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Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to this week's episode of the PSD podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's your girl Abone and I'm super excited about this

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Speaker 1: week's episode. Before we begin, please make sure you follow

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Speaker 1: me at the Professional Home Girl at the PhD Podcast,

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Speaker 1: and last Penalities at Ebonet Beauty. Um. Please keep in

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Speaker 1: mind that all of my guests are anonymous. So let's

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Speaker 1: begin this week's episode. So, I'm super excited about this

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Speaker 1: week's episode because I think this is very important that

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Speaker 1: we in still in each other, that we need to

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Speaker 1: always be alert and to always trust our gut. So

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Speaker 1: before we begin with my guests, I want to share

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Speaker 1: my story of when I knew that something wasn't right

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Speaker 1: and I shouldn't trust my gun. Um. So, I think

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Speaker 1: it was like one night, a summer night. I was

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Speaker 1: out with my friends and I think I only had

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Speaker 1: at the time I was driving and I was out

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Speaker 1: with my friends and we end up getting ready to leave,

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Speaker 1: and the whole time we was leaving, something literally told

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Speaker 1: me to have my friends dropped me off at my car.

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Speaker 1: Not granted, I think the reason why I didn't have

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Speaker 1: my friends dropping off my car because I was like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, my car is right there from the place.

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Speaker 1: It's literally like a five minute walk. And we was

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Speaker 1: their car, my car was literally like five minutes away

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Speaker 1: And I was walking there like hotels and stuff like,

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Speaker 1: it's like it's always somebody out in New York City.

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Speaker 1: So as I'm walking the whole time, something is telling me, like, girl,

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Speaker 1: like it just did not feel right. But did I

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Speaker 1: trust the signs? No? So I'm walking by, I see

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Speaker 1: a phone boos, I'm walking right. I walked literally right

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Speaker 1: past the phone booth and then seeing you know, remind

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Speaker 1: you I had on like five in chills and having

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Speaker 1: you know, this guy. First of all, he had to

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Speaker 1: had to be at least almost two hundred pounds. Obviously

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Speaker 1: he was drunk, and he grabbed my ass and he

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Speaker 1: literally said to this that I remember like it was

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Speaker 1: just that I'm sucking that pussy up tonight. Not granted

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Speaker 1: I was scared of ship, but I was always talking,

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Speaker 1: you know, never to let anybody know how much how

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Speaker 1: was like I just didn't know what he could have

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Speaker 1: cool until I got into somebody, until I saw somebody hurt,

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Speaker 1: moral story is I should have trust my gut, because

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Speaker 1: I was like, yo, I'm not getting raped tonight, like

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Speaker 1: it wasn't happening, which leads me intell my guest story

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Speaker 1: to happen. So, and I think this happened like currently right,

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Speaker 1: brings me to my guests and her current situation. Where

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Speaker 1: it comes to lift drivers or uber drivers, I don't

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Speaker 1: tell us about that night and the beginning. What happened? Okay? Sure?

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Speaker 1: So um, I drove to me to meet up with

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Speaker 1: That's something that we do, so I'm not a lightweight

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Speaker 1: why did you feel the need to because I know

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Speaker 1: and your postman viral. Why did you feel the need

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Speaker 1: to mention that you wasn't drinking so honestly, and I

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Speaker 1: Um if I was barely walking, talking, slurring, whatever. But

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Speaker 1: as if there is something that a female could have

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Speaker 1: Granted that there were a billion other arguments that came

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Speaker 1: So UM. Anyway, so the car comes up and UM,

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Speaker 1: home exactly. Yeah. Like, and I feel like that's kind

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Speaker 1: their scanners that people can purchase to kind of get

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Speaker 1: and that car cannot even be affiliated with the rideshare

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Speaker 1: But LIFT always puts the car um make, model, color,

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Speaker 1: And why do you do that? Always name right, And

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Speaker 1: have an uplift um a bloated one. And then I

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Speaker 1: It's in those two seconds that can flip it on.

