1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space. 2 00:00:04,960 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 2: When we start increasing our self knowledge by tracking our cycles, 3 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 2: then we can indeed sync our lifestyle with our cycle 4 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,959 Speaker 2: and just be flowing forward with the magnificence that you 5 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 2: have yet to sink. 6 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,760 Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration, 7 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: or a fresh perspective. If you have any AHA moments 8 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 1: or appreciate anything from this episode, please leave us a 9 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,840 Speaker 1: review to let us know we're on the right track. 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In a 18 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 4: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood, please 19 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 4: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from 20 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 4: fibroids to fake friends, and create a safe space where 21 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 4: black women can just be Hey, lady, it's Terry here 22 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 4: from the Cultivating her Space podcast, I'm hosting a free 23 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 4: podcasting masterclass where I'm going to teach you how to 24 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 4: create your impactful podcast and how you can generate multiple 25 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 4: streams of income. You can visit podcast with Terry dot 26 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 4: com to register for free. I hope to see you there. 27 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 4: All right, lady, we have a very very special guest 28 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 4: today in Cultivating her Space, and there's so much I 29 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 4: can say about her, but I want to go ahead 30 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 4: and share with you her incredible bio, and then we're 31 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 4: going to jump into this juicy conversation. As a facilitator, educator, 32 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 4: and period of empowerment guide, doctor Carmen O'Neil dismantles the 33 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 4: miseducation of menstruation one family at a time. Her passion 34 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 4: comes from both her own childhood and adult period experiences 35 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 4: of shame, fear, and anxiety, as well as witnessing similar 36 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 4: emotions of others who were socialized to believe that there's 37 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 4: something wrong with us for having periods. The truth is, however, 38 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 4: periods are a sacred, paramount process that can serve as 39 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 4: a tool to help us connect with our bodies and 40 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:37,800 Speaker 4: embrace our power. Doctor Carmon, a professor of Psychology and 41 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:42,359 Speaker 4: a graduate of the California Black Women's Health Project Advocacy 42 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:47,799 Speaker 4: Training Program, has been a featured speaker for conferences, women's organizations, 43 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:52,239 Speaker 4: and educational institutions. With her PhD in Psychology and expertise 44 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:56,239 Speaker 4: and Mental Wellness and Social Behavior, she pours her twenty 45 00:02:56,280 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 4: plus years of teaching and training and to her signature 46 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 4: workshops including get Ready for these workshop names y'all, Howard 47 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 4: to the Period Rock with your minstrel rhythm, and for 48 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 4: Daring Daddies of Daughters. Oh that sounds amazing, Doctor Carmen, 49 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 4: welcome to cultivating her space. 50 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:22,679 Speaker 2: Oh, thank you so much. I just appreciate sharing this 51 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 2: space with you both. 52 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 4: You are so welcome. 53 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:31,160 Speaker 3: Yes, we are so excited to jump into this conversation, 54 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 3: and so I am going to kick off with our 55 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 3: quote of the day. Our quote will be words that 56 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 3: are very familiar to you, doctor Carman, because these are 57 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 3: your words. So our quote of the day. When we 58 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 3: sink our lifestyle with our cycle, we can flow forward 59 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,600 Speaker 3: with even more confidence in who we are. 60 00:03:58,080 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 2: Oh. 61 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 3: I think part of why I chose that particular quote 62 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 3: is because I feel like it really sets the tone 63 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 3: for the conversation that we're going to have today. So, 64 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 3: doctor Carmin, when you hear that quote, your words, what 65 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 3: comes up for you? Give us a little bit more 66 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 3: context on what inspired those particular words. 67 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 2: Yes, thank you so much. And it's a gift to 68 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 2: me to hear though, so thank you, thank you so much. 69 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 2: But you know, this concept of black girl magic is 70 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: just so powerful and juicy, right, So black women are 71 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 2: indeed powerful, we are indeed juicy, we are indeed innovative. 72 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 2: But I want to suggest that when we are able 73 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 2: to magnify our black girl menstrual magic, and we're going 74 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 2: to take it up several notches from what we're from 75 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 2: the magnificence that we are already manifesting. Yes, yes, And 76 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 2: so you know, the reality, the unfortunate reality is that 77 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 2: in our society, lots of people have been socialized to 78 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 2: believe that menstruation is dirties, nasties, not to be discussed, 79 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 2: is to be kept in secrecy. And so when we 80 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:24,920 Speaker 2: do that, we you know, perpetuate the negative stigma. And 81 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 2: I'm here to suggest that when we start talking about 82 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 2: our cycles, when we start increasing our self knowledge by 83 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 2: tracking our cycles, then we can indeed sink our lifestyle 84 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 2: with our cycle and just be flowing forward with the 85 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 2: magnificence that you have yet to think. 86 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 4: I love it flowing forward pun intended. Okay, so, doctor Carman, 87 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:52,039 Speaker 4: we're going to dive into your origin story. We'd love 88 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:54,479 Speaker 4: to know what is your orgin story and what led 89 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 4: you to becoming known as the magical menstruation Ma. 90 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:03,679 Speaker 2: Then yes, So, as you mentioned in my bio terry, 91 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 2: you know, as a girl growing up, I was socialized 92 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 2: partially predominantly to believe that, you know, the cycle was 93 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 2: supposed to be kept, you know, in secret. You know. Initially, 94 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:18,279 Speaker 2: when I started my period around age twelve, initially I 95 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 2: was excited. I remember calling my girlfriend and my mom 96 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:24,039 Speaker 2: had gotten me in the little pack of pads with 97 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 2: the different sides is. But then so when I was 98 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 2: at home, and so when I told my mom that 99 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,599 Speaker 2: I had started, and she gave me my lesson on 100 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 2: how to use the pads and all of that, she 101 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 2: called her mom and so I overheard my mom speaking 102 00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 2: to my grandmother and her. My mom's voice was like 103 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:46,599 Speaker 2: she was whispering. It was so there was in my 104 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 2: twelve year old brain, I interpreted that as an element 105 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:54,280 Speaker 2: of secrecy, that this is not supposed to be discussed, 106 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 2: like you're not supposed to be broadcasting thats And so 107 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 2: you know, from there talking with my own other friends, 108 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 2: and you know, hearing the language, seeing the commercials are 109 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 2: all focused on hygiene, you know, implying that periods are dirty. 