1 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: One of my favorite cast members from Love Is Blind, 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 1: Nancy Rodriguez. 3 00:00:07,320 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 2: It was a leave of faith that I was willing 4 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:12,639 Speaker 2: to take on love specifically, like is love truly Blind? 5 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 1: He was talking about how Raven was more of his type? 6 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:18,279 Speaker 1: What was it that kept you that calm? 7 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:22,919 Speaker 2: That was me being confident within myself. Yes, she's hot, 8 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,680 Speaker 2: but I'm hot too. The way I thought of it 9 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 2: was I already love myself enough. 10 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,240 Speaker 3: Do I need you to validate me as a partner? 11 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: Yes? 12 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 2: Is it required for me to feel good about myself? No? 13 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 1: What up, y'all? I hope you're all having a really 14 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 1: great twenty twenty three so far. Today I'm going to 15 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: be joined by one of the cast members of Netflix's 16 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 1: Love Is Blind Season three. If you're not familiar with 17 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: Love is Blind, it's a show that gives strangers a 18 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: chance to get to know each other and fall in 19 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: love without ever seeing each other. I love the show, 20 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: you guys. Some couples get me married and some of 21 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 1: them don't. We're going to get into everything from dating 22 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: a yuger man to lessons learned from the show. So 23 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:17,679 Speaker 1: stay tuned. This is Cheeky's and chill. So I was promised. 24 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: We have one of my favorite cast members from Love 25 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: Is Blind with me right now. It's none other than 26 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: Nancy Rodriguez. She's a speech language pathologist and a real 27 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: estate investor. So welcome, Nancy. I am so excited to 28 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 1: have you. How are you? 29 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 3: Thank you so much for having me. I am so good. 30 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 2: Honestly, I just feel like it's one thing to envision, like, oh, 31 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 2: what's gonna happen, you know, after we've been waiting for 32 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 2: so long for the show to air. But there's no 33 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 2: way that I could have imagined this or even like 34 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 2: the feeling of. 35 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 3: So much love, Like I never thought that that was 36 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 3: a thing. 37 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 2: And I'm just so thankful that it has been such 38 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 2: a positive experience for me and overall, like my family, 39 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 2: my friends, I just. 40 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: Feel so loved. That's so good. You are loved. I 41 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 1: definitely love you. You're one of my favorites. Thank you, 42 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: you really really are, and which is why I was like, 43 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 1: I need to talk to her. I have so many questions. 44 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: You're Latina. I thought your mom was super badass on 45 00:02:14,440 --> 00:02:16,920 Speaker 1: the show. Your brothers too, so it was nice to 46 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: see that, and so thank you for allowing us to, 47 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: you know, see your life. I'm a huge fan of 48 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 1: the show, and I think that it love can really 49 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: be blind? Do you feel like love is Blind? 50 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 3: Absolutely? 51 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 2: I mean I think for me, like the concept of 52 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 2: going on a reality TV show was never really my agenda. 53 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 2: It was not like, oh, one day, I want to 54 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 2: be on a reality TV show. So for me, it 55 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,800 Speaker 2: was specifically Love is Blind, and it was the fact 56 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 2: that it was a social experiment, the concept of it. 57 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 2: I watched season one, That's. 58 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 3: The only season we had access to. 59 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 2: So just watching season one and knowing that I could 60 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:56,080 Speaker 2: potentially be a part of this, like, it was truly 61 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 2: just a leap of faith that I was willing to 62 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 2: take on love and specifically like, is love truly blind? 63 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: You know? Yeah, No, I think the experiment is amazing 64 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: and whoever invented it is I think it's just it's great. 65 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: I've learned so much. I've watched all three seasons, so 66 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: I have really enjoyed it. We'll get into the relationship 67 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: with artists. I know there were some lessons that you 68 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: learned while on the show, but I want to start 69 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:23,679 Speaker 1: with something you mentioned in the first episode. You said 70 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 1: you wanted to find a husband and wanted to start 71 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 1: a family, and you said that some people have asked 72 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: you when you're going to have kids, and sometimes they 73 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: assume that something's wrong with you. That's something Latina's deal with, 74 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: Like can you talk to us a little bit about that. 75 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. 76 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 2: So I think for my background specifically, I'm the only 77 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 2: girl three boys in my immediate family, and then I 78 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 2: do have girl cousins and guy cousins, so we are 79 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 2: a big family overall. So I think for me, I 80 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 2: did a lot of first things. So like I was, 81 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 2: you know, first generation to graduate high school, first generation 82 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,839 Speaker 2: to go to college and then finish and then get 83 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 2: hired to Kishaw. I always had this like first kind 84 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 2: of experience in my family, and so I think for 85 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 2: me it was like I'm doing all these first things, 86 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 2: but at the same time, the pressure from my aunts 87 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 2: and uncles of you know, oh, but you're twenty now, 88 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 2: so like when are you going to get married? 89 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 3: And then you know, the next questions come about. 