WEBVTT - Rescheduling without a new date is canceling

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that rescheduling without a new date is actually

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<v Speaker 1>just canceling. So if you truly want to do something,

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<v Speaker 1>if you find the original time doesn't work, make sure

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<v Speaker 1>to find a new time that will. I recently ran

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<v Speaker 1>what I called a Better Workday Challenge to teach participants

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<v Speaker 1>some of my favorite tips for making time at work

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<v Speaker 1>more enjoyable. One of the strategies was to spend fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>minutes each week deepening a work friendship. A number of

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<v Speaker 1>people made plans to get coffee with a colleague, but then,

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<v Speaker 1>as often happens, life got busy. They noted needing to reschedule,

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<v Speaker 1>but their comments suggested that they hadn't found a new date.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's be clear, that is not rescheduling. That is canceling. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying you don't have the intention to schedule

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<v Speaker 1>at some point, but until there is a new date

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<v Speaker 1>on the calendar, this is no different from anything else

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<v Speaker 1>that you have decided not to do. You've probably had

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<v Speaker 1>plans that got rescheduled in this way, like my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>is home sick today, so I need to reschedule our call.

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<v Speaker 1>Or I'm swamped at work, so I need to reschedule

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<v Speaker 1>our walk, Or since it looks like it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>rain this afternoon, let's reschedule our playdate at the park.

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<v Speaker 1>Instead of sending messages like these, get the ball rolling

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<v Speaker 1>on rescheduling right away, as in, my daughter is home

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<v Speaker 1>sick today, so I need to reschedule our call. Would

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<v Speaker 1>tomorrow or Thursday at the same time work for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Or I'm at work, so I need to reschedule our walk.

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<v Speaker 1>Could you do Monday or Thursday morning of next week?

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<v Speaker 1>You might also add thank you for your flexibility, or

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry that I need to reschedule. If you are

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<v Speaker 1>on the receiving end of a request to reschedule that

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't actually include a new date, suggest one or invite

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<v Speaker 1>the other person to do so. A simple no worries,

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<v Speaker 1>how about tomorrow at the same time? Or sure one

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<v Speaker 1>is good for you keeps you from having to start

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<v Speaker 1>from scratch in remaking the plans you had already made. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>there may be times when you don't want to keep

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<v Speaker 1>the plans that are being rescheduled. In that case, if

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<v Speaker 1>the other person reschedules in a way that is just canceling.

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<v Speaker 1>Let the ball be dropped, move on, so it goes.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you do want to reschedule, get a new

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<v Speaker 1>date right away. I will add on here that people

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<v Speaker 1>are particularly guilty of this phenomenon that is allegedly rescheduling

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<v Speaker 1>something without a new date when it comes to plans

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<v Speaker 1>and hopes they set for themselves. Maybe you plan to

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<v Speaker 1>do some speculative work on Friday afternoon, then life gets busy.

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<v Speaker 1>You tell yourself you are rescheduling this to some other point.

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<v Speaker 1>But if there is no new date and time on

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<v Speaker 1>your calendar, you have just canceled it. And maybe that

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<v Speaker 1>is okay. Maybe you just don't have the capacity. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you truly want to do something, almost universally that

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<v Speaker 1>something will take time, there is no point in pretending

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't. So if you do want to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>choose another time. Otherwise you are deciding that it won't

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<v Speaker 1>get done, even if no one likes to admit that

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<v Speaker 1>to themselves. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to before Breakfast. If you've got questions ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback. You can reach me at Laura at Laura

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