WEBVTT - What About Your Friends

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and The Black Effect Now.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 2>who talks. What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in

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<v Speaker 2>for a new.

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<v Speaker 3>Episode and We Talk Back the show dedicated to you

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<v Speaker 3>dreamers and chasers. This is your co host aj Holiday.

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<v Speaker 3>What's up, Tam Bam.

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<v Speaker 2>You can never be too sure who we're gonna get

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<v Speaker 2>in the beginning. Are we gonna get bitches and hoes,

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<v Speaker 2>dreams and chasers? I think we should come up with

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<v Speaker 2>something new for the new year. You know I agree that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>so let's do We'll come up with it anyway. It's

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<v Speaker 2>Dan Bam, y'all. I love y'all, motherfucking as. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>keep telling y'all that in the mid year every year.

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<v Speaker 2>How about your weekend?

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<v Speaker 3>It was great. I did all these wonderful things from

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<v Speaker 3>my bed.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah. She sent me a video of her and

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<v Speaker 2>her cat. Laid up. Girl like her cat ate her

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<v Speaker 2>up in the video. I ain't even gonna lie. The

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<v Speaker 2>cat was like staring into my eyes in the video.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a beautiful cat.

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<v Speaker 3>I really feel like I do have like the prettiest

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<v Speaker 3>cat in the world.

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<v Speaker 2>That cat is. Yeah, I'm not talking about her v

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<v Speaker 2>joinny you guys, I've never seen that. I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 2>her her cat dotcha meat. She is, man, but that cat.

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<v Speaker 3>Cats are different, man Like, if you ain't never had

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<v Speaker 3>a cat, you thought she was gonna get like a

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<v Speaker 3>cat dog. The type situation like these is two different.

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<v Speaker 3>This bitch is a bitch, man Like, when she don't

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<v Speaker 3>feel like getting touched, she be acting real stink and

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<v Speaker 3>I be real mad about that because I want cuddles.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like not right now, nah, bitch.

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<v Speaker 3>And but waking me up three o'clock in the morning

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<v Speaker 3>to get rubbed up shit like that, Like she literally

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<v Speaker 3>stand on my chest and just yeah, I love her. Man.

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<v Speaker 2>It looks like your love. And that's excellent. That's how

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<v Speaker 2>I get a cat.

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<v Speaker 3>That's all I did. And I did do some writing, okay, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>I am trying to write at least an hour today.

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<v Speaker 3>So for Black Friday, I bought some vitamins from Vitamin Shop.

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<v Speaker 3>I got fifty percent off of my trading view app

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<v Speaker 3>that I pay every year. I wait till Black Friday

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<v Speaker 3>every year because that shit is five ninety nine five

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<v Speaker 3>hundred and ninety nine dollars, so I buy it. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>it does seventy percent off of Black Friday. And then

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<v Speaker 3>another subscription I added was Final Draft. Uh, it's for

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<v Speaker 3>like screenplay writing. Now I've committed because I've spent money.

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<v Speaker 3>See that, Like I do shit when I got to

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<v Speaker 3>pay for it. Okay, So yeah, I like a little

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<v Speaker 3>tool on their that it asking me you first signed, like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, like the whole you're accountable. So I'm getting

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<v Speaker 3>like dings like bitch, you ain't right yet today.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's not the right time.

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<v Speaker 2>Procrastinates, you know me.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I saw a post that said, even if the

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<v Speaker 3>do date is five years from now, I'm still doing

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<v Speaker 3>that ship the night before.

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<v Speaker 2>That's me. I don't know why I'm like this. You

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<v Speaker 2>work better under pressure, that's all. That's how I like

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<v Speaker 2>to view it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I be stressed the fuck out, but it gets

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<v Speaker 3>done and it'd be.

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<v Speaker 2>Good, but it gets done better because you're stressed.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's how.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I rationalize it to make it okay.

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<v Speaker 3>The bullshit. So those are some of the things I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want to do in twenty twenty five. I need

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<v Speaker 3>to stop I just need to do do what I

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<v Speaker 3>say I'm gonna do.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna get it. We're gonna have an episode on

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<v Speaker 2>that for sure. What did I do this weekend? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>I did all the girlfriend things, you know. I'm like

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<v Speaker 2>got a lot of friend circles that I belong to

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<v Speaker 2>and all our I had two Christmas parties this weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>One of them was a girls house, like we had

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<v Speaker 2>gingerbread houses, but it's woodn't and we had to decorate

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<v Speaker 2>and paint it and whoever did it the best won

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<v Speaker 2>a gift, and of course I want. I did a

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<v Speaker 2>cute little barn house and I put Santa's footprints on

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<v Speaker 2>top of the house to me, and I put little

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<v Speaker 2>lights on it, and it was just so cute. I

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<v Speaker 2>had so much fun at that party. She had it

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<v Speaker 2>curated so nice. She had like a rose at your

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<v Speaker 2>seat with a little chalkboard with your name on it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so cute.

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<v Speaker 3>That sounds nice and cute.

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<v Speaker 2>It was super cute and we were drinking. It was

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<v Speaker 2>very merry. Then the next night it was my other

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<v Speaker 2>girls group. It was our fourteenth annual Girlfriend's Gift Exchange

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<v Speaker 2>and we do the secret Sanna get a secret Santa

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<v Speaker 2>give each other gifts, and we keep the amount low

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<v Speaker 2>fifty dollars minimum. You know, that's the minute you can go.

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<v Speaker 2>You can spend ten thousand if.

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<v Speaker 3>You want, but I think giving ermaz bags.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, no, we keep it cute. It'd be between

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<v Speaker 2>fifty and one hundred dollars they spent. We spend on

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<v Speaker 2>each other. A lot of them have kids. They can't

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<v Speaker 2>afford to be like, you know, going crazy for their

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<v Speaker 2>friends when they got children, to buy four and stuff

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<v Speaker 2>like that. So we keep it cute and not go

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<v Speaker 2>too crazy. And we did the Old Lady Gang this year,

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<v Speaker 2>and they had a decorated cute like they had like

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<v Speaker 2>we all dressed as old bitches, gray wigs, canes. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>it was so much fun. And they had like urine

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<v Speaker 2>sample shots. They had like uh the needle like a shot, yes, syringe,

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<v Speaker 2>it was a shot. They had chill peel like the

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<v Speaker 2>medicine bottle and it had candy in it and they

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<v Speaker 2>had your name on it and your birthday.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>They also had like atry seat and let you know

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<v Speaker 2>where you were sitting. They took pictures off our social

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<v Speaker 2>media and aged us. So it's like this old lass

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<v Speaker 2>lady with my face. It's supposed to be me as

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<v Speaker 2>a granny.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, that ain't me.

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<v Speaker 2>That ain't how I'm a look.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's how you sound as Helen. It ain't me.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I learn. Y'all heard that. I know y'all

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<v Speaker 2>heard it.

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<v Speaker 3>Whatever the old last lady came out of there, that

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<v Speaker 3>ain't how I look.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's Helen. That was fun and that was my

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<v Speaker 2>weekend for real. Oh and I have not told anyone

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<v Speaker 2>of this, but I guess I'll share it here right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I I auditioned for an acting academy in New York

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<v Speaker 2>and I got here. Oh shit, No, So I started

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<v Speaker 2>February fourth in New York.

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<v Speaker 3>You'll know I'll be all over.

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<v Speaker 2>Doing anything. Yeah, I'm going to action school starting February

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<v Speaker 2>fourth in New York City on Broadway.

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<v Speaker 3>I hear that girl so lately I've been trying to

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<v Speaker 3>you know, so in South Carolina, you don't have to

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<v Speaker 3>have any certification for apparentegal cause I'm like, damn it,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not gonna be a little lawyer tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I can do that, do it.

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<v Speaker 3>So I actually have a paralegal interview coming up.

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<v Speaker 2>Excellent, excellent, man, I like, we're going into our second life.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, we've done the first one, and this is

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<v Speaker 2>our second lifetime. In this lifetime, yep, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So maybe at some point I might have to move

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<v Speaker 3>to a damn state where I can legally get a

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<v Speaker 3>California did cha. I'm not going back to school, fuck y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not doing it. But I need to do some

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<v Speaker 3>kimk shit because I definitely I just feel like there's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of hidden things that you don't know until

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<v Speaker 3>you get to these other levels. Not there's okay, I

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<v Speaker 3>know a lot of hidden things, right, but then there's

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<v Speaker 3>still things that you don't know and understand till you

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<v Speaker 3>actually experience them.

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<v Speaker 2>So I feel like there's.

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<v Speaker 3>Some some secret stuff I want to learn. Legal, of course,

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<v Speaker 3>of course, so maybe I could be your entertainment lawyer.

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<v Speaker 3>Bitch yep, I will let you do all the contract

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I hate that shit. Let's get in the scene.

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<v Speaker 3>The people is coming for gas. And when I say

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<v Speaker 3>the people, so this attorney what is his name, big

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<v Speaker 3>booty hole?

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<v Speaker 2>What's his name?

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<v Speaker 3>Tom Busby?

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<v Speaker 2>So?

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<v Speaker 3>Uh he actually put up I think he wasn't he

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<v Speaker 3>the same attorney that Tony Buzzby. Excuse me, wasn't he

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<v Speaker 3>the same attorney that put up like the hotline for

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<v Speaker 3>people to call in who were allegedly violated by Diddy

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<v Speaker 3>or jay Z?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. I didn't, I wasn't. I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Pretty sure is this guy? I'm pretty sure? So imagine

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<v Speaker 3>what type of crazies came through the hotline, right, Not

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<v Speaker 3>to discredit anybody who actually had some crazy ass experiences

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<v Speaker 3>at any point in their lives with these people, because

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we don't know, right, but I think when

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<v Speaker 3>you open some shit up like that to the public,

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<v Speaker 3>you will have.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes just calling in trying to see how they can

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<v Speaker 2>get a piece of the pie.

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<v Speaker 3>So you then discredit the people who actually have suffered, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>and then also like y'all not coming from no criminal well,

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<v Speaker 3>judity is in jail, right, So this is for more

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<v Speaker 3>recent things. But the thing that they're that Diddy is

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<v Speaker 3>being sued for the civil lawsuit of this thirteen year

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<v Speaker 3>old girl that came out a couple months ago. They

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<v Speaker 3>have now edited that and added jay Z to it.

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<v Speaker 3>The same Yeah, So what they're saying is what the

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<v Speaker 3>Tony Buzzby is saying, is that they tried to do

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<v Speaker 3>a mediation with jay Z. They reached out to him

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<v Speaker 3>and his lawyers and wanted to do a mediation. They

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<v Speaker 3>weren't asking for any money. What what the fuck y'all

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<v Speaker 3>want mediation when there's a civil lawsuit? What else you

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<v Speaker 3>want to talk about other than ways to make this

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<v Speaker 3>go away?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>So they send a demand letter saying, Hey, if you

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<v Speaker 3>don't pay such and such or don't sit down and

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<v Speaker 3>have this conversation with us, we're gonna go public with it.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess jay Z said, fuck it, we'll public with it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think this may be the first time we

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<v Speaker 3>saw an actual statement from an accuser, not accuser, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 3>an actual statement from the person being accused jay Z.

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<v Speaker 3>You know it wasn't from an attorney, so he put

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<v Speaker 3>out a stationment.

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<v Speaker 2>It just almost seems like a witch hunt, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like you know, I would. Jay Z is one of

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<v Speaker 2>my favorites. Did he was too, So it's just very

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<v Speaker 2>sad to see all of this take place. And I

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<v Speaker 2>hope it's not true, but you never know. But I

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<v Speaker 2>just hope this is definitely just another attemp to take

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<v Speaker 2>down a black man and not true. He don't He's

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<v Speaker 2>never appeared to be the type that like children, but

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<v Speaker 2>who knows. You never know what's lying beneath the surface.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so let's do some math and let's just take

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<v Speaker 3>a look at some historical events. So I think Diddy,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not Diddy. Jay Z is like what fifty five now, right,

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<v Speaker 3>So they're a legend that this incident happened over two

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<v Speaker 3>decades ago, in two thousand, right, So we're talking twenty

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<v Speaker 3>five years ago. Jay Z and Diddy would have been

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<v Speaker 3>like thirty at that time. This young girl was at

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<v Speaker 3>Grammy's or a VMA party, like what you're doing there?

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<v Speaker 3>A friend dropped her off and she called her dad

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<v Speaker 3>to pick her up after the incident, like these are

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<v Speaker 3>the things that are in the lawsuit. Why were you there? Right? Right?

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<v Speaker 3>So sometimes we have to take accountability for the things.

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<v Speaker 3>And this is not victim blaming, but you cannot put

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<v Speaker 3>yourself in risky situations, right because it sounds like you

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<v Speaker 3>ended up in somebody's hotel room, in a back room somewhere,

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, let's not forget that shit.

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<v Speaker 2>How old was Foxy Brown? Mm hmm? How old was Beyauncey?

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<v Speaker 2>How old is Aliyah?

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<v Speaker 3>So we're not gonna act like grown men don't be

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<v Speaker 3>at little girls because both of us, right have been

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<v Speaker 3>young girls looking older mm hmm unless you lie your age.

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<v Speaker 2>I could definitely remember a lot of grown men trying

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<v Speaker 2>to see what was up with me as a young.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl, knowing your age and not knowing Yes, yes, mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't do it, bitch, because there's a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>out here that would be shamed.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yes, I can remember. I'm not gonna tell this. No,

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<v Speaker 2>telling here is terrible. I ain't gonna tell it.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, man, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Me neither. I'm just speechless on that. But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>every dog has a day, so we'll see what happened

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<v Speaker 2>with that.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know, the adult, the adult is so the

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<v Speaker 3>responsible party, yep, right, But you know it took you

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<v Speaker 3>twenty five years to want to do this, to file

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<v Speaker 3>these lawsuits and stuff like that, because now it's just

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<v Speaker 3>a it just doesn't look credible right at the.

