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Speaker 1: Teach me to be more loving to day. Amen, Thank

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Speaker 1: you for listening to today's daily prayer for more inspiration

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Speaker 1: and an incredible message from our feature pastor. Stay tuned

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Speaker 2: Hey, this is Andre Butler, pastor of Faith Experienced Church.

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Speaker 2: You are listening to the Faith Experience podcast. Thank you

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Speaker 2: for joining us. We hope that this message helps you

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Speaker 2: engage faith and experience the future God has for you.

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Speaker 2: All Right, today we're beginning a new series called Happily

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Speaker 2: ever After question Mark. Of course, most of us grew

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Speaker 2: to be a certain type, certain type of days. Well,

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Speaker 2: what type well, the days of your children in the land,

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Speaker 2: which the Lord swearing to your fathers to give them

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Speaker 2: as the days of heaven upon the earth. So God

435
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Speaker 2: wants your children's days to be days of heaven on earth.

436
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Speaker 2: How many all those are a good day? When I

437
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 2: got heaven on earth. I mean, we see some examples

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Speaker 2: of that in the Bible, And I mean the Garden

439
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Speaker 2: of Eden is an example really of heaven on earth. Right,

440
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Speaker 2: many of us that pray what people commonly call the

441
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Speaker 2: Lord's pray prayer, thy will be done on earth as

442
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 2: it is in heaven. That's what he's saying here. I

443
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Speaker 2: want their lives to be such that My will is

444
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: being done in their lives. They're healthy, they're happy, they're successful,

445
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 2: they're happy, they're blessed in every area. He saying, if

446
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Speaker 2: you teach them the word of God like I'm telling

447
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 2: you to, they're gonna end up with days of prosperity

448
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:39,199
Speaker 2: and years of pleasures. That's Juel thirty six eleven. And

449
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 2: this is what God wants. God wants your children to

450
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,640
Speaker 2: be happy at home too. He doesn't want them miserable

451
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Speaker 2: at home. He doesn't want them dreading going home. He

452
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 2: wants them to come home happy and being silly and

453
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Speaker 2: having a good time. Yes you have to teach them,

454
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Speaker 2: Yes you have to train and discipline them, but you

455
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: can do that in such a way where they're still

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Speaker 2: happy to be there. There's the reason why the Bible

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Speaker 2: says to not provoke your children, Traffe, because we bought

458
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Speaker 2: into this idea that our churches and our homes are

459
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Speaker 2: the military.

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Speaker 3: They are not.

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Speaker 2: You are not a drill sergeant. I had to learn

462
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Speaker 2: as a pastor, and I'm not a drill sergeant. I'm

463
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Speaker 2: not raising up soldiers. Yes, that's one of the ways

464
00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 2: you can look at Christians, but ultimately we're raising up

465
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Speaker 2: a family. And the same thing that's true in your house.

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Speaker 2: If you do it in love, people can accept it

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Speaker 2: and be happy. And that's what God wants. He wants

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Speaker 2: your children happy in your home. In fact, Zachariat chapter

469
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Speaker 2: eight and verse five just gives you a picture of

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Speaker 2: how God sees kids. And this also makes me think

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Speaker 2: about how the people of Israel brought their children to

472
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Speaker 2: Jesus and he didn't turn them away. Instead, he accepted

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Speaker 2: those kids, He laid his hands on him, blessed them.

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Speaker 2: God loves kids. He wants them to be happy. Zachariata eight,

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Speaker 2: verse five. This just happens to be a promise of

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Speaker 2: God to these people at this time. There's a message

477
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 2: in that. But I just want you to notice this.

478
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Speaker 2: He said, the streets of the city shall be full

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Speaker 2: of boys and girls playing in its streets. God likes that.

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Speaker 2: When you get to Heaven, you realize they're gonna be

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Speaker 2: kids running around playing in the streets. Do you realize

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Speaker 2: that laughing and running and dancing and that all of that,

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Speaker 2: that's a God thing He created that He enjoys seeing that,

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Speaker 2: just like you enjoy seeing your kids play. You know,

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Speaker 2: I tell this story and I'm gonna keep telling it

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Speaker 2: for the rest of my life because I'm a proud dad.