90 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 2: So I think just really finding it to where I 91 00:04:19,839 --> 00:04:23,039 Speaker 2: knew my identity came from my experiences and what I 92 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 2: wanted to do and who I wanted to be, and 93 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 2: not necessarily the pressure of that question at the birthday 94 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 2: party or the about these more or the you know, 95 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 2: whatever gathering we had together as a family. And so 96 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 2: it's funny because as the years went by and I 97 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 2: started acquiring more properties and my real estate portfolio, and 98 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:42,600 Speaker 2: we'd go to like, I don't know, quin Signetta or something, 99 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 2: and I'd haven't thea asked me like, oh, so what's 100 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,560 Speaker 2: going on with your relationship status, I'd be like, or 101 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 2: when are you having kids? I'd be like, well, I 102 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 2: have two properties now, so those are my kids. And 103 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,120 Speaker 2: then the next year would be like, oh, well, now 104 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,720 Speaker 2: I have three kids because I have three houses and 105 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 2: you know, And so I think for me, it's just 106 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 2: kind of it was an interesting upbringing because it was 107 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 2: really that pressure from the family side, but then also 108 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,800 Speaker 2: knowing where I stood and what I believed and what 109 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 2: I wanted for myself and that didn't necessarily line up 110 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 2: with what my family was asking me about or wanted 111 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 2: me to. 112 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:19,040 Speaker 1: Right. I love that answer, And that's crazy because I 113 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 1: mean I get that question all the time from family. 114 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,320 Speaker 1: It stopped from family a long time ago, but like 115 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: in interviews and when are you gonna have kids? And 116 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: it's like, for a long time I felt that pressure. 117 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 1: I was just talking about it and now like, you 118 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: know what, Wait, I'm busy doing other things and I'm 119 00:05:35,880 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: fine with that. I'm fine with that decision. And I 120 00:05:37,760 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: love to hear that from you because you feel the 121 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: same way, like I'm accomplishing things and I'm good with that. 122 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: And when it's time to have kids, that'll happen, and 123 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 1: that's I love that about you. That's another thing. I 124 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: was like, she's a freaking intelligent woman and I love that. 125 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:53,720 Speaker 1: I love to see that. You were like on your shit. 126 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:55,919 Speaker 1: So I was like, you know, shout out to you. 127 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 1: I want to give you a round of applause because 128 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: I think that's awesome. That's one of my goals this year. 129 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:03,520 Speaker 1: It is to invest in properties. And I think it's 130 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: just it's time, you know what I mean, and stop 131 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 1: spending money on all these other things. 132 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 2: Yes, And I think that's one thing too, like again 133 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:11,720 Speaker 2: being a first in my family to do so many 134 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 2: other accomplishments that I found valuable. I think like as 135 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 2: the years went on, I was now being praised by 136 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 2: my family or my cousins or the women in my 137 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 2: family to be like, oh Mira Laista, you know Jehan 138 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 2: No Praka she's in Bali in Indonesia, but she's also 139 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,200 Speaker 2: buying properties. So really just opening up that avenue for 140 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 2: my family and for my cousins. My younger cousins now 141 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 2: to be traveling, and my cousins now like seeing that, 142 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 2: like we don't have to keep the same tradition. And 143 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 2: if those cousins want to keep the same tradition, that's 144 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 2: great too. But you know, it's kind of like stand 145 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 2: for what you want and really just push through. And 146 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 2: if that's acquiring, you know, properties, and I think that's 147 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 2: a great avenue, but it could be something else. It 148 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 2: could be traveling, it could be just doing the things 149 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 2: that maybe we weren't surrounded with as a Latino cold 150 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 2: and then just exploring whatever that adventure could be. 151 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: Right, I completely agree with you. And Okay, so now 152 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: we're going to get into Bartisse. Spoiler alert you guys, 153 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 1: for anyone that hasn't watched the show. If you haven't, 154 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: I don't know where you've been. But you and Bartisse 155 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: were engaged but didn't get married, and he was the 156 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: one that said no at the altar, and you also 157 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 1: said that you trusted your gut. Did you like, did 158 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:25,960 Speaker 1: it make you second guess your gut, or is that 159 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: something like that you struggle with like now meeting other men, 160 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 1: or how do you feel about that experience, Because I'm 161 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: gonna tell you straight up, I didn't think that he 162 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: was going to say no towards the end, especially when 163 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 1: you gave him that beautiful gift, and I think it 164 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 1: touched his heart and he cried. So I was very surprised. 165 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: I was very upset. But anyways, yeah, no. 166 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 2: I think that the way that our relationship unraveled, it 167 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:53,960 Speaker 2: truly was one hour together was like dating for two weeks, 168 00:07:54,040 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 2: and so imagine ten hours together, it's like dating six months. 169 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 2: So every day that we were dating, we were not 170 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 2: just normally dating. We were dating with the intention of 171 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 2: potentially getting married. And so we had our ups and 172 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 2: her downs, and at the beginning of our relationship a 173 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,640 Speaker 2: couple weeks in off camera, I set them aside and 174 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 2: I said, you know, I'm going to say no to you. 175 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 3: You're not the person that I wanted. 176 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 2: To envision, like the person that you promised me to be, 177 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 2: that you were supposed to make me feel safe and 178 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 2: comfortable and as my partner, as my best friend, my 179 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 2: future husband. This is not who I'm getting so I'm 180 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 2: saying no with the altar, and he asked me for 181 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 2: a second chance. And I think in that moment, for me, 182 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,959 Speaker 2: like we've all been there in relationships, whether they're platonic 183 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:41,199 Speaker 2: friendship families, where people make mistakes and they want to 184 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 2: learn from them and they want to grow from them. 185 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:45,760 Speaker 2: So I'm a big believer of giving someone a second 186 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 2: chance and not holding anything back, like truly giving them 187 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 2: a clean plate as a second chance. Not oh, here's 188 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 2: a second chance, but I'm also going to bring stuff 189 00:08:53,679 --> 00:08:56,560 Speaker 2: up from the past, you know, like truly second chance. 190 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 2: So the last two weeks of leading up into the wedding, 191 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 2: it was all positive. Everything that you got to see 192 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 2: from us private lessons, dancing and having the best states 193 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:13,040 Speaker 2: off camera, just really building and nurturing our relationship together. 