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<v Speaker 2>Smith apart, that's the part. It just don't look credible

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<v Speaker 2>at all. But I just feel like every man who

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<v Speaker 2>has influence should probably be like holding his nuts tight

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<v Speaker 2>right now, especially if he ever even did the smallest

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<v Speaker 2>infraction of anything. Like that shit could come back to

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<v Speaker 2>haunt you twenty five years later.

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<v Speaker 3>And see, that's my thing though, you know when they say, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>they're trying to take the black man down, right, why

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<v Speaker 3>is there anything out there that could possibly incriminate you? Why?

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<v Speaker 3>Why do why do those things exist? Because I do

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<v Speaker 3>understand that, you know, they could create stuff, But we

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<v Speaker 3>saw videos of Diddy's stumping Cassie like you, actually we

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<v Speaker 3>did that in a public place, and if you didn't

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<v Speaker 3>give a fuck about who saw it there, I can

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<v Speaker 3>only imagine the things that you did to.

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<v Speaker 2>Her and public in private, in private?

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<v Speaker 3>Right, So why do they have these things on y'all

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<v Speaker 3>in the first place? And if you want to say

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<v Speaker 3>it's the powers that be, these niggas stop playing the game.

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<v Speaker 3>They try to suit this one and then all of

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<v Speaker 3>a sudden these charges come up.

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<v Speaker 2>We know they do this to us.

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<v Speaker 3>And this is why I still say, niggas don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to knock all this shit over and start a new

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<v Speaker 3>They just want close proximity to whiteness so they can

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<v Speaker 3>do the dirty shit that them people do mm hm.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's the problem.

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<v Speaker 3>So before we could talk about any other community, we

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<v Speaker 3>need to clean our porch.

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<v Speaker 2>Better sweep around your own front door.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like we gotta clean our porch. Because that's the

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<v Speaker 3>grand scale, right, Let's just talk about on the small

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<v Speaker 3>micro level, like within families and how we know we

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<v Speaker 3>got predators in these.

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<v Speaker 2>Families, in our families, in our families.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you see that freestyle from that little girl, the

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<v Speaker 3>young girl rapping and she was talking about it's it's

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<v Speaker 3>going viral right now because I know a little duval

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<v Speaker 3>just posted it.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I sent it to you.

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<v Speaker 3>She had like blonde hair or something. But she was

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<v Speaker 3>rapping about like how the families be protecting the demons

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<v Speaker 3>while they violating the angels, like within the family and

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<v Speaker 3>they get protected the women. The women protect these men.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm.

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<v Speaker 3>A lot of the times they.

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<v Speaker 2>Know exactly who.

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<v Speaker 3>We know exactly who these niggas be.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we do. That's the truth.

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<v Speaker 3>Baby got a couple of dollars. People overlook a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of things.

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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is the age of the query's baby. Ain't

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<v Speaker 3>nothing hidden, no more.

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<v Speaker 2>Than everything everything. Yep.

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<v Speaker 3>I just hope my fucking irs don't come after me.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think you know it's it's unfortunately men like women.

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<v Speaker 2>You you know, we going on through life. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>if I've become very successful and super rich and famous,

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't did shit to nobody that's gonna come back

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<v Speaker 2>to like haunt me in this way. And it's just like,

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<v Speaker 2>how do you not be able to go through life

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<v Speaker 2>without violating people? You know you can though, That's what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying. Men, it just seems why they can, right,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know. I don't know why

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<v Speaker 2>that is.

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<v Speaker 3>But I mean, we we're talking about like like Diddy

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<v Speaker 3>for instance, Like he made a living off that, off

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<v Speaker 3>the party life. That's how the songs were created. Right,

0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:37.320
<v Speaker 3>Ain't no party like a Diddy party? Like that's what

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<v Speaker 3>he's literally known for and he's being prosecuted for that now.

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<v Speaker 2>Hmm. That's to be more careful. You gotta be careful, man.

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<v Speaker 3>And also, just like Drake, Jake be having these bitch

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<v Speaker 3>aside paperwork, so maybe you got to get some more

0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:57.360
<v Speaker 3>NDA's out there. Yeah, before you violate them, get him

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<v Speaker 3>to sign some paperwork that.

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<v Speaker 2>They be violated, because some people like that kind of shit. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>The shades are gray. An influencer drops nineteen K on

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<v Speaker 2>the surgery to become an I put in heavy quotations.

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<v Speaker 2>A virgin again what a doctor warns of the risks involved.

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<v Speaker 2>So this girl renewed her v card so to speak,

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<v Speaker 2>by having a nineteen thousand dollars vaginal rejuvenation operation basically

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<v Speaker 2>to uh recorrect her hymen right to like make it

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<v Speaker 2>a new.

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<v Speaker 3>So I guess the next time after the surgery, whenever

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<v Speaker 3>she has sex, she'll bleed again.

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<v Speaker 2>Why I don't get it. That's so stupid. That's a

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<v Speaker 2>waste of nineteen thousand dollars because.

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<v Speaker 3>You're not mess somebody. Yeah, and then now it's like public,

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<v Speaker 3>so now like it's not like you're about to get

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<v Speaker 3>a husband, like, hey, you're getting a virgin and no, bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>we know that you had ury to get that Gucci back,

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<v Speaker 3>and are you going to get it tightened? Also like drivenation,

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<v Speaker 3>Well she only twenty three, it should still be very.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah elastic. Oh yeah, twenty three, that's it's still

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<v Speaker 2>super tight. Yeah, it depends.

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<v Speaker 3>She might be a porn star and I had a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of dick because why, like, what is the point.

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<v Speaker 2>So you brush your teeth, does that mean you haven't

0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:31.960
<v Speaker 2>you never had given hand? If you brush your teeth

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<v Speaker 2>every day, it's starting over. I guess every day we

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<v Speaker 2>live in a society, you get to decide what reality

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<v Speaker 2>is every day. So she's a virgin again? Who am

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<v Speaker 2>I to told her she's not at this point?

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<v Speaker 3>And I wonder when she planned on having sex again.

0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:51.040
<v Speaker 3>I wonder when she planned on busting and wide open again.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't remember ever having that though. I don't remember

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<v Speaker 3>ever like bleeding bleeding me neither, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>there's other ways outside of sex to.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we were like and all that stuff, But I

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<v Speaker 2>still don't remember it bleeding from that, you know, So

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know, y'all. I'm no pride

0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:12.720
<v Speaker 2>to you with your new pussy. Yeah, congratulations.

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<v Speaker 3>So would you go to a church that has like

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<v Speaker 3>an AI Jesus?

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<v Speaker 2>Excuse me? Say come again? Say what? So?

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<v Speaker 3>Look this church, says church has an AI Jesus for confessions.

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<v Speaker 3>It gave me so much advice. One user says, so

0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:38.560
<v Speaker 3>is this the messiah they put ai? Aya says, just

0:19:38.600 --> 0:19:42.480
<v Speaker 3>in case, artificial intelligence hasn't been taken over taking on

0:19:42.640 --> 0:19:46.840
<v Speaker 3>enough jobs lately. Now it's replacing the almighty. A church

0:19:46.880 --> 0:19:50.880
<v Speaker 3>in Switzerland is now using an AI hologram of Jesus.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder what color they got him to take confessions

0:19:55.560 --> 0:20:01.080
<v Speaker 3>A hologram Jesus wife to take confessions from athletic worshippers,

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<v Speaker 3>as seen in a wild viral video, and one user says,

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<v Speaker 3>I was surprised it was so easy, and though it's

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<v Speaker 3>a machine, it gave me so much advice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, check GPT do that shit too. Yeah, That's what

0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:17.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying. Is yet GPT Jesus right?

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, so they got like the image. There's a

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<v Speaker 3>video out there, y'all. This is on n y Post. Also,

0:20:23.560 --> 0:20:31.040
<v Speaker 3>it says before entering robo Jesus cautions do not disclose

0:20:31.119 --> 0:20:36.200
<v Speaker 3>personal information under any circumstances this service. Oh, use the

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<v Speaker 3>service at your own Oh. I cannot fucking read. What

0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:39.159
<v Speaker 3>is happening?

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<v Speaker 2>Girls acting like.

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<v Speaker 3>The whole time we've been doing this shit, they resided

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<v Speaker 3>really well.

0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:51.760
<v Speaker 2>You always be like, what is happening? No, But I

0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:53.920
<v Speaker 2>feel like some days it's worse though.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like I be It's not that.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not seeing ahead of the coming out of your mouth.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like that's what it is like. Maybe what

0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:04.760
<v Speaker 3>is it called dyslexic?

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<v Speaker 2>A little bit? I don't know. Oh, I can't say.

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<v Speaker 3>Your hand bitch, and we got a new administration. We

0:21:10.000 --> 0:21:14.240
<v Speaker 3>could say all the bad words now, Okay, that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Fucked up, Okay, it says.

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<v Speaker 3>The futuristic Shrine features a confessional booth with a screen

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<v Speaker 3>displaying the face of Jesus and Who's I just want

0:21:23.760 --> 0:21:28.000
<v Speaker 3>to know, like who determined? Like the face of Jesus

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<v Speaker 3>through the great Before entering robo, Jesus cautions, do not

0:21:35.200 --> 0:21:39.760
<v Speaker 3>disclose personal information under any circumstances. Use this service at

0:21:39.800 --> 0:21:43.679
<v Speaker 3>your own risk. Press the button if you accept.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So you.

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<v Speaker 3>Can go there and tell this Jesus all the things, okay,

0:21:49.200 --> 0:21:51.800
<v Speaker 3>and he's going to keep all your sins and secrets.

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<v Speaker 2>I would go in there and tell him all kind

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<v Speaker 2>of shit they wouldn't true, just to see what Jesus

0:21:56.080 --> 0:21:57.960
<v Speaker 2>is gonna say.

0:21:58.480 --> 0:22:01.120
<v Speaker 3>Jesus is supposed to say, like you're forgiven every time?

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I don't know what a Jesus is gonna say.

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<v Speaker 2>I kill somebody and see what happened, and see if

0:22:09.200 --> 0:22:13.280
<v Speaker 2>AI Jesus called the police on me, because Alex will.

0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:19.200
<v Speaker 3>If you tell the police Alexa done her a bitch,

0:22:19.240 --> 0:22:21.680
<v Speaker 3>getting her ass whooped and called the police before.

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<v Speaker 2>Well that's good on Alexa, because yes, we need some

0:22:25.600 --> 0:22:32.399
<v Speaker 2>more support out here. Good. Yeah, that's wold and the

0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:36.000
<v Speaker 2>earth is in shambles at this point, zero stars.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. Maybe God will come look at me

0:22:39.960 --> 0:22:40.200
<v Speaker 3>like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all ought to be shamed with y'allself with that one.

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<v Speaker 2>He don't even look like me. And I ain't coming

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<v Speaker 2>back there, y'all ghetto.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all be looking for me, and I ain't never coming back.

0:22:51.960 --> 0:22:54.080
<v Speaker 2>Talking about I'm coming back. I'm not coming back there.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all show out too bad. Hmm. So we heard that.

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<v Speaker 3>The gen Zers are having problems finding and keeping like

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<v Speaker 3>real life friends, and I don't feel like that's just

0:23:10.040 --> 0:23:12.080
<v Speaker 3>exclusive to their group, because I feel like we might

0:23:12.080 --> 0:23:14.840
<v Speaker 3>have went through the same type of shit, or we

0:23:14.880 --> 0:23:16.800
<v Speaker 3>still have grown people who be out here putting on

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<v Speaker 3>the internet how they don't got no friends.

0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:21.439
<v Speaker 2>And no friends, Like I just see a lot of

0:23:21.480 --> 0:23:26.560
<v Speaker 2>young girls, especially in the hair salon, and like my kids,

0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:29.520
<v Speaker 2>my friends kids and stuff like that, Like they say

0:23:29.640 --> 0:23:32.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't have no friends, and it's so often I

0:23:32.640 --> 0:23:34.680
<v Speaker 2>hear that, and I just think that's the strangest thing.

0:23:35.119 --> 0:23:38.760
<v Speaker 2>And I think it's important. It's so important for us

0:23:38.840 --> 0:23:44.520
<v Speaker 2>to have friends. I couldn't imagine my life without friends neither.

0:23:44.920 --> 0:23:48.600
<v Speaker 2>It's weird. It's very weird, and it's sad. So I

0:23:48.600 --> 0:23:51.600
<v Speaker 2>wanted to have a conversation about it, and you know,

0:23:51.920 --> 0:23:54.840
<v Speaker 2>get our gen Z listeners and some grown women too,

0:23:54.960 --> 0:23:59.159
<v Speaker 2>you know, to help them find friendships and find your

0:23:59.240 --> 0:24:04.399
<v Speaker 2>tribe you need now more than ever. Yep, we'll be

0:24:04.480 --> 0:24:04.920
<v Speaker 2>right back.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, personally, I have never had problems making

0:24:16.200 --> 0:24:18.640
<v Speaker 3>or keeping friends. Now I have lost some friends over

0:24:18.680 --> 0:24:21.040
<v Speaker 3>the years, and I think that the more fucking friends

0:24:21.080 --> 0:24:24.600
<v Speaker 3>you lose it gets easier. But I do mourn the

0:24:24.600 --> 0:24:28.080
<v Speaker 3>loss of those friendships still, right but because.

0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:31.280
<v Speaker 2>Question death, especially with someone that you know you loved,

0:24:31.960 --> 0:24:33.960
<v Speaker 2>you know what, it's almost like someone died. There are

0:24:34.040 --> 0:24:37.960
<v Speaker 2>relationships right now that I like. Some of my closest

0:24:38.000 --> 0:24:40.880
<v Speaker 2>friends in life I'm not even talking to and I'm

0:24:40.920 --> 0:24:43.920
<v Speaker 2>too stubborn to reach out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm never I don't really, I don't have ego

0:24:48.000 --> 0:24:50.520
<v Speaker 3>when it comes to people I love. But now you

0:24:50.600 --> 0:24:53.840
<v Speaker 3>just be straight disrespecting me, like I'm gonna have to

0:24:53.840 --> 0:24:55.680
<v Speaker 3>cut your ass off. I have a lot of tolerance

0:24:55.680 --> 0:24:58.199
<v Speaker 3>for bullshit. It's a lot like I as long as

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<v Speaker 3>I know who you are, I'm gonna deal with it

0:25:00.760 --> 0:25:02.680
<v Speaker 3>so we can continue on. But when the shit get

0:25:02.680 --> 0:25:05.320
<v Speaker 3>a little bit too hectic, I gotta get out of there.

