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Speaker 1: Welcome to Pretty Private with Ebina, a space where no

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Speaker 1: shared by our guests are meant to inform, entertain, and empower.

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Speaker 1: From the laughs to the lessons. Just remember, tough times

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Speaker 2: What's a Professional Homegirls?

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Speaker 2: Ebina here and I hope all is cute now before

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Speaker 2: we get into this week's episode, Volume four of the

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Speaker 2: Professional Homegirl Coloring Books is available for pre orders now,

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Speaker 2: if you didn't know this, Volume four is an extension

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Speaker 2: are looking to explore a new career direction, pursue an

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Speaker 2: pre order volume four of the Professional Homegirl coloring book series. Okay, Now,

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Speaker 2: on this week's episode, my guest shares her journey of

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Speaker 2: transitioning from male to female through gender affirmation surgery. We

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Speaker 2: talk about what led her to this decision, the physical

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Speaker 2: and emotional preparation, the realities of recovery, and what it

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Speaker 2: truly means to finally feel at home in her body.

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Speaker 2: So get ready, because I had male to female gender

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Speaker 2: affirmation surgery starts now.

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Speaker 3: You know, even speaking with you, and like I told

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Speaker 3: you that, I was so excited to speak with you

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Speaker 3: as well. So like I believe like this surgery mentally

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Speaker 3: physically has made me feel like I had it. I

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Speaker 2: Know, mm hmm, I'm not gonna lie when I was

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Speaker 2: watching your videos that I can tell after your surgery,

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Speaker 2: you mm hmmm did.

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Speaker 3: You do you as well?

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Speaker 2: Do you feel it?

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Speaker 3: It's part almost like exhausted too again, But I'm yeah,

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Speaker 3: yeah I changed. Of course you supposed to change. You know,

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Speaker 3: this is this is nothing to play with, you know,

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Speaker 3: so you have to you know, of course I did.

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Speaker 3: I even walked different. I talked different every day. It's

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Speaker 2: Are there like any requirements to be a candidate for

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have lots of recommendations, But the most important

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Speaker 3: part is not waking up thinking that you should have

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Speaker 3: want me as early as however long a person may

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Speaker 3: I know that this is something that I wanted day one,

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Speaker 3: I just was like doing so much research, not one

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Speaker 3: exing questions along the journey. Everything starts from day one,

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Speaker 3: and honestly, like I said, I mean, it's good to

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Speaker 3: so I'm sure they can just look on my page,

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Speaker 3: you know. And I'm glad you enjoyed my little videos girl.

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Speaker 2: And before we continue out, I was like, I need

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Speaker 3: Honey. Yeah, I haven't walked the ball in a while.

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Speaker 2: I guess that right, you don't do it no more.

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Speaker 3: I mean I worked so much, so it's like you know,

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Speaker 3: And I said and more so so so most important

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Speaker 3: it's like up there and so many people are saying

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Speaker 3: to me, like, your mim is so proud of you,

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Speaker 3: And that's what I'm met in life now. You know,

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Speaker 2: It's come on now, talking ship, It's a whole new moment. Okay, listen,

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Speaker 2: I listen. I'm all about people, especially women, living life

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Speaker 2: don't have the support to navigate through this ghetto ass world.

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Speaker 2: So listen, talk your ship. I think that what you

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Speaker 3: It's it's been quite a lot of you know, things

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Speaker 2: And I don't get that from you, Like I feel

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Speaker 2: seeing their videos and especially the documentary, and like how

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Speaker 2: because there's their job. It's like, you know, doing services

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Speaker 2: Like it's just I don't I really hate how kids,

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think it starts with home. You have

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Speaker 3: to love your child, regardless what he or she decides

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Speaker 2: Right now, did you know anybody else that had this

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know quite a few people. Yeah, I know

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Speaker 3: quite a few people. I don't think anybody is as

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Speaker 2: Me when I was doing my research, No, seriously, because

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Speaker 2: I can't lead to no white woman child. But when

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Speaker 3: I just look at it like, check this out. I'm

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Speaker 3: who I want to be and you who you want

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Speaker 3: we want to be, right, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Like at the end of the day, that's how I

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Speaker 2: No, you got to mind the business.

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Speaker 3: Persat always said, mind your business, you live longer, and

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Speaker 2: back to the show. Now, what are some of the

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Speaker 3: I don't feel like people switched up on me at all.

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Speaker 2: No, that's sad, that's a sad who could it be?

