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All right, here's Abby Smiers. 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.200 We're here in the doghouse, my friend, my friend, this 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:07.240 is the one doghouse you actually want to be in. 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:10.440 It is a good doghouse. Is full of dogs at 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:13.280 different and different number of dogs, just depending on the 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:15.480 day that we have three right now, they knew we're 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:19.360 talking about probably going to hear them trying to talk 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:23.280 to over the squirrels. There are squirrels that run along 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.720 the top of the fence and that is what they 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:29.960 talk to. So this is their day. Are they hunting 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.200 those squirrels? Are they were protecting? If they want to 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.920 be friends at the squirrels or if they like hate 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:37.440 the squirrels, I don't know. I don't have any answer, 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:40.440 but it's like urgent and there's a lot of squirrels. 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:43.640 It's like an all day thing, all day long. I 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:46.040 think about that sometimes, like I think about dog World 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:49.599 and I think about my dogs and what Sugar gets 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:52.800 fired up about. And I'm like, and she was like 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:56.279 thinking her all about that. It's stress, like real stress. 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.920 And see you can see it. There's another one okay, 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.560 and you can also see my dirty windows. Hey, I 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:05.320 never washed my windows. I don't even know where. How 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:06.640 do you do you have to call someone? I think 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:09.719 you call someone? Being a homeowner, I'm like, how is 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:13.080 there Emmanuel finding a home whatever? My dad is staying 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:15.280 with us. He always comes up with something to do 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:17.160 and I'm like, how do you know to do these things? 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:18.560 And he was like, well, you just do them. I 0:05:18.640 --> 0:05:20.360 was like, but I don't know. One ever told me 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.040 I know. I'm like, what do you how do I know? 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.640 I'm like, should I have? Like he was like, did 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:29.280 you get your unit tuned? I was like, what does 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:31.920 that even? Your unit? What's a unit? What am I tuning? 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.760 I mean, yeah, Dan tunes? What does it mean? Shouldn't 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:38.080 say that word things all the time? Um, I guess 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:40.280 it's like your h v A C unit, which is 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:42.760 your heater. I was supposed to get it tuned twice 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:44.600 a year. It's never been tuned. You're supposed to get 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:46.640 it tuned twice a year. That's what he told me. 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:48.760 How do you find it? H V? How do you 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:53.280 find a heat or tuner? I don't know. I'm telling 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:56.440 you adulting it is. It's so hard. It's a blessing 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:58.000 and I'm great wold to be here, but I'm like, 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:03.960 help help Sarah hotline. I know I was having I'm 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:06.160 trying to remember who I had this conversation with the 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:08.840 other day. Oh, it was a total stranger, a complete stranger. 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:12.400 I was having the conversation. She was visiting from Kansas 0:06:12.440 --> 0:06:15.880 City Nashville, and so since I'm from Kansas City, we 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.160 were discussing that and then her pipes burst at the 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:20.680 house because it was snowing, and and she was like, 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.720 I don't know what to do. And I said, call 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:27.280 your dad, and she was like, I'm going because I was, 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:30.720 I don't have an answer. I don't call your dad. Truly, 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:34.479 it is just like one thing aftergether. We had to 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:36.320 get a new roof right when moved in in a 0:06:36.320 --> 0:06:39.520 new heater. Had no idea. Sorry, you're fine. I had 0:06:39.560 --> 0:06:42.039 no idea that was going to happen, just like, okay, 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.800 wham bam, just kick it right off. Those are expensive things, 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:51.479 expensive things. So how did you get into dogs? Like 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:53.400 when did you first find your big love? And my 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:57.680 big love of dogs and loved dogs dogs have been 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:01.359 I always say that I am convinced that I was 0:07:01.520 --> 0:07:04.760 a dog at some point. Definitely what I don't know. 0:07:05.320 --> 0:07:09.360 I don't know what kind, but mixed. Definitely a mixed 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:13.200 kind of girl. Definitely a hybrid, but I don't know, 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:17.640 like exactly which breed. Definitely not any of the breeds 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:19.640 I have. I don't like that. I don't know. I 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:23.360 don't connect with their personality. I connect with them as beings, 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:28.040 