WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: AWA: Ask Weezy Anything (Weezy Solo) 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:04.359 If you would like to have us answer your questions. 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.920 If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:14.360 a terrible throuffle. Guess what You've got Decisions? Hey, y'all, 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:18.320 welcome back to another episode of You've Got Decisions. It's wheezy. 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.960 I'm in Los Angeles at the moment at WTF Media Studios. 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:27.800 Here I'm by myself, so sad you miss Mandy, I 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:31.600 know me too. We are heading to Vegas for the 0:00:31.680 --> 0:00:35.920 Avian Awards. Fingers crossed. You're probably hearing this after we've 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:39.880 gone to Vegas, but hoping that we win Best Podcast. 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:41.360 For those of you that don't know what the Avian 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:44.120 Awards is, they are also known as Support Awards. I'm 0:00:44.159 --> 0:00:47.000 here at my girl Denisha, and she's one of our 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.720 lead engineers here at WTF Media Studios, and she is 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:52.319 going to read off some questions. So normally on You've 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:56.400 Got Decisions, we find one issue that's fucking you up, 0:00:57.200 --> 0:01:02.240 and today we're doing an amak me anything. Hopefully these 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:04.080 aren't too bad. I actually only looked at like one 0:01:04.080 --> 0:01:06.560 because I just screen shot it like in the car Tiia. 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:09.600 So I just want to start by saying people say 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.200 crazy shit to you when you're like some of these 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:12.760 are crazy? 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:13.800 Oh, like can they? 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:15.880 Can you sit on my face? Is crazy? 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:19.280 Like I'm so used to this, I have to doing 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:21.399 horrible decisions for you. Like I'm trying to think of 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:24.520 the craziest request that I don't even fulfill. But I'm 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:27.000 just saying, like I feel like that's like level two. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:28.480 That's funny. 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:28.800 Uh. 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:31.880 Okay, do you think it's possible for a relationship to 0:01:31.920 --> 0:01:33.959 succeed with just one partner being open? 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:39.200 Okay, So I'll start because I'm definitely ethic. Hellll I 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:42.520 have racist everybody ethically no a monogamous person. And then 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:47.760 Denisha want your answers. So, for one, I hospital, Dick, 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:51.200 if you've been a listener of decisions decisions for a minute. 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:54.760 With someone I dated that was totally monogamous, all I 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:57.360 wanted to do was sleep with other women with him, 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.720 and he was like no, Like, if you don't want 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:02.800 only me, this doesn't make sense one person having such 0:02:02.800 --> 0:02:05.640 an open and like free brain, it really fucks up 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:08.720 because what ends up happening is you make the other 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:14.120 person feel so unwanted. Like, for example, if you were 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:16.640 dating somebody and they had sex with another woman. You 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:20.480 may feel insecure, like they don't care about you. You 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.799 might feel unloved, you might feel like you're not doing enough, 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:27.000 you're not pleasing sexually. My brain doesn't go there, which 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:31.359 is weird. I should, but I just be thinking, Oh, 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:33.440 he's just super horny, or he wants to try something new, 0:02:33.440 --> 0:02:36.639 and I'm able to detach. So like, I have a 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.959 lot of conversations with my homegirls where they judge me 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.280 on the other end. Sometimes even in a friendship is 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:44.880 difficult and they be like, oh, he doesn't want to 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:47.760 do this, it's hyper sexual, or this isn't good for 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:49.600 a family dynamic. And it's like, I've been like this 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:53.040 my whole fucking life. And I honestly I can remember 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:56.640 even like the college age, not that I finish college, 0:02:56.680 --> 0:02:58.480 but the college age have a girlfriend and then having a 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:01.600 boyfriend and always being that kind of girl. And I 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:04.440 feel like it really carried on to me being a 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:08.120 middle aged woman thirty five middle aged No easy, it's okay, 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:12.720 Well I feel close. Okay, so you meet somebody great, 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:16.800 they're ethically no monogamoust but you're not. Do you think 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:17.480 it could work? 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:18.840 I do not. 