110 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 2: At that time, I didn't want my daddy to know, 111 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 2: you know, I was a daddy's girl. I didn't want 112 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 2: him to know that I had started my period because 113 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 2: I thought, you know, in my twelve year old brain, 114 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 2: that that would be some kind of disconnect. And you know, 115 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 2: he and I never talked about it, you know, ever, 116 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 2: and so this is kind of, you know, where the 117 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 2: roots of this began. So I think I sense all 118 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 2: along that something about this was wrong because from what 119 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 2: I learned in my little puberty class and you know, 120 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 2: in middle school, that this is an important cycle that 121 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 2: is paramount to the human existence. So why if we 122 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 2: need this for the human race to continue, why is 123 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 2: it in secret? Why is it considered dirty? Why are 124 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 2: there all these negative terms about it? So this is 125 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:59,560 Speaker 2: you know, my twelve year old mind. Fast forward many 126 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:03,559 Speaker 2: many years, and I started teaching the psychology of women 127 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 2: and really really delving in to a lot of this 128 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 2: work and reading about you know, ancient societies and contemporary 129 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 2: societies that revere women and who honor minarchy. Minarchy is 130 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 2: just the fancy word for the girl's first period. And 131 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 2: I was like, whoa, what I didn't get this kind 132 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 2: of honoring, you know, and how my experience would have 133 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 2: been different if I had, if you know, before I 134 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:32,680 Speaker 2: started my period, if there had been conversation in my 135 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 2: family around you know, this is a wonderful milestone that 136 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:39,559 Speaker 2: you are going to be experiencing, you know, the education 137 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:44,239 Speaker 2: about it, speaking positively about it, and then a celebration, 138 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 2: you know when it came like that would just have 139 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 2: been fantastic. So I said, you know what, it is 140 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 2: just not okay for me to remain silent because my 141 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:57,120 Speaker 2: silence is also manifesting the negative stigma. So it's just 142 00:08:57,160 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 2: not okay for me to remain silent. So I am 143 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:06,200 Speaker 2: just very very passionate about educating girls, teens and women 144 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 2: because there are grown women who don't even know that 145 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 2: they are participating in a cycle. They just think they 146 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 2: bleed or not bleeding, and so this education is key. 147 00:09:15,960 --> 00:09:19,079 Speaker 2: And so that's how I became the magical menstruation. 148 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 5: Maybe Lady you notice is a grown woman podcast. 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What is black girl 180 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 3: menstrual magic? 181 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:16,000 Speaker 2: And why? 182 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 3: And how really do we sink our lifestyle with our period? 183 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 3: Like how do we do that? Like we live in 184 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 3: a capitalist society? How does that work? 185 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 2: Yes, this is an excellent question, doctor dom. So what 186 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:35,040 Speaker 2: it means is increasing your self knowledge and understanding your 187 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 2: natural rhythm, your natural cycle, and so all of us 188 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 2: are different, but when we sink to our own cycles, 189 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 2: it's fantastic. So I'm going to take you through the 190 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 2: take you on a little journey. I'm gonna take you 191 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 2: on a twenty eight day journey through the cycle and 192 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 2: of course, knowing that this is a general picture that 193 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:56,800 Speaker 2: I'm going to create and that you know, everybody is different. 194 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,120 Speaker 2: So first off, let's do a little bit of We're 195 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 2: going to keep it simple and just do a little 196 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 2: bit of education around the cycle. The menstrual cycle has 197 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:09,080 Speaker 2: four phases, all right, So I'm going to start us 198 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:11,839 Speaker 2: off with the one phase that most of us are 199 00:12:11,880 --> 00:12:15,480 Speaker 2: familiar with, and that's the menstruating phase, when we're actually flowing, 200 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:20,480 Speaker 2: we're actually bleeding. And so this phase of the cycle, 201 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:25,079 Speaker 2: can it beautifully matches with winter. We have four cycles 202 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 2: or four seasons. So winter is the time where you know, 203 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 2: the nights are longer and we stay indoors. You know, 204 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 2: it's the time of reflection. It's also a time of purging, right, yes, 205 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 2: so that is where we're going to begin this cycle. 206 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 2: It's a time to for a lot of us. And 207 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 2: now I'll talk about some differences in the second but 208 00:12:48,880 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 2: for a lot of us, this is the time to 209 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 2: slow down. This is really a time to pay attention 210 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: to your dreams as well, and if you can, to 211 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 2: write down those dreams whatever you remember when you wake 212 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 2: up in the morning. So this in terms of our cycles, 213 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 2: you know, from the first day of you bleeding. That's 214 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 2: day one, and then you start counting from there. So 215 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 2: that could be five days, four, day seven, it depends, right. 216 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 2: So then we move into the next phase, which is 217 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 2: the follicular phase, and so this is equated to spring. 218 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 2: Spring is new beginnings. Oooh, I'm coming out, I'm blooming. 219 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 2: I'm blossoming, right, yes, and so this is a beautiful 220 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 2: time to you know, manifest or start working on those 221 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 2: creative ideas. You know, if you have you know, projects 222 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 2: that you're working on, this is a time where you 223 00:13:43,679 --> 00:13:47,240 Speaker 2: want to get into those and actually schedule your calendar 224 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:51,320 Speaker 2: around this cycle. Yes, that I am sharing with you. 225 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,640 Speaker 2: This is where the power comes, this is where the 226 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 2: magic comes from. And so again, depending on you know, 227 00:13:57,559 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 2: that could be day five to day thirteen varies, right. 228 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 2: So the next phase of the cycle, which a lot 229 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 2: of people are familiar with, at least a lot of 230 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:09,760 Speaker 2: grown folks are familiar with, is ovulation. If you're trying 231 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 2: not to get pregnant or you're trying to get pregnant, 232 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 2: you want to know what ovulation is. And ovulation equates 233 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 2: beautifully with summer, like ooh, I'm feeling sexy. The sun 234 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 2: is out, the days are long. This is when you 235 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 2: might socialize more, you know, do more of those creative projects. 236 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 2: That tends to be more activity during the summertime. Right 237 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:35,400 Speaker 2: you might be feeling sensual, you know, that's your ovulation 238 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 2: phase and creation because of course, you know, we think 239 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 2: about we equate pro creation, you know, with the mental cycle. 