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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today is Labor Day in the United States, and so

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Speaker 1: this week we're going to be talking about work and

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Speaker 1: how we feel about it. Today's tip is about how

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Speaker 1: to become happier in a job that feels like just

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Speaker 1: a paycheck. I decided to do an episode on this

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Speaker 1: topic after getting a note from a listener who is

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Speaker 1: in just such a position. She noted that the things

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Speaker 1: she cared about, volunteering at church, spending time with loved ones,

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Speaker 1: consuming stories, traveling had nothing to do with her job,

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Speaker 1: or really with most normal jobs. She wrote that her

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Speaker 1: job was good as these things went, but during her

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Speaker 1: work hours, I feel like I am in an adult

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Speaker 1: form of time out. I sit in my office chair

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Speaker 1: and think about my life choices, will values are on hold?

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Speaker 1: How can I make this time count for more than

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Speaker 1: just to paycheck. I followed up because I wanted to

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Speaker 1: know why this listener had taken a job that made

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Speaker 1: her feel like she was an adult time out in

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Speaker 1: the first place. I learned as I suspected that there

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Speaker 1: were a lot of upsides to this job. The sort

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Speaker 1: that make it hard to quit. She was paid well.

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Speaker 1: Her official schedule required working four nine hour days, so

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Speaker 1: she was off every single Friday, a perk that certainly

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Speaker 1: had its benefits for family and community involvement. She got

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Speaker 1: benefits like tuition reimbursement, free access to a fitness center,

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Speaker 1: and other discounts. When she came in late. Sometimes no

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Speaker 1: one complained, no one tried to micromanager. She liked her colleagues.

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Speaker 1: She was just well board. And while spending thirty six

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Speaker 1: hours per week in a boring job is better than

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Speaker 1: spending fifty hours a week in a boring job, I

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Speaker 1: know I'd rather work fifty exciting, challenging hours than thirty

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Speaker 1: six worring ones. I would not be able to report

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Speaker 1: to a job day after day where I felt bored,

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Speaker 1: and I don't want that for anyone else either. So

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Speaker 1: the question was what our listeners should do about it first,

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Speaker 1: before anyone gets worried, My first advice is not to quit.

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Speaker 1: That is an option and might be necessary at some point,

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Speaker 1: But if daily life is tolerable, then the wisest first

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Speaker 1: step may to be to try to improve the current situation. Fortunately,

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Speaker 1: there are all kinds of ways to turn the job

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Speaker 1: you have into a job you'd love. I suggested spending

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Speaker 1: the next six to twelve months truly focused on improving

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Speaker 1: the situation and crafting her position into something she found

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Speaker 1: more interesting. First, she should seek out more challenging work.

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Speaker 1: A few job descriptions are carved in stone. People are

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Speaker 1: happiest when they are making progress on difficult but doable things. Now,

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Speaker 1: I don't recommend going to your manager and saying I'm bored.

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Speaker 1: I suspect most managers would react to that in the

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Speaker 1: same way I do when my kids knock on my

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Speaker 1: door and announce this. Instead, anyone in this situation should

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Speaker 1: come up with their own ideas for using their time better.

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Speaker 1: Look around the organization and see what's working and what's not.

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Speaker 1: Could you use your particular skills to improve what's not working?

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Speaker 1: Are there departments or teams who seem to be doing

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Speaker 1: cool stuff? Could you try helping out on projects there?

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Speaker 1: Talk to lots of people, lunches, coffees, walking meetings. Figure

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Speaker 1: out what work you'd find more interesting, and figure out

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Speaker 1: how you can get involved. Maybe it's an internal move,

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Speaker 1: but it could also just be reallocating time. Our listener

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Speaker 1: who sent in this question had some available time during

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Speaker 1: slower periods. She could get involved in new areas during

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Speaker 1: this time, even if it wasn't officially part of her

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Speaker 1: job description. Of course, it's possible she wouldn't have all

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Speaker 1: the right skills for certain other projects, and that's where

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Speaker 1: some of the organization's benefits came into play. She had

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Speaker 1: a good tuition reimbursement policy, so she should definitely be

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Speaker 1: using that. Now. There may be some gray area here,

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Speaker 1: but in my mind, if the courses she chose were

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Speaker 1: plausibly related to her job, she could use some of

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Speaker 1: her job downtime to study in complete assignments. This would

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Speaker 1: definitely remove the sense of being an adult time out.