194 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 2: That's the feeling that I got leading up to the 195 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:20,400 Speaker 2: wedding day. So when he said no, it wasn't so 196 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 2: much that he said no because I knew it was 197 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 2: a chance. It was the fact that he led me 198 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 2: to believe that he was going to say yes. In 199 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:28,640 Speaker 2: any of the doubts that he had at the beginning. 200 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:32,840 Speaker 2: He had specifically told me I no longer have those concerns. 201 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 2: You were the person that I see myself with. This 202 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 2: is the husband that you're going to get. So I 203 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 2: think for me it was that feeling of being blindsided 204 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 2: and not almost like asking myself like how could I 205 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,000 Speaker 2: be so smart? But then also like how could I 206 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 2: let myself down to not know that this man was 207 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 2: blindsiding me this whole time? 208 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: Right? 209 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 2: And so I think I really took that to heart, 210 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 2: like after the show. Really the recovery part of like 211 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 2: the heart was just making sure that I was more 212 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 2: in tune with like what I was feeling and if 213 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 2: there were dealts with people I was dating or seeing 214 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:10,200 Speaker 2: or first date, second date, just really channeling with like 215 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 2: how I felt. And one thing my therapist said to me, 216 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:16,560 Speaker 2: she said, going on your dates, you need to ask yourself, 217 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 2: how do I feel about this person? Does Nancy like 218 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 2: how this date is going? Does Nancy like the characteristics 219 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 2: of this person? Not so much like, oh, I wonder. 220 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 3: If he likes me? 221 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 2: Because I think a lot of the times first second dates, 222 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:32,640 Speaker 2: like you want to show your best and so you're 223 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 2: maybe asking yourself. At least I was asking myself, I 224 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 2: wonder if he likes me? Or I wonder if he 225 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 2: thinks I'm funny and all these but I'm like no, 226 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:42,679 Speaker 2: Like I got to the point after the show where 227 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 2: I really asked myself the opposite of how do I 228 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 2: feel and like do I find them funny? And like 229 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,319 Speaker 2: do I like them? And how do I feel about them? 230 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 2: Because I think that really will tell you a lot 231 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:55,960 Speaker 2: at the beginning, so I had, you know, several first 232 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 2: dates and then that was it because I'm like, yeah, no, 233 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 2: it's not for me, like thank you, but it's not 234 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 2: for me. And I think I learned that a lot 235 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 2: from the show, being that it was a very fast 236 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:11,280 Speaker 2: relationship that you know, was sped up. But I think 237 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 2: that just overall, learning more about my boundaries and what 238 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 2: I'm okay with and what I'm not okay with is 239 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 2: what I got from from dating on Love is Blind. 240 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:22,200 Speaker 1: Do you feel that maybe those last two weeks like 241 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: he I don't know, if you know, for the lack 242 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 1: of a better word, he bamboozled you, like maybe like 243 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 1: do you feel that it was fake like he wanted 244 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:31,960 Speaker 1: you to like switch around to saying yes so that 245 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:33,880 Speaker 1: he could say no, or do you think it just 246 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: like did you ever get a why from him? Like 247 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 1: what the heck? 248 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I honestly, I don't think I ever got 249 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 2: a why from him, because I do want to believe 250 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 2: that he loved me. Yeah, because I think that there 251 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 2: were moments off camera that were so pure, that were 252 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:51,880 Speaker 2: so normal for us, like aside from being like seven 253 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 2: years apart, right, aside from being or six or seven years, 254 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 2: aside from dating on a show like Love is Blind, 255 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 2: Like we truly enjoyed each other. We match each other's 256 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:04,120 Speaker 2: energy so well that I want to believe that he 257 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 2: really did give it his all the last two weeks. 258 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 2: And the one thing I heard him say in an interview, 259 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 2: not to my face, but in an interview was something like, 260 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:17,680 Speaker 2: had we had more time, Like, had we had two 261 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:20,079 Speaker 2: more weeks of the last two weeks we had, my. 262 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 3: Answer would have been different for me. 263 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:26,200 Speaker 2: It was hearing that was like, okay, like, I do 264 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,120 Speaker 2: understand that the last two weeks were good, And that's 265 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 2: what I was going off of because again, giving you 266 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 2: a second chance, I was letting go anything else. 267 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about Red Flags because 268 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: his Red Flags is something that I've talked about a 269 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: lot on the show because I was in a pretty 270 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 1: difficult and somewhat toxic relationship. So that relationship taught me 271 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: red flags and not to ignore them, because I got 272 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 1: a lot of them, and I just chose to ignore 273 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: them because sometimes it's like, Okay, well we love this person, 274 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 1: or we choose to look past certain things. And looking 275 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: back at your experience, were there any red flags that 276 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: you think you missed? You know? 277 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:13,079 Speaker 2: It's funny because I think in that moment filming the show, 278 00:13:13,480 --> 00:13:17,160 Speaker 2: what I saw as a weakness of his I wanted 279 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,560 Speaker 2: to embrace. And I think for me, the way I 280 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 2: thought of it was whatever love I have from you, 281 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 2: or whatever love we can have together is extra for me, 282 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:28,840 Speaker 2: Like I already love myself enough, So like, do I 283 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 2: need you to validate me like as a partner, yes, 284 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 2: But is it required for me to feel good about myself? 