240 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:47,920 Speaker 2: But we are creators of everything, okay, not just babies. 241 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 2: We are creating, creators of ideas, We are creators of technology. 242 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 2: We are just creators of how to communicate what our 243 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,840 Speaker 2: loved one. We are creating all the time. Okay. So 244 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 2: then the last phase of the cycle is the what 245 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 2: we call the luteal phase, okay, and this equates beautifully 246 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:14,720 Speaker 2: with fall. Right now, this particular phase is what we 247 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 2: can is what's happening with that term PMS, okay, or 248 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 2: pre menstrual syndrome. Now, I would like to reframe that 249 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 2: acronym to pre menstrual service, and that is service to self, 250 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 2: because what is happening in this luteal phase is that 251 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 2: we become our black girl magic senses become heightened, and 252 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 2: we are paying attention to those things that we're not 253 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:47,440 Speaker 2: going for anymore, those things that we are liking, we're 254 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 2: not paying attention to we're not liking this communication, we're 255 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 2: not liking how that person does that. We're paying attention 256 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 2: to those things that aren't fair and aren't right, and 257 00:15:56,440 --> 00:16:00,080 Speaker 2: we have a very little patience for them. And so 258 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 2: it is time during this udeal phase for the premensional service. 259 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 2: So this is a beautiful time to journal, what are 260 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:11,800 Speaker 2: those things that are irritating, what are those things that 261 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 2: you know aren't right? What ways have you been violated 262 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:18,640 Speaker 2: that you didn't speak on right, that you held your 263 00:16:18,720 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 2: tongue for whatever reason, And so it's really important to 264 00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 2: acknowledge those things during the lideal phase and start to 265 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 2: clean them out, clean them out. This is also a 266 00:16:29,360 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 2: beautiful time to purge your clutter. A lot of us, 267 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 2: you know, have clutter around the house, stuff in our 268 00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 2: closet that we have in one for five years. So 269 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:42,160 Speaker 2: it's the time to clean that out right. And so 270 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 2: if you can imagine that these phases of the cycle 271 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 2: and these four quadrants right and at the beginning of 272 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 2: every month you plan your life according to your phases, 273 00:16:56,720 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 2: to your cycles, this is just so empowering. So I'll 274 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 2: give you a small but it's an important example. So 275 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:07,200 Speaker 2: one of my colleagues are the women that I work 276 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 2: with during her luvial phase and her menstrual phases, because 277 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:13,679 Speaker 2: she tracks her experiences and I'll talk about that in 278 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:18,639 Speaker 2: a minute. For her, it's a time where her she 279 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 2: fumbles over her words a lot, she gets tongue tied. 280 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 2: So she does not schedule speaking engagements when she's in 281 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 2: her loudial phase. She doesn't schedule them when she's menstruating. 282 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 2: She schedules them when she's in her spring phase, when 283 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:36,520 Speaker 2: she's in her summer phase, right when she's in that 284 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:40,920 Speaker 2: ovulation phase, because that's when things click for her. Things click, 285 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 2: And so that is the power of the self knowledge 286 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:50,119 Speaker 2: that we're talking about and sinking your lifestyle with it. Now, 287 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 2: in order to know this, you have to track your cycle. 288 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:57,399 Speaker 2: This is really really key. You know, you can do 289 00:17:57,440 --> 00:17:59,880 Speaker 2: an app if you want. There's been some controversy around 290 00:17:59,920 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 2: it apps lately with yes, but there's also some beautiful 291 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:07,920 Speaker 2: you can use your own journal. There's a beautiful one 292 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:11,159 Speaker 2: that I use. It's so comprehensive called the cycles journal, 293 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 2: where you're tracking you know, not only your your temperature, 294 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 2: but you're tracking your emotions you're tracking your bowel movement, 295 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:24,160 Speaker 2: you're tracking your libido, you're tracking everything. And so it's 296 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 2: that comprehensive and it is that type of knowledge, doctor dom, 297 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 2: that we need in order to sync our lifestyles with 298 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:34,919 Speaker 2: our cycles. So once you do at least you know, 299 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:37,159 Speaker 2: two or three months of tracking, you're going to have 300 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:40,399 Speaker 2: the patterns that you need in order to sync it up. 301 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 4: That is so incredible, Doctor Carmen. I am blown away 302 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:46,919 Speaker 4: with how you just broke that down. And what I 303 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:49,399 Speaker 4: love most about what you shared is that it keeps 304 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 4: us in a regular, a regular rhythm of self care, rest, creativity, reflection, 305 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 4: and slowing down. Because you said this, I was like, oh, 306 00:18:58,680 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 4: I need, I need to reflect on what my cycle 307 00:19:01,359 --> 00:19:04,760 Speaker 4: is like these days, being eighteen month postpartum and just 308 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 4: being in the phase I'm in right now in life. 309 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 4: I do want to share though, that in having an interesting, 310 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:16,159 Speaker 4: unique fertility journey and irregular periods, I've always had this 311 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 4: very i want to say, interesting relationship with my cycle. 312 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 4: And I remember just a couple of weeks ago when 313 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 4: I was on my period and I was in the 314 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 4: bathroom and you know, changing my pad, and I looked down. 315 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:30,879 Speaker 4: I remember trying to reframe my time down before we 316 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 4: started recording, I was like, thank you for my body 317 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:36,560 Speaker 4: working properly and having this moment, because it felt like 318 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:38,080 Speaker 4: it was one of those days where I was like, oh, 319 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 4: but I was trying to reframe it. So I want 320 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:43,879 Speaker 4: to talk about how can we decolonize our thoughts about 321 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:44,639 Speaker 4: our periods. 322 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 2: What's the best way to do that? Yes, So the 323 00:19:49,359 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 2: best way to do that is to start talking about 324 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:56,400 Speaker 2: it more, right, because that secrecy, as I said earlier, 325 00:19:56,560 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 2: really perpetuates the negatives thing money. So if you can 326 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 2: just imagine, Terry, that there are women, you know, just 327 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:08,720 Speaker 2: like we talk about, you know, the hair that we 328 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,479 Speaker 2: use me for our braids and our weaves, and just 329 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:13,640 Speaker 2: like we talk about, you know, this person that we've 330 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 2: got it. What if it was a part of our 331 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 2: regular conversation to be talking about our cycles, to be 332 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:24,080 Speaker 2: talking about how we're feeling, to be talking about these 333 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 2: amazing period care products that are out now that we're 334 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:31,520 Speaker 2: not out when I was twelve. They are so helpful, 335 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:34,639 Speaker 2: right to be talking about all these new period panties 336 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,360 Speaker 2: that you got that just make things so much easier. 