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Speaker 1: Hey guys, I'm Kaylie Shore and this is too much

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Speaker 1: to say it out you. So in this week's episode,

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about bad manners with dating. Specifically,

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Speaker 1: there's bad manners period. I have met plenty of people

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Speaker 1: in my life I'm just like, where's your mother and

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Speaker 1: how do I get in contact with her about your

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Speaker 1: current behavior? But this one specifically about dating. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of different ways that you can have bad manners dating. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: you can like you know, talk with your mouth open

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Speaker 1: or like slam the door and the girl's face or whatnot.

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Speaker 1: But um, there's like the ones that I've experienced are

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Speaker 1: like so much deeper than that. So when it comes

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Speaker 1: to like response time and stuff like that, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's so interesting these days because you can reach people

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Speaker 1: so quickly, so that means that you end up feeling

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Speaker 1: a little bit more entitled to their time, even if

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Speaker 1: it's subliminal, even if you're not trying to be an asshole,

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Speaker 1: because of how accessible they are, and like being like, well,

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Speaker 1: I know you had your phone on you. It's like, well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: maybe maybe I wasn't looking at it. Maybe I was

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Speaker 1: going several hours at a time pretending my phone didn't exist,

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Speaker 1: because you know, that's what humans have been doing until

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Speaker 1: ten years ago. So I have my own personal issues

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Speaker 1: with that, and sometimes I need a double text to

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Speaker 1: remind me of something like Hey, what about that thing

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Speaker 1: that you said you do? And I'm like, oh my god, ship,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for reminding me. But it's different

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Speaker 1: when it's like a guy just being like, hey, what's up,

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Speaker 1: and then you know, the next day being like fun

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Speaker 1: it like good response there. I'm like, okay, well, I

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Speaker 1: like twenty people to respond to ahead of you, and

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Speaker 1: I was like, pertain to like my career and not

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Speaker 1: this guy went on two dates with you know, so

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Speaker 1: clearly I have strong feelings on that. But there's like

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Speaker 1: so there's that, there's you know, communication and whatnot, Like

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Speaker 1: you don't really owe anybody that. I also feel like

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Speaker 1: when you're first starting out seeing somebody, you owe them respect,

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Speaker 1: but you don't really owe them a whole lot like

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Speaker 1: beyond respect. I don't know how much we owe other people.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm someone who consistently spreads themselves tooth in because

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Speaker 1: I can't say no to things. And I saw this

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Speaker 1: quote and it was just like somebody tweeting about it,

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Speaker 1: but they're like my friend the other day, I asked

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Speaker 1: them if they could um spend some time with me

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Speaker 1: and they said, no, I can't because the time that

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Speaker 1: I would spend with you is taking time away from

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Speaker 1: like the time I'd spend with my family. And then

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Speaker 1: another person like posted something similar and they were like,

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Speaker 1: I not that, Like I don't have a single second

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Speaker 1: like to be busy. They're like, I just don't have, UM,

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Speaker 1: I won't be myself if we hang out, like I

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Speaker 1: do have a free day, but I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: be the person you want me to be on that day.

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Speaker 1: So like I've firmly stand behind that, like in in

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Speaker 1: all aspects, like you ohe people respect you, O people communication,

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Speaker 1: you know people, you know a modern you know manners,

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Speaker 1: but you definitely don't owe people your time. So I

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Speaker 1: always get kind of annoyed when somebody that i'm you know,

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Speaker 1: like that. I'm like, homie, no, like, you don't know

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Speaker 1: me like that. Even my best friends don't do that.

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Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's like, if I'm really

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Speaker 1: if they want to, they will, and I you know,

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Speaker 1: I've seen guys do it to a lot of people

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Speaker 1: in general. Well they'll be like, oh, well, he's probably

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Speaker 1: a couple of months down the road, just been like, oh,

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Speaker 1: they just weren't into me, and that's okay. And honestly,

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty happy with where I'm at right now. So

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Speaker 1: everything worked out for the best. One of the most

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Speaker 1: So if you've heard this on a previous episode, just

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Speaker 1: basically hitting up over the holidays. We'd like ended things

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Speaker 1: and I think that was like a really really big

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Speaker 1: really like six, so I was like, that's a normal

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Speaker 1: Find a man who's okay with crying, not too much,

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Speaker 1: because I don't think anybody should really like it's healthy,

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Speaker 1: But like I don't like when I'm in a relationship

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Speaker 1: and somebody makes their emotions my problem every single day,

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Speaker 1: like they're supporting somebody through a hard time, and then

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Speaker 1: they're also just like weighing like dragging them down with you,

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Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Like, if you're impeding on my

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Speaker 1: because you're crying all the time, like find a friend

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Speaker 1: or a therapist, paid friend. So anyways, that's my feelings