0:25:06.840 --> 0:25:09.680
<v Speaker 2>I just be feeling like I be working too hard

0:25:09.680 --> 0:25:11.919
<v Speaker 2>to make relationships work, and now I just at a

0:25:11.920 --> 0:25:16.399
<v Speaker 2>place where I just I'm okay with my circle being

0:25:16.560 --> 0:25:19.280
<v Speaker 2>smaller and more quality, you know, I don't have to

0:25:19.320 --> 0:25:22.679
<v Speaker 2>have because I have like a ton of friends, you know.

0:25:23.359 --> 0:25:27.520
<v Speaker 2>So now I've over my life, I've had like more

0:25:27.560 --> 0:25:31.680
<v Speaker 2>friends than the average beer right. But that's because one

0:25:31.720 --> 0:25:35.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm coolest fuck, and two that because the environment that

0:25:35.680 --> 0:25:38.359
<v Speaker 2>I work in is just always women, you know. So

0:25:38.440 --> 0:25:43.240
<v Speaker 2>I always make relationships with women. But everybody ain't your friend,

0:25:43.320 --> 0:25:47.760
<v Speaker 2>you know. So sometimes at this age, I'm okay with

0:25:48.440 --> 0:25:51.479
<v Speaker 2>letting a couple of them going with their life, you know.

0:25:52.280 --> 0:25:54.919
<v Speaker 3>And see, maybe that's what the younger generation is recognizing

0:25:54.920 --> 0:25:57.240
<v Speaker 3>that though we know these people and we might even

0:25:57.280 --> 0:26:00.200
<v Speaker 3>congregate with them, sometimes are they really our friends. It's

0:26:00.200 --> 0:26:02.480
<v Speaker 3>like the hood Healer on Instagram put up a post

0:26:02.520 --> 0:26:06.960
<v Speaker 3>earlier and was like, listen the zodiac of your most

0:26:06.960 --> 0:26:11.080
<v Speaker 3>dependable and then list the zodiac that you get into

0:26:11.320 --> 0:26:15.080
<v Speaker 3>it with the most, and really like it's the same

0:26:15.240 --> 0:26:19.159
<v Speaker 3>fucking people like I can say cancer is dependable, but

0:26:19.240 --> 0:26:22.440
<v Speaker 3>also I get into it with a motherfucking cancer, like it's.

0:26:22.280 --> 0:26:23.160
<v Speaker 2>The same person.

0:26:23.840 --> 0:26:28.879
<v Speaker 3>But I just feel like maybe the younger generation is

0:26:29.000 --> 0:26:33.120
<v Speaker 3>just like, oh, we're just associates. Maybe they don't really like.

0:26:33.119 --> 0:26:35.840
<v Speaker 2>But I'm but not even that, because I will hear

0:26:36.119 --> 0:26:38.560
<v Speaker 2>young girls say I'm like, why then you don't go

0:26:38.600 --> 0:26:41.040
<v Speaker 2>out sometime? I don't have nobody to go out with,

0:26:42.080 --> 0:26:44.159
<v Speaker 2>Like they don't even have bitches to hang out with,

0:26:44.440 --> 0:26:47.720
<v Speaker 2>like and now I would in my day, I would say,

0:26:48.480 --> 0:26:51.119
<v Speaker 2>this ain't my friend. We just go out, you know,

0:26:51.400 --> 0:26:53.360
<v Speaker 2>we cool and we go out, but I don't call

0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:56.600
<v Speaker 2>her to cry on her shoulder. You know, did you

0:26:56.640 --> 0:26:59.480
<v Speaker 2>have relationships with like girls that you would just put

0:26:59.560 --> 0:27:02.480
<v Speaker 2>your part friends when you know in the twenties.

0:27:02.640 --> 0:27:06.560
<v Speaker 3>I feel like in my twenties, I like people with

0:27:07.480 --> 0:27:09.399
<v Speaker 3>I had like people here and there that I would

0:27:09.400 --> 0:27:11.480
<v Speaker 3>go out with, But it's not like somebody I talked

0:27:11.480 --> 0:27:14.199
<v Speaker 3>to on a daily basis, Like maybe we were like

0:27:14.359 --> 0:27:17.000
<v Speaker 3>trying to see if we would be friends type thing.

0:27:17.080 --> 0:27:18.960
<v Speaker 3>Like like when I moved to Atlanta and you meet people,

0:27:19.080 --> 0:27:20.320
<v Speaker 3>you know what I'm saying, So you kind of like

0:27:20.440 --> 0:27:23.240
<v Speaker 3>leaning through people, y'all? Might hang out a couple of times,

0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:25.840
<v Speaker 3>but they're not really my friends. I didn't have. I've

0:27:25.880 --> 0:27:28.080
<v Speaker 3>never had any women that I actually hang out with

0:27:28.240 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 3>consistently and not consider them my friend.

0:27:32.240 --> 0:27:36.399
<v Speaker 2>I would, Yeah, that's fair, I did. I knew I

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:39.359
<v Speaker 2>would have women that we would go out, but that

0:27:39.480 --> 0:27:44.120
<v Speaker 2>would be our relationship, that we part of the relationship. Yeah,

0:27:44.160 --> 0:27:46.240
<v Speaker 2>we party, but I'm not me and her not going

0:27:46.280 --> 0:27:50.840
<v Speaker 2>to church together. You know we're not. I'm not telling

0:27:50.880 --> 0:27:53.000
<v Speaker 2>you when somebody died in my family. I'm not calling

0:27:53.000 --> 0:27:57.159
<v Speaker 2>you for that. You know you're not that friend, but

0:27:57.200 --> 0:27:59.240
<v Speaker 2>you're still a friend. You're my party friend. We get

0:27:59.240 --> 0:28:00.399
<v Speaker 2>in the clubs for you together.

0:28:03.600 --> 0:28:07.800
<v Speaker 3>You know these levels to this ship. It's levels to friendships.

0:28:07.800 --> 0:28:10.400
<v Speaker 3>But to be a young person and just not have

0:28:11.320 --> 0:28:14.879
<v Speaker 3>no Yeah, as women, women, that's the one thing we

0:28:14.960 --> 0:28:17.399
<v Speaker 3>have on men, right, men. I don't think men really

0:28:17.400 --> 0:28:21.760
<v Speaker 3>cultivate like healthy relationships like women do throughout their lives.

0:28:21.760 --> 0:28:23.879
<v Speaker 3>They always say we're gonna die aloge, but usually we

0:28:23.960 --> 0:28:26.840
<v Speaker 3>got somebody, Okay, it's gonna be a bitch bestie, We're

0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:29.080
<v Speaker 3>gonna be old as fuck and the nursing home together

0:28:29.160 --> 0:28:32.240
<v Speaker 3>like y'all niggas being there by y'allself. But I feel

0:28:32.240 --> 0:28:34.680
<v Speaker 3>like women, over the course of their lives, they do

0:28:34.760 --> 0:28:41.560
<v Speaker 3>cultivate healthy relationships, especially Black women, Like we all got like,

0:28:41.600 --> 0:28:46.640
<v Speaker 3>how do you get through life without girl friends? Yes?

0:28:46.760 --> 0:28:53.360
<v Speaker 2>I need I got me air, Like I was talking.

0:28:53.400 --> 0:28:55.320
<v Speaker 2>So I was on the phone with this guy I've

0:28:55.320 --> 0:28:59.160
<v Speaker 2>been talking to, and I was like, so excited about

0:28:59.200 --> 0:29:01.320
<v Speaker 2>the gifts that we at giving each other because we

0:29:01.360 --> 0:29:04.760
<v Speaker 2>always get each other like little Christmas glasses or ornaments.

0:29:04.840 --> 0:29:06.720
<v Speaker 2>And I was just telling him all the stuff I got,

0:29:06.720 --> 0:29:09.560
<v Speaker 2>and I got some really cute like a shot glass

0:29:09.600 --> 0:29:12.640
<v Speaker 2>and a really pretty cup, and he was like, y'all

0:29:12.680 --> 0:29:14.240
<v Speaker 2>gay as hell. I was like, what.

0:29:15.760 --> 0:29:19.000
<v Speaker 3>Niggas always think women gay? And he was like, I

0:29:19.040 --> 0:29:21.440
<v Speaker 3>mean you're gay back, like everybody ain't gay?

0:29:22.000 --> 0:29:24.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah I am. I'm not gay gay. I just be

0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:29.520
<v Speaker 2>drunk gay one game. So he was like, could you

0:29:29.560 --> 0:29:31.440
<v Speaker 2>imagine I just come here and talk about a year

0:29:31.440 --> 0:29:36.000
<v Speaker 2>about homeboy brought me this cup. But maybe y'all niggas

0:29:36.040 --> 0:29:38.200
<v Speaker 2>need to be like do that with each other. I

0:29:38.240 --> 0:29:40.640
<v Speaker 2>was like, that's that's the problem. That's why y'all be

0:29:40.680 --> 0:29:43.560
<v Speaker 2>so angry because y'all not doing nice things and with

0:29:43.600 --> 0:29:47.400
<v Speaker 2>each other. You'd be like, nah, y'all gay as hell,

0:29:47.400 --> 0:29:51.400
<v Speaker 2>bought each other some cups, Like.

0:29:51.440 --> 0:29:54.160
<v Speaker 3>You cannot tell niggas that women don't be eating each

0:29:54.200 --> 0:29:57.200
<v Speaker 3>other couchie on friends on girlfriends trips and stuff like,

0:29:57.240 --> 0:29:57.880
<v Speaker 3>are y'all sick?

0:29:58.440 --> 0:30:01.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm never eating my friends on a vacation with them.

0:30:01.680 --> 0:30:03.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure that shit goes down.

0:30:03.640 --> 0:30:06.600
<v Speaker 3>And some people friends groups like they I don't know

0:30:06.640 --> 0:30:08.480
<v Speaker 3>if that's a friend though, Like what is that?

0:30:09.440 --> 0:30:09.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:30:10.560 --> 0:30:14.640
<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty sure it goes down. But the majority of

0:30:14.720 --> 0:30:18.920
<v Speaker 3>the time absolutely fucking not. Okay, this is going to

0:30:18.920 --> 0:30:20.520
<v Speaker 3>get away from yall, niggas.

0:30:20.880 --> 0:30:21.520
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:30:23.080 --> 0:30:26.880
<v Speaker 3>I found this article on very well minded dot com

0:30:26.920 --> 0:30:31.160
<v Speaker 3>and it says I don't need friends. Why you might

0:30:31.200 --> 0:30:35.680
<v Speaker 3>feel this way Sometimes it feels better to be alone. Now.

0:30:35.680 --> 0:30:38.160
<v Speaker 3>I am one for isolation a little bit me too,

0:30:38.720 --> 0:30:42.280
<v Speaker 3>But if it's like a mental health thing, why you're isolating, like,

0:30:42.600 --> 0:30:47.120
<v Speaker 3>you'll find that actually being with people like mine, you

0:30:47.200 --> 0:30:49.440
<v Speaker 3>got some things in common with, can actually pull you

0:30:49.560 --> 0:30:53.040
<v Speaker 3>out of at the place face yeah, because if it's

0:30:53.040 --> 0:30:55.920
<v Speaker 3>a healthy isolation, like you like, look, I got deadlines

0:30:55.960 --> 0:30:59.200
<v Speaker 3>for shit, like I'm I'm grinding, I'm focused. But if

0:30:59.240 --> 0:31:02.360
<v Speaker 3>it's a I'm depressed. I don't have no friends type

0:31:02.360 --> 0:31:04.160
<v Speaker 3>shit in the house every weekend.

0:31:04.480 --> 0:31:05.720
<v Speaker 2>That might be a problem.

0:31:05.880 --> 0:31:07.600
<v Speaker 3>You might need to if you don't have any friends,

0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:09.000
<v Speaker 3>at least get a therapist.

0:31:09.440 --> 0:31:13.080
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I isolate myself because my social barometer is just

0:31:13.160 --> 0:31:16.440
<v Speaker 2>completely diminished. Like I don't have nothing. I talk to

0:31:16.480 --> 0:31:18.880
<v Speaker 2>bitches all day. Listen when you do hair, you are

0:31:18.920 --> 0:31:21.800
<v Speaker 2>a therapist. I don't care what nobody say. I listen

0:31:21.840 --> 0:31:24.280
<v Speaker 2>to people's stories. I laugh the inn. I always tell

0:31:24.320 --> 0:31:26.480
<v Speaker 2>them the entertainment is free because I'm always in here

0:31:26.600 --> 0:31:28.760
<v Speaker 2>entertaining while I'm doing the hair. But then I have

0:31:28.880 --> 0:31:31.680
<v Speaker 2>my friends, my relationships, and like me and you had

0:31:31.680 --> 0:31:34.520
<v Speaker 2>a conversation yesterday and it was really about some personal shit,

0:31:34.680 --> 0:31:37.800
<v Speaker 2>you know, that we talked about. And sometimes it can

0:31:37.840 --> 0:31:40.960
<v Speaker 2>be heavy, and then I'm talking over here, I'm talking

0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:42.640
<v Speaker 2>over there. Sometimes I just have to go in the

0:31:42.680 --> 0:31:45.400
<v Speaker 2>house and shut the fuck up. Then I gotta come

0:31:45.440 --> 0:31:48.560
<v Speaker 2>on this shit and talk to y'all. Sometimes I just

0:31:48.600 --> 0:31:50.400
<v Speaker 2>have to shut the fuck up for a little while

0:31:50.440 --> 0:31:55.560
<v Speaker 2>and just close all communication off because I'm over stimulated. Yes,

0:31:55.640 --> 0:31:56.200
<v Speaker 2>that's meager.

0:31:56.320 --> 0:31:59.920
<v Speaker 3>I definitely get tired of talking, okay, especially some shit happened.