337 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:43,240 Speaker 2: So a huge part of this is talking about it more. 338 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:47,640 Speaker 2: A big part of freeing ourselves from this negative stigma 339 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:52,359 Speaker 2: is education, So educating each other. So I want to, 340 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:55,399 Speaker 2: you know, encourage you both to talk to everybody you 341 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:59,919 Speaker 2: know about the four phases. Encourage them to track the 342 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:03,960 Speaker 2: cycles because that's where that empowerment comes from. And frankly, 343 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,800 Speaker 2: it's not just women that need to be educated, which 344 00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:10,000 Speaker 2: is why we have the daring daties for daughters of 345 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:15,760 Speaker 2: daughters workshop boys and men need to be educated as well. 346 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 2: They a lot of times are more in the dark 347 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:23,439 Speaker 2: than we are about this, and you know, oftentimes I 348 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:27,920 Speaker 2: think it's possibly part of the human experience that when 349 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 2: we don't understand something, it's very quick to judge right, 350 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 2: or it's very quick to We're very quick to draw 351 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 2: our own conclusions about it or make up, you know, 352 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,679 Speaker 2: what we think is going on even if we don't understand. So, 353 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 2: you know, there's a lot of education that needs to occur, 354 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:47,479 Speaker 2: and the first step is just being brave, you know, 355 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,480 Speaker 2: and talking about it more. 356 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 3: As you were saying that, I was reflecting on, Okay, 357 00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:59,800 Speaker 3: how often do I have conversations and what's the quality 358 00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:03,080 Speaker 3: of the conversation right, the context in the conversation, because 359 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,679 Speaker 3: I had, like I was reflecting, and I was like, 360 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:08,680 Speaker 3: oh no, I talk about this. I talk about it. 361 00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:09,400 Speaker 4: With my friends. 362 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:14,480 Speaker 3: I talk about it, but we don't dig deeper, right, 363 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:19,199 Speaker 3: like I may have shared with folks, try these period 364 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:22,240 Speaker 3: panies like that's what I'm using, or try this menstral 365 00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:26,800 Speaker 3: cup because that's what I'm using, But we don't necessarily 366 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:32,120 Speaker 3: like really dig deeper into like some of the stigma 367 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:36,000 Speaker 3: around that. Like Okay, like I can talk about like 368 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:41,720 Speaker 3: the cramps I'm having or the clotting that I'm having 369 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,360 Speaker 3: because of fibroids, like we talk about We might talk 370 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:49,920 Speaker 3: about that, but not about Okay, so how many times 371 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 3: do you have to go to the bathroom to change 372 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 3: your path or your cup? 373 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:53,960 Speaker 2: Right? 374 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:57,639 Speaker 3: Like, I think those are the conversations that are like 375 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 3: missing quick, I was just gonna say. 376 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:05,280 Speaker 4: And also the period poops. Okay, those period poops are 377 00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,000 Speaker 4: I'm just like, what is happening? Is anyone else experiencing 378 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:11,040 Speaker 4: this or is it just me? So stuff like that. 379 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 6: Normalizing it, right, yes, normalizing the conversations. 380 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:20,399 Speaker 2: This is what needs to occur. Absolutely, And Terry, I 381 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,240 Speaker 2: just wanted to give you a little kudos for when 382 00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:26,679 Speaker 2: you were having that period moment and you were initially 383 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 2: thinking like ugh, but you consciously work to reframe it. 384 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:33,679 Speaker 2: And so I just want to give you some shout 385 00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:34,280 Speaker 2: out for that. 386 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:37,840 Speaker 4: Thank you, lady. I appreciate you. I'm inviting y'all on 387 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:40,199 Speaker 4: the toilet with me, and this is we're in this 388 00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 4: journey together. But you know what, Doctor Carmon, this this conversation, 389 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 4: I feel we could talk to you about this forever 390 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,960 Speaker 4: and it's such an amazing conversation. However, we do want 391 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,280 Speaker 4: to shift up the energy just a little bit and 392 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 4: we'll jump back into these formal questions in just a bit. 393 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:59,160 Speaker 4: But because we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman, 394 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 4: and we believe that it's okay to be bougie and 395 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:05,119 Speaker 4: classy and ratchet, we believe that you can still be 396 00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 4: elegant and dance to strip club music if you so choose. 397 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,480 Speaker 4: So we want to invite you to the oh you've 398 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 4: blatchet segment. So, doctor Carmen, do you take on the challenge? 399 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 2: Already ready? Yes? 400 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 4: Okay, So now that you've agreed, we're going to tell 401 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,679 Speaker 4: you what to expect. So, doctor Carmen, we are going 402 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,040 Speaker 4: to ask you three questions We're going to share three 403 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:31,160 Speaker 4: sentence completions, and then we're going to have you choose 404 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 4: a number out of one in three, and we will 405 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:35,399 Speaker 4: pull up a photo of you that we found on 406 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:39,119 Speaker 4: social media so that you can provide more context about 407 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:44,840 Speaker 4: this particular photo. So let's jump on in, doctor Carmen, 408 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:47,760 Speaker 4: what is the best piece of advice or wisdom you've 409 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:48,600 Speaker 4: ever received. 410 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:53,720 Speaker 6: I think the best piece of advice is to never 411 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 6: ask a question when you're attached to the answer. So, 412 00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:02,800 Speaker 6: if you're asking a question in order to hear a 413 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:06,639 Speaker 6: particular answer, you not ready to ask that question, don't 414 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,560 Speaker 6: even do it, because you're setting up yourself and you're 415 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,160 Speaker 6: setting up the other person, and it's just not fair. 416 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:13,920 Speaker 6: So you need to wait, you do some more work 417 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 6: on yourself, and then come back when you are ready 418 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,120 Speaker 6: and open to whatever the response is. 419 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 3: I love that refrain because I've heard a version we 420 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:26,680 Speaker 3: all have heard, I'm sure a version of that question 421 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 3: of never ask a question you don't want the answer to. 422 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:36,880 Speaker 3: But I like this version of don't ask a question 423 00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:40,360 Speaker 3: that you are when you are attached to the answer. 