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Speaker 1: move forward. But I um, um, so, so my friend waited.

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Speaker 1: I mean he's a gentleman, he really is. We've been

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Speaker 1: So what are you getting from this? Exactly? So he

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00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 1: turned down the street. He turned down the street. I

428
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,439
Speaker 1: look over, he's got this deper up on the steering wheel.

429
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 1: He's like rubbing his index finger and his thumb together

430
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,720
Speaker 1: like vigorously, and I feel a car speed up, and

431
00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: it happened so fast. I don't remember it so Also too,

432
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 1: I'm very type a. Everything that I do has to

433
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 1: be a plan. Everything that I do, um needs to

434
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: be thought of, thought out. That's just the kind of

435
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,639
Speaker 1: person I am. And it happened so quickly. When I

436
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 1: looked over and felt the car speed up, and looked

437
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: over and saw him doing that, I felt like I

438
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,120
Speaker 1: was gonna vomit. I felt like it was coming up

439
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:37,399
Speaker 1: from my belly like my chest kind of um, you know,

440
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: like you would he a little bit like my chest

441
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 1: kind of And when vomit happened, my arm extended out

442
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:48,120
Speaker 1: and opened the car door, and I I jumped out, Wow,

443
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 1: how fast do you think he was lawing? I would

444
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:54,680
Speaker 1: say that he probably still was not going over twenty

445
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 1: because he slowed down to make the turn right as

446
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:01,240
Speaker 1: soon as as soon when I say, we were coming

447
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,160
Speaker 1: up on the turn, and I asked him to pull over,

448
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 1: so it wasn't like the car was had fully turned.

449
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: And then I asked, when I saw that, media look amiss?

450
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: The way it did. Already knew what coming street. We

451
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 1: were turning around, you know what I mean, going on

452
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: like I'm not new to this, Like I know what

453
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 1: is around Atlanta, you know what I mean. So as

454
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: soon as we were starting to make the turn, I

455
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: asked him to pull over. I and buckled my seatbelt,

456
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: asked him to pull over. I felt him speeding up.

457
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: I saw over and looked at and I just got out.

458
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 1: So then you start when you jumped out, like what

459
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 1: happened next? So um, I had just because this will

460
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,960
Speaker 1: make sense later. So I had on sneakers, socks, jeans,

461
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: I had on a white T shirt and I had

462
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:47,679
Speaker 1: on a jean jacket on top, and I had a

463
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 1: crossbody person. I had all my things like on me.

464
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: I wasn't except for my phone. So I don't remember

465
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 1: picking up the phone. But my friend must have called

466
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 1: me back and I answered it as soon as I

467
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 1: rolled out of the car. Because when I excuse me,

468
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:11,880
Speaker 1: when I when I stopped rolling. So I jumped out

469
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: of the car and I hit I flipped back to

470
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: belly and then my legs over my head. And it's

471
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 1: when my legs went over my head. The very first

472
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,199
Speaker 1: thing I did, was grabbed my back. It had knocked

473
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: the breath out of me. So I'm just like I'm

474
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,920
Speaker 1: on the ground going like like trying to just catch

475
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: my breath. And one of my shoes came off and

476
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 1: my phone which was in my hand during the car

477
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 1: because like I said, I sent the text message, I

478
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:38,760
Speaker 1: was sending my location. I can hear my friends screaming

479
00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,119
Speaker 1: on the phone. He doesn't like I said. He was,

480
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: you know, getting himself together. He was doing his whatever

481
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 1: he needed to be doing. He was getting ready for bed.