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Speaker 1: She could also look for ways to be involved in

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Speaker 1: her organization's community. Joining our starting employee affiliation groups is

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Speaker 1: always good, and sometimes larger organizations have service projects or

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Speaker 1: conferences or community days that always need volunteers. While this

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Speaker 1: might not feel quite as meaningful to her as her

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Speaker 1: church volunteering, it would have some of the same upsides. Indeed,

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Speaker 1: she could try to spearhead programs to do service events

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Speaker 1: for some of the same causes that her church supported.

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Speaker 1: Whether you're reading at an after school program on behalf

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Speaker 1: of your house of worship or your employer. It's all

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Speaker 1: good now. Of course, this might not work. I do

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Speaker 1: believe that six to twelve months of solid effort can

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Speaker 1: improve just about anything, whether that's a relationship or a hub.

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Speaker 1: That said, if she still felt an adult time out

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Speaker 1: after a year, she would have a few options. One

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Speaker 1: is to consciously decouple her sense of self from her job.

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Speaker 1: Our listener was actually toying around with this concept already,

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Speaker 1: as she told me, we roughly sleep and work for

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Speaker 1: the same amount of time each day. However, I don't

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Speaker 1: consider myself a sleeper as my primary identity. It's just

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Speaker 1: the thing I have to do. It isn't the whole

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Speaker 1: of who I am or the most valuable thing I do.

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Speaker 1: This is a valid point. It might help to really

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Speaker 1: keep work in context. If our listener worked thirty six

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Speaker 1: hours per week and slept eight hours per night, this

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Speaker 1: leaves seventy six hours for other things, and this is

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Speaker 1: a lot of time. She could consciously think about how

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Speaker 1: to maximize her enjoyment of these other hours, taking on

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Speaker 1: serious volunteer rules, indulging in longer and more exotic vacations,

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Speaker 1: and planning in adventures with friends and family on the

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Speaker 1: long weekends that she had every weekend. She could also

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Speaker 1: decide to ride things out for a while, but ramp

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Speaker 1: up savings and perhaps start a side hustle with the

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Speaker 1: goal of achieving financial independence long before the normal retirement age.

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Speaker 1: Knowing that in say eight years, she can completely control

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Speaker 1: her time might make the intervening years feel better. Or

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Speaker 1: and this is perhaps the best option, she could find

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Speaker 1: another job. People are often fearful of the unknown, especially

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Speaker 1: if the known is comfortable and has upsides that are

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Speaker 1: hard to replicate. But if working a four day week

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Speaker 1: was critical to our listener, I absolutely believe she could

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Speaker 1: find another job that might allow for that. I absolutely

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Speaker 1: believe that she could find more exciting work. I believe

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Speaker 1: she could even find more flexible and more interesting work

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Speaker 1: that paid more to We often tuck ourselves into silly

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Speaker 1: traps like, oh, if I get paid more, I'll just

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Speaker 1: have to do stuff I like less. But few people

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Speaker 1: have totally optimized their jobs. We take jobs because they're

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Speaker 1: hiring when we're looking, or because we know someone there

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Speaker 1: because it's an employer that we're familiar with. Broadening the search,

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Speaker 1: especially over a twelve month time frame could open up

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Speaker 1: all sorts of other possibilities for great gigs. And ultimately,

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Speaker 1: that's what I want for everyone listening to this to

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Speaker 1: absolutely love what you do. I want you to wake

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Speaker 1: up excited to go to work. I want you to

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Speaker 1: feel like you're making a difference in the world as

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Speaker 1: you work with people you respect and who inspire you

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Speaker 1: to be your best self. I also believe that with

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Speaker 1: concerted effort over a year or two, you could get there.

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Speaker 1: This labor day, Let's get to a place where labor

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Speaker 1: is a meaningful, wonderful part of life, not the equivalent

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Speaker 1: of adult time out in the meantime. This is Laura.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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Speaker 1: our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to hear from you.

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