285 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:36,400 Speaker 1: No. 286 00:13:37,080 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 2: So I think for me, it was really just embracing 287 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 2: him for his weaknesses, loving him through that, and really 288 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 2: loving him unconditionally, right, And so I think, like that's 289 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 2: the approach that I had when I was in the show, 290 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:51,640 Speaker 2: when I was like, Okay, we're engaged. We made each 291 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 2: other a promise. Not only did you make me a promise, 292 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 2: but I accepted your promise as a proposal, right. So 293 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,480 Speaker 2: I think for me in the show, it was really 294 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 2: there were red flags, but I chose to follow the 295 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 2: green flags, and I chose to follow the actions that 296 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:10,079 Speaker 2: were lining up with the green flags. And I think 297 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:13,560 Speaker 2: a lot of the times, like in any relationship, we 298 00:14:13,679 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 2: talk about red flags, but there's also green flags that 299 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:20,320 Speaker 2: I think that we can also use as as I guess, 300 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 2: a metric, right. I think what was really neat about 301 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 2: watching it back it was a completely different view for 302 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:29,280 Speaker 2: me because when I watched the show, not only was 303 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 2: I watching it on the perspective of how am I 304 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 2: in a relationship? 305 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 3: Because that's really neat. 306 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 2: Like I think if anybody had a chance to, like 307 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:38,040 Speaker 2: have somebody film your relationship and see what you're like, 308 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:42,160 Speaker 2: it's actually a really cool like situation. And so what 309 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 2: I learned from that is I had a different perspective. 310 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 2: I should have asked more questions, right, Like when there 311 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 2: were differences that we had, Like I should have set 312 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 2: up for myself and inquired more, because I think instead 313 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 2: of just embracing him and loving him unconditionally, when I 314 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 2: wasn't getting that in return, I think that's where my 315 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:05,880 Speaker 2: boundary wasn't there. I should have asked more questions, and 316 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 2: I should have. 317 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:07,800 Speaker 3: I think I should. 318 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 2: I should have stood up for myself in the sense 319 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:13,040 Speaker 2: that you know at reunion, I told him what you 320 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 2: said was disrespectful. And you guys didn't get to see 321 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:18,640 Speaker 2: all of our conversation at reunion, but I did say 322 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 2: everything to him that I was in my heart after 323 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 2: watching the entire show, I said to him what I 324 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 2: felt that I felt disrespected. I felt like he didn't 325 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 2: handle the delivery of his feelings. His feelings are fine, 326 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 2: like have your feelings, have your thoughts, but the delivery 327 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 2: of it was really not okay. And so I wish 328 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:38,360 Speaker 2: I would have said that to him in our relationship 329 00:15:38,440 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 2: because I think that maybe that could have allowed us 330 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:43,840 Speaker 2: to grow more as a couple and allowed him to learn. 331 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 2: But I think at the same time, like I don't 332 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 2: think he was ready to learn. I don't know if 333 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 2: he was in a place where he truly wanted to 334 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:53,120 Speaker 2: accept that as feedback. So I think for me, I 335 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:55,000 Speaker 2: just took it as like, look, this is a safe space. 336 00:15:55,320 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 2: Say what you're gonna say. Yes, it will probably be 337 00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 2: disrespectful because you're still learning on how to deal liver, 338 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 2: But overall, like I do, I wanted us to have 339 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 2: a relationship that was open and honest as much as 340 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 2: it was in the pause, I wanted to create that 341 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 2: same environment outside. 342 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:13,080 Speaker 1: Of the pods. This is a really weird question, but 343 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 1: do you know his sign by any chance? Like his horoscope? 344 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 1: He's a cancer? Oh shit, And I'm a scorpio. 345 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:22,800 Speaker 2: And I like cancers and scorpios are like they're a thing. 346 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 3: They're so compatible. 347 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 1: So yeah, do you think it had to do with 348 00:16:27,120 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: the age? Is that? Like you think the fact that 349 00:16:29,040 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 1: he was twenty five? Because I have my own opinion 350 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:34,120 Speaker 1: on that as far as like a man in his twenties, 351 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:37,400 Speaker 1: because granted my boyfriend's seven years younger, he's thirty, I'm 352 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 1: thirty seven, But I feel like a man has to 353 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 1: go through certain stuff, certain things, experience certain things in 354 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:45,680 Speaker 1: their twenties in order to figure out what they really want. 355 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:48,640 Speaker 1: I feel like not only just men women, I feel 356 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:51,120 Speaker 1: that we just need to use our twenties to learn 357 00:16:51,160 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 1: and experience and experiment. I don't know. Do you think 358 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 1: it had to do with his age? Did that ever 359 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 1: scare you? 360 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 2: I think yeah, at the beginning, it definitely scared me, Like, 361 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:03,480 Speaker 2: if I had allowed the age factor to really be 362 00:17:03,600 --> 00:17:06,879 Speaker 2: a factor, I would have said no to his engagement, 363 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 2: to his proposal, Like I just know that my parents 364 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:13,879 Speaker 2: have a big age gap, okay, And so like I 365 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 2: knew that age really didn't need to be a factor. 366 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:20,400 Speaker 2: And I actually didn't know he was twenty five until 367 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 2: the day. 368 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 3: Before he proposed, okay. 369 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 2: So I had already started falling in love with this person. 370 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:28,159 Speaker 2: And when when I found out his age, I remember 371 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 2: I was like, well, let me take a guess, and 372 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:32,959 Speaker 2: I said nineteen eighty five, uh huh, And it was 373 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 2: like dead silent, and he was. And so even just 374 00:17:36,320 --> 00:17:38,439 Speaker 2: like the fact that I had no idea because the 375 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,680 Speaker 2: way he carried himself in the Pods, like I really 376 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:44,639 Speaker 2: thought he was more mature. I think what happened at 377 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 2: least throughout the process. I think that when you say, 378 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 2: like love is blind, I think that is true up 379 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:52,760 Speaker 2: to a certain point. So I think that love is 380 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 2: blind in the Pods if you can connect emotionally with someone. 