0:32:00.040 --> 0:32:01.640
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I got a call everybody I know

0:32:01.920 --> 0:32:04.000
<v Speaker 3>tell them what happened. But I am learning to not

0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:08.240
<v Speaker 3>do that. You sound like a broken record after a while, Like,

0:32:08.400 --> 0:32:10.360
<v Speaker 3>and I really have anxiety at the end of the

0:32:10.440 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 3>day after I talk to all these bitches about the

0:32:12.280 --> 0:32:14.080
<v Speaker 3>same thing and total same fucking story.

0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:16.920
<v Speaker 2>M M. Have you ever called somebody to tell the

0:32:16.960 --> 0:32:19.880
<v Speaker 2>story and then before you started, You'm like, I don't

0:32:19.880 --> 0:32:21.760
<v Speaker 2>even want to tell that story, an Moore, I'm tired

0:32:21.800 --> 0:32:23.720
<v Speaker 2>of telling it. I like, you know what, never mine,

0:32:23.760 --> 0:32:24.720
<v Speaker 2>don't even worry about it.

0:32:24.880 --> 0:32:27.120
<v Speaker 3>Don't worry about it, man, I'm sick of it. I'm

0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:28.040
<v Speaker 3>actually over it.

0:32:28.600 --> 0:32:31.880
<v Speaker 2>No love story short, Fuck that, nigga.

0:32:32.080 --> 0:32:35.600
<v Speaker 3>That's what I was calling to say, exactly. So it

0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:37.960
<v Speaker 3>says there are many reasons you might say I don't

0:32:38.000 --> 0:32:41.880
<v Speaker 3>need friends, or you may simply wonder why don't I

0:32:42.000 --> 0:32:46.240
<v Speaker 3>have friends. One explanation is that you might feel that relationship,

0:32:46.240 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 3>that friendship doesn't offer a lot of value in your life.

0:32:49.840 --> 0:32:53.360
<v Speaker 3>Another is that you could already have plenty of social

0:32:53.400 --> 0:32:57.120
<v Speaker 3>support from family. Family and friends is different things, so

0:32:57.160 --> 0:32:59.640
<v Speaker 3>you don't need a wide circle of friends or acquaintances.

0:32:59.680 --> 0:33:03.600
<v Speaker 3>Whatever your reasons, it can be helpful to learn why

0:33:03.640 --> 0:33:06.640
<v Speaker 3>you might feel you don't need friends or don't have friends.

0:33:07.000 --> 0:33:10.320
<v Speaker 3>To understand how calmon this is and to know some

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:13.000
<v Speaker 3>of the benefits of making friends, we also share things

0:33:13.360 --> 0:33:16.600
<v Speaker 3>you can do if you decide to add more friendships

0:33:16.720 --> 0:33:19.000
<v Speaker 3>to your life. So it says reasons you feel like

0:33:19.000 --> 0:33:21.240
<v Speaker 3>you don't need friends. It says if you feel like

0:33:21.280 --> 0:33:23.440
<v Speaker 3>you don't have friends in your life, there are a

0:33:23.440 --> 0:33:26.120
<v Speaker 3>few different reasons why you might feel this way. They

0:33:26.160 --> 0:33:29.440
<v Speaker 3>include you prefer solitudes. We just said that, So it

0:33:29.440 --> 0:33:32.280
<v Speaker 3>says some people prefer solitude over being in the company

0:33:32.280 --> 0:33:36.480
<v Speaker 3>of others, particularly people who are more introverted. I hate

0:33:36.480 --> 0:33:39.880
<v Speaker 3>all these labels, so I'm introvert and extrovert. I think

0:33:39.920 --> 0:33:43.960
<v Speaker 3>the word is actually imbivert like you both. Like I'm

0:33:44.080 --> 0:33:46.440
<v Speaker 3>gonna be in a social setting and social seting social setting,

0:33:46.440 --> 0:33:48.640
<v Speaker 3>and all of a sudden, I need to fucking recharge, bitch,

0:33:49.160 --> 0:33:51.600
<v Speaker 3>and I'm sneaking out the back. Don't I't even telling

0:33:51.640 --> 0:33:54.680
<v Speaker 3>nobody I'm leaving. I'm out because I feel like way

0:33:54.680 --> 0:33:58.600
<v Speaker 3>every time I go someplace, like I'm entertainment every time.

0:33:59.240 --> 0:34:01.520
<v Speaker 3>Like if I go and don't talk, it's a problem,

0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:02.960
<v Speaker 3>Like which wrong, don't you, bitch?

0:34:04.040 --> 0:34:07.200
<v Speaker 2>See I can't just never be off. Oh no, I

0:34:07.240 --> 0:34:10.520
<v Speaker 2>will shut off. Like when I get into social environments.

0:34:10.600 --> 0:34:12.960
<v Speaker 2>I kind of like got to fill the room out

0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:16.879
<v Speaker 2>before I get the cutting up. So I'll just I'll

0:34:16.880 --> 0:34:20.200
<v Speaker 2>look or I'll observe for a long time before i

0:34:20.280 --> 0:34:27.480
<v Speaker 2>even let people see my personality. You real quiet in

0:34:27.560 --> 0:34:38.040
<v Speaker 2>the corner, and now drugs bitch is alcohol? Speaking of friends,

0:34:38.080 --> 0:34:40.600
<v Speaker 2>let me just say this before you continue. I just

0:34:40.640 --> 0:34:45.239
<v Speaker 2>want to thank so many of y'all slid into my

0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:49.799
<v Speaker 2>DMS and sent me encouraging words after listening to me

0:34:49.880 --> 0:34:55.160
<v Speaker 2>crying on the Thanksgiving episode. I know, and I really

0:34:55.200 --> 0:34:57.480
<v Speaker 2>really y'all don't know how much y'all touched me with

0:34:57.560 --> 0:35:01.920
<v Speaker 2>y'all encouraging words and all you're you know, sharing your

0:35:01.960 --> 0:35:05.520
<v Speaker 2>own situations with me. So I really really really love y'all.

0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:06.520
<v Speaker 2>Y'all my friends.

0:35:07.040 --> 0:35:08.839
<v Speaker 3>I love your community.

0:35:09.280 --> 0:35:11.560
<v Speaker 2>And I really appreciate that. But okay, go ahead with

0:35:11.600 --> 0:35:12.040
<v Speaker 2>your listen.

0:35:12.719 --> 0:35:17.640
<v Speaker 3>So it says you fair disappointment. Like other social connections,

0:35:17.760 --> 0:35:21.879
<v Speaker 3>friendship comes with expectations and a need for give and take.

0:35:22.040 --> 0:35:25.319
<v Speaker 3>If you're afraid that you can't live up to these

0:35:25.360 --> 0:35:29.040
<v Speaker 3>expectations or think that others will let you down, you

0:35:29.160 --> 0:35:32.279
<v Speaker 3>might avoid friendships as a way to minimize the risk

0:35:32.360 --> 0:35:36.320
<v Speaker 3>of being disappointed or disappointing others.

0:35:37.840 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 2>What do you think about that as a different mechanism.

0:35:44.920 --> 0:35:46.759
<v Speaker 2>I think that's you know, a lot of people are

0:35:46.960 --> 0:35:50.759
<v Speaker 2>in romantic relationships for the same reason you know, So yeah,

0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:54.240
<v Speaker 2>I think that's a real thing, because sometimes I find

0:35:54.239 --> 0:35:58.719
<v Speaker 2>myself like spending time with men who I know I

0:35:58.719 --> 0:36:00.840
<v Speaker 2>don't see nothing with because it's safer.

0:36:07.040 --> 0:36:08.760
<v Speaker 3>Full of ship, bitch, is what I heard.

0:36:10.120 --> 0:36:12.520
<v Speaker 2>No, because I be scared. I'd be scared.

0:36:12.560 --> 0:36:18.840
<v Speaker 3>I'd be scared. So for me, my romantic relationships versus

0:36:18.880 --> 0:36:24.680
<v Speaker 3>my friendships, I require the same thing, love and respect.

0:36:25.280 --> 0:36:27.239
<v Speaker 3>I might want a little extra from the men, though

0:36:27.239 --> 0:36:30.640
<v Speaker 3>I need some motherfucking money and protection. Okay, but I

0:36:30.680 --> 0:36:34.799
<v Speaker 3>don't really have high expectations from women. But I have

0:36:35.040 --> 0:36:42.759
<v Speaker 3>had friends who are very, very, very needy friends, and

0:36:42.800 --> 0:36:48.440
<v Speaker 3>it can get exhausting emotionally trying to cater to or

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:52.000
<v Speaker 3>it's like you're walking on eggshells with a woman, Like

0:36:52.040 --> 0:36:54.960
<v Speaker 3>I don't fuck bitches. I don't want to have to

0:36:55.000 --> 0:36:55.360
<v Speaker 3>be in a.

0:36:57.880 --> 0:36:58.160
<v Speaker 2>No.

0:36:58.520 --> 0:37:02.160
<v Speaker 3>Uh, let me give example. Well, one of my friends

0:37:02.200 --> 0:37:04.000
<v Speaker 3>who I'm no longer friends would like I mean this

0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 3>was a best friend. This is like a bitch I'm

0:37:05.680 --> 0:37:08.759
<v Speaker 3>talking to every day for years. We met in two

0:37:08.760 --> 0:37:10.759
<v Speaker 3>thousand and five. I think we started being friends like

0:37:12.400 --> 0:37:17.480
<v Speaker 3>during COVID sometime. So imagine like this person being constant.

0:37:17.560 --> 0:37:20.239
<v Speaker 3>It's devastating. It's like, bitch, you know my life. I

0:37:20.239 --> 0:37:22.160
<v Speaker 3>don't like that, Like why you get the store walking around?

0:37:22.160 --> 0:37:24.480
<v Speaker 3>I know what I said that. I mean that shit though, Like, bitch,

0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:27.680
<v Speaker 3>you know my secrets. You're just out here with my

0:37:27.719 --> 0:37:30.400
<v Speaker 3>fucking secrets. I got a problem with that. Yeah, but

0:37:30.560 --> 0:37:33.800
<v Speaker 3>she was so needy and the things that came out

0:37:34.560 --> 0:37:37.040
<v Speaker 3>in the days leading up to us, like breaking up.

0:37:38.000 --> 0:37:41.000
<v Speaker 3>It was the weirdest thing for me, you know, because

0:37:41.080 --> 0:37:46.399
<v Speaker 3>I give people space. I give people like if I

0:37:46.440 --> 0:37:49.640
<v Speaker 3>and let me go back a bit because one of

0:37:49.719 --> 0:37:52.600
<v Speaker 3>my guy friends I was texting with his dad died

0:37:53.200 --> 0:37:56.600
<v Speaker 3>last year, right, and he had texted me he was

0:37:56.640 --> 0:38:00.879
<v Speaker 3>saying that and he's my Gemini twin, So he had

0:38:00.880 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 3>put on social media that he was he was sitting

0:38:03.160 --> 0:38:04.759
<v Speaker 3>in front of his dad's grave and he was like,

0:38:04.840 --> 0:38:07.000
<v Speaker 3>he didn't realize he was depressed until he's like said

0:38:07.040 --> 0:38:09.920
<v Speaker 3>some things out loud at his dad's grave and he

0:38:10.040 --> 0:38:14.000
<v Speaker 3>was saying how he lives in New England, so he

0:38:14.120 --> 0:38:16.440
<v Speaker 3>was like, you know up north. He was saying how

0:38:16.640 --> 0:38:21.080
<v Speaker 3>he didn't realize like the people he thought he had

0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:21.800
<v Speaker 3>here back.

0:38:21.640 --> 0:38:24.200
<v Speaker 2>In Charleston just weren't his friends because they didn't really.

0:38:24.000 --> 0:38:25.759
<v Speaker 3>Call and check on him. Now, I remember I didn't

0:38:25.800 --> 0:38:29.040
<v Speaker 3>call him when his dad died. I text. And that's

0:38:29.080 --> 0:38:31.839
<v Speaker 3>because when things happened, I kind of and this and

0:38:31.880 --> 0:38:36.440
<v Speaker 3>this is emotional intelligence, right that I may have lacked

0:38:36.440 --> 0:38:38.480
<v Speaker 3>in that moment, right because I was thinking about like

0:38:38.520 --> 0:38:40.600
<v Speaker 3>how I would want because what can you do when

0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:44.279
<v Speaker 3>somebody family passed away? You gonna get a hundred text

0:38:44.360 --> 0:38:47.160
<v Speaker 3>messages and calls the same thing, and nothing can make

0:38:47.160 --> 0:38:50.040
<v Speaker 3>that pain go away, especially the loss of a parent. Right,

0:38:50.600 --> 0:38:52.359
<v Speaker 3>So at the time I was just thinking like what

0:38:52.400 --> 0:38:55.160
<v Speaker 3>I would need in that moment, and then now knowing

0:38:55.200 --> 0:39:00.200
<v Speaker 3>that he was he's actually depressed, and I didn't call, Like,

0:39:00.239 --> 0:39:02.520
<v Speaker 3>I feel like I dropped the ball because at some

0:39:02.640 --> 0:39:05.440
<v Speaker 3>point I should have called, but I didn't because I

0:39:05.520 --> 0:39:07.360
<v Speaker 3>just feel like, like when I'm out the shell, I

0:39:07.440 --> 0:39:09.880
<v Speaker 3>reach out to people like when I need my downtime,

0:39:10.360 --> 0:39:12.400
<v Speaker 3>but not everybody needs us. You got to just know

0:39:12.520 --> 0:39:15.040
<v Speaker 3>your personnel. You got to know what your friend what

0:39:15.160 --> 0:39:18.840
<v Speaker 3>your friend needs. But guess what, people have to explicitly

0:39:19.000 --> 0:39:22.280
<v Speaker 3>state in all relationships what it is that they need,

0:39:22.680 --> 0:39:26.640
<v Speaker 3>because otherwise you want to always be disappointed with unreal real,

0:39:26.719 --> 0:39:31.560
<v Speaker 3>unrealistic expectations of people that you did not tell them

0:39:31.680 --> 0:39:34.359
<v Speaker 3>what you need. Right, That's the same thing in your

0:39:34.440 --> 0:39:37.520
<v Speaker 3>romantic relationships. So I'm telling you, in the world, I

0:39:37.600 --> 0:39:41.000
<v Speaker 3>do not require much, but there are some people that

0:39:41.120 --> 0:39:45.840
<v Speaker 3>require a lot out of everybody, and it can get exhausting.