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Speaker 3: Well? I never really wanted to say or if I

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Speaker 2: Theyll you know, we got to hang out because I'm

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Speaker 3: Right, oh yeah, well yeah, it's kind of sort of.

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Speaker 3: Oh well not my My instrumance didn't cover the costs

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Speaker 3: like you can. Yeah, it's almost like you you can.

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Speaker 2: Well, why you can't plan on your birthday.

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Speaker 3: Because that's something that you just can't. You can't set

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Speaker 2: Oh, I get what you're saying, because it might not

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Speaker 3: It was like a dream come true.

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Speaker 3: It depends on what physician or how you know, but

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Speaker 3: Girl. I had put my mother's shoes on one day

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Speaker 3: I got my feet in my mother's shoes. I was like,

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Speaker 2: Anyway, did they say something? Did they treat you like

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Speaker 3: I wish they would have definitely said something to make

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Speaker 3: so I'm so thankful, I'm so grateful, I'm so humble

436
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 3: right now. Yeah, like it's just so like girl, it

437
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 3: is so amazing, like you know, to to to go

438
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:26,960
Speaker 3: after a dream. And I would not never think I

439
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 3: would live to see me do what I just what

440
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 3: I died. I wouldn't have never thought I would live

441
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 3: to see this to happen to me. Really mm hmmm,

442
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 3: why is that?

443
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 2: Did you think that you wasn't gonna be here or no?

444
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 3: I just thought that it was so unpossible. I thought

445
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 3: about this when I was a child. Oh wow, Yeah,

446
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:56,199
Speaker 3: I thought it was so impossible, like coming from my

447
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 3: background and you know, not having a father in my

448
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 3: life for many years, and you know, just just a

449
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 3: typical black family, you know what I mean. Fat Yeah,

450
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:14,920
Speaker 3: So I wouldn't have never thought day girl. And when

451
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 3: I when I like girl, I'd be like I get it.

452
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 3: I'll be saying this ship walking around the house like

453
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:26,640
Speaker 3: I did this ship, and not only I did it

454
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 3: with grace, m facts like it's just felt so real dad,

455
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 3: like I did this by my sep.

456
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I swear you sound just like me.

457
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 2: So I feel like I'm getting emotional because I know

458
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 2: that feeling like that is getting something that you really

459
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 2: wanted and even want it for a long time guys. Yeah,

460
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 2: and when you finally did it, it's like, it's not

461
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 2: that you didn't think you couldn't do it, you just

462
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 2: didn't think you didn't know when you was gonna do it.

463
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 3: Guys.

464
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I felt that.

465
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 3: Shit.

466
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 2: It's just like to know that you did that ship

467
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 2: by yourself means and it's always good to have help.

468
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 2: But when you do shit by yourself, which is something

469
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 2: that costs money, time and sacrifice, that it means a lot.

470
00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 3: It was so many people along my journey from different states,

471
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 3: from DC to Baltimore to different states that told me no, no, no,

472
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 3: do this, No, you can't do that, But that did

473
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 3: not make me give up at all. I kept fighting.

474
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 3: Like I said, I've been trying to do this, do

475
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 3: this whole process. I just started this so many different times.

476
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 3: I went to so many different doctors. I probably know

477
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 3: all of them, you know what I mean, Like I

478
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 3: done went to so many different doctors. I talked to

479
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 3: so many different doctors who told me different things, right.

480
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 2: I am telling you no, Like what were some of

481
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 2: the things.

482
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 3: But was he back then it was it was hard

483
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,760
Speaker 3: to even get hormon then.

484
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 2: It wasn't nice, true, Yeah.

485
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 3: To these these this stuff that they got this all

486
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 3: this programmed this and programming this stuff is new compared

487
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:18,400
Speaker 3: to my generation. You know, right, get a part of

488
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 3: the new stuff too. Sometimes you know what I'm saying, right,

489
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:26,240
Speaker 3: No that yeah, like but but but they didn't have

490
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: all of this way these people was getting this to

491
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 3: getting that, and girl, it was you wanted what. I

492
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 3: remember going into the pharmacy. Oh my god, I remember

493
00:30:37,360 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 3: going into the pharmacy and and and I hit my

494
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 3: prescription and it almost made me want to cry everything.

