I had told you

507
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Speaker 1: how I went to go get a massage the other

508
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Speaker 1: day and then I ended up going to Papasitos and

509
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Speaker 1: I okay, and I ran into a guy at the bar.

510
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Speaker 1: I was just sitting at the bar eating and you know,

511
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Speaker 1: having my little drink, and this guy comes to the

512
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Speaker 1: bar and he's sitting across from me. He's eating, and

513
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Speaker 1: then you know, he just started talking to me because

514
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Speaker 1: he's seen it. I was by myself, and he was

515
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Speaker 1: just kind of like, do you feel like like we

516
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Speaker 1: we started talking about like what I do for a living,

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Speaker 1: my career, where I'm going and everything. What did you say?

518
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Speaker 1: I told him, I have a podcast. I said, you podcast?

519
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Speaker 1: And then when they be like oh, okay, and then

520
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Speaker 1: I'll be like yeah, and it's becoming very successful, y'all.

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Speaker 1: Don't get eighty five dress started. Yeah, period. You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying I'm just signed to Edy five. Why

523
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Speaker 1: I didn't even say that. I didn't even say that.

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Speaker 1: First of all, you know, kind of smelling and DC

525
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Speaker 1: Young Flying Chico been all you having me confused with

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Speaker 1: hook She didn't want to be going on this.

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Speaker 4: Yep.

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Speaker 1: I just saw thought, yeah, mama going on me and

529
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Speaker 1: littlera the beach. Okay, get back. But anyway, so we

530
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Speaker 1: were sitting at the bar, we were talking and he

531
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Speaker 1: was just like, how do you feel like dating is

532
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Speaker 1: in Atlanta? And I was just telling him like, I

533
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Speaker 1: feel like it's hard, mainly because of the ratio of

534
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Speaker 1: men to women. But then we kind of started talking

535
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Speaker 1: about the type of men that I date, and then

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Speaker 1: he was like, well, do you feel like it's hard

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Speaker 1: because of the type of man that you date? Like

538
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Speaker 1: maybe you should start trying to date a different type

539
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Speaker 1: of nigga. Personally, I think the type of men that

540
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Speaker 1: I date is on brand with what I want, because

541
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Speaker 1: I feel like if I dated people that were outside

542
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Speaker 1: of what I already currently date, they wouldn't probably understand

543
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: my life and it would be a lot of other issues.

544
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Speaker 1: I definitely be having issues with the men that I

545
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Speaker 1: dated already, But I think it would be a lot

546
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Speaker 1: of other issues added on top of that, because then

547
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Speaker 1: I would have the typical issues that come with being

548
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Speaker 1: in a relationship, but off on top of they're probably

549
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: jealousy and insecurities and things of that nature. So you

550
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Speaker 1: don't believe in dating outside of your league? No I don't.

551
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: So what is your league? I like today? People who

552
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: live a similar lifestyle to me. Okay, that makes sense.

553
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 1: That's all that my league is, you know what I mean.

554
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 1: It's not about a certain amount of money or nothing

555
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: like that. It's just people who have the freedom to

556
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Speaker 1: live their life how they choose and go about their

557
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: day every day as they choose to go about as

558
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:20,720
Speaker 1: somebody who is not under the restrictions of you know,

559
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Speaker 1: maybe a nine to five or having to answer to

560
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Speaker 1: watch somebody, watch y'all now for what? Nothing? I was like,

561
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Speaker 1: you know, nothing is wrong with people working a nine

562
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Speaker 1: to five. Yeah, watch you should have said it, like sorry,

563
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: but yeah, just somebody who understands the type of life

564
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Speaker 1: that I live. Somebody that understands I don't have a

565
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 1: routine schedule, you know what I mean? My life is

566
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 1: kind of like Sporadi. Yeah, you know, but Sid, this

567
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 1: is my thing, this is my thing with it, I

568
00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 1: feel like like they understand me more because they live

569
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: a similar life. But it's like, how long because I

570
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 1: agree with you, I feel like we date the same

571
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 1: you know, kind of type of people that have a

572
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 1: certain freedom. They don't necessarily you know, have a that

573
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: they don't have to clock in and stuff. And but

574
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 1: what that also being said, But it's like, when do

575
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Speaker 1: you come to the realization that maybe your type not

576
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 1: nothing to do with his occupation or what he does.

577
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,920
Speaker 1: But it's just like, when do you realize, like this

578
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: type is not working for you? Cis like it's not

579
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Speaker 1: fucking working. I would say, after you done being in

580
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 1: a few relationships, I'd have been in a few more

581
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: than a few. So I think that's maybe why my

582
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 1: reasoning is. And I don't even want to say this

583
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 1: man's outside of my lead because he makes way more

584
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: money than I do, like he makes bread. So but

585
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:50,200
Speaker 1: it's just like we don't do the same thing at all,

586
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: Like I don't, I don't necessarily, I don't think that walks,

587
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know, I don't know. It's just hard.

588
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 1: I always try to be mindful of not contradicting myself

589
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: because I feel like I do that a lot. Me

590
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 1: and Kicky was having like, would you dat a lawyers

591
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: conversation about you? That a lawyer? I would. I'm not

592
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 1: sure if a lawyer will want to date me, but

593
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: why because of what I do for a living? You

594
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 1: want to understand. And that's what I was telling a

595
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 1: dude that Papasito shout out to him. Hey, if you

596
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: watch these, I feel like I did give my number,

597
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: but I just did never take some big So I

598
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 1: just feel like, bitch, I don't forgot what I feel like.

599
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 1: I hate you, y, that's because you need to put

600
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: the act down. Well, I'm gonna say this for me,

601
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 1: I feel like dating outside of I wouldn't even say league,

602
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: but I feel like I'm going to date outside of

603
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:58,400
Speaker 1: my norm. Like, honestly, I don't care. As long as

604
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 1: I feel like you're doing well for yourself financially, you

605
00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,239
Speaker 1: have something to bring to the table and we can

606
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 1: get along. I'm gonna give you a chance. I'm in Look,

607
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 1: I'm thirty one, I got four or five years. Look

608
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: the ovary. What makes you feel like you have four

609
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: or five years? Yeah, to have a baby. So you've changed.

610
00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: You want to have kids, and I don't want to

611
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 1: have a lexed junior. I need somebody that's gonna crack.

612
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: I need a big mama junr. My baby gonna come out.

613
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 1: Like I've been telling you, mama what like I need

614
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 1: been telling you you need to have a junior year.

615
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 1: I need a girl though. I need a girl girl.

616
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 1: I have to have another meal. She's gonna be like laughing.

617
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 1: But I feel it also has to do with dating

618
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Speaker 1: with purpose. I feel like recently I have decided that

619
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 1: I'm dating with purple yeah, and that's no longer not

620
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 1: I'm no longer just dating niggas for the fuck of it,

621
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Speaker 1: or like just to have a good for the bags

622
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 1: and the shoes, and yeah, I'm not dating dudes for

623
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 1: that type of shit. No more like I'm dating now

624
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 1: with the purpose. It's like yeah, growth m so yeah,

625
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:15,479
Speaker 1: Like I just I had an epiphany and Tiffany's, oh sorry,

626
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: I got my bar moment. No, but we still need

627
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 1: to go to Tiffany. I don't want you all to

628
00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 1: get a twist Tiffany's. I don't want the men watching

629
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Speaker 1: to be like, oh, they're good. They don't want to oh,

630
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Speaker 1: we still very much want the vacation very much. Shopping,

631
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:32,280
Speaker 1: that's ship. But yeah, I'm definitely dating with a purpose,

632
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 1: Like I am seeking out people that I feel like

633
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,840
Speaker 1: I can actually really fuck with you, have a baby

634
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 1: with you, possibly marry you. Those are the type of

635
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,839
Speaker 1: men that I'm dating right now. And but I feel

636
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,800
Speaker 1: like what comes with that though, too, is playing a

637
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: long game. And that's not something that I'm used to playing.