424 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 3: Ooh ooh, okay, all right, So that was all deep, 425 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:50,640 Speaker 3: and this next question is does not deep at all? 426 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:55,520 Speaker 2: The carbon or is it? Or is it? 427 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:57,120 Speaker 4: We're gonna find out. 428 00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 3: I have four words for you, twerk or two step. 429 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:10,600 Speaker 2: Ooh, so it depends psychology, Everything depends, right. So if 430 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,639 Speaker 2: I'm listening to the Honestly Brothers, that's two step. But 431 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:17,800 Speaker 2: if I'm listening to Tucac and Doctor Dre, that's gonna 432 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:18,400 Speaker 2: be twer. 433 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:25,240 Speaker 4: So good answer, good answer. So in that case, I'm 434 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,200 Speaker 4: gonna be dropping the love right. It might it might 435 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:30,359 Speaker 4: get it might get serious over here, All right, doctor Carmen, 436 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,159 Speaker 4: Our next question for you is what's the sexiest item 437 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 4: you own? 438 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:42,000 Speaker 2: The sexiest item my own is my string of waste speeds. 439 00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:45,640 Speaker 2: That's the sexiest ite of my own. And I believe 440 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 2: that it's the sexiest for me because you know, I 441 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,159 Speaker 2: got some other stuff too, But I'm gonna say that 442 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 2: this is the sexiest because my waist speeds are a 443 00:26:55,880 --> 00:27:00,840 Speaker 2: symbol of my femininity. They are a symbol of my fertility. 444 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 2: And I don't mean, you know, creating babies per se, 445 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,520 Speaker 2: but like I said, just the creation, Like I can 446 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:10,080 Speaker 2: create whatever I want. When I get out the shower 447 00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:11,000 Speaker 2: and I'm standing in. 448 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:14,760 Speaker 7: Front of the mirror, my womb is adorned, right, my 449 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:18,880 Speaker 7: waist is adorned, the small my back is adorned, and 450 00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 7: so there's the constant reminder, you. 451 00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 2: Know, of my power. So that's probably the sexiest thing. 452 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 2: And then when when the mister looks at him, you 453 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 2: know he likes it too. 454 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 3: Okay, doctor Carman, we're going to move on to sentence completion. 455 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:44,520 Speaker 3: One question or topic I wish people asked me about 456 00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:45,920 Speaker 3: more often. 457 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 2: Is well, given what we're talking about, one question or 458 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,960 Speaker 2: topic that I wish more people ask me about is 459 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 2: how period care is an aspect of self care. Like 460 00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:00,880 Speaker 2: I would love to just talk to all all the girls, 461 00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:04,199 Speaker 2: all the teams, all the women in the world, on 462 00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:07,560 Speaker 2: the planet about that, Like I can never tire of 463 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 2: that because it's so important. 464 00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,119 Speaker 4: Well, it's so funny you said that after common because 465 00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 4: our next sentence completion just so happens to be what 466 00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:19,440 Speaker 4: I would tell people about how periods are a form 467 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:21,359 Speaker 4: of self care. I think that's what you just said, 468 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:24,639 Speaker 4: it's been a long day, and then feel free to 469 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:25,640 Speaker 4: complete that sentence. 470 00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:32,119 Speaker 2: So being in tune with ourselves is probably the best 471 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,840 Speaker 2: type of self care that we can give. And you know, 472 00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,120 Speaker 2: have you ever been like at a party or at 473 00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,840 Speaker 2: a club and you were dancing and somebody was dancing 474 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,320 Speaker 2: to a rhythm that you you know, you wouldn't you 475 00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 2: wouldn't hearing that rhythm, and it feels sort of abrupt 476 00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 2: and off and difficult, and you're like, why, what's going on? 477 00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 2: And so when we can roll and flow and rock 478 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 2: and ling with our all miss rhythms, then we're doing it, 479 00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 2: and we're doing yes. 480 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:03,400 Speaker 1: Okay okay. 481 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 3: So our final sentence completion, doctor Carmen, is what I 482 00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 3: love most about myself is what I. 483 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 2: Love most about myself reflects the segment that we're on 484 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 2: right now, and that is that I'm multi dimensional. I 485 00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:23,800 Speaker 2: could be goofy, I could be serious. You know, I 486 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:28,480 Speaker 2: can be silly. You know that I am multi faceted 487 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,760 Speaker 2: and I love that about me and that I accept 488 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:36,800 Speaker 2: all aspects of that about me. So I'm multi fasted. 489 00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:40,200 Speaker 4: We love it, and we support it, and we just 490 00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:42,840 Speaker 4: I think that is definitely one of the highlights of 491 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:46,200 Speaker 4: our show is that we can showcase these brilliant, beautiful, 492 00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 4: just incredible black women who are also multi faceted, and 493 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,120 Speaker 4: you can show those dimensions of yourself here in a 494 00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,280 Speaker 4: safe space, and it is what it is. We love it, 495 00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,640 Speaker 4: so thank you for sharing that, Doctor Carmen. So what 496 00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,400 Speaker 4: we want to do now is we want you to 497 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 4: choose a number out of one in three and then 498 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 4: we will share a photo of you on the big screen, 499 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,080 Speaker 4: and we would love for you to share what the 500 00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:10,880 Speaker 4: photo is for those that are only tuning into the audio, 501 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:12,960 Speaker 4: and then give us some context about the photo that 502 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 4: we would not know just by looking at this photo. 503 00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 2: Okay, I'll go with number one. 504 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,760 Speaker 4: Oh good, good answer. This is a lovely photo here, 505 00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:27,000 Speaker 4: so let's go ahead and show everybody else. 506 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:36,880 Speaker 2: Oo. Yes, so that is a lifestyle shot. There are 507 00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:41,680 Speaker 2: some beautiful different color plants and greenery behind me. I 508 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 2: have on one of my favorite colors, which is kind 509 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 2: of a coral color, and that's actually at a photo 510 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:51,719 Speaker 2: shoot that I did, which I will reveal just happened 511 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,680 Speaker 2: to be in my front lawn. So yeah, so that's 512 00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 2: the context of that photo. And I really do like 513 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 2: that photo because I think it represents me well in 514 00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:05,120 Speaker 2: terms of, you know, just being a warm person, being 515 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 2: a very approachable person. You know, we can talk academics 516 00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:11,880 Speaker 2: and we confuse that in with some of the bonics 517 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 2: if we need to. So you know I am just 518 00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 2: that that warm at least I believe that warm heart, 519 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:21,280 Speaker 2: that approachable person, and I think this image really reflects. 520 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 4: That we love it. And yes, lawn, Okay, doctor over there, 521 00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:31,040 Speaker 4: so let's just lawn. Yes, So I guess it's time 522 00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:32,840 Speaker 4: for us to dive back into some of these questions. 523 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,000 Speaker 4: I'm gonna just pass it on over to you, don. 524 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:39,960 Speaker 3: Yes, okay, So we're gonna get back, get back into 525 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:46,640 Speaker 3: the the deepness of our wounds. And so this next question. 