495
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 3: So I remember going into the pharmacy and I told

496
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 3: I gave the lady my prescription, and she says, she

497
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 3: looked at it, and she looked at me and she

498
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 3: was like, You're not supposed to take this. And I

499
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 3: would look at her like, how you gonna tell me

500
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 3: what I'm not supposed to take? When my doctor Rodick,

501
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 3: who are you likes? And they did not give it

502
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 3: to me. But if I knew, but if I knew

503
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 3: what I know now far as laws and different stuff

504
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:23,480
Speaker 3: and and rights and stuff and all this stuff, if

505
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:25,959
Speaker 3: I knew that, then I probably could have had so

506
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 3: many different cases with how I was being treated like

507
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 3: that made me so strong and again living in the

508
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 3: un brother of so many different brands and flavors and colors.

509
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 3: You know, honestly, it's what you make of life. It

510
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 3: is because it could either break you or make you.

511
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 3: Can break you like a bit now ye.

512
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 2: When life get the life of baby, Oh my god,

513
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 2: na facts like you you don't know what you really

514
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 2: made up when you really go.

515
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 3: Through some shites and you able to come back out

516
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 3: one time, like you know, like nothing ain't never happened.

517
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 3: Like that's how I feel about this surgery. Like it's

518
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: like I went to surgery, I came out and I

519
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 3: was like, I remember just being new. I felt like

520
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 3: I was in so much pain and it was like, okay,

521
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 3: let me keep up. And it was like I kept

522
00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 3: going to the hospital. You got to keep going to

523
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 3: these hospitals after because that's the major surgery, you know

524
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 3: what I mean?

525
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 2: What was the talk about the day of the surgery?

526
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,160
Speaker 2: Because I feel like when I was watching the video,

527
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 2: I was just like, oh, like, how long did it take?

528
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 3: Oh? It was it was it was over seven hours,

529
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 3: I believe seven or eight hours.

530
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 2: Wow, that's a shift.

531
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the whole shift. Ship You're not. It was

532
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: like you're just talking about reconstructing girl. We're talking about

533
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 3: neurology and all. Yeah, it's different parts of that surgery

534
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 3: where I had met a team of doctors I believe

535
00:33:20,680 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 3: of like five or six or something at one point.

536
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,680
Speaker 3: So yeah, like you know, I have to it's different.

537
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 3: It's different, it's different things pertaining it, and it's a

538
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 3: very risky surgery. It's one it's one mistake and you

539
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 3: might be gone.

540
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 2: I was watching the vide because I was like, I

541
00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 2: just wanted to get a visual or what the procedure

542
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 2: looked like. And I was like, oh, you gotta be

543
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 2: skilled because one wrong cut.

544
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, one wrong cut, one wrong you turn.

545
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 2: It's amazing though. I was just like wow, like yeah,

546
00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: I was so amazed about.

547
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 3: But I'm gonna tell you something. And maybe I might

548
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 3: get bowld one day to I don't know, but so

549
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: but honestly show us, I might showing them by like

550
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 3: only fans one day. You know what I'm saying you,

551
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 3: I mean, I got small only fans, but I don't

552
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 3: be on it like that, to be honest, I got

553
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 3: only fans, I got take Time, I got Twetter. I

554
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 3: don't be on Twitter like that I need to, but

555
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 3: I got Instagram. All that stuff.

556
00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 2: Is gonna be charging these niggas.

557
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,799
Speaker 3: Baby, listen, I ain't really like you know, once once

558
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 3: my followers come up or get up or whatever, maybe

559
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,360
Speaker 3: I might start my only fans up. So you know

560
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. Yeah, but like seeing what it looked like,

561
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. I'll tell you that a

562
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 3: peak of it when I go get laser and stuff,

563
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 3: because I go get the Brazilians and stuff. I like

564
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 3: my little cranks and stuff really smooth and clean and stuff.

565
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:07,160
Speaker 2: Why can you laugh? And I was like child, I

566
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 2: was like, she's just full of giggles. I feel over

567
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 2: there crying itself. Do you have to keep it? Do

568
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 2: you have to maintain it by keeping the laser and

569
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,120
Speaker 2: stuff or can you let it grow out there?

570
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 3: Oh? You? Because that it's not going to really grow

571
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 3: as much because normally, well certain technology now is kind

572
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,760
Speaker 3: of burning it off and it don't No, heir won't

573
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 3: grow big, I suppose, But I just you know, I

574
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,200
Speaker 3: know how I want everything to be pretty for me.

575
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 3: You know.

576
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 2: Wait, so when you first saw your vagina, like, what

577
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:40,760
Speaker 2: was your reaction?

578
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 3: It was? It was it was I just I smiled.

579
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 3: I was actually it's pictures. I got some pictures, but yeah,

580
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:58,800
Speaker 3: I smile. I smile. It's a little small video to somewhere.