but I don't understand their personal Okay, So Chiefs is 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.080 like we didn't know when we named him Chief that 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:34.440 we were naming him exactly what he should be. Yes, 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:38.000 we were naming him Chief because his rescue name was 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:41.640 Natchez and I wanted to stick with the theme. And 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:43.920 I'm from Kansas City to the Kansas City. Chiefs was 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.560 like Chief perfect. Then his personality came out and he 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:49.600 is the boss as anyone who knows well he thinks 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:52.160 he's a little sergeant. Yes, Joy is actually the boss. 0:07:52.160 --> 0:07:54.800 But Chief has like this big personality and he's just 0:07:54.840 --> 0:08:00.200 like really worked up all the time. He's really work 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:02.640 works up all the time. Our squirrels like one of 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:04.440 the major ones that work him out, So squirrels don't 0:08:04.480 --> 0:08:06.600 bother him. He's just like in his own head. He's 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:09.280 just regularly he's an existential crisis kind of guy, like 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.080 as something is happening in his head. So this is 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:14.400 a white house and he's like on protection lot and 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:16.760 he's just like he is just on edge, and but 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:18.960 it's definitely all in his brain, like he the other 0:08:19.040 --> 0:08:22.600 two will react to like the squirrel outside or like 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:24.880 people walking by the house. He is just like in 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.280 his own head, he's just very angsty as I call 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.720 him okay and then Ghost, I wish that I was Ghost. 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:36.280 Ghost is happy all the time. Why did he was 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:39.719 chained outside for four and a half years through all 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:42.720 the season for all the seasons, chained to other dogs 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:44.440 that were bigger than him, and they would like throw 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:46.199 food at them. So he was really skinny when we 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:48.839 got him because he was fighting everyone else for food. 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:52.720 But despite all of this, he is the happiest dog. 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:55.719 His tail is always wagging. He's obsessed with toys, Like 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.200 when I give him a new toy, he just can't 0:08:58.200 --> 0:09:01.000 believe it. He's overjoyed by it. So I wish that 0:09:01.040 --> 0:09:02.920 I was Ghost. I wish that I was that happy 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:07.640 all the time and so overjoyed by just yes, and 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:11.400 even like when like Chief is being mean to him, 0:09:11.600 --> 0:09:16.240 then he is still so happy. It's like the best enjoy. 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.439 I think if I was one of my dogs, I 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:24.040 would be joy. I am. My personality is one that 0:09:24.120 --> 0:09:28.840 I can like definitely turn on. I get that, and so, 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:34.200 but my heart is very as I wear my homebody 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:37.839 shirt with my heart, and my heart is very introverted. 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.520 But I can turn on my extroverted self. And Joy 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:45.240 doesn't necessarily turn hers on. But she is, I think 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:48.880 me like she is constantly feeling this struggle of like 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:51.240 I love people, I want to be around people, but 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:54.040 I'm terrified of people. So I think Joy and I 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:57.959 are like the closest. I totally get that, Like I 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:01.280 feel like I could be such people person and talk 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:06.160 to anyone. I enjoy people. But does it like deplet time, 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:08.840 deplete your energy? What is it is? I don't know. 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:11.280 I don't know what it is, but it can be 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.600 really depleted, I guess because you want to bring your 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:17.600 best self and you want to like be as great 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:20.720 as you can, and it's honestly like you have to 0:10:20.840 --> 0:10:23.439 drop all like all the other real stuff going on. 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:24.920 You can talk about it, but you just have to 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:29.200 be a thousand per thousand percent and it's hard to 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:31.760 stay on that level or something. I've been trying, I think, 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:34.439 like everyone because it's it's really trendy right now. I've 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:38.280 been trying to understand my angiogram. Talk about it. Whatever 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:42.679 are you to help? Um? And it makes total sense. 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:45.840 I get it, but we I've been really trying to 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:48.839 understand it. And I was posed a question of like 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.680 what I loved about my number and what I hated 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:53.880 about it? To me about that, and it actually made 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:55.960 me really emotional when I started to think about it. 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:57.959 But it goes back to what we were just talking about. 