526 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 3: We talked a little bit about pre pre menstrual syndrome, 527 00:31:54,200 --> 00:32:00,160 Speaker 3: but in psychology we have a term or disorder, well, 528 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:05,840 Speaker 3: pre menstrual Dysford disorder. And so for those of us 529 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:10,160 Speaker 3: who are trying to change how we look at our period, 530 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 3: how can we distinguish between the symptoms of pre menstrual 531 00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:24,000 Speaker 3: dysfork disorder and the normal changes that come along with 532 00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:25,040 Speaker 3: our period. 533 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:29,080 Speaker 2: Right, this is a great question. So during that luteal 534 00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,520 Speaker 2: phase that I mentioned before, when we think of PMS, 535 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:37,080 Speaker 2: which I'm trying to reframe a is premnstrual service. Lots 536 00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,400 Speaker 2: of people experience your it ability. Like I said, stuff 537 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,240 Speaker 2: is coming up, you're noticing, and you're like, I don't 538 00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 2: have the patience for this, you know, I'm not. You 539 00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 2: may experience, you know, physical change. You might feel bloating, 540 00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 2: you might your breasts or nipples might be tender. You know, 541 00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:56,000 Speaker 2: you may feel tired, and so, you know, those are 542 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 2: some of the symptoms that you know, people may experience 543 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,960 Speaker 2: that would be considered normal. And I'm doing my little 544 00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:09,600 Speaker 2: air quotes now. PMDD or pre mentioned dystoric disorder is 545 00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:15,600 Speaker 2: much more severe and so some of the symptoms for that. 546 00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:21,760 Speaker 2: Just take your irritability to the tilt, right, take your frustration, 547 00:33:21,920 --> 00:33:25,040 Speaker 2: your burnout to the tilt. I mean it is where 548 00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 2: for most people who experience that they cannot function at work, 549 00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 2: they cannot go to work, they cannot go to school. 550 00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:38,080 Speaker 2: There may be changes in their sleeping cycles, so they 551 00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:42,280 Speaker 2: may be experiencing insomnia, not enough sleep, or hypersomnia, so 552 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 2: they may be sleeping way more, you know than normal. 553 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:50,680 Speaker 2: They also may suicidal ideation with some people, not all, 554 00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:55,000 Speaker 2: but some people can experience when they have PMDD as well. 555 00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:59,520 Speaker 2: Symptoms that are very similar to depressive disorder and mood 556 00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:03,480 Speaker 2: disorders are often what we see in terms of pm 557 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:07,200 Speaker 2: d D. So this is something that is very severe, 558 00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,239 Speaker 2: you know, in the in the DSM five, the Diagnostic 559 00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,960 Speaker 2: and Statistical Manual Mental Disorders, you know, it talks about 560 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,880 Speaker 2: that has a whole list of symptoms and how you 561 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:18,960 Speaker 2: know you got to have at least five, you know, 562 00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:22,560 Speaker 2: of these symptoms, you know, over the last twelve months 563 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,400 Speaker 2: for most of your cycle. So that's where that tracking 564 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:31,120 Speaker 2: is really really important. So there is indeed a distinction 565 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:33,799 Speaker 2: between the two. And I just want to offer as 566 00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:38,120 Speaker 2: well that you know, PMS and pmd D for a 567 00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,200 Speaker 2: lot of times, a lot of for a long time, 568 00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,919 Speaker 2: they've been very controversial. You know, let me just put 569 00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:46,120 Speaker 2: that out there. Does it exist, does it not exist? 570 00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,479 Speaker 2: There was a time when PMDD was not even in 571 00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:52,560 Speaker 2: the DSM, so there's question about that, well is this 572 00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:54,839 Speaker 2: a new disorder? How did it occur? You know, So 573 00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:57,959 Speaker 2: there's just a lot of controversy. So I just want 574 00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:03,080 Speaker 2: to encourage women to to track. Track, so you have 575 00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,480 Speaker 2: a log so when you go to if you if 576 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,160 Speaker 2: you're thinking, you know, you may be experiencing PMDD, or 577 00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,880 Speaker 2: even if you you know thinking that you're experiencing PMS, 578 00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,919 Speaker 2: have your knowledge, have your data when you go talk 579 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,799 Speaker 2: to your doctor and you can say, hey, doc, this 580 00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,439 Speaker 2: is what's been going on for me. I got everything here, 581 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,560 Speaker 2: and we need to take a look at this together. 582 00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:27,160 Speaker 2: So those are some of the distinctions. 583 00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:30,319 Speaker 4: Thank you for sharing that. That's definitely super important and 584 00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,800 Speaker 4: it all goes back to just knowing ourselves better anyway, 585 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,280 Speaker 4: So thank you, Thank you again for sharing that. We'd 586 00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,399 Speaker 4: love for you to talk a bit about how the 587 00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:43,880 Speaker 4: moon and our other friends of nature impact our menstrual cycles, 588 00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:45,960 Speaker 4: so please do tell them. We'll be taking some notes 589 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:46,200 Speaker 4: on that. 590 00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:51,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I touched on that just a little bit 591 00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:53,799 Speaker 2: when I was talking about the four seasons and how 592 00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 2: I infuse that with the four phases of our cycle. 593 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:03,400 Speaker 2: So it's really interesting this concept of menstruation and mensis. 594 00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,640 Speaker 2: That's like a Greek word that kind of means moon, 595 00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 2: and so way back in ancient Greece, you know, those 596 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 2: folks said, you know, we think these women who are 597 00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 2: misturating have some powers that are stemming from the moon. 598 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,399 Speaker 2: So that's where the word came from, at least based 599 00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,879 Speaker 2: upon my research. And so yes, there's been a lot 600 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:28,800 Speaker 2: of discussion about how the moon can impact our cycles. 601 00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,360 Speaker 2: So if I just go back to the four phases 602 00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:36,520 Speaker 2: that we were talking about before, So the menstruation phase. 603 00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:40,040 Speaker 2: Let's start there. That when we're looking at the moon, 604 00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:45,320 Speaker 2: that's considered the new moon, right, so that's like day one, Okay, 605 00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,960 Speaker 2: so that's that that new moon, you know that that 606 00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:51,320 Speaker 2: comes out. And then when we get into the next phase, 607 00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:56,160 Speaker 2: the follicular phase, we call that like the waxing moon. Okay, 608 00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,560 Speaker 2: the waxing moon. And then when we get to ovulation, 609 00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:03,879 Speaker 2: that's a full moon. Okay, that's a full moon where 610 00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,000 Speaker 2: you like, remember I told you all elations, like, hey, 611 00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:10,239 Speaker 2: let's get it. It's a full moon, right, and then 612 00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,600 Speaker 2: the luteal phase we think of this as sort of 613 00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:16,680 Speaker 2: the third quarter or so to speak, is the waning moon. 614 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:20,720 Speaker 2: And so you know, when we are tracking our own cycle, 615 00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:25,680 Speaker 2: you're remember we're all different, and so your own cycle 616 00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:29,239 Speaker 2: may not necessarily sync up with those moon phases. You 617 00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:33,040 Speaker 2: know that happen every month, but it is it can 618 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:37,279 Speaker 2: be really informative to pay attention to the cycles of 619 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,480 Speaker 2: the moon as you are tracking your own cycle, because 620 00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:44,360 Speaker 2: lots of people say that they do, indeed have or 621 00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,320 Speaker 2: can have an impact. In that cycle journal that I 622 00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:50,719 Speaker 2: mentioned earlier, there is an area in there where you 623 00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,319 Speaker 2: can not only track your cycle, but you're tracking the 624 00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:56,439 Speaker 2: phases of the moon as well to see if there's 625 00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:59,800 Speaker 2: some overlap. Yes, you got to get that cycle tracking journal. 