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.480 They're ethically no monogamous and I'm not. Yeah, and he 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:24.480 wants to sleep with other women. That's not I don't 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:25.400 think I could handle that. 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.520 Now. What if he told you, like, okay, well I 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:29.840 could try being monogamoust would you even have faith in that? 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:34.720 Probably not, if I'm being honest. 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:36.240 It would just be in the back of my mind, 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:38.200 like you really you just want to fuck other bitches 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:38.480 for real? 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:40.279 Not even yeah. 0:03:40.320 --> 0:03:44.160 I don't think that, Like I would feel secure knowing 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:47.240 that that other person is used to a lifestyle. It's 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.920 almost like I'm vegan, you eat meat, but you go 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:50.560 vegan for me. 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:53.000 But I feel like if I was a man and 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:56.040 I was monogamous and my girl wanted to be no 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:58.160 and she wanted to be with other women, I would 0:03:58.200 --> 0:03:59.839 be like, cool, what's it? 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:03.400 See? This is the thing men say that, and I 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:06.480 think after a while you're just like, okay, so you 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:08.400 get to do all this and I can't. And I've 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:12.680 actually read letters from women had I can't remember who 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.160 it was, but someone close to me. Maybe we had 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:17.920 them on horrible I don't know, But long story short, 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:21.160 she was really getting annoyed with the fact that her 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:24.719 boyfriend wanted to be involved with her other women. She's like, 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:26.960 I'm not with any other man. I don't understand why 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:29.200 he needs to ruin this. This is my thing. This 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:31.480 is my thing solo. I'm like, okay, but you don't 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:32.080 let him have. 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:32.680 Him his thing. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:35.039 So, but is it she's just not letting him do 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:36.880 it or he has the option too, he just doesn't 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:37.240 want to. 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.400 I don't think he has option either. That's the rule. 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:42.680 That's what I mean. Just like you said, so, the 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:45.640 open shit is just really fucking weird. The only time 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:50.800 it does work. Unfortunately, this is very misogynistic to say, 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:55.800 but I believe it could work if the man is 0:04:55.839 --> 0:04:58.200 not monogamous and you genuinely don't want to sleep with 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:01.560 anyone else, and they respect the boundaries. I only say 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:04.920 that because we've been having this mindset of men cheat, 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:07.400 men want other things, but they'll always come home in 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:09.479 our brains for so long that I actually think some 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:13.120 women can handle that. I don't know I could know, 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:15.680 but I do think some women could. And let me 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:20.159 just say for the record, me being open it open 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:24.719 and closes all the time, Like we talk about when 0:05:25.600 --> 0:05:27.839 I want to have children then and at that point 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:30.600 it'll be closed. There's times where I get really depressed 0:05:30.680 --> 0:05:33.880 and stressy about my family stuff and our relationship is closed. 0:05:33.920 --> 0:05:36.120 Like I might to be crying about some shit, but 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:39.200 my mama, you gets wis me right? But like everybody 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:41.760 has different rules for me. Opening and closing is the best. 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:44.680 If we're in an argument, we don't act on other things. 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:47.640 If we're having a tough week, No, Like, what do 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:50.560 I look like entertaining some bitch on my phone and 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:51.400 we're not good? 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:53.719 I feel like that's how you can tell if a 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:58.000 couple is actually ethically no monogamous because they like genuinely 0:05:58.360 --> 0:06:00.440 want to be you know what I mean, Like, you 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:02.760 guys have boundaries and all that stuff, Like you're not 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:03.880 just doing it just to do it. 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:06.960 Yeah, they're they're doing it just to do it though, 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:07.559 that's the ego. 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:12.120 Yeah, all right, this next question, would you stay with 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.960 a man you love through erectile dysfunction. 