Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that rescheduling without a new date is actually
Speaker 1: just canceling. So if you truly want to do something,
Speaker 1: if you find the original time doesn't work, make sure
Speaker 1: to find a new time that will. I recently ran
Speaker 1: what I called a Better Workday Challenge to teach participants
Speaker 1: some of my favorite tips for making time at work
Speaker 1: more enjoyable. One of the strategies was to spend fifteen
Speaker 1: minutes each week deepening a work friendship. A number of
Speaker 1: people made plans to get coffee with a colleague, but then,
Speaker 1: as often happens, life got busy. They noted needing to reschedule,
Speaker 1: but their comments suggested that they hadn't found a new date.
Speaker 1: So let's be clear, that is not rescheduling. That is canceling. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying you don't have the intention to schedule
Speaker 1: at some point, but until there is a new date
Speaker 1: on the calendar, this is no different from anything else
Speaker 1: that you have decided not to do. You've probably had
Speaker 1: plans that got rescheduled in this way, like my daughter
Speaker 1: is home sick today, so I need to reschedule our call.
Speaker 1: Or I'm swamped at work, so I need to reschedule
Speaker 1: our walk, Or since it looks like it's going to
Speaker 1: rain this afternoon, let's reschedule our playdate at the park.
Speaker 1: Instead of sending messages like these, get the ball rolling
Speaker 1: on rescheduling right away, as in, my daughter is home
Speaker 1: sick today, so I need to reschedule our call. Would
Speaker 1: tomorrow or Thursday at the same time work for you?
Speaker 1: Or I'm at work, so I need to reschedule our walk.
Speaker 1: Could you do Monday or Thursday morning of next week?
Speaker 1: You might also add thank you for your flexibility, or
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that I need to reschedule. If you are
Speaker 1: on the receiving end of a request to reschedule that
Speaker 1: doesn't actually include a new date, suggest one or invite
Speaker 1: the other person to do so. A simple no worries,
Speaker 1: how about tomorrow at the same time? Or sure one
Speaker 1: is good for you keeps you from having to start
Speaker 1: from scratch in remaking the plans you had already made. Now,
Speaker 1: there may be times when you don't want to keep
Speaker 1: the plans that are being rescheduled. In that case, if
Speaker 1: the other person reschedules in a way that is just canceling.
Speaker 1: Let the ball be dropped, move on, so it goes.
Speaker 1: But if you do want to reschedule, get a new
Speaker 1: date right away. I will add on here that people
Speaker 1: are particularly guilty of this phenomenon that is allegedly rescheduling
Speaker 1: something without a new date when it comes to plans
Speaker 1: and hopes they set for themselves. Maybe you plan to
Speaker 1: do some speculative work on Friday afternoon, then life gets busy.
Speaker 1: You tell yourself you are rescheduling this to some other point.
Speaker 1: But if there is no new date and time on
Speaker 1: your calendar, you have just canceled it. And maybe that
Speaker 1: is okay. Maybe you just don't have the capacity. But
Speaker 1: if you truly want to do something, almost universally that
Speaker 1: something will take time, there is no point in pretending
Speaker 1: it doesn't. So if you do want to do it,
Speaker 1: choose another time. Otherwise you are deciding that it won't
Speaker 1: get done, even if no one likes to admit that
Speaker 1: to themselves. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,
Speaker 1: and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks
Speaker 1: for listening to before Breakfast. If you've got questions ideas,
Speaker 1: or feedback. You can reach me at Laura at Laura
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