626 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:05,200 Speaker 2: It is the bomb. So yes, there is some connection. Now. 627 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:09,520 Speaker 2: You know, the more westernized scientists they're going to probably 628 00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:15,919 Speaker 2: say that there's no connection. But spiritual folks, a lot 629 00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:20,160 Speaker 2: of us say, yes, there is, you know, indeed a connection, 630 00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:24,279 Speaker 2: and it's important to pay attention to it. And you know, 631 00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,480 Speaker 2: even for those women who are no longer menstruating, who 632 00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:31,280 Speaker 2: are in menopause, they can still track their cycle according 633 00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:35,160 Speaker 2: to the moon cycle. Because we are cyclical beings, we're 634 00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:39,160 Speaker 2: still cycling. So yeah, those are some of the ways 635 00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:40,560 Speaker 2: that those are connected. 636 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:48,160 Speaker 3: So awesome, Yes, I appreciate that. So, doctor Carmen, what 637 00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:54,240 Speaker 3: would be your like top five tips or self care 638 00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:58,360 Speaker 3: like activities that we should be doing during our periods. 639 00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:03,640 Speaker 2: Yes, so if we're talking about the phase of the 640 00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:09,520 Speaker 2: cycle that we're reministerating where we're flowing right, then again, 641 00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:12,560 Speaker 2: based on your tracking, there are some things that can 642 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:19,120 Speaker 2: be really helpful. So movement is actually very helpful, like yoga, 643 00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:23,920 Speaker 2: if you gentle movement, okay, pilates. You go on Google, 644 00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:26,480 Speaker 2: there are all kinds of videos on there. If you 645 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:32,280 Speaker 2: google periods and yoga periods and yoga pilates is there 646 00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:36,120 Speaker 2: there's just gentle movements. So the movement is actually helpful. 647 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:39,000 Speaker 2: Sometimes we feel like, oh, you know, I'm having these cramps, 648 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,400 Speaker 2: I'm not feeling really good. But just some gentle stretching 649 00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,440 Speaker 2: could even be you know, really really useful, not staying 650 00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:50,719 Speaker 2: stagnated or stuck, keeping the energy stuck, because remember we're 651 00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:54,600 Speaker 2: trying to perg some stuff we're purging, and so the 652 00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,839 Speaker 2: more that we're moving in terms of gentle movement, because 653 00:39:57,840 --> 00:39:59,720 Speaker 2: it's a time when we're slowing down for most people, 654 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,400 Speaker 2: but some gentle movement is really really helpful. Then just 655 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:06,640 Speaker 2: some basic things like, you know, upping your water intake 656 00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:10,319 Speaker 2: if you're not already drinking half your body weight in 657 00:40:10,440 --> 00:40:12,400 Speaker 2: terms of ounces, so if you're one hundred pounds, you 658 00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:16,040 Speaker 2: should be drinking fifty ounces of water. Upping the water intake. 659 00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:19,240 Speaker 2: Of course, those fruits and veggies that I mean, they're 660 00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:23,759 Speaker 2: a must, they are an absolute must. Also minimizing even 661 00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 2: though we might have these cravings, but minimizing sugar, minimizing caffeine, 662 00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:34,720 Speaker 2: minimizing alcohol is really really or can really be helpful 663 00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:36,919 Speaker 2: for a lot of people. And so when you're doing 664 00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:40,359 Speaker 2: your tracking, you know, you implement something and then see 665 00:40:40,360 --> 00:40:42,319 Speaker 2: how it goes, you know, for a couple of months. 666 00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:46,200 Speaker 2: So implement your yoga or your pilates or your gentle stretching. 667 00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:49,040 Speaker 2: See how you feel. Right, you're tracking it in your journal, 668 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:52,239 Speaker 2: and then maybe the next month you say, okay, you know, 669 00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,680 Speaker 2: while I'm you know, in the luteal phase moving toward 670 00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,920 Speaker 2: the menstruation phase, you know, I'm not going to have 671 00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,160 Speaker 2: or I'm going to really drastically reduce my caffeine, or 672 00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:04,759 Speaker 2: I'm going to get caffeine from a different source like 673 00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:07,960 Speaker 2: green tea, which is much different than getting it from coffee. Right, 674 00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:12,080 Speaker 2: So just try things out and track. You got to 675 00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,799 Speaker 2: keep tracking to see how, you know, see how it's 676 00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:15,480 Speaker 2: working for you. 677 00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:19,600 Speaker 4: Also, doctor Carman, have you ever have you ever tried 678 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,359 Speaker 4: acupuncture while on your cycle, because I know I've done that, 679 00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,879 Speaker 4: especially with my fertility journey, and that was I don't 680 00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:28,359 Speaker 4: know the scientific but I don't know what it does scientifically, 681 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,879 Speaker 4: but I'm like, this is this is the truth right here. 682 00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,120 Speaker 4: Very yeah, it was really good. Any any feedback about 683 00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:35,480 Speaker 4: acupuncture as well. 684 00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:40,239 Speaker 2: So I wholeheartedly believe in acupuncture. I have not used acupuncture, 685 00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,239 Speaker 2: particularly for my cycle, but I've used lots of other 686 00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:49,000 Speaker 2: things just absolutely amazing. So I really believe that people 687 00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:51,800 Speaker 2: should at least give it a shot. Be open minded. 688 00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:54,359 Speaker 2: You know, sometimes it can kind of look a little 689 00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,560 Speaker 2: scary because you got the needles poking out your body. 690 00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:00,600 Speaker 2: It's worth it to try, so much so that some 691 00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:05,120 Speaker 2: of the you know, bigger or larger HMOs and insurance 692 00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:09,840 Speaker 2: companies are now paying for acupuncture, okay, so they finally 693 00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,880 Speaker 2: at least recognize it, you know, as a viable treatment. 694 00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:15,840 Speaker 2: So I think it's worth a shot. 695 00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:19,479 Speaker 4: Awesome. And then doctor Carma, we just have one last 696 00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,080 Speaker 4: question for you, and that question is what are some 697 00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:28,840 Speaker 4: tips to keep the womb's space clean and healthy? 698 00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:34,560 Speaker 2: So definitely going back to your diet, okay, because what 699 00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:38,960 Speaker 2: you eat and drink is going to impact your womb. Okay. 700 00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:42,080 Speaker 2: So I'm talking about the physical piece now, So now 701 00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:46,160 Speaker 2: I mus shift over to the spiritual piece, because our 702 00:42:46,200 --> 00:42:52,879 Speaker 2: thoughts impact our womb too, right, Previous experiences, traumas can 703 00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:57,640 Speaker 2: impact our womb. So we call this like the bodily knowledge, 704 00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:01,480 Speaker 2: where things are held actually in our else and so 705 00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:03,680 Speaker 2: it can be really, really important. I'm gonna go back 706 00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:07,440 Speaker 2: to that luvial phase to jot down those things that 707 00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,880 Speaker 2: maybe you know we haven't addressed. They've they've been there, 708 00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:14,040 Speaker 2: and you've been needing to you know, pay attention to 709 00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:17,839 Speaker 2: those because those are all ways that we can help 710 00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:21,680 Speaker 2: to keep that womb space clean. Because like, our womb 711 00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,600 Speaker 2: is a source of our wisdom, right, and our power, 712 00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:27,440 Speaker 2: so we need we need that power to be freed up. 713 00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,839 Speaker 2: So you know, in addition to you know, getting those 714 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:34,160 Speaker 2: fruits and veggies, in, getting the water in, there's even 715 00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,400 Speaker 2: a sister that I know that like herbs and things 716 00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:40,080 Speaker 2: like that. It's not my forte, but it's out there. 