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:20.120 Back to the open? Yeah, because I feel like that 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:20.800 could be fixed. 0:06:20.880 --> 0:06:21.920 Yeah, they have pills for that. 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:25.560 I don't really, I say, And I will say this. 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:28.400 I have like a lot of weird pussy stuff that 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:33.719 happens not smell, but sometimes I have areas of vagin 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:35.920 it's missed throughout my life. When I was nineteen years old, 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:40.600 it happened with like clenching or super tightness needing to relax, 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:46.080 like I've had it happen twice from nineteen to today 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.240 at thirty three years old, and I can't imagine if 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.240 somebody was like, oh, yeah, I'm not dealing with this, 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.159 so yeah, am I. 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:54.839 A supposed to answer? 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:59.240 I know you staying with that limp D. 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:01.160 I've never experienced it. 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:05.200 But the guy that I'm kind of dating right now, 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:08.080 he's older, and sometimes I feel like. 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:08.800 What's that mean? 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:13.840 Well, he's thirty six, girl, how do you thirty? But 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.120 I feel like that's like the age where that starts 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:16.920 to happen. 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:20.040 That is not older. I really thought when you heard 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:21.560 that Clara, didn't you think she was about to be like, 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:26.720 he's forty five fifty? She said, I'm dating someone older's. 0:07:26.800 --> 0:07:29.400 She's like, first off, thirty six is older to you, 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:33.760 not older, but he's older than me thirty. 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:36.120 And thirty six is not that much. When you said 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.800 I'm dating someone older, I was ready for him to 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:39.960 have an ARP card. 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:41.679 Okay, let's go to the next question. 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:44.720 Agreed, Yeah, you're tripping you right there. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:50.960 Okay, this is not for them. I met him on hinge. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:53.800 Okay, that's where a mama and he ain't got no ed, 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:54.520 you'll be straight. 0:07:54.640 --> 0:07:58.200 That's funny. Okay, let me find another one. 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:02.160 To answer the can I sit on your face question? 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:04.120 What did you think I was gonna reply? 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:08.840 That's all imagine like, yeah, let me just I. 0:08:08.760 --> 0:08:10.040 Just want to know when people are like, let me 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:11.920 fuck you in the ass in a random comments if 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:13.480 someone's like, yeah, okay. 0:08:14.560 --> 0:08:16.800 Okay, how you tell him you don't want to have 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:19.360 sex with him anymore? No hard feelings, just done with it. 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.000 How do you tell someone you don't want to have 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:28.080 sex with him anymore? Okay? Number one the ghosting shit, 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:31.400 We have to stop this. In twenty twenty five, ghosting 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:34.800 someone is just so fucked up because even if you 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:39.200 just lose interest, you literally make them feel like, holy shit, 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:41.839 they're walking back the days they spent with you last, 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:45.120 the last conversation. They're thinking they did something to piss 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:47.360 you off, hurt your feelings. And if it's literally just 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:51.800 a disconnect and energy, ugh, simple text be like hey, 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:56.040 this really sucks, but moving into a new phase, I'd 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:58.599 like it if we could just continue our our relationship 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:03.320 at a friendship level, like I don't even leave room 0:09:03.360 --> 0:09:06.480 for maybe open ended. No, just like this is what 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.880 I need. We're friends now. I like a text message too, 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:11.840 because I feel like once you get somebody on the phone, 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:13.520 they'd be trying to talk you off the ledch and 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:14.480 get back in a pussy. 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:16.199 Okay, this is a good one. 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:20.040 Let's talk about when men have a great masculinity energy. 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.959 I'm assuming they mean masculine energy. But the dick size 0:09:22.960 --> 0:09:26.960 is three T. Do you leave three T isn't tomer? 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:27.880 Yes? 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:35.680 Okay, this is the difference between sexual arousal. I think 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.080 in the actual sex, if he is a small dick 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.280 and that can't get you off, but his masculine energy, 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:44.320 his presence, and all of that seems to be satisfying you. 