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Speaker 1: sister just got engaged, and he was like, I'm getting

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Speaker 1: and like, you know, saying all these like nice things

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Speaker 1: So we make these plans to get back to like

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Speaker 1: like later on tonight, like we can do some night

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Speaker 1: new like Black Mirror, like choose your own Adventure Netflix

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Speaker 1: so I sent him this like really sassy text and

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Speaker 1: know what, I'm not feeling this. Maybe I rushed into

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Speaker 1: Like we could just not and I'd be like, I'd

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Speaker 1: Like that's that's where you owe people, Like he did

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Speaker 1: But I'd really love to like my goal is. Steve

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Speaker 1: Martin also did this, but he did comedy and performed

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Speaker 1: like I'm not into you. It's so much better to

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Speaker 1: was really nice because it was not cheap. And I

428
00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 1: think that was a big thing I noticed about Sam

429
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 1: was just the difference in manners and you know, meeting

430
00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:20,399
Speaker 1: his his parents now and like his family, like I

431
00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:22,719
Speaker 1: totally understand where it comes from, and like there is

432
00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:27,880
Speaker 1: this very chivalrous like you know, you opened the car

433
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 1: door thing, which he gets pissed. I mean because every

434
00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:34,040
Speaker 1: time he tries to do it in the over, I

435
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 1: just like slide like I just grabbed it myself and

436
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,320
Speaker 1: then slide over, and like He's like I came over

437
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 1: here to open the door of you and then walk

438
00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 1: around and I'm just like, yeah, but it's just easier

439
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 1: if I like scooch like two inches, you know. So

440
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,879
Speaker 1: it's funny. But he definitely just has really great manners

441
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:53,600
Speaker 1: and knows what to like, isn't a dumbass in public

442
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: like I had an EXTU just would gets so drunk

443
00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,639
Speaker 1: and just so embarrassing and like we got in a

444
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,679
Speaker 1: huge fight one time because we were at this really

445
00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 1: fancy party for this person who invests in musicians careers,

446
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:09,200
Speaker 1: and it was like he was like a really famous

447
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,360
Speaker 1: producer and like I was there and every artist who

448
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 1: was playing that knew that there was like something on

449
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,120
Speaker 1: the table that this person could like help you somehow,

450
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,200
Speaker 1: and like it was that was, you know, kind of

451
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 1: why people were there and why he had invited artists

452
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 1: in the first place. So I bring my boyfriend a

453
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Speaker 1: couple of friends because there was like an open bar

454
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 1: and they said to like invite people, and he gets

455
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,360
Speaker 1: so slashed. I'd had like two drinks because I knew

456
00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 1: that I was in a professional situation as somebody's like

457
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:40,000
Speaker 1: very boogie mansion trying to like you know, network and

458
00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:46,320
Speaker 1: you know, represent myself well. And then my boyfriend gets

459
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 1: wasted and like he's talking so loud why somebody else

460
00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:52,920
Speaker 1: was performing, And I like, I wasn't snappy, I wasn't

461
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 1: rude at all, like I swear to go because I

462
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: know it's like it's kind of embarrassing to be told

463
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,440
Speaker 1: that you're being too loud. It's like a little awkward,

464
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: you know. And so I was like, hey, babe, like

465
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 1: you're being a little loud and like she's playing, and

466
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 1: he like just like the blood drained out of his face,

467
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: and I was like, Okay, it doesn't feel like that

468
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 1: big of a deal. And so then he was like,

469
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 1: I want to leave. I want to leave, and so

470
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,120
Speaker 1: we leave. I drove home because you know, I think

471
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: I had like two drinks over like three and a

472
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 1: half hours. So I was like, okay, I'll drive you're

473
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: drunk ass home because oh boy had five team many

474
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:26,919
Speaker 1: Gin and Tonics. And on the drive home, He's just

475
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 1: like freaking out, and I was like, oh my god, Like,

476
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: I know, I know it's embarrassing to be corrected on

477
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,719
Speaker 1: your manners in public, but like to just do and

478
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:38,440
Speaker 1: that was like red flag number one, and that was

479
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 1: sort of the beginning of the end of us. But

480
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,240
Speaker 1: it's it's really nice to be dating somebody where I

481
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 1: don't have to worry about that. And like, even if

482
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 1: Sam and I get drunk somewhere, like he's still so

483
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: well behaved and I managed to hold my ship together

484
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 1: pretty well, which gets me in trouble because nobody can

485
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 1: really tell when I'm drunk unless they're close to me,

486
00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 1: so I can seem like super high functioning and really

487
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,439
Speaker 1: like I'm about to have my head in the like

488
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: in an hour and a half, so that's frightening. I've

489
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:07,439
Speaker 1: tried to like make note of the number of you know,

490
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 1: drinks I've had versus how drunk I feel, because it

491
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:15,359
Speaker 1: doesn't it's more important to like have like a line

492
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 1: as far as like the literal amount of about call

493
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 1: you're gonna drink, not like I'm just stop drinking when

494
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,920
Speaker 1: I start to feel like me, you know. So there's

495
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 1: just you know, Sam was Sam was a big wake

496
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 1: up call as to like what I can expect from somebody.