0:10:58.080 --> 0:11:01.160 Is I love that I my number because I think 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:04.719 it makes me very empathetic and compassionate. UM, And I 0:11:04.760 --> 0:11:07.720 love that part of it, but also it makes me 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:11.320 have a crippling fear of not being liked. I get that, 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:15.320 like so crippling and when I was like processing that 0:11:15.360 --> 0:11:17.600 because because you want to help people, Yeah, and your 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:20.600 biggest fear would be that all your intentions and your 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:23.960 love is like for not if people don't want like 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.720 and I'm trying, when you're just focused on it like 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:28.839 that's the other part of the two is kind of 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:32.840 giving yourself way more than you are probably getting in return, 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:36.120 which I can handle. But then I think that ties 0:11:36.160 --> 0:11:41.400 into me being fearful of being disliked, and that's and 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:45.760 so I think that is the thing that maybe makes 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:48.720 putting yourself out there really depleted, because if I'm really 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:52.560 afraid of not getting that in return or someone not 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:54.480 liking who I am, then I might just want to 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:56.680 retreat and be like here I am in my house. 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.840 But that was so off topic from your original question. 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:02.800 How do I get into joy? Though? I feel like 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:05.160 my spirit animals are my dogs too, like they reflect 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:09.480 your personality. How do you? Okay? So I'm a four 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:11.840 on the Ange of Theram and it's the romantic and 0:12:12.960 --> 0:12:14.760 it's I feel like it's the worst one I could 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.280 see that because I mean, it's such a beautiful one. 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:19.760 But it's such a beautiful one. It's all about this 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:24.400 intense passion, and so when the passion is all positive 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:30.800 and going great, I'm electric. Electric. The world is magical, sunshine, butterflies. 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:34.520 Literally you can't even remember a bad thing, And I 0:12:34.600 --> 0:12:38.360 love that when I am in the opposite, like the 0:12:38.400 --> 0:12:40.640 more of this, when you're in your unhealthy part of 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.520 your never, like when I'm like dealing with something or 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:47.560 like super emotional, it's like the world is over. I 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:49.480 don't know how I'm gonna get out of here. How 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:53.560 do I get better? It's raining all the time. So 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:56.120 interesting though, when you like when someone puts it into 0:12:56.200 --> 0:12:57.880 words for you, and then you feel like you kind 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:00.840 of understand yourself a little bit more. But just try 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:03.600 to live in the healthy part of your number, trying 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:05.640 to do so when you're in your unhealthy part of 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:08.520 the two. So, say you're at the massive party and 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.720 like all these people are there that you love, but 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:13.000 it's like, oh gosh, okay, I gotta turn my my 0:13:13.080 --> 0:13:15.800 socializing on what is your fear? And then how do 0:13:15.840 --> 0:13:18.360 you overcome her fear? So my fear in that, I 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.280 guess always just stems back to not being liked for 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.880 who I am, and so I think sometimes I and 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:26.600 I don't know if this is part of my number 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:29.079 or not. I haven't I don't know. I haven't gotten 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:32.240 to that part. But I think that sometimes I fall 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:35.880 into a habit of being whatever the people around me 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.199 want me to be. That I can do that too. Yeah, 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:41.560 And so I'm just like, because I want to be liked, 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:44.560 I'm trying to be whatever that group of people or 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.319 that person needs me to be. But that's something that 0:13:47.520 --> 0:13:51.040 I always say to Dan and something I'm so grateful 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:55.839 of him because he does not care. We're getting Okay, guys, 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.440 we're getting a FedEx package and it is about to 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.800 be madness in my house. Okay, dogs gone are going 0:14:01.840 --> 0:14:04.800 to go, so just be prepared for that. Okay, Okay, 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:09.480 here we go. Send many of dogs. They might guys. 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:23.200 You tell him he's boss. Al alright, guys, I think 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:27.440 they're on. Are they going back to the truck? Are 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:37.520 go ahead? Good job, dogs, you scared them away. You 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:41.360 did great o that that timble. You did your job. 0:14:41.760 --> 0:14:46.160 You go back in your chief. I'm very proud of you. 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:49.040 You're a great regulator. Joy and Ghost went a step 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:52.480 up there. Did I need to sign for that or 0:14:52.560 --> 0:14:54.880 did they get back in there? Back in Okay, So 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:57.240 maybe I didn't need to sign for it. Okay, nobody's 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:58.960 like they would have. I feel like they would have 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:03.400 stuck around. Okay, but that's all right. We'll come back tomorrow. 