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Speaker 2: But you know, my children, two of them wanted won

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Speaker 2: a state championship a couple of years ago. And just

489
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Speaker 2: to back back it up a little bit, you know,

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Speaker 2: I played basketball in high school, played aau but my

491
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 2: high school team, uh, we were horrible my senior year

492
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Speaker 2: and John's over the year he was on that team,

493
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Speaker 2: he was all everything. I broke my hand the second

494
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Speaker 2: or third game of the season, so I missed almost

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Speaker 2: the whole season and we won three games horrible. We stunk.

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Speaker 2: So when I went to college, I started playing at

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Speaker 2: at school I went to, and we ended up being

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Speaker 2: my second year, which is the year I was starting.

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Speaker 2: We were the number one team in the nbca So

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Speaker 2: that's not the NCAA is more like D two, D two,

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Speaker 2: D three, and had a great year.

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Speaker 3: Got to the tournament.

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Speaker 2: We were blowing teams out, got to the championship in

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Speaker 2: the night before, we were cocky and we ended up

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Speaker 2: swimming and hanging out. Got to the championship day and

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Speaker 2: we didn't have any legs. We were tired. So a

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Speaker 2: team we should have beat by twenty we lost to

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Speaker 2: at the buzzer. That still haunts me till this day.

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Speaker 2: So here kids are and they come up and my

510
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 2: oldest they all played basketball one player. But my oldest

511
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Speaker 2: came up and she was really good at basketball, but

512
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Speaker 2: right around her junior year she decided she was done,

513
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Speaker 2: which was like an ouch, but okay, do what you

514
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Speaker 2: want to do, baby. And my second one, who is

515
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Speaker 2: also greater basketball, took on volleyball, and I'm like, what's this.

516
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Speaker 2: I didn't even understand volleyball. She's had to teach me.

517
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Speaker 2: Over there. She's still teaching me. And my youngest also

518
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 2: did the same thing. And so my second child, senior year,

519
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 2: she hurt her knee. So she's going through the year

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Speaker 2: on her hurt knee. She's also the team captain. And

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Speaker 2: they get into the tournament and they just keep winning,

522
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Speaker 2: and before you know it, they get to the championship.

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Speaker 3: And in the championship they get down big.

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Speaker 2: It looks bad, she's limping everywhere, but they turn everything around.

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Speaker 2: They win the state championship. So I watch these kids

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Speaker 2: all dive on top of each other on the court,

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Speaker 2: and my kids are right in the middle of it. Man,

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Speaker 2: you want to talk about a happy moment. I was

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Speaker 2: happy for them. I was also happy for me. I

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00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 2: was like, thank you for restoration, Lord, but still I

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Speaker 2: was happy for them.

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Speaker 3: Right. That was a moment of heaven on earth.

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Speaker 2: And that's how God feels. He wants your kids to

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Speaker 2: have those moments every day. Every day is a day

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Speaker 2: of heaven on earth. He wants them happy at home.

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Speaker 2: Proverbs ten, verse one, y'all get anything out of this shit,

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00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 2: just giving you a vision for your home life. That's it. Today.

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Speaker 2: We're just introducing this. We're gonna introduce this by giving

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Speaker 2: you a vision. This is what it is supposed to

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Speaker 2: look like. I actually want to stir up some holy

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Speaker 2: dissatisfaction in some of your hearts because you've settled for

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00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 2: less and God's got better for you, all right? So

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Speaker 2: proverbse ten to one the Proverbs of Solomon. A wise

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Speaker 2: son may say glad father, but a foolish son as

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Speaker 2: the grief of his mother. I really believe as I

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Speaker 2: studied this that this is talking about an adult son,

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00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 2: and this scriptures showing us that if you raise your

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Speaker 2: son or your daughter to be wise, how do you

549
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 2: do that? We just finished reading and teaching the word

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Speaker 2: of God in the morning, at night, all throughout the day.

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00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 2: Train them up and the way they should go the

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00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 2: Bible says, and even when they're old, they won't depart

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Speaker 2: from it. So if you do that, that wise son

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Speaker 2: will fear the Lord, because the beginning of wisdom is

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Speaker 2: the fear of the Lord. They'll live right before God,

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Speaker 2: and they're going to cause you to be glad. You

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00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 2: will be happy because of what you see in them.