381 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:00,080 Speaker 2: I think what happened in his case is that in 382 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 2: the real world he allowed other factors to come into 383 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 2: his opinion. So I don't know if he was mentally 384 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:11,200 Speaker 2: emotionally strong enough to hold on to like what really 385 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:14,720 Speaker 2: brought us together. And I think that maybe because I 386 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:16,639 Speaker 2: am there. I was thirty one at the time, I 387 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,679 Speaker 2: had already knew and loved myself so much that I'm like, 388 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:22,439 Speaker 2: anything I get from you is extra, so like we 389 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:24,680 Speaker 2: can make this work, Like we can work through our 390 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 2: differences and we can really pull through. So I think 391 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 2: he still wasn't able to get to that point because 392 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:35,400 Speaker 2: of other factors in that he was influenced by, whether 393 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,639 Speaker 2: it was his peers, his friend scrolling. 394 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 3: Through social media. That was one thing. 395 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:42,479 Speaker 2: We got our phones in our hand when we were 396 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 2: coming back to Dallas from Malibu and it was like, 397 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 2: I got this weird feeling that I ended up asking 398 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,400 Speaker 2: was like, do you feel like the whole type thing 399 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:55,000 Speaker 2: me not being your type came from you scrolling on 400 00:18:55,040 --> 00:19:00,359 Speaker 2: the internet and seeing tall blondes And he said yeah, 401 00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:02,760 Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, that's part of it. So I'm like, Okay, 402 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,240 Speaker 2: I could scroll through my feet and see hot guys, 403 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 2: but I'm not going to be like, oh I wish 404 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 2: that was my husband, because like I know, you know 405 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:10,479 Speaker 2: what I mean. Like, so I think again, like the 406 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 2: influences of the outside world really impacting I think his 407 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:17,880 Speaker 2: opinions still and maybe when he gets to a point 408 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 2: where he's mature enough to hold his true value for 409 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 2: himself and rituly love on himself or who he is 410 00:19:25,200 --> 00:19:27,440 Speaker 2: and not the extra stuff and not let the external 411 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:32,280 Speaker 2: things impact him, I think maybe then things could have 412 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 2: been different. 413 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:35,440 Speaker 1: Right now that you brought that up, I do remember 414 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:37,399 Speaker 1: feeling like when you guys were in the Pods, so 415 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, he seems like such a mature, intelligent, twenty 416 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:44,439 Speaker 1: five year old, and I think that that's when he 417 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:45,959 Speaker 1: you know, when he, like he said, when he went 418 00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:47,199 Speaker 1: out to the real world, it was like, I think 419 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 1: he was his true self in the Pods and then 420 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:53,320 Speaker 1: like that's his true essence, is what I felt. And 421 00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:55,600 Speaker 1: then he went out and he just was like hit 422 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: with just so many things in different opinions, and it 423 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,159 Speaker 1: kind of just rattled him. Is kind of how I 424 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:05,399 Speaker 1: saw it, because I saw a different person and I'm like, what, Like, 425 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:07,639 Speaker 1: I was like, this is I could have that money 426 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: that he would he wasn't this dude. And this is 427 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,160 Speaker 1: not to talk rap about artists, because I'm sure he's 428 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:15,160 Speaker 1: a great guy. I'm sure that he learned a lot 429 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:18,679 Speaker 1: of lessons himself through this process, I hope, but I 430 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:21,160 Speaker 1: was like, what the hell, especially when and I don't 431 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 1: know if this is out of line, and you tell me, 432 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:24,200 Speaker 1: but like because I don't want to talk about anything, 433 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,880 Speaker 1: wouldn't want to talk about but when you guys were 434 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:29,760 Speaker 1: in bed and he was talking about how Raven was 435 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: more of his type and you were just listening, like 436 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:34,639 Speaker 1: you took that so well. And I want to ask you, 437 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,199 Speaker 1: as a woman, do you feel like and I don't know, 438 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:39,439 Speaker 1: maybe they didn't show that part, but you were just 439 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:42,200 Speaker 1: very quiet, and I felt like she's observing, she's taking 440 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:45,879 Speaker 1: it all in, she's thinking I and maybe this is 441 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 1: me being immature. I probably would have slapped him. To 442 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 1: be honest, I don't disrespect me, but I'm like, I 443 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:54,119 Speaker 1: want to know, is it because you love yourself? Is 444 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:57,199 Speaker 1: it how confident you are? Is it? Like? What was 445 00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 1: it that kept you that calm? Because I admire it's 446 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 1: it's admirable. 447 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:05,479 Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you so much. Honestly, I pride myself 448 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 2: and being a good listener, and that's something that I've 449 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:11,159 Speaker 2: worked really hard to do, whether it's listening to my 450 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 2: friends or the person that I'm dating, like just truly 451 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,600 Speaker 2: soaking in what they're saying and allowing that to be 452 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 2: a safe space. So I think in that moment, I 453 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,879 Speaker 2: had only known this guy physically for days, and so 454 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 2: I knew that, like although he wasn't a long term 455 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:31,360 Speaker 2: friend right or a long term relationship, Like, I just 456 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 2: knew that I needed to create a space for him 457 00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 2: to be able to say what. 458 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 3: He needed to say. 459 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:39,879 Speaker 2: And then the next day we actually had a follow 460 00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 2: up conversation about that particular conversation and like what it 461 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:48,840 Speaker 2: meant for him to have these feelings for someone else 462 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 2: and that what that really meant. But at the end 463 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 2: of the day, like looking back again watching it, I 464 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 2: got a different perspective because watching it back like that 465 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 2: was me being solid confident within myself and so like 466 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 2: I knew, like, yes, she's hot, but I'm hot too, 467 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:08,040 Speaker 2: So what are we gonna do? Like there's like nothing 468 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 2: to be done about that. So like, yeah, I'm unbothered 469 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:13,520 Speaker 2: by it. So I will at the party, I will 470 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,639 Speaker 2: have burgers and I will have like you know, I 471 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 2: will love and enjoy myself. 472 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 3: Like you know, I was hungry. 