638
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 1: You're not You're not a little lot of topic a

639
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 1: little bit, but I did want to touch on that.

640
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 1: I feel like that's we'll say that topic for him

641
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:09,359
Speaker 1: to save it. Yeah, playing the long game. But yeah,

642
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 1: definitely something that I'm not used to, but I think

643
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 1: it's necessary when you want longevity with the person, you

644
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: can't look at the instant gratification. He didn't give me

645
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 1: this money right now, and he didn't do X, Y

646
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,320
Speaker 1: and Z right now. So dating outside of your league,

647
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 1: I won't say I won't date outside my league. I

648
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:30,920
Speaker 1: feel like my league is somebody who's successful, who's ambitious,

649
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:32,840
Speaker 1: who has shit going on. I'm never gonna lower my

650
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,320
Speaker 1: standards for that. And I as far as dating outside

651
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 1: of my box, as far as like dating outside of

652
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:42,279
Speaker 1: like athletes, rappers and just like business owners and this

653
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 1: and that. Yeah, I'm gonna I'm willing to do that.

654
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: All date a doctor, all dat a lawyer. Yeah, I

655
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 1: mean that was men that I wasn't Maybe if a

656
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,240
Speaker 1: doctor has if he has a private practice and technically

657
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 1: he is a business owner. Well, I mean I'm just

658
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,879
Speaker 1: saying like owe me probably felt like, oh I can't

659
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: date a lawyer. I can't the doctor is it's going

660
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 1: to be too for me, like gonna be like two

661
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 1: because I'm wild, I'm crazy. But I feel like, like

662
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 1: I said, I'm very, I'm three dimensional. I have a

663
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: lot of different size to me. So it's like, just

664
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 1: as much as I'm worried if you're gonna fit in

665
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 1: my life, you don't need to be worried if I'm

666
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: gonna fun and he a free exactly here what you

667
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:26,879
Speaker 1: do for a living period period the big hey ow,

668
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: the bad bow, the bad bow bow. But I guess

669
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:35,120
Speaker 1: I'm doing it. I'm doing it by myself today because

670
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 1: Drea said, damn Lina hanging. This is why salt and

671
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:46,360
Speaker 1: pepper not together right now. The salt was here, pepper

672
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 1: wasn't here. No you saw I'm Pepper. No, I'm Pepper. No,

673
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 1: I'm pepper bitch. I'm Pepper No, I'm Pepper. Was the

674
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 1: big bitch, Me and Pepper, pep. Make it get hot,

675
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 1: make you work up a what period? Don't get me

676
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 1: started on shooe. You know that's my favorite song. Okay,

677
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 1: I won't a shoe baby. Oh the boy naked one. Okay,

678
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 1: so let's talk about it. I go here, I go,

679
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: come on salt exactly, she salt. Let's talk about salty,

680
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: getting twist. Let's talk about the important. Okay. So, I

681
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 1: feel like every week we talk about extreme things with sex.

682
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:41,800
Speaker 1: We talk about licking the booty, butt plugs, kissing toes,

683
00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 1: fucking on your period, you know what I'm saying, Sucking nipples,

684
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: how to suck dick? You know I say eating it.

685
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 1: I'm block three thoughts. We talk about everything, but I

686
00:37:56,120 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: love it. Okay, ladies, I told you anyways. Okay, So

687
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 1: I feel like we've tied all this sex talk, but

688
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:17,800
Speaker 1: we skipped the basics. And this is what I realized,

689
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: because I had an issue. I had sex with somebody.

690
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: I want to shoot I have sex with somebody. This

691
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 1: is not really saying I'm not gonna put the timeline

692
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 1: on it. But I had sex with somebody and I

693
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: was like, damn you are I was like, damn. Maybe

694
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:38,040
Speaker 1: he doesn't listen to the podcast. Maybe I wasn't expressive

695
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 1: on what I like, but I was like damn on

696
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: the podcast. We've never talked about this because we skipped

697
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,239
Speaker 1: the basics so much. Let's talk about the simple ship,

698
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:50,800
Speaker 1: the importance of being a good fucking kisser. How do

699
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: you niggas do not know how to kiss?

700
00:38:56,160 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 5: It is very like kissing is very essential, and I

701
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:10,320
Speaker 5: feel like you wow, wow, niggas be trying to like suck.

702
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 1: Your whole Why niggas be trying to suck your whole face?

703
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,240
Speaker 1: They be trying to fucking stick their whole fucking tongue

704
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:19,879
Speaker 1: down your throat. I hate it here they be trying

705
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 1: to stick their whole tongue down your fucking throat. Then

706
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 1: they having an audacity to not have good oral hygiens.

707
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:40,760
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry, we get lit up, bitch because orgen

708
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:47,760
Speaker 1: horal good horal hor a lot a lot. Okay, sorry

709
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: it's just thundered. Y'all probably didn't hear that, but go ahead,

710
00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 1: God said, bitches. Y'all need to stop talking about my children,

711
00:39:55,840 --> 00:40:01,360
Speaker 1: I know. So I just feel like, Okay, teeth and

712
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 1: your mouth are very important to me, mainly because I

713
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: feel like that's people fail to realize that that's the

714
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 1: root of a lot of health problems that people have too.

715
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, somebody pussy out when you

716
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:15,839
Speaker 1: got gingervitis. Right, well, you can't somebody pussy out when

717
00:40:15,880 --> 00:40:19,920
Speaker 1: you got ginger vitis, but you can also like it,

718
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 1: like not having a healthy mouth can cause infictions in

719
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,880
Speaker 1: a lot of other areas in your body or whatever.

720
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 1: So that's number one. But I just also feel like

721
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 1: your mouth is on your face, so that's number the

722
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 1: That's probably the number one thing that people look at

723
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:36,919
Speaker 1: when they talking to you. So it's like, you should

724
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 1: care about how your teeth to look. You should care

725
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: about how your bread smell. You just care about how

726
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 1: your tongue look. I hate when people have that white

727
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: tongue that's nast like my pink. I can't relate pink,

728
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: just like this puss it period. So I just cannot

729
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:56,359
Speaker 1: get past that, and that really ubsessed me because I'm

730
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: really freaky. So like in the bedroom, I'm wanting you

731
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 1: to like spit in my mouth. I love it. I

732
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:08,320
Speaker 1: love it too. Not okay, now you're taking ship to

733
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 1: car nobody said totally kidding, of course, not a lugi

734
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: I'm playing. I'm kidding. But but I do I like

735
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 1: a little you know, yeah, but I also feel it's weird,

736
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 1: like when niggas, like when you're kissing somebody in their

737
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: eyes are open, nigga, why don't you stick nigga up? Yeah,

738
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 1: you're about to get that. I like, and I just

739
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:40,360
Speaker 1: hate when people force it too much to like stick

740
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 1: their tongue in your mouth. Now, I do like, I

741
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,360
Speaker 1: feel like when you kiss, they're supposed to stick your

742
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 1: tongue about. You're supposed to suck on a little bit.

743
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: But it should be it should be natural, Like it's

744
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: like we should be kissing and things meet the tongue

745
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: in slowly, not like this, yeah, not like Yes, niggas

746
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 1: be a may be doing a like. I don't like that.

747
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:08,280
Speaker 1: I don't like that either. I need to be sensual.

748
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: So first of all, you gotta like grab the person

749
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 1: head right. Then you gotta like, you know, caress the face,

750
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 1: and then you gottah got the camel.

751
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 5: Hey.

752
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 1: I was a little tingle, a little single, a little

753
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 1: Cody Cake, you'll get night. You already dressed like a lift? Yeah, blustered,

754
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:53,799
Speaker 1: I was not ready? Is turning a little rig after

755
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:58,839
Speaker 1: the show we got someone finished by Yeah, so's it's

756
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: to me. It's an art to being a good kisser.