482
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: He thought I was near my car. He's screaming like

483
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,679
Speaker 1: I locked the door. I'm coming, I'm coming, talk to

484
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,879
Speaker 1: me like just the whole thing. So as soon as

485
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 1: I flip out of the car, he continues driving for

486
00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: a little bit. I would say, probably anywhere from and

487
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:03,119
Speaker 1: I don't know, like an eighth to a quarter of

488
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 1: a mile, like still drives for a little bit. When

489
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 1: I flip out of the car, a car begins to

490
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,199
Speaker 1: turn onto the road that I was that I flipped

491
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 1: out on. I firmly believe that these people were sent

492
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,440
Speaker 1: for me, because when I tell you that, he was

493
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:22,240
Speaker 1: driving so slow and just was really like calculating and

494
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 1: looking around to make sure that there weren't any cars,

495
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 1: and this car came out of nowhere and turned onto

496
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,080
Speaker 1: the street and they just stopped and their headlights were

497
00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: on me, and um, I had gotten I'm very happy

498
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: that I had on as much close as I did,

499
00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: because I had gotten some road rash on my back

500
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:44,880
Speaker 1: from when I flipped over myself and right so as

501
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:49,119
Speaker 1: far as like topical, I have had like still do

502
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 1: some cuts and scrapes on my feet, um, on my hands.

503
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 1: I got a big patch of road rash on my back. Um.

504
00:27:57,080 --> 00:28:04,640
Speaker 1: But I actually internally like I really hurt my back. Um. Wow. Yeah,

505
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 1: So if you want to talk about that, yeah, I

506
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: mean to me, it's just like it's crazy because like, yeah,

507
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: no choice, you know what I'm saying. So it's just like, yeah, no,

508
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: it was what it was. And if I have to

509
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 1: I told I told everybody this, if I had to

510
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 1: take that ride fifteen times again, I would jump out

511
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,719
Speaker 1: of the car fifteen times because I know I did

512
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:32,120
Speaker 1: the right thing, absolutely, because it really been a lot worse.

513
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 1: I know for a fact, And I feel like a

514
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:36,600
Speaker 1: lot of people have been kind of jumping on my

515
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 1: head because I've been saying this and that. You know,

516
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 1: I can't see the future and I can't say what

517
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 1: he wasn't. No, I know for a fact that had

518
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 1: I stayed in that car for another three minutes or so,

519
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: I would have been hurt and this would have been

520
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 1: a totally different conversation. But what's one of the feedback

521
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 1: you've been receiving. So I know it's been pretty mixed. Yeah,

522
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: so I would actually I would actually say that or

523
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:10,840
Speaker 1: more have been um love, um, you know, apologies, just

524
00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: people standing with me, girls sharing stories that are similar

525
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 1: to mine. I saw that too. I was like, yes,

526
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: it's so crazy because I was on my research. According

527
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: to a CNN and report, um, a hundred and three

528
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 1: Uber drivers and eighteen lived drivers has been accused of

529
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: sexual When I was going through your comments, it was

530
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: like so many girls, and I'm just like, oh, this

531
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 1: is crazy. Yes, I'm talking about girls who has said

532
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 1: that they have been raped, beaten, and left for dead

533
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: in a field by their Uber driver, saying their sister

534
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,960
Speaker 1: has been killed by an Uber driver. I saw something

535
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,120
Speaker 1: like that. This girl, she was thirty, she was killed

536
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 1: by this I want to say it was an Uber driver. Yep.

537
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: Another girl she told me that uber driver did kind

538
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 1: of did the same thing to her where she wasn't

539
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 1: gonna be. She got on the phone with the police

540
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 1: because of her reporting him. They investigated him and found

541
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 1: out that he had killed two other girls, um earlier

542
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: that month, and they were able to connect him. It's

543
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 1: just it's just the whole thing. Wow. So when when

544
00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 1: the car and funny you stopped, wasn't somebody that was

545
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: like they saw what was going on or so they

546
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 1: I really think they were kind of just shocked. They

547
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 1: saw me fly out of the car. So, um, the

548
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 1: guy he drives like I would say, like an eighth

549
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: of a mile, maybe even like a quarter of a mile.

550
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that he noticed the car in the

551
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:37,960
Speaker 1: rear view, so he stopped. Eventually he stopped the car.