0:39:46.600 --> 0:39:48.719
<v Speaker 3>So I don't want those type of friends. So I

0:39:48.840 --> 0:39:51.080
<v Speaker 3>want to be around more people that's kind of like

0:39:52.080 --> 0:39:54.879
<v Speaker 3>cool with like your best friends you really don't talk

0:39:54.920 --> 0:39:55.759
<v Speaker 3>to every day.

0:39:56.239 --> 0:39:59.360
<v Speaker 2>I just said to let one of my closest friends go, honestly,

0:39:59.520 --> 0:40:02.400
<v Speaker 2>and I just felt like, no matter how hard I

0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:05.600
<v Speaker 2>tried to show her that I loved her and that

0:40:05.719 --> 0:40:09.680
<v Speaker 2>I supported her, there it was never enough. The cuff

0:40:10.000 --> 0:40:12.359
<v Speaker 2>was never there's a hole in the bottom of it

0:40:12.440 --> 0:40:15.040
<v Speaker 2>and I can't feel it, and no matter how hard

0:40:15.080 --> 0:40:18.520
<v Speaker 2>I try to feel it, it's just, you know, I

0:40:18.640 --> 0:40:19.399
<v Speaker 2>just can't do it.

0:40:19.480 --> 0:40:23.120
<v Speaker 3>So I had ever ending bottomless pit.

0:40:23.840 --> 0:40:27.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, so I don't know.

0:40:28.040 --> 0:40:30.120
<v Speaker 3>I can't. I can't do that with women especially be

0:40:30.120 --> 0:40:31.640
<v Speaker 3>cause y'all ain't given me no dick.

0:40:31.520 --> 0:40:35.200
<v Speaker 2>Like, why am I jumping? I can't give you.

0:40:35.960 --> 0:40:39.239
<v Speaker 3>I don't want no goddamn dick off all nine like

0:40:39.280 --> 0:40:45.160
<v Speaker 3>it gotta be warm with veins. I got that the

0:40:45.239 --> 0:40:51.000
<v Speaker 3>black dick caused more come overving no white strapper like yeah,

0:40:51.040 --> 0:40:53.200
<v Speaker 3>I like, I don't fuck women, so to have to

0:40:53.200 --> 0:40:55.759
<v Speaker 3>cater to women's like attitude. I understand some of the

0:40:55.760 --> 0:40:59.279
<v Speaker 3>shit men say about women. I definitely do because you

0:40:59.360 --> 0:41:01.560
<v Speaker 3>experience of those things. I don't know why people think

0:41:01.560 --> 0:41:04.319
<v Speaker 3>that they are different and they were friends in their

0:41:04.360 --> 0:41:07.719
<v Speaker 3>friendships versus in relationships with other people like that shit

0:41:07.840 --> 0:41:12.160
<v Speaker 3>kind of translates sometimes. So your homegirl might be telling

0:41:12.160 --> 0:41:13.880
<v Speaker 3>you some shit that she going through with her boyfriend.

0:41:13.880 --> 0:41:15.279
<v Speaker 3>You'd be like, damn bit you good that to me?

0:41:16.040 --> 0:41:20.879
<v Speaker 2>Right? Some people have like character flaws man a lot.

0:41:20.960 --> 0:41:24.360
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think we all have some type of character.

0:41:24.400 --> 0:41:30.239
<v Speaker 2>For absolutely, there's no life perfect friends, but there is

0:41:30.280 --> 0:41:32.480
<v Speaker 2>people who try to be the best version of friendship

0:41:32.520 --> 0:41:34.800
<v Speaker 2>that they know how to be. And that's all I want.

0:41:34.960 --> 0:41:37.440
<v Speaker 2>You know, when you make a mistake, say you sorry,

0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:41.840
<v Speaker 2>and as long as you ain't fun or slapping my mama,

0:41:41.880 --> 0:41:45.840
<v Speaker 2>we could get passed just about anything. But it's just

0:41:45.880 --> 0:41:49.239
<v Speaker 2>when I feel like I can't do enough, that's when

0:41:49.239 --> 0:41:49.719
<v Speaker 2>I got to go.

0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:56.680
<v Speaker 3>This next one says you're close to your family, you

0:41:56.760 --> 0:41:59.480
<v Speaker 3>might also feel like your family members are your friends.

0:42:00.040 --> 0:42:02.120
<v Speaker 3>If they give you the connection and support you need,

0:42:02.160 --> 0:42:05.279
<v Speaker 3>you may feel less of a need to seek friendships

0:42:05.680 --> 0:42:11.760
<v Speaker 3>outside of your family circle. That's possible, you know, growing

0:42:11.840 --> 0:42:14.760
<v Speaker 3>up as a black woman with a black mama, my mom,

0:42:15.080 --> 0:42:18.520
<v Speaker 3>I remember having like a few friends growing up, but

0:42:18.560 --> 0:42:20.319
<v Speaker 3>for the most part, like one of her nieces was

0:42:20.320 --> 0:42:22.520
<v Speaker 3>like one of her best friends, and then her sister,

0:42:23.600 --> 0:42:26.479
<v Speaker 3>well actually her both of her sisters were like best friends.

0:42:26.560 --> 0:42:28.879
<v Speaker 3>My oldest her oldest sister, and my aunt passed away

0:42:28.880 --> 0:42:31.920
<v Speaker 3>a while ago, but she still has like her youngest sisters,

0:42:31.920 --> 0:42:34.600
<v Speaker 3>so like they're like besties. So your family could definitely

0:42:34.600 --> 0:42:36.680
<v Speaker 3>be friends because I feel like even first cousins are

0:42:36.680 --> 0:42:38.000
<v Speaker 3>like friends best friends.

0:42:38.040 --> 0:42:40.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I disagree with Yeah, I disagree. You can your

0:42:40.440 --> 0:42:42.800
<v Speaker 2>family because your family don't have to be your friend,

0:42:42.880 --> 0:42:46.440
<v Speaker 2>you know, right, sometimes you don't even like your family exactly.

0:42:46.880 --> 0:42:49.600
<v Speaker 2>If you got a family member who's also a friend,

0:42:49.600 --> 0:42:52.240
<v Speaker 2>you're just blessed. That's a blessing as far as science.

0:42:52.280 --> 0:42:54.239
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, Like I reconnected with one of my first

0:42:54.320 --> 0:42:56.000
<v Speaker 3>cousins last year and me and her have been like

0:42:56.000 --> 0:42:59.360
<v Speaker 3>this ever since, Like around this time when the October

0:42:59.440 --> 0:43:01.920
<v Speaker 3>last year, my male cousins had a birth, I had

0:43:01.960 --> 0:43:04.600
<v Speaker 3>a wedding and from that point on, girl, we be

0:43:05.160 --> 0:43:07.560
<v Speaker 3>that's my BESTTI, Like, that's one of my best friends.

0:43:08.080 --> 0:43:10.279
<v Speaker 2>I feel like me and my sisters like right now,

0:43:10.360 --> 0:43:13.520
<v Speaker 2>we've always been close, but we're the closest as adult

0:43:13.520 --> 0:43:16.480
<v Speaker 2>women than when we were like young girls and stuff

0:43:16.520 --> 0:43:18.480
<v Speaker 2>like that. We just having our own And I was

0:43:18.480 --> 0:43:20.799
<v Speaker 2>telling my little sister Tany y'all, was like, girl, we are,

0:43:21.040 --> 0:43:22.879
<v Speaker 2>like you're my best friend. Like I call you every

0:43:22.920 --> 0:43:24.480
<v Speaker 2>I talk to you every day. I was like, I

0:43:24.560 --> 0:43:26.759
<v Speaker 2>let you down. She's like, I was thinking about that

0:43:26.880 --> 0:43:29.479
<v Speaker 2>you used to beat my ass when I shouldn't fuck

0:43:29.520 --> 0:43:30.000
<v Speaker 2>with you.

0:43:31.600 --> 0:43:34.040
<v Speaker 3>Girl, the young sister always get all the abuse and

0:43:34.120 --> 0:43:37.640
<v Speaker 3>you the middle middle sister. That's about right, bitch, because

0:43:37.640 --> 0:43:40.239
<v Speaker 3>I've been trying to tell my sister Sam, she's the

0:43:40.280 --> 0:43:42.720
<v Speaker 3>middle child, right, I'm the youngest, how she used.

0:43:42.560 --> 0:43:46.400
<v Speaker 2>To abuse me. Yeah, my sister said, I'm lucky that

0:43:46.480 --> 0:43:47.239
<v Speaker 2>she even talk to me.

0:43:48.200 --> 0:43:51.480
<v Speaker 3>Yes, Like, but you really used to literally was just

0:43:51.520 --> 0:43:53.799
<v Speaker 3>talking about this ship yesterday. Bit you was abusive as

0:43:53.800 --> 0:43:56.719
<v Speaker 3>fuck to me until I realized I could fight.

0:43:57.840 --> 0:43:59.960
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I was just making you tough for her.

0:44:00.080 --> 0:44:04.560
<v Speaker 2>The world is hard, prepare you for retarded?

0:44:05.120 --> 0:44:07.240
<v Speaker 3>Nobody can ever love the middle child enough.

0:44:07.960 --> 0:44:12.720
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I to this day like I'm my daddy's baby

0:44:12.719 --> 0:44:14.960
<v Speaker 4>and my oldest sister is like, she's close to my mama,

0:44:15.040 --> 0:44:17.400
<v Speaker 4>and so Sam just in the fucking middle feeling like

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:18.960
<v Speaker 4>nobody knows her all the time.

0:44:19.320 --> 0:44:20.760
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm, y'all weird.

0:44:23.200 --> 0:44:24.879
<v Speaker 3>This next one says you don't want to get hurt.

0:44:24.960 --> 0:44:27.560
<v Speaker 3>If you've been deeply hurt by a friend in the past,

0:44:27.600 --> 0:44:30.439
<v Speaker 3>you might have trust issues. As a result, you might

0:44:30.480 --> 0:44:33.720
<v Speaker 3>be hesitant to begin new friendships with others.

0:44:33.800 --> 0:44:37.280
<v Speaker 2>I like meeting new people. Me too. I like hearing

0:44:37.320 --> 0:44:38.880
<v Speaker 2>people little stories and ship like.

0:44:38.920 --> 0:44:43.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm nosy, bitch, Tell me I'm never like a no

0:44:43.800 --> 0:44:44.799
<v Speaker 3>new friend type bitch.

0:44:45.160 --> 0:44:46.920
<v Speaker 2>How you get that scar on your leg? I want

0:44:46.960 --> 0:44:49.320
<v Speaker 2>to hear about it. I'm not like I want to

0:44:49.360 --> 0:44:51.120
<v Speaker 2>hear about everything that happened in life.

0:44:52.080 --> 0:44:58.560
<v Speaker 3>I have friends that I met through other friends and

0:44:58.560 --> 0:45:03.040
<v Speaker 3>friends no more, and I'm still friends with both of them.

0:45:03.120 --> 0:45:04.959
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know, i'd be me and friends.

0:45:05.040 --> 0:45:06.600
<v Speaker 3>I mean, when I moved to Saint Louis, I met

0:45:06.600 --> 0:45:12.640
<v Speaker 3>my homegirl Ryan in the club, met a whole friend, and.

0:45:14.200 --> 0:45:16.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that was my first friend I met em.

0:45:18.719 --> 0:45:21.640
<v Speaker 3>You're too busy. Building and maintaining friendships takes time, and

0:45:21.719 --> 0:45:24.200
<v Speaker 3>y'all twenty five year old bitches ain't doing shit. H

0:45:24.280 --> 0:45:27.120
<v Speaker 3>takes time and effort. If you are busy with other

0:45:27.200 --> 0:45:30.359
<v Speaker 3>obligations such as family, work, school, you might simply feel

0:45:30.440 --> 0:45:33.799
<v Speaker 3>like you don't have time or energy to devote to friends.

0:45:34.320 --> 0:45:38.960
<v Speaker 2>I have a friend who is my ex boyfriends. Uh,

0:45:39.080 --> 0:45:41.560
<v Speaker 2>well they were girl. It was his girlfriend and he

0:45:41.640 --> 0:45:46.200
<v Speaker 2>introduced me to her and we became friends. And now

0:45:46.239 --> 0:45:48.160
<v Speaker 2>they don't go together either, and me and her are

0:45:48.200 --> 0:45:53.800
<v Speaker 2>still friends, but we both dated him. This comes a

0:45:53.840 --> 0:45:57.840
<v Speaker 2>wild right, did y'all have a No? It was not

0:45:57.920 --> 0:46:03.680
<v Speaker 2>that a little throble, this says.

0:46:03.719 --> 0:46:07.680
<v Speaker 3>According to the twenty twenty one American Perspective Survey, forty

0:46:07.760 --> 0:46:11.640
<v Speaker 3>nine percent of adults said they had three or fewer

0:46:11.719 --> 0:46:13.440
<v Speaker 3>friends close friends.

0:46:14.239 --> 0:46:15.200
<v Speaker 2>With this breakdown.

0:46:15.520 --> 0:46:24.440
<v Speaker 3>Generate generalation, general girl generalation pounded out baby generationally, that's

0:46:24.480 --> 0:46:28.319
<v Speaker 3>not that's right, I don't know generational generationally, there you go,

0:46:30.080 --> 0:46:30.640
<v Speaker 3>I got there.

0:46:31.760 --> 0:46:33.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I say yay.

0:46:33.680 --> 0:46:37.760
<v Speaker 3>Twenty seven percent of millennials reported having no close friends.