757
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 1: It definitely is. I feel like a lot of people

758
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:05,719
Speaker 1: don't focus on that. They'd be like, oh, I gotta

759
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,960
Speaker 1: suck at titties, right, I gotta eat the pussy right

760
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,680
Speaker 1: while you all have you have to do those things right.

761
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 1: But I think a lot of y'all need to focus

762
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 1: on kissing. That's the initial, the basics, that's the initial way. Honestly,

763
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. That made my pussy jump a

764
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 1: little bit. The pussy jumped a little bit. Pussies jump

765
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 1: in my life. I'll say this, that's the way to

766
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 1: like really get into a girl, like by kissing her.

767
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,879
Speaker 1: She knows, like, damn, you can tell by a kiss

768
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: if a niggas got some good dig Honestly, that's not niggas.

769
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: Be annoying, babe. Let's getting nigre just s weeking. Make sureet,

770
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 1: Oh why don't you like to sing naked? By Mark?

771
00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:52,879
Speaker 1: He's here's right, come, so let's get into the bob.

772
00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: So let me tell y'all this. What's up, y'all. It's

773
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:03,279
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774
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775
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:09,759
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776
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791
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 1: music out right now. WHI so. So somebody tweeted me

792
00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: the other day and they were like, thank you Les

793
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 1: for like saying like, there's such a good amount of

794
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: music out right now. And if you don't think that

795
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 1: are if you think R and B is dad, you're

796
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 1: a lazy listener. I say this every week, see somebody

797
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:21,280
Speaker 1: say it to you. So I'm gonna do this, honestly,

798
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 1: I'm working on the playlist for y'all. I'm gonna get

799
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 1: that playlist out because I feel like there's just a

800
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 1: lot of artists that people are sleeping on, people aren't

801
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: listening to, and it's just so much fucking good music

802
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 1: out there. I can't. I literally every week I have

803
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 1: to choose one bop of the week, but it'd be

804
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 1: like sometimes I have to do more. So I'm not

805
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 1: gonna lie I have a few bops this week. But

806
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 1: like I said, I'm working on that playlist for y'all.

807
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:47,879
Speaker 1: So I am gonna have that playlist, like I promise, y'all,

808
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 1: because this is getting ridiclo. This is getting ridiculous. Okay,

809
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:55,839
Speaker 1: this shit is But of the week. This woman has

810
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 1: been in the game for so long. If you was

811
00:45:58,160 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: back in the B two K days, if you know

812
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 1: who TG four is, you are real. You a real

813
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: bitch if you know who TG four is. So Seventh

814
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: Streeter is from a group called TG four. They used

815
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: to go on to it with B two K. Right,

816
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:14,439
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. People don't remember that's where

817
00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 1: seven Streeter came from. All right, she was a superstar.

818
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,560
Speaker 1: She was always fire. So she has a song called

819
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 1: Guilty with Chris Brown and Asap Ferd. Now, everybody, y'all

820
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 1: remember that song that she had with Chris Brown. What

821
00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:30,759
Speaker 1: was the song that she had with Chris Brown a

822
00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 1: long time ago? Their period? So she has a song

823
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 1: called Guilty with Chris Brown. It's amazing. I feel like

824
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: they simple total a little bit. I really didn't look

825
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 1: into it like I was supposed to. But the song

826
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 1: is fire. I feel like her and Chris Brown make

827
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:56,960
Speaker 1: amazing music together. But I feel like she's super slept on.

828
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times she feels like

829
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: she has to add these people on her songs so

830
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:04,840
Speaker 1: she can get the recognition. But Seventh Streeter has been

831
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: in the industry. She produces. She writes like she's just

832
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: super fucking talented and I feel like she's super slept on.

833
00:47:11,160 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 1: But yeah, her song Guilty with Chris Brown and a

834
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 1: Stafferg is the fucking bop. I got another one. This guy.

835
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: His name is Afghan. Uh. He looks like Ryan. He

836
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:22,880
Speaker 1: does look like Ryan, but he'd be singing his ass off.

837
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 5: Well.

838
00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:25,719
Speaker 3: Ryan is cute though, No I'm not saying I was

839
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 3: just saying, so he fine, is fine, swaggy.

840
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 1: So he his name is Afghan. He has a song

841
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: called Me I'm Dad. Here's a song called Say I'm Sorry,

842
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:45,920
Speaker 1: another fire R and B track. These artists are super

843
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 1: super fire. It's just so many damn. I really had

844
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 1: like a lot screenshoted. There's another artist called Tash. Now,

845
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,719
Speaker 1: she's one of them singers. You know how everybody's like

846
00:47:56,440 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 1: I smoked some weed, man, I sucked some Oh it

847
00:48:01,719 --> 00:48:04,600
Speaker 1: feels so good, Like everybody sings like that right now.

848
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: Everybody everybody seems like that right now. So she's one

849
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 1: of those singers like that. But I like it. It's good,

850
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:12,239
Speaker 1: like she has good things to say. So her name

851
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: is Tash, t A s eight. She has a song

852
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 1: called Rocket that super fire so honestly, so Rocket, so Rocket.

853
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: So my fop of the day is dedicated to all

854
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:24,800
Speaker 1: the indie artists out there that are making music. I

855
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 1: promise you I'm listening. If nobody's listening, I'm listening. I'm

856
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 1: getting my playlist together and I'm gonna drop it March March.

857
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 1: I've been saying this for a long time, but I

858
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 1: promise I'm dropping my playlist and I'm showing all the

859
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 1: indie R and B artists love. I'm gonna drop a

860
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: playlist to the INTR, gonna say this, fire the trail,

861
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 1: be cheese money, make me come.

862
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 3: Go ahead.

863
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 1: Man, We're gonna go over again because we need to

864
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:54,439
Speaker 1: try to him out on the list. And we love

865
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:59,359
Speaker 1: some always if we say somebody's name too many times,

866
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 1: God okay. So my box this week is from Erica Banks.

867
00:49:08,239 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 1: Y'all knowst having a Busty Challenge and the Busty Challenge

868
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: been going wild. So she has a remix feature in

869
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,840
Speaker 1: Travis Sky. Oh and you know we're from Houston. He

870
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 1: loved Travis Scott. First of all, I love Travis Sky.

871
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:28,200
Speaker 1: I like the song did he Kill It? Though I

872
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 1: don't know if he would match on a bust remax.

873
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 1: I think that he did. Will she should put on

874
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:35,440
Speaker 1: that hole and shook the world. I mean, yes, she

875
00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:37,880
Speaker 1: should have. But maybe in the future we'll see that.

876
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,359
Speaker 1: You know, right now, it's probably a few technical difficulties

877
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: with that happening previous. A lot of people don't know

878
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 1: how to just put their pride, decide and shake shit up.

879
00:49:47,920 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 1: Do you know how to do that? Absolutely? Like if

880
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 1: we had a beef with somebody, I would just shake

881
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 1: it up and be like, fuck it, let's do a

882
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:57,480
Speaker 1: cross episode or some ship. She should have shook the

883
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: world up and called Meg. I want to be sitting

884
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:05,239
Speaker 1: on the episode the whole time, like pease anyway, see

885
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 1: see see that's why. So shout out to Erica Banks,

886
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 1: Travis Scott. That's like one of my He's in my

887
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 1: top five. Also, when you did Jazzmine Sullivant album, I

888
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:20,560
Speaker 1: don't know why you're touching me. You're making me nervous

889
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,880
Speaker 1: because you kissed me last time. I wasn't ready for that,

890
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 1: so I gotta watch you for the rest of the show.

891
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:30,480
Speaker 1: But you like you're still a little turned on. That's

892
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 1: why you don't want me to touch you. I'm sorry.