552
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 1: He opens up the driver side door. It's a two

553
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: lane road, so the driver side doors hanging over the

554
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 1: left lane. He walks up to me, and I am

555
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 1: actively using my hand to shoot him away from me,

556
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 1: because I know the car can't hear me, but I

557
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: want them to see me because they're their headlight and

558
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 1: they even backed their car up just a little bit

559
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: so that way they're lights are fully on me, So

560
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm waving him away with my hand. He comes up

561
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 1: to me and he goes, oh my god, I'm so sorry.

562
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: Are you okay? Do you want me to call an ambulance?

563
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm good. Get away from me,

564
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: I'm good, get away from me. He then comes closer

565
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 1: to me, reaches down and rubs my back like you

566
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: would like a baby or something like that, and goes,

567
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 1: you just had too much to drink home. Wow. So

568
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 1: the whole time that he's doing this, oh, I know,

569
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: that keeps me. That keeps me up at night. And

570
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 1: the reason why it really like blows my fucking mind because, um,

571
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: a previous episode, I interviewed this girl she was raped

572
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: on campus and she was raped by a college h

573
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 1: And it's just so crazy to me how victim shame

574
00:31:56,600 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 1: is like a really big thing. Oh for sure, I

575
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 1: think at that point, I think it was less about

576
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: him shaming me or anything else, and just more but

577
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: the fact that he wanted to cover himself both by

578
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 1: the car that was seeing me, and just when if

579
00:32:12,280 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 1: and when I reported it that he came over and

580
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 1: made that guest, you know, he said that, you know,

581
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: so it's out. It's on the record. He offered to

582
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 1: call me an ambulance, and he said that, you know

583
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 1: what I mean. So I mostly I think he was

584
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 1: just covering himself. I don't think he had anything to

585
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: do with me. Honestly, Hey, I'm confused. The cab driver,

586
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 1: the lift driver came back. Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. No, none, No,

587
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 1: other people. The people who saw me were in the

588
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 1: car the whole time. They never got out the car. Oh,

589
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 1: of course he don't cover his ass. No, this is

590
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: the lift driver who stops the car, gets out and

591
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 1: test the nerves. Wow. So when you both to the

592
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: police and asked, what did he said to you? Exactly

593
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: exactly for him to even for him to even think

594
00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: that in that moment, wow, because he knew that he

595
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:05,080
Speaker 1: knew what you. Oh, he knew when I jumped out

596
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 1: of that car. He already knew that. I knew what

597
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 1: time it was. Wow. And you had too much to drink,

598
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: like getting out of here. Wow. And then what to

599
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: the people, the other person that was in a different car.

600
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 1: They never came out. No, they never got out of

601
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: the car. So I get my stuff and I'll tell

602
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 1: you what they told me in a second. So I'm

603
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: getting my stuff up, right. I told you my shoe

604
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 1: came off. My phone was out of my hand. He

605
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: walks over to me. I grabbed my phone, so I'm

606
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: talking on the phone. That's also why he said that

607
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 1: I get myself up. I have one shoe on, everything

608
00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: else is still on my body, and I just start walking.

609
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: I started walking away from him and the car. Eventually

610
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 1: they roll like they just didn't know what was going on.

611
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: So eventually they rolled the windows down. They say, we

612
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:51,600
Speaker 1: called the cops. Are you okay? And it was a

613
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: man and two women, and I was like, no, I'm

614
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: not okay, Please do not leave. I'm like, no, I'm

615
00:33:57,520 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: not okay. So I start walking away, and um, I

616
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,920
Speaker 1: ended up in that building that I was kind of

617
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 1: not in the building, but like in the perkin light.

618
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 1: Remember I was telling he had this beautiful like landscaping

619
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: that kind of thing. Because I was barefoot. So I

620
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 1: walked on this little trashy road like full of rocks

621
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,279
Speaker 1: and trash and all that, and then I go on

622
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 1: this you know, beautifully landscaped pine straw and like gorgeous

623
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:23,239
Speaker 1: bushes and all that. So eventually they they speed the

624
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 1: car around and They're like, please get in the car

625
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 1: with us. We called the cops like get in, you know,

626
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: so I get I feel like I can trust them.