473 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,639 Speaker 2: We were drinking, so like I just knew that like 474 00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,639 Speaker 2: it didn't FaZe me, And I think that that's something 475 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:27,240 Speaker 2: that when people have asked me before, like would you 476 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:30,000 Speaker 2: recommend someone going on Love is Blind? I do think 477 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,000 Speaker 2: that it is a process that is much deeper than 478 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 2: what you think is Like on TV, I learned so 479 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:39,560 Speaker 2: much about myself. But I truly would recommend anyone who 480 00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,280 Speaker 2: goes on the show to really check in with yourself 481 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,320 Speaker 2: and be in tune with who you are and how 482 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,360 Speaker 2: much do you love yourself and making sure that you're 483 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:49,480 Speaker 2: not looking for that validation from elsewhere, because I think 484 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:51,160 Speaker 2: that's where it gets a little bit tricky. 485 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what, I think a lot of us 486 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:58,040 Speaker 1: can learn quite a bit from you, Nancy. And I 487 00:22:58,080 --> 00:22:59,879 Speaker 1: love what you just said, like saying, yeah, she's a 488 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,159 Speaker 1: hot grow but so am I. I know my value, 489 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,199 Speaker 1: I know what I bring to the table. I love that. 490 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,720 Speaker 1: And have you ever dated a younger guy? No? 491 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:10,640 Speaker 3: That was my first. 492 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,240 Speaker 2: And it's funny because I joke about it like, ah, 493 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,679 Speaker 2: never again because you don't know what could happen, but 494 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 2: literally like never again, only because I'm thirty three now. 495 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,960 Speaker 2: So it's like there are things that I accepted in 496 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:28,560 Speaker 2: that relationship that I will not accept in my future relationships, 497 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:30,920 Speaker 2: and so I think, right, if I didn't learn from 498 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 2: that relationship, what am I doing? Like why would I 499 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 2: make you know the same mistakes and whatnot. So I'm single, 500 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:40,240 Speaker 2: I'm open to dating. I've got so many really cool 501 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:43,480 Speaker 2: plans coming up, and so I just feel like I'm 502 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,920 Speaker 2: excited to start dating again. But at the same time, 503 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:47,560 Speaker 2: like we're putting. 504 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,159 Speaker 3: Boundaries up exactly. 505 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 1: I think that's important from the beginning, from the beginning, 506 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: just saying hey, yeah, this is what I'm okay with 507 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,679 Speaker 1: and I'm not okay with this, and it's just like, 508 00:23:55,760 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 1: so we don't waste each other's time. It's kind of like, well, 509 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,399 Speaker 1: we get to this age, I feel like, let's just 510 00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,760 Speaker 1: put it out there, you know, Yeah, are you guys friends? 511 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:04,399 Speaker 1: You and barties? Do you guys have any like do 512 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:05,480 Speaker 1: you guys talk at all? Or no? 513 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:09,199 Speaker 2: I definitely would not say we're friends. And that's something 514 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,040 Speaker 2: that in the last year and a half, like we 515 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,439 Speaker 2: have tried to be friends and we just know that 516 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:16,560 Speaker 2: at the end of the day with this new like 517 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:20,479 Speaker 2: when the show actually dropped, it was more of like, Okay, 518 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:22,639 Speaker 2: no one else is going to know our relationship except 519 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,880 Speaker 2: for us. So we did come in contact again more 520 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,520 Speaker 2: of like hey, post check, like how are you? He 521 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,879 Speaker 2: was getting a lot of hate and so even me 522 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,399 Speaker 2: just checking in on him for that like are you okay? 523 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,520 Speaker 2: And he'd be like no, not today, and I'm like okay, 524 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 2: we'll talk to me like what's going on? But then 525 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 2: the next day, you know, or a few days go 526 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:41,760 Speaker 2: by and we're still checking in on each other back 527 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:47,480 Speaker 2: and forth. But really, just for that, I think talking. 528 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 3: Terms is the best way to put it. 529 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,160 Speaker 2: But to say friends, like yea, friends with my ex 530 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,200 Speaker 2: is gonna do in this particular case, We'll do nothing 531 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:56,880 Speaker 2: for me for my future, you know what I mean? 532 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:58,439 Speaker 2: Like I hate to say it like that, but like, 533 00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,880 Speaker 2: how is me being friends with you going to help 534 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:03,920 Speaker 2: me with my career? How is it going to help 535 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 2: me with my dating? Like if anything, that's baggage. So like, 536 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,439 Speaker 2: you know, I'm here to cheer him on from AFAR 537 00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:16,120 Speaker 2: and wish the best for him, but definitely not friends. 538 00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:25,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, you can care about people from AFAR. So I 539 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:30,800 Speaker 1: did hear that you donated your eggs in grad school? Yeah? 540 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,040 Speaker 2: I did it in San Francisco, So I think every 541 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 2: state might be different. So basically a total of eight times, 542 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 2: is what I donated my eggs for. And so yeah, 543 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:42,919 Speaker 2: it was in grad school. I want to say that, 544 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:45,080 Speaker 2: like I might have done the last two when I 545 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,880 Speaker 2: left grad school, so I was already out of school, 546 00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 2: and I think I had flown back. I want to 547 00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,640 Speaker 2: say that's actually what happened, is I flew back after 548 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 2: I left San Francisco to do like another cycle, a 549 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,960 Speaker 2: couple more cycles with the company. 550 00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:02,000 Speaker 1: Oh, I see, Okay, do they inform you once like 551 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:06,439 Speaker 1: those eggs are fertilized or you or no, like you 552 00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:08,919 Speaker 1: just donate those eggs and that say you're done with it. 553 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:13,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, So once I donate once they it's called the retrieval. 554 00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 2: So once the retrieval happens and the eggs are given 555 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,919 Speaker 2: to the family, if the family is currently in the 556 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 2: IVF process, that means that they have to take my 557 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:27,400 Speaker 2: eggs and I hope I'm not sure if I'm getting 558 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 2: the terminology right, but essentially they have to fertilize the 559 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 2: embryos if that's what they want. If the family wants 560 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,240 Speaker 2: to sync up not only my cycle and the retrieval, 561 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 2: but also with them, and then they would have a 562 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:40,240 Speaker 2: vitro happened there. 