581
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 3: I got a kind of look for that. But anyway, yeah,

582
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 3: I smiled, like really really hard to know that, Like

583
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 3: they did something. It was I was in the days too,

584
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:15,839
Speaker 3: so it was like they did something. I'm smiling. What

585
00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:18,320
Speaker 3: did I do? It was like it was a mixture

586
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,640
Speaker 3: of different like the actions and feelings is like, and

587
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 3: I was like, my legs is tied up, not tied up,

588
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:28,320
Speaker 3: but just more so like you know, compression stockings and

589
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 3: all this stuff.

590
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 2: Wait when you first saw it? Did you see when

591
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 2: you woke up from the surgery or was like a

592
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 2: couple of days later.

593
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 3: No, I saw it on my birthday.

594
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 2: Oh what a nice gift to yourself.

595
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 3: Man, Oh my god, not a mouthstone. It was on

596
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 3: my fortieth I know.

597
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,560
Speaker 2: So what does that mean to you to give yourself

598
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 2: something so something that you always wanted, wanted on your

599
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 2: fortieth birthday? Like what does that? How does it feel?

600
00:36:56,800 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 3: Oh? My god? Like girl, I just feel like I

601
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 3: did with the hell I had to do, and I

602
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 3: accomplished it with dignity, with pride, with abuse, with infection,

603
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 3: with with heartbreaks, with billies, with name calling, with punches,

604
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:22,359
Speaker 3: with beatings. I accomplished all of this, And I just

605
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 3: want to say whatever anybody dream of truth is, live

606
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 3: in your truth and be who you want to be,

607
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 3: because nobody can make it yourself happy more than yourself.

608
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:37,600
Speaker 3: And I tell you, I feel so overwhelmed with so

609
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 3: much joy. I feel so good, I'm so humble, I'm

610
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 3: so I'm so I'm so trial. I want to be

611
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 3: that normal girl, but I feel this normal girl like

612
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 3: but I just want to feel like I just feel

613
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:56,160
Speaker 3: like this God has so much in store for me,

614
00:37:56,920 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 3: like so much war. I was so anticipated knowing this,

615
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 3: like chat with you, you know, I got another little

616
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 3: situation and it's like God, it's like really moving channels.

617
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,440
Speaker 3: And I'm like being humble, help in the world and

618
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 3: doing the best that I can and just and I

619
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:19,759
Speaker 3: can't feel, I can't feel. I'm so overwhelmed with what

620
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 3: I did on my fortieth birthday, Like I just you can't,

621
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 3: like I said, you can't make those dates up. You

622
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,439
Speaker 3: can't you know, you can't call the doctor to be hey,

623
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 3: I w this before of July.

624
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:34,800
Speaker 2: You know, now you can't.

625
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 3: You can't do that, and for that to happen, it

626
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 3: just makes me feel so rebirthed, so refreshed, new born.

627
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:50,359
Speaker 3: Yeah you know, you know, And then all of these

628
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 3: things say hashtag you know what I mean, And I

629
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 3: just feel so like I'm just new. I'm just new.

630
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 3: I just you know, I.

631
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 2: Feel No, you look like it too, Like like I said,

632
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:10,359
Speaker 2: I was watching videos, it's like a what's the how

633
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 2: the phrase that I came to the phrase like a

634
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 2: weight was lifted off your shoulders, like, you know, you

635
00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 2: just look so lighter. And granted you have a great personality,

636
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 2: but I just feel like since you want this so

637
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 2: bad and you was able to find like you got it, Yeah,

638
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:27,880
Speaker 2: it shows.

639
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 3: Hm hm And I'm glad. And the way it's just

640
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 3: it's it moves me so better in life. It moves

641
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 3: me to the point where so I am so honored

642
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:45,239
Speaker 3: and just if if I want to get married one day,

643
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 3: but if I never do, I will marry myself like

644
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:58,839
Speaker 3: like you know, so eventually you know you know.

645
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of marriage and not to get in your business,

646
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 2: just ask a general question, how long does a person

647
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: have to wait to have sex?

648
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 3: Oh?

649
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 2: There we go y'all.