717 00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:45,360 Speaker 2: But that spiritual piece is really really important. Not biting 718 00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:52,000 Speaker 2: your tongue is really really important. Now. Now, certainly there 719 00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:54,799 Speaker 2: are there's a time and a place, right, and there's 720 00:43:54,840 --> 00:44:00,399 Speaker 2: a way, But swallowing those emotions is no good. It's 721 00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:05,120 Speaker 2: no good. It can be detrimental to our health and 722 00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:08,799 Speaker 2: our womb as well. I mean, there's stuff out there 723 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:14,600 Speaker 2: that talks about the connection between our womb health, like 724 00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:18,439 Speaker 2: fibroids and sexual trauma. The research is out there, so 725 00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:21,960 Speaker 2: you know, trying to really clean you know that that 726 00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:26,320 Speaker 2: spiritual aspect of our wombs is also important. 727 00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:30,880 Speaker 4: Doctor, Partner, you are the truth. We appreciate you so much, 728 00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:35,560 Speaker 4: your energy, your lights, I mean, just everything that you 729 00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,520 Speaker 4: stand for, what you're doing right, everything. And we wanted 730 00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:41,960 Speaker 4: to know, Doc, is this a relatively new brand that 731 00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:44,720 Speaker 4: you're creating. How long have you been doing this work? 732 00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:48,880 Speaker 2: Yes, this is relatively new, So I've been doing the 733 00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:54,759 Speaker 2: marinating on it for years. And finally I said, you 734 00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:58,239 Speaker 2: know what, I can't remain silent, like I really a 735 00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:01,680 Speaker 2: part of my life's mission to empower girls, teams and 736 00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:05,080 Speaker 2: women in this way. You know, it's it's a real 737 00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,000 Speaker 2: it's a real holistic approach because the stuff that I'm 738 00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,480 Speaker 2: talking about now, you know, we're grown, we've grown folks. 739 00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:13,520 Speaker 2: But what if we started educating our nine year olds 740 00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:17,640 Speaker 2: about this right? What if when we start talking to 741 00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,680 Speaker 2: our seven year olds again, like I was saying earlier 742 00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,160 Speaker 2: that this is this beautiful milestone that you are going 743 00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:25,040 Speaker 2: to be you know that you're going to be experiencing. 744 00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:27,799 Speaker 2: What if we start earlier, and then what if we 745 00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:31,400 Speaker 2: address the teens who don't have this knowledge, you know, 746 00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,960 Speaker 2: at all as well? So I'm not bodying my tongue 747 00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:39,439 Speaker 2: and you know I am going to you know, walk 748 00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:40,480 Speaker 2: out my life's mission. 749 00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:45,240 Speaker 3: Well, we thank you for inswering the call and show yes, 750 00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:48,960 Speaker 3: we appreciate it. And we know that our listeners out 751 00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,800 Speaker 3: there are going to be like, yeah, how do we 752 00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:55,239 Speaker 3: get connected to doctor Carmen because nobody else is wanting 753 00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:57,680 Speaker 3: to talk about this missial cycle with us, So how 754 00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:03,040 Speaker 3: do we con How do our listeners connect with you, 755 00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:05,080 Speaker 3: doctor Carman? How can they find you? 756 00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:10,320 Speaker 2: Yes, the best easiest way is period of Empowerment dot com. 757 00:46:10,360 --> 00:46:13,759 Speaker 2: That is the website. There are lots of treats on there. 758 00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:17,520 Speaker 2: You'll be able to get access to one of my freebies, y'all. 759 00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,719 Speaker 2: You will even be able to access a couple of 760 00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,080 Speaker 2: discounts to some of the imperiod panties that I was 761 00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:25,759 Speaker 2: talking about before. You can sign up and be on 762 00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:29,120 Speaker 2: a wait list for an upcoming workshop, or you can 763 00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:32,360 Speaker 2: just you know, email me my email. Is there info 764 00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:36,000 Speaker 2: at doctor Carmen makmeeil dot com. You can subscribe. I 765 00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:39,759 Speaker 2: have a newsletter called the Monthly about Monthly and so 766 00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,759 Speaker 2: there are lots of ways that you can connect and 767 00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:44,759 Speaker 2: you know, complete the contact me page and let me 768 00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:46,560 Speaker 2: know what you want to do. Let me know how 769 00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:49,480 Speaker 2: you'd like to work together. I would love to chat. 770 00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,440 Speaker 4: All right, lady, there you had it. Please go out 771 00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:56,200 Speaker 4: and support doctor Carmon. Okay, her content is incredible. She's 772 00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,080 Speaker 4: doing great work in the world, and let's go ahead 773 00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:01,400 Speaker 4: and get her. Get her some bus business and new context. 774 00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:03,800 Speaker 4: Y'all look over for speaking engagements, all that good stuff. 775 00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:06,360 Speaker 4: All right, dot commor We appreciate you so much, lady, 776 00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:08,160 Speaker 4: and we will be in touch with you. 777 00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:10,880 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. It's been a pleasure. 778 00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,160 Speaker 8: Hey, lady, it's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her 779 00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:19,200 Speaker 8: Space podcast. Are you currently a resident of the state 780 00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:24,719 Speaker 8: of California and contemplating starting your therapy journey? Well, if so, 781 00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:29,720 Speaker 8: please reach out to me at doctor Dominique Brusard dot com. 782 00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:35,160 Speaker 8: That's d R D O M I N I q 783 00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:39,759 Speaker 8: U E B R O U S s ar D 784 00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:45,440 Speaker 8: dot com to schedule a free fifteen minute consultation. I 785 00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:50,280 Speaker 8: look forward to hearing from you. Thanks for joining us today. 786 00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:56,799 Speaker 8: Please note that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice, 787 00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:01,640 Speaker 8: self empowerment, and mental health, but is by no means 788 00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:05,560 Speaker 8: meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal relationship 789 00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:09,600 Speaker 8: with a trained mental health provider. If you are someone 790 00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:13,000 Speaker 8: you know is in need of mental health care, please 791 00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:18,239 Speaker 8: visit a Therapy for Black Girls directory Psychology today or 792 00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:20,000 Speaker 8: contact your insurance provider. 793 00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:22,000 Speaker 4: If you liked what you heard and want to keep 794 00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:25,920 Speaker 4: the conversation going, connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, and 795 00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:30,960 Speaker 4: Twitter at herspace podcast or check out our website at 796 00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,760 Speaker 4: herspace podcast dot com. And before we meet again, repeat 797 00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:35,200 Speaker 4: after me. 798 00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:39,560 Speaker 1: I attract abundance and prosperity with ease