0:46:38.239 --> 0:46:42.040
<v Speaker 3>Twenty two percent reported having no friends at all. That's millennials,

0:46:42.040 --> 0:46:47.080
<v Speaker 3>that's US. Sixteen percent of Generation xers report not having

0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:51.080
<v Speaker 3>any friends. Nine percent of Baby boom mercee they have

0:46:51.239 --> 0:46:51.880
<v Speaker 3>no friends.

0:46:53.640 --> 0:46:59.480
<v Speaker 2>That's so sad. How How how do y'all not have nobody?

0:46:59.600 --> 0:47:02.440
<v Speaker 3>Like? And maybe that's one of the events events. I

0:47:02.440 --> 0:47:04.200
<v Speaker 3>feel like we talked about that before, like doing like

0:47:04.280 --> 0:47:06.399
<v Speaker 3>a friend show.

0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:10.000
<v Speaker 2>Let's say, yeah, let's make friends, speed speed.

0:47:09.719 --> 0:47:12.920
<v Speaker 3>Friends, because how do you get through life without somebody?

0:47:12.960 --> 0:47:15.840
<v Speaker 3>You gotta have somebody you can call and talk to,

0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:19.759
<v Speaker 3>like outside of a therapist. That might be where it

0:47:19.800 --> 0:47:21.560
<v Speaker 3>starts for a lot of people, because you need to

0:47:21.600 --> 0:47:25.040
<v Speaker 3>explore why it is that you can't make real connection

0:47:25.320 --> 0:47:30.040
<v Speaker 3>with other people aside from being busy in school and

0:47:30.080 --> 0:47:31.000
<v Speaker 3>all those other things.

0:47:31.480 --> 0:47:35.080
<v Speaker 2>Right, Like, because even in those environments you know, you

0:47:35.200 --> 0:47:38.840
<v Speaker 2>make relationships or work, you have work friends. You know,

0:47:38.960 --> 0:47:40.920
<v Speaker 2>some people go to work and don't talk to nobody

0:47:40.960 --> 0:47:43.920
<v Speaker 2>and don't come home. And I saw this thing where

0:47:43.920 --> 0:47:46.399
<v Speaker 2>a woman said that she had roaches and those were

0:47:46.400 --> 0:47:47.360
<v Speaker 2>her only friends.

0:47:47.440 --> 0:47:49.200
<v Speaker 3>Girls shut up, not Joe's apartment.

0:47:50.200 --> 0:47:52.560
<v Speaker 2>Who Joseph, this was a woman.

0:47:53.080 --> 0:47:56.319
<v Speaker 3>I know Joe's apartment, ass bitch, Like what your roaches is?

0:47:56.360 --> 0:47:59.000
<v Speaker 2>The friends? It? Girl? It was so it was the

0:47:59.040 --> 0:48:03.440
<v Speaker 2>saddest thing and nasty. It was nasty, but it was

0:48:03.520 --> 0:48:06.839
<v Speaker 2>sad because these were the only friends she had in

0:48:06.840 --> 0:48:07.360
<v Speaker 2>the world.

0:48:07.719 --> 0:48:10.640
<v Speaker 3>Wait were they in he marriam or like running in

0:48:10.640 --> 0:48:11.000
<v Speaker 3>the house?

0:48:11.160 --> 0:48:15.040
<v Speaker 2>Roaches? She had a roach infestation in her home and

0:48:15.120 --> 0:48:17.719
<v Speaker 2>she viewed them as her friends. And she didn't have

0:48:17.760 --> 0:48:20.319
<v Speaker 2>no family, and she worked and come home and didn't

0:48:20.360 --> 0:48:23.000
<v Speaker 2>have no friends. And she just said that that was

0:48:23.040 --> 0:48:25.160
<v Speaker 2>the only friend she had was in roaches in her house.

0:48:25.200 --> 0:48:27.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty sure she was taking some of them roaches

0:48:27.080 --> 0:48:30.399
<v Speaker 3>to work with her and they when people saw that shit,

0:48:31.080 --> 0:48:34.080
<v Speaker 3>people didn't want to be your friends. Got that shit, Like, girl,

0:48:34.880 --> 0:48:37.320
<v Speaker 3>we see roaches in your car in the parking.

0:48:37.080 --> 0:48:41.319
<v Speaker 2>Lot, Yeah, they got the roaches. She didn't because her

0:48:41.360 --> 0:48:43.799
<v Speaker 2>infestation got so bad because she didn't want to get

0:48:43.840 --> 0:48:46.399
<v Speaker 2>rid of them because then she wouldn't have nobody. Ain't

0:48:46.440 --> 0:48:49.040
<v Speaker 2>that sad? That poor baby? That thing broke my heart

0:48:49.080 --> 0:48:53.160
<v Speaker 2>for her. Look at your face? What's the next thing

0:48:53.200 --> 0:48:53.760
<v Speaker 2>on the article?

0:48:53.800 --> 0:48:55.879
<v Speaker 3>Because if she would clean that damn house. She would

0:48:55.960 --> 0:48:59.000
<v Speaker 3>have some friends. You can't invite people over that. See,

0:48:59.000 --> 0:49:02.400
<v Speaker 3>that's she had a mental health issue. I she didn't

0:49:02.400 --> 0:49:04.160
<v Speaker 3>have any friends. It didn't have nothing to do with

0:49:04.400 --> 0:49:08.200
<v Speaker 3>like nobody not wanting to be her friend and she

0:49:08.239 --> 0:49:09.560
<v Speaker 3>can only depend on roaches.

0:49:10.719 --> 0:49:15.359
<v Speaker 2>But just how lonely it must be to decide that

0:49:15.440 --> 0:49:17.880
<v Speaker 2>the only friends you have is these roaches in your house,

0:49:18.200 --> 0:49:20.160
<v Speaker 2>and that's why you don't want to get rid of them.

0:49:20.400 --> 0:49:23.920
<v Speaker 2>She was depressed. That's so sad that that was. And

0:49:24.000 --> 0:49:28.680
<v Speaker 2>she was a black woman too. I know.

0:49:32.040 --> 0:49:36.520
<v Speaker 3>You're terrible, but you little fucking figure as empathy.

0:49:36.640 --> 0:49:40.880
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god. No, you had to see what was

0:49:41.600 --> 0:49:45.080
<v Speaker 2>on the Instagram. I can find that video. She was like,

0:49:45.200 --> 0:49:47.840
<v Speaker 2>I don't have anyone else and it was just so sad.

0:49:49.000 --> 0:49:52.480
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't fake, all right.

0:49:52.520 --> 0:49:55.560
<v Speaker 3>So anyway, so here now are the benefits of actually

0:49:55.600 --> 0:49:57.960
<v Speaker 3>having friends, right, so you don't have to have roaches

0:49:58.480 --> 0:50:01.960
<v Speaker 3>as your friends. Somebody p I don't know, okay, It

0:50:02.040 --> 0:50:06.120
<v Speaker 3>says reduced stress and anxiety. Even if you think you

0:50:06.160 --> 0:50:09.520
<v Speaker 3>don't need them, having a social circle to support you

0:50:09.880 --> 0:50:13.120
<v Speaker 3>can be important for your health, for your mental health

0:50:13.280 --> 0:50:15.920
<v Speaker 3>and well being. Research has found that having a social

0:50:15.920 --> 0:50:20.480
<v Speaker 3>support system is associated with less stress and anxiety. So

0:50:20.680 --> 0:50:22.840
<v Speaker 3>when men said they don't have anybody to talk to,

0:50:23.040 --> 0:50:26.040
<v Speaker 3>y'all need to get some fucking homeboys that have actual

0:50:26.120 --> 0:50:29.120
<v Speaker 3>sense that you can have a conversation with, you can

0:50:29.120 --> 0:50:32.200
<v Speaker 3>converse with. I feel like women do a pretty good job.

0:50:32.320 --> 0:50:34.040
<v Speaker 3>I mean, because you you you good at it. You

0:50:34.040 --> 0:50:37.160
<v Speaker 3>call and be like, girl, can I impack on you?

0:50:37.160 --> 0:50:39.640
<v Speaker 2>You got a moment? You got a mental health break moment?

0:50:39.640 --> 0:50:44.480
<v Speaker 2>For me, I always I try to ask and I'm like, hey,

0:50:45.600 --> 0:50:51.319
<v Speaker 2>how you doing. You have to bandwidth on you right now?

0:50:51.960 --> 0:50:55.279
<v Speaker 3>That is so considerate, Like, bitch, Yeah, because I had

0:50:55.280 --> 0:50:57.520
<v Speaker 3>a friend who had who I had to let go of. Bitch,

0:50:57.560 --> 0:50:59.719
<v Speaker 3>I'll be because I am one of those people who

0:50:59.760 --> 0:51:02.279
<v Speaker 3>don't tell people what I'm going through. I just get

0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:03.759
<v Speaker 3>through it and I might tell you about it when

0:51:03.760 --> 0:51:05.879
<v Speaker 3>it's over. Like one side, I got through, Like, girl,

0:51:05.920 --> 0:51:07.120
<v Speaker 3>let me tell you what the fuck I've been going

0:51:07.120 --> 0:51:08.200
<v Speaker 3>through for the last six months.

0:51:08.200 --> 0:51:08.560
<v Speaker 2>That's me.

0:51:09.280 --> 0:51:12.400
<v Speaker 3>But I would literally be going through shit like driving

0:51:12.480 --> 0:51:14.760
<v Speaker 3>or something, and she's like calling me with a whole

0:51:14.800 --> 0:51:18.280
<v Speaker 3>mental health crisis on the phone, and I'm like, bitch,

0:51:18.920 --> 0:51:21.440
<v Speaker 3>you can't do this to people. You can literally like,

0:51:21.520 --> 0:51:25.320
<v Speaker 3>you don't know other people's mental state when you add

0:51:25.640 --> 0:51:31.360
<v Speaker 3>an extra peace, don't because everybody's going through something. Everybody

0:51:31.440 --> 0:51:33.919
<v Speaker 3>is going through it. May may it be that they're

0:51:33.960 --> 0:51:35.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, verbal about it about it or not.

0:51:36.040 --> 0:51:38.000
<v Speaker 2>People be going through shit. Man, You're not the only

0:51:38.040 --> 0:51:43.040
<v Speaker 2>one I know. And I started practicing that to ask

0:51:43.080 --> 0:51:45.680
<v Speaker 2>people can they handle it first before I do that,

0:51:46.280 --> 0:51:49.640
<v Speaker 2>because just by being a hairstylist, people coming here and

0:51:49.760 --> 0:51:53.600
<v Speaker 2>dump on top of me boom boom, Well grandma, dad

0:51:53.600 --> 0:51:57.000
<v Speaker 2>and my husband cheese, somebody sick. This happened like all

0:51:57.080 --> 0:52:00.279
<v Speaker 2>day long. I'm just listening to people problems. Some times

0:52:00.320 --> 0:52:03.600
<v Speaker 2>I leave feeling so heavy, and I know, like that's

0:52:03.680 --> 0:52:06.320
<v Speaker 2>kind of part of the job a little bit. Sometimes

0:52:06.320 --> 0:52:08.319
<v Speaker 2>I'll be like ready to just put on a movie, girl,

0:52:08.360 --> 0:52:12.560
<v Speaker 2>watch this. I can't handle nobody else shit. But so

0:52:13.280 --> 0:52:15.880
<v Speaker 2>I started practicing that just because I get dumped on

0:52:15.960 --> 0:52:18.440
<v Speaker 2>so much. You know, have you ever.

0:52:18.320 --> 0:52:21.240
<v Speaker 3>Stopped somebody like while they dumping, Like, girl, I really

0:52:21.280 --> 0:52:24.440
<v Speaker 3>don't got it today, Like I have the capacity today

0:52:24.480 --> 0:52:24.719
<v Speaker 3>for this.

0:52:25.760 --> 0:52:30.160
<v Speaker 2>I have, yeah that It ain't that I don't care.

0:52:30.280 --> 0:52:32.920
<v Speaker 2>I just I can't handle it today. I'm so sorry.

0:52:33.000 --> 0:52:35.920
<v Speaker 2>I love you. I love you so much, and I

0:52:36.040 --> 0:52:39.160
<v Speaker 2>want to be there for you, but right now I'm

0:52:39.200 --> 0:52:40.719
<v Speaker 2>trying to be there for me a little bit, and

0:52:40.760 --> 0:52:43.799
<v Speaker 2>I can't help you today with that. But I can

0:52:43.840 --> 0:52:46.200
<v Speaker 2>try to put something on that can uplift us both.

0:52:46.840 --> 0:52:49.320
<v Speaker 2>Would you like that? Like maybe I can put music

0:52:49.400 --> 0:52:52.799
<v Speaker 2>on or a movie that might uplift both of our spirits.

0:52:53.080 --> 0:52:54.920
<v Speaker 2>And that's how I deal it. And usually, I mean,

0:52:55.520 --> 0:52:57.840
<v Speaker 2>you can't get mad at that, Like, baby, I do

0:52:57.960 --> 0:53:03.640
<v Speaker 2>not have it for you today, So that's not selfish.

0:53:04.000 --> 0:53:08.040
<v Speaker 3>Less loneliness friendship is also linked to less loneliness. Loneliness

0:53:08.080 --> 0:53:11.319
<v Speaker 3>can excuse me. Loneliness has been shown to take a

0:53:11.360 --> 0:53:14.960
<v Speaker 3>serious toll on health and mortality. Studies have found that

0:53:15.000 --> 0:53:18.480
<v Speaker 3>people who have quality friendships are better able to cope

0:53:18.520 --> 0:53:22.320
<v Speaker 3>with stress, and are even less likely to experience stress

0:53:22.360 --> 0:53:27.799
<v Speaker 3>in the first place. Being happy is a choice, that's

0:53:27.840 --> 0:53:28.440
<v Speaker 3>my cursing.

0:53:29.320 --> 0:53:30.640
<v Speaker 2>So every day you got to you.

0:53:30.560 --> 0:53:34.520
<v Speaker 3>Gotta do something like that that you like doing that

0:53:34.920 --> 0:53:38.000
<v Speaker 3>makes you smile, or just actually just practice smiling.

0:53:39.000 --> 0:53:40.440
<v Speaker 2>Right, that might attract some friends.