893
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:40,439
Speaker 1: I apologize anyway. So when you you are drunk, No bitch,

894
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 1: you fucking trippy because I am. Anyway, when Jazz Miss Sullivan,

895
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 1: when you talked about her album, did you talk about

896
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 1: the song pick up your Feeling? Yes, oh my god

897
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 1: about it. I don't pick up your feelings. That sounded

898
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:04,000
Speaker 1: just like you didn't. But it was a good attune. Yes,

899
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:06,360
Speaker 1: pick up your feelings. That whole album was good. Like

900
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:09,400
Speaker 1: I said, y'all, legs turned on. Now she swear, I'm drunk.

901
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 1: It's crazy. That's what you gotta. I'm gonna I'm gonna

902
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:21,160
Speaker 1: make Oh, you gotta turn the tables. I'm practicing. T

903
00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 1: give me confused to get in my mental Okay. So

904
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:30,839
Speaker 1: y'all know every week we break down a song. I'm

905
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 1: excited to break this one down. Are you ready? Yea ahead.

906
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 1: So y'all, I know if you got some parents who

907
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 1: like you know, was born in the seventies, born in

908
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: the sixties, I was born in sixty six, born in

909
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:48,120
Speaker 1: the sixties, born in the seventies. You know about my

910
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:51,879
Speaker 1: girl baby right, A true Miami legend days County shout

911
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 1: out today, County, the original city grew the original city girl.

912
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,399
Speaker 1: So y'all know about some bitty Right. Betty Right had

913
00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: the bibe. She did amazing clean up woman. I ain't

914
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,800
Speaker 1: no clue. I ain't a clean up woman either, but

915
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,319
Speaker 1: you know, Betty had had a bob. So this one

916
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: specific song, I really do fuck with this song. It's

917
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 1: called After the Pain by Betty Right. And I'm gonna

918
00:52:17,040 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 1: say the lyrics and I want Lix to energect you know,

919
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 1: and tell me what she thinks they mean.

920
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:24,120
Speaker 3: Right.

921
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 1: So this part of the song, she was actually just talking.

922
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 1: She said, yeah, I know you laughing, those of you

923
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 1: who heard pain, because she got a song called pain.

924
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 1: I don't know if you heard no pain, no game. Okay,

925
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:41,040
Speaker 1: so she got a song. So she was like those

926
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 1: of you who heard pain, Yeah, you're right, I sure did.

927
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 1: I said I would never take him back again. Well,

928
00:52:47,640 --> 00:52:50,360
Speaker 1: it's a woman's prorogety to change her mind is in it.

929
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 1: But we all do it all the time. Don't laugh.

930
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,800
Speaker 1: You've probably done the same thing too. It's this that

931
00:52:56,920 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: you know me and I don't know you period period.

932
00:53:03,719 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 1: Go ahead, leg speak on it. So let me say

933
00:53:06,360 --> 00:53:10,920
Speaker 1: that y'all be putting us on this pedestal, but the

934
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:19,320
Speaker 1: we get tripped up to my my bad like that

935
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:22,759
Speaker 1: shit happened, not the Jack the jack Keys version. But

936
00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:25,759
Speaker 1: I say this a lot of times women we like

937
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 1: to be like, oh, bitch, you stupid. That could never

938
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:31,440
Speaker 1: be me. It could bitch, It could never be you

939
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:33,480
Speaker 1: because you could never pull this. First of it could

940
00:53:33,480 --> 00:53:35,560
Speaker 1: never be you because she would never could never have

941
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:38,399
Speaker 1: this man, first of all. But second of all, we've

942
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 1: all been played. Holly Berry's been played, Beyonce's been played,

943
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:48,719
Speaker 1: Jennifer Aniston has been played, Jennifer Lopez. You know what

944
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: I'm saying, everybody has been playing. It don't matter what

945
00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 1: what it's just you know, it's right. It's not the

946
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: best way. But like she said, it's gonna have prerogaters

947
00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:00,919
Speaker 1: to change her mind, isn't it. Sometimes if you feel

948
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:03,640
Speaker 1: if my nigga sorry, he said, he's sorry, bitch, and

949
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:05,960
Speaker 1: that's not in your business. And you know me, but

950
00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 1: I probably don't know you. So she also said, you

951
00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:13,640
Speaker 1: know one thing Tom has taught me that having a

952
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 1: piece of a man is better than having no man

953
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 1: at all. All Right, Betty, So you had me in

954
00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 1: a good part. You had me in the first half, Betty,

955
00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:27,399
Speaker 1: but go ahead, Okay, I thought you was gonna speak Okay,

956
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:29,359
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna just take what I got and work

957
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:32,800
Speaker 1: with it. You understand what I mean, No, bitch, I don't.

958
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 1: And don't you remember thinking back just a few years,

959
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 1: when people used to try to help you stay together

960
00:54:38,680 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: they find out you on the verge of breaking up.

961
00:54:41,040 --> 00:54:42,960
Speaker 1: They used to cook up a little food and throw

962
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: a little party and whisper things in your ear, like, nah,

963
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into We're gonna get it to this

964
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:52,439
Speaker 1: part in a minute. Let me tell y'all something. Never

965
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 1: accept a piece of anybody. Be And if you're not

966
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 1: giving him a piece of you, you don't take a

967
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:00,680
Speaker 1: piece of him. If you get him all of you,

968
00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:04,960
Speaker 1: he need to give you all of him. Oh, let

969
00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:08,040
Speaker 1: me tell you something. She said, having a piece of

970
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 1: man is better than having no man at all. No,

971
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:12,239
Speaker 1: having no man at all is better than having the

972
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 1: piece of a man. Now, that's why you because let

973
00:55:19,560 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 1: me tell you something. To catch me and I'm not

974
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 1: taking this ship. You can't focus. Shut up. Just the

975
00:55:29,680 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 1: goddamn that is what you be doing to me. You

976
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 1: be singing in the big round. I'm trying to get

977
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 1: some bag round because I felt like there was a

978
00:55:41,960 --> 00:55:49,840
Speaker 1: run into you yesterday literally starts in my right it

979
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:53,520
Speaker 1: started to hit me. Now you're not with me. I

980
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: realized I made a mistake. That's how he sings. That

981
00:55:58,680 --> 00:56:01,440
Speaker 1: song always reminds me of the episode of the Game

982
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: when Millenie and Derwin got married. Okay, come on, let's go. Anyways,

983
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 1: so this is the next part. Don't blame mister Charlie.

984
00:56:11,400 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 2: Mister Charlie is just the man, and he's doing the

985
00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:21,680
Speaker 2: best he can. I heard him say, don't blame mister Charlie.

986
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 2: Mister Charlie is just the man and he's doing the

987
00:56:26,800 --> 00:56:27,839
Speaker 2: best he can.

988
00:56:28,280 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: Well, the best that you can't do enough. The best

989
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 1: that you're doing is not good enough. I'm sorry. I'm

990
00:56:32,960 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 1: not taking I'm let me tell you something, I am

991
00:56:38,239 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 1: not accepting. If the best that you can do is

992
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:47,000
Speaker 1: not good enough, then it's not fucking Charlie. Charlie is

993
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 1: just the man and he doing the best that he can. Y'all. Now,

994
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:52,759
Speaker 1: if y'all watched the remember we did the eighty five

995
00:56:52,840 --> 00:56:55,480
Speaker 1: sot y'all, I told the story about mister Charles. My

996
00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:58,239
Speaker 1: great auntie used today the nigga name miss and he

997
00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 1: wasn't ship. I did, I did, I was like my

998
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:07,919
Speaker 1: uncle recipes to both of them. Missus Charles, you wasn't

999
00:57:07,920 --> 00:57:12,200
Speaker 1: ship and you was playing my auntie a cross roads.