563 00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:41,200 Speaker 3: Now out of. 564 00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:44,119 Speaker 2: Like let's say, let's say I they were able to 565 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 2: extract twenty eggs. From those twenty eggs, only maybe eighteen 566 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 2: of them might be viable eggs to be able to 567 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:56,080 Speaker 2: be fertilized. And then from there then the family can decide, well, 568 00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,080 Speaker 2: how you know, you only fertilize one because you don't 569 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,520 Speaker 2: want to fertilize all of them. And then so essentially 570 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 2: it's really up to the families what they do. And 571 00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:05,920 Speaker 2: I don't know any of this. So whenever I get 572 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:09,399 Speaker 2: the information back to me, is if the family chooses 573 00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:13,600 Speaker 2: to send me a letter or have the agency contact 574 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 2: me and say, hey, by the way, the family has 575 00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 2: had a baby. It's been six months. You know, I 576 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 2: was a boy, so I only got about two of 577 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 2: the calls after I donated months later, like what actually happened. 578 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,680 Speaker 2: But the families have options, like either they fertilize there 579 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,400 Speaker 2: like in that moment when they get the eggs. They 580 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 2: can also freeze some of the eggs if they want 581 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:40,959 Speaker 2: to have siblings. They can also donate to research or 582 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:41,760 Speaker 2: discard them. 583 00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 3: So there are options. 584 00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,200 Speaker 2: Of what the families can do with the Like I said, 585 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,159 Speaker 2: twenty eggs and let's say eighteen or viable. So it 586 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:53,200 Speaker 2: just kind of depends on that. And I think one 587 00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,159 Speaker 2: of the things too, And I know this kind of random, 588 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,200 Speaker 2: but on my YouTube channel, like when I talk about 589 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:00,400 Speaker 2: like my real estate, I also want to be talking 590 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,040 Speaker 2: about these topics because I do think it's important one 591 00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 2: in the Latina culture, Like it's just not common to 592 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:10,399 Speaker 2: have these conversations. And I think, like, if anything, if 593 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,560 Speaker 2: it's wanting to freeze your eggs, what does that look like, 594 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,280 Speaker 2: If you're wanting to be a donor, what does that 595 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,160 Speaker 2: look like? And I just think having a long form 596 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,800 Speaker 2: platform is a really great way to get this information 597 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,480 Speaker 2: out from my experiences and like what are options that 598 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 2: are out there for people? 599 00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 1: Why did you decide to donate? 600 00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, so initially I had gotten into grad school and 601 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,119 Speaker 2: at this time, it was like the it was the 602 00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 2: first semester and I was going into my second semester, 603 00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:43,200 Speaker 2: and I knew that I still had like funds to 604 00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:44,520 Speaker 2: like have to pay. 605 00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 3: For school, and so I went on the school's website. 606 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 2: Honestly, it was as easy as that they had like 607 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 2: a jobs for like students, like whether you wanted to 608 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,280 Speaker 2: be a nanny? Or like other odd jobs that you 609 00:28:56,320 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 2: could work at that either local San Francisco people would 610 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:03,120 Speaker 2: post on there. So it was a job Google search, 611 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:06,880 Speaker 2: I guess, and there was an ad for egg donating 612 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,240 Speaker 2: and that was like my first question of like wait, 613 00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 2: like people, I know there was like sperm banks, but 614 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,280 Speaker 2: I didn't know like egg donating was even a thing. 615 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 2: So I went through the process of inquiring like well 616 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:20,560 Speaker 2: do I even qualify? 617 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:22,080 Speaker 3: Like what is this process? 618 00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,000 Speaker 2: And I learned so much, even just from the interview 619 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 2: process about genetic testing, and I learned about the likelihood 620 00:29:29,760 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 2: of like what are the risks and what are the benefits, 621 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,640 Speaker 2: and what kinds of families are a part of this 622 00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,560 Speaker 2: community and it you know, even just learning that it 623 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,200 Speaker 2: could be like a same sex a couple family, or 624 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,160 Speaker 2: it could be a single parent, or it can be 625 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,760 Speaker 2: a family that has been struggling to have children. So 626 00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 2: even just learning about that. Although it started from a 627 00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 2: job post like on my school's website, it really just 628 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,280 Speaker 2: carried through so much more nets And it is for 629 00:29:56,400 --> 00:30:00,200 Speaker 2: that particular company. They're very stringent on their process of 630 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 2: getting applicants to be donors. So by like three months 631 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:09,640 Speaker 2: in I had had so many interviews, psychological genetic testing, 632 00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:11,960 Speaker 2: that you can still say no at any point. Even 633 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:14,280 Speaker 2: if I was selected and there was a family waiting 634 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:16,560 Speaker 2: for me, I could still say no before I go 635 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 2: through the process. 636 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:18,920 Speaker 3: So I think just. 637 00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 2: Really learning about the impact that it would have on 638 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,680 Speaker 2: the lives of a family, just even one family, even 639 00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,160 Speaker 2: if I only got chosen once, I just knew that 640 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,480 Speaker 2: that was something that was in my heart to like 641 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 2: still do. 642 00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:38,680 Speaker 1: Oh so you guys, she's single. She's single, I don't know. 643 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,160 Speaker 1: She says she's kind of ready to mingle, but she 644 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,960 Speaker 1: has boundaries now, which I think is good as well. 645 00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:47,600 Speaker 1: I think boundaries are good in every relationship, friendships, families. 646 00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,520 Speaker 1: So anyways, I did want to ask you, like, I mean, 647 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,680 Speaker 1: we've talked about it, like throughout the URT conversation, but 648 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 1: is there anything like that you would like to tell people, 649 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 1: Like what you learned, like the biggest lesson that you 650 00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 1: learned in this process, this experiment with that love is mine. Yeah. 651 00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:08,120 Speaker 2: It's one thing to feel self love, and it's one 652 00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,440 Speaker 2: thing to know like, oh I love myself and to 653 00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 2: say it, but to actually watch myself go through that 654 00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:18,080 Speaker 2: process of falling in love and it being extra love 655 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:22,000 Speaker 2: and then getting my heart broken, but he didn't break me, 656 00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 2: you know. Like, I think one thing that I learned 657 00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:28,800 Speaker 2: from this experience is that Brtista and I will always 658 00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:33,240 Speaker 2: have our love story, but he is not my life story. 