0:53:40.480 --> 0:53:42.279
<v Speaker 3>They said, black one be around here with rest and

0:53:42.320 --> 0:53:45.400
<v Speaker 3>bitch face, Like you're not even inviting to make a

0:53:45.400 --> 0:53:49.919
<v Speaker 3>friend smile, bitch, But y'all, niggas don't be telling women

0:53:49.960 --> 0:53:50.320
<v Speaker 3>to smile.

0:53:50.400 --> 0:53:53.719
<v Speaker 2>Ain't for y'all. This is where women don't be telling us.

0:53:53.840 --> 0:53:57.880
<v Speaker 2>We're talking to YouTube nigga when we say loud, bitch, smile,

0:53:57.960 --> 0:53:59.800
<v Speaker 2>bitch better.

0:54:00.040 --> 0:54:03.360
<v Speaker 3>Emotional support. Friends can also offer emotional support when you

0:54:03.400 --> 0:54:06.160
<v Speaker 3>need it. Friends can help validate your emotions, listen to

0:54:06.200 --> 0:54:09.040
<v Speaker 3>your problems, and do things to help you feel better.

0:54:09.320 --> 0:54:11.520
<v Speaker 3>So now we all want friends that just be yes men,

0:54:11.560 --> 0:54:13.719
<v Speaker 3>though I don't think that's healthy even so, when you

0:54:13.840 --> 0:54:16.160
<v Speaker 3>fucking up like you should have a solid group of friends,

0:54:16.160 --> 0:54:21.319
<v Speaker 3>gonna tay girl, you want some bullshit right now and love, relationships, finances,

0:54:21.360 --> 0:54:23.480
<v Speaker 3>whatever it is, like if they just feel like you're

0:54:23.600 --> 0:54:27.160
<v Speaker 3>just not showing up as your best self, like your

0:54:27.160 --> 0:54:29.239
<v Speaker 3>friends should be able to tall they know you, they

0:54:29.280 --> 0:54:35.520
<v Speaker 3>know you. Yeah, a feeling of belonging. Howing friends can

0:54:36.120 --> 0:54:39.120
<v Speaker 3>help you feel as if belonging to something that brings

0:54:39.160 --> 0:54:41.160
<v Speaker 3>purpose and connection to your life. We need telling you

0:54:41.200 --> 0:54:43.640
<v Speaker 3>to go join the crips or I get a nice,

0:54:43.640 --> 0:54:46.920
<v Speaker 3>solid group of women that's actually actively doing shit out here.

0:54:47.200 --> 0:54:51.040
<v Speaker 2>But your community no basically going to jail.

0:54:51.080 --> 0:54:53.279
<v Speaker 3>They're really gonna have like a lot of friends for

0:54:53.320 --> 0:54:54.440
<v Speaker 3>a long time.

0:54:54.239 --> 0:54:58.200
<v Speaker 2>But I know people will or love me all right, I.

0:55:02.160 --> 0:55:05.480
<v Speaker 3>Improve physical health. Having strong friends will tell you your

0:55:05.520 --> 0:55:08.920
<v Speaker 3>back is getting big as a bitch. You know it's

0:55:08.480 --> 0:55:12.480
<v Speaker 3>just having strong friends can also that article really say

0:55:14.000 --> 0:55:16.800
<v Speaker 3>it also help you to improve your physical health. Friends

0:55:16.880 --> 0:55:19.680
<v Speaker 3>might increase the chances of you doing daily tasks such

0:55:19.719 --> 0:55:23.399
<v Speaker 3>as exercise and eating well. Even if it's a competition. Bitch,

0:55:23.800 --> 0:55:26.680
<v Speaker 3>if you're won't be fat and your friends can, I

0:55:26.680 --> 0:55:27.600
<v Speaker 3>think it.

0:55:28.120 --> 0:55:29.839
<v Speaker 2>I think me and you compete to see who can

0:55:29.920 --> 0:55:33.200
<v Speaker 2>get the fattest. Bitch.

0:55:33.200 --> 0:55:37.520
<v Speaker 3>I've worked out today, okay today, and I'm gonna try

0:55:37.719 --> 0:55:41.200
<v Speaker 3>try real hard tomorrow. But your friends do hold you accountable,

0:55:41.280 --> 0:55:44.600
<v Speaker 3>like it is like when you have friends that like

0:55:44.680 --> 0:55:47.640
<v Speaker 3>everybody on the same little workout kick, like you do

0:55:47.760 --> 0:55:50.240
<v Speaker 3>tend to lose weight when you need to if everybody

0:55:50.280 --> 0:55:52.359
<v Speaker 3>on the same wave ship.

0:55:52.600 --> 0:55:55.480
<v Speaker 2>But you also can make friends in the gym if

0:55:55.520 --> 0:55:58.560
<v Speaker 2>you if you're enough, you think, well, all right.

0:55:59.560 --> 0:56:02.399
<v Speaker 3>The black women don't speak in the gym. And I'm

0:56:02.400 --> 0:56:04.840
<v Speaker 3>saying black women because I'm only speaking from our perspective,

0:56:04.920 --> 0:56:07.000
<v Speaker 3>Like I do have one white friend, but I'm just

0:56:07.040 --> 0:56:09.759
<v Speaker 3>saying in our community. Because you know, you love a

0:56:09.840 --> 0:56:11.120
<v Speaker 3>devil's advocate.

0:56:10.920 --> 0:56:11.760
<v Speaker 2>In the gym.

0:56:12.120 --> 0:56:14.320
<v Speaker 3>There are white women and black women. When I tell you,

0:56:14.400 --> 0:56:16.960
<v Speaker 3>the white bitches they know they see you four days

0:56:16.960 --> 0:56:20.600
<v Speaker 3>out the week. They're telling you hi girl. The black

0:56:20.640 --> 0:56:24.640
<v Speaker 3>women don't give your eye contact to say hi. Ever.

0:56:26.800 --> 0:56:29.920
<v Speaker 2>You know what I be looking at walking to talk

0:56:30.040 --> 0:56:32.920
<v Speaker 2>about that in the gym. I don't really have friends

0:56:33.080 --> 0:56:36.880
<v Speaker 2>in the gym with spin class. Oh yeah, I mean

0:56:36.960 --> 0:56:41.480
<v Speaker 2>friends and spin. Yeah yeah, it's more. I guess it's

0:56:41.480 --> 0:56:46.280
<v Speaker 2>because of the same petition. Yeah yeah, so I missed

0:56:46.280 --> 0:56:48.319
<v Speaker 2>my spin class. I can't I can't wait to get

0:56:48.320 --> 0:56:49.319
<v Speaker 2>this foot back to roller.

0:56:54.080 --> 0:56:55.960
<v Speaker 3>No, I know you gotta wrap this up, but listen,

0:56:55.960 --> 0:56:57.879
<v Speaker 3>the one thing, one other thing I wanted to add

0:56:57.880 --> 0:56:59.440
<v Speaker 3>to this, which is a whole other article, and I'm

0:56:59.480 --> 0:57:02.480
<v Speaker 3>not gonna get in the whole thing, but I think

0:57:02.520 --> 0:57:09.680
<v Speaker 3>one problem, right, maybe the depiction of black women when

0:57:09.719 --> 0:57:14.520
<v Speaker 3>it comes to friendships right on teaching, Right, we got

0:57:14.560 --> 0:57:19.280
<v Speaker 3>some nice shows like uh, living Single, Like that's our generation.

0:57:19.640 --> 0:57:24.760
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm saying, Girlfriends should set it off, bitch, Okay,

0:57:24.800 --> 0:57:28.080
<v Speaker 3>Like that's still girls depending on each other.

0:57:29.720 --> 0:57:31.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if that was the best exit.

0:57:33.720 --> 0:57:35.360
<v Speaker 3>Might have to set it off one day you don't

0:57:35.400 --> 0:57:37.240
<v Speaker 3>know where friends, You're gonna call us set it off?

0:57:37.320 --> 0:57:43.400
<v Speaker 3>I do shit, Priscilla, Priscilla ready to set the ship off. Bitch,

0:57:44.680 --> 0:57:48.560
<v Speaker 3>that's a whole witch name right there, Bitch. You ready?

0:57:49.960 --> 0:57:54.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I do think. Like shows like Baddies and Bad

0:57:54.200 --> 0:57:58.560
<v Speaker 2>Girls Club and even the Love and Hip Hops, you

0:57:58.600 --> 0:58:03.440
<v Speaker 2>know they don't paint the most positive pictures of friendships

0:58:03.440 --> 0:58:08.280
<v Speaker 2>and relationships between women because oftentimes they show them fighting.

0:58:08.760 --> 0:58:13.760
<v Speaker 2>You know that the conflict resolution is always physical violence,

0:58:14.440 --> 0:58:17.200
<v Speaker 2>and people in other places in the world might assume

0:58:17.240 --> 0:58:20.280
<v Speaker 2>that that is how the only way Black women handle conflict,

0:58:20.720 --> 0:58:22.280
<v Speaker 2>and it is a part of how we do it

0:58:22.320 --> 0:58:25.520
<v Speaker 2>handle conflict. I won't sit here and pretend like shit,

0:58:25.640 --> 0:58:28.000
<v Speaker 2>don't jump off when she gets crazy, because it can,

0:58:28.200 --> 0:58:31.840
<v Speaker 2>but that is just not the go to, especially between

0:58:31.840 --> 0:58:34.360
<v Speaker 2>women who are friends. We might argue, we might even

0:58:34.360 --> 0:58:36.720
<v Speaker 2>cuss at each other, you might even be a bitch,

0:58:37.240 --> 0:58:41.240
<v Speaker 2>but physical violence. If we hit each other, we are

0:58:41.240 --> 0:58:42.160
<v Speaker 2>no longer friends.

0:58:42.280 --> 0:58:45.880
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely not. You throw a drink in my face, yes

0:58:45.920 --> 0:58:46.360
<v Speaker 3>it's over.

0:58:47.000 --> 0:58:48.919
<v Speaker 2>If you put your hands on me one, I'm calling

0:58:49.040 --> 0:58:51.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm too old. I'm not fighting no more. I feel

0:58:51.720 --> 0:58:54.200
<v Speaker 2>like I'm too old. I already broke my foot. I'm

0:58:54.240 --> 0:58:55.640
<v Speaker 2>calling the police on you.

0:59:00.000 --> 0:59:03.280
<v Speaker 3>Life long injuries from fighting on that page of my

0:59:03.320 --> 0:59:07.880
<v Speaker 3>life is done. That is the workout. Could you imagine

0:59:07.960 --> 0:59:10.840
<v Speaker 3>that boxing for a minute?

0:59:11.560 --> 0:59:14.600
<v Speaker 2>I do not want to do it. First of all,

0:59:15.160 --> 0:59:18.040
<v Speaker 2>I feel too pretty to be participating in that type

0:59:18.080 --> 0:59:21.440
<v Speaker 2>of foolish period. And the second of all, my body

0:59:21.520 --> 0:59:24.360
<v Speaker 2>is just that I don't want to fight, litten. Can

0:59:24.400 --> 0:59:28.800
<v Speaker 2>we talk talk about it? So?

0:59:28.880 --> 0:59:33.200
<v Speaker 3>This is from Baystate Banner dot com. It says how

0:59:33.320 --> 0:59:37.720
<v Speaker 3>are reality TV shows affecting society's perception of black women?

0:59:37.840 --> 0:59:37.960
<v Speaker 2>So?

0:59:38.000 --> 0:59:42.080
<v Speaker 3>It says, while black women are clearly underrepresented in films

0:59:42.120 --> 0:59:46.640
<v Speaker 3>and on prime time comedies and dramas, the same cannot

0:59:46.680 --> 0:59:51.040
<v Speaker 3>be said of our representation on reality reality television. The

0:59:51.080 --> 0:59:55.920
<v Speaker 3>sheer number of reality programs on television today makes it

0:59:55.960 --> 1:00:02.080
<v Speaker 3>difficult to determine if we are in some way over presented. However,

1:00:02.360 --> 1:00:08.280
<v Speaker 3>black women have been entertaining American households through this genre

1:00:09.240 --> 1:00:12.000
<v Speaker 3>from its inception and continue to do so today. So

1:00:12.440 --> 1:00:18.400
<v Speaker 3>we've gone from Tammy on the pilot of the real world.

1:00:18.520 --> 1:00:20.800
<v Speaker 3>Remember Tammy, I don't if y'all know Tammy Roman. That's

1:00:20.840 --> 1:00:24.120
<v Speaker 3>what she got it, Poppa. She's the original reality TV

1:00:24.240 --> 1:00:28.080
<v Speaker 3>Queen Okay, and then now on Basketball Wise. It says

1:00:28.120 --> 1:00:31.280
<v Speaker 3>some of the shows that focus primarily on black women

1:00:31.360 --> 1:00:34.560
<v Speaker 3>are The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love and Hip Hop Alanta,

1:00:34.760 --> 1:00:38.360
<v Speaker 3>The New Atlanta, and Married to Medicine, even Married to Medicine.

1:00:38.480 --> 1:00:41.000
<v Speaker 3>These are professional black women. What the fuck?

1:00:41.240 --> 1:00:45.040
<v Speaker 2>I see the Real four this current season.

1:00:45.480 --> 1:00:49.000
<v Speaker 3>Why are y'all growing ass ladies fighting forty and fifty

1:00:49.040 --> 1:00:49.720
<v Speaker 3>year old people?

1:00:50.400 --> 1:00:51.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's insane.

1:00:51.840 --> 1:00:55.240
<v Speaker 3>The men about to get into it too. I can't

1:00:55.280 --> 1:00:58.240
<v Speaker 3>do reality TV, Like, I think I'm too much of

1:00:58.240 --> 1:01:00.000
<v Speaker 3>a real nigga for that. And I and I really

1:01:00.200 --> 1:01:01.680
<v Speaker 3>like they make a juice network.

1:01:02.000 --> 1:01:05.000
<v Speaker 2>I feel like they set up situations to make people

1:01:05.280 --> 1:01:11.040
<v Speaker 2>who normally would not be fistfighting take it there can

1:01:11.200 --> 1:01:12.400
<v Speaker 2>like you got.