627
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:33,440
Speaker 1: I getting the car and they tell me, they were

628
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: like what happened? Like we didn't know if you had

629
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 1: been shot and you you know what I mean, like

630
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 1: you fell out the car or if he had hit

631
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,160
Speaker 1: you and you got out of the car. And I

632
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 1: just told him, I said, listen, he didn't do anything

633
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:46,919
Speaker 1: to me. But I know where that car ride was going.

634
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 1: So I jumped and um they told me. They were like,

635
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 1: we're all parents, you did the right thing. We all

636
00:34:54,440 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 1: had daughters, et cetera. So kind of the police calm. Yeah,

637
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 1: the police came, Um, what's he still around? No, So

638
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 1: he drove. So remember I'm like trying to I'm just

639
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 1: trying to get out of sight. And the jacket I

640
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 1: had on was yellow, and I remember thinking like I

641
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,800
Speaker 1: have to get out of his sight because I have

642
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 1: this yellow jacket on and a white shirt, like he

643
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:22,319
Speaker 1: can see me for a while to go. So that's

644
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 1: why I tried to hurry up and get away. I

645
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 1: started walking through these bushes, you know, all this kind

646
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: of stuff, and I got a little like dinning on

647
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 1: my phone, like you've just been dropped off, right your driver,

648
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: tip your driver or whatever. So a lot is just

649
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 1: going on. And it wasn't until the next It was

650
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:43,000
Speaker 1: the next day when I went back with the detective

651
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 1: that I realized that he drove away more than a

652
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 1: block away, I'm pretty sure, pulled in an apartment complex

653
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:58,720
Speaker 1: and said that he had dropped me off there. Mm hmm, yeah,

654
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 1: so and that was that was most definitely not the case.

655
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 1: So the cops came. Um and when I first so,

656
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: I feel like people have to understand and realize that

657
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 1: I'm not taking any of this lightly and by reporting

658
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 1: it to the police, you know what I mean. And

659
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: when when I was in the car, I was just

660
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,040
Speaker 1: so shaken up that I just made a decision to

661
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: jump out of the car because I didn't feel right

662
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: about the situation and I didn't think it was going

663
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:37,240
Speaker 1: somewhere well, but he hadn't touched me or anything like that.

664
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:42,359
Speaker 1: So when they were no, you have good like if

665
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 1: nothing's going, if you feel like something that's not right,

666
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: you have to So I'm glad that I didn't. But

667
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,279
Speaker 1: that night when the police were kind of talking to me,

668
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 1: they were kind of like he was driving slow, so

669
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 1: you jumped out, or like he called you pretty, so

670
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 1: you jumped out. Like they were just kind of handling

671
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 1: me like they didn't really understand instead of like, okay,

672
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 1: she jumped out of a car, let's try and get

673
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 1: everything that we can out of her. Um. So that

674
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 1: even the e m T was really rude to me,

675
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: like fussing at me, telling me like, you're not answering me.

676
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,120
Speaker 1: This is a yes or no question, like I don't. Yeah,

677
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: it was a whole thing. So um, when my friend

678
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:34,000
Speaker 1: finally arrived, Um, you know I told him, I was like,

679
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 1: you know I and even the e m T told

680
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 1: me like, your adrinaline is still up, but listen, tomorrow

681
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 1: you're really gonna be hurt. And so he was like,

682
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:43,760
Speaker 1: do you want to just come back to my house

683
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 1: and I'll drive you back in the morning. I was like, no,

684
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 1: bring me back to my car, like I'm gonna call

685
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: my mom like have her have her meet up with me,

686
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 1: like I have to, like I have to go home now.

687
00:37:54,280 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 1: And um, for like the next about to three days,

688
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:08,239
Speaker 1: I couldn't walk mm hmm, I find right. So like, um,

689
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: I mean by the time I had driven myself home.