659 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 2: And so I think that that's something like when you're 660 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 2: getting through a heartbreak, Like I went through the natural 661 00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:42,120 Speaker 2: stages of a heartbreak afterwards, and whether it was crying 662 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:46,200 Speaker 2: out of nowhere or not having an appetite or finding, 663 00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:48,640 Speaker 2: you know, what made me happy again, whether it was 664 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,680 Speaker 2: dancing or working out, or being busy or traveling, Like 665 00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:55,320 Speaker 2: I think, just really remembering that some people come into 666 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:59,800 Speaker 2: our lives for a period of time, and I would 667 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:04,280 Speaker 2: hope that our relationship really just shed some light in 668 00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,840 Speaker 2: how you can have like respectful conversations when there are 669 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:11,040 Speaker 2: big differences, right whether if it was a conversation about 670 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:14,360 Speaker 2: family planning or the conversation about financial planning that was 671 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,400 Speaker 2: a big you know too, that was a big one 672 00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:21,400 Speaker 2: too for us. And so I just hope that looking back, 673 00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:26,440 Speaker 2: people can really embrace themselves and love on themselves harder 674 00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:30,600 Speaker 2: than anyone else, because any extra love that is given 675 00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,560 Speaker 2: or receipt should be extra And I think that's the 676 00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,680 Speaker 2: cherry on top is like find it first within yourself 677 00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:41,240 Speaker 2: and even if you have harder days, like there are 678 00:32:41,280 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 2: harder days and that's okay too, Yeah, but understanding that 679 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,880 Speaker 2: the big picture is that you were there for you first, 680 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,200 Speaker 2: and then anything else is extra from other people. 681 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,720 Speaker 1: Completely agree. The way my mom would put it was 682 00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: you have your plate and you are the plate, and 683 00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,440 Speaker 1: you have your protein and your carbs and your greens, 684 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,440 Speaker 1: and then and that person, that partner is just dessert, 685 00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:05,120 Speaker 1: is how she used to put it, Like that's just 686 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,200 Speaker 1: your dessert. It's not your full course. Mill and it's 687 00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,000 Speaker 1: like it's true, and I just want to say thank 688 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 1: you once again. I appreciate it now. I mean, I'm 689 00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:15,960 Speaker 1: sure people would love to follow you on social media. 690 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:18,000 Speaker 1: Do you want to share like your YouTube channel, like 691 00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 1: all that good stuff so people can follow you and 692 00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: you know, stay connected. 693 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:25,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm super excited for my YouTube channel. It's the 694 00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:29,880 Speaker 2: handle is Nancy Rodriguez Life. And I really keep it 695 00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 2: like that because the goal of my long form platform 696 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:35,960 Speaker 2: on YouTube is going to be to educate on the 697 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 2: different things that I've gone through in my life and 698 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 2: like what things have made me successful in real estate, 699 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 2: what things have made me successful in my profession as 700 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:47,040 Speaker 2: a speak pathologist. Also what has it worked right, because 701 00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:50,880 Speaker 2: it's not all sunshine and rainbows. And then my Instagram 702 00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:53,640 Speaker 2: and my TikTok will just also have some of that 703 00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:59,440 Speaker 2: short form content. So that's the Nancy Rodriguez are those handles. 704 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,280 Speaker 2: But I'm to just continue to grow my channel on 705 00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:06,400 Speaker 2: YouTube and I think of anything like it, it'll be 706 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:10,759 Speaker 2: more of that community oriented like content made for you 707 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,480 Speaker 2: all as my followers, as my listener. So I just 708 00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,560 Speaker 2: thank you so much for giving me this platform to 709 00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:18,360 Speaker 2: you know, share my story from the show. But again, 710 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 2: like it's it's a part of my love story, but 711 00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:24,080 Speaker 2: it's not my life story. So that's where the rest 712 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 2: of social media will really come in is continue to 713 00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:29,120 Speaker 2: follow me because there's so much more to learn about 714 00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:31,799 Speaker 2: where I've come from. And I'm excited about the real 715 00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:35,080 Speaker 2: estates of financial conversations, like let's talk money and make 716 00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 2: that like a normal type of conversation amongst the Latino community, 717 00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,880 Speaker 2: amongst women women of color, and then just young people 718 00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,040 Speaker 2: right like our generation and what it means to be 719 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:47,880 Speaker 2: in in this society. 720 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:50,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you so much. And you guys, you guys 721 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,440 Speaker 1: can binge and watch all twelve episodes of Love Is 722 00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:57,359 Speaker 1: Blind Season three on Netflix. And before we close out 723 00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:07,279 Speaker 1: today's episode, let's get into our mo motivational quote. You 724 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,840 Speaker 1: deserve a love that you don't have to question is 725 00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:12,880 Speaker 1: the quote. You deserve a love that you don't have 726 00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:14,880 Speaker 1: to question? And I have one more just because I 727 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,640 Speaker 1: was feeling very inspired. You know what is sexier than 728 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:20,720 Speaker 1: a bad boy? A grown ass man with his shit together. 729 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:22,960 Speaker 1: Those are the two I have for you guys today. 730 00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,239 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us, Nancy, Thank you 731 00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:28,799 Speaker 1: so much. Nancy. Honestly tell your family said hello, your 732 00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:32,440 Speaker 1: mom and your brothers, and I will be tuning in 733 00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:35,160 Speaker 1: to your YouTube channel and all that good stuff. So again, 734 00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,840 Speaker 1: thank you everyone. Thank you for listening. Vessels, have a 735 00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:46,320 Speaker 1: beautiful rest of your day. Do you need advice on love, relationships, 736 00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:49,719 Speaker 1: health emails? 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