497
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 1: And also one of the first things I noted about

498
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:34,439
Speaker 1: him as well was I was out of town for

499
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,439
Speaker 1: two weeks at the very beginning of our relationship, and

500
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,680
Speaker 1: so I was like, like we hadn't even talked on

501
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 1: the phone yet, Like that was how early it was.

502
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: And that was also really indicative of the fact that

503
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 1: like I missed him so much when I was gone,

504
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 1: and like he missed me, and like neither one of us,

505
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: like I had a date with the guitarist of like

506
00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,800
Speaker 1: my all time favorite pand like all that, and he

507
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: wasn't like the original guitars, like they're a nineties man,

508
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,359
Speaker 1: so like they was younger. But I had to day

509
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 1: with this guy. I've been looking forward to it for

510
00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: like two months because we met on Ryan he lived

511
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 1: in l A And I literally canceled the day because

512
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,439
Speaker 1: of how much I like Sam. So that was like

513
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 1: I was like, gosh it, I really like this guy.

514
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: But there was one night, like we were texting and

515
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: he um Wa did like, you know, probably like fifteen

516
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: minutes responded to a text which did not bother me

517
00:25:20,359 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 1: at all. And then he text me and he's like, hey,

518
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:24,920
Speaker 1: sorry for my slow response time, like I'm at dinner

519
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: with my mom. Will text you when I'm done. And

520
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, that was so easy. That took him five seconds,

521
00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 1: you know, and I don't even feel like he owed

522
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: me that if he, you know, texted me after I've

523
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:35,640
Speaker 1: been like, sorry, I was at dinner with my mom.

524
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: But I was like, that's so nice of him to

525
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: just like explain it really fast, because we were in

526
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 1: the middle of a conversation that was just above and beyond.

527
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: And it's the little things like that that tell you

528
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:47,919
Speaker 1: about somebody's character and tell you about what it's going

529
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,640
Speaker 1: to be like in a relationship with them. And Sam

530
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 1: is that considerate on a micro and a mackerel level.

531
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:59,640
Speaker 1: So also he went viral on TikTok today, um all

532
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 1: that I'm in check and see how many views it has,

533
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: because it's been going up like super fast, and I

534
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, am I accidentally in a

535
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:11,200
Speaker 1: TikTok couple? Oh no, but um he did a cover

536
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 1: of Good for You by Olivia Rodrigo, and okay, let's

537
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,960
Speaker 1: see it has Oh my god, almost has half famillion views.

538
00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:23,120
Speaker 1: It's like four hundred and sixty thousand, and yesterday, like

539
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: literally less than twelve hours ago or a little bit sorry,

540
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,880
Speaker 1: a little bit over twelve hours ago, he had three

541
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,920
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty two followers on TikTok. Now he has

542
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 1: twelve point six thousand, and the comments are so funny

543
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 1: and like, I'm not like jealous or weird about it

544
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: at all. If anything, I think it's kind of validating

545
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:45,920
Speaker 1: to like, no other people think your boyfriend is hot,

546
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: you know. And I saw this one comment that was

547
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,119
Speaker 1: like God is an artist, You're fucking hot, and I

548
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,200
Speaker 1: was like, do you mean like God is a musical artist,

549
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 1: like Sam is God? Or do you mean like God

550
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: was an artist when he made you? The second one

551
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 1: I agree with completely. It's been it's been really funny,

552
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: so I think he Um is putting that out really soon,

553
00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 1: so check it out Isiam Sanbargo. He's awesome. His music

554
00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 1: is great, and I could not date a musician whose

555
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 1: music I didn't take seriously and like actively in joy

556
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,439
Speaker 1: because I think if you're going to be somebody's teammate,

557
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:22,719
Speaker 1: you have to, you know, literally genuinely mean it when

558
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 1: you tear them on. So well, thanks so much for

559
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,479
Speaker 1: tuning in. Guys, Remember just send somebody a text. If

560
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 1: you can't make it, just be a like normal high

561
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,679
Speaker 1: functioning human being, Like don't be an don't be an asshole.

562
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: That's what I'm trying to say. Don't be an asshole.

563
00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 1: My name is Kaylie Shure. This is too much to

564
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:51,960
Speaker 1: say and I'll see you next week's question it out

565
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:53,879
Speaker 1: you