690
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,839
Speaker 1: I was so stiff and locked up. I couldn't get

691
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: myself out of my car. That's why I was like,

692
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:19,279
Speaker 1: I have to call my mom, like she's gonna have

693
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:22,320
Speaker 1: to help me because literally I can't. Should help me

694
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: up the stairs, let me change my clothes anytime I

695
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 1: want to get out of bed to go to the bathroom, like, mom,

696
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: help me, let me do go bad like it was? Yeah,

697
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 1: So what's going on now with it? Like they found

698
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:37,200
Speaker 1: the more they like, so there they are conducting and

699
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 1: investigation and um left fire him. Um they claimed that

700
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 1: they did an investigation, but I also think you just

701
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: kind of have to see it for what it is

702
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 1: that Um, they have been partive. So yes, I so

703
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: I called and reported it immediately, Um, and they got

704
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: back to me. But you know how they outsourced, like

705
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:08,919
Speaker 1: how companies outsourced customer service, So they didn't get back

706
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 1: to me until that Monday. You know, so I made

707
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:14,240
Speaker 1: the claim. The claim had to come into the United

708
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 1: States and then you know, we had to get back

709
00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: on regular business work day. So, um, they called me

710
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 1: on Monday and the lady was very nice and UM,

711
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:27,240
Speaker 1: she was telling me, you know, we're gonna take this seriously.

712
00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:30,360
Speaker 1: We're gonna investigate da da da da da da. And

713
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: by by that Tuesday or Wednesday, it might have been

714
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 1: Tuesday end the day Monday. It was very quickly before

715
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: they had decided that they were going to fire him

716
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 1: and you know, banned him from the community. Wow, girl,

717
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: it's been had anybody found something? Happy? Like? So I

718
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 1: know that people found him on Facebook just because it's

719
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 1: really not it's really not hard to do a Facebook search,

720
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Um, And so like a

721
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 1: bunch of people were sending me his Facebook like I

722
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 1: found him on Facebook. I found him on Facebook. And

723
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:10,160
Speaker 1: then one Grould messaged me and was like, I found

724
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: him on Facebook. And I've just been watching his profile

725
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: for the last couple of days and he took his

726
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:22,839
Speaker 1: Facebook down. But there's nothing until the investigation. UM, okay,

727
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 1: let you put like this, If and when they find

728
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: probable cause, then charges can be sworn out. M But

729
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 1: it's based solely on that. So there's a chance and

730
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:37,360
Speaker 1: a good chance that because I wasn't hurt, that he

731
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 1: may not be charged with a crime. Mm hmm. So

732
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: how have you been doing since since this happened? Because

733
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:48,440
Speaker 1: I can only imagine like, well, I can't imagine how

734
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 1: you feel, but I can't. I can just imagine how

735
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 1: it makes you feel like on a day to day basis,

736
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: like it's it's super up and down. There are so

737
00:40:57,920 --> 00:41:00,600
Speaker 1: I've done a couple other interviews and kind of thing,

738
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: and on days when I do that, I feel like, wow,

739
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 1: like you got your story out, like you might have

740
00:41:05,440 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 1: helped one other person, And those are really good updates

741
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 1: for me. Then there are other days when I'm you know,

742
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 1: I'm really in pain. So I ended up having some

743
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 1: bone bruising and my neck and back have been in

744
00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:24,280
Speaker 1: spasm for the last week or more. Um, So I'm

745
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 1: dealing with the pain. Um. The support has I would

746
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 1: say made a big difference in my healing. Um and

747
00:41:32,920 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: here soon I'm going to be starting some um some

748
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 1: mental health work with mental health professional. Yeah no, I

749
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: just um that's how I've been looking at it, like

750
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 1: it is work and I'm going to have to put

751
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 1: this into kind of get the end results that I want.