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.520 I don't know. If you can't handle a small dick, 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:51.640 you do gotta go. Nothing is worse than getting fucked 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:55.040 and feeling like you can't feel it. Now. I've dated 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:57.760 somebody with a small dick before, and the reason it 0:09:57.800 --> 0:09:59.559 wasn't bad is because I was so into them. I 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:01.560 didn't even I realized the sex was bad until I 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:03.360 gave him some pussy. Once we broke up, and I 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:05.800 was like, this was what I was having, this little 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:10.360 shrimp beak. Yeah, I know. I would figure out if 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:14.840 you enjoy the sex with him outside of penetration, whether 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.360 it be oral, whether it just be I don't know, 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:21.600 the making out, fucking riding him that can also make 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.880 it feel another inch bigger, anal, whatever it is, like, 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.199 do you enjoy the things outside of him? Because I 0:10:27.240 --> 0:10:29.800 would keep a motherfucker on the roster if they were 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:32.280 fun and fine, and I'd be like, Okay, I'm gonna 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.880 suck that little dick later and put up with it. 0:10:34.920 --> 0:10:39.280 And then you have your BBD on a feed dial. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:43.760 All right, it's six months too early to have a 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:46.680 baby by someone you just met. 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:48.959 I don't want to say no because I don't want 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:50.720 to have to get rid of it. So next question, 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.480 I'm sorry, I'm trying to find this is crazy, Like 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:59.360 are you pregnant now? In what state do you live in? 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:00.640 Do I need to say I knew something? 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:01.960 Jeez? 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:06.240 Yeah, there's no way. I actually think you need to 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:09.120 live with somebody before you coparent with them. No judgment. 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.120 If this hasn't happened to anybody who's listening, I know 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:13.320 things happened by surprise. I'm a cream pie girl too. 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:23.720 It's okay, tell us about a time sex made you cry. 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:26.480 I've been having a lot of these moments, good cries. 0:11:28.520 --> 0:11:32.320 Okay, ooh the last time I had a good cry 0:11:32.720 --> 0:11:37.480 during sex? Okay, it was last week. I was really 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:41.880 stressed out about work. And the thing that sucks about 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.400 crying during sex is it's not always about the person. 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:48.040 So what happened was I was having a bad day. 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:51.880 I was falling asleep on the couch. After hyping him 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:53.800 up there he was gonna get some pussy, and once 0:11:53.840 --> 0:11:57.480 he carried me into the bed, I started to just 0:11:57.520 --> 0:11:59.560 be like, oh my god, I feel so bad. I'm 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:03.280 always hired, I'm always this, I'm always busy. Now he 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:06.960 starts kissing me, massaging me. We start fucking, and I 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.800 don't know if the dick just hit this little emotional 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:13.680 button in my piss's pussy, but I just start full 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:18.600 on having a fucking breakdown, crying, and I think that 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.720 he thought I was having a crazy orgasm from it, 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:26.200 but it was just a very intense moment of release. 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:29.600 It almost felt like the sex that I was having 0:12:29.640 --> 0:12:33.000 with him was for myself and not even him, and 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:36.480 there's a lot of times where I get so overwhelmed 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:39.240 with my own shit that I forget my own pleasure. 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:43.040 I forget to masturbate, I forget to look pretty, I 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:47.480 forget to just take care of my own sexual self. 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:51.520 And so that was the last time I cried randomly, 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:55.720 though I've definitely accidentally cried with like someone that I 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:57.679 don't give a fuck about. And the entire time I 0:12:57.720 --> 0:13:00.679 cry when I'm getting fucked is it's really I'm just 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:07.160 releasing I've said that Towice Okay. Rules for fuck buddies, ooh, 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:10.120 I think this is a really good one. So Mandy 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:11.840 and I talked about this with I feel like Mike 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:16.040 the Poet, and it was a conversation we had regarding 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:19.120 romance for fuck buddies. I think it's all up to 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:22.280 what you can handle. For example, if someone had to 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.960 make a rule book for Wheezy, I'm not even gonna 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:28.319 say what rules you should make. I'm an overly emotional girl. 