650
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 3: She did a deep style, right right, So I mean

651
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 3: I wouldn't. I mean, they're saying, I don't recommend nobody

652
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 3: be going out here, you know, having those sacks and

653
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 3: no three to six months. I don't know. That's just

654
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:46,160
Speaker 3: that you know, you know, but I think it is

655
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:50,720
Speaker 3: like recommend it like after a year or so, because

656
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 3: and that's kind of that was my circumstances, because I

657
00:40:57,360 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 3: had to make sure that I don't catch no new

658
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 3: infections I don't want so And the only reason why

659
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 3: I say that is because, you know, not that I

660
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 3: just didn't. I just was learning my body, learning my tone,

661
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 3: learning my walk, learning my food language, learning my essence.

662
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:21,759
Speaker 3: So I didn't have time to entertain that part of it, you.

663
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying.

664
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 3: So now that that year has, you know, went by,

665
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 3: and I feel, like I said, I feel like I

666
00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 3: had this like baby like for all my life, I

667
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 3: just feel so refreshed, Like you know, it's just like,

668
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:37,720
Speaker 3: oh my god, like you know, this is like really

669
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:42,240
Speaker 3: amazing that I was able to live to see this

670
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 3: like and then't live to see this see it talk

671
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 3: about it. It's not like you know, girls that would

672
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 3: share a story coming from low pverty, a low poverty

673
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 3: city girl, not no city girl like me. You know what.

674
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 3: A lot of people do stuff and kind of leave

675
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 3: the hushy hush about it, you know, but I'm not,

676
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:08,320
Speaker 3: like I'm a little bit vocal. I don't care. Nobody

677
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 3: can't break me or you know what I mean. So

678
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:12,960
Speaker 3: like I can talk of I like to talk. I

679
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,959
Speaker 3: like to talk, you know. I like it. I like it.

680
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 3: I like it.

681
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 2: I al don't like the fact that you're being transparent

682
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 2: because I also feel like when things start to get

683
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 2: trendy or get popular, then people want to jump on

684
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 2: the bandwagon. So I think that what you're doing is

685
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 2: very honorable because you're not gaining anything, and if anything,

686
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 2: you're helping people out.

687
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, and God sees that, and God knows the right

688
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 3: people to put in my circle and make sure that it

689
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,880
Speaker 3: does those channels and the way that he needs to

690
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 3: move them. And I'm just gonna stay remain humble and

691
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 3: keep doing what I'm do. Want to helping people and

692
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 3: and whatever you know it is, I can do an

693
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 3: extending here to whatever, because I know that words madd

694
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:58,919
Speaker 3: to people, that's the words madder to people. It's it's

695
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 3: the tone that you talk to a person, and it's

696
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 3: how you talk to a person because some people may

697
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 3: not be in the right mood to understand what you're saying.

698
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 3: You got to understand or are going through. And people

699
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 3: are going through so many different things where they want

700
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:18,360
Speaker 3: to live out. And this is just not girl wanting

701
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 3: to be boy, boy wanting to be girl. This is

702
00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 3: not that situation. This is broader than that. This is

703
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 3: about you know, even husband wanting to tap into messing

704
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 3: with his homeboy. It gets deep out here in these streets.

705
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:34,399
Speaker 3: You know what I so nobody saying. It's a lot

706
00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:36,439
Speaker 3: of shit going through and a lot of shaky shit

707
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 3: going on. You know what I'm say you.

708
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 2: Do as a person because I feel like you. I

709
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 2: always say this about myself, like I feel like right now,

710
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,120
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm at home with myself, Like I

711
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:49,280
Speaker 2: feel like I am me, Like I feel like I'm center.

712
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 2: I know who I am, and can nobody sway me

713
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 2: to be any other different, any other different version of

714
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 2: myself than who I am now. But I feel like

715
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 2: through life you have to you have to become different

716
00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 2: versions of yourself to get to that whole self. So

717
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 2: when you're in a situation you see things as shaky

718
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:07,840
Speaker 2: or you see people that's not living in their truth.

719
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 2: What do you do in those situations?

720
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 3: Well, why not still make them feel comfortable? Because again,

721
00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 3: like I'm about comfortability. So I'm going to back people

722
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:21,239
Speaker 3: if they want to hide it for example, I'm not

723
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 3: going to bring it out, you know what I mean.

724
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:28,560
Speaker 3: That's not you know, but for the most part, you know, normally,

725
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 3: you know, most people that suspect stuff like that under

726
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 3: that you know, broader unbrother, they kind of be more

727
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:40,360
Speaker 3: nicer to that person. So I would, you know, follow

728
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 3: the same procedures. I wouldn't be mean, because you can't

729
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 3: make a person feel that way, you know sometimes you know,

730
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:52,800
Speaker 3: dealing with that broader unbrother. You know, just certain people

731
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 3: you know, make them feel even more hatred, you know,

732
00:44:56,480 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 3: because I'd have been in job interviews where I didn't

733
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 3: see my own high and they like being shady and

734
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 3: like like treating me like I, oh, hick him, competension,

735
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. They do all that, you know, but.