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Speaker 2: Theyn't make you happy because of the kind of people

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Speaker 2: they are. They'll make you happy because you can see

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Speaker 2: them enjoying their lives. That make you happy because they

561
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 2: find a way to be a blessing to you. And

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00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 2: this is part of what God wants. God actually wants

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Speaker 2: your children, even when they're adults, to be a source

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Speaker 2: of joy for you. You know, of course, you know I

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00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 2: love sports, and so I watched this show on Netflix

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Speaker 2: called Receiver, and it follows the lives of football players,

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00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 2: and one of them that it follows is I'm and

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Speaker 2: Ross Saint Brown of Alliance, And one of the things

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Speaker 2: that really jumped out of me is I watched that

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Speaker 2: show was not just him and his girlfriend, but experiencing

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Speaker 2: this from the perspective of his father, who was a

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Speaker 2: multiple time a bodybuilding champion, and his mother. And so

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Speaker 2: they would show them in the stands during the game,

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Speaker 2: and they would show them in the stands during big moments.

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Speaker 2: And so when their son did well, they rejoiced, they

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00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 2: were happy, they had their hands up, they were excited.

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Speaker 2: And that's the picture of what God wants for you.

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00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 2: That when you get to an age or you have

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Speaker 2: an adult children, they may not be on a football field,

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Speaker 2: but on the field of life, them having success and

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Speaker 2: it brings you joy. You're happy at home. My father

582
00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,720
Speaker 2: talks about this with myself, me and my sisters, and

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Speaker 2: how we make him happy because of who we've turned

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Speaker 2: out to be and what God.

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Speaker 3: Is using us to do.

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00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 2: And every once in a while we get him a

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Speaker 2: gift that he hasn't doesn't have anymore. I know it's

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00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 2: hard sometimes the shop for parents, but every once in

589
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 2: while we bless him too. But the point is that

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00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 2: we're able to be a blessing to him in that way.

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Speaker 2: That's a picture of what God wants for our families.

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Speaker 2: This picture what God wants you to experience in your home.

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Speaker 2: And then one more so, I'm one twenty eight. Somebody

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00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:40,279
Speaker 2: say God wants me happy at home, But then the

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Speaker 2: comments of your on line God wants you happy? Say

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Speaker 2: it again, like you mean to say, God wants me

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Speaker 2: happy at home. Turn him and tell him God wants

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Speaker 2: you happy at home. We got to talk about this.

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Speaker 2: The world and the church has gotten to the place

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00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:01,600
Speaker 2: we buy this idea that God doesn't even want you.

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Speaker 2: You know, I talked about this recently. Well, he only

602
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,399
Speaker 2: wants your holiness, not your happiness. God is bigger than

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Speaker 2: you think he is. The Bible says a lot more

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Speaker 2: than you think it does. Does God want you holy? Absolutely?

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00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 2: But does God want you happy? Absolutely? Well. There'll be

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00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 2: seasons where things are rough, absolutely, But will you stay

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00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:25,360
Speaker 2: in those seasons? Absolutely not. He will bring you through

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00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 2: the valley. He will take you from and to your

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Speaker 2: wealthy place. God always has that happy ending for those

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Speaker 2: that will stick with him, even if that happy ending

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Speaker 2: is you walking into heaven getting great reward. Okay, that's

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Speaker 2: the Bible. And God wants you happy at home, especially

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Speaker 2: when you got to deal with this crazy world when

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Speaker 2: you leave it. Home should be a place where you

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00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 2: can come and rest, a place where you can just

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Speaker 2: kind of People would say let your hair down. You

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00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,320
Speaker 2: can let your hair down and you can enjoy the

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00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 2: people in your home. You don't have to worry about

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Speaker 2: their intention and all this other stuff. You can just relax.

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Speaker 2: It should be a refuge for you and it.

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Speaker 3: Can be Some one twenty eight verse six.

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Speaker 2: Now we'd started off in Some one twenty eight verse one,

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Speaker 2: and it talks about how happy is the man who

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00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 2: right once again walks with God and does those things.

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Speaker 2: And he starts talking about his family life, and verse six,

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Speaker 2: he continues to talk about this man's family life. He says,

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Speaker 2: may you live to enjoy somebody say, enjoy, enjoy your

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00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 2: grandchildren and maybe Israel happy. So God wants you to

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Speaker 2: be able to enjoy your grandchildren. In fact, if you

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Speaker 2: look at what he did with Job and other people,

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Speaker 2: you'll find that they did not only see their grandchildren

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00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 2: and enjoy their grandchildren, they enjoyed their grandchildren's children, and

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00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 2: then their children's children, I mean up to four generations.