1000
00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:14,839
Speaker 1: You ain't gonna be lonely because these heads gonna meet

1001
00:57:14,880 --> 00:57:17,400
Speaker 1: you at the do I used to have. I used

1002
00:57:17,440 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 1: to have a neighbor named mister Charles, and he did too.

1003
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:23,000
Speaker 1: So obviously that says nothing about what I'm sad. He

1004
00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:25,920
Speaker 1: say something about mister Charlie. They not she I'm not.

1005
00:57:26,120 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 1: I'm not playing with it. If your best is not

1006
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:30,800
Speaker 1: up to part, it's not good enough. So Betty right,

1007
00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 1: you wrong again? Okay, so the last line she said,

1008
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 1: that's why I still love you like I do, though

1009
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:47,400
Speaker 1: you still do me like you do. No, damn, Betty right,

1010
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna turn you out. Betty Right, you ain't right.

1011
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:57,280
Speaker 1: Bet It wrong. This is the name of the Ampato

1012
00:57:57,560 --> 00:58:04,080
Speaker 1: because bed Hey, you was wrong. After you do me

1013
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:06,640
Speaker 1: like you do, I'm about to start doing you like

1014
00:58:06,720 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: you fucking do me. You can the bitch up, baby,

1015
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 1: because Betty you are Betty Betty, Betty, No man place

1016
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:23,560
Speaker 1: my bet on you. No, Yeah, Betty, Betty want that bullshit? Betty?

1017
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:29,040
Speaker 1: You want that bullshitting Betty bullshitting Betty, Alright, what okay?

1018
00:58:29,120 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 1: So now we're gonna get into the question segment of

1019
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 1: the show. I said, sex men, steady egg, you're talking

1020
00:58:35,280 --> 00:58:45,080
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1021
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,520
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1022
00:58:47,600 --> 00:58:49,720
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1048
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:08,480
Speaker 1: you date a guy if you knew he had penis

1049
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:11,959
Speaker 1: enlargement surgery? Would you look at him funny? And would

1050
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:18,840
Speaker 1: you ever date a fan? Honestly, I feel like I

1051
01:00:18,960 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 1: can't judge you. I don't enhance this ass. If you

1052
01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 1: don't enhance that dick? Who am I? Who are me

1053
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:27,840
Speaker 1: to judge? Who are me to judge? Honest can I

1054
01:00:27,960 --> 01:00:30,720
Speaker 1: see it? I mean, as long as it don't look

1055
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 1: weird and weird, I don't care. I wouldn't care either,

1056
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 1: because we even got to have a conversation about it. Yeah,

1057
01:00:36,880 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 1: we don't have to talk about it. If you don't

1058
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 1: want to ask questions about my ass, I ain't gonna

1059
01:00:40,200 --> 01:00:42,640
Speaker 1: ask a questions about do it getout? Ask me where

1060
01:00:42,640 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 1: the square from from? Hey? Do it work? As long

1061
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 1: as it works clean on the period? Would you look

1062
01:00:59,640 --> 01:01:02,360
Speaker 1: at him know? I wouldn't. And would you ever date

1063
01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:05,480
Speaker 1: a fan? I feel like one time I want to

1064
01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:07,680
Speaker 1: date with a person and I didn't know he was

1065
01:01:07,720 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 1: a fan, and then it came out that he was

1066
01:01:09,400 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 1: a fan. So no, I would never date somebody who

1067
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't, like, yeah, listen to your ship, like

1068
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:19,240
Speaker 1: you cool? But not somebody is like, oh my god,

1069
01:01:19,480 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 1: well I would date somebody that's aware you aware? I

1070
01:01:23,680 --> 01:01:26,040
Speaker 1: would definitely. I don't have an issue dating somebody that's

1071
01:01:26,080 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 1: aware of what I do for a living because I

1072
01:01:27,600 --> 01:01:29,960
Speaker 1: actually prefer that, Like I want you to know what

1073
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:31,320
Speaker 1: I do for a living and I want you to

1074
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:33,120
Speaker 1: be okay with it because I feel like it takes

1075
01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 1: a certain type of man to deal with that. But

1076
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 1: somebody that a fan, No, absolutely not. So somebody said,

1077
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:48,560
Speaker 1: hey big mam, big mama, but why you say dread name.

1078
01:01:48,600 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 1: You can't say hey big man, Andrea. I know that

1079
01:01:53,640 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: y'all don't like to read these long questions. So how

1080
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:58,360
Speaker 1: the fuck do you ask for money from these bbbs.

1081
01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:01,280
Speaker 1: I'm turning twenty one on February thirteenth, and we'll be

1082
01:02:01,360 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 1: moving to Austin soon. I come and hung out with

1083
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:07,360
Speaker 1: friends in atl so often that I have been around

1084
01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 1: and seeing some real bdbs. Truly, I know that I

1085
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: shouldn't be scared, because I mean 'all shouldn't be scared

1086
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:16,880
Speaker 1: because these men ask for whatever. But as a girl

1087
01:02:17,560 --> 01:02:20,160
Speaker 1: just getting into the BDB world, I sometimes don't know

1088
01:02:20,240 --> 01:02:22,160
Speaker 1: how to approach it or say it in a way

1089
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 1: where I don't make it seem like that's all that

1090
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:27,400
Speaker 1: I want from them, even though I do, help me,

1091
01:02:28,040 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 1: help us. She's an Aquarius, you know, I be in

1092
01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 1: a sign, so her birthday February thirteenth. Okay, girl, you

1093
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 1: an Aquarius like you like me, y'all kind of be

1094
01:02:40,640 --> 01:02:44,440
Speaker 1: a little heartless, So that's why you just want the money,

1095
01:02:44,760 --> 01:02:46,800
Speaker 1: So just ask for it. That's what I was about

1096
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:49,040
Speaker 1: to say. Oh, I feel like if you didn't want

1097
01:02:49,040 --> 01:02:51,360
Speaker 1: a man and he has an excess amount of money,

1098
01:02:52,080 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 1: let me tell y'all something I don't think y'all realize

1099
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 1: you're twenty one. You don't have an enormous amount of

1100
01:02:59,520 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 1: money right now. So the type of money you want,

1101
01:03:03,280 --> 01:03:05,320
Speaker 1: I would say, like if a nigga sent you two

1102
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:07,840
Speaker 1: three bands right now, you would be like damn, because

1103
01:03:07,840 --> 01:03:09,919
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. Like when I was that age

1104
01:03:09,920 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 1: and a nigga sent me that money, I'll be like damn.

1105
01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:14,000
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Well, absolutely, because also not

1106
01:03:14,080 --> 01:03:16,920
Speaker 1: even about having an enormous amount of money. But as

1107
01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:20,280
Speaker 1: twenty one, you don't have no real responsibilities eggs, So

1108
01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 1: I can tell you this really gotcha if you sucking

1109
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:28,480
Speaker 1: with a BDB. You have to realize these niggas are millionaires, millionaires,

1110
01:03:29,120 --> 01:03:32,360
Speaker 1: so to send you one thousand dollars, two thousand dollars,

1111
01:03:32,440 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 1: three thousand dollars, that's not even something that they blinking at.

1112
01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:41,040
Speaker 1: That's not even something that is uh. They spend that

1113
01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 1: when they fucking go to eat out with their homeboys. Okay,

1114
01:03:45,120 --> 01:03:47,200
Speaker 1: so you have to realize that the sub That's what

1115
01:03:47,280 --> 01:03:49,360
Speaker 1: a lot of the women need to realize. The stuff

1116
01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:51,800
Speaker 1: that you're asking for is not going to put this

1117
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:55,560
Speaker 1: man in any bind of any kind. So you should

1118
01:03:55,600 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 1: never be like feeling embarrassed or feeling some type of

1119
01:03:58,920 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 1: way to be like, oh, Hey, I got this going on,

1120
01:04:01,880 --> 01:04:03,480
Speaker 1: or I got let him know what you got going on,

1121
01:04:03,800 --> 01:04:06,720
Speaker 1: be honest, that's all. What one thing I'll say about me?