736
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 2: I feel like people do that because it's a reminder

737
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:14,800
Speaker 2: who they are that they forgot about.

738
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they and they want to they want to

739
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:18,959
Speaker 3: beat you, but they can't.

740
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 2: Beat you, right, and they want to be how you are?

741
00:45:22,880 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, exactly, that's my yes, and that's where I'm at,

742
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 3: like you know, and it's unfortunate that, you know, some

743
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 3: people don't have that drive in life and they feel like, damn,

744
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,360
Speaker 3: well she did it. I want to do it. You know,

745
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:45,439
Speaker 3: that's not going to make you that person, right. This

746
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 3: is something that I just didn't do because I just

747
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 3: woke up and said I wanted to do it again.

748
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:54,400
Speaker 3: This is something that I've been This is when I

749
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 3: was a child, you know, by my big ass toe

750
00:45:58,320 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 3: in My mother.

751
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 2: He wait, did you did you know about the procedure

752
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 2: as a child or you just knew that you want

753
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 2: you was gonna do whatever it takes for you to

754
00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 2: be who you knew you were.

755
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 3: I knew as a child. Mm hm. I knew as

756
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 3: a child because I never wanted to get hurt. I

757
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 3: ain't want no scratches on it. And then my father

758
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 3: used to say, well, when you used to get bruized,

759
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 3: you were fried and cried and talk about with the

760
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 3: peroxide and all that stuff.

761
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 2: You're pretty baby. What are some of the things that

762
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 2: you sacrifice in life to become the woman you are today.

763
00:46:54,680 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 3: Wow. Freedom of speech, freedom speech, dignity, authority. I'm standing

764
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:11,320
Speaker 3: for something because I won't let nobody make me feel

765
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 3: like I'm nothing, you know, you know, just just being

766
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 3: a flow of life, making myself feel comfortable. It's about me.

767
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 3: It's about I am me, you know, saying and bossy

768
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 3: and you know like summer girl, Hot.

769
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:34,760
Speaker 2: Girls, Okay, hot girls, summer.

770
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 3: Twenty twenty. Here I come. So.

771
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 2: I know your mom is no longer here with us physically,

772
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 2: but if she can see you, now, what do you

773
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 2: think she'll say to you?

774
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 3: Oh? My god, she said, she actually says something to me.

775
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 3: She spoke to me. She said, baby, you did it.

776
00:47:56,960 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 3: Oh glad you be able to feel comfortable the way

777
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 3: that you want to live your life, because she always

778
00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 3: told me, live your life, baby, be happy. Don't let

779
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 3: nobody tell you what she can't do. And you know,

780
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 3: my mom, she's been she's been going for about three

781
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:24,560
Speaker 3: four years now, and like, honestly, she speaks to me

782
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:30,200
Speaker 3: quite often. Yeah me, you know aflow and you know

783
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 3: she she she she got.

784
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:36,640
Speaker 2: Me, She got me, she does. And you look just

785
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 2: like your mama.

786
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 5: Oh, I see the picture, y'all I'm like, y'all was

787
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:46,080
Speaker 5: just like, now, what is your relationship like with your siblings, Like,

788
00:48:46,080 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 5: were they're part of your support system doing this journey.

789
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, my sister, I had a couple of business

790
00:48:52,120 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 3: and friends.

791
00:48:53,880 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 2: I know, you close with your cousin, Huh, I said,

792
00:48:57,120 --> 00:48:58,280
Speaker 2: I know you close with your cousin.

793
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:09,720
Speaker 3: Yeah. He and differently. But then again, like after about

794
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 3: a month or so, about a month or so, things change,

795
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 3: not with the people per se, but with me. M M,

796
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:23,279
Speaker 3: what do you mean. I just, you know, just kind

797
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 3: of wanted to learn myself. It was time to come home. Okay,

798
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 3: I'm at the hospital. He partied here. You know, my

799
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:33,960
Speaker 3: party was extended from being in there, you know, and

800
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 3: you know, after that kind of you know, it just

801
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 3: was kind of like, Okay, I got some I had

802
00:49:41,040 --> 00:49:44,400
Speaker 3: to turn the bed into a hospital suite, the bedroom

803
00:49:44,440 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 3: mental hospital suite. Some things had to It's a mental

804
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 3: it's very it's very serious. It's not a game. It's

805
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 3: not a game at all. So you know, things change.