752
00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:56,799
Speaker 1: Those end results are kind of just being freedom, um,

753
00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: in peace with the situation and not letting this. I

754
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: think I'm walking a fine line between being stuck um

755
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 1: in this place of when it happened and in the

756
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 1: pain and you know, the fear and that kind of thing,

757
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: and then also and moving forward from that, but then

758
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:21,759
Speaker 1: also realizing that I, because this happened and because I

759
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,280
Speaker 1: wasn't quiet about it, I've got a really cool platform

760
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: for advocacy now, And how do I move forward and

761
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 1: in my healing and use that platform to the best

762
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:35,839
Speaker 1: of my ability at the same time. Mm hmm. So

763
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 1: that's where I am now. I'm really happy he was

764
00:42:39,880 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: able to share your story on the on the PhD

765
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:44,640
Speaker 1: podcast because I think it's really important, because I mean,

766
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 1: I've even even been times where I went to sleep

767
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 1: in the back gate car, like you just get so

768
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:54,480
Speaker 1: comfortable and you'd be non tired. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, And

769
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 1: then it's like, you know, when people who have been

770
00:42:56,520 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: in situations, it's just like they get victim blame or

771
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,799
Speaker 1: they even feel they should never went to sleep, and

772
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:04,359
Speaker 1: they feel like if they're a fault, it's just like

773
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 1: it's not your fault, regardless of what happened, you know

774
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:09,920
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So I'm glad you did share your

775
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 1: story and even though nothing happened to you, you gotta

776
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: trust your gut because I agree. If you probably would

777
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 1: have stay net have a little bit longer, something would

778
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: have happened, I know, for a man. And I just

779
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: feel like from everything that he said and how he

780
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 1: was handling me, I was handling the car, what street

781
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: he chose to go on. I'm sorry, There's just no

782
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,879
Speaker 1: way that he had me all the way. He had

783
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 1: me far from my destination. There's no way that he

784
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:39,439
Speaker 1: had me all the way out in. Um it's like

785
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: the neighborhood is kind of like a park, so like

786
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 1: this park area in the middle of the night. No,

787
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:50,640
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, No, you cannot. You cannot sell me the

788
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:56,360
Speaker 1: story on the safety in that situation. You just can't. Yeah. Um. Last,

789
00:43:56,360 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: and not least, So, what is um advice she would

790
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 1: give to somebody, like the rare flags I always look

791
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: out for, because I think you mentioned a lot of things,

792
00:44:05,200 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: I just want to reiterate it so we can all

793
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:12,359
Speaker 1: be aware. Yeah, well, I would say, Um, the biggest thing,

794
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 1: just period is trusting your good And I feel like

795
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: that has just been a whole that that's been the

796
00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 1: whole thing. And yes, I noticed some red flags and

797
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: that kind of thing, but I needed to have a

798
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 1: convert the combination of all of those things, the precaution

799
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 1: that I took, the red flag that I noticed, and

800
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 1: listening to my gut, if one of those things would

801
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,320
Speaker 1: have been off, I have to be honest with myself

802
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 1: and saying that this could be a totally different conversation.

803
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:45,320
Speaker 1: So the precautions that I took I kind of described earlier,

804
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: but just kind of bullet point is one that I

805
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 1: don't use my full name on any of any rideshare

806
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:55,960
Speaker 1: apps UM, and I don't use in a picture avatar

807
00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: at all. But some people are like a profile picture.

808
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 1: But some people have suggested, like I will post a

809
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:06,279
Speaker 1: picture UM with my entire family, I will post a

810
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: picture with mixed groups. One girl was like, I posted

811
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 1: a picture of my boyfriend, and that's just what it is,

812
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So that's something to think about.

813
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: Always checking the license plate of the car, because, like

814
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 1: we talked about the scanners, you just want to make

815
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: sure that that car matches with the rideshare app so

816
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 1: that God forbid something like this happened to you, they

817
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 1: can find that person UM not I sat in the

818
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 1: front seat. If you don't feel comfortable with that, you

819
00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 1: know you need to trust your bed on that you

820
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: need to make your own decision on that. But never

821
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:44,320
Speaker 1: letting your driver handle your back doors, um, because I

822
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: can activate the child law. And then um, Finally, the

823
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 1: last thing was just kind of like it's the last

824
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 1: two things. Is never like oblige any driver's requests if