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00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 2: You find multiple scripture that talk about that that God

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00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 2: actually wants you to be able to live long enough

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00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:06,360
Speaker 2: to enjoy seeing your children live long lives, to enjoy

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00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 2: playing with your grandchildren, even to enjoy even seeing their children.

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00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,720
Speaker 2: It's something that my grandmother accept me from time to time,

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00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 2: and she just talks about how blessed she is to

640
00:37:17,960 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 2: be in this situation. Well, sometimes get the whole family

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00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:24,319
Speaker 2: together and my grandmother my grandfather would just sit there

642
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:26,720
Speaker 2: and they'll just take it in. And what they're seeing

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00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 2: is their kids and their kids, kids and their kids

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00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 2: kids kids. You know, I've got cousins, they still got

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00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 2: little ones, and they're just running around, laughing and playing

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00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 2: and his whole family is sitting here. It all just

647
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 2: came from them, and it's really what God wants that

648
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 2: one day you actually get to enjoy being a grandparent.

649
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 2: My dad tells me this, He says, you will never

650
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 2: understand her. To you there people told him this. He said,

651
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 2: there's nothing like being a grandparent as great as a parent.

652
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 2: Being a parent is, he said, being a grandparent is

653
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,839
Speaker 2: so much better, And I don't know anything about that.

654
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:58,879
Speaker 2: I ain't in a hurry to find out about that.

655
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 2: You know, one day, maybe twenty five years from now,

656
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: I'll let a child get married. But now until then,

657
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 2: I have to just listen to what he has to say.

658
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 2: But apparently there's this great joy that comes from just

659
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 2: being with your grandkids. And so one day, should God

660
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 2: leads you in this direction in your life, you get

661
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: to a place where you can enjoy your grandkids, they

662
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 2: can love you, and then you can send them home.

663
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:26,879
Speaker 2: But not only does I want you to enjoy them,

664
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 2: God also wants you to teach them. And Bible talks

665
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Speaker 2: about Titus chapter two. The older woman teaching the younger

666
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,720
Speaker 2: was implied as the older man teaching the younger.

667
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Speaker 3: Part of the reason why God has taught you.

668
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Speaker 2: The things He's taught you, even some of the things

669
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 2: you've gone through. You've gone through it so that you

670
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 2: can turn around and teach the next generation. And one

671
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,720
Speaker 2: of the main ways you'll do that is just sharing

672
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 2: the stories of how God was faithful to you. There's

673
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: a lot of scripture about that. How you just need

674
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Speaker 2: to go and tell the next generation the story of

675
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 2: what God did for you, And that's part of the vision.

676
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,840
Speaker 2: Then one day you'll sit there and you'll you'll enjoy

677
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:07,479
Speaker 2: your grandkids and then you'll tell them some stories about God,

678
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,840
Speaker 2: God didn't and your life, and they'll remember those stories

679
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 2: rest their lives. It will help direct them so they

680
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 2: make the right decisions, because you know, every.

681
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,240
Speaker 3: Generation should do better than the last.

682
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 2: God should take us from glory to glory, to glory

683
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 2: to glory. And one of the reasons why that happens

684
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 2: is because every generation learns from the previous one. God

685
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 2: wants you happy at home with your grandkids. So let

686
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 2: me give you a full picture of this and something

687
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 2: that you remember to help me out here if you would,

688
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 2: And I've got some help here, So here we go.

689
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,680
Speaker 2: This is gonna start with the man. This is you

690
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 2: as a single man. You happy single. One day God

691
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:56,839
Speaker 2: brings in a gorgeous woman, gorgeous wife, and some of you,

692
00:39:56,880 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 2: that is you, y'all get married happily. Then you all

693
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,320
Speaker 2: decide we want to have some kids. So God bless

694
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 2: you with the kid. I think I'm gonna give these

695
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,479
Speaker 2: to you. Now you got the husband and the wife.

696
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: It gives you with the old kid, maybe another kid.

697
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 2: Maybe some of you might have more than that. Everybody's happy, right.

698
00:40:17,400 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: The kids get older, and I don't know how his

699
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 2: hair turned blind, maybe he died it. But your kid

700
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:27,879
Speaker 2: gets married, he finds a young woman. She they get married.

