1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: Scientists have found out how to tell if your significant 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: other is going to leave you with almost one hundred 3 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 1: percent accuracy. Dang, it's a juble show. That's right. A 4 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:14,239 Speaker 1: group of science scientists recently got together and did some 5 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 1: hardcore sciencing. Yeah, they did some hardcore science action, and 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: now they have accurate data to tell if you're about 7 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: to be dumped. The only problem is in order to 8 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: be able to tell if your significant other is about 9 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 1: to kick you to the curb like the dog that 10 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,599 Speaker 1: you are, it involves one of the hardest things to 11 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 1: do in any relationship, especially for dudes. What's that listening? 12 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:40,360 Speaker 1: It involves listening, and that's very hard for people to 13 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: do in relationships. Yeah, it's very hard for people to 14 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: do period, Yes, no matter what. But yes, you can 15 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 1: tell if your significant other is about to dump you 16 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 1: up to at least three months before they do it 17 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: based on very simple things. If you're paying attention. So 18 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:56,920 Speaker 1: if you have a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband and wife whatever, 19 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,280 Speaker 1: right now, you want to listen to this intently so 20 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: you can tell if you're about to not have a 21 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:05,240 Speaker 1: boyfriend girl, and then you can pull the old switcheroo. Yeah, 22 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: don't be the dumpy dump not dumperoo, that it's an 23 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 1: animal from Australia. Things too. Yeah, Well, here's what happened. 24 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: Here's what they found. A study out of the University 25 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: of Texas at Austin found that somebody's speech and the 26 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: words that they use can tell you if they're about 27 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: to break up with you at a ninety three percent 28 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: accuracy ra. They studied posts on Reddit's break up subreddit 29 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 1: to get this information. It's where people talk about breaking 30 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: up or getting broken up with or whatever on Reddit. 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: So they looked at all these thousands and thousands of 32 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,759 Speaker 1: posts to break down and analyze to see what the 33 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:49,640 Speaker 1: common things were in breakup right right? Whoa yeah, And 34 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 1: they found that around the three month mark before someone's 35 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: relationship ends, there are noticeable changes in the language people use. 36 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: Significant Yeah. The language they're using is I hate you 37 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: and I want to break up with you. That is 38 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: a good indication that they're thinking about it. But there 39 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: are other subtle little things that as in your face, 40 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: that people will do if they're thinking about breaking up 41 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: with you. It says subconsciously, people will use certain language 42 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:17,959 Speaker 1: to detach from things, to feel like they're clops of 43 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: things and if you know how to spot that stuff. 44 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:21,079 Speaker 1: You're like, oh, you don't care about me, right, yeah, 45 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: because you just said it this way, or wow, you 46 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:24,359 Speaker 1: care about me too much, because that's weird that you 47 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 1: use that word. Um. These linguistic experts anyway, they found 48 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,600 Speaker 1: out that people start using more self focused words like I, 49 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: me and mine, oh, detaching from the relationship and start 50 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: thinking about things less analytically and more emotionally three months 51 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: before breakups. So if someone all of a sudden, if 52 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: everything's we and us and we should go here and 53 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 1: blah blah blah, and we should do this, if they 54 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,680 Speaker 1: use words like that normally, because people do when they 55 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: first start a relationship. You know, we're are a unit item, 56 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: We are an item and a unit, and we're together 57 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,079 Speaker 1: no matter what. We are going to go to dinner tonight. Yes, 58 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: not together. I'm going to go to dinner and you're 59 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: also coming with me. Yeah, that's separation right there, if 60 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,320 Speaker 1: you notice the language. But then it's also going to 61 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: be more emotional. You said, yes, emotional, So they stopped, 62 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 1: so they stop breaking things down analytically and trying to 63 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: look at things from a objective perspective, so it's more emotional, 64 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: which is why people argue more before they end a relationship. Yeah, 65 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 1: I mean, it may not be that you hate each other. 66 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: It might be the relationship is over and you're upset, 67 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: but you can't handle it. You can't think through it 68 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: like rationally and go why we're in a breakup right now? 69 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: Maybe there's just another kind of breakdown because you can't 70 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: think analytically, you do it emotionally. It's not the fact 71 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: that I just want something else for me, that's why 72 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: I'm saying me and I a bunch now. It's that 73 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: you don't clean up very well. I hate you for it. 74 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: That's what people do. Yeah, yeah, because if you're thinking 75 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: analytically and you're really breaking things down, you would be like, okay, no, 76 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,200 Speaker 1: it's it's really it is me. Actually it is me 77 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 1: that doesn't want to be with you, So that it's 78 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 1: not me, it's you think is true. So they'll be 79 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 1: using words like I and me and mine and then 80 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 1: freaking out if there's a coffee cup. Oh yeah. Yeah. 81 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: If you notice you're using more self focused words, it 82 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: might be a sign that you've already made up your mind. 83 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:21,839 Speaker 1: That's a good thing too. Notice the words you're using 84 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: in your relationship. Even if you're not actively thinking about 85 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,359 Speaker 1: breaking up, you might have checked out. Yeah, you might be. 86 00:04:26,480 --> 00:04:30,240 Speaker 1: You might be checking out unconsciously, so exactly. Wow, if 87 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 1: you don't know a lot about me, I've been in therapys. 88 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:35,599 Speaker 1: I was in kindergarten, said I'm thinking about breaking up 89 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: with you, evn'. That's why I've been in therapy since 90 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,760 Speaker 1: kindergarten because I had a dope childhood. I loved it. 91 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: But I've been so I'm constantly thinking about reactions and 92 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: words and things like that. And so I notice a 93 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: lot of this stuff on the daily. And Alex and 94 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: I am mayor by the way, you didn't know that. Yeah, 95 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,599 Speaker 1: And we'll talk about stuff and sometimes I'll say something 96 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: about the way someone did something. She's like, oh, yeah, 97 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: I did notice that. Now she does It happens all 98 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: the time. Yeah, it happens all the time. But yeah, 99 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:04,280 Speaker 1: if you pay attention to the words that people are 100 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: using like that, especially in a relationship, or what you're using, 101 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: because sometimes you don't pay attention, you might know if 102 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: I signed a break up. If my girlfriend says I 103 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: from now on, I'm just going to break down in 104 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 1: tears and beg her to stay. Yeah, don't do that. Yeah, 105 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: if they do it once. By the way, look for 106 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 1: a pattern. Listen to say, wait, hold on a second, 107 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,039 Speaker 1: you're going to leave me if you We've been married 108 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,880 Speaker 1: for forty years, but you just said the word I. 109 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: I'm going to the grocery store to get dinners to mean. 110 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: What's that supposed to mean.