825
00:45:55,920 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 1: they ask you to do something, unless it's stop kicking

826
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:02,600
Speaker 1: in the back of my seat, you know what I mean,

827
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: Then then you don't need to do it. Um. And

828
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 1: just anything else that you feel like it's a red

829
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 1: flagger that makes you uncomfortable, then you need to make

830
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:17,280
Speaker 1: note of that and just pay attention you know, writing alert,

831
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 1: not being on your phone that kind of thing, and

832
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 1: just pay attention to where the ride is progressing. And

833
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 1: sharing your ride with your family and friends. Yep, yep,

834
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: that is something that I do, just sharing your location. Um.

835
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 1: Ever since this happened, Um, I just like everybody else

836
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: in the world, have a thousand group messages on my

837
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:39,800
Speaker 1: phone and one of my friends is a flight attendant

838
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: and she'll send it in a big group where one

839
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,320
Speaker 1: of us is up at the time, and she was

840
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 1: like the last time she DIDs, hey guys, I'm writing

841
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 1: this night. Shuttle by myself. I'd like to share my

842
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 1: location with you. Okay, we're watching you. Let us know

843
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: when you make it. Okay, I made it cool, you

844
00:46:56,080 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: know what I mean? M hm. So that little, that

845
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:05,320
Speaker 1: little precaution alone could cut down on the time it notices,

846
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 1: down on the time that it takes for someone to

847
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 1: notice that something has happened to her. She can't speak

848
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 1: for herself, right, all right, I'm like, really, I'm not

849
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 1: gonna say excited, but I'm really like, I'm really thinking

850
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 1: a good word. Well, I'm no, I'm really more so

851
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: thankful because it's just like, you know, I don't know

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Speaker 1: ever since I started doing this platform, and I'm just

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Speaker 1: learning so much and means so many different people and

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Speaker 1: learning hearing about their experiences and like it's really like

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Speaker 1: it really like GRIBs make my blood boiled because men

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Speaker 1: or not many big people just take advantage of women.

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Speaker 1: Man's existing. I'm paying, yeah, and I'm paying for a service,

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Speaker 1: and it's like I shouldn't know when I feel uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: and it's like why are you? Why are you doing

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Speaker 1: it at two or three o'clock in the morning, like

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Speaker 1: and it could have been something so worse. I'm really

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Speaker 1: thankful that you're sharing your experience and you know, I

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Speaker 1: know you would get through this. So I want to

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Speaker 1: keep in contact with you and then from my gifts

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Speaker 1: from my listeners. If you have any questions for my guests,

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Speaker 1: please make sure you email me hello at the professional

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Speaker 1: homegoirth dot com because I think we need to all

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Speaker 1: share these stories and share experience that we can know

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Speaker 1: what to look for because some people don't know. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I and some people are trusting. Oh yeah, we all

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Speaker 1: have that friend who's just really nice or you know whatever, UM,

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Speaker 1: and I totally agree with you that getting the word

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Speaker 1: out is and one of the few things that I

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Speaker 1: can do, and I appreciate you having me on. I

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Speaker 1: would like to say, if you don't mind, UM, that

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Speaker 1: since it's been happening, I've been seriously considering, you know,

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Speaker 1: talking to LIFT about some things that they can do

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Speaker 1: to make the app safer And if anyone would like

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Speaker 1: to share with me any um. You know, it's power

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Speaker 1: in numbers, and if anyone would like to be a

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Speaker 1: part of that, I would like to share a negative

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Speaker 1: experience they've had with left UM. I'd love to hear it. Yes,

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Speaker 1: please email me. I would gladly connect you'all because we

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Speaker 1: need to and how a rack can help you, because

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Speaker 1: we need to gotta get better. Ye A hundred and

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Speaker 1: three Uber drivers and eighteen Left drivers. That's that's too

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Speaker 1: me that's been accused of us all. It should be

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Speaker 1: none at all. If anything, you trus should get and

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Speaker 1: be abart y'all until next time later