701
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 2: They're happy together. And then what they do is have kids,

702
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,359
Speaker 2: and you have your now a grandfather, and you have.

703
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 3: This happy home life.

704
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 2: This is what God wants to do for you. Thank

705
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 2: you so much. So how do I get here? Dudonomy

706
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:56,480
Speaker 2: Chapter thirty, Dudonomy chapter thirty, verse nineteen. You know I'm

707
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 2: gonna go to Psalm eighteen and verse thirty. Let's do

708
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 2: that first. The Bible says, as for God, his ways

709
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 2: might say his way, his way is perfect, that means

710
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 2: is without blemish. And Isaiah fifty five. God said this,

711
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 2: He said, my thoughts are higher than your thoughts, and

712
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:28,360
Speaker 2: my ways are higher than your ways. As the heavens

713
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 2: are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher

714
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 2: than your ways. So even though you might think you

715
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 2: know something, you may have heard some things from family

716
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:39,680
Speaker 2: and friends, singing some things on television, read some books,

717
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:45,240
Speaker 2: God said what you think pales in comparison. Your knowledge

718
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:52,480
Speaker 2: base is significantly less than mine. And God has a

719
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 2: way that we're supposed to operate in our homes. And

720
00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 2: part of the reason why some men, any of us,

721
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 2: are not happy at home, is because we've been doing

722
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 2: it wrong. We're not happy as single We're not happy singles,

723
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,080
Speaker 2: we're not happy in dating, we're not happy in our marriages,

724
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: not happy as parents, not happy as grandparents because we

725
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:19,720
Speaker 2: haven't been doing family life God's way. We've been doing

726
00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:22,759
Speaker 2: it some other way. So, you know, one of things

727
00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 2: I got for Christmas was a Nintendo switch too, And

728
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,800
Speaker 2: when I was first trying to connect it, trying to

729
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 2: make it work, I was doing it wrong. So you

730
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 2: could see that it was turned on, but I couldn't

731
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,440
Speaker 2: get it on the television simply because I had the

732
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 2: wrong connection. Now, of course we did figure it out

733
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 2: and enjoyed it now. But the point is that that's

734
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,960
Speaker 2: where some of us are, Like you're reading in the Bible,

735
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,600
Speaker 2: you're seeing today what this is supposed to look like.

736
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 2: It's on right, it's available to you, but it's not

737
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 2: translating into your life because you're not doing things right,

738
00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:01,800
Speaker 2: and you've got to make a decision to adjust. Somebody

739
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 2: say adjust, because I'm here to tell you that for

740
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:09,759
Speaker 2: most of us, there's some area, some way that you

741
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 2: can adjust what you're doing at home that will get

742
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 2: you to this place. And you've got to make a

743
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 2: decision to do that, to do things God's way instead

744
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 2: of your own. And some of us we're gonna get

745
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 2: into what that looks like. We're gonna talk about the details,

746
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 2: but honestly, many of us already know some area where

747
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 2: you probably should be making an adjustment. This may be

748
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,880
Speaker 2: your first time at church, but you know, yeah, I

749
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,120
Speaker 2: probably shouldn't talk to him like that. Yeah, probably should

750
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:45,399
Speaker 2: spend more time with my kids. Yeah, I probably should do.

751
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 3: This with my grandparents.

752
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 2: You know, you already have an idea God has are

753
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,680
Speaker 2: actually put in us kind of a spiritual radar. We

754
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:57,200
Speaker 2: already kind of know what's right and wrong. Even those

755
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 2: of us that don't serve God have an idea. There's

756
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:03,479
Speaker 2: some area that you can really look at your life

757
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 2: right now at home and say, yeah, I need to

758
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 2: make an adjustment there. And there's always a temptation to

759
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 2: look at the other person, and we're going to get

760
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 2: into that next week.

761
00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 3: But forget the other person for a moment.

762
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:22,959
Speaker 2: What about because you can see what God has for you.

763
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 2: You can be happy at home if you do things

764
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 2: His way. The rest of the scripture says, the way

765
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:31,400
Speaker 2: of the Lord, the word of the Lord is prooven.