1122
01:04:06,920 --> 01:04:09,040
Speaker 1: Why you talk to I'll be like, oh, I got

1123
01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 1: this going on, I gotta record, or I gotta do

1124
01:04:11,320 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 1: this and I can't go to work. He'd be like,

1125
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:16,160
Speaker 1: I got you and my younger days, I just asked

1126
01:04:16,280 --> 01:04:19,680
Speaker 1: for everything that I want, Like if I want some shoes,

1127
01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:21,760
Speaker 1: if I want a purse, whatever the fuck I want,

1128
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask for this sheep. Now that I'm trying

1129
01:04:24,280 --> 01:04:27,160
Speaker 1: to be more intentional with my dating, I don't be

1130
01:04:27,240 --> 01:04:29,840
Speaker 1: necessarily asking for she But also I'm not gonna lie.

1131
01:04:29,960 --> 01:04:31,360
Speaker 1: Me and Lake starting to get to a point to

1132
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:34,160
Speaker 1: where it's like, truly, if I wanted a purse, I

1133
01:04:34,200 --> 01:04:37,720
Speaker 1: could just go buy this shoe. So you know it's

1134
01:04:37,760 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 1: not about that for me anymore. But when I was

1135
01:04:39,640 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 1: younger your age, I'm just gonna ask that nigga, like, cause,

1136
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:46,120
Speaker 1: what the fuck is up? I want some money, I

1137
01:04:46,280 --> 01:04:48,680
Speaker 1: want some shoes. I want you to take me on

1138
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: a trip. If he not about that, then I was

1139
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:54,880
Speaker 1: good at all scut out. I was scud at all

1140
01:04:55,000 --> 01:04:59,000
Speaker 1: on that nigga, because why not. I'm twenty one days.

1141
01:05:00,200 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 1: I'm a bad beach. I got a lot of sheet

1142
01:05:01,880 --> 01:05:03,960
Speaker 1: going on for myself. I don't have no kids, I

1143
01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:06,360
Speaker 1: don't have no baggage. I don't have bad credit yet

1144
01:05:06,360 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 1: because I don't have no credit. So it's what I want.

1145
01:05:11,760 --> 01:05:14,160
Speaker 1: It's gonna be men that tell you yes because they

1146
01:05:14,200 --> 01:05:17,840
Speaker 1: want you that bad. So absolutely, just ask, just ask,

1147
01:05:18,760 --> 01:05:21,720
Speaker 1: all right? Question three? It says I've been listening for

1148
01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:23,360
Speaker 1: a year and a half and I'm so proud of

1149
01:05:23,400 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 1: you both and your endeavors. My question is, how can

1150
01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:29,120
Speaker 1: I be more confident? I had to do a survey

1151
01:05:29,280 --> 01:05:32,040
Speaker 1: practice for my job on what personality traits we give

1152
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 1: off positive and negative, and I decided to survey two

1153
01:05:35,320 --> 01:05:37,680
Speaker 1: of the guys that I'm talking to. Mind you, I

1154
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:40,360
Speaker 1: really want to be with either one. Both guys said

1155
01:05:40,400 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 1: that I was very ambitious, funny, humble, go get her,

1156
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:46,640
Speaker 1: et cetera, but that I could definitely be more confident

1157
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:49,280
Speaker 1: and own the room and be less reserved. I found

1158
01:05:49,320 --> 01:05:51,960
Speaker 1: it interesting that they both said the same thing, What

1159
01:05:52,120 --> 01:05:53,960
Speaker 1: tips do you have for me to be more confident

1160
01:05:54,040 --> 01:05:57,720
Speaker 1: around men? I'm pretty talkative, talkative, so that's not so

1161
01:05:57,800 --> 01:06:00,320
Speaker 1: it's not that I'm quiet. I believe that i'm and

1162
01:06:00,400 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 1: I have a cool personality, but sometimes shy when I'm

1163
01:06:03,000 --> 01:06:08,120
Speaker 1: dating a guy until we are together. Just be yourself.

1164
01:06:08,440 --> 01:06:11,080
Speaker 1: You have to become comfortable with being yourself. But I

1165
01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 1: think that that also comes with age. I don't think

1166
01:06:13,640 --> 01:06:16,280
Speaker 1: that you said you didn't say how old you were,

1167
01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:18,360
Speaker 1: but I think that that comes with age, because I

1168
01:06:18,480 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 1: mean when I was younger, I definitely thought it was

1169
01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 1: like this certain box that I had to fit in

1170
01:06:24,920 --> 01:06:27,440
Speaker 1: to deal with certain type of men, you know what

1171
01:06:27,520 --> 01:06:31,600
Speaker 1: I mean, to feel like they felt comfortable around me

1172
01:06:31,840 --> 01:06:36,120
Speaker 1: and I wasn't doing too quote unquote much, but I

1173
01:06:36,400 --> 01:06:40,640
Speaker 1: am too much. I'm alike. So I want to date

1174
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 1: somebody who understands that I'm a light and I want

1175
01:06:42,680 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 1: to be able to be myself around you. So I

1176
01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 1: just always my best policy is just always be yourself, right,

1177
01:06:48,320 --> 01:06:51,120
Speaker 1: And I agree with that because I think I struggled

1178
01:06:51,160 --> 01:06:52,720
Speaker 1: with that. I talked about that even when I first

1179
01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:54,840
Speaker 1: moved to Atlanta, because I dated a guy who told

1180
01:06:54,880 --> 01:06:57,960
Speaker 1: me I needed to shut up. So I feel like,

1181
01:06:58,320 --> 01:07:01,320
Speaker 1: look at you, you have too much. That made you

1182
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:04,000
Speaker 1: a lot of money. Well, I'll say this, I definitely

1183
01:07:04,120 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 1: think that you just need to be confident in who

1184
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:08,280
Speaker 1: you are and stand by that. If you're a shy

1185
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:14,760
Speaker 1: person and you're more reserved, that's okay you you are.

1186
01:07:14,960 --> 01:07:18,560
Speaker 1: Don't don't don't water yourself down right, or don't like

1187
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:21,200
Speaker 1: you have to over exert to try to be like, oh,

1188
01:07:21,240 --> 01:07:24,080
Speaker 1: they feel like I should be doing more right, don't

1189
01:07:24,120 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 1: be trying to do the most just because you feel

1190
01:07:25,720 --> 01:07:27,560
Speaker 1: like that's what they want from me. Because the thing

1191
01:07:27,880 --> 01:07:31,280
Speaker 1: is whatever you're putting out, and however you're making yourself seen,

1192
01:07:31,360 --> 01:07:33,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to keep putting that out. I think

1193
01:07:33,920 --> 01:07:36,960
Speaker 1: that's what people feel. To realize regard for so long,

1194
01:07:37,120 --> 01:07:41,800
Speaker 1: being was like when are we going out? But really,

1195
01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:45,400
Speaker 1: Lex had to get me to a point to where

1196
01:07:45,400 --> 01:07:51,880
Speaker 1: I realized that because she used to always tell me, like, girl,

1197
01:07:52,040 --> 01:07:54,200
Speaker 1: when you be around niggas, like you just really be

1198
01:07:54,360 --> 01:07:57,560
Speaker 1: like you do hate that. She used to hate that.