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:30.000 I know what I can handle. I know what I 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:31.920 can't handle. So I would say number one for me, 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:36.920 no sleepovers, waking up next to someone, the cuddling, the 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:39.800 getting to watch the movies. That's an intimacy that's so 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:43.400 beyond sex that I'll start to get attached and you'll 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:46.200 become the placeholder for that. Let's just say when I 0:13:46.240 --> 0:13:49.120 was single, I know me and a Keen Woods would 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:53.920 watch back to back reality shit fucking dumb TV. And 0:13:55.000 --> 0:13:58.360 if I was doing that with my fuck buddy, it 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.079 would literally make him the placehold. I would stop thinking 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.000 about doing things with friends because I want to share 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:05.400 them with you. You just start going beyond. I think 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:09.040 another rule for fuck buddy to me, no fluid bonding, 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:12.280 which means using condoms only. I think even when it's 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.120 your only partner at the time, something happens when the 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:18.600 condom come off where you're my nigga. Now rule number 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:26.320 three for Wheezy again, I think no events that include 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:32.560 friends front facing, like things where you're mixing and mingling 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:36.160 with people that are in your inner circle. I think 0:14:36.160 --> 0:14:40.120 the fuck buddy should actually remain pretty anonymous to everybody 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.880 you know, like of course your homegirls know who they 0:14:42.880 --> 0:14:45.760 are in the group chat. But I think once you 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:50.680 start taking it outside of the bedroom, you lose control 0:14:50.880 --> 0:14:52.920 and you start to get the wires crossed, and then 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:54.960 you end up wanting more, and then boom, Now you 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:58.160 got no date next. 0:14:58.960 --> 0:14:59.280 With you? 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:03.400 Show your ever show your partner publicly and why don't 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:04.920 you just do? 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:07.800 Okay, So this is an interesting one. What I would 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:12.360 show my partner publicly? For me, it used to be 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:14.480 a hard No. I've only done it with my ex 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:17.360 girlfriend and that's because we dated before I had a podcast, 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:22.000 so I say no. But me and this nigga are 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:27.000 a dating app. So it's like, I don't know for 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:31.600 right now. No, But I feel like if I was married, 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.840 I wouldn't mind. But it's never gonna be like this 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:37.320 in my head. I could be wrong. This still photoed 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:42.560 me with him out. I feel like I'm gonnaybe have 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:44.240 a story and I'm gonna be like, oh my god, 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:46.480 we're doing this ha haa like some in the moment shit. 0:15:46.920 --> 0:15:48.680 I just don't know if I want like it on 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:53.040 the grid. And for me, it's mainly because you do 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:55.640 invite a lot of energy in once you start sharing, 0:15:55.680 --> 0:15:58.760 and this is the first someone that's not a podcast 0:15:58.840 --> 0:16:02.120 or a personality or what I genuinely feel like. Once 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:04.960 you have a photo of someone on your page, you 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:07.160 just invite a lot of energy and you invite someone 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.640 to send it to them and say, oh, when did 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:14.120 you start doing this? Or I don't know, fake pages, 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:18.880 just weird shit. I just the private shit is really real. 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:21.600 The more that you keep things private, the more peaceful 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:25.240 your relationship is. But I also know, on the contrary, 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:27.640 a lot of people like to share their partner publicly 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:31.200 because they feel like they're claimed, right, Like a lot 0:16:31.200 --> 0:16:34.280 of my homegirls have said they feel way better when 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:36.520 their man posts them, and I'm just like, but he'll 0:16:36.560 --> 0:16:39.000 still fucking rely bisuck he wants to. I really believe that. 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:39.880 What about you? 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:41.640 Have you ever like posted someone. 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:42.520 You've dated or never? 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.080 I don't really post anyway like that, and I just don't. 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:48.440 I would, but I just don't. 0:16:48.720 --> 0:16:51.440 How many months or years would you have to date 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:52.320 before you do it. 