766
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:35,840
Speaker 2: It works. There's many people that would tell you in

767
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 2: their own lives it works. You know. I'm on social

768
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:41,360
Speaker 2: media a lot, and so on thread somebody posts the

769
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 2: other day they said, share tell the truth. Are you

770
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 2: happy in your marriage or not? And you could tell

771
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:52,479
Speaker 2: what they were getting at. There's a lot of people,

772
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,279
Speaker 2: a lot of ideas in the world. They're trying to

773
00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 2: get out there, get at you know, people aren't really

774
00:44:56,440 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 2: happily married. The comments were flooded we are happily mayor

775
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 2: I love my husband, I love my wife. I mean,

776
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:06,799
Speaker 2: I'm not talking about a Christian platform. I'm talking about

777
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:10,879
Speaker 2: threads flooded with people who are enjoying, and a lot

778
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 2: of them, of course, serve God, trying to do things

779
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:17,840
Speaker 2: God's way, and so that's why they are happy at home.

780
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 2: That's all I want to challenge you to do during

781
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 2: this series is to make an adjustment. Choose to put

782
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 2: away your way and everybody else's ideas of how this

783
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 2: is supposed to work, and take on God's way. Durami

784
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 2: thirty verse nineteen says this, I call Heaven and Earth

785
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 2: as witnesses today against you that I have set before

786
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 2: you life and death, blessing and cursing. Therefore, choose, that's

787
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 2: a big word. Choose. Choose life that both you and

788
00:45:57,200 --> 00:46:01,879
Speaker 2: your descendants may That's what I've done today. I've set

789
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 2: before you a happy home or a miserable home. Choose

790
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 2: a happy home by doing things God's way. The other

791
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,880
Speaker 2: day I came across an older movie on television. It

792
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 2: was called The Matrix. Anybody remember The Matrix? And there

793
00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 2: was this moment where Neo had a decision to make.

794
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,719
Speaker 2: He's sitting in front of Morpheus, and Morpheus says, I've

795
00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: got two pills here. I've got the blue pill. You

796
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:30,279
Speaker 2: can take this, go back to living your life as

797
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 2: it was. Obviously, you know something's not right, that's why

798
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 2: you're sitting here. But you can go back to that,

799
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 2: or you can take the red pill and enter an

800
00:46:39,080 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 2: entirely different world. And that's kind of what I'm saying today.

801
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 2: You can hear this message and you can just go

802
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 2: right back to living like you always lived. There's a

803
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 2: reason why you're listening to this message. You're not satisfying.

804
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 2: But you can make that choice, or you can decide today,

805
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,520
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm taking the red pill. God, whatever

806
00:46:57,560 --> 00:47:00,359
Speaker 2: your word says, whatever you say to me, I want

807
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,759
Speaker 2: to do it. I'm gonna try something different. And in

808
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:06,359
Speaker 2: this year of the New, this year of a reset,

809
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 2: you can choose to have a reset in your family

810
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:12,640
Speaker 2: life and may be such a great reset that you

811
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 2: look up at the end of this year and say

812
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 2: I am finally happy at home. And so as every

813
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 2: head is about and everybody's closed in prayer before we

814
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 2: even do, I hope that helped you. God has an

815
00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:29,320
Speaker 2: amazing future for you, one that is greater than anything

816
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:31,680
Speaker 2: you can create for yourself. But the way to get

817
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 2: to that future is to do things God's way, to

818
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 2: actually apply what you just heard. So I want to

819
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 2: encourage you to do just that and watch God take

820
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 2: you to heights you've never experienced before. And if you're

821
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:44,800
Speaker 2: someone that's saying, well, I'm already a part of a

822
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 2: church somewhere, but I feel connected to your ministry, will

823
00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 2: you sound like a partner to me? And I encourage

824
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 2: to go to Andre Butler dot com and sign up

825
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:55,280
Speaker 2: there and help us get this message about the future

826
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 2: that God has for you all throughout the world. Now,

827
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 2: if it happens to be on your heart to be

828
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:02,840
Speaker 2: a blessing to this ministry, you can do that. You

829
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 2: can go to myfaithexs dot com or you can download

830
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 2: the Faith Experience app and you can give there and

831
00:48:08,320 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 2: find a bunch more messages. But even if you're not

832
00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:12,359
Speaker 2: ready to give, I want you to know that we

833
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 2: love you, We're thanking God for the opportunity to be

834
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 2: a blessing to you, and we know that God has

835
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Speaker 2: an amazing future for you. I'll see you soon.