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.520 I'll check. Okay, let's check. Okay, I'll just do a 0:15:06.520 --> 0:15:11.640 little quick check. Yeah, yeah, you never know. I mean, 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:17.680 I'm always excited when I get a package. Okay, great, Okay, 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:22.400 it's here. Oh. This is why I like this podcast, 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:25.040 because we're doing real life and I feel like it's 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:29.320 fun to get a look into people's worlds, like Abby 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:35.080 with the dog world. Okay, she's signing. She loves it. 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:39.920 They're all best friends. Oh that was a party. Okay, 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:45.400 party with the ups and fed Actually, yes, great, so 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:49.440 they needed you to sign They just knew the name. 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:52.720 It was uncomfortable and we just had a little love 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:56.000 session about tequila. No way, this is that weird, and 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.560 people like, yeah, we've been having a discussion of maybe 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:00.800 we should not be addressing things in our name anymore, 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:03.280 and that might have been the answer. But it's okay. 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:05.000 They were very nice. I love the song. They were 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:07.840 just listening to it, speaking of Okay, we're gonna come 0:16:07.840 --> 0:16:10.280 back to the Instagram because I want to know about this. Okay, party, 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:12.400 because I want to know speaking of your husband, Dan, 0:16:12.600 --> 0:16:15.720 Dana J had the biggest freaking song ever this year, Tequila, 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:19.920 I want to talk about it. We'll talk about it, Okay, 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:22.200 Back to the party. Back to the part. So Dan, 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:24.560 that's what we were discussing. That is something that I 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:28.240 always tell him that I am so grateful for from 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:31.160 him because he kind of this was something like I 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:33.120 think a struggle that I dealt with for so long 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.200 ways being what everyone else wanted to me to be, 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:40.840 and Dan does is so good about just being himself. 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:43.960 And of course he cares um very much, especially when 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.040 it comes to his art and his craft, and he 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.440 like definitely cares in that respect what people think. But 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.720 in terms of like I don't know someone like if 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.400 someone says something negative on social media, I'm like affected 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:57.800 by it for the rest of my life. He never 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:01.000 thinks about it ever one time. His number UM, He's 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:03.720 never taken it, but I would guess he's a three 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:07.119 very I'm very confident that he's a three. Three is 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:11.720 the achiever UM, and they're kind of validation is by 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:16.600 being um commended for what they have accomplished. Like their 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:18.760 their work or their art or their craft or whatever 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:21.080 it is. So I'm very confident that he is very 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:24.240 strongly a three. But I'm gonna make him take it definitely. Okay, 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:27.199 So how do you handle your fear your helper? Your 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:31.840 helper negative popping up? It's flaring, You're unhealthy helpers flaring. 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:35.360 I think that honestly, in the last few years, the 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:39.880 confidence that he has instilled in me to be myself 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:42.160 has really helped me in that, and that I'm partnered 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:45.320 it is. It's really great because he has made me 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:47.920 feel really comfortable with just being myself. So I think 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:50.120 that I've been able to eliminate a little bit of 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:53.320 the trying to appease everyone else and be what everyone 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:55.280 else wants me to be. I definitely still struggle with 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:57.480 it all the time. It goes you and I talked 0:17:57.480 --> 0:17:59.239 about this all the time. 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My brain, 0:20:51.840 --> 0:20:54.679 My brain is a lot of anxiety and stress, but 0:20:54.840 --> 0:20:59.919 then um, my calmness is definitely here, like where we are. 0:21:00.359 --> 0:21:03.399 I have such a sense of peace in my home 0:21:04.040 --> 0:21:08.159 and that is my like recharge place. Target is my 0:21:08.240 --> 0:21:11.200 recharge place. I want to go to Target today. Actually 0:21:11.280 --> 0:21:14.359 does make you just feel so it does. I feel 0:21:14.400 --> 0:21:16.200 like something's in the air. I don't know what. Maybe 0:21:16.200 --> 0:21:18.040 it is. You know how they like pump oxygen in 0:21:18.119 --> 0:21:21.240 the vegas and maybe they do something there. I think 0:21:21.240 --> 0:21:23.919 they might. And the lighting is perfect, and all the 0:21:23.920 --> 0:21:26.760 clothes are so cute, they're so cutey need everything in there. 0:21:26.960 --> 0:21:28.840 Haley Hubbard and I were talking about this the other 0:21:28.920 --> 0:21:32.119 day because we're the same. I am like shopping is 0:21:32.160 --> 0:21:35.199 my drug of choice and so target really helps me. 0:21:35.359 --> 0:21:37.240 Or like new shoes, but like, if I'm feeling a 0:21:37.240 --> 0:21:40.359 little upset, if I like find something to buy, I 0:21:40.400 --> 0:21:42.320 feel a lot better, which is probably not a good 0:21:42.400 --> 0:21:45.520