1199
01:07:57,640 --> 01:08:01,840
Speaker 1: She used to be like, be yourself. Why did I

1200
01:08:01,920 --> 01:08:05,240
Speaker 1: do this? Shits now? Why do we mean stuttering? What

1201
01:08:05,320 --> 01:08:13,320
Speaker 1: do you mean now? Anyways? But leg has to be

1202
01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:16,240
Speaker 1: like you always do that when you get around me,

1203
01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:19,280
Speaker 1: and and it's so weird because it's like you're totally

1204
01:08:19,400 --> 01:08:21,679
Speaker 1: not like that, Like you're funny, you have a great

1205
01:08:21,720 --> 01:08:24,160
Speaker 1: person that be. You need to show people that. And

1206
01:08:24,320 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 1: now I feel like I'm way more comfortable with myself.

1207
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:28,880
Speaker 1: But it also has come with age, because, like I said,

1208
01:08:29,000 --> 01:08:31,080
Speaker 1: she used to tell me that, but I still was like, bitch,

1209
01:08:31,080 --> 01:08:32,519
Speaker 1: I'm gonna still do it. I feel like I need

1210
01:08:32,600 --> 01:08:36,679
Speaker 1: to do to play my part. But as you get older,

1211
01:08:37,240 --> 01:08:40,120
Speaker 1: you start to realize that the best policy is just,

1212
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:43,479
Speaker 1: you know, being yourself. Being either a person gonna fuck

1213
01:08:43,520 --> 01:08:48,000
Speaker 1: with you, were they not fucking? Next question. I was

1214
01:08:48,080 --> 01:08:50,280
Speaker 1: on YouTube trying to watch your podcast and a video

1215
01:08:50,360 --> 01:08:54,280
Speaker 1: popped up about Drea being adopted. My daughter is adopted.

1216
01:08:54,439 --> 01:08:56,720
Speaker 1: I'm thirty five and wanted a baby, but couldn't have

1217
01:08:56,760 --> 01:08:59,679
Speaker 1: a baby because of health reasons. Last year in September,

1218
01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:02,040
Speaker 1: one of my cousins told me she's pregnant and can't

1219
01:09:02,080 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 1: afford to keep the baby because she already has two kids.

1220
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 1: So I asked her if I can adopt the baby,

1221
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:10,519
Speaker 1: and she said yes. Happiest day of my life last

1222
01:09:10,640 --> 01:09:14,840
Speaker 1: May fifteenth, tourists. I became a mother. Wait, so that

1223
01:09:14,920 --> 01:09:19,160
Speaker 1: means she's the baby's a tourist. Oh like me. Now,

1224
01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:21,880
Speaker 1: I don't know when I should tell my daughter that

1225
01:09:22,000 --> 01:09:24,439
Speaker 1: my cousin is her biological mother. What age do you

1226
01:09:24,479 --> 01:09:26,120
Speaker 1: think it is a good age to tell her? Well,

1227
01:09:26,160 --> 01:09:29,000
Speaker 1: that kind of sound like my situation, because my cousin

1228
01:09:29,560 --> 01:09:34,040
Speaker 1: is my biological mother. My parents told me when I

1229
01:09:34,200 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 1: was like four or five, like once I was old

1230
01:09:36,920 --> 01:09:39,840
Speaker 1: enough to comprehend what was going on and that they

1231
01:09:39,920 --> 01:09:43,000
Speaker 1: weren't my biological parents, they told me about the situation.

1232
01:09:43,760 --> 01:09:47,840
Speaker 1: And now, being twenty nine, I appreciate them a lot

1233
01:09:47,960 --> 01:09:51,280
Speaker 1: for that because I feel like, if you're honest with

1234
01:09:51,400 --> 01:09:54,480
Speaker 1: your kids from day one, it's never no room for resentment.

1235
01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:58,920
Speaker 1: Not saying that your child won't have any resentment, because

1236
01:09:58,920 --> 01:10:02,439
Speaker 1: I feel like being a adopted comes with resentment in general,

1237
01:10:03,000 --> 01:10:06,640
Speaker 1: because you're just always gonna wonder, like what if my

1238
01:10:06,760 --> 01:10:09,120
Speaker 1: life was like this, or like what if things turned

1239
01:10:09,160 --> 01:10:13,360
Speaker 1: out differently? How is my real how are my real parents?

1240
01:10:13,400 --> 01:10:14,880
Speaker 1: Well my life would have been like if I grew

1241
01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:16,599
Speaker 1: up with my real parents. You're always gonna have those

1242
01:10:16,600 --> 01:10:20,080
Speaker 1: type of thoughts, but you won't have no But I

1243
01:10:20,120 --> 01:10:22,639
Speaker 1: can say that your child won't have any resentment towards

1244
01:10:22,800 --> 01:10:26,200
Speaker 1: you as the adopted parent, cause like me, I have

1245
01:10:26,479 --> 01:10:29,240
Speaker 1: a lot of resentment and issues that I like talk

1246
01:10:29,479 --> 01:10:33,120
Speaker 1: to my therapist about but none of them really have

1247
01:10:33,280 --> 01:10:35,920
Speaker 1: to do with my real mom, if that makes sense,

1248
01:10:36,000 --> 01:10:39,719
Speaker 1: as far as me being adopted, all of my issues

1249
01:10:39,880 --> 01:10:44,360
Speaker 1: about me being adopted, or with my biological mom because

1250
01:10:44,360 --> 01:10:47,000
Speaker 1: I feel like she ain't keeping real, you know. I

1251
01:10:47,040 --> 01:10:49,280
Speaker 1: feel like my parents that raised me always have been

1252
01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:52,800
Speaker 1: honest and was honest. So I feel like so the

1253
01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 1: advice you would give her would be that y'all all

1254
01:10:56,320 --> 01:10:59,880
Speaker 1: have a conversation with her together, like her biological mother

1255
01:11:00,200 --> 01:11:02,479
Speaker 1: and her adoptive mother, whenever they're ready to tell her,

1256
01:11:02,520 --> 01:11:05,679
Speaker 1: have a conversation together. No, because that's not what happened

1257
01:11:05,720 --> 01:11:08,960
Speaker 1: with me. I think that as her her parents that

1258
01:11:09,080 --> 01:11:11,280
Speaker 1: adopted her, you should have the conversation with her when

1259
01:11:11,320 --> 01:11:13,960
Speaker 1: she's able to comprehend. So I would say, like four

1260
01:11:14,560 --> 01:11:17,120
Speaker 1: five you, I don't know if you have a husband,

1261
01:11:17,120 --> 01:11:19,560
Speaker 1: because you didn't say that in a message, but you

1262
01:11:19,720 --> 01:11:22,240
Speaker 1: and whoever? Yeah, I mean, would you have felt better

1263
01:11:22,280 --> 01:11:25,080
Speaker 1: if your biological mom was in that conversation when they're

1264
01:11:26,720 --> 01:11:29,360
Speaker 1: you said you could comprehend so well comprehend, but it

1265
01:11:29,360 --> 01:11:31,679
Speaker 1: didn't make no difference. And I feel like that also

1266
01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:35,320
Speaker 1: complicates things because now you got to start processing the

1267
01:11:35,439 --> 01:11:39,040
Speaker 1: fact that like, oh, you had me, but then because

1268
01:11:39,120 --> 01:11:42,040
Speaker 1: like for me, she had me, but then I was

1269
01:11:42,080 --> 01:11:44,479
Speaker 1: around her all the time. So I think that's just

1270
01:11:44,560 --> 01:11:47,360
Speaker 1: a lot for a kid to process. Just tell that

1271
01:11:47,479 --> 01:11:51,280
Speaker 1: she's adopted once she gets older, kind of the same

1272
01:11:51,320 --> 01:11:53,920
Speaker 1: thing with me. Then you could really go in depth.