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.040 I feel like I would want to post like my wedding, 0:16:58.400 --> 0:16:59.400 That's what I would want. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:01.480 I'll think about that too, Yeah, which I'm gonna try 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:05.440 to sell my wedd into fuse. You know. Actually, there's 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:10.919 one thing I almost posted recently. So my boyfriend and 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:14.720 my mom have a really special relationship that they've been growing. 0:17:14.840 --> 0:17:18.800 In the day that they met, they were dancing together 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:21.199 in the living room. She started playing music and I 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:23.159 came out of the bath and they were dancing, and 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:26.320 then I went to his parents' house. I made food 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:29.320 for them. Yes, I made food for a Nigerian family. 0:17:30.280 --> 0:17:33.919 I can't believe it either. I was scared and we 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:37.400 started dancing with his mom and I was like, damn. 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:39.800 You know when you go to someone's wedding and in 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.439 the vows they talk about what the couple liked to 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:43.879 do together. I was like, Oh, this is like a 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:47.119 really special thing of us. So I thought about posting it, 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:49.680 and I was like, you know what, this is only 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:52.480 special to me, And if I posted, I'm just showing 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.280 it off. Sure, I'm sharing my happiness, but like somebody 0:17:55.280 --> 0:18:02.720 will ruin it. And no, the most they gonna get 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:04.399 out of me right now, I'm about to be a 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:06.320 asia for a few weeks. S'all might get a little 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:09.399 bit of a beach, his nipper ring and one or 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:10.120 two dreds. 0:18:10.840 --> 0:18:15.280 That's what I think I got to get. Okay, I've 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:18.680 been dealing with the same man for fifteen years. Do 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:19.800 I keep fucking him? 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:22.199 What the fuck kind of context is that? 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:22.560 Bitch? 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:26.720 I know, I'm assuming it's like a situationship type of thing. 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:31.680 I think situationships are an interesting thing because, like, I've 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:34.600 been stuck in so many of them just because I 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:37.919 thought it would eventually happen. I actually think my relationship 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:42.520 now could have almost been a situationship. Almost Once you're 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:44.800 wit that six months mark, it's like, am I you 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:49.480 a bit or now? Like what's going on? Fifteen years 0:18:49.640 --> 0:18:53.120 is a long fucking time. I'm gonna guess that your 0:18:53.160 --> 0:19:00.480 mid thirties, I must say, in fifteen years, someone isn't 0:19:00.520 --> 0:19:02.280 stepping up in the way that you want. You need 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:05.119 to look elsewhere. And in those fifteen years you've probably 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:08.520 become so comfortable with this person that like, you don't 0:19:08.520 --> 0:19:11.520 even look anywhere else where else, You're satisfied. Your family 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:13.920 and your friends probably know him like he's just there. 0:19:14.520 --> 0:19:18.800 But no, I think it also shows how much they're 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:20.840 willing to take advantage of you if they haven't stepped 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:24.119 up in fifteen years, either pitch fifteen months out of it, 0:19:24.200 --> 0:19:27.720 out of there, Sorry, no, shade, we have time for 0:19:27.760 --> 0:19:28.160 one more. 0:19:29.119 --> 0:19:33.000 Yes, this is a little bit less on the sex side. 0:19:32.640 --> 0:19:34.159 How do you manifest? 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:36.639 Oh my god, this is a good one. Okay, let 0:19:36.680 --> 0:19:41.919 me pull up what Okay, people have been asking me 0:19:42.119 --> 0:19:47.080 for a long time how I manifested my partner. I'm 0:19:47.080 --> 0:19:50.439 going to give this advice. Okay, there was a high 0:19:50.560 --> 0:19:56.480 level frequency Ooh, I'm a hotap where I was trying 0:19:56.480 --> 0:20:00.439 to manifest love. I would listen to it tonight and 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:02.400 I don't know if it said words during or whatever. 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:04.840 It was some ten hour YouTube, right, But this is 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:07.560 what I will say for manifestation. This is the best 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:16.160 tip I can give. I believe that everything I want hair, nails, money, friendship, love, 0:20:17.040 --> 0:20:20.639 everything I think comes to you from the way that 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:24.440 you talk to yourself. So for the next three days, 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:28.800 I want all of you listening to start talking to 0:20:28.840 --> 0:20:33.119 yourself differently. Every inner conversation that you're having in your head. 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:37.800 The second it gets bad, you need to course correct. 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:44.880 For example, Denisha, let's just say she walks outside and 0:20:47.119 --> 0:20:49.639 so she did the bitch field down yesterday. That's right, 0:20:49.800 --> 0:20:54.879 knee to the ground. So this kind of knocks you 0:20:54.960 --> 0:20:56.840