806
00:49:57,080 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 3: You know, I was wanting to be more about myself

807
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:04,640
Speaker 3: and learning my body and doing certain things, and you know,

808
00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 3: it just it's it was it was painful. It was painful, and.

809
00:50:11,719 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 2: I'm assuming you have to take obviously you take a

810
00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 2: medication for the pain.

811
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 3: Well I'm not anymore. Yeah, yeah, during the time where

812
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 3: I came home. You know, when you come home, you're

813
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 3: you're you're extra woozy from the hospital, so you know,

814
00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 3: but then but they you know, they give your you

815
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 3: get your little risk to fall because you might fall.

816
00:50:36,239 --> 00:50:40,400
Speaker 3: You know, it's you know, you're you're not you know,

817
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:44,359
Speaker 3: you're not a You have to walk and you have

818
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:47,719
Speaker 3: to use the bathroom before you leave the hospital. If

819
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 3: you don't do those things, you can't leave the hospital.

820
00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:53,439
Speaker 3: So it's a few things that you have to do

821
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:55,879
Speaker 3: to kind of get out. And then once you get out,

822
00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 3: it's like you go home and you're still got some

823
00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 3: of the drug from the hospitt doped up in you.

824
00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:04,759
Speaker 3: And then home it's like you start to do a

825
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:07,440
Speaker 3: little bit more than what you were throwing at the hospital,

826
00:51:07,480 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 3: because it's like I want to you can get you

827
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 3: can move around a little bit, just a little bit,

828
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 3: just to eat a little bit. You get to move

829
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:17,240
Speaker 3: around a little bit too much, and it's like, what

830
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 3: the fuck is happening?

831
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 2: And I can't imagine, like it must be uncomfortable for

832
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,319
Speaker 2: you to use the bathroom, to do to take a

833
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 2: piss or ship lessen. Oh my god.

834
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:34,000
Speaker 3: I mean, like I said, they send me home with

835
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:39,359
Speaker 3: with so many different pills for different pains, right if

836
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 3: laxatives you have different things. You know that you go

837
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 3: home with pain medicine depending on how extraorine. I had

838
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 3: already told them I can't take pain, so yeah, I don't,

839
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:53,799
Speaker 3: like I.

840
00:51:55,880 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: Can I do no pain.

841
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 3: You would have gone out of having a baby every hour.

842
00:52:02,160 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, if there's anything what I saw on

843
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:07,279
Speaker 2: that video, I need to be doped up like I

844
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 2: couldn't imagine, mister.

845
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 3: I'm glad whatever chemicals thing got. I think I was

846
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 3: on gas and I know what they used, proper bowl,

847
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 3: but no, because they look like I was when you

848
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 3: see me going that door e o or yeah, like

849
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:37,279
Speaker 3: and being and I made real good friendship. I would

850
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,239
Speaker 3: And honestly, I'm gonna tell you something, if you go

851
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 3: into anything and life regardless of what it is. But

852
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 3: I went into my surgery not only because it was documented,

853
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:51,840
Speaker 3: because I was really happy. Yeah, and to my surgery,

854
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:56,319
Speaker 3: very happy, very confident, very like I can do this,

855
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 3: get this out the way, you know, but when I

856
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,840
Speaker 3: got out, I was drugged up for a couple of days.

857
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,879
Speaker 3: I need to know, Like, i't even know I had

858
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 3: surgery already, you know, you'd be so like And then

859
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 3: the day it was time, it's part of a reveil.

860
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 3: And then the day that the reveil was it was

861
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 3: on my birthday, so I was so like excited. I

862
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:27,120
Speaker 3: remember waking up, girl, like six o'clock in the morning.

863
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 3: They coming in there doing vitals and this. You know,

864
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:31,359
Speaker 3: it was a vital type of thing, and they had

865
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 3: to check your heartbreat every so often and everything like

866
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:37,840
Speaker 3: it was it was like a lot. They kept sticking

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Speaker 3: you with needles and stuff for you know, possible blood

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Speaker 3: cloths and this, and then always you know, constant moving,

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Speaker 3: you know, or you know, people in the room to

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Speaker 3: check on you for a major that was a major surgery,

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Speaker 3: you know, yeah for sure. Yeah, so you know. Nevertheless, girl,

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Speaker 3: I was sailing on my thing. I'm gonna tell you,

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Speaker 3: I was sailing. And my doctors, you know, they were

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Speaker 3: very impressed. And still is. I still go to the

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Speaker 3: doctors and I will continue to do everything that I'm

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Speaker 3: doing on my end to make me feel very comfortable

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Speaker 3: and havever even better and this wonderful looking Oh my god,

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Speaker 3: I'm so it's pretty pretty. Kudos to the temples in

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Speaker 3: my doctor Doctor Doc line.