1:01:13.760 --> 1:01:17.880
<v Speaker 3>Uh sprinkling a couple of baby daddies and husbands. It's

1:01:17.960 --> 1:01:20.760
<v Speaker 3>just real messy the way that black people are depicted.

1:01:22.000 --> 1:01:25.120
<v Speaker 2>But that baddies is just the worst. It is the worst,

1:01:25.200 --> 1:01:27.880
<v Speaker 2>And I keep watching it. I keep watching it like

1:01:28.080 --> 1:01:34.040
<v Speaker 2>on the stair climber, that is my stair climber. Why, though,

1:01:34.800 --> 1:01:37.840
<v Speaker 2>why it makes you get through the stair clan? Yeah,

1:01:37.920 --> 1:01:40.600
<v Speaker 2>because I can't believe what I'm seeing what is gonna

1:01:40.600 --> 1:01:43.120
<v Speaker 2>happen next, I forget. I'll be on the stair climber

1:01:43.360 --> 1:01:47.880
<v Speaker 2>our watching baddies. So yeah, so I guess I'm part

1:01:47.920 --> 1:01:51.200
<v Speaker 2>of the problem giving them views.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't watch that shit, Like I think the most

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<v Speaker 3>I watched was Real Housewives of Atlanta, the one year

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<v Speaker 3>that we had a couple of people on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Other than that, I haven't watched me. I ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 2>lie against me anxiety. I can't like watch like if

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<v Speaker 2>there's a season, I can't watch like two episodes back

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<v Speaker 2>to back because it's only so much oh bitch, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>fucking bitch that I can take in, you know, an hour,

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<v Speaker 2>because they really be customing the other out.

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<v Speaker 3>So is this really how black friendships are?

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<v Speaker 2>Because that's just not true. That is not true.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's what the world season. Maybe just maybe the

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<v Speaker 3>younger generation have internalized these scenes because they actually grew up. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>they grew up in reality TV.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah right, so now they think this is how they're

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to handle their relationships.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and as the bitch don't want to have to fight,

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<v Speaker 3>they frame all the damn time. You might you might

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<v Speaker 3>stay away from having friends friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we got to do better. That is not normal.

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<v Speaker 2>That is not how you people you love, You communicate,

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<v Speaker 2>you use your words. If you're that upset, walk away

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<v Speaker 2>and come back later. You know, you know, because I

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<v Speaker 2>know almost came to blows with friends before, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>never went there. You know, it's never gone to like

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<v Speaker 2>actual fist fighting.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, you don't talk about having to fight a friend before.

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<v Speaker 2>Now which friend? Which when you was drunk?

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all he was drunk and then they ate outside of

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<v Speaker 3>waffle house or some ship.

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<v Speaker 2>You was eating grits at your hand.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I like you were the drunk aggressor.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I was on He and J. Man, that's the

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<v Speaker 2>only time I drink here Jay in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>That gotta be some college shit, because bitch, why you

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<v Speaker 3>haven't got no money to get some good drinks? I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, Man, start with therapy, like therapy is always

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<v Speaker 3>the thing. If you feel like you have a tough

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<v Speaker 3>time making friends, go talk to somebody else first, right,

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<v Speaker 3>that can may maybe help you guide you through.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Do they just walk up on people like I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like I meet people I have friends like even social media.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that maybe if the younger generation, they might

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<v Speaker 3>have more online friends and they have like real friends

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<v Speaker 3>in real life. So but even Yahoo, I have a

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<v Speaker 3>whole group of friends from Yahoo that I'm still friends

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<v Speaker 3>with today.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a woman Lexi Nicole. Shout out to Lexi Nicole.

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<v Speaker 2>She listens to the show, and we became friends on

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram and we're going to get cocktails on Friday. And

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<v Speaker 2>that's really how it happened, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, my friends, if you want to you have

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<v Speaker 3>to put it, put forth a real effort if you

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<v Speaker 3>actually want some friends, right, because I feel like they're

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna find. I think there's only like maybe like

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<v Speaker 3>five different characteristics of people out here world for real,

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<v Speaker 3>and you can pick one right and find that you

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<v Speaker 3>can find that characteristic of those characteristics in one hundred people. Right,

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<v Speaker 3>So it starts with you. It starts with them. They

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<v Speaker 3>ain't gonna do with nobody outside of you in because

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<v Speaker 3>all black women caddy and black women be backstabbing and

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<v Speaker 3>all these things that we might have been taught from

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<v Speaker 3>the older generation that you can't trust each other. Mm hm,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, cause I feel like, do these pitches, these

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<v Speaker 3>old pitches, do these baby boomers they don't got no

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<v Speaker 3>friends neither per that survey.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I wonder why. I know, Like one of my

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<v Speaker 2>friends and her mom don't have no friends. My mom doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom got too many damn friends. There's always people

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<v Speaker 2>at her damn house. And she's happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Your mom seems like a happy person.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, she is happy, you see.

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<v Speaker 3>So it plays a role within your mental health when

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<v Speaker 3>you have the outlet of friends you can go to

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<v Speaker 3>and talk to an incomegate and go out.

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<v Speaker 2>And they go out to eat a different restaurant every Friday.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's fun and that's something to look forward to. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>aside from just sitting up and sitting up in the

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<v Speaker 3>house and being a fucking racoust.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, get out of there, my mama, y'all. My mom

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<v Speaker 2>does not have a Washington dryer still because on Sunday

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<v Speaker 2>morning her and her friends go to a laundromat and

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<v Speaker 2>wash their clothes and that's part of their girls time.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, look, it works.

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<v Speaker 3>It'll take you about about two hours, two three hours

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<v Speaker 3>to wash clothes with coffee.

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<v Speaker 2>We get our coffee and wen'kay, you're whatever make you have.

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<v Speaker 3>They waste their money, though, I'm gonna tell you that

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<v Speaker 3>maybe not because if you're calculating the water bill when

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<v Speaker 3>you wash clothes. I bet y'all water bell probably so

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<v Speaker 3>the same. I bet you her water bill is so

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<v Speaker 3>the same. If she had a washing drying, it might

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<v Speaker 3>not be saving the money and the money used Washington dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you one probably gonna listen to this episode switch

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<v Speaker 3>up like I might bitch the next time I'm in

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<v Speaker 3>home people they be having those floor display sales man,

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<v Speaker 3>you can get you a little sat for five hundred.

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<v Speaker 3>I might call you, ass bitch, I got two fifty,

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<v Speaker 3>or your mama wash your sheet the dryer, playing with Sarah.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey girl, get y'all some motherfucker friends.

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<v Speaker 3>That's my last office. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, bitch before

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<v Speaker 3>we get up out of here. Okay, all right, all right,

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<v Speaker 3>So y'all, I want to go back. This is another

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<v Speaker 3>segment that we had. I might have only done it

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<v Speaker 3>one time. Remember it was eminem messy meme. I want

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<v Speaker 3>to get back to doing that. So because I'd be

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<v Speaker 3>seeing a whole bunch of funny ship that I'd be

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<v Speaker 3>wanting to share. Y'all probably not seen it. Maybe No,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like i I've seen the whole internet. People

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<v Speaker 3>be sending me ship and I'm like girl, I've seen that.

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<v Speaker 3>So y'all listen to this right quick. So yes, I

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<v Speaker 3>am reading again.

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<v Speaker 2>Story time.

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<v Speaker 3>It says, it says he doesn't know we're married. That's

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<v Speaker 3>how the story begins.

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<v Speaker 2>It says.

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<v Speaker 3>So we dated for about two years, and I decided

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<v Speaker 3>I was ready to get married and settle down. She

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<v Speaker 3>singularly decided. Okay, about three years ago, he told me

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<v Speaker 3>that he was saving up for a ring and that

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<v Speaker 3>he wanted to surprise me with the proposal of my

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<v Speaker 3>dreams lo and Behold. A few months passed and still

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<v Speaker 3>no proposal. I asked him when he planned on doing it,

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<v Speaker 3>and he told me he had simply changed his mind.

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<v Speaker 3>Simply changed his mind. Why would he buy the cow

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<v Speaker 3>when he is already getting the milk for free?

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<v Speaker 2>She says.

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<v Speaker 3>I felt like he scammed me. I was done letting

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<v Speaker 3>men scam me. Fed up, so I just to take

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<v Speaker 3>matters into my own hands.

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<v Speaker 2>I found a man.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all, listen, listen, it is very close. I found a

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<v Speaker 3>man on the internet who looked just like him, and

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<v Speaker 3>while he was sleeping, I went ahead and took his

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<v Speaker 3>ID along with his birth certificate. Okay, she took her

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<v Speaker 3>boyfriend's ID and birth certificate, and she found a man

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<v Speaker 3>online that looks like him. Clarified, I feey' all okay.

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<v Speaker 3>She then offered this lookalike, who was pretty much homeless,

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<v Speaker 3>one thousand dollars to come to the courthouse with her,

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<v Speaker 3>and we did the thing, she says, with praying hands

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<v Speaker 3>in the praising hands okay, cartwheels and smiley faces emojis.

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<v Speaker 3>We've been married now for almost two years, and I've

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<v Speaker 3>never been happier. I am moving and behaving like a

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<v Speaker 3>wife in every since. I've been cooking every day, washing laundry,

1:10:01.000 --> 1:10:06.280
<v Speaker 3>and taking great care of my husband. He has complimented

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<v Speaker 3>me many times on how amazing I am and how

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<v Speaker 3>well I perform my duties as his lady. On Valentine's

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<v Speaker 3>Day this year, he even decorated our room and he

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<v Speaker 3>had the word wife written with flowers.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought, how ironic.

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<v Speaker 3>Little does y'all know exactly little does he know? I'm

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<v Speaker 3>his wife?

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<v Speaker 2>She said.

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<v Speaker 3>My question is how do I tell him we are official? Now?

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<v Speaker 2>This is two years later. Now, shouldn't I just hope.

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<v Speaker 3>That he changes his mind and eventually proposes on his

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<v Speaker 3>own once he sees how amazing I am.

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<v Speaker 2>We are past the one.

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<v Speaker 3>Year mark, so I no longer have to worry about

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<v Speaker 3>in an omen, which is great. We went on vacation

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<v Speaker 3>about a week after our ceremony. She still talk about

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<v Speaker 3>her boyfriend. Ceremony was with some nigga off the internet

1:10:55.240 --> 1:10:58.760
<v Speaker 3>she met that looked like her boyfriend, and for me,

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<v Speaker 3>it was our honey. We've never been happier. I just

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<v Speaker 3>really need him to I just really need him on

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<v Speaker 3>board with all of this. He noticed I was wearing

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<v Speaker 3>a ring on my ring finger and I told him

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<v Speaker 3>it was to keep other men away. He jokingly mentioned

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<v Speaker 3>how good it looks. I'm tired of keeping our marriage

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<v Speaker 3>a secret, and I feel like he has a right

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<v Speaker 3>to know. Any advice appreciated.

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<v Speaker 2>You're so dumb, you are really dune for she looks crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>That is insane. This is all right, We're supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>sit in dumb shores. But some of this is just insanity,

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<v Speaker 2>because how how you marry somebody without telling them, like

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<v Speaker 2>why you want to be a wife that bad.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl?

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<v Speaker 2>You want to jail, that you committed fraud? Yes, ain't

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<v Speaker 2>you telling people the internet?

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<v Speaker 3>And you're putting pictures that with your ring and the

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<v Speaker 3>flowers made out a wife made into wife.

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<v Speaker 2>Cannot be real.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, man, but yeah, but you're going to

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<v Speaker 3>jail whenever the man you need to go. You married

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<v Speaker 3>him two years ago that he doesn't know you married him.

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<v Speaker 3>You got his social and all that shit as people

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<v Speaker 3>worked down there at the courthouse, right, but he still

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<v Speaker 3>hasn't proposed to you still two years later. Y'all been

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<v Speaker 3>together for three It's now two years after the fake marriage,

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<v Speaker 3>and he still has not proposed you after five years.

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<v Speaker 2>Girl, he don't want to marry you.

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<v Speaker 3>Because you fucking crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Bit that probably he probably making a good decision, because girl,

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<v Speaker 2>I flabbergasted at this story.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl, he is there because of obligation. He wrot all

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<v Speaker 3>fuck with you like that, and he know you nuts.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why he changes mind.

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<v Speaker 2>And you just man, if you want to do it

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<v Speaker 2>or not, it's done, it's done.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to see that the girl who you want

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<v Speaker 3>to marry that bad you want to fake a marriage?

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<v Speaker 2>Who? I mean impressed with the dedication? Though you gotta

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<v Speaker 2>really be dedicated to this man to marry him without

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<v Speaker 2>him or crazy? It's two things can be true. It

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<v Speaker 2>once I feel.

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<v Speaker 3>Like she will kill him. I feel like if he leaves,

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<v Speaker 3>she'll do something to him because you wanted that man

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<v Speaker 3>that bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he might be in danger straight up.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, snapped and look at her picture.

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<v Speaker 2>The man who went and you complicit. Whatever happened to

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<v Speaker 2>bro code. You need to go to jail too, both

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<v Speaker 2>of y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>Thousand dollars, one thousand dollars, that's all she got money to.

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<v Speaker 2>Waste because he signed, He signed the paperword right, he

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<v Speaker 2>had to sign at the courthouse. Yeah, you need to

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<v Speaker 2>go to jail, sir, you need to be arrested.

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<v Speaker 3>Police who really committed the fraud at that point?

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<v Speaker 2>Both of them? The fuck went down there and perpetrated

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<v Speaker 2>the fraud.

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<v Speaker 3>Real shame, y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't be crazy. Don't be fucking crazy, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, y'all, don't be fool Go make some motherfucker

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<v Speaker 3>friends in twenty five man, stop, please, don't be delusion.

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<v Speaker 3>Or ain't nobody hating on you neither?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>I think that'd be half the problem with black women.

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<v Speaker 2>Man.

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<v Speaker 3>Somebody always hating on your.

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<v Speaker 2>Mother, girl, You ain't got that. If nobody hate on anyway.

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