1273
01:11:55,080 --> 01:11:57,479
Speaker 1: So tell her she's adopted when she's about four or

1274
01:11:57,560 --> 01:12:01,200
Speaker 1: five and she to know. You don't how many TV

1275
01:12:01,320 --> 01:12:04,960
Speaker 1: shows and how many like situations that we've seen where

1276
01:12:05,040 --> 01:12:08,200
Speaker 1: people you know, adopted the child didn't tell the child

1277
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:10,800
Speaker 1: the truth about what was going on. In the end

1278
01:12:10,800 --> 01:12:13,040
Speaker 1: they find out they're adopted from another source and then

1279
01:12:13,080 --> 01:12:15,760
Speaker 1: they hate the parents. You don't want that to happen

1280
01:12:15,840 --> 01:12:18,360
Speaker 1: to you, So just be honest. You know from day one.

1281
01:12:18,400 --> 01:12:20,120
Speaker 1: It's probably gonna be a hard thing to do, but

1282
01:12:20,439 --> 01:12:25,599
Speaker 1: be honest. Okay, So now we are in It's.

1283
01:12:27,240 --> 01:12:27,280
Speaker 4: You.

1284
01:12:29,040 --> 01:12:31,120
Speaker 1: I know that you should. That's not the song we're

1285
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:33,880
Speaker 1: singing to that. Do you want to do the intro?

1286
01:12:33,960 --> 01:12:36,320
Speaker 1: You want me to do this? What you want to do?

1287
01:12:37,720 --> 01:12:40,439
Speaker 1: I'll do the intro? Yeah, because I remember I go okay,

1288
01:12:41,920 --> 01:12:47,760
Speaker 1: am I doing verse one? Y'all ready? Once again, thank

1289
01:12:47,840 --> 01:12:49,920
Speaker 1: y'all for to tell them about this. You gotta give

1290
01:12:49,960 --> 01:12:53,720
Speaker 1: them a little prerequis. When this song came out, I

1291
01:12:53,840 --> 01:12:56,240
Speaker 1: knew I was a whole because I wanted to be

1292
01:12:56,320 --> 01:13:05,400
Speaker 1: on that beach shaking ass, showing the fellas I had all.

1293
01:13:06,960 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 1: Let me tell you what what I felt my soul

1294
01:13:09,360 --> 01:13:12,160
Speaker 1: because he looked at me and he said, this thing

1295
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:16,679
Speaker 1: right here is letting the ladies know what guys talk about.

1296
01:13:17,520 --> 01:13:21,519
Speaker 1: You know, the finer things in life. Check it out?

1297
01:13:21,640 --> 01:13:38,400
Speaker 1: Can you do the can you do the violin? Old

1298
01:13:38,479 --> 01:13:40,880
Speaker 1: address so scandalous, ain't know no of the nigga couldn't

1299
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:43,120
Speaker 1: handle it. See're shaking everything like who's the ish with

1300
01:13:43,200 --> 01:13:45,760
Speaker 1: the looking eyes so devilish? Can say to the hip

1301
01:13:45,800 --> 01:13:48,599
Speaker 1: hop spots, cruise to the cruise connect the do not dirty?

1302
01:13:48,600 --> 01:13:50,760
Speaker 1: And she liked the popper. She was looking, I love guy.

1303
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:54,400
Speaker 1: She had like a trunk trunk was like what what what?

1304
01:13:54,800 --> 01:13:59,439
Speaker 1: Maybe we're but I she had like a true trump

1305
01:13:59,560 --> 01:14:02,400
Speaker 1: trumk thus like what what? What? Hold on?

1306
01:14:04,120 --> 01:14:04,600
Speaker 3: Had me?

1307
01:14:05,000 --> 01:14:12,200
Speaker 1: She ought? I like it when to beat go on,

1308
01:14:12,920 --> 01:14:15,479
Speaker 1: I like it when it beat goun Let me see your.

1309
01:14:15,439 --> 01:14:22,680
Speaker 6: Body, that dress, no skin, legs, no one that the

1310
01:14:22,720 --> 01:14:25,240
Speaker 6: magga can head of legs, shaking that thing like who's

1311
01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:29,639
Speaker 6: with the looking so devilish, like getting with the cruise

1312
01:14:29,680 --> 01:14:32,479
Speaker 6: and cruisnaked just being she liked the bout it.

1313
01:14:32,520 --> 01:14:34,640
Speaker 1: She was living, eat all love God. She had like

1314
01:14:34,720 --> 01:14:38,760
Speaker 1: a true sure god's like what what what? Maybe? But

1315
01:14:40,000 --> 01:14:43,400
Speaker 1: see it again? He had like a shrimp sure guy's

1316
01:14:43,479 --> 01:14:44,479
Speaker 1: like what what what?

1317
01:14:46,760 --> 01:14:47,000
Speaker 6: Lett?

1318
01:14:49,280 --> 01:14:58,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, baby said, I like the way you move that

1319
01:14:58,760 --> 01:15:06,360
Speaker 1: thing seeing your body this nag yo la yoies your breath?

1320
01:15:06,760 --> 01:15:19,880
Speaker 1: YOI please tell me baby baby make like a t

1321
01:15:21,280 --> 01:15:28,000
Speaker 1: That was like, maybe I did sing it again? You

1322
01:15:28,160 --> 01:15:29,759
Speaker 1: you you didn't do your party?

1323
01:15:37,880 --> 01:15:38,400
Speaker 2: Baby?

1324
01:15:40,000 --> 01:15:42,160
Speaker 4: That that.

1325
01:15:47,400 --> 01:15:50,040
Speaker 1: H I ain't never wore a phone and made a

1326
01:15:50,120 --> 01:15:53,960
Speaker 1: nigga go that hard bro that we been wearing the

1327
01:15:54,040 --> 01:15:59,559
Speaker 1: wrong thongs never about me neither. That nigga said, yeah,

1328
01:16:04,600 --> 01:16:06,639
Speaker 1: I ain't never. I ain't never a guy. I never

1329
01:16:06,720 --> 01:16:07,320
Speaker 1: walked in the room.

1330
01:16:07,360 --> 01:16:14,519
Speaker 2: And the nigga was like, yeah, no, Loki, what would

1331
01:16:14,560 --> 01:16:15,080
Speaker 2: you do if.

1332
01:16:15,000 --> 01:16:17,839
Speaker 1: You walked in the room and did I wanna be happy?

1333
01:16:18,960 --> 01:16:22,840
Speaker 1: I would be happy as fun? Can you imagine how

1334
01:16:22,920 --> 01:16:29,080
Speaker 1: good you would feel? Yeah, your father, you don't see

1335
01:16:29,120 --> 01:16:30,240
Speaker 1: your breath?

1336
01:16:30,600 --> 01:16:42,600
Speaker 4: Your niggas baby, Oh mahu is this go.

1337
01:16:47,880 --> 01:16:52,320
Speaker 1: Used to be going? Thank y'all so much was about

1338
01:16:52,360 --> 01:16:52,879
Speaker 1: the pay.

1339
01:16:53,360 --> 01:16:53,640
Speaker 2: That was.

1340
01:16:55,200 --> 01:17:01,760
Speaker 1: The bristone. We'll see y'all next week. Bye bye, y'all. Bob.

1341
01:17:02,040 --> 01:17:04,960
Speaker 1: It's that stick like the stick like grig.

1342
01:17:05,840 --> 01:17:07,479
Speaker 3: Oh, that was one.

1343
01:17:07,760 --> 01:17:10,320
Speaker 1: I know people be watching me showing be like these

1344
01:17:10,840 --> 01:17:15,120
Speaker 1: this fucking wrisk like the is wrong with them. Ay're

1345
01:17:15,120 --> 01:17:17,880
Speaker 1: really a little slow lucky. I'm looking at these lyrics.

1346
01:17:17,920 --> 01:17:22,400
Speaker 1: He really said. He said, your thighs, your knees, your breast,

1347
01:17:22,560 --> 01:17:28,320
Speaker 1: your feet, your knees, bro my knees. That's the Makanise.

1348
01:17:28,600 --> 01:17:31,240
Speaker 1: Bitches been Obviously bitch has been had. The magan ees