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Speaker 2: I mean it gotta look. I know it looked nice

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00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:34,480
Speaker 2: because I feel like when I was watching documentary, they

882
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:36,200
Speaker 2: were just like, oh this is good.

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00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:39,800
Speaker 3: Like see that's what I was saying. It's trying to

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Speaker 3: figure out I do this only thing saying let me

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Speaker 3: let me look. I don't know yet, but yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: very humble in life. I'm content. I've never been this

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Speaker 3: happy ever in my life.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, you know, Oh well, we got two more questions.

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Speaker 2: What do you hope people take away from your story.

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00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 3: Being who they want to be, being proud to stay

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00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 3: on their own ten toes, and not just doing something

892
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 3: in life to be who you want to be, but

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00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 3: be the best, you know, because being the best, don't

894
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 3: look at values and things in your life that you

895
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 3: just want to be this person, be the best person

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00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:35,439
Speaker 3: that you want to be, and just be happy and

897
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:38,760
Speaker 3: and the things that I'm saying, I hope that to it.

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00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:44,440
Speaker 3: You know, it already been touched millions. They been touched millions.

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Speaker 3: In God, God just told me to say, your time

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Speaker 3: is coming. You're like this and by me like you know, so,

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00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 3: I just want everybody to just feel so accepted, regardless

902
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:59,360
Speaker 3: of what you got going on in your life. Living

903
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 3: your truth, you know, live in your truth. You know,

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00:56:04,840 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 3: that's what's gonna make this world a better place. This

905
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:11,960
Speaker 3: world would be a better place if people just live

906
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 3: in their truth and be honest and stay in they damn.

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Speaker 2: L and mag you fucking yeah, facts facts, So.

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00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:23,800
Speaker 3: I hope they get a lot out of that.

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Speaker 2: And last, at least, what is some advice you would

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00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 2: give to someone if they are considering this procedure?

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00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:38,360
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, do as much research as possible. Like I said,

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00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:43,040
Speaker 3: go get a couple of consultations. Just don't go off

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Speaker 3: the first line, get two and three, you know, stop smoking,

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00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 3: Get in the gym. I was very active in a gym.

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00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 2: What about drinking? Can you not not dream?

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Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I'm not an elkie Holly anyway, or

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00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 3: a drink occasionally, But yeah, like I mean, I would

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Speaker 3: not You're not able to do anything, I'm sure. I mean,

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Speaker 3: as I remember two or three days before surgery anyway,

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00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:21,480
Speaker 3: So put any kind of poison inside my system, knowing

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Speaker 3: that I have to undergo a serious surgery like that anyway,

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Speaker 3: especially if they're telling you you have maybe like if

923
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:33,360
Speaker 3: they called me today and say, well you heap up

924
00:57:33,440 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 3: until July or whatever, I'm stopping. I was stopping the

925
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:44,280
Speaker 3: call right right.

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Speaker 2: Into the water and that thing. No, that's how I am.

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00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 2: Like if I know I'm not gonna do something like a

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00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:54,720
Speaker 2: life changing event like I'm going cold turkey listen.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, like I just I just hope that you know,

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Speaker 3: my words touch the people who feel alone, the people

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Speaker 3: who feel like nobody's listening. I hope my words touched it.

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Speaker 3: I know my words are going to touch millions again,

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Speaker 3: and I just want to feel like, you know what

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Speaker 3: they can't. I'm a voice for the I'm the voice

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Speaker 3: for them. I am, and I don't mind being a

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Speaker 3: voice for them because I know I got a very

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00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 3: great voice for them.

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Speaker 2: No, in fact, I think I think you know your

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Speaker 2: story is going to definitely help somebody out for sure. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but I appreciate you. I think this was an amazing conversation.

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Speaker 2: I mean, we was ships and giggles most of the time.

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Speaker 4: Expect I don't yeah, because we got I was like,

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Speaker 4: you know, I appreciate you.

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Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure We're gonna definitely be in contact with

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Speaker 2: each other and until next time, everyone. Lada Are Pretty

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